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Feminist Wellness

You weren’t born anxious, depleted, and second-guessing yourself. You were taught to be.

The Feminist Wellness podcast is where nervous system science meets the truth nobody wants to say out loud: most of what you think is “self-care” is just performing wellness while your body stays stuck in survival mode.

Host Béa Victoria Albina – NP, life coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner – breaks down the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that keep you trapped in what she calls Emotional Outsourcing™: constantly looking outside yourself for permission, validation, and proof that you’re enough.

This isn’t another show about bubble baths and boundaries. It’s about understanding why your body says yes when you mean no, why rest feels impossible, and how to stop treating your own needs like an inconvenience.
If you’re done white-knuckling your way through life, performing okayness while feeling like you’re constantly failing some invisible test, this show will help you see what’s actually happening – and what becomes possible when you stop abandoning yourself to please everyone else.

New episodes weekly. Start anywhere.

Copyright: © 2024 Victoria Albina All Rights Reserved

Latest Episodes:

Ep #401: Take Me at My Word (Part 2): When Helping Becomes Pushing Oct 22, 2026

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#401: What happens when your good intentions leave someone you love feeling unheard? When you keep offering suggestions, asking if they're sure, or trying to convince them to change their mind, even after they've given you a clear answer?

In this episode, I explore the role of the pusher and how emotional outsourcing can lead us to manage other people's choices because of our own discomfort, anxiety, or fear of not mattering. I look at why we sometimes mistake being useful for being loved, and how repeated attempts to help can erode trust and create distance in our relationships.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/401

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Tenderoni Hotline #49: How to Stop Shrinking Yourself for Others | Paperback Book Series Oct 20, 2026

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Tenderoni Hotline #49: This episode explores how childhood messages about being "too much" create lifelong patterns of self-shrinking that affect every area of your life. When you spend years making yourself smaller to fit other people's comfort levels, you lose track of where you end and their expectations begin.

But what if I told you that's a lie? What if I told you that the right people are starving for your realness? What if I told you that your "too much" is actually someone else's "just right?" What if you're not too much at all? What if you've just been around people who are too small for your bigness?

This is exactly why I wrote End Emotional Outsourcing, to help you stop apologizing for who you are and start celebrating your fullest self.

Order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com

Learn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/courses

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Ep #400: Take Me at My Word (Part 1): How to Stop Second-Guessing When Others Question You Oct 15, 2026

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#400: Have you ever clearly said what you want, only to have someone question it, suggest something else, or act like they know your preferences better than you do?

This week, I explore what happens when we are not taken at our word, especially in our closest relationships. We look at how having our desires, feelings, and internal experiences repeatedly questioned can slowly create self-doubt, disconnect us from ourselves, and reinforce emotional outsourcing patterns.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/400

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

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Tenderoni Hotline #48: Are You Performing? | Paperback Book Series Oct 13, 2026

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Tenderoni Hotline #48: There's this bone-deep fatigue that seeps into you when you've been performing yourself for everyone else instead of living your life for you.

It's different from being tired after a busy day. It's the exhaustion that comes from constantly calculating what version of yourself the room needs.

Meanwhile, real love doesn't require a costume. No tap dancing required for real, true, authentic, grounded, open-hearted love, love, love.

That's what my book, End Emotional Outsourcing, is all about: helping you take off the mask and discover that this big, messy world needs the real you, not the performing you.

Order the book now at https://beatrizalbina.com/book

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com

Learn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/courses

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Ep #399: If He Wants To, He’d Google: Stop Doing His Emotional Work For Him Oct 08, 2026

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#399: What happens when loving someone turns into managing their growth, their choices, and their willingness to change?

This week, I’m exploring the way we can end up taking responsibility for someone else’s development, emotional state, and readiness while losing connection with our own needs. We’re talking about the emails I receive from women asking for resources for their husbands, boyfriends, or sons, and the deeper pattern underneath searching for the “right” book, therapist, or conversation that will finally make someone else change.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/399

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Tenderoni Hotline #47: Are You Living For Everyone Else? | Paperback Book Series Oct 06, 2026

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Tenderoni Hotline #47: Ever have that moment where you realize you've been living your entire life for everyone else? You’re not alone, and you’re not broken. You’ve just been emotionally outsourcing.

In this book series, I name the pattern, share why it develops, and explain how it shapes everything from your relationships to your sense of self. And I’ll tell you how my book, End Emotional Outsourcing, can help you start coming home to yourself - no longer orbiting everyone else’s needs, but finally living for you.

Order the book now: beatrizalbina.com/book

Learn more about my courses and apply here: https://www.beatrizalbina.com/courses

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Ep #398: My Book Is Here in Paperback: Why I Wrote End Emotional Outsourcing Oct 01, 2026

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#398: What if the patterns you’ve been blaming yourself for were actually survival strategies you learned for a reason?

This week, I’m celebrating the paperback release of my book, End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, and People-Pleasing Habits. I’m sharing why I wrote this book, the experiences that led me to create the framework of emotional outsourcing, and why I believe we need a new way to understand these patterns.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/398

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Tenderoni Hotline #46: Why Boundaries Feel So Hard + Why You Keep Procrastinating Sep 29, 2026

Show notes

Tenderoni Hotline #46: Hello my love! Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our cozy corner of the Feminist Wellness podcast where I answer your most tender, honest, and heartfelt questions about healing, self-trust, and nervous system care.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring why setting boundaries can feel so hard, and why guilt often floods in after you finally speak your truth. We’ll talk about the deep nervous system wiring that makes boundaries feel threatening, especially if you were raised to believe that love means self-sacrifice. You’ll learn how your biology, past experiences, and systemic conditioning all collide to make boundary-setting feel unsafe, even when you know it’s the right thing.

We’re also unpacking why you procrastinate, even on things that matter deeply to you. Spoiler alert: it’s not about laziness. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from real or perceived danger. You’ll learn how freeze shows up, how perfectionism fuels it, and what gentle, practical tools can help you shift from stuck to self-led.

This work is compassionate, science-backed, and deeply honoring of your lived experience. Because you deserve to set boundaries without betrayal, take action without fear, and build a life rooted in your own nervous system safety and self-trust.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Ep #397: Catharsis Is Cute. Integration Changes Your Life. Sep 24, 2026

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#397: What happens after the breakthrough? After the ceremony, the therapy session, the retreat, or the moment where everything suddenly makes sense? Why do we sometimes return to the same patterns even after something profound has opened?

This week, I explore the difference between catharsis and integration, and why the peak experiences that create possibility are not the same thing as the daily practice that creates lasting change. We’ll look at why a powerful opening can create a window for change, but why it is the ordinary moments afterward, the conversations, choices, and pauses, where new patterns actually take root.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/397

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

Tenderoni Hotline #45: Nervous System Regulation Tips + How to Stop Losing Yourself in Others’ Needs Sep 22, 2026

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Tenderoni Hotline #45: In this episode, we’re diving into how to stop emotional outsourcing, that habit of looking outside yourself for safety, belonging, and worth, and start reclaiming those from within. I’ll share how to recognize when you’re losing yourself in other people’s needs, plus simple, science-backed nervous system regulation tools to help you catch dysregulation before it hits a 10.

This work is gentle, practical, and profoundly powerful. You deserve to feel safe in your own body and to belong deeply to yourself.

Got a question for the Tenderoni Hotline? Send it to me at: podcast@beatrizalbina.com

Order your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing here: https://beatrizalbina.com/book/

Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/beatrizvictoriaalbinanp/?hl=en

Mentioned in this episode:

Join Nervous System Signals and Safety!

You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does - the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. Working at the level where the pattern actually lives - your nervous system, your physiology - is what changes it. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does, and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you. Check it out here: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/signalsandsafety

Nervous System Signals and Safety

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