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236 | Saying NO to ESPN to Say YES to Being a Dad (Jason Romano: Part 1) Jul 28, 2022

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Key Takeaways

There is much value and importance in keeping your spouse as your number 1.
Time spent with your children is something that you can never get back.
Be intentional with your time and prayer for and over your children.

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Jason Romano

Jason Romano is an author, speaker, and media professional with over 20 years of broadcasting experience. He is the Director of Media with Sports Spectrum and the host of the popular Sports Spectrum Podcast. For 17 years, he was an Emmy-Award winning Producer and Senior Manager at ESPN. He has created and produced content for shows such as SportsCenter, Monday Night Football, Mike and Mike in the Morning, Sunday NFL Countdown, College Gameday, NFL Live, MLB's All Star Game and many more.

Sports Spectrum Article: Fathers For The Fatherless bike rides combine fundraising, fitness, fellowship, faith (By Joshua Doering Jul 6, 2022) - linked here

Key Quotes (Full Transcript of the Conversation Here)

7:08 - "We're going to go through bad cycles as parents. We're going to go through bad cycles in our jobs. We're going to go through bad cycles in our marriage. Just in life, things are going to happen. I found to find abundant life, first of all, it's only found in Christ... He says, I've come to give you life and life more abundantly.... He is the Way, the Truth and the Life... Start with Jesus, which I think is an easy thing for me to say. It's not an always easy thing for me to just practically live out when life is coming at you.... Serving is a big thing... serving your kid... being there for [them]"
22:42 - "I need to go back to the to the Word of God and see that... I'm supposed to love my wife as, as God loves church. Love my bride, as God loves the church. And I haven't always done that perfectly. I've never not loved my wife, but I definitely didn't always have her as the only number one in my life."
28:58 - "One of my highlights in my life was when she was ten years old, I got to baptize my daughter in our church.... I really have no desire or worry about what she's going to end up being as long as Christ is at the center of her life. That's the only thing I really pray for and hope is that she follows Jesus for the rest of her life."

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Jason's Book: The Uniform of Leadership & Live to Forgive
Jason's Website

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235 | Confront reality. Grow capacity. Fuel curiosity. Create change. (Mark Miller) Jul 21, 2022

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Key Takeaways

Doing something stretching and challenging with your child can bring a closeness and bond that can only grow for years to come.
Repetition and patience in fatherhood shows intention and presence.
The window of time we get with our children is slowly closing. Be mindful of the trade-offs.
The Four Smart Choices:
- Confront reality
- Grow capacity
- Fuel curiosity
- Create change

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Mark Miller

For the last 20 years, Mark has focused much of his time on serving leaders, helping them grow themselves, their teams, and their organizations. In addition to his role at Chick-fil-A, he's also had the privilege to teach and lead in not-for-profit organizations domestically and globally. Although the context is different in every organization, the problems have common roots and so do the solutions. Along the way, Mark has been fortunate to author (and co-author) a few books – nine and counting. Today, more than a million books are in print in 25+ languages. His approach to writing has always been to find what is true in principle and figure out how to make it applicable to the real world.

Conversation Notes (Full Transcript of the Conversation Here)

9:48 - Mark describing his son's, David, diagnosis, Cerebral Palsy and Autism and how he supports his wife with the challenges that can bring on, "I'm always trying to figure out how can I serve her as she serves him... My advice, again, is a lot of prayer for sure... I'm trying to take care of her on the journey as much as I'm trying to take care of David."
14:42 - "I've prayed a lot more and I've served a lot more... I'm a better human being, a better husband, a better follower of Jesus... I'm better all the way around because of David... I get to live with a glimpse of unconditional love. Because David, he's never, this side of heaven, going to tell us he loves us. But that's okay. You know we love him."
17:29 - Mark on his adventures with his other son, Justin. "We decided years and years ago that we wanted to try to do something every year that would stretch us and challenge us. And he has come up with some of the ideas. I've come up with some of the ideas... We've climbed mountains and became certified scuba divers... run a marathon... We just we want to keep growing. We want to keep stretching. We want to do hard things together and grow through the experience."
23:29 - "You've got a pretty small window when you really think about it with your kids... There's plenty of time in my case to sell chicken, later. There's plenty of time to write books, later. But that window is going to close... I hope to be and God willing, will be close to Justin and David forever. But even those opportunities are limited, and that makes them more precious to me... We've got to be real careful about the trade offs we make."
26:40 - "It's our ability to make choices. That's our superpower... They're completely paralleled with fatherhood. The choices that leaders make to get out of the quicksand, a busyness and distraction and complexity and competing priorities and success and fear and fatigue and aimlessness... What you have to do to get out are the same things... you have to do to be a good father."
27:30 - "Choices give us agency, choices give us opportunity and choices give us responsibility."
29:06 - "We can forfeit that agency and assume a victim mindset. Our locus of control shifts from internal to external. It's not my fault. It's not my responsibility. It's not a result of my choices. And the stuff that keeps us in quicksand is almost always a result of our choices."
34:41 - "Peter Drucker, the late management and leadership guru... said he had never met a leader that couldn't eliminate 25% of the things on their calendar and no one would notice."

Conversation Links

Mark's Website
Mark's Books: Smart Leadership, Win Every Day, Chess Not Checkers, Leaders Made Here, Talent Magnet, Win the Heart, The Secret, Great Leaders Grow and The Heart of Leadership.
Mark's son, Justin, organization: Untold
Mark's free assessment on Smart Leadership: text besmart to 66866
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234 | How to Be a Family On Mission (Seth Barnes) Jul 14, 2022

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"People are looking for purpose, but because their own needs seem so stark and so great, they don't get to it. It's a paradox that by focusing on other people's needs, you are going to find that your own needs will be met -- So, sometimes as parents it is important (wherever we are at) to say, 'Hey, let's go find a place to serve'"

Key Takeaways

Pray with your kids and teach them to pray
Serve with your kids
Make time to play with your kids - gives you a chance to build trust for later things
Take mom out on a regular date
Date your kids once a week
Give mom a break and take the kids out
Listen to the hearts of your children

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Seth Barnes

Seth Barnes is founder and president of Adventures in Missions, a discipleship and missions ministry that has taken over 125,000 people on mission projects around the world since 1989. The mission of Adventures is to deeply connect people to Jesus and his movement. Their goal is to train 100,000 disciple makers focused on fulfilling the Great Commission. Adventures has ministry training centers around the world that are focused on making that goal a reality.

To move toward the fulfillment of the vision, Seth also founded the World Race in 2005. The World Race provides trained teams of young adults the opportunity to engage in 11 international mission contexts in 11 months using an experiential, missional discipleship model. Adventures emphasizes listening prayer, relationships, and servanthood in their work amongst the poor. Both through ministry/training centers and World Race ministry teams, Adventures maintains an active presence in a number of African countries. In addition to overseeing Adventures in Missions, Seth is a speaker, author, and prolific blogger. Seth is married to Karen. They have five children and seven grandchildren.

Conversation Notes (Full Transcript of the Conversation Here)

4:51 - "But I just felt this sense of urgency to do something, whatever it is that I needed to do in terms of impact, in terms of discipleship, in terms of imparting the kingdom of God to my kids... I felt the leading to study the book of Acts and then try and do it."
05:49 - "I just felt God saying, why don't you go and do this somewhere specific? And we prayed about it, ended up hearing Peru go to Peru and see if the Holy Spirit doesn't still heal people, see if he doesn't actually use you to plant churches... 22 total... guys and gals and we planted five churches. We saw so many healings, people that were dying of cancer, radically healed.... but just so fun to see my kids seeing that the Bible is true and it still applies now."
8:44 - "I do think that we have to do business with our our older selves and say, how can I end my life without regrets? Maybe one of the biggest regrets, I think a lot of dads would have to not invest that kind of quality time where your kids can really see your heart."
10:06 - "I remember when we moved... my wife saying, our kids need to serve more, they're becoming narcissistic. Maybe there's a little entitlement creeping in. So she would just take them to the local church and they would clean the toilets.... because we believe that service is important... Acts 1:8 where you begin in Jerusalem and then you go to what's neighboring in Judea and maybe something that's foreign some area and then to the ends of the earth... Begin just in your backyard and find ways to serve... there's so many needy people... just find a few that need a visit, need a human touch and start there."
11:58 - "I would begin with identity to really help right size that and that's where I think a family on mission... where your purpose is greater than just entertainment. And if you're on mission, you're taking the perspective off of yourself and your own needs and putting it on somebody else. And there's a strange thing that happens when you do that... you become less preoccupied with your own inadequacy and identity begins to kind of fit together better..."
12:37 - "But also we're so, self-focused that sometimes we never get out of that space and into a place of service of others... that's the first thing. The second thing would be community. And we think of Maslow's hierarchy of needs and the need of belonging... we need to belong to others and we need to connect with others... helping young people to connect on mission, I think is a beautiful way to help address that need and ultimately to go on mission and to find purpose beyond just again, meeting your own felt needs, important, but ultimately, you're not going to raise world changers if you're just looking at a belly button all the time."
14:13 - "Sometimes as parents, if we begin wherever we're at... let's go find a small way to serve. When we were in Guatemala, there's a lot of trash around. So I would take the little five year old grandsons that I've got, and we go pick up trash for an hour... I just wanted to help them to see the needs that the community had."
16:21 - "If I'm experiencing something that's life giving, I want to invite others to it... I'm just a beggar that's found a little bread that wants to let other beggars know where that bread is. And for me, I've found that young people and my own grandkids and my kids before them needed the opportunity to give out of their abundance."
19:40 - "Wasn't until I was 31 years old and I'm at a marriage retreat when I actually hear the Lord say that he loves me and... when you hear the Lord speak in a way that it's so obvious, you know, and for that, that changed everything for me... I wanted my kids to have that same experience, to have that same possibility of connection. And what I found is we just need to create space. We just need to sit with them in the morning. And when I say create space, I'm talking about being quiet and asking a question and not answering the question, but letting Him in the silence show up."
25:07 - "You go back and ask them about it and... to see the persistence of their faith now in their thirties... and to see them imparting it to their kids lets you know that this was worth it, that it's something that can last."

Conversation Links

Seth's Blog- Radical Living
Seths's Books - The Art of Listening Prayer and Kingdom Journeys
C. Peter Wagner's Book - Acts of the Holy Spirit
Adventures in Missions
The World Race

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233 | Simple Money, Rich Life: Achieve Financial Freedom and Eternal Impact (Bob Lotich) Jul 07, 2022

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Key Takeaways

Acts of obedience can result in miracles, adventures, and boldness they've experienced as a family.
Transparent money management can be the best instruction for kids. What children learn from their parents is more "caught than taught."
The importance of being transparent with your children about finances far exceeds putting up a wall and believing it isn't beneficial.
It's beneficial for both spouses to be involved in finances.

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Bob Lotich

Bob and his wife, Linda, live in Franklin, TN with their three children. Lotich is CEPF® (Certified Educator in Personal Finance), award-winning blogger, and named a top 20 social influencer in personal finance. Author of "Simple Money, Rich Life", Host of SeedTime Money podcast, and creator of the 'Real Money Method' - a quicker and easier alternative to traditional budgeting that has built-in accountability.

Key Quotes (Full Transcript of the Conversation Here)

THREE DAY MONEY CHALLENGE

3:22 - "...if I look back at our life and a lot of the miracles that have happened, a lot of the crazy things that God has brought us on, adventures that He's led us on, it has been through acts of obedience. When he's invited us to do something to step out into something... It'd be more comfortable to not do that... I want to be someone who is always running in that direction."
04:01 -" I want to raise kids who... just aren't bound up by fear, but have that boldness like David did in the face of whatever the obstacle of challenges."
4:48 - "every time he goes into kids church... they invite one of the kids to pray over the offering. And apparently our son goes up there every single week and asks to pray for the offering."
7:06 - "I talk to people all the time who come up to me and say, my dad said that we don't talk about money in our house... intentionally put a wall up and said, we're not going to talk about this. That seems like such a terrible idea to me, because the truth of the matter is... if we're not getting financial education from our homes, we're not learning it in school... our churches will teach us about giving in and I think a lot of them do a good job on that, but they're not teaching us how to actually manage our money so that we actually have more to give. And so what happens is we have this void of a lack of financial education. And so then what happens is our education and our beliefs about money come from places that... aren't even trying to teach us about it... We're looking at Instagram influencers or learning from credit card companies or all of these places where they may not be explicitly teaching us about money."
9:00- "...just talking through that in earshot of them, because, again, a lot of this is more caught than taught. And so we might as well just let them hear what's going on and let it start rubbing off on them. And I think that's one of the best things that we can do as dads."
15:17 - "... so it was two weeks later after I said yes to God and decided, okay, I'm going to take the rest as a year off. We got a call from the adoption agency... but we actually have a little girl who was born last night down in Alabama... Linda and I prayed for about 30 seconds... all right, let's go get our daughter."
19:59 - "it offends me that if you look at the Forbes 400... the vast majority of the people, that are top of the list, they're not serving the kingdom. It's like, that's why not."
21:40 - John Wesley quote "I earn as much as I can by writing and speaking... I save... And what he meant by that was, I reduce my expenses, I eliminate waste. I just cut out any wasteful, unnecessary spending... I save as much as I can so that I can give as much as I possibly can."
25:34 - "We call it our AUM, or Assets Under Management instead of net worth for two quick reasons. I don't like the term net worth when we're talking about our worth as believers... in light of what Jesus did, there's no number that defines that, whether it's high or low... But the other reason we call it Assets Under Management is that it's a reminder... that everything that we have our house, our cars, the money in our account, our kids... we're managers of all of it.
27:19 - "I felt God said, why don't you just track your giving? And so we created what we call our net given, which is basically just a sheet where we have tracked pretty much everything we've given since we got married."
30:47 - "... What I would say is we started moving forward faster when both of us were in it together, when both of us were aware of what was going on."

Conversation Links

Bob's Organization: SeedTime
Bob's Book - Simple Money, Rich Life
Bob's Podcast - The SeedTime Money Podcast
Bob's Courses -

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232 | Being a Dad Your Kids Want to be (Tim and Ryan Skoog Part 2) Jun 30, 2022

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Key Takeaways:

When the Skoogs were met with resistance preparing for a trip to China, they chose to continue to walk in God's calling for them.
How one choice, of going to church to serve, turned into a legacy of leading people to Jesus.
The impact that Tim left his kids as he modeled Kingdom prayer and adventure.
The five principles/practices that the global church implements.

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Tim and Ryan Skoog

Tim and Ryan are a father/son duo who share the love of adventure and legacy. Ryan is President of Venture and Tim is on the Governing Board. Venture is a Global Partner of Father for the Fatherless. Venture is committed and passionate about serving in areas of the world that are the least reached and resourced by partnering with local leaders in those communities to end some of the world's greatest injustices.

Conversation Notes

2:04- Tim explaining the impact of his mother in law passing away and why they decided to continue with their trip to China.
5:45 - Tim and Ryan talking about the times they were apprehended by the police and chased by dogs for putting Christian tracts on locals doorsteps.. "those are some of the adventures that... I'll always cherish that with my dad."
8:39 - "The enemy doesn't want dads taking courageous adventures, instilling values in their kids."
08:55 - "... Recognize that when you're heading out like this, expect that there's going to be some resistance, that we have an enemy, and if the enemy can stop you before you get started, he's going to do it."
10:17 - "...He didn't start the gambit by taking us to Mozambique or... a war zone. It started with... let's go serve a church together or... there's a service opportunity in our church or in our community."
11:14 - Ryan talking about having a good role model when it came to his prayer life and the adventures they went on as a family.
13:39 - "The quick origin is that it came out of asking a question, "What if the global church had something to teach the American church on how to follow Jesus?" And instead of us just going and sending, you know, teaching and leadership and all that stuff, what if we sat at their feet and said, "Could you teach us?"
14:21 -Explaining "The Five Principles/Practices" that the global church implements.
- Every believer praying and in scripture 1-2 hours/day
- Every believer spending time with the lost on a daily basis
- Every believer serving in some capacity the poor and the needy around you - Looking for people who are open
- Every believer is getting together with other believers to study the scriptures and learning a way to obey it
- Every believer is training someone else to do these principles
16:55 - "And that's part of the the idea on the prayer side is what like every believer in the global church that's practicing this, they're almost every day praying for people that don't know Jesus to come to come to Jesus."
19:46 - "And we try to go for the complex and easy and God wants us to do simple and tough and they can't do it."
20:43 - "...You're capable of passing things on. Capable of having a rich history. Capable of having the next, and the next, and the next follow the Lord."
22:18 - "My dad, his example and faithfulness and....consistency of who he was as a person, I was like I want to be like my dad, and because I wanted to be like him then I wanted to serve Jesus and I wanted to be a good leader and I wanted to be responsible and I wanted to be a good dad myself and all of that. But that first started with, I made his decision that I want to be like my dad, and that was huge. And so I've really tried to take that and say, okay, in all this, I really want my son to want to be like me first."
23:50 - "And it wasn't just one thing that he did, but his consistency over and over and over that that was so impacting and then peppered with adventures. Right. And made it really powerful.... there's a moment there's a season in life for us as dads that the call is one of faithfulness. And it's like hard because you're like, I want to do great things and this and that. And the call is, no, actually do the same thing over and over and be faithful at that thing."

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231 | How One Decision Creates Legacy (Tim and Ryan Skoog Part1) Jun 23, 2022

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"One of the greatest gifts that my parents and then my dad was able to give me was he wanted to expose me early on to the world, to the needs of the world, to the challenges of the world." "....he did that by taking us to some of the most difficult places in the world."

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Tim and Ryan Skoog

FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS

Fathers for the Fatherless
FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS changes lives by exposing men to a cause beyond themselves. They are propelled to challenge themselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless.
Reminder: Twin Cities registration, FATHER FOR THE FATHERLESS, closes June 30.

Conversation Notes

2:54 - "You know, Dad, every every morning I roll out of bed and hit my knees. And it was something that impacted me and something I learned from him and have been doing faithfully ever since. So it's a situation of saying, well, son, take this from me. No, I took this from him."
3:57 - "As I look through my life is that I can say the dad that the man that was my dad was also someone that I would look up to as a hero. Many other people look up to. And so that's just one of the greatest honors."
5:08 - "I really believe that there isn't a real difference between being a leader in business, nonprofit or church. I think that we should approach it the same way."
5:42 - Ryan watching his Dad pray Psalm 91 over their family.
6:19 - Pray first then strategy/meet.
8:24 - Tim on his salvation in Alaska and his Father's salvation.
10:38 - The events of 1979 in Alaska that changed everything.. "first time I really heard the gospel in its entirety, I mean the full gospel if you want to use it as such"
11:34 - Tim's wife rededication her life to Jesus.
12:51 - "But on January 27th, 1979, I raised my hand and became a born again believer." Tim
13:07 - Tim talks about his house burning down and leaving Alaska
14:21 - Ryan explaining the legacy his dad imprinted, not only on their family, but to many people their family has encountered after getting saved "...that day was famous in our family.."
16:14 - Ryan taking Tim, his son, and father in law back to the chapel Tim was saved in and writing and praying blessings over each of them.
17:34 - "And the the idea that you, you know, this is really, really important for your kids to get is that they something happened before them and something will happen after them. Generational and that generational thought is so distant from our current generation. It's it's actually a very unique thing because for thousands of years, children grew up realizing that there's a tradition before them and a legacy to give and and to to combat the current crazy narcissism of the day."
18:43 - "whenever I want to instill a value in our kids, we like to travel somewhere and then have a moment but also have an adventure to seal it in."
20:29 - Tim's wife taking their grand daughters to where she was saved in Louisiana.
23:07 - "One of the greatest gifts that my parents and then my dad was able to give me was he wanted to expose me early on to the world, to the needs of the world, to the challenges of the world." "....he did that by taking us to some of the most difficult places in the world."
23:40 - "He never took us to Disneyland, but but he did take us to a refugee camp in Mozambique and, you know, to different slums around the world and difficult areas."
25:11 - One of the coolest things Tim did as a father was he was willing to do what his kids wanted to do. Even if their ideas where wild.
27:51 - Praying and asking God what it looks like to smuggle Bibles into China and an eagle flies over them right after praying.

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230 | Resilience, Servanthood & Showing Up For Others (Jason Vallotton REPLAY) Jun 16, 2022

Show notes

"Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving…the more you have the more you're required to give."

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Jason Vallotton

Recovering mental health, Cultivating spiritual fathers, and Living with Hope. Jason Vallotton is the pastoral care overseer at Bethel Church in Redding, California and is a sought-after counselor, teacher, and speaker. Previously, he served for 10 years in the Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry as a pastor, counselor, and overseer. Jason and his wife Lauren live in Redding, California, and have 4 wonderful children. Jason's primary passion is for the hearts of men to live fully alive to their calling. In his downtime, Jason can be found hiking in the Trinity Alps, fishing the Sacramento River, or hunting anywhere that wild game can be found!

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A family whose mission is to show parents how to connect the relationships in their family to Jesus and each other.

Conversation Notes

3:16 – Story of Jason's first son being born when he was 19 years old
5:11 – The gift of patience turning the burden into an opportunity.
5:35 – Having friends and community gives perspective. "But we actually get to multiply our experience the closer we are to our friends because if we walk through a hard time with them, we get to gain the wisdom and the learning and understanding."
6:48 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. James 1:2-3
7:49 "Great opportunity comes with every hard season for those who have eyes to see it." – Quote from Winning the War Within by Jason Vallotton
9:17 – You can try and grow through the easy times but there's not as much opportunity to grow in easy times because you're not getting as much feedback. You're not really being stretched. The easy times are a poor indicator of what you're good at and what you're not good at. It's challenging to grow when you're not being tested." There is fruit in hard times.
10:02 – Psalm 126:5 -"Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy." Relating this to the story of a farmer making the hard choice between feeding his family the only seed he has and starting a poverty cycle, or choosing to plant the seed and watch his family starve for a season but ultimately breaking the poverty cycle.
11:07 – We're forced into this worldwide [question], "what are you going to do with the challenge you've been given?"
12:07 – Going through a nervous breakdown in 2009.
13:26 – His dad told him, "You're gonna have to decide how your kids are gonna remember you."
14:26 – "I only get to decide what I do when I'm awake."
14:53 – "If I don't check out, but I stay in the game even with my kids and my family, I gain so much more than if I check out for the evening."
15:05 – Quote from Danny Silk – "Kids are gonna pull 60 pounds of energy from you whether you give it to them or whether they take it from you you just get to decide how it happens."
16:07 – "There's an opportunity for people like never before not just to make a difference in history, but to learn how to embrace challenging times with confidence."
16:46 – The inside-out dad life – what were the warning signs before the nervous breakdown?
19:50 – Moral Revolution
20:45 – Everything was good – it was so hard to decide what to put down.
22:02 – "Whether it's hard things or whether it's good things, it has a weight to it. It has a weight value and good stress is still stress."
22:56 – Cultivating spiritual fathers: "If you're going to put someone on your team, make sure they know they are on your team."
25:39 – "My dad told me once, never apologize for favor, just make sure you use the favor well."
26:30 – "What is covenant? You have permission to change my mind and I have permission to change your mind."
27:01 – "Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving…the more you have the more you're required to give."
28:17 – we're building an inheritance for our kids…the relationships that you create today, that you sacrifice for, it's not it's not as fun as people think. It's not easy I can tell you all those relationships that I just mentioned, there's conflict inside of them. We use all of our communication skills and conflict resolution and honor to keep those relationships going."
29:33 – Clint graham david and his mighty men series of books? Linked
30:45 – Attending church for yourself is the lowest level of living for a Christian.
31:12 – His dad told him, "People need what you have. They need what you have, and you need to go to youth group and find someone that needs what you have and give it to them."
34:52 – "Look at what you want your life to be in 10, 20, 30 years and live from now."
35:10 – How to get out of [dark places], #1 – find new hope. Find who's overcome what you're going through.
35:22 – Curt Richter – Rats with Hope – Sample article
35:43 – #2 – Hope is literally gonna energize you. For hope, you wanna you want to get some vision and create some goals for tomorrow, and then weekly goals and then monthly goals. That's how I overcame the addiction to medication.
36:30 – #3 – Pull yourself objectively outside of yourself and be able to understand that the moment that you're in there's a real opportunity
36:47 – "You'll probably go through it whether you want to or not, so you might as well make it awesome, and getting some outside perspective is really, really helpful."
37:47 – "What we hide, becomes a definer in our lives and it begins to tell us who we are. And so it probably will be the hardest thing that we ever do, is to go 'this is really Who I am' but you'll receive love in a way you've never received love because people will love you exactly where you're at, and not for what you want to show you are, they'll know the real you. And therefore you'll have the power to get out of it."

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229 | Becoming Wholehearted (Morgan Snyder REPLAY) Jun 09, 2022

Show notes

"God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It's what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything."

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Morgan Snyder is a strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and speaker. His passion is to both be shaped by and shape the men and women who are shaping the kingdom of God. In 2010, he established BecomeGoodSoil.com, a fellowship of leaders whose global reach offers guidance for the narrow road of becoming the kind of person to whom God can confidently entrust the care of his kingdom. He serves on the executive leadership team of Wild at Heart and Ransomed Heart Ministries, having served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge for more than two decades. Morgan goes off the grid every chance he gets, whether bow hunting in the Colorado wilderness or choosing the adventurous life with his greatest treasures: his wife, Cherie; his son, Joshua; and his daughter, Abigail.

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Radical Mentoring
A mentoring process that equips men to develop authentic relationships and overcome the issues holding them back from living "life to the full."

Conversation Notes

2:45 - Talking about his "second great conversion"… "To become a son has changed everything for me…C.S. Lewis said, 'I believe in Christianity like I believe in the sunrise.I believe in it because I see it every day, but it's by the sun I see all things.' ...To become a son is my sunrise. I believe it because I've experienced it to be true. To unlearn God as Father the way I've learned it wrong and to open my heart to receive him as the true Father he intends to be. It's by that I see all things."
4:28 - Growing up in a home without God - winning the "game" of life - having success in many areas, but losing his soul.
5:26 - giving his life to God
6:24 - "God became my father, my pastor, my guide, I entered into a slow and steady process of being initiated as a man and fathered as a son. And so where I find myself now is ...in process of over two decades of making my life about becoming the kind of man in whom God is glad to entrust more and more of the care of his kingdom, becoming more and more honest about what's not yet, about what is under construction. But that used to feel like a weight and now feels like a promise because there's so much hope."
7:28 - His wife is the Chief Life Officer.
9:58 - His wife shared in counseling, "I feel like a bird locked in a cage. And I can't fly"…. That wasn't my heart's intention at all. I dreamed about being a loving husband, but the fruit was I was a broken man, an unhealed boy inside a man that was still driving to get his question answered by achieving. I am loved when I come through. I am loved when I achieve. And now it's just in the name of God, it's just in the name of being a husband. And all the while my strength wasn't actually rescuing the beauty, it wasn't actually fighting for her, it was actually diminishing the glory of her life."
11:29 - "I believe one of the greatest sacred trusts given to me is to champion her calling and allow her to thrive as the Chief Life Officer."
11:47 - Finding the way to the center of your daughter's heart.
12:16 - A birth experience gone wrong
13:27 - "God I agree with your story for my son, and I want to participate with what you have planned for him. I want to participate in initiation and I'll participate in the birth story you have."
13:47 - "God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It's what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything."
15:00 - Talking about his daughter - "I approach her with a question of 'Holy Spirit would you show me her heart? Who did you make [her] to be? And how do I bring my delight to her and communicate consistently - [you] are loved. And there is nothing you can do or not do and say or not say that will cause me to withdraw my delight. And if I can get that right, then everything else becomes secondary."
18:13 - How do I initiate my son?
19:00 - "Fundamentally, when we can pull back from the trees and see the forest, we offer the sum total of who we've become, we will apprentice our kids for good or for ill into the person we've become."
19:17 - Technology and growing up as an adolescent girl in our current culture.
20:16 - we try to offer what we haven't received and offer what we haven't become…..
21:52 - whole-hearted parenting and growing in union with God
22:00 - "We can only fake it for so long and until we come to an understanding that excavation is simply non-negotiable bc when we build on a shoddy foundation, we don't know until the storm comes but the storm will come. We are in a culture of uncertainty and in a time of shaking."
23:32 - Immaturity vs. sin
25:31 - "Reality is what we bump into when we're wrong." - Dallas Willard
26:10 - Look to the older men in your life and ask where did they get taken out or hijacked.
26:23 - "I have a choice. I either have to settle for engineering a small life, ... where life becomes mostly about comfort, security and arranging for a life that I can control, or at least have the illusion that I can control and it doesn't require me to change. And that's what most men become. Or I can take those exclamation points and I can start asking questions."
27:03 - "We really only have two choices, either humility or humiliation."
27:17 - "I realized the questions are the core to apprenticeship and it's the questions that led me back to the path of life."
30:21 - "Someone with my best interests in mind is at work. What I recovered was an upside down kingdom. Where most men build, the invitation was to stop building and allow God to excavate so that he can build your character - not just morality but whole-heartedness."
32:02 - "Actually it's the good soil, cultivated over time, that yields the supernatural harvest."
34:54 - PODCAST EPISODE ABOUT MARGIN
35:28 - How does a fish know that it's water is polluted?
36:45 - We are in an age of exponential change and we all, as a culture, carry more load than our limits.
37:15 - So if we come to terms that we are in an aggressive culture that wants to destroy our margin, the gap between our load and our limits, then we understand we have to fight to protect that space.
37:32 - "The great frontier in our age is our attention and our affection, and its in margin, its in the space between the load and limits, that we can recover our attention and our affection which was actually meant to be the epicenter of where we grow with intimacy with God."
39:00 - "Identify your load. Identify your healthy, sustainable limits. And if your load exceeds your limits, then that's a frontier in which you need to be curious with about God."

Conversation Links:

Become Good Soil
Book - Becoming A King: The Path To Restoring The Heart Of A Man - Morgan Snyder's Becoming a King speaks unabashedly to men, teaching them the life-changing truth about the power that God intends for them to responsibly step into for his Kingdom, while also giving women an honest peek behind the curtain into the lives and hearts of the men they know and love.
Podcast: Become Good Soil

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228 | Raising Kids Who Change The World (Mark Foreman REPLAY) Jun 02, 2022

Show notes

How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive."

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Mark Foreman

Mark Foreman lives in the San Diego area and is the lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. The question Mark and his wife Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids? Never Say No takes you on a personal journey to learn first-hand how they raised Jon and Tim of Switchfoot. Mark's been married to Jan, his "best friend and favorite Bible teacher," for over 46 years. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family.

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Wild Sons - A community of men living from a full heart, pursuing a life of passion, adventure and freedom, walking intimately with God on a journey to become the men he created us to be.
https://wildsons.com/
Podcast: https://wildsons.com/podcast

Conversation Notes

3:15 – "You are the same today as you'll be in five years except for two things the books you read and the people you meet" Charlie "tremendous" Jones 3:53 – Mark introduces himself 5:08 – Bring your kids along for the adventure. Authenticity is an important ingredient. 5:50 – Agreement with their sons that they can all talk about anything they want. All topics are fair game because Jesus touches everything 6:43 – Surfing/Fatherhood comparison 7:38 – We must isolate the different variables of fatherhood and isolate some of them and then work on the variables that you really want to change 8:51 – "If you win 5000 people to Christ and you lose your own son, how does that feel?" 10:22 – The mistake of carrying around the wooden spoon and taking on the rigid disciplinarian role 11:03 – The importance of filling our kids love tanks 11:18 – "Time, Touch and Eye Contact" and the importance of wrestling 12:38 – The importance of listening and letting your kids dream 12:55 – "I Enjoy You" and the power of these words and the wonder it brings to children to hear them 13:15 – The surprising fact that a lot of people don't "like" their children 13:52 – The more time we spend with our kids, the more we enjoy them. We tend to like the things that we invest in 14:18 – It starts with understanding that God enjoys me 16:38 – book The Second Mountain (David Brooks) // We must go through a valley of pain before we can move to the 2nd mountain of serving and living for others 19:11 – Overview of the book Never Say No 20:53 – Process of thinking backwards and working backwards… What are we hoping for when our kids launch from the home at 18 years old? 21:18 – Most parents primary goal is safety. Most are scared to death of their kids getting hurt by the jungle of this world 21:52 – "Raising kids who own the jungle. Raise kids who change the world rather than run from the world" 22:32 – Raising artists. Every kid is raised in the image of God. He's a creator. He's the greatest artist. 23:40 – "Wonder happens when we get closer to God"… Humility and serving others also comes when we get closer to God. 24:24 – Reading books that stir up wonder 26:08 – Am I accidentally cutting the wings of my kids wonder and creativity 26:46 – Book Quote: ""How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive." 28:51 – It must be in me before I can hope something is in my kids. 29:10 – Mark's sons seeing him spending time reading his Bible 30:40 – "We are the caretakers of our kids hearts" 32:24 – "We're launching our kids from the moment they're born if we really believe we are raising kids that will change the world" 34:03 – Entire dadAWESOME episode on the book Never Say No with Ross Manders: https://dadawesome.org/episode48/ 34:32 – Slow down 35:42 – Mark's prayer for us fathers.

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Never Say No (Mark and Jan Foreman)
Switchfoot (his sons band)
Mark's church
Mark on Twitter

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227 | Intentional Fatherhood & Creating the Primal Path (Jon Tyson REPLAY) May 26, 2022

Show notes

"I wanted him in this liminal space. My goal was to irreparably break his heart for the poor of the world so he'd never just be a spoiled, complacent American ever – He'd always be haunted, because those years are so formative… I just wanted to get in there, God's heart for the poor."

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Jon Tyson is a Pastor and Church Planter in New York City. Originally from Adelaide, Australia, Jon moved to the United States twenty years ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in the Western Church. He is the author of Rumors of God, Sacred Roots, A Creative Minority, The Burden is Light, and Beautiful Resistance. For the last 15 years Jon has lived in Manhattan with his family. He serves as the Lead Pastor of Church of the City New York.

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Adventures in Missions
Adventures in Missions is an interdenominational missions organization that focuses on discipleship. We emphasize prayer and relationships in our work around the world. Since we were established in 1989, we have taken over 115,000 people into the mission field, some for as short as a week and others for as long as a year or longer. We minister year-round through our ministry bases and strategic ministry partnerships. We believe that by giving people the opportunity to step outside their comfort zones and join what God is doing in other cultures and nations, lives are transformed. We seek to disciple as Jesus did; our vision is that God would use us to raise up a generation of radically committed disciples of Jesus Christ.
Family Mission Trips: https://www.adventures.org/family-mission-trips/

Conversation Notes

3:42 – Statement from a friend who works at Barna that heavily influenced Jon's life, "The church has basically reached a point of irreversible decline statistically, and by radical discipleship of our children, what would be described as a historic revival the church is beyond human turnaround. So it's going to take an act of God and radical discipleship for our kids."
5:00 – "The summer of covid-19 has probably been the hardest season of my life, but I've seen the greatest answers to prayer in my entire life this summer as well."
5:28 – Thoughts on personal prayer life and for our kids. "Intercessory prayer for the places that we live, having a sense of call to shape a place through prayer, those are sort of the huge passions of my life and I think it's the number one thing most people want to do, but don't know how to do. And it's the thing the enemy attacks the most because it's where all the power and fruit lie."
7:58 – How to coach our kids to pray? Make Jesus as compelling as possible. Also, stewarding your own life of prayer and sharing those answers with your kids. And make prayer fun. "The goal of prayer is to get your kids to love Jesus and I think when you're a kid, making prayer as enjoyable as possible and having consistency over intensity."
8:19 – Dr. David Ireland. Jon Tyson's coach.
8:43 – Thoughts on having a coach, finding a coach, and what Jon has learned from that relationship and how it's changed his life.
11:11 – Reasons to have a coach – "I think everybody needs someone older speaking into what they do. It's it's quite often in midlife…you've got enough success, you've sort of built your own coping mechanisms, tactics… you're kind of like 'I can just keep it going… I've built a life [and] I can probably manage this thing out,' and I was just like I need to get better. The future's changing and as things grow I need to be more agile, so I need to get a different toolkit."
13:25 – How to recognize a mentor? "I think… we all need to know what are we deeply called to, and then we'll know when we have the right person to speak into our lives."
13:44 – The Primal Path: Raising a Son of Consequence
15:19 – Sharing about writing meaningful letters to important people in our life.
15:53 – His son's voluntary expression of gratitude and how it impacted him.
16:48 – Writing a letter to his dad to share with him what he got right.
17:52 – Richard Rohr – "Whatever pain is not transformed is transmitted." "We tend to break our kids in the same place that we are broken because we don't know a way through it."
19:48 The Council of Dads: My Daughters, My Illness, and the Men Who Could Be Me by Bruce Feiler
20:52 – The World Race
20:57 – Sharing about the experience for his son. "I wanted him in this liminal space. My goal was to irreparably break his heart for the poor of the world so he'd never just be a spoiled, complacent American ever – He'd always be haunted, because those years are so formative… I just wanted to get in there, God's heart for the poor."
21:51 – Book: The compound effect.
22:21 – Sharing the story of his son's finishing The Primal Path with a 33 day hike across Spain
23:49 – Parenting through social contracts – agreements around responsibilities, rights and privileges. Inspired by Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families
26:32 – Book: Parenting With Love And Logic by Foster Cline
27:18 – "We have a responsibility to take the beauty of Jesus and make him come alive in our kid's hearts."
28:03 – The Primal Path. "The missing piece in modern culture, designed to help you walk a kid from adolescence into adulthood."
29:11 – "Designed to create a sacred relationship and a sacred journey between his father and his kids to help them get into adulthood….if you don't initiate your kids and take them on a journey, they will self-initiate, often through tremendous harm, or the culture will initiate them….it's basically who's going to design the pathway of helping your kids figure out life?
30:11 – "I'm trying to disrupt toxic masculinity and reclaim as normal a formation pathway from adolescence into manhood."
30:23 – Pathway for his daughter – "50 Pieces of My Heart: 50 key deposits every father needs to make in his daughter's life."
30:50 – Jon's next book, Intentional Father, Outlines five kinds of dads:
- Irresponsible dads – come in, get out, do nothing
- Ignorant dads – don't know what they are doing and do damage
- Inconsistent dads – torn with their own ambitions – often absent
- Involved dads – our culture's version of a great dad
- Intentional Father – believes it's the primary responsibility and builds a pathway based on who those kids are
32:33 – Sermon series around Altars. Message about the Home
32:54 – Most recent book: The Beautiful Resistance – Being a dad of conviction vs. compromise. "Part of it comes with a sense of sort of working through your own drama… and figuring out what it is that God's given you, understanding what faithfulness to Jesus looks like, and then fundamentally breaking the fear of man… I'm not going to give an account to our culture for my life, I'm going to give an account to Jesus and there's joy in having convictions and there's joy in keeping them."
34:24 – "Work out the convictions that God puts in your heart, convictions about discipleship, and then just don't care what people think. And it takes a lot of work and maintenance to not care what people think. And then to raise kids who are not controlled by the fear of man or the culture. You can't impart that if you don't have that. So there's a lot of soul work that you need to do to understand your own values and your own convictions and then be willing to literally go to war for them."
37:12 – "Maintain the emotional bond with your kid. Kids come out of the womb with an emotional bond. Cultivate it. Keep it. That's the most important principle. So whenever you want to do any of these things, there's a connection where they trust you and they see that it's worth it."

Conversation Links

The Primal Path Course – Raise a son of consequence
The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character (available Father's Day 2021)
Beautiful Resistance: The Joy of Conviction in a Culture of Compromise

Jon's Altars Series

Jon Tyson

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