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197 | Stopping the Generational Pass Down of Trauma (Chris Bruno PART 2) Oct 28, 2021

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Chris Bruno

There is nothing more exciting to me than the intersection of transformation and adventure. This is why I founded Restoration Counseling - a place where we daily engage the power of restoration and epic re-storying. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I specialize in men and masculinity, sexual addiction, trauma and abuse. My experience as a men's therapist and my work with men at Restoration Project provide me a wealth of experience when navigating the landscape of a man's heart.

As I work with clients, my focus is on discovering and "reading" the narrative of their lives and guiding them toward the transformation that comes through adventurously and honestly engaging our sorrows AND our glories. This, to me, is what I was created for.

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1:52 - if you missed last week, hit pause and listen to PART 1 - Episode 196 with Chris Bruno
3:11 - (Jeff Question) - Explore with us how how we could move in the direction of shared experiences versus just intentional friendships moments
3:37 - "You need someone who's willing to ask what we call a deep dive question."
4:13 - "we asked the question 17 years ago today, what was happening in your life, what was going on for you and how did you get there?"
4:26 - "Now it's asking for some information, but really what we want is not just the content of what was happening, but we want the context of what was that like for you and that's the difference between just hanging out with the pals and going to that brother level is what was that like for you? Help me understand what it felt like to walk in your shoes. "
6:15 - (Jeff) I believe that our heavenly father can heal outside of time, back to moments in that healing ripples its way back through time and we experience way more benefits.
6:34 - "God does not heal memories because memories are kind of locked in. He heals stories. Yes, but not a memory doesn't become a story until it is told to another person."
7:41 - "That's where memories are. God wants to go backwards into our lives and heal all of those big T and little team moments in our lives. But we can't do that. We don't do that. Just by remembering to ourselves is where we when I invite you, Jeff, into my story and I have someone witness and be with me in the story and experience with me and empathize with me. What happened in the story? That's where healing actually happens."
10:03 - "Grace actually means that we're given this favor, this delight, this pleasure and nothing can detract from it and nothing can add to it."
11:55 - "there's actually a first story. There's actually a child of delight that still also lives within me. That's older than that's the first that's more original to who. He made me to be. And so as I can unpack and get back around my second, the other things. The second story that I came to believe I can slowly start to reveal come into become the man I was designed to be."
13:10 - "if my brothers know both my second story and my first story, they get to ask me that question. How would you like to engage right now?"
14:30 "Awaken within your child the way that they should go, then when in the future they will not depart from it. So if our task as parents, as fathers is to awaken within our children the glory that God has written there, that original story, that image of God written into their lives as he wants to let the world know who he is through them. If we can awaken that in them, then then I think they they will. Of course, they will still have traumas and tragedies and things that happen to them. Yeah, but the likelihood of them struggling in the ways that many of us have is is far less so."
15:12 "our job as fathers is not to protect our children from pain."
18:57 - "our stories leak, and we might think that we're doing well. We might think that we are the the top of the totem pole as far as killing it at work and killing it at home and killing it everywhere, killing it at church. But are stories, the stories of pain, the stories of struggle, those stories of trauma they will leak?"
19:35 - Start doing this work today because the benefits the family tree changing benefits will be for generations to come."
21:44 - Trauma passes down through generations until someone has the courage to feel it. It's going to continue to pass down through generations until someone has the courage to feel it and to face it into and to process it. Let us be those dads. Let us be those guys who stop the generational pass down of trauma. And it doesn't get passed down"
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https://www.restorationcounselingnoco.com/
Man Maker Book - https://www.amazon.com/Man-Maker-Project-Born-Made/dp/1498206158
Restoration Project: https://www.restorationproject.net/
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196 | Your Story, Deep Brotherhood & Types of Trauma (Chris Bruno PART 1) Oct 21, 2021

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Chris Bruno

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6:58 -Parallels from a Rafting Guide to a Father
7:02 - "It's our first time down this river when we're fathering our kids and it's not our first time down the river."
07:14 - "We can still guide our children down the river that we've never been down before because we've been down rivers before."
7:46 - "What I've experienced in the past, my kids won't experience, but they may experience something similar. And that just gives me the freedom to kind of journey down a river and see what comes."
9:02 - "we became the men that we are today because of the men that were with us before and the guidance of the men that we had or the lack of guidance of the men that we didn't have, that that's so impactful for who we became."
9:16 - "the most important person in our lives as far as men goes is our dad. If he was there or if he wasn't there, that's important. And there's a shaping that happens inside of us in his presence, his intentionality, his wisdom, his guidance, just like we were talking about with the raft. All of those things are super important for how we've navigated life."
9:47 - "There are two ways I think that fathers bring destruction into their children's lives. It's either in their absence or in their violence and in his presence, He brings life and he brings words and, you know, attention and affection and intention. But when those you know, whether it's violence or there's absence, there's going to be something significantly kind of shaping in the life in our lives. And the fact is that all of us have that to some degree, because we don't live, we don't live in the Garden of Eden.
10:22 - "all of us have some level of wounding and pain that we've experienced, and therefore we bring that in. So in order for us to be the kinds of dads that we want to be that are dadAWESOME dads, right, that it's not that we muster something up, it's more that we need to read our story and it's more that we need to read our story of where have we come from?"
10:45 - Kurt Thompson says, "the number one variable for children to grow up with the ability to connect in a secure way in relationships, the number one variable for that to happen is the parents investigation of their story" their own story.
12:30 - TEDx talk from Chris Bruno about his childhood - https://www.ted.com/talks/chris_bruno_restory_how_to_live_your_truest_story
14:02 - "There is something beautiful in my parents that just decided we're not going that route. (Special Needs Sister) We're not going that route and we're actually going to keep her at home and we're going to find ways to love on this child and bring her up in the context of our own home."
15:24 - "My horse died and there was something about that experience where I was in the house watching the vet with with the horse outside, they were outside in the corral and I watched my horse collapse and it was in that moment that something inside of me collapsed as well. And I couldn't do anything. I couldn't get out to the horse. My parents had said, Don't go out there, and I was 13 years old."
15:52 - "something inside of me collapsed. And I remember distinctly kind of making a vow inside of my own soul this little 13 year old boy vow of I'm not going to give my heart to another like that again because he had become my companion..."
16:22 - "...And that collapsed inside of me is actually something that I have had to work on pretty hard to to trust God for to move into, to explore my own story so that I can then be present, not collapsed, but present to my wife and to my kids."
17:29 - There was something inside of me that shut down and closed off, walled off, pulled away. And it was almost like I felt myself just, you know, pull into myself. And it wasn't like I was going to offer that part of myself to someone else again, because it was far better to be distant than disappointed.
19:35 - big T traumas and little t traumas
20:16 - "It's the little tiny traumas that also need someone to come alongside of you and help you process."
20:25 - "we are heaps of undigested experience where heaps of undigested experience and and if we have it, just think about indigestion. When you have indigestion, there's something unwell about your body. And so if there's undigested experience, there's something unwell about your soul and we need someone to come alongside of us and to be with us and partner with us and and talk through those things with us to digest the experience so that in that moment, we can make meaning in a way that that won't be a traumatic meaning. It won't be one of those collapsed or vows or walled off moments in a life.
21:08 - "If a parent walked back into the house... if I had a mom or a dad, come back to me and sat with me on my bed and let me cry it out and and listen to me and share it with me and empathize with me and all that. I probably wouldn't have walled off maybe a little bit, but not as not to the degree that I did.
21:38 - "What makes a trauma is the is the actual event causing the trauma. But what makes it a kind of an overwhelming, ah, traumatic ah, tragedy over a lifetime is that there is no one to process or digest experience with you."
22:28 - We were never meant to parent alone. And I think there's something that we can learn from our international brothers and sisters who who are in communities of of a lot more tight knit, a lot more connectedness than we are in America.
23:39 - "We are our best father when we have our best brothers with us. And so we need those guys and those are the guys that you came in and went rafting with, you know, with me... Those are those guys in my life and we need our brothers. But then also sometimes we need someone else who's on the outside who's got some training is a professional in some ways to come along side to create a safe space for a child to unfold.
24:25 - "I don't know about you, Jeff, but my kids trigger the heck out of me. They trigger the story in me to know degree. Like there is there, there are only a few people who trigger me. So significantly it is my wife and it's my kids."
24:53 - "I can't actually be as available to my kids as I want to be. And so I need help. I need someone to come alongside of me. And there have been people in my kids lives that have been there for them in some really hard places. Mentors, counselors, coaches, teachers, my friends who have taken them under their wing for a season. It's so, so important for for people to make that available to their kids."
26:04 - "our friendships that are kids can benefit from. First, have to be friendships that we benefit from."
26:22 - "we need to move from buddy and to brother and and to go from buddy to brother requires the two of you men or the three of you, the five of human to be willing to engage those parts of your lives and your stories that we've been talking about today."
26:39 - "those men know my story and they have offered their compassion. They've offered their empathy. They've offered their question, their curiosity. And they've also and they've also when they see me walling off. Now, they know where the story comes from and they're able to not like, hit me upside the head with a two-by-four, but more so. Gently come alongside of me and asked me the question, is this what you would like to do right now?"
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Episode Links:

https://www.restorationcounselingnoco.com/
Man Maker Book - https://www.amazon.com/Man-Maker-Project-Born-Made/dp/1498206158
Restoration Project: https://www.restorationproject.net/
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195 | Tim Olson PART 2 - Abandonment, Identity, and Tools to Speak Life to Our Kids Oct 14, 2021

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Tim Olson

Tim Olson is an author, teacher, Principal. Pastor, and life coach with forays into audio publishing, radio hosting, and home remodeling. His understanding of father-child relationships was fostered through years of observation and application in education, coaching clients around the world, and working with the National Fathering Ministry in Minnesota and Ukraine.

As a business life coach, it was through coaching family business owners that the significant connections between a father and his children (or with his own father) finally gelled into observable patterns that helped form the basis for his coaching and for his book, The Legacy of Absence. Through it all, he's found his way to helping others to discover who they are meant to be and to become that person.

He and his wife, Kay, have been married for 54 years and are blessed with three children, six grandchildren, four bonus grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren. They make their home in New Hope, MN.

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LINK TO PART 1 of the conversation with Tim Olson
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2:18 - Images from the book: present father, the involved father, the passive father and the absent father

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2:49 - "You can be present physically and not present emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. And you know, that's actually even worse." Sharing statistics on risk of pathological behavior in children.
6:05 - Story from Ukraine of two fathers that work out of the home - one is absent, and one is still intentional even though not physically close - and the stark difference in the success of the kids
9:06 - Working with inmates,what do they wish they had from their dads?
10:48 - "We've realized that death is not as bad for kids as being abandoned and just just a dad who's overworking is abandonment. We all abandoned our kids. And every kid, every person has been abandoned to some extent, some so little you don't even recognize it. And we don't realize that that's what it is. We just remember the not being chosen part."
11:34 - Describing the reconciliation process
14:21 - "[Dad's role is] to prepare us to face the world on our own. And so he does that primarily by teaching us four things and developing them in us. And those four things are: self-esteem, confidence, maturity and identity. And identity is perhaps the most important because that describes who we are and whose we are.... These are perhaps the most important words that a father can say, I believe: 'You are mine. You belong to me. I love you.' That's identity."
17:17 - "How we deal with the hurt and wounds of our own father's failures, determines our ability to be good fathers and mothers, you know, to our own children.
17:38 - Quoting Richard Rohr - "If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it."
17:56 - In Louis Meade's book, he says to forgive is to set the prisoner free and then discover that the prisoner was me."
26:27 - 4 Things he shared with his kids:
1. 26:32 - "I know that things happened in our relationship that hurt you. I said things and did things that hurt you. Even now, I didn't even know it. And I want you to know that I would never do anything like that on purpose intentionally, but I know it happened. And so I want to ask you to please forgive me for those things."
2. 27:35 - "I am no longer your parent and you are no longer my child. Well, that sounds pretty offensive at first. I said instead, from now on, I am just your father and you are just my son."
3. 29:27 - "It would please me more than anything to continue to be able to speak into your life."
4. 30:15 - "No matter what you do, with your decisions and with your life, good or bad, it will never change how much I love you. That will never change."
33:01 - Quote from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter."

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194 | Brokenness, Fatherlessness, Reconciliation & The Path Forward (Tim Olson PART 1) Oct 07, 2021

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Tim Olson

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2:55 - Praying for his grandsons-in-law
4:55 - National Fathering Ministry - https://www.dadsfirst.org/
6:03 - "Dr. Richard Green, a former superintendent of Minneapolis schools. And he said to us, if the kids come to us for kindergarten and do not have an involved father or an involved grandfather, they are already lost to us" - This conversation was the purpose for working with black urban fathers of preschool children.
6:46 - Working with fathers in Ukraine - starting a fatherhood ministry that has impacted the nation
8:06 - Ukrainian college women drawing where dad sits in the family circle
9:22 - "The father for a time was even taken out of the Russian dictionary. And and if you go back in history and I covered some of this in my book about how that worked with communism and and Marxism, ... they did their best to eliminate the father from the family and the the government was supposed to be the ones who essentially raised the children by way of the mothers...the government was in charge."
12:26 - Malachi 4:5-6
12:46 - Gordon Dalby is a great spokesperson about fathering, and he [share that].... the brokenness in this world between children and fathers reflects the brokenness between humanity and God."
14:16 - "We have to try to find the right path or we become complicit in crimes against it."
19:28 - "One of the things that I heard them say often was, 'you know, my grandfather was like this, my dad was like this, I'm like this, and my kids will be like this, and there's nothing I can do about it. It's just the cards we were dealt.' And I would say to him, You know what? That is a lie right out of the pit of hell, yes, you can change. You may not be able to change how tall you are and the color of your skin or anything like that, but you can change your personality, you can change your character quality, you can change the things you want and don't want to pass on to your kids. You can do that."
20:56 - Story of reconciliation with his own son and not wanting to pass on generational sins
31:30 - "Christ's example shows us as leaders in our areas of strength as dads to come underneath our children and our wives to lift and encourage and to praise and to pray for and to make them who God intended them to be. But you know, the moms, their wives have their areas of strength just as strong and in their job then is in their areas of strength is to come under us as fathers and to pray for us and lift us and encourage us and support us to be the best dads we can be. And so there's this mutual coming under, this mutual submissiveness, and it's the strongest, not the weakest, that submits."

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193 | EVERYDAY FAMILY ADVENTURE with Trent Walker Sep 30, 2021

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Trent Walker

Trent and Siobhán are a husband and wife singer-songwriter duo raising their 5 sons on the road full time in a nearly vintage Foretravel motorhome. Their original songs speak of adventure, bravery, reaching out to others and trusting in a God who never fails. Their family motto has become to "live simply, so that others may simply live." Come watch as they cross the nation in search of the joys of life and sharing them with others. If you are interested in having us come and share our song and journey with your church or even a group of friends at your home, please give us a shout. We would love to come and be a blessing wherever we can.

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- 5:39 - Dallas Willard - A Life Without Lack
- 6:18 - Why call the channel EVERYDAY Family Adventures?
- 7:02 - "Life is pretty awesome. So let's start with that basis and know that I don't want my life to be boring. And that's a choice. And so that's an everyday choice. And so we're going to choose quite effectively to make every day an adventure in some way."
- 7:47 - "I'm going to choose to have hope and look at tomorrow with opportunity. And I think that we as dads have to go before our kids in that in that optimism, especially today when the world is in a hopeless place."
- 9:03 - Song: Speak: https://youtu.be/PeT8LQOffDs
- 14:18 - "I mean, that was kind of the faith and the words that needed to come out of our mouth and begin coming out of our mouth during that time when we were really struggling and we were praying every morning, getting on our knees was just this like, I am not going to leave this place until I get the favor of the Lord because I am done with being passive. I'm done with being like, woe is me. I'm going to I'm going to choose to believe in in this God that I've spoken about all my life, but really never took action steps in it."
- 14:42 - Missions as a family: "Live simply so that others may simply live." AND "To inspire people to find their own adventure in life, something that will bring them joy while bringing others joy as well."
- 23:34 - "I believe, the more you worship God, the more you get the heart of Christ and the heart of Christ to be around people and love people. And so I believe the more you look at Jesus, the more you fix your eyes on Jesus and the more you're singing about him and glorifying him and maybe getting your eyes off of yourself. Jesus keeps doing this wild thing. You look at him more and he keeps showing you where his heart is and his heart is the love the world."
- 27:14 - Wanting the heart to grow bigger.

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192 | What You Must Teach Your Daughter Before She Turns 16 (Jackie Bledsoe) Sep 23, 2021

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Jackie Bledsoe

Jackie Bledsoe is a professional blogger, author, and speaker, but first and foremost a husband and father, who encourages men to better lead and love their families through his blog, JackieBledsoe.com. He's a contributor to All Pro Dad, Babble.com, Good Men Project, and Huffington Post. His work has been featured on Yahoo!, USA Football, MichaelHyatt.com, and more. Jackie, who has been happily married to his wife, Stephana, since June of 2001, lives in Indianapolis, Indiana, with their daughter and two sons.

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When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday)
Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562
What is BASIC?
Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area.

RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home

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— NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021

— PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021

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Show Notes:

Donate to F4F
Happily Married Couples
How I Built This and Stayed happily married podcast
BOOK: The Seven Rings of Marriage
dadAWESOME Nudge - Text 651-370-8618
Wild at Heart Basic Event - Check out link to Register
The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey
4:33 - The biggest rocks related to parenting and marriage
8:02 - heart attack on Thanksgiving 2018
10:35 - Blog post - "what you must teach your daughter before she turns 16"
10:56 - "Preparing your daughter for marriage" blog post
11:32 - Advice: Model what you want to see in your daughter's future husband - model that in how you treat your wife
14:58 - teaching his daughter to manage finances
19:56 - Marriage advice
21:59 - So know that if you're in a hard season right now, just keep the course, stay the course, stay. ...do not grow weary in well doing. But at the proper time You receive a harvest if you do not give up. So that's the word that I give to you dads as well. It can be tough right now, but keep doing things that you know are going to lead to the end that you want in your marriage and your fatherhood and your business, whatever it is, and trust that that harvest will come at some point.
Wild at Heart Basic Event - 4 days, 3 nights. Honey Rock camp in WI

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191 | Resilience, Empowerment & a Measurement of a Good Father (Ken Castor) Sep 16, 2021

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Ken Castor

After thirty years of next-generation ministry, Dr. Ken is balding in his hairline but still bold in his faith. He is the Family and NextGen Pastor at Wooddale Church. He served as the Professor of Youth Ministry at Crown College for over a decade and in nextgen ministry for two decades before that. Ken is the "Blue Letters Editor" of the Award-winning Jesus-Centered Bible, and has authored numerous discipleship resources like Grow Down and Make a Difference. He's also a nerdy Cubs fan, the founder of NEXT Ministry Conferences, has several Chuck-Taylors, and enjoys living in Minnesota with his brilliantly witty and slightly freezing family.

Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin

When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday)
Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562
What is BASIC?
Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area.

RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home

UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides

— DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021

— PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021

— NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021

— PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021

Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Show Notes:

Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad
Donate to F4F
Local gold SPONSOR: Accelerate Business Solutions - https://www.xceleratenow.com/
Ken Castor - Family pastor at Wooddale Church - https://wooddale.org/
3:47 - Unpacking the meaning of resilience in the family. Developing spiritual grit.
8:52 - Wishing he had spent more time preparing the meals together as a family instead of just one parent preparing the meal and rushing to the table.
12:39 - "Every facet of life as a dad, it's hard to give up what I'm good at and let my kid do it not as good."
19:35 - "There are some intentional rhythms I've built into my life so that my kids would know that, hey, my dad's all about Jesus. Like that's been my goal. But I can be as intentional as I want but if in the unintentional moments my kids see a jerk or they see somebody who's living a different lifestyle or who's talking bad about their wife or whatever, it those moments are the ones that actually matter."
22:27 - Discussing the story of the prodigal son with an emphasis on the father.
28:02 - "The measurement of a good father is not based upon the behavior and outcome of the children. The measurement of the good father is, does he reflect God, the father, and the character and the heart that all of his children would be in relationship with him at home."
32:13 - The story of adoption
34:47 - On the season of waiting for fatherhood (waiting for pregnancy, adoption, etc) "That season of preparation is... The principles that you're working on in your heart and your soul and faith in that season of preparation are the same resources that you will turn to as a dad so that that season of waiting. You can't be impatient and do fatherhood well."
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190 | Heart of a Warrior with Dr. Greg Bourgond Sep 09, 2021

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Dr. Greg Bourgond

As President and Founder of Heart of a Warrior Ministries, Dr. Greg Bourgond, has taught in graduate / post-graduate schools and ministry organizations, and has spoken and preached in many churches and ministry contexts around the world. He is also the author of many award winning books. He has been happily married for 48 years and enjoys time with his grandchildren every chance he gets.

His previous experience includes ten years in the defense industry and commercial business, and over twenty years in various ministry positions. He also completed twenty-nine years of active and reserve duty in enlisted and officer ranks in the U.S. Navy. He has received degrees from Chapman University, Bethel Seminary and Nova Southeastern University. He has also completed post graduate work at Harvard University. He has also twice been C.S. Lewis Visiting Scholar-in-Residence at the Kilns in Headington England.

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3:13 - Heart of a Warrior Ministries
Dr. Bourgond's Books
8:05 - "God wires men cause to die for, a challenge to embrace, and loved ones to protect."
10:32 - "Robert Lewis, who coined the definition of authentic manhood, is to reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and wait on God's reward."
10:55 - David Morrow published the book Why Men Hate to Go to Church.
14:11 - Above all else, guard your heart for from it becomes the wellspring of your life. - Proverbs 4:23
14:55 - "Whatever is stored in your heart will manifest itself in overt behavior that either bring glory and honor to God or dishonor and shame."
16:10 - "What I found out that men have an ability, especially in Western culture, to proclaim a belief system that bears little correlation with how they behave. There's an inconsistency and incongruity and incoherence, but how they behave over time will give you an insight into what they truly believe at the core of their being."
16:42 - "The decisions that we make are always processed through the values we hold, even if we can't articulate them."
22:44 - "It will always be the case in Western culture, nobody really cares what you had to say, until they observe how you live. And if you try to live a life of integrity and honor under God's authority, people ultimately want to hear what you have to say, even if they disagree with you. Why? Because they can't get past a life well lived."
23:01 - "Living intentionally in the same direction over an extended period of time will have a greater impact on your children than anything you could possibly say."
24:21 - "And what I learned over the course of time is that sometimes God called you to be a sage on the stage. In other times, he wants you to be a guide by the side. And I understood that parenting needed to be situational. That you needed to change your leadership style with the confidence and the competence being demonstrated by that child in whatever task you give them."
26:46 - "If your child is a skeptic, simply answer the questions they're asking. If they're cynics, simply question the answers they're giving me."
35:01 - "S = R / E. S stands for either satisfaction or success or significance. R stands for reality and E stands for expectations."
38:04 - "Neil T Anderson who said it's not what you do that determines who you are. It's who you are and Jesus Christ that should determine what you do."
39:15 - "How to determine the purpose God has for your life."
39:01 - "Infinite God has chosen you as his finite creature to implement his redemptive plans for the world."
40:22 - "Every man is given a unique purpose for their life. So it's finding out what that is by tuning your heart to the heart of God. Listening to the still small voice of God in your life, leaning forward to hear it and allowing God's word to transform you and to wash off the world."
41:18 - "The point is, guys, give your life to something that matters. Make a difference. Too many guys are like ships tied to a pier, spend all of their life polishing the brass, making sure the steering mechanism works, taking the oil off the engine, swabbing the deck, but never getting the ship away from the pier. Ships are not made to be tied to the pier. God doesn't care if your engine is oily. He doesn't care if you are a sloppy steering system. He doesn't even care if the decks are dirty. Get the ship underway and God will take you to destinations you've never been. He'll take you to horizons you've never seen. He'll have you traverse valleys you've never imagined. And God will give you a completely different view of his world.
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189 | Pablo Ceron PART 2 | Discover Delight in What Your Child Delights In Sep 02, 2021

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Pablo Ceron

Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of WILDSONS, a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people.

Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (10) and Lucas (4). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years.

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Link to PART 1 of this interview with Pablo Ceron: https://dadawesome.org/188/
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2:34 - Pablo talks through steps to healing and restoration: (1) Invite Jesus into the place in our hearts where we feel wronged, where life is unfair.... (2) Renounce the lie that life is up to me, that I will need to fight every battle because no one else will do it for me (3) Ask What is the truth?
5:09 - "We have come to believe certain things about God and ourselves and life and then to then to bring those before God himself and to have an encounter with him where the truth is revealed to us and we get to be initiated into living life in the way that results out of that being truth."
17:41 George MacDonald says that the hardest and the gladdest thing is to cry Abba, Daddy to God from a full heart.
15:01 - Describing the meaning of "Sons" in the ministry Wild Sons.
21:50 - "When the student is ready, the teacher appears, when the Son is ready, the Father appears."
24:31 - "Father, I receive you fresh as a father, and I choose to become your son, would you father me?"
24:53 - "And if I can go on this journey and become my father's son again. Then it must be true that my two boys are his his sons, too, and he is more interested in fathering my two boys than I am, and he knows them and has known them before the foundation of the world. So he knows their hearts. He knows what they need. He's orchestrating a journey of initiation so that they can become the men he created them to be. I play a crucial role, and my role is to ask my dad, father, father, 'would you allow me to see my son in the way that you see him? Would you allow me to see what is it at this age in this season that you're doing in his heart, in his life? And what is my role in partnering with you for that?'"
26:45 - Pablo's story of how he begins a journey of initiation from age 10-21 and God told him, "Delight in what he delights in."
28:55 - The raising of my boys is not up to me because life is not up to me.
29:43 - "The invitation is to ask God for a revelation of what he's doing in our children's life. And for us to participate in it, knowing that the outcome is up to it's up to God, we have no control over it."

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188 | Pablo Ceron PART 1 - Living a Wild Adventure Aug 26, 2021

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Pablo Ceron

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5:02 - Wild Sons
5:51 - "That has now been almost two decades of this journey with God. And the fruit of that is that we want more people to experience what we have come to experience the goodness of God, the treasures of the kingdom, the blessing of living a life of peace and a life of adventure and freedom and joy. "
9:15 - "There is an expression of Christianity or at least the message that as men we receive is that we need to set aside all our desires and our passions and become a nice guy. Yeah, and that's not at all what I read in scripture. What I read scripture is quite the opposite. Is God inviting men into a wild adventure. "
10:21 - "Adventure by definition implies we we are risking, we're going into into the unknown, into the frontier, into an area where we don't have the answers, where success is not guaranteed, where things could go wrong. And if God doesn't show up, we're doomed. And that's how we come alive, let's do it."
10:49 - (Talking about Wild Sons) "And part of the recovery of their heart is to recognize their need for adventure and and and and how adventure makes a man come come alive. We believe that men shouldn't be tamed, but should be given permission to be themselves and live with passion and live with freedom ."
12:16 - Wild Sons Muster
16:50 - "So for those who are willing to let it all go and go after Jesus, all in. Yeah, they're going to experience life to the fullest. Jesus promises."
27:09 - "Everything that we do is an expression of what we have come to believe at the level of the heart about God, about who we are, about who my wife is, about who my boys are, my children, about the nature of the world."
29:52 - "Ask Jesus, who have you created my child to be? Look for the true identity of the child and speak to their identity, and they will come alive."
31:42 - "When I am in my good days, when I am connected to the Father, the way that I'm learning to parent my sons is by understanding who they truly are and to speak to that."
32:31 - "Even when we are in the darkest places and in the worst of our sin, he's not coming with accusations of shame and guilt. He's coming with love to say, I know you're better than this. You may have chosen wrong, but this is not who you are. Come and act according to who I made you to be."

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