Stay ConnectedMindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez.
On Mondays my episodes are a combo of neuroscience and psychology. I deep dive into everything from habit formation and how to live a carefree life, to friendships and heartbreak. And on Fridays we’ve got Head Noise – where I answer your questions!
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Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit.
1) My partner and I are great, and then every now and then they snap when talking about or learning about my past dating history. My dating history isn’t anything wild, and I can’t control that I’ve been with other people, so how do I deal with their reaction to the fact that they’re not my first and only love?
2) My partner has genital herpes, and has been upfront with me about this. We communicated about expectations in our physical relationship, and how I could most be comfortable and feel protected at the same time. We are now a little further into our relationship and he has started saying things like if I want this relationship to continue I need to stop making him feel so bad about having herpes, that I make him feel dirty and ruin his self confidence because of the precautions I’ve put in place during sex to keep myself at less risk of contracting HSV.
3) My therapist says I am anxiously attached from a past trauma. I was wondering if you could talk me through limerence vs love, because my anxiety around dating
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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Do you constantly replay scenarios in your head? What is rumination? And how can you stop these thoughts from taking over your life? In this episode we’ll find out what rumination is, why it happens to some people, and how you can turn it around so you can start living life to its full potential.
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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Your brain does what you teach it to do – so I'm going to take you through the neuroscience of willpower, and how to get yourself doing tough tasks. And I don't just mean running a marathon, it could even just be unlearning habits that aren't helping you life your best life. Let's get into it.
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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Let’s get into HEAD NOISE where I answer your questions about life, love, friendship, and all the fun messy things that make being alive so lit.
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Are you stuck in a rut in your relationship? Do you feel like your relationship is going nowhere? Before you make any big decisions I want you to ask yourself these 8 question.
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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In this episode I'm diving into the brain fact of endorphins – and taking a look at the impact endorphins from physical exercise can have on neuronal development in the brain. Plus, just how EPIC the runners high is. If this doesn’t convince you to raise your heart rate once a day I honestly don't know what will!
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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How do you rebuild your life when your marriage ends and your career feels like it’s stalling?
John Kim (The Angry Therapist) has walked that walk, after he got divorced in his 20s, and his dream of being a screenwriter became something he didn’t want any more.
After starting a masters in therapy, blogging his experiences on Tumblr, John’s life started down a path he never thought he’d end up on.
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Guest: John Kim
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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Do you find that you fall heeadd over heels with someone on a first date? Or even BEFORE the first date? Do you watch Rom-Coms and think Oh MY GOD that’s what I need. My beautiful bean you are confusing love with limerence.
I’m going to take you through what limerence is, how it differs from love, why romantic movies are selling you a LIE and finally – how to chill and calm your farm when you’re dating. It might just help you find someone you’re actually compatible with!
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
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Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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In this episode we dive deep into the science behind Caffeine, the psychoactive substance found in coffee, tea, gels and other products. I chat about what it does to the brain, how it keeps you awake, why it’s a performance enhancer. Plus I explore how it interacts with dopamine within the brain to increase alertness as well as dopamine signalling in the brain.
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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It's been 300 WHOLE episodes of DYFM so my producer Elise put together some voice memos from you my beautiful beans!
Plus I go through my favourite episodes of the pod (so far duh), where a new bean should start if you’re recommending the show to a friend, and what I'm manifesting for the next 300 episodes!
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Host: Alexis Fernandez
Executive Producer & Editor: Elise Cooper
Digital Producer: Zoe Panaretos
DYFM Social Producer: Shania Magua
Managing Producer: Sam Cavanagh
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