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239. The Real Skills You Need For A Healthy Relationship Nov 05, 2025

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Good relationships don’t just happen. They’re built on self-awareness, communication, and the willingness to grow. In this episode, Jordanne Sculler, LMHC, shares how to build your own relationship toolkit and start showing up with more curiosity, accountability, and intention, both with yourself and the people around you.

We Cover:

How to build your own relationship toolkit. The emotional skills and self-awareness you actually need to make relationships work.

Why self-awareness is the foundation of connection. Understanding your triggers, patterns, and needs so you can show up more intentionally.

The difference between reacting and responding. How to slow down, get grounded, and communicate instead of spiraling.

How to break out of old relationship patterns. What to look for when you keep finding yourself in the same dynamics.

The link between discomfort and growth. Why learning to sit in discomfort is essential for building emotional intimacy.

How to create emotional safety in your relationships. Tools for being honest without being defensive and how to invite that from others.

What accountability actually looks like. Why it’s not about blame, but about understanding and repair.

The importance of self-connection. How your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

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238. What No One Tells You About Building Confidence in the Bedroom Oct 29, 2025

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We’re getting EXTRA personal. In this episode, we’re talking about our sexual journeys, from growing up with shame and silence to finding confidence, connection, and actual pleasure. No fluff, no fake empowerment, just real conversations about what shaped us, what we had to unlearn, and what finally helped us feel comfortable in our own skin.We cover:

How shame shaped our first experiences with sex. And how it still shows up in subtle ways today.
What we thought “good sex” was supposed to be. And how those expectations completely missed the point.
How confidence around sex actually develops. It’s not instant, and it’s definitely not about performing.
What helped us rebuild our relationships with our bodies. The tools, therapy, and mindset shifts that made a difference.
Why talking about sex changes everything. We share how these conversations helped us feel more connected, not embarrassed.
The difference between being desired and feeling desire. And why that distinction matters way more than you think.
How to navigate your own sexual growth. Tips for starting your own “unlearning and relearning” process without judgment.
Where to go from here. We share how our new 1:1 coaching program can help you rebuild confidence, communicate better, and reconnect with your body and pleasure.

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237. Honey Archive: How To Live a Pleasured Life, Have Better Sex & Be Less Stressed Oct 22, 2025

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Pleasure isn’t a luxury, it’s a necessity. This week, we’re dipping into the archive and revisiting our episode with Danielle Savory, a certified sex and pleasure coach, mindfulness expert, and all-around powerhouse in helping people reconnect to their bodies and their desires. Together, we’re redefining what pleasure actually means, why it matters, and how to start prioritizing it in your daily life, in and outside the bedroom.

We cover:

What pleasure really does to your brain. Danielle breaks down how pleasure rewires your mindset, boosts creativity, and helps regulate stress.
Why prioritizing pleasure improves every area of your life. From relationships to productivity, she shares how pleasure isn’t indulgent... it’s essential.
How to find your personal “why” for pleasure. Learn how to connect pleasure to your deeper values and goals so it feels sustainable and guilt-free.
How to prioritize pleasure when you’re busy. Simple, science-backed practices to bring more pleasure into your daily routine.
The difference between pursuing pleasure and chasing happiness. Danielle explains why pleasure is a deeper, more embodied path to joy.
How stress blocks your ability to feel good. We talk about how the nervous system impacts arousal, presence, and satisfaction and how to start stressing less.
How to bring pleasure into the bedroom and beyond. Practical, judgment-free ways to expand your definition of what feeling good can look like.

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236. You, Your Husband and His Mother: Navigating Complicated Mother-in-Law Relationships Oct 15, 2025

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Mother-in-law drama? You’re not imagining it, and you’re definitely not alone. This week, we’re joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, a clinical psychologist, author, and relationship expert with over 15 years of experience helping couples communicate and connect better. Together, we unpack the emotional landmines that can show up when your partner’s mom is… a lot, and how to set boundaries that protect your relationship instead of tearing it apart.

We cover:

Why mother-in-law relationships are so complicated. Dr. Tracy explains the hidden power dynamics and emotional expectations that can make them feel tense or competitive.
How to stop feeling “stuck in the middle”. Learn practical communication strategies for when your partner and their mom are clashing, or when you’re the one feeling left out.
The difference between boundaries and ultimatums. Why you don’t need to be “the good daughter-in-law” to keep the peace, and how to stand firm without guilt.
How to get your partner on the same team. Tips for talking about family tension without triggering defensiveness or blame.
When the problem isn’t just her. Dr. Tracy helps us look inward at our own triggers, expectations, and patterns that keep us repeating the same dynamic.
The role of empathy in de-escalating family conflict. Why empathy for your partner (and even their mom) can shift everything.
How to prioritize your partnership above all else. Actionable steps for strengthening your bond and creating a united front, no matter how messy the family dynamic gets.

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235. The 5 Reasons You Aren’t Having Sex & Why Desire Doesn’t Even Matter Oct 08, 2025

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Struggling with mismatched desire or a dry spell that won’t end? You’re not broken, and neither is your relationship. This week, sex therapist Vanessa Marin, who has 20 years of experience in the field, and her husband Xander, a self-proclaimed “regular dude," reveal the five most common reasons couples stop having sex and explain why desire might not be the problem you think it is.

We cover:

Why desire isn’t the foundation of a great sex life. Vanessa explains why waiting to “feel in the mood” can actually block connection and intimacy.
The top five reasons couples stop having sex. From resentment to routine, Vanessa and Xander unpack what really gets in the way and how to fix it.
How to reconnect when sex feels like a chore. Practical tools for rebuilding closeness without pressure or guilt.
The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire. Learn why expecting to just “feel it” can lead to frustration, and how to work with your body instead.
How to talk about sex without it turning into a fight. Simple scripts and strategies for starting honest, non-defensive conversations.
Why long-term desire is a skill, not a spark. Vanessa and Xander share how to cultivate passion and playfulness at every stage of a relationship.
How to create a sex life that feels equal and exciting. Real advice for ditching resentment, sharing initiation, and rediscovering fun in bed.

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234. Q+A : "Help! I've Never Had An Orgasm..." Oct 01, 2025

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.

The Question:“I’m 23 years old and have never had an orgasm. I have a wonderful boyfriend, whom I very much enjoy having sex with, but cannot finish, and have not been able to with the other people I’ve slept with. I also masturbate relatively frequently, and have tried a few different toys, and manual stimulation as well. I recently talked to my friend about this, who suggested watching porn to see if this helped, but I really just couldn’t get into it. I have a pretty active brain, and sometimes will struggle to be fully in the moment. Even when I’m turned on, and enjoying it, I don’t know if I’m able to be fully present. Am I broken? I know you usually say that everyone is different, but I often find sex and masturbation feels “nice” with smaller pockets of pleasure. My boyfriend is great, and priorities making me feel good with going down on me, encouraging me to use toys when we’re together etc, but I still can’t. Is it possible that I just am not capable of orgasming? I’d really appreciate your opinions and advice."

What We Cover in This Episode:

Not having an orgasm doesn’t mean you’re broken. We break down the orgasm trap and explain how pressure can make it harder to cum.
The biggest orgasm blockers. Stress, shame, “shoulds,” and a wandering mind are some of the most common things that get in the way.
How to get out of your head during sex. Grounding tools and easy practices to bring your brain back into your body.
Pleasure beyond your usual go-to's. Why focusing only on our go-to's (like penetration) can stall your pleasure and what else to explore instead.
Fun ways to shake up your routine. From massage to toys to new locations, we share fresh ideas to make intimacy exciting again.
How to talk to your partner about orgasm struggles. Scripts and conversation tips that make asking for support feel sexy instead of stressful.
Why small wins matter more than the big O. Celebrating little pockets of pleasure helps you build confidence and move closer to orgasm.
When to call in the pros. Pelvic floor PTs, sex therapists, and sex-positive doctors can help work through deeper blocks.

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233. You Need To Be Rethinking Sex in Your 20s & 30s (So You Can Have Great Sex For The Rest Of Your Life) Sep 24, 2025

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Great sex doesn’t just happen, it’s something we build and nurture over time. This week, we’re joined by Dr. Maria Sophocles, a nationally recognized OB-GYN, menopause and sexual health expert, and fierce advocate for women’s pleasure. She’s here to talk about why rethinking sex in your 20s and 30s is the key to having great sex for life, how to close the “bedroom gap,” and why better sex education matters for every generation.

Why your 20s and 30s set the stage for lifelong sexual health. Dr. Sophocles explains how your early approach to intimacy impacts desire, connection, and pleasure as you age.
The bedroom gap and why it matters. Learn what the bedroom gap is, why women are most impacted, and how we can close it.
The missing piece in most sex education. We talk about why traditional sex ed focuses on fear instead of pleasure and how that leaves us unprepared.
How to rethink sex as a skill you can grow. From communication to curiosity, Dr. Sophocles shows us why sex isn’t static and how it can keep evolving.
The role of menopause in sexual health. Understand how desire and arousal change in midlife and what support actually works.
Why talking about sex matters. Breaking down shame and silence is the first step toward better intimacy and pleasure.
Practical steps for better sex at any age. Dr. Sophocles shares accessible tips for people to feel more confident and connected in the bedroom.

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232. Dirty Talk 101: Finding Your Voice In The Bedroom Sep 17, 2025

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Dirty talk can feel intimidating, but it doesn’t have to. This episode gives you a step-by-step guide to finding your voice, building confidence, and learning exactly what to say. Whether you want to explore a dominant, bratty, or praise-filled style, you’ll leave with practical tools, scripts, and a game plan to make dirty talk feel fun, natural, and hot.

We cover:

Why dirty talk feels hard at first. Understand the mental blocks that arise, from not knowing what to say to worrying about your partner’s reaction.
How to figure out what turns you on. Use self-exploration, journaling prompts, and your masturbation practice to get clear on your turn-ons and desires.How to practice without pressure
Practicing outside the bedroom. Start outside the bedroom with sexting or casual conversations so dirty talk feels easier when things heat up.
Finding your dirty talk persona. Learn how to embody confidence and play with different tones like dominant, bratty, simpy, or simply yourself.
Dirty talk examples you can steal. Get real phrases and scripts you can try right away, no overthinking required.
What to say when your mind goes blank. Discover how to keep things flowing by describing the moment, giving direction, or using playful vocab.
Dirty Mad Libs for beginners. Fill-in-the-blank prompts that make practicing fun and help you find your voice.
How to handle when you say something weird. Why awkward moments are normal and how laughing it off can make intimacy even hotter.
Your foolproof dirty talk game plan. Step into the bedroom with a simple path to more confidence, better communication, and hotter sex.

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231. How to Stop Being the “Good Girl”: End People-Pleasing, Perfectionism & Emotional Outsourcing Sep 10, 2025

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If your self-worth depends on being liked, playing the “good girl,” or keeping everyone else happy, you’re stuck in Emotional Outsourcing™. In this episode, our bestie Bea Albina, a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Master Certified Life Coach, and author of End Emotional Outsourcing™, is back and teaching us how to quit people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependent habits FOR GOOD.

We cover:

Why we emotionally outsource in the first place. Bea explains how codependency, people-pleasing, and perfectionism are survival strategies we learned early on, NOT character flaws.
How Emotional Outsourcing™ keeps you stuck and miserable. We unpack the hidden ways outsourcing your worth drains your energy and relationships.
The nervous system’s role in healing. Bea shares SIMPLE somatic and polyvagal tools to help you actually regulate and build resilience.
Why people-pleasing sometimes feels safer than saying no. Learn how your brain and body keep you locked in old patterns and how to break free.
Practical ways to set boundaries without guilt. Simple scripts and reframes for protecting your energy without shame.
How to move from perfectionism to self-trust. Shift from performing for approval to living as your authentic self.
Daily practices to reconnect with your worth. Because you are SO worthy. Bea teaches us grounding tools to build confidence, self-compassion, and inner safety.

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230. Q+A: "How Do I Stop Feeling Ashamed Of My Sexual Fantasies?" Sep 03, 2025

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In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience.

The Question: "Okay, so I’m really trying to work on my sex shame, and one thing I cannot get past is fantasizing. Like… every time I start, my brain is either like ‘this is unrealistic,’ ‘you should be embarrassed,’ or ‘lol you don’t even have a partner.’ How do I shut all that down so I can actually enjoy it and then, once I do have a fantasy, how do I make it real?"

What We Cover in This Episode:

Why shame gets in the way of sexual fantasies. We unpack why your brain tells you your desires are “weird” or “wrong” and how to push past that shame.
How to reframe “unrealistic” fantasies. Your imagination has no rules. We talk about ways to enjoy sexual fantasies in your head, share them out loud, or scale them for real life.
Exploring fantasies without a partner. Solo play is the perfect place to experiment. From touch to toys to creativity, we show you how to make it hot on your own.
Why fantasizing isn’t cheating when you're in a relationship. We break down why it’s totally normal (and even healthy for intimacy) to think about scenarios that don’t always include your partner.
How to talk to your partner about fantasy. Scripts, conversation starters, and real-world examples for bringing your fantasies into the bedroom.
The “reality scale” for fantasies. A framework to help you decide if a fantasy should stay in your head, be shared in conversation, or acted out in bed.
Ways to bring fantasies to life solo or partnered. From porn to role play, we share creative ways to turn your ideas into real experiences.

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