Coming Out Late

Latest Episodes:

EP30: Coming Out Late: Fast Forward, Three Years Later Apr 25, 2022

Show notes

Robin shares a beautiful reminder that good things are possible and your life will work out no matter when you decide to come out…

In this episode, you will learn…

Reflecting on three years post coming out, post moving out, post freaking out
Encouragement to feel all your feelings and do the work vs. push emotions down
Understanding it all works out and that how it works out looks different for everyone
Details about Julia Ruiz Hoffman’s Bloomer’s Society and coaching services

Links to resources:

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Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

I mentioned and highly recommend Julia Ruiz Hoffman, MA, MFT, Counselor and Coach for women coming out later in life. Julia specializes in sexual awareness, divorce guidance & co-parenting coaching, issues with young children and straight spouse support. Julia and her new website can be found at: www.bloomerssociety.com

EP29: Coming Out While Married & Questioning Apr 18, 2022

Show notes

Robin addresses a recent post about fears surrounding being married and questioning your sexuality and why open lines of communication, honesty, and courage are key to exploring who you are…

In this episode, you will learn…

Coming out doesn’t mean everything about your life must change instantly
Remember you can be courageous or you can be comfortable—you can’t be both
Fear is a killer: Ask for time, communication, and soul searching
Don’t stay for the wrong reasons and don’t leave for the wrong reasons
The importance of listening to your body and understanding we can’t be afraid of what we don’t know
Advice to find a therapist and to be fully transparent and trust they can help you
All relationships require nurturing—don’t settle for something unfulfilling
It takes courage as well as permission to find out who you are

Links to resources:

If you weren't able to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit? You can purchase a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

I mentioned and highly recommend a superb queer coach and counselor - Samantha Fox:

Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

EP28: One Wild & Precious Life: What Do YOU Plan to Do With It? Apr 11, 2022

Show notes

Robin explores the idea of change and what change means for us on our coming out journey. She talks about social conditioning as it relates to how we formed our roles in life and how we have lived our whole lives under social conditioning. Robin asks the question — how do we go about living our lives now, and how do we embrace change? She also shares some quotes about change, growth, life, and strength.

In this episode, you will learn…

About the value of joining Robin's Women Loving Women and Women Helping Women weekly support groups on zoom.
Ways to purchase the recording of the Women Loving Women summit held on March 30, in case you missed it.
Staying in a space that is safe, familiar, and comfortable is not necessarily 'living'.
Learning to come out of your comfort zone and embrace change.
Living life as an adventure and being true to yourself, so you can thrive, not just survive.
The need to address and expose homophobia, social conditioning, and heteronormativity if we want to see less of it.
Personal growth is not a matter of learning new information but of unlearning old limits.
Change is inevitable, but there are also opportunities for growth and progress.

Links to resources:

Weren't able to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit? You can purchase a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP27: Coming Out Late AND Trans! Apr 04, 2022

Show notes

Robin talks with Holly and JJ about what it means to be transgender, the challenges of navigating relationships and gender reassignment, and why being honest with yourself and embracing who you are should always come first.

In this episode, you will learn…

Holly’s experience of feeling like a prisoner in her body and what it means to be transgender
The importance of a supportive and accepting environment for transgender children
Being in a double-closet and underdressing to alleviate pain of gender dysphoria
Understanding which terms represent gender identity
Holly’s heterosexual relationships and feeling like an imposter
What it was like for Holly to finally come out as transgender at age 50
Gender reassignment and gender affirmation surgeries
Reflecting on coming out: Don’t worry about the reaction of others, fear manifests in many ways, don’t try to hide it because it’s not going to change
Encouragement to be open to possibilities when it comes to your sexuality
The joy of transitioning and being accepted for who you truly are
The importance of being upfront about your identity after you come out
Advice for those worried about coming out to lean into your authentic self
Everybody’s body is different, medical support is crucial for your transition journey

Links to resources:

JJ (Jessica Jarrard), Licensed Mental Health Counselor. Owner of Rainbow Counseling & Consultation, a group private practice serving the LGBTQ community. www.rainbowcounselingservices.com

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Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP26: Coming Out Late Confusion - Can You Relate? Mar 28, 2022

Show notes

Robin addresses the common confusion many feel after coming out late and reminds us why it’s never too late to live a life full of love, authenticity, and support…

In this episode, you will learn…

Encouragement to attend the Women Loving Women weekly meetings and upcoming Speaker Summit on March 30th
Coming out late doesn’t negate your previous heteronormative life or relationships
Recognizing what it’s like having a supportive spouse you don’t want to hurt
We’re not on this earth to be mediocre; we’re meant to have adventures and love our lives and love ourselves
Understanding what other people think and feel about us in none of our business
Put yourself first and know your family can be configured however you want it
Suggestions for getting help via support groups and therapists or coaches
Coming out late isn’t wrong; you’re going to feel pain and guilt so make your apologies and move on

Links to resources:

Register to attend the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit on March 30th. FIVE LGBTQ+ Coaches and Counselors will be speaking with us about all-things coming out and being gay and how to handle the stress and anxiety of it all! Can't attend? You can reserve a copy of the audio recording for $27 by emailing Robin the word "AUDIO" to Comingoutlater@gmail.com. If you CAN attend, here is the Link to Register: https://calendly.com/womenlovingwomen/women-loving-women-speaker-summit

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP25: Are You Curious, Questioning, and Coming Out? An Interview w/Samantha Fox Mar 21, 2022

Show notes

Sexuality Coach and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Samantha Fox speaks with Robin about her coming out late journey, helpful advice for managing family challenges after coming out, and why it’s okay to be curious about your sexuality.

In this episode, you will learn…

Samantha’s experience of coming out late at the age of 32 in 2002
How 9/11 prepared Samantha for her coming out late catalyst
Being in the best place you can ever be while being in the worst place you can be
Advice for managing emotions and relationships when you don’t get to see your kids every day after coming out
Life after divorce: Going back to school, finding her tribe, and dating challenges
How shared experiences can help you feel less threatened
Addressing the shame, guilt, and anxiety of coming out late
How curiosity can help break the chains of compulsory heterosexuality
Recognizing we are born with seven core emotions, including sexual excitement
Letting yourself be curious and understanding every journey is different
Details about Samantha’s coaching programs

Connect with my Guest, Samantha Fox:

Website: https://www.curiousquestioningandcomingout.com

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lesbiancuriositycoach

Insta: https://www.instagram.com/curiousquestioningcomingout/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCugZWOUuPKEtdXQndioSbYQ

Links to resources:

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP24: Coming Out Late Interview w/Sarah Ott Mar 14, 2022

Show notes

Life coach Sarah Ott joins Robin to shed light on her own coming out late experience and why she believes in the power of authenticity and being the best version of yourself.

In this episode, you will learn…

How Sarah grew up feeling like she just always felt different
Following the path she thought she should but still feeling unfulfilled
Deconstructing her religious programming and connecting the dots about her sexuality
Shifting from couples therapy to individual therapy to coming out
Why it’s so important to listen to your body and stop ignoring what you feel
How Sarah is the best version of herself now, even after she finally broke
Letting fear go and the difference between surviving and thriving
Sarah’s experience of keeping her divorce separate from her sexuality
Sarah’s current relationship status and what led her to start a coaching business
The power of being aligned to fulfill our purpose in authenticity

Links to resources:

Sarah Ott - Email: sarah@sarahottcoaching.com

Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/sarahottcoaching

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahottcoaching/

Website: sarahottcoaching.com

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

EP23: Women Loving Women Speaker Summit & Online Dating Red-Flags Mar 07, 2022

Show notes

Happy Birthday to Women Loving Women! Robin shares exciting news about the upcoming Speaker Summit, opportunities to be a guest on the Coming Out Late podcast, and helpful advice for online dating and long distance relationships.

In this episode, you will learn…

Happy 1 Year to Women Loving Women!
Top 3% news and request for podcast sponsors, logos, and branding ideas
Details about the Women Loving Women Speaker Summit
Addressing internalized homophobia and how it impacted Robin’s life
Upcoming podcast topics and call for parents willing to have their children on the show
Red flags of online dating apps and how to avoid scammers
Questions about long distance relationships and advice for managing them

Links to resources:

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

EP22: An Interview w/ Dawn Noble, PACT Therapist & Late Bloomer Feb 28, 2022

Show notes

Robin talks with late bloomer Dawn Noble about the influence of her religious upbringing, how she finally embraced who she really is and the loving relationship she’s found now, and details about her work helping other couples connect with PACT therapy.

In this episode, you will learn…

How being raised with 12 siblings in a Latter Day Saints home impacted her
How Purity culture taught her to keep her cards to herself about being gay
Confessing her first gay experience and then abstaining from women for 10 years
What led Dawn to eventually pursue the life she wanted for herself
Rushing into her first gay marriage and balancing joy and grief
Setting boundaries, shifting into a new relationship and healing her inner child
Remembering you don’t have the power to change anybody but yourself
How PACT therapy differs from other forms of therapy
Understanding relationships require agreements that allow you to connect, disconnect, and repair so resentment doesn’t stay
Recognizing your partner’s triggers: the bigger the response, the older the wound

Links to resources:

Dawn Noble Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/Dawnanoble/

Click here to book a FREE 15-minute Consultation with Dawn: https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=24623606

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

EP21: An Interview: Coming Out Late w/Late Bloomer Kristie Brassard Feb 21, 2022

Show notes

Robin welcomes late bloomer Kristie Brassard to share her exploration of being gay, coming out late, and living a life of authentic love.

In this episode, you will learn…

Kristie’s experience of growing up with a lack of representation
Recognizing the complicated programming of what we think we should want in life
Kristie’s research phase of being gay and coming out to her therapist
Acknowledging the support and guilt Kristie felt during her separation
Mental gymnastics of coming out and why you should grieve your past life
Understanding your transformation will have pain, but beautiful things can come from it
Give yourself permission to feel your feelings and honor them
How moving through discomfort led Kristie to the genuine, authentic life she has now
Reminder that you’re never too old and it’s never too late

Links to resources:

Kristie’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lateinlifeguide/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thelateinlifeguide

Website: https://lateinlifeguide.com/

https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglass

Robin coaches women coming out late in life in small group sessions AND 1:1. Email her to book your first session: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.

Join our private FB Group: Coming Out Late Community at: www.facebook.com/groups/comingoutlatecommunity/

Want to come to a WOMEN LOVING WOMEN support group? Email me "WLW" to: Comingoutlater@gmail.com and I will send you the Zoom ID & PW / Link.

Julia Ruiz Hoffman, Founder of Bloomers Society, a safe community to gather and meet other women who are also coming out later in life: https://www.bloomerssociety.com

Melisa and Alli of The Lesbian Chronicles Podcast found wherever you listen to podcasts!

Want to book a 1:1 Mentoring Session with me about anything and everything related to Coming Out Late? Send me an email with the word: HELP and we'll schedule you in immediately!!

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