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Your Worst Productivity Habit (It Isn’t Your Phone) Jan 26, 2026

Show notes

Most people blame their phones for their lack of productivity, but the real culprit is sneakier: overestimation. In this episode, Marissa and Joel unpack why we consistently plan for best-case scenarios and then spiral when real life doesn’t cooperate. You’ll learn how overestimating your capacity, self-control, productivity, and ability to “catch up” creates unnecessary stress, erodes trust, and drains your resources. Most importantly, they’ll show you how to set up a game you can actually win.

Key Takeaways

Plan for Reality, Not Best-Case Scenarios. We build days around “perfect conditions,” then feel behind by lunch. Assume interruptions, limited energy, and real-life constraints—and plan accordingly.
Stop Overbooking Your Capacity. If your calendar has no margin, exhaustion is inevitable. Build buffers for transitions, downtime, and breaks so your day can breathe.
Use Your Ideal Week to Set Pace, Not Max Output. The Ideal Week isn’t “How much can I cram in?” It’s “How do I work and live at my best?” Include recovery time and whitespace.
Assume Self-Control Drops as the Day Goes On. Discipline is finite. The later it gets (and the more drained you are), the easier it is to binge, scroll, snack, or procrastinate. In response, design your environment to support your discipline instead of relying on it.
Give Everything More Time Than You Think. The planning fallacy hits everyone. Add cushion so you finish more consistently. Practically, plan 150–200% of the time you think it will take.
Make Room for “Stuff I Forgot to Plan For.” Surprises aren’t exceptions—they’re normal. Create a weekly block for the tasks and problems that inevitably pop up.
Let the Daily Big 3 Keep You Grounded. Your Ideal Week is the vision. The Daily Big 3 is the reality check. If you’re not finishing, choose smaller targets and rebuild momentum.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/EdW89LAMJ90

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

Work with Your Season, Not Against It Jan 19, 2026

Show notes

Would you plant flowers in December—or plan a ski trip in June? Probably not. But many of us do the equivalent with our goals: we try to force outcomes that don’t match our actual capacity, energy, or reality. In this episode, Marissa and Joel walk through five “seasons” you may find yourself in—sowing, fallow, tending, pruning, and harvest—plus the hidden danger in each one and the most effective response. You’ll also learn seven distinct kinds of rest and how to use the Weekly Preview to identify your season and take the right next step.

Key Takeaways

The Year is Full of Seasons. There’s a natural ebb and flow to life, not just nature. Acting like it’s spring when you’re actually in winter won’t help you. Name the season you’re in and orient around what’s true right now, not what the New Year says.
Sowing Season: Choose Focus Over Frenzy. When you’re ready to start new opportunities, the danger is starting too many things while motivation is high. The fix: pick one or two goals that actually move the needle and let the rest wait.
Fallow Season: Rest on Purpose. After a sprint (or a crisis), your system needs recovery. Choose the kind of rest you actually need—physical, mental, sensory, creative, emotional, social, or spiritual.
Tending Season: Reconnect to Vision. Don’t let “business as usual” make you forget why you started. Keep your why in view so you don’t drift off course.
Pruning Season: Prevent Ineffectiveness. Just like plants, we become less fruitful when we’re trying to do too much at once. Pruning helps you create margin and center your energy where it can have the greatest effect.
Harvest Season: Choose Boundaries (Fight FOMO). Momentum is great—overextension isn’t. Decide what must happen now, what can wait, and when the sprint ends.
Align Your Plans and Your Season. During your Weekly Preview, name your season, watch for its danger signs, and plan your week accordingly. Work with the grain, and you’ll get fewer splinters.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/QpzDeHQIjmw

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

Your Essential Year-End Reset Dec 08, 2025

Show notes

2025 probably didn’t go according to plan—and that’s exactly why it’s worth paying attention to. In this episode, Marissa and Joel walk you through a simple reflection process for the last 11 months: naming what worked, facing what hurt, and deciding what you actually want to carry into 2026. You’ll learn how to work with your brain’s negativity bias, complete the stress cycle in your body, reframe regret as a helpful signal, and distill the year into a handful of lessons you can build on.

Key Takeaways

Start with What Worked. Brain dump the last 11 months and name your wins—at work and at home. Use your camera roll and planner as prompts to remember moments you’d otherwise overlook. Let those checkmarks and snapshots remind you: it wasn’t all bad.
Don’t Waste the Bruises. List what didn’t go well—disappointments, losses, and the “mixed bag” moments. Instead of reliving them, acknowledge what happened, name the emotions, and ask what still needs to be grieved or processed so you’re not dragging raw hurt into 2026.
Pay Attention to Avoidance. Notice the projects, tasks, or conversations you kept procrastinating. Treat that dread as data: Is this a skills gap, a misfit task you shouldn’t own, or something that needs to be rethought entirely? Avoidance is often a clue about what needs to change next year.
Let Regret Invite a Do-Over. Treat regret as an “open loop,” not a verdict. If something from 2025 still nags at you, ask, “What unfinished business is this pointing to?” Look for one concrete action—an apology, a boundary, a new habit—that lets you close the loop instead of carrying it forward.
Distill the Year into a Few Core Lessons. Turn all of this into simple statements you can act on, like: “My days go best when I start with a plan,” or “I can’t love well when I’m out of balance.” Those lessons become your guardrails and fuel as you design your goals and rhythms for 2026.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/hdmL3mfAyrc

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

Do Less and Enjoy More During the Holidays Dec 01, 2025

Show notes

The holidays can feel like a sprint with a suitcase. Marissa and Joel show you how to lighten the load with four concrete moves: define non-negotiables, eliminate what doesn’t matter, delegate what doesn’t require you, and (yes) procrastinate strategically. You’ll get scripts, shortcuts, and a Not-To-Do list for creating breathing room—at work and at home.

Key Takeaways

Name Your Non-Negotiables. Brain dump everything for December, then identify the items that truly must happen. Accept that not everything will get done—and choose what will.
Run the “Everything Must Go” Sweep. Cancel or reschedule recurring meetings, low-value check-ins, and nice-to-have socials. If it can be an email (or nothing), make it one.
Resign as Chief Everything Officer. At home: potluck the menu, batch one meaningful gift for everyone, use gift bags, outsource a couple dishes, trade childcare. At work: hand off distinct slices of projects, hire a contractor for time-sinks, and coach for skill—not constant review.
Procrastinate on Purpose. Push arbitrary deadlines to January. Ask, “What part truly must happen now—and what can wait?” Renegotiate timelines for excellence, not exhaustion.
Keep Self-Care Simple. Downshift to minimums that maintain energy (a 20-minute walk, earlier lights-out, simplified meals). Save the “perfect routine” for January.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/dQpOs_bTd9g

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

The Gratitude Advantage Nov 24, 2025

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As we head into Thanksgiving (in the United States), Joel and Marissa get practical about gratitude—the tiny habit that expands your perspective, steadies your pace, and strengthens relationships. From a coffee-cup thought experiment to a one-line script you can use today, you’ll learn how gratitude fuels goal-pursuit, patience, and team trust.

Key Takeaways

See the Hidden Team. AJ Jacobs’ experiment widens your lens for the work that goes into a single cup of coffee, from baristas to farmers, drivers, even road-line painters. Gratitude makes interdependence visible—fast.
Scarcity Shrinks, Gratitude Expands. Scarcity tightens and isolates. Gratitude opens possibility and connection. Choose the bigger frame.
Use the Script. Turn everyday encounters into bright spots by acknowledging the importance of the work of those serving you. Try: “Thank you for choosing your profession.” You’ll change the atmosphere (and often the outcome).
Make It a Planner Habit. Use the Weekly Preview’s blank pages for a running gratitude list. Log “wins” and your Daily Win through a gratitude lens—not just achievement.
Results You Can Feel. Gratitude has a measurable impact on our success and relationships. It boosts engagement, trust, and goal progress—and even increases financial patience.
Practice in Real Time. Shouldering something inconvenient? Reframe with gratitude (“What might this be protecting me from?”) and watch your state shift.

Resources:

Thanks a Thousand by AJ Jacobs

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/fAfPHbnoANw

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

Time Wasters Stealing Your Focus Nov 17, 2025

Show notes

Most stalled days aren’t about willpower—they’re about constant context-switching. In this episode, Marissa Hyatt and Joel Miller break down the science of interruptions, how internal distractions amplify them, and practical ways to protect your best hours. Expect notification triage, deep-work tactics, and a saner way to take breaks that actually refuel you.

Key Takeaways

Name the Real Culprit. It’s not laziness—it’s interruptions. Expect hits that derail you every 3–11 minutes, costing 20–30 minutes to fully refocus. How will you plan accordingly?
The Difference Matters. Interruptions are external; distractions are internal. You can’t stop every ping, but you can stop taking the bait.
Cut Notifications Ruthlessly. Turn off non-essential alerts across phone and laptop. Use Focus/Do Not Disturb so only true emergencies break through.
Signal Deep Work Windows. Tell people when you’re dark and when you’re back: set Slack/Teams status (e.g., “Deep Work — back at 1:00 pm”) and stick to it.
Remove Temptation. Delete or block high-hook apps/sites during work blocks (tools like Freedom help). Make distraction harder than staying on task.
Sprint, Then Breathe. Work in focused sprints and replace “digital smoke breaks” with 3–5 minutes outside to reset your brain without derailing momentum.
Protect Uphill Work. Tackle your Big 3 (creative/strategic) when you’re freshest; save downhill tasks like email/Slack for lower-energy windows.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/TIPbksG9_wI

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

How To Protect Your Priorities Before The Holidays Hit Nov 10, 2025

Show notes

Deadlines stack up. Daylight shrinks. Invitations multiply. In this episode, Marissa Hyatt and Joel Miller show you how to defend what matters—at work and at home—so you can enjoy the season and finish the year well. You’ll get boundary scripts, simple rituals, and a right-sized Ideal Week you can start using today.

Key Takeaways

Practice Self-Advocacy. Be militantly on your own side. Set and communicate clear boundaries—no evening or weekend emails, true sick time, and real OOO when you travel.
Say “No” Without Drama. Use a simple “yes-and-priorities” script: affirm the request → “Based on prior commitments, I can’t take this on right now.” → offer an alternate timeline or resource.
Enlist Help in Reprioritizing. Are your leaders piling on new priorities? Rather than saying “no,” enlist their help in deciding what shifts. Say: “Here’s my current slate—what should I sideline to make room for this?”
Protect Your Rituals. Your Morning, Evening, Workday Startup, and Workday Shutdown rituals keep you grounded. Simplify if needed, but uphold them to protect your energy and self-care.
Refine Your Ideal Week. Budget your time on paper first—work blocks, family events, recovery, errands—then mirror it to your digital calendar. Adjust for the season’s unique constraints and commitments.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/WUzUEVKA8Ls

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

The Daily Big 3: Your Key to Sanity Nov 03, 2025

Show notes

Long lists create stress and scattered effort. In this episode, Marissa Hyatt and Joel Miller show how the Daily Big 3 turns overwhelm into progress. You’ll learn a practical, repeatable way to choose three high-impact tasks each day—grounded in your Weekly and Quarterly Big 3—so you can be productive and peaceful.

Key Takeaways

Ditch the Club. The numbers say it all: everyone is stressed by their to-do list. But you don’t have to be a statistic.
Stop the Crazy. Endless tasks split your focus and spike stress. Fewer, bigger priorities win.
Process Your Priorities. Brain dump everything → review Quarterly + Weekly Big 3 → review calendar/energy → choose three realistic, high-leverage tasks.
Break Free of Urgency. Ask, “Will someone notice today if this isn’t done?” and “If nothing else happens, what three things matter most?”
Choose the Path to Peace. Finishing strong comes from focusing small—consistently.

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/qEOn2Rk9MKU

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

The Double Win at Work and Home Oct 27, 2025

Show notes

Work–life balance is a baseline—flourishing is the goal. In this episode, Marissa Hyatt and Joel Miller unpack the evolved Double Win: 6 life-giving practices that move you toward joy. You’ll learn why different generations get stuck in opposite ditches, and the simple rhythms that help you feel present, energized, and purposeful at work and at home.

Key Takeaways

Too Much of a Good Thing. Work and life both matter, but we tend to overindex on one at cost to the other. We need to start by bringing them into balance—but that alone isn’t enough.
The Call to Flourish. Living fully means moving beyond balance into purpose, contribution, and delight. It means savoring the good and intentionally making space for more of it.
Six Practical Practices. Here’s what to make space for: tending to yourself, connecting with others, doing work that matters, prioritizing recreation, experiencing nature, and staying open to the sacred.
Presence Over Perfection. Instead of treating the practices like a rigid checklist, think of them as invitations to be more present to your life, and to create opportunities for joy.
Build In Resets. Try out an evening ritual to decompress, and build out an Ideal Week to guide your commitments with more intention.

Resources

Ideal Week

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/4H8dLPUFkIs

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

Winning Monday Starts on Sunday Oct 20, 2025

Show notes

Sunday scaries are real—but what if they don’t have to be? In this episode, Marissa Hyatt and Joel Miller show you exactly how to win every Monday by doing a Weekly Preview by Sundays. You’ll learn why “the scaries” happen, how to calm your system with clarity, and the practical steps to enter every Monday confident, prepared, and focused.

Key Takeaways

Scaries are brain biology. Uncertainty spikes cortisol. Knowing what’s coming resets your body and your brain (even if you know the plan is prone to change).
Celebrating wins matters. There’s more to celebrate than you realize, and noticing your wins helps you move naturally into gratitude—which comes with real benefits.
Explore the Weekly Preview. Learn our simple process for learning from the past week and planning for the next. We break it down step-by-step.
Make it a ritual. Choose your day, add music, grab a drink, and make it “a thing.” When you follow through on your ritual, you’ll notice a difference in your weeks.
Share to stay aligned and accountable. Walk through the process with your spouse. Share your Weekly Big 3 with your team. Involving others can keep you on track.
Mind your emotional contagion. Calm, prepared energy spreads—so does panic. Choose what you bring into Monday for yourself and for others.

Resources

Friday Focus Playlist

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/dG9y7GJbk-s

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

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