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Chris Kratzer: A Spiritual Realization That Changed Everything Jun 04, 2024

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In this episode, Kim chats with Chris Kratzer, a former conservative evangelical pastor who shares his powerful story of transformation. Chris discusses his shift from a strict, judgmental faith to a more compassionate and inclusive spirituality.

He recalls his early days in ministry, driven by ego and rigid beliefs against women in ministry and LGBTQ+ individuals. A major turning point came when he faced severe anxiety, depression, and a near-suicidal moment, which changed his understanding of God and faith.

Chris emphasizes honesty and the struggle against the control in evangelical circles. He talks about the loneliness he experienced while deconstructing his faith. Despite the challenges, Chris's story is one of hope and renewal, finding a more genuine and compassionate faith.

Join us for an inspiring and thought-provoking conversation on faith, honesty, and the power of compassion.

About Chris:

Chris Kratzer is a pastor and author of 25 years. His transition away from conservative Evangelicalism has served thousands around the world in discovering a faith that doesn’t require one to lose their mind, heart, and self in the process. Chris purposes his writing on being a voice for the spiritually oppressed that they may know they are loved, affirmed, and not alone, while also calling the evils of modern, conservative Christianity out of the shadows. Chris is married with four children.

Connect with Chris:

Website: ChrisKratzer.com

IG: @eckratzer

Resilience & Self-Discovery: Alex Reegan's Journey May 14, 2024

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Join Kim Honeycutt as she engages in a heartfelt conversation with special guest and friend Alex Reegan. Together, they explore Alex's transformative journey from sobriety to self-discovery, navigating the complexities of identity and healing.

Alex opens up about his experience as a trans man, overcoming societal and familial expectations rooted in conservative religious upbringing. Alex shares insights into emotional processing, chronic pain, and the pursuit of healing. Themes of resilience, self-acceptance, and forgiveness resonate throughout, with Alex's transition serving as a powerful testament to the ongoing journey of growth and authenticity.

Themes they discuss:

Personal Struggles and Identity
Gender Identity and Societal Expectations
Navigating Family Relationships
Emotional Processing and Grief
Spiritual Practices and Self-Discovery
Self-Compassion and Healing

About Alex Reegan:

Alex Reegan is the author of What Needs To Be Said, as well as an interfaith minister, speaker, and transformative spiritual coach who uses his intuitive wisdom to help guide people towards their own inner knowing. Born into an evangelical Christian family that prevented his true identity as a trans man from emerging, he spent years in depression, anxiety, and addiction trying to break free of the oppressive beliefs that bound him. His journey at last led him to sobriety, shamanism and then seminary, which helped him reclaim his faith and trust in the Divine. Through speaking engagements, workshops, one-on-one and group sessions with clients, Alex is profoundly dedicated to helping others speak their truth, release shame, and find oneness.

Connect with Alex:

Website: www.alexreegan.com

IG: @revreegs

Flipping Beliefs: Brian Recker's Spiritual Transformation Apr 11, 2024

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In this episode, Kim interviews former evangelical pastor Brian Recker and discusses his journey of self-discovery amid political shifts during Donald Trump's rise. Brian reflects on leaving his pastoral role during the COVID-19 pandemic, reevaluating his beliefs, and advocating for LGBTQ+ rights within Christianity. This episode emphasizes authenticity and embracing diversity in religious contexts.

Here's a sneak peek into what they discuss:

Brian's transformation and self-discovery journey
Advocacy for LGBTQ+ rights within Christianity and efforts to foster inclusivity
Importance of creating inclusive spiritual environments where individuals can authentically express themselves without judgment or exclusion
Challenges faced by Brian after leaving the pastorate
Evaluating beliefs and their impact with Byron Katie's four questions
Emphasis on authenticity and uncertainty in spirituality over theological rigidity

About Brian Recker:

About Brian:

Brian Recker, a former evangelical pastor for over eight years, transitioned from fundamentalism after growing up in a Baptist home and attending Bob Jones University. Moving into mainstream evangelicalism felt progressive compared to his upbringing. Brian later pastored a multi-site church on the North Carolina coast but never felt fully comfortable in the evangelical movement. It took almost a decade for him to realize that his evolution was not complete, and leaving fundamentalism was only the beginning of his spiritual journey.

After spending several years quietly wrestling with where his faith would land, he began speaking publicly on Instagram, where he found out that many people were thinking the same thoughts he was. After quickly gaining 1000,000 followers from his unique, compassionate, yet down-to-earth communication style, he started a podcast, "Sacred Counsel," offering pastoral wisdom to people in their journeys of evolving spirituality. Brian has a Master of Arts in Ministry from Lancaster Bible College and has four children.

Connect:

www.brianrecker.com

IG: @berecker

Dr. Cocchiola on Coercive Control and Narcissism Mar 26, 2024

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After Kim heard Dr. Christine Cocchiola on the world-famous leading narcissistic expert Dr. Ramani's podcast, she had to talk to Dr. Cocchiola, and you'll understand once you listen to the podcast.

Their conversation goes deep into understanding coercive control, narcissism, and how it affects individuals, especially in the challenging landscape of family court battles. Dr. Cocchiola shares her advocacy journey, drawing from personal and professional experiences.

Throughout the podcast, they shed light on the subtle signs of abuse, delve into topics like schema theory, and discuss the long-lasting effects of trauma. Plus, they tackle misconceptions about parental alienation syndrome, which is so crucial in family court settings.

Here's a sneak peek into what they discuss:

Exploring the impact of coercive control and narcissism
Debunking myths surrounding parental alienation syndrome
Advocating for a broader understanding of abuse dynamics
Navigating legal challenges in cases of abuse
Finding paths to healing and empowerment

About Dr. Cocchiola:

Christine Marie Cocchiola, DSW, LCSW, a Board Member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and a Founding Member of the International Coercive Control Conference. She has actively supported codifying coercive control as the foundation of domestic abuse, writing policy briefs supporting these efforts and providing expert testimony at legislative hearings. Most importantly, through her own experiences as a protective parent, her clinical expertise as a trauma trained therapist, a researcher and educator, Dr. Cocchiola understands the impact that coercive control has on both adult and child victims. A college professor teaching in social work for over 20 years, she has created various programs to educate protective parents and court professionals on best practices to support these vulnerable populations.

Connect:

https://www.coercivecontrolconsulting.com/

IG: @dr.cocchiola_coercivecontrol

Attachment Patterns: A Deep Dive with Dr. Carol George Mar 05, 2024

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In this "Flip Your Lid with Kim Honeycutt" episode, join us as Kim interviews Dr. Carol George, a pioneer and expert in attachment theory, as she unravels the depths of attachment patterns and the interplay of trauma. They explore each attachment pattern: secure, ambivalent, and avoidant alongside lesser-known dismissive failed blocked mourning and preoccupied with suffering. Gain insights into adult manifestations and the interplay of biology, trauma, and defense mechanisms. They also discuss The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System © (AAP) as the best assessment for determining your attachment pattern.

Attachment patterns, including secure, ambivalent, avoidant, and lesser-known patterns, such as dismissive failed blocked mourning and preoccupied with suffering.
Adult manifestations of attachment patterns and how they shape relationships and behaviors.
The interplay of biology, trauma, and defense mechanisms in the context of attachment.
Understanding and recognizing one's attachment pattern for personal growth and relationship dynamics is important.
Introduction and discussion of The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System © (AAP) as a comprehensive assessment tool for determining one's attachment pattern.
How the AAP can provide valuable insights into the complexities of attachment and contribute to self-awareness.

About Dr. Carol George:

Carol George, Ph.D., is Professor Emerita of Psychology at Mills College in Oakland, California, and has been a pioneer in developing attachment assessments for children and adults. George is an internationally renowned attachment expert who was a co-director of the Mills College Infant Mental Health program for 21 years. Working alongside Dr. Main and Dr. Kaplan, her dissertation helped develop the Adult Attachment Interview. She is praised for her work as an author and editor, and is known for her contributions to attachment-based representative assessments like the Caregiving Interview, the Attachment Doll Play Projective Assessment, and “Disorganized Attachment and Caregiving,” alongside Judith Soloman. Her other contributions include “The Adult Attachment Projective Picture System” with Malcolm West. Although retired from being a professor, George is still incredibly active and stays busy being an assistant editor on the editorial board of Attachment and Human Development, as well as the Director of the AAP Training Consortium. Her dedication to education is still prevalent as she often hosts extensive clinical consultations with practicing therapists, graduate students, and other students of attachment.

Contact Information & Resources:

AAPInfo@Comcast.net – Contact information if you're interested in AAP

Adult Attachment Publications – List of credible publications and learning materials

Attachment Projective – Official website with training opportunities and resources

Reclaiming Women’s Humanity with Liz Cooledge Jenkins Feb 13, 2024

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In this episode, Kim Honeycutt interviews Liz Cooledge Jenkins as they explore religious trauma within the church, stressing the need for inclusive leadership and challenging the dominance of an all-white male perspective in theological discussions. It emphasizes diverse interpretations, values scripture in deconstruction/reconstruction, and addresses the pervasive issue of abuse in religious communities. Guest Liz Cooledge Jenkins discusses her book, "Nice Churchy Patriarchy: Reclaiming Women's Humanity from Evangelicalism," available on platforms like Amazon, Bookshop.org, and Barnes & Noble.

About Liz:

Liz Cooledge Jenkins is a Seattle-based writer, preacher, former college campus minister, and the author of Nice Churchy Patriarchy: Reclaiming Women’s Humanity from Evangelicalism. Her work has appeared in places like Sojourners, The Christian Century, and Red Letter Christians.

Liz blogs regularly at lizcooledgejenkins.com and can be found on IG @lizcoolj and @postevangelicalprayers. When not

writing or reading, she enjoys swimming, hiking, attempting to grow vegetables, and drinking a lot of tea.

Authentic Living with Ana Del Castillo, Women's Rightness Expert Jan 23, 2024

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In this podcast, Kim Honeycutt reconnects with Ana Del Castillo, a Women’s Rightness Expert and Certified Empowerment Coach with over 20 years of experience galvanizing women to embrace authenticity in their lives. This episode delves into pivotal moments in Ana's life that have contributed to her journey of self-discovery. The conversation navigates challenges within therapeutic communities, shedding light on the continuous process of self-awareness. Ana's wealth of experiences emphasizes the importance of compassion and interrupts patterns of self-flagellation. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of personal growth and authenticity.

What They Discuss:

Reconnecting and discussing pivotal moments in Ana Del Castillo's life
Focus on self-discovery and authenticity
Exploration of challenges within therapeutic communities
Highlighting compassion and interrupting self-flagellation
Stressing gentleness in returning to oneself and promoting self-kindness for growth
Exploration of therapeutic modalities such as peer therapy, gestalt therapy, and internal family systems (IFS)
The transformative power of modalities like Mindlight, incorporating IFS and tapping techniques
Emphasis on comparing oneself backward and celebrating progress
Examination of psychological aspects of self-awareness, consciousness, and breaking patterns

About Ana:

Ana Del Castillo is a Women’s Rightness Expert and Certified Empowerment Coach with over 20 years of experience galvanizing women to stop trying to ‘do life right’ and instead be right, in their skin and lives. Through transformative experiences she helps them to discover the freedom of their inherent rightness, no matter the circumstances or events of their lives, and regain their vitality and happiness.

Ana has spoken to audiences all over the country and has coached women rock stars, entrepreneurs and house wives on the power and freedom of authentic rightness. She’s been featured on NPR, The NY Post, People Magazine, and The Moth. She coaches, speaks, and leads courses on Rightness and she is married and lives in Austin with her husband, her dog and two cats.

Connect

Ana: https://linktr.ee/anadelcastillo

Kim: IG @kbhoneycutt

From Deconstruction to Empowerment: Pushing the Church Forward with Tim Whitaker Jun 06, 2023

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Join Kim as she talks with Tim Whitaker, the brilliant mind behind the New Evangelicals. Tim shares his experience within the Church and how he has used his deconstruction and reconstruction to assist and comfort many with religious trauma. Tim shares about his visit to the Asbury revival and does a deep dive into why he does what he does for those marginalized within the Church. This is an intense and necessary conversation!

About Tim:

Growing up, Tim always felt at home in evangelical spaces – until years later, when his studying and questions caused him to no longer be welcomed at in his church community. Brokenhearted, but undeterred, Tim continued to pursue a deeper understanding of faith, history, theology, and the evangelical church. The more he uncovers, the more he realizes the importance of advocating for the marginalized in the church, exploring the full depth and breadth of Christian faith traditions, and holding toxic churches and leaders accountable.

Connect:

Tim: www.thenewevangelicals.com and IG @thenewevangelicals

Kim: IG @kbhoneycutt

Polyvagal Theory meets Enneagram: Free Therapy with Michael Shahan Apr 25, 2023

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Michael Shahan is the real deal. His vulnerability, combined with his vast insight into the world of psychology, including the Enneagram, allowed for a fun and informative conversation. Join Kim and Michael as they nerd out on Polyvagal Theory with the Enneagram, couples therapy, and how to be an approachable psychotherapist. Basically, this is free therapy! Enjoy!

About Michael:

Michael Shahan is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist best known for utilizing the Enneagram in his practice and training other therapists and mental health professionals to do the same. His courses, “Enneagram for Therapists” and “Polyvagal Theory and the Enneagram,” are certified by the National Board for Certified Counselors for continuing education. He will also be presenting this year at the 2023 International Enneagram Association Global Conference. Michael is the father of two, lives in Kansas City, and has a semi-secret watercolor hobby that he practices regularly.

Michael's Enneagram For Therapists Course is a 6-week training that begins April 25th.

You can use code FLIPYOURLID for $50 off at michaelshahan.com

(direct link with code- https://michaelshahan.com/discount/FLIPYOURLID?redirect=%2Fproducts%2Fenneagram-for-therapists-an-enneagram-course-for-therapists-and-mental-health-professionals)

And here's a link to his retreat in Costa Rica: https://trovatrip.com/trip//central-america/costa-rica/costa-rica-with-michael--shahan--oct-2023

Finding Faith in a Changing World: A Conversation with Brian McLaren Apr 11, 2023

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We (Larissa and Kim) had the absolute privilege of interviewing Brian McLaren. As many of you know, Brian is a well-known spiritual influencer who has made significant contributions to the world of faith and spirituality. In this episode, we had the privilege of sitting down with him to discuss his life's work, including his four stages of faith development.

We dive deep into who Brian is as a person, his books, and his passion for creating a new kind of Christianity that is inclusive, compassionate, and committed to social justice.

If you're interested in exploring new ideas and perspectives on faith and spirituality, this is an episode you don't want to miss. Tune in now and join us in the conversation!

What We Discuss:

-Faith vs. Certainty

-Theology of Change

-Criticism

-The Four Stages of Faith Development

-How Brian Played a Role in Larissa and Kim's Coming Out Story

-Shaping the Future of Church

-Mental Health in the Church

The Four Stages of Faith Development:

The Four Stages of Faith Development that Brian described (after briefly talking about a few of the other models/descriptions that other theologians, psychologists, etc., have put forth) are:

Simplicity — You're either for us or against us. It's all or nothing.

Complexity — There's more than one way to do things.

Perplexity — Everyone has an opinion. Who knows who is right?

Harmony/Humility — Seek first God's Kingdom… love God, love neighbors… in essentials unity… focus on a few grand essentials.

About Brian:

Brian D. McLaren is an author, speaker, activist, and public theologian. A former college English teacher and pastor, he is a passionate advocate for "a new kind of Christianity" - just, generous, and working with people of all faiths for the common good. He is a core faculty member of The Living School and podcaster with Learning How to See, which are part of the Center for Action and Contemplation. He is also an Auburn Senior Fellow and is a co-host of Southern Lights. His newest books are Faith After Doubt (January 2021), and Do I Stay Christian? (May 2022).

Connect With Brian:

www.brianmclaren.net

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