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200 // Being Real: Navigating the Struggles AND the Joys of Parenthood Authentically Oct 13, 2022

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This is our 200th episode!!! Thank you all for your amazing support!!! We are soooo grateful for the most amazing listeners in the entire world:).

Sometimes, it feels like it's the cool kid thing to do to complain about parenthood all the time. On the other hand, it can be easy to portray our children as heavenly cherubs who do no wrong and parentland as being full of only bliss. It's a tricky balance to find between being honest about the fact that parenting isn’t unicorns and roses all the time, but also realizing that it is also a great honor and really meaningful work to engage in.

In this episode, we talk about that balance and wrestle with how to be authentic to ourselves, recognizing and asking for help when it’s hard, and soaking in the moments of love and enjoyment when they come. We hope you leave it feeling like you aren’t alone in your struggles and in your joys. Parenting is full of both.

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Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day

The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting

Staying Open to the Present

Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us

Janet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums

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Review of the week by Paris Tews 123:

I always finish better!

I always finish these episodes both with the desire to be better, [and] the tools to do so. Thank you Taralyn, Felica, and Katelin! I’m grateful for all the goodness this podcast has brought to my motherhood experience.

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You Are More Than a Body Oct 04, 2022

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How do you feel about your body? We live in a world that prizes a narrow body ideal, and it is easy to find our own perceptions of ourselves swayed by this view. In this episode, we discuss the brilliant body image work of Lexie and Lindsay Kite in their book, More Than a Body. We discuss how we can leave the waters of self objectication, where we experience the world through an outsider’s perspective of our bodies, onto the firm land of embodiment, where we can truly experience life IN our bodies, through our own experience of them. It’s a game changing concept.

We address issues like positive body image, and agree that “Positive body image isn't believing your body looks good; it is knowing your body is good, regardless of how it looks.” It’s a revolutionary concept that we believe can change the world for the better for men and women, as we reject objectification and make peace with our bodies and experience truly living inside of ourselves.

THE BOOK THAT INSPIRED US

More Than a Body // Lindsay Kite PhD and Lexie Kite PhD

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Teaching Our Daughters to Live Wholeheartedly

Raising Boys Part 1

Raising Boys Part 2

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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Review of the week by Cara Partridge:

Life changing

…Having a baby is one thing, but raising that baby, your child(ren) can be exhausting and confusing at times. Am I doing this right, should I do this? Etc. etc. This podcast halps shed light on parenting and literally gives the best advice. The title “Finding the magic” could not be more spot on. I find myself being able to be more connected to my children and husband sometimes when I just feel lost. It helps me understand nd see more clearly into our relationships. The more I listen, the more I love. Thank you so much for all you girls do. You rock!

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198 // Teaching Kids through Literature--Our Favorite Children’s Books Sep 28, 2022

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We LOVE books. We love them for us, and we love them for our kids. Sometimes, in a world full of seemingly infinite book titles, it’s hard to know where to start. In this episode, we share our current top book recommendations for kids.
BOOKS WE RECOMMENDED
I Can’t Wait to Go to the Dentist! // Jeanie Allen
You’ve Got Dragons // Kathryn Cave
Love monster // rachel bright
Words on Fire // jennifer Nielson
The Kissing Hand // Audry Penn
Owl Babies // Martin Waddell
The Rabbit Listened // Cori Doerrfeld
I said no // Kimberly King
Good Pictures Bad Pictures // Kristen Jenson
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The Power of Beautiful Words
Sponsor:
GABB WIRELESS
We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!
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Review of the week by Jjaammiee
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Best podcast!
I love this podcast; it makes me want to be better every time I listen and gives me the tools I need to be a better mom and wife and enjoy each day more. So grateful for their example and advice…[It’s] my number one favorite podcast and I recommend it to every friend! Love you girls!
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197 // Navigating Extended Family Relations with Grace Sep 21, 2022

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"My Mother in Law is driving me crazy."

"My brother's wife doesn't understand how much this party meant to me."

"I don't want to go but I think I HAVE to because my in-laws expect us."

Navigating extended family relationships can be tiring, overwhelming and sometimes create great hurt and turmoil. We have received countless requests to tackle this topic. Today we brought in a special guest to help us dive into this water. We talk about granting grace and empathy in our relationships. Creating healthy boundaries even when it hurts. Cultivating a meaningful relationship with in-laws and more!

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When Other People Disagree With Your Parenting

The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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Review of the week by Kjp32611

THE ONLY PODCAST I RELIGIOUSLY LISTEN TO

This podcast saved my motherhood! I read all of Janet Lansbury’s books prior to my first daughter and told myself I can do this…then when my second was born (daughter had just turned 3), I started to fall apart. I found this podcast…and [went] down the amazing rabbit hole of this podcast. They dive into incredible topics, things I am thinking of, they read and discuss books I’ve read or are in my to-read list…I just cannot say enough good things about this podcast and these women. I listen while doing laundry, walking, making dinner…wherever I can. The mamas are like having coffee with best friends–they keep SO REAL. And during the pandemic–bless you girls. This time is so challenging, sometimes I feel like I am barely getting by–but they make me laugh because they remind you that everyone is going through this thing called life and motherhood–even now. Hugs and loves from NJ!

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196// Magic Moment: Using Anger as a Doorway to Meaningful Parent Child Relationship Sep 13, 2022

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Are anger and aggression always bad? Is there room for genuine upset in the realm of respectful parenting? There is merit and validity to accepting our emotions, even the strong ones! In this episode Felica breaks down the idea of using anger as a touch point to meaningful and empathetic connection with our children. She discusses the value of not squandering our anger but finding space for it. Can we see anger without shame and allow it to guide us to connection with our kids? Can we be genuine with them so they can see us as a separate being worthy of respect?

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Tantrums, Screen Time, and Breaking Out of a Funk

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Feeling Burned Out? How We Use Healthy Treats to Take Care of Ourselves

To Raise Strong Children, We Need to Be Strong Parents

Patience With Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood, and Making Peace With Your Inner Landscape

How to: Create Pockets of Peace

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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Review of the week byEllison RN:

STUMBLED UPON THIS PODCAST

I’m normally not a podcast person, but I found this one and love it! … Often times we hear what we should be doing without any encouragement for what we are actually doing. I found the lack of “do it like this” completely wonderful and tips for just dealing with my emotions or changing my mindset is what I needed. I’m in my late 30s and luckily listen to my own instincts. Just great to have the support thrown out there for doing just that! Thank you!

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195 // How to Keep Your Cool When Sleep Deprived and Connecting With Kids During the School Year Sep 06, 2022

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It’s one thing to set aside time to sleep. That’s tricky enough. However, even when we allow ourselves the time to sleep, sometimes our kids simply don’t cooperate in allowing us to get several hours of consecutive sleep. What can we do then? In this episode, we address some coping strategies to help you when you are dealing with this special brand of sleep deprivation.

We also talk about how it can be tricky to find connection time with our kids once school starts and give some tips that have helped us.

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How Light Affects Sleep, Fertility, Our Childre/s Behavior, and More With Andy Mant

LINKS WE MENTIONED

Janet Lansbury episode on sleep: https://www.janetlansbury.com/2021/12/a-holistic-approach-to-baby-and-toddler-sleep-with-grace-koinange/

BluBlox (Now called Bon Charge) Website: https://boncharge.com

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GABB WIRELESS

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Review of the week by MaryHag:

So very helpful!

I’ve been so thrilled with this podcast. It’s been a huge help and has made me feel like I’m not alone in my challenges. You both are inspiring to me and helped me decide to learn to play the piano in the next 5 years after listening to your episode on a grown mindset.

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194 // Stoking Your Own Fire Aug 30, 2022

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Is there a way to follow our personal path and passions, and have a family and/or a career? Life is about making lots of choices and finding balance, and there is no one answer that works for everyone. In this episode, Taralyn talks about keeping the embers of dreams alive while you try to find that balance for yourself and what works in your life. Her three tips for deepening the experience of developing your own gifts are to 1) remember what you loved as child, 2) carve out a little bit of space every day to keep furthering your gifts as you incubate them for another season in your life, and 2) periodically finding some time to do a deep plunge into whatever your gifts are.

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK from Katie Jo 555

...I love this podcast and recommend it to everyone...Every episode leaves me feeling refreshed and ready to take on another day of motherhood--rather than feeling guilty for all of the ways I'm failing like some other parenting resources can make me feel. FTM has been with me through my best seasons of motherhood, and my hardest. I always always come back for more and I hope y'all never stop! Thank you use much for all of the heart, wisdom, and encouragement you share here. I"m a better mama and a better ME because of you.

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193 // Back to School Magic Aug 23, 2022

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Every change of season brings with it lots of opportunities for us to be intentional about what kind of life we want to create. As we shift from summer to fall this year, we discuss our very favorite tips on how to capitalize on these opportunities. Our children’s education, however that looks, whether in the home or out of the home, affects the rhythm of the whole family. With it, we have the chance to help our kids fly while still creating a beautiful grounding nest for them to connect with the heartbeat of the home.

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Discovering YOUR Life Essentials

Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better

Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day

Staying Open to the Present

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK from taybniebs

I’m only one episode in and I have to leave a review. This podcast is the magic! It is the magic that I found! I am so impressed by the concept from the episode about acceptance, joy and enthusiasm. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it and I really feel enriched and fulfilled by these concepts! I’m excited to try these ideas out the next time I wash dishes. Ha ha. Thank you ladies for your enthusiasm and passion in the process of providing this content for us! Such an undertaking is supposedly what life is all about. :)

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192: How to Live Our Best Lives WITHOUT Living Through a Screen {Best Of} Aug 16, 2022

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Remember what it was like to be a teenager? Do you remember the insecurity around discovering yourself? Now, imagine your teenage self with not only a school full of peers to compare yourself to, but with an entire internet full of people to measure up to, to compete with for likes, and pictures of parties you weren’t invited to. Can you imagine how hard that would be? Well many of our kids are experiencing just that. They are floundering in the deep end of a virtual pool before their brains are developed enough to metaphorically swim.

The research is coming in fast about the giant social experiment of putting the pocket-sized computers into the hands of young children and teens, and the results are…alarming, to say the least. In this episode, we are thrilled to discuss this important subject with social activist and champion of giving back our children a healthy childhood, the late Collin Kartchner. We are devastated at his passing but want his legacy and his message to live on.

Collin helps us to understand the direness of the situation concerning kids and their internet consumption, specifically social media and online gaming. These platforms are designed specifically to give our minds dopamine hits, which can to dependence, and provides the false sense of connection that kids are craving. This can create a vacuum in their minds that may lead to depression and lack of connection to people around them.

Although this information at first paints a bleak picture for childhood, we discuss the beautiful antidote that is at all of our fingertips: connection. REAL connection with actual humans in our lives. Collin offers concrete advice about trying out a family screen detox, and gives us lots of inspiring suggestions on how to increase the connection in our own home with the people we love. His rallying cry to #savethekids will truly inspire you and leave you hopeful that you can truly make a difference in your child’s life (and how to model freedom from screen dependence yourself:)!

Original Air Date: 8.31.2020

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Curbing Your Screen Attachment

How to WAKE UP to Your Life

ORGANIFI

This weeks sponsor Organifi is loved here at Find the Magic for their whole food based supplements for that extra boost when your daily diet isn’t up to speed! Felica loves mixing their “GLOW” collagen raspberry lemonade with their “Red Juice” for an energizing summer drink. Head to organifi.com/findthemagic for 20% off your entire order!”

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191 // Our Top Tips for A Lasting, Powerful Morning Routine {Best of} Aug 09, 2022

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Setting aside time to feed our souls is important, and it’s no secret that one of our core habits to get this time is our morning routine. This habit has literally been the biggest game changer in our own fulfillment and wholeness, and so we really can’t say enough good about it. This subject remains one of our most frequently asked listener questions, so in this episode, we delve deep into some tricks to really help cement this routine into a long term, non-negotiable habit. We also introduce you to a really accessible form of meditation and will give you tools to get you started on this life changing habit, or give you ideas to improve what you already have going.

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Creating a Morning Routine with Young Kids with Lindsay & Mike McCarthy

Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with Taralyn

Hone Your Morning Routine with Felica

Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.

Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn

BOOKS THAT INSPIRED US:

The Miracle Morning // Hal Elrod

The Miracle Morning for Parents and Families // Mike and Lindsay McCarthy and Hal Elrod

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Katie Jo 555, 07/25/2022

The best

I don’t have much to say other than that I love this podcast and recommend it to everyone and can’t even believe I haven’t taken the time to write a review before! Every episode leaves me feeling refreshed & ready to take on another day of motherhood - rather than feeling guilty for all of the ways I’m failing like some other parenting resources can make me feel. FTM has been with me through my best seasons of motherhood, and my hardest. I always always come back for more & I hope y’all never stop! Thank you so much for all of the heart, wisdom, and encouragement you share here. I’m a better mama & a better ME because of you!

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