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Ketubot 67 - September 11, 15 Elul Sep 11, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Debbie Schreiber in loving memory of Elliot Schreiber, her father-in-law, on his 1st yahrzeit. "He was my other father, personal rabbi & brilliant confidante. With semicha from Mercaz Harav he moved with the times & loved discussing halacha with my daughters as well as my sons. His opinion meant so much to me because he was fair, smart & never steered me wrong. When my father was niftar he helped me more than he could imagine & I am forever grateful." Today's daf is dedicated for a refuah shleima for Devora Shulamit bat Yocheved Chana.

What was wrong with the way that Nakdimon ben Gurion fulfilled the mitzva of tzedaka? If a woman brings gold bricks into her dowry, at what value does she get them back? Rabbi Yochanan says at their exact value. However, a braita is brought to contradict. How is it resolved? How much is the minimum amount for a dowry? What about if it is being paid for by charity? Who gets taken care of first, a male or female orphan? Rabbi Yochanan ruled If an orphan needs tzedakah to get married, what do we provide him with? Tzedaka is given according to what the person was used to before they became poor. What is the best way to give tzedaka? How do you give tzedakah to someone who doesn't want to take tzedaka? What do you do with someone who has money but wants to take tzedaka anyway? Several stories are brought highlighting these different issues.

Ketubot 66 - Shabbat September 10, 14 Elul Sep 09, 2022

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This week's learning is sponsored by Mark Ziering in loving memory of Lea Ziering.

There is a debate between the rabbis and Rabbi Akiva about a woman who finds a lost item – does she get to keep it for herself or does it go to her husband? There are different opinions about who held by which opinion. Is finding a lost item more like extra salary a woman makes that she works hard to make or that comes easily to her? Is a woman who multi-tasks and can do several jobs at once – is that categorized as hard work or something that comes easily to her? The Mishna had a debate regarding whether the husband gets part of the humiliation of his wife. The Gemara compares it to other situations where one may be humiliated on account of embarrassment caused to someone/thing else and yet the other person does not receive the humiliation payment. Why is the law different regarding one's wife? If the father promised a dowry to his daughter's fiancé and he died, he does not have to commit to give the dowry to the yabam, brother of the deceased who now needs to marry the widow. The husband commits in the ketuba to give the woman 50% more than the cash that she brought into the marriage in her dowry. However, any moveable items she brings, he commits to 1/5 less than their assessed value. Why? The Mishna brings several examples illustrating this past ruling. Why were all of the cases necessary? For every 100 dinar (maneh) the wife brings into the marriage, the husband needs to give her ten dinar for perfume. It is unclear how often he needs to give this to her. A story is told of the daughter of Nakdimon ben Gurion, a very wealthy man, who went to court to receive this money. Another story of her is told in the aftermath of the destruction in which she is incredibly impoverished and begs Rabban Yochanan ben Zakai to help feed her. Why did Nakdimon lose all his wealth?

Ketubot 65 - September 9, 13 Elul Sep 09, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Risa and Zev Gewurz in loving memory of Risa's father, Rephael Ben Mordechai, Ralph Loebenberg, z"l on his 16th yahrzeit. If a husband is supporting his wife through a third party, they are not to provide her with wine. Support for this is brought from a verse about Chana (Shmuel 1 1:9). However, there are exceptions to this rule. A number of stories are brought of women who demanded wine, such as, Abaye's widow Choma who came to Rava's court to demand wine from the heirs, and accidentally revealed her arm, showing off her beauty. This led Rava to go back home to his wife desirous of her, but when his wife understood what had happened, she got angry at Choma and kicked her out of town. In addition to food, the husband also needs to provide his wife (when supporting through an agent), a bed, a soft mat and a hard mat. Why all three? There is a debate about whether he needs to provide her with a pillow and cushion. What is the root of the debate? Why does the woman get shoes three times a year and clothes only once? The amount of clothes is 50 zuz, but this amount refers to simple zuzim that are worth much less than the zuzim normally referred to in the Gemara (zuz tzuri). Leftover food belongs to the husband but leftover clothes belong to her - why? However, the law is different for a widow - why? According to the Mishna, even if the husband appoints someone to be in charge during the week, he eats with her on Friday night. Does "eat" mean food or having marital relations? A father needs to sustain one's children until the age of six as until that age, the child is considered an appendage of the mother and the husband needs to support the mother and therefore the child as well. Why? Can this be learned from the law in our Mishna regarding a nursing mother who is entitled to extra food - is it not for her child? No! It is for her as she needs to eat more since the nursing weakens her. The Mishna states that items a woman finds or salary she makes goes to her husband. Inherited property goes to her, but profits are his during his lifetime. There is a debate regarding payment of humiliation or damage caused to a woman - does she receive it all or does part go to her husband. Weren't most of these laws already taught in a Mishna in Chapter 4 (Ketubot 46b)?

Ketubot 64 - September 8, 12 Elul Sep 08, 2022

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Study Guide Ketubot 64

This week's learning is sponsored by Medinah Korn in loving memory of her mother, Rosalie Katchen, Shoshana Raizl bat Avraham Yehoshua ve-Baila Toibe, z"l, on her 22nd yahrzeit. "Missing her warmth and her wisdom, today and every day. Yehi zichrah Baruch."

Today's daf is sponsored by David and Mitzi Geffen in loving memory of Ethel Petegorsky Geffen, on her 18th yahrzeit. "Loving wife of Abraham Geffen z"l, her life was devoted to family and Jewish causes. Her two sons made Aliyah to Israel and her daughter had a distinguished synagogue career as a hazan."

A woman who rebels against her husband does not get her ketuba money. But can she take her clothing that she brought into the marriage? Shmuel was quoted as saying for a betrothed woman we write a document of rebellion (if one refuses to go ahead with the marriage) but we do not write one for a woman who is supposed to marry the yabam. A contradiction is raised from a braita quoted on Ketubot 63 and the Gemara has several attempts at resolving it. What is the currency tarpik'in mentioned in the Mishna? The Mishna had two penalties for a rebellious spouse - 7 dinarim or tarpiki'in for the woman (deducted from her ketuba) or 3 dinarim or tarpiki'in (for the man - to pay to the wife) . Why is there a difference between the penalty for the man and the penalty for the woman? If the husband doesn't live with the wife and hires or appoints someone to be in charge of giving her food, how much food does he need to give her? If the husband doesn't give her a stipend of 100 dinar, then she doesn't need to give him the money she makes beyond the basic salary. How much is considered a basic salary (amount of production expected from her)? A nursing woman is expected to produce less and gets provided with more food. These laws were all meant for poor people but wealthier people need to provide food for the woman according to her status. The Mishna gave the amount of two kav for a week (14 meals worth). However, this doesn't seem to match either of the two opinions who disagree about the amount of food needed for an eruv techumim (which needs to be the amount for two meals). According to one opinion, a meal is 1/4 of a kav and according to the other, 1/9 of a kav. How can each of these opinions be explained to correspond to the Mishna?

Ketubot 63 - September 7, 11 Elul Sep 07, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Miriam and Lana Kerzner, Dov and Elayne Greenstone and families in loving memory of Denny Lock, beloved brother of Mitzi Geffen. "With love and much comfort from your cousins in Israel and abroad."

Today's daf is sponsored by Suri Davis-Stern for the yahrzeit of her grandfather, Rabbi Chaim Davis, HaRav Chaim ben Nesanel who brought daf yomi to the five towns in 1974 at the White Shul. May his neshama have an aliyah.

Rabbi Akiva was the shepherd of a rich man, Kalba Savua and married his daughter, Rachel, secretly, much to the chagrin of her father. Rachel wanted him to go to study and even after he came back after 12 years, he heard her tell someone else that he wished he would study more and therefore he went to learn for another 12 years. The story is a story of a rabbi who goes away from home successfully as it was the wish of his wife, as opposed to the other stories. Rabbi Akiva's daughter did the same as her mother with Ben Azai. The Gemara ends the series of stories with Rav Yosef, son of Raba who went to study and returned in the middle of the time set for him on the eve of Yom Kippur to see his wife and Raba was angry with him. What is the ruling for a woman who rebels against her husband? What is the ruling for a man who rebels against his wife? According to the Mishna, we push off the divorce in other to see if there is a way to compromise and save the marriage. The Gemara asks what is considered "to rebel"? Is it by refusing to have marital relations or by refusing to do her jobs in the house? Although the law for an is spelled out in the Mishna, the rabbis changed the law and shortened the way to divorce in a case of rebellion. There were different opinions on whether to follow as stipulated in the Mishna or as to the change the rabbis made. If a woman says that her husband is "disgusting to me," does that fall into the religion of a rebel or is it something else? Why would there be a difference?

Ketubot 62 - September 6, 10 Elul Sep 06, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Jennifer Geretz in honor of Phyllis and Chaim Lauer

Beit Shamai and Beit Hillel disagreed in the Mishnah regarding the maximum time a man can vow to not have relations with his wife. Rav and Shmuel disagree in their understanding of the dispute. According to the Mishna, students can go to study Torah for thirty days. Is it possible to go for a longer time with his wife's consent? If so, is there a limit? Who are the 'tayalim' mentioned in the Mishna that their requirement is every day, if their wife wishes? Are workers obligated once or twice a week? On what does it depend? Can a person change their job from one who is home less time but makes more money? What can we assume the wife would prefer? All the amounts of time mentioned in the Mishna is R. Eliezer's opinion (including that a student can learn Torah for 30 days against the wishes of his wife) but the rabbis hold it is possible for two or three years. Raba says that many sages went with the opinion of the rabbis and paid for it with their souls. Several stories are told about rabbis who left their wives at home and went to study Torah for an extended period of time (some for a year/12 years) and when they did not return on time or returned without prior notice, they caused panic or the caused the death of the wife or himself. Stories are told about Rav Rahumi, Yehuda son of Rabbi Haya, Rabbi Hanina ben Hachinai and Rabbi Hama bar Bisa and others...

Ketubot 61 - September 5, 8 Elul Sep 05, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Lisa Malik & Adi Wyner in honor of Sari & Mark Winick's anniversary. "We feel blessed to have met you during our sabbaticals in Israel & are thrilled that you came to Jerusalem for Rivkah & Charlie's wedding this summer." What should be avoided during pregnancy or when conceiving? If there is a debate between the husband and wife about whether the woman should nurse the baby or hire a wet nurse, who do we side with? On what does it depend? If a woman has to do seven jobs for the household, why if she hires one maidservant, is she only exempted from three jobs? Why doesn't the maidservant do all seven? And furthermore, with two maidservants. What jobs does the woman need to do herself even if she has four maidservants? These are the same jobs that a woman cannot do for her husband when she is a nidda as they are considered intimate activities. The same Rabbi who brought that halacha also taught about making sure to give food to the waiter before the meal if they will cause him to crave the foods he is serving as cravings can be dangerous. Several stories are brought to stress the danger and seriousness of cravings. Can a husband make a vow to not have relations with his wife for a particular period of time? If so, for how long? What is the expectation of how often a husband needs to have relations with his wife, if she so wishes? There are different times depending on one's job. On what does it depend? A husband can leave home for thirty days to study Torah. how long can others go away for their work?

Ketubot 60 - September 4, 8 Elul Sep 04, 2022

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This week's daf is sponsored by Carolyn Hochstadter in loving memory of Fred Hochstadter's 8th yahrzeit. "We miss you every day, Dad, Saba & Great-Saba. With lots of love, Carolyn, Adam, Michal, Josh, Benny, Izzy, Shim, Zoe & Yehuda." Today's daf is sponsored by the Levant and Dickson families. "Wishing our daughters, Dalia Dickson and Miriam Levant a giyus kal as they start the army today! May Hashem watch over them and may they have a safe and meaningful service."

One of the responsibilities a woman has to her husband is to nurse their child. However, if they get divorced, she does not need to. But if the child recognizes the mother and will not nurse from another woman, the husband can insist she nurse the child, but needs to pay her to do it. The rabbis debate what is the age at which a child can recognize its own mother. A mother is allowed to nurse her child until the child reaches a certain age. There is a debate regarding the age limit. Beyond that age, it is as if the child is nursing from a non-kosher animal. This is contradicted by a braita that infers that breast milk is kosher, as is human blood. The Gemara differentiates between breast milk that is removed from the mother's body (permitted to eat) and has not been removed (forbidden, other than to a young child). One who is sick and needs milk and cannot find it elsewhere can suck milk from a kosher animal on Shabbat, even though it is forbidden as it is an act of extracting, a sub-category of the melacha of dash, threshing, as it is done here in an unusual manner and is needed for one who is sick. One who stopped nursing after 24 months and goes back to nurse is also not permitted. How many days is considered having stopped? Suppose one became a widow during the 24-month nursing period. In that case, she cannot get engaged or remarried during that time as she may become pregnant and her milk will dry up and her new husband will not necessarily be willing to pay for the child to be nursed as it is not his child. Others say the waiting period is 18 months (debate between Rabbi Meir and Rabbi Yehuda, and also between Beit Shammai and Beit Hillel). Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel said that since it takes three months for the milk to dry up, each opinion allows her to get married three months earlier. Abaye made the mistake of ruling like the more lenient opinion but then heard from Rav Yosef that one needs to wait the full 24 months. He tried to run after the person he permitted to marry earlier but had to run through sand dunes and couldn't catch up to him. He then taught that one should never permit anything when he is in the vicinity of his teacher. If the woman hired a wet nurse or the child died, can she remarry earlier? Is there a reason to distinguish between these two situations? Is a woman hired as a wet nurse permitted to nurse her child or someone else's as well? If the family who hired a wet nurse committed to giving her some food, but not enough, does she have to make sure to eat more? And if so, who pays for it? What foods are good/bad for nursing mothers?

Ketubot 59 - Shabbat September 3, 7 Elul Sep 02, 2022

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Masechet Ketubot is sponsored by Erica and Rob Schwartz in honor of the 50th wedding anniversary of Erica's parents Sheira and Steve Schacter. "It is fitting that this milestone anniversary falls in the tractate of Ketubot, and the discussion of the marriage contract. Their marriage, which has been filled with love, respect, understanding, compassion, and of course lots of humor has been a blessing to watch and learn from. May they continue to enjoy many more years of a happy and healthy married life together until 120. Rav and Shmuel disagree with Rav Ada bar Ahava regarding the case in which Rabbi Meir is referring to when he says that when a man sanctifies his wife's earnings beyond her salary, it is effective. What is the root of the debate between them? Rabbi Yochanan the Sandlar says it is not effective. Shmuel holds like him. However, since Rabbi Yochanan's position is based on the assumption that one cannot sanctify items that are not yet in this world, how could Shmuel hold like him if he says elsewhere that one can sanctify things that are not in this world, as proven from a Mishna. The Gemara brings three possible resolutions - the first two are rejected. What are a wife's household responsibilities to her husband? The Mishna lists various things such as laundry, cooking, nursing their son, etc. If she brings in maidservants, what responsibilities can she be absolved of? Can she not work at all? Is it bad for her not to be working and sitting idly? Is it possible our Mishna disagrees with Beit Shamai who holds that a woman can vow to nurse her son?

Ketubot 58 - September 2, 6 Elul Sep 02, 2022

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Today's daf is sponsored by Rochelle Cheifetz in loving memory of her husband, Leonard Cheifetz, Aryeh Leib ben Yehuda, z"l, on his 30th yahrzeit. "It is hard to believe it's been so long. You are missed by all who had the privilege of knowing you." Mazel tov to the Agus and Weiss families on the wedding of Talya and Gavi. What are the different opinions regarding whether a kohen husband can give his soon-to-be-wife (once the twelve months have passed from the proposal) only truma, since there are times in the month when she will be impure and won't be able to eat truma. Abaye limits the debate between RAbbi Trafon and Rabbi Akiva in two ways. A few other opinions are brought from another tannaitic source. Why was the law changed regarding the right of the woman to eat truma after the twelve moth period has passed? The Mishna discusses whether or not a husband has the right to sanctify his wife's salary? Does he have the right to sanctify the money she makes that is beyond the basic designated salary amount (motar)? Rav holds that a woman can say to her husband, "I do not want you to give me food and I will keep my salary to myself." Can this be derived from the Mishna? Can it be inferred from Rabbi Meir's position in the Mishna that he holds that a person can sanctify/acquire something that is not yet in existence?

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