Freedom from Attachment

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#810: Stop Trying May 28, 2025

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Are you exhausting yourself chasing dreams that aren't even yours? Twisting yourself into a pretzel trying to become someone you're not? Every year on this planet, you have a choice: become more bitter or grow. But here's the deal—all that trying is actually making you emptier. Stop trying to prove yourself. Start being yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * What are you trying to prove and who are you trying to prove it to? * Why "I'll try" is weak energy that keeps you stuck * How to live from your real motivation, not your ego "When you stop trying, you pay attention to the real motivation from your real self—not from your ego, not from your insecurities, not from your state of lack." ~ Tracy Crossley

#809: Self-Acceptance Is Not What You Think May 21, 2025

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Caught in a cycle of blaming others for how you feel? You might think self-acceptance comes from others accepting you first. Wrong. That approach builds walls, creates resentment, and slowly kills your relationships. Codependency, anyone? Giving the remote control to your emotions to someone else NEVER leads to self acceptance. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why you feel resentment rather than acceptance * What is a trigger that leads you to a world of hurt? * How to actually accept yourself. "Where there is judgment, love is not happening in those moments ~ Love of yourself or the other person." ~ Tracy Crossley

#808: Nobody Cares About Your Feelings May 14, 2025

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You keep ignoring your gut to please everyone else. Reacting to what others want instead of tuning into what YOU need. Sound familiar? When was the last time you actually checked in with yourself before jumping through hoops to meet someone else's expectations? We're taught to react to others, to do "the right thing" according to everyone but ourselves. Your worth becomes tied to how well you anticipate and please the people around you. Meanwhile, your true feelings get buried deeper with each fake smile, each time you say "yes" when you mean "no." In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why we abandon our feelings to meet others' expectations * How "doing the right thing" disconnects you from yourself * The myth of mind-reading in relationships * Three ways you dismiss your feelings daily * Recognizing when you're reacting vs. honoring yourself "As long as you don't give a f*** about your feelings, nobody else will. You teach people how to treat you." ~ Tracy Crossley

#807: Don't Be A Gumby May 06, 2025

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Ever notice how you contort yourself to fit what someone else wants? When you play small, hide parts of yourself, or pretend to be something you're not just to have a relationship? You can't have happiness when you're living a half-life. Subservience to an ideal—whether it's a relationship, a lifestyle, or some fantasy version of yourself—is just another prison you've built. Ready to stop contorting yourself into someone else's idea of perfect? This episode will help you recognize where you're sacrificing your authenticity and how to reclaim the real you. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why suppressing your authentic self guarantees relationship failure * How avoidants develop "imposter syndrome" in relationships * The exhausting pattern of hiding who you are to please others "No one who wants to suppress you and you wanting to suppress you makes nobody happy. Remember that. Happy people don't need another person to make them happy."

#806: Getting Over Your Narcissistic Parents Apr 29, 2025

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Do you carry a burden of guilt and responsibility that doesn't belong to you? Feel like something's wrong with you even when everything in your life is going right? That's the lasting impact of growing up with a narcissistic parent—where their stories become your emotional prison. In this raw and revealing episode, Tracy explores her own journey with her narcissistic mother and the breakthrough moment that finally released her from decades of guilt. Ready to drop the weight you've been carrying? In this episode, Tracy explores: * The guilt that follows you everywhere * Why communication attempts always fail * When you realize it was never your fault * Moving from knowledge to emotional freedom * Taking emotionally risky action "There is not one damn thing I could have ever done as a child or as an adult that she could have been a different person or would react differently. I just saw her in her own little bubble." ~ Tracy Crossley

#805: My life is good, but something is missing (REBROADCAST) Apr 23, 2025

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Something's missing in your life. You feel it. You know it. But you keep telling yourself everything's fine. That gnawing emptiness? The one you try to fill with advice from friends about your dating life or career choices? It's not going away until you face what's really happening. You're trapped in patterns YOU created. In this raw conversation, Tracy digs into why you keep hitting the same walls in relationships and life. It's not about getting more advice—it's about finally seeing the truth about yourself. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why your emotions keep you stuck in destructive patterns * How self-deception blocks authentic connections * The uncomfortable work of real self-awareness * Breaking through fear to build genuine relationships * Using soul plan readings to uncover your true purpose "Your patterns aren't happening TO you. They're happening THROUGH you." ~ Tracy Crossley

#804: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Matthew Krayton Apr 15, 2025

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Still blaming politics, society, or other people for your problems? Think a new job, relationship, or president will fix your life? Wrong. In this raw conversation with Matthew Krayton, founder of Publitics and political consultant, he and Tracy cut through the BS of externalization. You'll hear why looking outside yourself for answers is the biggest trap you're setting for yourself. Stop waiting. Start living. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Why blaming others locks you in frustrating cycles * How personal patterns mirror larger societal patterns * The uncomfortable but necessary work of facing yourself * Social media's dangerous role in fueling blame and isolation * Breaking patterns by questioning your beliefs "The only way that you break some of those cycles is being able to have a clear eye toward what those things are and not sugarcoating or not looking at our past through rose-colored glasses." ~ Matthew Krayton

#803: Do You Like the Idea of Him or Her? Apr 09, 2025

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Those past relationships that seem to have a special place in your heart, anyone come to mind? I know putting someone who’s no longer in your life into a special place can feel warm and fuzzy, but is it just an escape? When we aren’t finding meaning in the present, we often escape—imagining an ex was "the one who got away" or reminiscing about "better times" that weren't actually better. Who were you back then? In reality, yes reality. What was the meaning of the relationship that ended at the time? Believe me, you're not missing out on some magical connection—you're feeling a void in the present. Meaning can be found here in the present, real meaning not a fantasized version of the past. In this episode, Tracy explores: * Glorifying past relationships–why do we do it? * What is truth vs reality? * Why do you want to detach from idealized memories? The importance of fulfilling meaning for yourself. "It feels so much better to be yourself and to be here in the moment and creating the life that you actually want, than it does to be in the past." ~ Tracy Crossley

#802: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Eitan Koter Apr 01, 2025

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In this episode of Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life, Tracy sits down with Eitan Koter, co-founder and CEO of VIMMI, to unpack the real story behind building a successful company from the ground up—without outside funding and without a clear roadmap. Eitan shares how childhood confidence, a few powerful words from his mother, and a relentless commitment to listening shaped his path from corporate leadership to entrepreneurial freedom. This is not just about business—it's about grit, reinvention, and learning to lead with empathy and intention. In this episode, you’ll learn: * How confidence and clarity often come from small but defining moments * Why being lost can lead to the most aligned career shifts * The mindset shift from employee to entrepreneur * What it takes to grow something real—without chasing the noise "Authenticity is non-negotiable." ~ Tracy Crossley

#801: Love is a Game Mar 20, 2025

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Think you’re not playing games in love? Think again. The waiting, the silence, the unspoken rules—it’s all part of the game. And the worst part? You’re playing against yourself. When dating feels like a power struggle, it’s not about them—it’s about your own fears and insecurities running the show. In this episode, we’re breaking down why love isn’t about chasing, proving, or waiting. It’s about showing up as your real, honest self. No more strategy. No more guessing. Just real connection. What You’ll Learn: ✔️ How dating games keep you stuck in low self-worth ✔️ The hidden ways you sabotage relationships ✔️ Why emotional maturity is the key to real love ✔️ A mindset shift that changes everything "Love isn’t a game, but if you’re playing one, you’re the one who’s losing." ~ Tracy Crossleydating with confidence

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