Female by Design

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243. Finding Connection in the Middle of the Mess Nov 10, 2025

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What happens to intimacy when everything falls apart?

This week, Francie opens the door wide into her real life…hospital visits, mold in the ceiling, special needs parenting, and emergency back surgery. In the middle of it all, she shares a raw and redemptive truth: sexuality isn't just for the easy seasons. It's a God-designed gift for the hard ones too.

"I used to think sex was about the mood and the lighting. Now I know, it's about survival. Connection. Healing."

Iintimacy can be a sacred source of strength, even when everything around you feels broken.

You'll hear: What Francie is walking through right now in her home and marriage How she and Wyatt are learning to lean into physical intimacy after surgery and through trauma Why our bodies need connection in times of stress and suffering A reframe of sexuality as a gift for healing, not just for romance

Whether your life feels overwhelming or just a little upside down, this episode will remind you: your body, your marriage, and your intimacy are not disqualified by struggle. They may actually be strengthened in it.

Let's keep growing. Check out Francie's new masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk to help you grow in freedom and find your words in the bedroom.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

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242. Beyond Rules: A Fresh Vision of Freedom for Sexual Wholeness Nov 03, 2025

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If you've ever been taught that purity means ignorance… That modesty means shrinking back… Or that submission means silencing your voice…

This episode is a breath of fresh air, and a bold invitation to something better.

Francie picks up where she left off in "The Lies We've Believed" series with a powerful reframe: moving beyond fear-based rules toward a new foundation of sexual wholeness. One that honors God, blesses your body, and invites joy.

She shares her journey of healing from shame and disconnection, and the three pillars that are reshaping her, and so many women's, sexual discipleship:

Education – Learn the beauty of your body, your design, and God's intent Celebration – Say thank you for what God made good Integration – Bring your sexuality into your spiritual life, every day

If you're ready to let go of fear and legalism, and live fully as a woman made in God's image, this episode is for you.

Want to keep going? Check out Francie's new masterclass: Becoming Confident with Sexy Talk to help you grow in freedom and find your words in the bedroom.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

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241. Lies of Purity Oct 27, 2025

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God's heart for purity is beautiful. It's about being filled with His presence — shaped by love, truth, and freedom. But many of us grew up believing something else entirely.

In this final episode of the Lies I Believed series, Francie shares how her desire to honor God was shaped by teachings that defined purity by what you don't do, don't know, or don't feel. Over time, those well-meaning messages created a type of "purity" rooted in fear, ignorance, and self-protection — not love or connection.

This episode gently names the distortion and offers a new vision: one where purity is not about fear or control, but about joyful formation, honest connection, and celebrating God's good design.

What you'll hear:

- Why purity is not the same as ignorance or inexperience

- How purity messages disconnected us from our bodies and desires

- The dangerous link between "purity" and personal worth

- Why education and relational connection are crucial to healthy formation

- A vision of purity that is about presence, maturity, and embodied joy

Whether you're raising daughters, walking your own journey of healing, or reframing what purity means in your adult life, this conversation will help you shift from shame-based silence to redemptive clarity.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

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240. Lies of Submission Oct 20, 2025

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God designed marriage as a picture of mutual love, service, and oneness — a reflection of Christ and the Church. Within that, submission is meant to be life-giving: a way we honor and serve one another in love.

But for many women, especially those raised in conservative or evangelical traditions, the teaching of submission took on a very different tone — one marked by fear, silence, and shrinking back. What was intended to be a beautiful expression of trust became, for some, a justification for control or erasure.

In this episode of Female by Design, Francie explores the ideas of submission with humility and curiosity — and how distorted interpretations can affect not only our marriages, but our relationship with our own voice, body, and identity.

This is not a rejection of submission, but a reclamation of it — returning to the kind of mutual, honoring partnership that reflects God's heart.

What you'll hear:

- A biblical vision of submission rooted in love, not hierarchy

- The cultural and theological misapplications that cause harm

- How false teachings of submission can lead to disembodiment and numbness

- What healthy, joyful submission looks like in a thriving marriage

- How reclaiming your voice is part of reclaiming your design

Whether you've struggled with feeling "too much" or "not enough," this episode is an invitation to come out of hiding, and into wholeness — in your faith, your marriage, and your femininity.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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239. Lies of Modesty Oct 13, 2025

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If you grew up in church communities shaped by evangelical or conservative values, chances are you were taught a version of modesty that sounded holy — but left you feeling ashamed, disconnected from your body, or even afraid of your own beauty.

In this episode, we're naming what many of us lived: the modesty messages that told us our bodies were dangerous, that our presence might cause someone else to stumble, and that it was up to us to manage everyone else's purity.

It's the start of a new series — Lies I Believed — and we're beginning by gently unpacking the messages that formed us, and opening the door to healing and renewal.

Inside this conversation:

- Why modesty became more about fear than freedom

- The roots of shame many of us inherited from purity culture

- How these beliefs still show up in our bodies, marriages, and parenting

- What it means to reclaim a biblical vision of beauty, dignity, and pleasure

This episode isn't about swinging the pendulum or pushing a new dress code — it's about rethinking how we see our bodies through God's eyes, and creating space to disciple our daughters differently.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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238. Why I Struggled to Read Sex Books (and How I Healed) Oct 06, 2025

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As a newlywed, I wanted to grow in intimacy—but even reading a sex book felt terrifying.

In this episode, I share how my early years of marriage were marked by fear, shame, and resistance around learning about sex. Even though my heart longed for connection, my nervous system was on high alert. I used to hide sex books inside other books at the bookstore—because I was afraid someone would see me learning.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed or ashamed when it comes to sex ed (even in marriage!), you're not alone. This episode is full of honesty, healing, and hope.

What you'll hear:

The cultural messages that made sex feel scary and shameful
Why I dissociated from my body—and how I began to reconnect
How sex books became a surprising tool for healing
The power of patient love and growing vocabulary in marriage

Mentioned Resources:

Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women – Joyce & Cliff Penner
Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start – Cliff & Joyce Penner

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving with Francie Winslow:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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237. Back to the Garden of Pleasure Sep 29, 2025

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What if pleasure isn't a problem, but part of God's design?

In this foundational episode of Female by Design, I'm taking us back to the beginning—back to the garden. We'll explore God's original blueprint for our bodies, our senses, and our experience of intimacy, all rooted in the creation story.

I'll also share more of my personal journey of healing and how the word "pleasure" went from feeling shameful… to sacred.

What you'll hear:

Why I renamed the podcast and what's shifting
How God began renewing my mind about pleasure
What Genesis 2 really reveals about our design
Why understanding the garden is key to healing our sexuality

This is a vulnerable, Scripture-soaked, hope-filled episode—and a powerful reset for where we're headed together. I'm so glad you're here.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving with Francie Winslow:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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236. A Fresh Chapter: Female by Design Sep 22, 2025

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Welcome to Female by Design – the new name and expanded vision for this space.

In today's episode, Francie shares the personal journey behind this transition from Heaven in Your Home to Female by Design. You'll hear the heart behind the name, the holy hunger for wholeness that's grown over the years, and the fresh invitation to live fully alive—body, mind, and spirit.

This is more than a rebrand. It's a renewal. A reclaiming. A deepening of the call to explore God's design for femininity, sexuality, and spiritual intimacy.

What to Expect:

Francie's vulnerable story of growth and hunger
Why this new name matters
What's staying the same, and what's expanding
A vision for female flourishing by God's design

Take a deep breath and step into the new season with us. We're so glad you're here.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to keep the message moving with Francie Winslow:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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235. Intentional Intimacy: Looking Back, Moving Forward Aug 25, 2025

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In this final episode of the Intentional Intimacy series, Francie invites you to reflect, remember, and recalibrate. Over the past nine weeks, we've explored simple yet powerful practices to foster deeper connection in your marriage. Today's episode offers a tenth—and essential—idea: pausing to remember what has worked, what has blessed your marriage, and what you want to carry into the next season. Whether it's kisses in the kitchen, body awareness, or shared breath, this episode will help you name the rhythms that bring life and intimacy, and gently let go of what didn't fit this season. Francie also shares how she and Wyatt use this simple rhythm in their own marriage and why remembering is more than nostalgic—it's a spiritual discipline that breeds gratitude, clarity, and hope. Listen in and be encouraged to swim against the current of busyness and towards intentional connection.

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to Heaven in Your Home:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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234. Intentional Intimacy: Kissing in the Kitchen Aug 18, 2025

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In this ninth episode of the Intentional Intimacy series, Francie brings us back to something simple, powerful, and often overlooked…kissing. She shares insights from her own marriage and from the Circle membership about the beauty and benefit of lingering affection, especially outside the bedroom. Whether you've been married a few months or a few decades, this episode reminds you of the quiet joy and relational power of locking lips—on purpose. Francie also shares surprising science-backed reasons to keep kissing a regular part of your connection rhythm. From boosting mood and reducing stress to reigniting arousal and even toning your face—kissing isn't just for teens in love. 💡 This week's challenge? Try kissing in the kitchen. 👩‍❤️‍👨 Highlights include:

A real-life testimony from a 40-year marriage
Hormones activated through kissing
Why affection outside of intercourse matters
Creative, lighthearted encouragement to reclaim this practice

Resources and Invitation to Go Deeper:

Growth Courses

101 Strong Foundations for Married Sex, here

201 Pleasure and Orgasm: Passion and Practicals, here

Before (And After) I Do, here

Get Connected Inside the Circle Group Mentorship

Keep learning and get direct access to Francie! Join the Circle group mentorship. Inside the Circle, we talk practicals and get support to grow. Learn more here: The Circle

Donate to Heaven in Your Home:

Your one time donation will allow us to continue to produce and distribute teaching and resources. Thank you for partnering with us! Donate here.

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