Connected Families Podcast

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My Kid is Looking at Porn Jun 21, 2021

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“My kid is looking at porn! What should I do?” Have you experienced this? Or maybe you are concerned about how to prepare your child for future encounters with something inappropriate. Pornography is highly accessible in today’s culture. Marketers seem to sexualize everything to sell products. In a world where we are unable to shield our children from this, how do we respond? Today’s podcast is the third of a three-part series focused on topics that dads often encounter as they seek to lead with grace. Join Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) as they discuss the very sensitive and challenging topic of kids and pornography. As we seek to impart boundaries and wisdom to our kids regarding pornography, our reactions about this topic can either increase shame or invite connection. When we bring God’s grace and truth into the challenge of kids and porn, we can focus on our kids' hearts and the parent-child connection that they so desperately need to navigate their struggle. You’ll learn in this episode: How to confront a child who has been caught viewing pornographyThe vital importance of connection with your child as you prepare to talk to your kids about pornographyWays in which the Connected Families Framework can empower you to discover: “What is going on in me? What’s it like to be my child?”The ways that shame and secrecy can affect your child’s struggle and your relationship with your child This is not an easy topic to navigate, so please let us know how we can come alongside you, and help bring God’s grace and truth to your family. Bible verses mentioned in this podcast: Galatians 5:16-26Galatians 6:1-2 Matthew 5:27-30Philippians 1:6Philippians 4:6-7 Want to learn more? What to Do When You Catch Your Child Looking at Porn

Setting Boundaries with Screens | Ep. 66 Jun 14, 2021

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“My kid is obsessed with gaming! Are they addicted? What should I do?” If you’ve found yourself making these kinds of statements you are not alone. It’s amazing how something small on a screen can have such a big impact. And screens are everywhere. How do you set boundaries when you think your child is addicted to screens? There are real solutions and we are going to dig into them. Today’s podcast is the second of a three-part series focused on topics that dads often encounter as they seek to lead with grace. In this episode, Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) tackle the common but difficult topic of screen addictions (especially video gaming). We’ll dive into important and practical topics such as: How you can use the Connected Families Framework to help your child and yourself have a healthy relationship with screensThe importance of communicating to your child, “You are capable of overcoming this struggle!”How to build wisdom and responsibility in your kids’ video game habits while showing empathy and compassionWays to ask questions and set boundaries with video games that invite conversation and connection with your child Screen addiction is a real thing and it is not easy! Let us know how we can come alongside you as you help your child work through this challenge. We are here to help! Resources mentioned in this episode: Sibling Conflict CourseConnect Families Framework Want to learn more? Why Do Kids Obsess Over Video Games?Healthy Screen Time With Kids--An Oxymoron or Hopeful Possibility?Keep Calm and Stay Connected (to your teen!) Take 15 minutes to learn how to give consequences that teach, rather than simply punish, by downloading our free ebook Consequences That Actually Work.

How to Leave a Legacy | Ep. 65 Jun 07, 2021

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What comes to your mind when you hear the word “legacy”? We feel inspired when we hear stories about the legacy of someone who has made an impact in the world. Hearing these stories may inspire you to want to leave a valuable legacy of your own. OR maybe that idea feels painful to you. You might have regrets and wonder if it’s too late to leave the legacy you had hoped for. Whatever your experience, take heart and be strengthened that today is a new day! This podcast will guide you in taking steps to leave a legacy of faith for future generations. In today’s podcast, Jim Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) and Chad Hayenga (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Connected Families Coach) discuss how to leave a legacy of faith for your kids. During the month of June, in recognition of Father’s Day, we are focusing on topics geared towards issues that dads often encounter, as they seek to lead with grace. (Moms, listen in too! There’s loads of encouragement here for you as well.) Leaving a legacy is purposefully planting seeds of hope, life, and generosity. It means trusting God’s love to make those seeds grow. It’s never too late to leave a legacy! In this podcast, you’ll learn: Practical and thoughtful ways of leaving a legacy of faith for your childHow to handle shame and past regrets, and leave a new legacy starting todayThe importance of authenticity as a parent, and sharing your own testimony of how God has worked in your lifeThe value of celebrating God’s blessings as a family and sharing those blessings with others Mentioned in this podcast: C.S. Lewis quoteMatthew 6:19-211 Corinthians 3:6-81 Thessalonians 2:11-12Joshua 4:21-22Deut 6:4-9Sibling Conflict Online Course

Help! My Child is Violent! | Ep. 64 Jun 01, 2021

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You ask your child to do something simple and they respond with violence. Your five-year-old comes at you forcefully with a toy and is going to hit you. Maybe your teenager is physically fighting and things are getting out of hand. You start to realize your child is violent. Now what? As a parent in this situation, you may feel discouragement, fear, anxiety, or even shame. It’s hard to know what to do when your child is physically aggressive, and it’s natural to feel your own emotions escalate as well. You may be wondering, “How can I bring peace to this toxic situation?” Defusing a child who is violent In today’s episode, Jim and Lynne Jackson (co-founders of Connected Families) join Stacy Bellward (podcast host) to discuss the difficult challenges of parenting a child who struggles with being physically aggressive. Jim and Lynne talk through the Connected Families Framework, and how it can help defuse an angry child in the heat of the moment. Longer term, this podcast will help guide you as a parent to provide love, safety, and connection for your child. In this podcast you’ll learn: How to create a strong and confident foundation as a parent: What is going on in me when my child is violent?How your child’s underlying anxiety can often be masked as anger: What’s going on in my child when they explode?Practical and loving ways to provide safety and connection to a child who needs restraint The power of empathy and truthful, compassionate, phrases to communicate to your child: “I am for you, you are loved, we’ll get through this together.” As always, we are here to help and you are not alone! Check out some of our resources below, or reach out to us to learn more about how Connected Families can walk alongside you in your parenting journey. Encouraging verses and resources mentioned in this podcast: James 1:5 Romans 15:13FREE Resources Helping Kids With Anger (FREE ebook)Grace and Truth for Moms (online course)Connected Families Framework Do you feel stuck in negative patterns? Feeling isolated? Are you anxious about your kids’ successes or failures? Our Grace and Truth for Moms online course will help you identify and hold on to God’s truth about YOU, and equip you to stop believing toxic lies about yourself. This course is created for small groups, so grab a few other moms and be encouraged!

What’s the Best Way To Handle Shared Parenting? | Ep. 63 May 27, 2021

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Navigating the challenges of being a single mom or single dad

Being a Single Mom is Exhausting | Ep. 62 May 24, 2021

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Are you a single mom? Do you find being a single mom is exhausting? Listen in on this episode focused on single parenting. You are not alone.

Grace and Truth for Moms | Ep. 61 May 03, 2021

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Does the stress and struggle of parenting leave you feeling unworthy or incapable of being the mom you long to be? Do these statements sound familiar? “I’m a failure as a mom and I have ruined my kids!” “I’m an angry parent with an angry child!” Perhaps it feels like you are parenting from a place of discouragement and anxiety. We want you to know that God’s grace runs deep for you, and you are not alone. You can find grace and truth for yourself as a mom. In today’s episode, you will learn how to work through the feelings of doubt and discouragement that many moms experience. In this rebroadcast from 2020, Lynne Jackson (co-founder of Connected Families) joins Heather MacFadyen on her podcast, Don’t Mom Alone. Heather interviews Lynne about the importance of recognizing toxic lies you may believe (about yourself and your kids) and how to replace those lies with God’s grace and truth. You’ll learn to process your difficult feelings and beliefs in a way that helps you to be a vessel of grace and truth for yourself--and for your kids. Discover in today’s podcast: how extreme thinking, perfectionism, and catastrophizing can keep you stuck in a negative parenting cycle practical ways to work through negative emotions and experience God’s healing and peace the importance of having support from other moms who can listen and encourage you encouragement that can help you persevere in living out God’s grace and truth for you and your kids About Heather MacFadyen: Married and a mom to four sons, Heather struggled with the challenges of raising four young boys. She isolated herself from community, fearing embarrassment, rejection, and failure. Slowly she began to reach out to friends again. Through prayer with friends, God healed wrong identities Heather held onto. She started a podcast called “God-Centered Mom” (now Don’t Mom Alone), a show that has been downloaded over 7 million times. Bible verses mentioned in this podcast: Matthew 12:34 Ephesians 4:15 Ephesians 6:4 Psalm 139:14 2 Corinthians 10:5 Resources from this podcast to encourage you: You Are a Daughter of the King speech (design courtesy of Don’t Mom Alone) Trash, Truth, Treasure: Helping Kids Turn Anger into Wisdom Grace and Truth for Moms Online Course Do you feel stuck in negative patterns? Are you isolated? Are you anxious about your kids' successes or failures? Our Grace and Truth for Moms online course will help you identify and hold on to God's truth about YOU, and equip you to stop believing toxic lies about yourself. This course is created for small groups, so grab a few other moms and be encouraged!

How Can I Teach My Child to Pray Heartfelt Prayers? | Ep. 60 Apr 26, 2021

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Do you struggle to teach your child how to pray? How do you instill something deeper when your child just wants to pray for a new xbox? Like many parents, you likely desire to see your kids engage in a meaningful prayer life. That can be hard! Sometimes kids just get bored when we pray! Or find it difficult to get past a surface-level prayer. The good news: There are many practical and effective ways to model and encourage your kids to grow in more heartfelt and personal prayer. Today on the Connected Families podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) talks with Chad and Carma Hayenga about their journey to a deeper and more personal prayer life. You’ll hear how this overflowed to their kids, and positively changed the heart of their family. We trust you will find encouragement and practical tips in this podcast to teach your child to pray and for your family’s prayer journey! In this podcast, Chad and Carma discuss: The transforming power of experiencing Jesus’ presence in prayerHow to transform rote and programmed prayers into a personal conversation with GodA larger vision for your family’s prayer life, as well as practical everyday prayer opportunitiesWays to help kids express their faith creatively according to their personality and giftsParticipating in God’s Kingdom work at home and around the world through prayer More about Chad and Carma: Chad Hayenga is a Marriage and Family Therapist and certified life coach with a background in counseling struggling youth and families. As a prayer intercessor, Carma has a deep passion to see families changed through the power of prayer. Combining their skills, and trusting in the power of the Holy Spirit to effect change, they have seen people experience incredible spiritual freedom. Interested in learning more? Check out this unique coaching option to connect personally with Chad and Carma. Resources about prayer mentioned in this podcast: Prison to Praise by Merlin Carothers Is That Really You, God? by Loren Cunningham Voice of the Martyrs FREE magazine subscription

Help! How do I keep a conversation going with my child? | Ep. 59 Apr 21, 2021

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Frequently parents focus on conversation skills when there is conflict. But what about in the normal day-to-day interactions? Do you feel like it is more difficult than it needs to be to have a “normal” conversation with your child? Do you feel like you spend a lot of time telling your child what to do instead of asking the right questions? It's hard when you feel like, "My child won't talk to me!"Sadly, sometimes our reactions as parents is what shuts the conversation down. Can you relate? If so, this podcast discussion will bring you the honest and hope-giving guidance you are looking for as you desire to have open and honest conversations with your kids. In today’s podcast, Stacy Bellward (podcast host) is joined by Chad Hayenga (therapist and Connected Families parent coach) to talk about how you can engage in meaningful, on-going conversations that bring connection with your child. You can keep the important conversations going with your kids by asking gentle, light-hearted, curious questions that help your child feel safe to open up to you. In this podcast, we’ll discuss: The power of kind and curious questions to unlock a child’s heartKeeping shame out of the conversation with your childHow to respond when kids have doubts about their faith and GodPractical ways to calmly respond when your child says something that triggers you! The importance of your strong, solid foundation in Christ to create stability for your struggling child Connecting to and valuing what is going on in your child’s heart can keep the conversation going for years to come! Parenting resources mentioned in this podcast: The Power of Questions: Less Arguing. More Wisdom. (online course) Want to learn more for when, "My child won't talk to me!" Stay Curious During Tough Conversations: Why Lectures Never Win Connected Families Framework

What Should I Do When My Child Is Having a Meltdown in Public? | Ep. 58 Apr 14, 2021

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You’re in the grocery store. Or the park. Or at a family gathering. And you sense a major meltdown coming. It’s so embarrassing when your child has a meltdown in public - especially when you know other people are watching! Join Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, as they offer practical and down-to-earth solutions to this real-life struggle. This podcast addresses some common questions we frequently hear, such as: “What should I do when my child is having a meltdown in public?”“Is there a time and place for immediate obedience, and what does that look like?”“How can I better connect with my child in a discipline situation?” Along with these helpful insights, you’ll gain a crucial “big picture” perspective of your (and your child’s) identity as God’s beloved children. Not perfect parents with well-behaved kids, but imperfect parents and kids learning together in the love and grace of Jesus. Bible references mentioned in this podcast: The Parable of the Two Sons (Matthew 21:28-32)Jesus’ Warnings to the Pharisees (Matthew 23:25-36) Want to learn more about how to help your child when they meltdown in public? Connected Families FrameworkDiscipline that Connects with Your Child’s Heart (book)FREE Resources to Strengthen Connection with Your Child Download our FREE in-depth ebook Helping Kids With Anger. It will provide thoughtful insights and creative ideas to help your struggling child.

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