Coming Out Late

Latest Episodes:

EP20: An Interview w/Late Bloomer Kathy Kiger Feb 14, 2022

Show notes

Late bloomer Kathy Kiger joins Robin and shares her incredible story of coming out late, how her family reacted, and what her life is like one year later.

In this episode, you will learn…

Kathy’s religious upbringing and when the gay started to creep up
Avoiding her inner voice and what it was like raising 4 kids after divorce
How her business mentorship led to a beautiful revelation
Acknowledging the mental gymnastics of internalized homophobia and trying to Christian harder
The incredible experience of coming out as a family and supporting each other
Kathy’s dating life since coming out and using different dating apps
How identifying as gay has impacted Kathy’s life and appearance
Details about Kathy’s coach and coming out while on a zoom call—in a closet

Links to resources:

For all-things Kathy Kiger, go to her website at: https://www.BetterLateThanStraight.com or https://www.instagram.com/betterlatethanstraight/

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying my podcast, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? Any and all caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP19: An Interview w/ Bloomers Society Founder, Julia Ruiz Hoffman Feb 07, 2022

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Robin talks with Julia Ruiz Hoffman, founder of Bloomer’s Society, about her growing online community and how she is living her one wild and precious life.

In this episode, you will learn…

Details about the Bloomers Society and Robin and Julia met
The beauty of connections both online and in person
Julia’s coming out story and growing up the good girl
How Julia ended her marriage and where they are now
Life is not linear and there will be a lot of hiccups and bumps along the way
The power of making the right decision for yourself
Collaborative divorce and throwing up rainbows
Recognizing the vulnerability of your partner before, during, and after separation
The need for breaks: Takeout, Netflix, and NO feelings
Julia’s coaching and counseling experience and how she’s adapting retreats

Links to resources:

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com

Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP18: One Late Bloomer's Coming Out Story - So Far... Jan 31, 2022

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Robin shares a Late Bloomer’s coming out story that captures different stages of her confusion, acceptance, devastation, and guilt and how ultimately she just wants to be happy, along with the ones she loves.

In this episode, you will learn…

Growing up without realizing being gay is an option
Acknowledging the heartbreak of first crushes
Realizing the Haunting of Bly Manor is the first healthy lesbian relationship she’s witnessed
I am super gay but it’s too late since I’ve been married for 30+ years
Her sister’s response when she finally shares that she’s gay
The blessing of finding a supportive community after the devastation of telling her husband
What it was like to finally end her marriage and how it feels to salvage their friendship
Remembering hurting someone you love sucks but it doesn’t mean you deserve to take on shame or guilt

Links to resources:

I have recently set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first dozen Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I incur over $400 in expenses every month and do not get paid or make a dime on our podcast to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to take advantage of the limited time (50% Off) Early Bird Special (for my January 4-week workshop), "A New Year & A New You: A Workshop for Personal Growth to Attract New Relationships", email me the word "EARLY BIRD" and I will send you information and reserve a seat for you!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP17: Divorcing My Best Friend or Shielding the Kids from Divorce? Jan 24, 2022

Show notes

Robin shares a common challenge of finding the right time to embrace your truth and the importance of knowing you’re never alone in this journey!

In this episode, you will learn…

The problem of not wanting to put your children through a divorce
Recognizing there is no perfect time to be true to yourself or to teach children that people change
From delaying hurt and confusion to having people survive and thrive
Don’t stay trapped or unhappy for anyone, especially your kids
10 Key Takeaways from this story:

1. Our stories are relatable, sharing is imperative to feel hope and inspiration

2. None of us are ever truly alone in this journey, no matter how it might feel

3. You are all stronger than you believe you are

4. It will get better, no matter how impossible it may seem today

5. Freedom and happiness does lie ahead

6. Know that you’re not alone (yes, it’s worth repeating)

7. The unknown is scary but the leap is so worth it

8. You’re not alone (I really want you to get that message)

9. You have an amazing community of supporters

10. We are all in this together and we will all come out on the other side, no matter what the other side looks like

An invitation to climb to the top of Mount Fear

Links to resources:

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP16: Coming Out Late: What A Difference A Year Makes! Jan 17, 2022

Show notes

Robin shares different responses of people reflecting on the past year and the power of embracing the changes you experience!

In this episode, you will learn…

Exciting updates about upcoming guests, Facebook group and Bloomer’s Society
Finding the light at the end of the tunnel if you’re in the messy middle of coming out
Reflecting on the most significant difference in your life from this time last year
How Robin is changing her language to reflect her current journey of launching a small service business
Remembering it’s better late than never because it’s never too late

Links to resources:

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP15: Gender, Sexual Fluidity & Acceptance: An Interview w/Cosmos Kumar Jan 10, 2022

Show notes

Cosmos Kumar shares the power of embracing your truth, nurturing relationships and being okay with knowing the only constant in life is change.

In this episode, you will learn…

Cosmos’ background and why she calls herself a Universalist
Nobody deserves to be in pain and nobody should be in a situation where they’re unhappy
Why Cosmos loves synchronicity and following nature
When Cosmos began to feel inklings about her identity and sexuality
Advice for those coming out to themselves during the pandemic
Give yourself permission to be who you want to be and trust yourself that you know who you are
How Cosmos’ son, friends and family reacted to her coming out
Appreciating other people’s lifestyles instead of shutting them down
Owning your truth and knowing it can change whenever you want
Understanding bisexuality and confusion about the LGQBTI+ spectrum
Details about Cosmic Soul Coaching

Links to resources:

Cosmos/Meenakshi Kumar, MD: you can find Cosmos and her Bio and ALL of her coaching services at: Link tree: https://linktr.ee/docmk; FB: https://facebook/groups/docmk; Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/docminx/; Art: internalescence.etsy.com Blog: https://wonderwomansearches.com/. Dr. Kumar, MD, also mentioned the book, "The Fountainhead", by Ayn Rand: One of the 20th century's most challenging novels of ideas, The Fountainhead champions the cause of individualism through the story of a gifted young architect who defies the tyranny of conventional public opinion.

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP14: New Year, New You: What's YOUR Word for 2022? Jan 03, 2022

Show notes

Happy 2022! Robin dives into the New Year with encouragement to find your one word for the year and why it’s important to get clear on the life you want for yourself.

In this episode, you will learn…

Details about available support from Women Loving Women Group and Monthly Dinner Club
Challenge to approach 2022 with a new way of thinking, feeling and doing
Why Robin’s one word for the year is COURAGE
Encouragement to determine your one word for 2022
Acknowledging codependency and ignoring red flags
Get out of your head and into your heart and into your body
Release your feelings and make time to get honest about what you want in life

Links to resources:

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

BLOOMERS SOCIETY: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP13: Topics & Discussions from Social Media Convos Dec 27, 2021

Show notes

Robin responds to comments, questions and topics from different social media outlets that address coming out late and shares her personal perspective about common issues.

In this episode, you will learn…

You win some, you lose some—acknowledging relationships may change after coming out
Remember—it’s not about sexuality, it’s about toxicity and toxic people don’t need to be in your life
Girlfriends?—understanding how women loving women relationships operate and establishing clarity
The Big Freeze—”gay panic” and why we get nervous when we like someone
Flirting—knowing what crosses the line and communicating with your partner
Mutual respect and mutual love is always important

Links to resources:

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP12: You're Queer + The Holidays = The Need for Self Care! Dec 20, 2021

Show notes

The holidays can be particularly challenging for those who’ve just come out. Robin shares how to handle difficult situations with care and the importance of keeping lines of communication with your children and/or family as open as possible. Robin also discusses why the New Year is a perfect time to prioritize self care!

In this episode, you will learn…

How to handle the holidays with your significant other or former significant other
You don't have to spend an uncomfortable holiday unless there are children involved.
Suggestions for how to manage difficult feelings in the same space with others
Advice for asking your children what they expect on Christmas Eve and Christmas Day
Try to be the one that initiates cohesiveness and togetherness and connectedness.
The sooner our children realize and can adapt to and embrace change as something that just simply happens, and it's not something to be feared is good.
The importance of making self care your number one priority
Encouragement to let go of toxic relationships—no matter who they’re with
We're gonna learn how to love ourselves or we're gonna learn how to shed our codependency because it's a new year.

Links to resources:

OMG, OMG...super excited to have *just* set-up a "Buy Me A Coffee" account to help me defray the costs of producing my "Coming Out Late" podcast! If you've been enjoying the first 11 Episodes, won't you please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation? I pay $400 every four episodes just to get it produced...and I'm not making a single cent on it to date...so any caffeine donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!

With enormous gratitude, Robin 🙏🙏🙏

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!! ($22/hour)

EP11: LGBTQ+ Women's Anxiety Recovery & Emotional Therapy: An Interview Dec 13, 2021

Show notes

Robin and Leanne share why it’s better late than never to come out and live the life you are meant to live with no blame, guilt or shame. Leanne also gives insight to how our brains process emotions and anxiety, and how we have the power to change our lives!

In this episode, you will learn…

What an neuro linguistic programming (NLP) practitioner does
Change requires willingness and the right attitude for change.
Understanding anxiety and 2 pathways to anxiety: cortex-based, thoughts vs. amygdala-based, reactions
Strong emotional experiences become your body’s emotional history, which then condition how you feel and react to situations.
Stop listening to the stories in your head—we recall stories based on perspective, not reality.
How Leanne works with clients to change their language and programming
Worry is nothing more than predicting chaos.
Remembering we have limited years, don’t waste them living unauthentically.
Advice for how to tell your significant other about your sexuality
Fear is nothing more than False Evidence Appearing Real.
A label is nothing more than an explanation for society—be who you’re meant to be
The power of working through negative self beliefs

Links to resources:

Leanne Jones is a leading LGBTQ+ women's anxiety recovery coach and therapist, and owner and founder of BRAVER WOMEN. Leanne is based in the UK, but has a worldwide client base. With her program BRAVER WOMEN, Leanne specializes in providing LGBTQ+ women with the tools to stop anxiety and to raise self-esteem, to live with more passion, pride and purpose. Her BRAVER WOMEN website is currently being developed and can soon be found at: www.braverwomen.com. In the meantime, follow this link to request to join Leanne's amazing FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/359069712192635/

You can follow Robin on Instagram at www.instagram.com/Late.Blooming.Lesbian And for an invitation to her private Women Loving Women support groups on Zoom, email Robin at: comingoutlater@gmail.com

Looking for your coming-out-late community? Request to be a member of the Coming Out Late Community Facebook Group, a private and secure group of late blooming lesbians, at: www.facebook.com/ComingOutLateCommunity (Please fill out all the registration questions.)

Coming out later in life has its fair share of stress and challenges. Be sure to take good care of your mental health during this trying time. Contact Pride Counseling and book an appointment at: www.pridecounseling.com/comingoutlater.

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