Finding the Throughline with Kate Hanley

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[Anxiety] Trust Is an Antidote to Worry, Ep 857 Dec 12, 2022

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This week I’m talking about anxiety. I mean, mid-December–‘tis the season, isn’t it? Lots to do, lots of expectations to manage, lots of opportunities to feel like your experience doesn’t match the cultural narrative of how the holidays are ‘supposed’ to be.

Sometimes anxiety is absolutely appropriate. But many times it isn’t a match for whatever it is you’re facing–it’s like using a chef’s knife to butter your bread, something I actually tried to do this morning because i didn’t want to dirty another knife and I can confirm, it was overkill. So let’s dive in to some ways to work with it. Today’s tool is trust.

I’m sharing 4 affirmations to help you access trust even when you’re feeling anxious:

I trust myself to do my part.

I trust life to do its part.

If things ever feel like too much, I trust myself to ask for help.

I trust that things are working out for the greater good.

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[Mindset Hacks] How Do I Stay in My Own Lane?, Ep 856 Dec 09, 2022

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This week I’ve been sharing new ways of thinking that can help you stay in a more positive place. And today I wanted to answer a listener question that relates to this idea, and offers a mindset hack to help.

Camille from Canada writes, “Lately I’ve realized that I spend a lot of time–too much time–and energy on worrying about other people. I love being a good friend and family member to others, but I’ve been feeling really frazzled lately, and like I’m not paying enough attention to my own life and needs. Does it make me a bad person if I want to do less for the people I care about? How do I stick to my own lane?”

Relevant How to Be a Better Person episodes:

The Surprising Power of Bearing Witness

Validate, Validate, Validate

Listen Better

Relevant Tara Brach episodes:

Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 1

Beyond the Controlling Self, Part 2

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[Mindset Hacks] Try on a New Inner Voice, Ep 855 Dec 08, 2022

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I’m guessing that the voice you use to talk to yourself isn’t currently all that friendly or supportive. So today’s mindset hack is to try on a new inner voice. (My current fave? Dolly Parton! Or, my dog, if she could speak English).

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Mindset Hacks] How to Stop Judging Other People (and Yourself), Ep 854 Dec 07, 2022

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A mode of thinking that can really keep us stuck in that place of feeling upset and down and small-minded is judgment, whether we’re judging other people, or judging ourselves.

So today I’m replaying an interview from 2020 that breaks down what judgment is, and how we can understand where it comes from so that we can work with it more skillfully. Here goes!

Check out Suzanne’s website

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[Mindset Hacks] There’s More Where That Came From, Ep 853 Dec 06, 2022

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How many times have you beaten yourself up for spending money or time on something that didn’t end up panning out? It’s easy to do, because we tend to think of time and money as zero sum games--once they’re gone, they’re gone, and they’re never coming back. Which is not actually true. So let’s break up the shame cycle that is all too often built into spending both money and time with a quick mindset adjustment.

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[Mindset Hacks] Look for the Loving Reason, Ep 852 Dec 05, 2022

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In this busy holiday month, I’m coming to you with some mindset hacks–little pivots in your thinking that can help things feel a lot less stressful and give you more energy and resilience at any time of year.

Today’s mindset hack is to start training yourself to look for the loving reason why something has happened. When I say loving reason, I mean an explanation that suggests that things are working out the way they are because of a beneficial reason, even when it might seem like they’re falling apart.

I’m basically asking you to try on the idea that life is happening for you instead of to you. Let’s do this!

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[Generosity] When It’s OK to NOT Be Generous, Ep 851 Dec 02, 2022

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You can be generous in some ways, and stingy in others. And it’s really fascinating to start to unpack where you are a natural giver, and where you might be more likely to freeze up and think, oh heck no.

Maybe those are areas that you can think about differently and find your way to feeling more generous; but maybe those are just things that don’t suit you for some reason, and you can focus on other ways to be more giving without feeling bad that you’re secretly a Scrooge.

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[Generosity] How to Give Without Depleting Yourself, Ep 850 Dec 01, 2022

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While giving is often energizing, there are definitely times when it’s draining. Or even upsetting. It can leave you feeling taken advantage of, or unappreciated. And that doesn’t feel good.

In addition, sometimes *your* giving can make the person you’re trying to give to feel bad--micromanaged, or like you think they aren’t capable.

So today, let’s figure out how to keep giving in the realm of feeling good.

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[Generosity] The Value–and Costs–of Emotional Labor, Ep 849 Nov 30, 2022

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We think about giving to others in very practical ways, but there are ways that you can give to people emotionally, too. And some of them feel good. But others, really don’t. Today I talk with Damon Brown, a coach for non-traditional entrepreneurs who does a lot of emotional support in his line of work, as well as a multi-time author (links to his book just below), about how to value the emotional labor you do for others, and how to discern when maybe that’s not your work to do.

Damon’s website

Damon’s Bring Your Worth YouTube show

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[Generosity] The Many Ways You Have to Give, Ep 848 Nov 29, 2022

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If you’ve ever had the thought that you could stand to be a more generous person, I hope today’s episode will show you that there are SO many ways to be giving–well beyond giving money or time–and that something you hear today will get you into the higher energy state of seeking to be of service to others.

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