Destined To Be

Entrepreneurs' Organization

Resources

Gary Vaynerchuk

Harvard Second Generation Study

Robert Waldinger's TED Talk on Happiness

The Four Agreements

The Enneagram Institute

Matthew McConaughey's Oscar Speech

Compassion on Destined to Be EP129

Jeremiah on ProjectME with Tiffany Carter EP151

Why Compassion Is Crucial to Your Success - EP128 Mar 16, 2021

Show notes

Without passion, nothing happens. Without compassion, the wrong things happen.

In the memoir Into the Magic Shop, neurosurgeon and Stanford professor Dr. James Doty shares his story of learning to harness the power of both the brain and heart. And he contends that we cannot enjoy true wealth or live our best lives in the absence of compassion.

But what does it look like to practice compassion in our daily lives?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we explore the idea that the only thing we really need to be successful is compassion, describing how mindfulness can turn us into monsters if we don't have empathy for others.

We explain how pouring into other people makes our business life and friendships more valuable, introducing you to the science around how strong, authentic relationships are the #1 contributor to longevity.

Listen in for insight on how a lack of empathy holds you back and learn how cultivating compassion for yourself and others leads to a happier, more fulfilling life!

Key Takeaways

The idea that the only thing you really need to be successful is compassion

How mindfulness can turn us into monsters if we don't have empathy for others

Mallory's focus on raising kind and compassionate kids

Why Jeremiah fights feeling compassion for others and how that holds him back

The distinction between having compassion and holding people to a high standard

How pouring into other people makes our relationships more valuable

The relationship between passion and compassion

The science behind how strong, authentic relationships are the #1 contributor to longevity

How compassion helps us shift negative thoughts about other people

Why self-compassion is a prerequisite for showing compassion to others

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Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart by James R. Doty, MD

Resources

Into the Magic Shop

Robert Waldinger's TED Talk on Happiness

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Get Uncomfortable & Work Through Overwhelm - EP127 Mar 11, 2021

Show notes

When you're overwhelmed, do you work through it? Or do you push it down and tell your partner you're fine?

It's scary to be vulnerable and communicate what you're really feeling. But it's absolutely necessary if you want to find solutions.

And if your partner has your back, it's much easier to navigate overwhelm (or any other negative emotion) and come out better on the other side.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the challenge of articulating why you're overwhelmed, encouraging you to get present and express those uncomfortable emotions to your partner.

We explain why it's crucial to be around people who help us overcome conditioning and give us permission to show how we really feel.

Listen in for insight on pushing just 4% past your comfort zone and learn how to create a culture of support in your relationship that allows you to communicate overwhelm—and find solutions together.

Key Takeaways

The power in creating a culture of support in your relationship with your significant other

How our couples weekend serves as a container to sit down with your partner and put your vision on paper

The challenge of articulating why you're feeling overwhelmed (and how to overcome it)

Why it's crucial to be around people who help us overcome conditioning and give us permission to express our emotions

Why you shouldn't ignore the pull to level up—even if it makes you uncomfortable

How knowing your partner has your back can help you navigate overwhelm

How growing together inspires action you might not take for yourself

How to push 4% past your comfort zone and share what you're really feeling vs. defaulting to I'm fine

What it looks like to vocalize overwhelm with your partner and find solutions together

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Resources

Jeremiah & Mallory's Couples Level Up Weekend [Discount Code COUPLES]

Raise Your Standards, Change Your Life - EP126 Mar 09, 2021

Show notes

Tony Robbins reminds us that if you want to change your life, you have to raise your standards.

But how, exactly, do you set the bar higher? And how do you follow through and live up to these new standards you set for yourself?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we discuss the value in surrounding yourself with people who will push you to the next level, explaining how couples can serve as extreme accountability partners and hold each other to a higher standard.

We explore how creating a vision for the future helps you raise your expectations and what to do if you're not living up to the standards you set for yourself.

Listen in for insight on raising the standards for your relationships and learn how to build a new standard of belief in your own worthiness.

Key Takeaways

Why it's crucial to communicate your standards to others so they know what you expect

The value in surrounding yourself with people who will push you to a higher standard

Why it's more effective to focus on how to solve a problem rather than who's to blame

How to set standards for relationships around a potential partner's lifestyle choices (and whether those choices align with your core values)

How couples can serve as each other's extreme accountability partner

Why whatever consumes your mind the most is your higher power

The challenge around setting high standards for how you show up as a parent

How to set the standard of having a clear vision for the future

What to do if you're not living up to the standards you set for yourself

How to leverage repetition to create new standards and beliefs, e.g.: I am worthy

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Awaken with JP on Instagram

Resources

Jeremiah & Mallory's Couples Level Up Weekend [Discount Code COUPLES]

Andy Frisella

Tony Robbins

GoBundance

Entrepreneurs' Organization

The Four Agreements

What I Wanted to Be 'When I Grow Up' - EP125 Mar 04, 2021

Show notes

We hope you never figure out what you want to be when you grow up.

That's not to say you shouldn't get clear on what you want to be NEXT. Vision is key in manifesting the life you want.

But we hope you never stop growing up. That you keep striving for the next thing and evolving into a better person than you are now.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're explaining why it's crucial to set an intention for what you want to do next, challenging you to STOP living on autopilot and START pushing out of your comfort zone.

We discuss how the information age allows us to keep learning, growing and checking our beliefs and describe how getting stuck in conditioning guarantees a mediocre life.

Listen in for insight on growing into the next version of yourself and learn how to set an intention on the feelings you want to have—and then allow the universe to respond!

Key Takeaways

Why it's crucial to set an intention for what you want to do next vs. live on autopilot

The challenge in giving yourself permission to do what you want (when what you've been conditioned to do isn't serving you anymore)

How the internet has changed our ideology around staying in the same career long term

Why never pushing out of your comfort zone guarantees mediocrity

How we define wisdom a memory of the past without emotional charge

Why we surround ourselves with people who are constantly reading, learning and checking their beliefs

How to put an intention on the feelings you want to have and then allow the universe to respond

How we use Sex Magic to focus our intention on the same goal

Why we hope you never figure out what you want to be when you grow up

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Jeremiah & Mallory's Couples Level Up Weekend

Resources

Dr. Oz on On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Jay Shetty on The Dr. Oz Podcast

Sex Magic

Matthew McConaughey on the Hero in Your Future Self

How to Build High-Vibe Relationships - EP124 Mar 02, 2021

Show notes

In a perfect world, we would only go where we're celebrated—not tolerated.

But sometimes we can't avoid being around people who gossip, judge or complain. People with the potential to bring us down.

So, how do you keep your vibe high in that situation? And what can you do to spend LESS time with Debbie Downers and MORE time with people who lift you up?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're discussing how to build high-vibe relationships, explaining what you can do to attract elite-level people into your life.

We describe how to handle a Negative Nancy, challenging you to cultivate peak experiences and show up with HIGH energy to protect yourself from their low vibe.

Listen in for insight on adding value to other's lives and learn how move past mediocre and start living a high-vibe life of abundance!

Key Takeaways

Why we choose to go where we're celebrated, not tolerated

What to do when you're faced with a Negative Nancy

How showing up with high energy protects you from people with a low vibe

The value in surrounding yourself with people who make peak moves

How to attract more elite-level people into your life

Why you can't create if you're not consistent in doing things that are good for you

The relationship between abundance and success

Why you shouldn't feel guilty about wanting more than a mediocre life

How to flip it on them when a Debbie Downer starts complaining

Why you can't get stuck in how it's always been done

How to influence people to work harder by investing in them

Why it's crucial to add value to your friends' lives (and how to do it)

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Mallory's Level Up VIP Coaching Program

Resources

The ONE Thing

Entrepreneurs' Organization

EO Accelerator

Young Presidents' Organization

The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles

Chris Harder

The 3 C's of Relationships, Part 3: Commitment - EP123 Feb 25, 2021

Show notes

To have a healthy relationship, you need to communicate your wants and needs and then make compromises to support each other's growth.

But most importantly, a fulfilling partnership requires dedication. It's about working through challenges and making time to work on your relationship. It's about growing together.

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're exploring the third and final C of a strong relationship, commitment.

We explain how a commitment to your own personal growth serves as the foundation for a commitment to your relationship, challenging you to put those commitments in writing and discuss what's important to you with your partner.

Listen in for insight on making time to follow through on your commitments (both to yourself and each other) and learn how to show up for your relationship with an energy of abundance and opportunity!

Key Takeaways

The 3 C's of relationships

Communication
Compromise
Commitment

How our Level Up Couples weekend demonstrates a commitment to your relationship

The paradigm shift around the role of women in society

Why it's crucial to bring your feelings to light and communicate them to your significant other

How your commitment to yourself serves as the foundation for your commitment to your partner

The value of writing a list of what you're committed to in your own life and in your relationship and comparing it with your partner

How to pick something your partner is committed to and help them get there faster

How we use the love languages to demonstrate our commitment to each other

How to reframe commitment as dedication rather than obligation

The power in committing your time to the things that are important to you

How we use sex magic to manifest abundance in the world

Why you cannot receive opportunity from a place of victimization, fear, anxiety or lack

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Jeremiah & Mallory's Couples Level Up Weekend

Resources

The 3 C's of Relationships, Part 2: Compromise - EP122 Feb 23, 2021

Show notes

We tend to see compromise in a relationship as a bad thing. It makes us think of giving something up and feeling resentful toward our partner as a result.

But what if compromise in a relationship isn't about winning or losing? What if you can BOTH benefit from supporting each other through individual seasons of growth?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're exploring the second C of a strong relationship, compromise.

We discuss the victim mentality at the source of most conflict in a relationship, challenging you to shift away from keeping score to building mutual respect with your significant other.

Listen in for insight on persuading your partner through attraction rather than promotion and learn how to communicate the benefits of what you want to do in a way that inspires healthy compromise.

Key Takeaways

The 3 C's of relationships

Communication
Compromise
Commitment

How a healthy couple leverages setbacks to make the relationship stronger

The victim mentality at the source of most conflict between partners

Why we tend to see compromise as the act of giving something up and how to reframe it in terms of seasons of growth

How to shift away from competing or keeping score to building mutual respect with your partner

How fear and resentment blind us to the opportunities to create solutions

Why it's crucial to communicate WHY you want to do something and how it will benefit your family as a whole

How compromise is much easier when a couple practices judgement-free communication

Why we're more persuasive when we use attraction rather than promotion

The power in explaining why investing in your relationship is important to you and defining what you're willing to do in return

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Jeremiah & Mallory's Couples Level Up Weekend

Resources

Mallory's Valentine's Day Instagram Post

Gary Vaynerchuk

Dr. Joe Dispenza

Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss and Tahl Raz

Chris Harder's Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind

The 3 C's of Relationships, Part 1: Communication - EP121 Feb 18, 2021

Show notes

A strong relationship requires communication, compromise and commitment. But what does that look like in practice?

On this episode of Destined to Be, we're exploring the first C of a strong relationship, communication.

We discuss the power in knowing your partner's love language and showing them love in that way, challenging you to identify what you are feeling and clearly communicate what you need in the relationship.

Listen in for insight on reading your partner's unspoken or nonverbal communication and learn to leverage meditation to facilitate better communication with your better half!

Key Takeaways

The 3 C's of relationships

Communication
Compromise
Commitment

How we think about the difference between romance and sex—and why you have to clearly communicate your needs to your partner

The power in knowing your partner's love language and showing them love in that way

How to avoid resentment when your partner doesn't acknowledge your acts of service

How to communicate when you need time for yourself (and not feel guilty or anxious about taking that time)

Why so many of us fall back on anger when we're afraid of being rejected

Why it's crucial to learn to identify your feelings

How identifying what you want is the first step in communicating with your partner

How quieting your mind through meditation facilitates better communication in a relationship

The danger in modeling your parents or other cultural models of relationships rather than figuring out what serves you

Why you shouldn't communicate every thought that crosses your mind

How much of our communication is unspoken or nonverbal

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