Divorce with Sam and Leah

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What to Expect When You Say "I’m Done" Sep 01, 2025

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Making the decision to leave your marriage is never easy—and knowing what to expect once you do can feel overwhelming. In this episode, Divorce Coach, Lawyer, and Mediator Karen Covy shares how to tell if you’re truly ready to go, what steps to take before filing, and how to prepare for the legal process ahead. We talk about common fears that keep people stuck, the documents you’ll want to gather early, and how to set realistic expectations for what divorce might look like. Whether you’re still on the fence or already preparing to file, this conversation will give you the clarity, confidence, and practical tools to move forward with less conflict, expense, and drama.

To connect with Karen, visit https://karencovy.com/

💬 Ready for more support and tools to navigate divorce and co-parenting with confidence? Join The Next Chapter—our private membership for divorced moms—where you’ll get weekly workshops, expert guest sessions, and a supportive community of women who get it. Learn more and join here: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Divorce Finance Nightmares & the Lessons You Can’t Afford to Miss Aug 27, 2025

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What happens when the financial picture in your divorce is way messier than you expected?

In this powerful episode of Divorce with Sam and Leah, we’re joined by Certified Financial Planner and Divorce Financial Analyst, Morgan Murray, who walks us through real-life divorce finance horror stories—and the critical lessons that came out of them. From hidden accounts to unmanageable debt to last-minute retirement plan saves, this episode is packed with red flags to watch for and smart steps to take.

Whether you’re still in the process or already divorced, this episode will open your eyes to what really happens when the money gets messy—and how to protect yourself.

We cover:

What to do if your ex controls all the finances
How “weaponized incompetence” delays the legal process
Why that house might not be the asset you think it is
How to untangle financial messes with the right professionals
Why speed, communication, and transparency matter more than ever

Real stories. Real strategies. Real empowerment. Don’t miss this one.

Connect with Morgan: https://abri.io/

💡 Ready to protect your peace, rebuild your confidence, and co-parent with confidence after divorce? Join The Next Chapter membership for weekly workshops, expert guest trainings, and a supportive community of women who get it. Your fresh start starts here 👉https://www.samandleah.com/services

How to Shut Down That Mean Girl in Your Head Aug 25, 2025

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If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “I should’ve known better,” or “I’m failing my kids,”—this episode is for you.

Negative self-talk after a toxic relationship or divorce is so common, and yet, nobody really talks about how damaging it can be. The guilt, the shame, the feelings of failure… We’ve felt it all. And for a long time, we believed every harsh thing we said to ourselves.

But learning how to shift that inner voice? It changed everything—how we showed up as moms, the decisions we made for our future, and the way we saw ourselves.

In this episode, we’re sharing:

The sneaky ways negative self-talk shows up
Why your inner critic isn't actually your voice
10 powerful tools to stop the spiral and start rebuilding confidence
How to start talking to yourself like someone you love

Because you’re not broken—you’re rebuilding. And you deserve to feel safe, seen, and whole in your own mind.

Let’s quiet the mean girl in your head and help you reconnect with your truth.

👉 Ready to keep healing and reconnect with who you are outside of the pain? The Next Chapter is my monthly membership for moms ready to rebuild their confidence, set boundaries, and co-parent with strength and clarity. You don’t have to do this alone.

Join us here: https://www.samandleah.com/services

When His Anger Controls Your Life Aug 20, 2025

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If you're constantly putting your toxic or abusive ex’s feelings above your own—this episode is for you.

So many divorced moms stay stuck in fear, walking on eggshells and avoiding things they want to do because they’re terrified of their ex’s reaction. Whether it's setting a boundary, taking a vacation, or even just showing up happy—if you're still shrinking yourself to avoid his triggers, this conversation will help you shift that mindset.

We’re breaking down:

Why his reactions are not your responsibility
How fear keeps you stuck in old patterns
5 empowering reminders to help you stop prioritizing him over yourself
What it really means to choose you (and show your kids how to do the same)

It’s time to stop managing him and start reclaiming your peace. 💥

✨ If this episode hit home and you’re ready to feel more confident, supported, and emotionally free—join us inside The Next Chapter. It's our monthly membership designed for moms healing from divorce and navigating high-conflict co-parenting. You don’t have to do this alone.

👉 Join here: https://www.samandleah.com/services

What Teens Really Want You to Know About Divorce Aug 18, 2025

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In this powerful episode, we’re sharing the raw, honest truth straight from teens who lived through their parents’ divorces. These aren’t expert opinions or textbook strategies — they’re real insights from kids who know firsthand what helped, what hurt, and what they wish their parents had done differently.

From the value of therapy and structure, to the emotional damage of oversharing and being stuck in the middle, this episode breaks down seven impactful lessons every divorced parent needs to hear.

Whether you're in the thick of it or already years out, this conversation will help you show up for your kids in ways that actually matter.

Because healing isn’t about perfection — it’s about presence, consistency, and choosing love over drama every single time.

Your kids might not say it out loud, but these are the things they need you to hear.

✨ Want more support as you navigate divorce and co-parenting?

Join The Next Chapter — our private membership for moms ready to heal, rebuild, and co-parent with confidence. Inside, you’ll get weekly workshops, expert guidance, and a community that truly gets it.

👉 https://www.samandleah.com/services

When Your Attorney Is the Real Red Flag Aug 13, 2025

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Not all attorneys are created equal—especially when you're navigating divorce or a high-conflict custody battle. In this episode, we’re calling out the red flags you need to know when it comes to working with a divorce lawyer.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Is my attorney really fighting for me—or just running up the bill?”… this one’s for you.

We’re breaking down the top 10 signs your attorney is stirring the pot for profit instead of supporting your best interest. From unnecessary court filings to shady communication patterns, we’re pulling back the curtain and giving you the insight you deserve.

Whether you’re already working with an attorney or still searching for the right one, this episode will help you protect your peace, your wallet, and your future.

If you’re a divorced or divorcing mom ready to heal, rebuild, and take your power back—come join us inside The Next Chapter Membership. We’ve got the tools, support, and sisterhood to help you thrive: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Why Some Triggers Keep Coming Back—And How to Finally Break the Pattern Aug 11, 2025

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Ever wonder why you keep getting triggered by the same things—no matter how much healing work you’ve already done?

In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the top 5 reasons emotional triggers keep showing up (especially after divorce), and what you can start doing right now to finally shift the pattern. From unhealed wounds to subconscious hooks, this conversation is a must-listen if you’re tired of feeling stuck, reactive, or emotionally drained.

Plus, we share a powerful invitation to go deeper with us inside The Next Chapter membership, where we’re bringing in artist and creative healing facilitator Lisa Brown for a special live workshop. She’ll teach you how to gently access your emotions, uncover what’s keeping you stuck, and reconnect with your true self—no art experience required.

🎧 Tune in to learn:

Why some emotional triggers never fully go away
What’s underneath the anger, sadness, or shutdown
How creativity can unlock healing in a totally different way
A sneak peek at our upcoming Art as Therapy workshop

You’re not broken—you’re just carrying too much. Let’s change that.

✨ Join the membership to catch the live workshop or watch the replay anytime: https://www.samandleah.com/services

You’re Not the Narcissist, But You Might Be Fueling the Fire Aug 06, 2025

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If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I the high-conflict co-parent?” — this episode is for you. In today’s honest and eye-opening conversation, we’re talking about the moms who second-guess themselves, feel guilt over their decisions, and just want to do what’s best for their kids. (Spoiler alert: the fact that you're asking this question is a sign you're not the problem.)

But even if you’re not the narcissist, you might still be unintentionally feeding the high-conflict dynamic. From engaging in every argument to trying to co-parent like it's a team sport — we're breaking down 10 ways you might be enabling your high-conflict co-parent without even realizing it.

Whether you’re dealing with gaslighting, boundary-pushing, or constant chaos, this episode will help you shift out of reaction mode, stop fueling the fire, and protect your peace.

In this episode, we cover:

Why narcissists never ask, “Am I the problem?”
Subtle behaviors that enable high-conflict dynamics
Why parallel parenting may be your best strategy
The role of guilt, reactivity, and lack of boundaries
What to do instead — and how to reclaim your power

✨ Ready to stop second-guessing yourself and co-parent with confidence? Inside The Next Chapter membership, you’ll get the tools, support, and weekly guidance you need to heal, set boundaries, and raise emotionally healthy kids — even with a high-conflict ex.

Join us here → https://www.samandleah.com/services

Co-Parenting with a Narcissist Who Refuses to Compromise Aug 04, 2025

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Co-parenting with a narcissist or high-conflict ex who refuses to compromise is emotionally draining and can feel like an endless battle. In this episode, Sam and Leah break down the Top 10 truths about co-parenting with a narcissist — including how to stop reacting, start protecting your peace, and shift the dynamic in your favor.

Whether you're dealing with gaslighting, manipulation, or a complete lack of cooperation, this episode gives you clarity, validation, and strategies to navigate the chaos with strength.

And don’t forget — inside The Next Chapter, we hosted an exclusive live workshop with internationally renowned conflict expert and author Hesha Abrams, who will teach you how to communicate clearly and hold the calm — even when it feels impossible. This replay is now available inside the member library!

📥 Want to catch the replay of Hesha’s workshop and more? Join the Next Chapter: https://www.samandleah.com/services

Protect Your Peace: 10 Must-Have Boundaries with a Difficult Ex Jul 30, 2025

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If you're co-parenting with someone who thrives on control, chaos, or conflict—this episode is for you. In today’s conversation, I’m breaking down the Top 10 Boundaries to Set with a High-Conflict Co-Parent that will help protect your peace, your energy, and your mental health.

We’ll cover practical strategies like using written communication only, avoiding emotional bait, limiting what you share, and learning how to say “no” without guilt. Whether your ex is a narcissist, emotionally immature, or just plain difficult, these boundaries will help you shift from reactive to grounded and in control.

You don’t have to tolerate toxic behavior just because you share children. You’re allowed to protect yourself. And you deserve peace in this new chapter.

Tune in now and take the first step toward a calmer, more empowered co-parenting journey.

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