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The Power of Mindset: Unlocking Your Next Level Jan 29, 2025

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At the highest levels of success, it's not your talent, resources, or strategy that holds you back—it's your mindset. In this episode, we explore how mastering your mindset unlocks your full potential and helps you step into your upleveled identity.

You'll hear Emma's story—a high performer who had everything she needed to land her dream job, except the full on belief that she could. We'll break down the invisible ceiling that fear and doubt create and share the exact steps to start embodying your next-level self today.

If you've ever held back because success wasn't guaranteed, this episode is for you.

You'll learn:

Why mindset is your greatest asset at the top levels of success.
The invisible ceiling keeping ambitious women stuck.
How to create and embody a mental picture of your next-level self.

Resources:

Regulated: A self-paced course designed to help high achievers understand their unique nervous system and create a personalized Calm AF plan.
The SOL Session: Don't Jump!: The Speed Of Life Sessions are there for you when you need in the moment coaching. This one's for you is you find yourself trying not to jump in and fix people's moods, problems, energy. Get coached so you don't jump in their hole. Two powerful audios. Immediate results. Lasting change.
The Upgrade: Upgrade to 12 weeks of personalized Voxer support to implement what you've learned with direct guidance from me.
Private Coaching: High-touch, tailored support for ambitious achievers ready to thrive without burning out.

How To Stop Fixing Everyone Else's Problems Jan 22, 2025

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Are you exhausted from constantly fixing everyone else's problems? Do you feel like your calm depends on everyone else being okay? In this episode, we're tackling the habit of jumping into the "dysregulation hole" and learning how to stay grounded instead.

You'll discover:

What the dysregulation hole is and why you keep jumping in.
The real cost of always fixing other people's problems.
How to disrupt the cycle and reclaim your energy.

Plus, I've created a special Speed of Life Coaching Session to go along with this episode. It includes a quick, no-fluff coaching session for when you're about to jump in, and a deeper dive episode to help you encounter fewer holes to begin with.

Click here to grab your Speed of Life Coaching Session for $22

Resources:

The SOL Session: Don't Jump!: Tired of jumping into everyone else's chaos and losing sight of your own goals? The SOL Session: How to Stop Jumping in the Hole gives you the tools to pause, ground yourself, and lead with calm instead. Two powerful audios. Immediate results. Lasting change.

–Regulated is a self-paced online course to help you understand your unique nervous system and create a plan that works for YOU to get and stay calm AF. Get it now before the price goes up.

– The Upgrade is 90 days of personalized support. Using Voxer (a voice/text messaging app) you can ask for help and I will give you direct guidance to help you navigate challenges and implement what you're learning (during coaching hours on Tuesday-Thursday) . It's flexible, practical, and designed to meet you where you are. If you're ready to bridge the gap between self-paced learning and individualized coaching, The Upgrade is the perfect place to start.

– Bespoke, private coaching is for those who want direct, no-fluff guidance tailored specifically to their challenges and goals. No sifting through content, no generalized advice—just personalized coaching that gets straight to the heart of what you need to move forward with clarity and confidence. If you're doing big things and you just want to get what you need and get back to it, private coaching is for you. Referral or application only.

Why High Achievers Experience Burnout (And How to Fix It) Jan 08, 2025

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Burnout isn't just about being tired—it's about being stuck in a cycle of overdrive and collapse that drains your energy, erodes your confidence, and leaves you feeling like no amount of rest will ever be enough.

This morning, a client shared a story that perfectly captured the heart of this struggle, and it was so powerful I scrapped my original recording of this episode to include it.

In this episode, I'll share her transformational journey of breaking the burnout cycle—not by doing less or trying harder, but by completely shifting the energy behind her ambition. We'll explore:

Why burnout happens to ambitious people.
How fear-driven ambition keeps you stuck in survival mode.
The real costs of staying in the burnout loop—on your energy, confidence, creativity, and joy.
What happens when you break the cycle and step into aligned ambition.

If you've ever felt like time off leaves you just as exhausted as when you started, or if you're constantly swinging between pushing too hard and completely shutting down, this episode is for you.

Discover how to recalibrate your energy, regulate your nervous system, and create a life where rest and productivity coexist effortlessly.

Resources

– Private Coaching: For the most high-touch, personalized support, private coaching offers direct access to me, tailored to your life's biggest challenges and opportunities. Together, we'll keep you regulated, focused, and powerful as you create lasting transformation in your marriage, career, or personal growth. Private coaching is available by application or referral. Click here to apply for 2025.

– Regulated is a self-paced course designed for high-level achievers who want to deeply understand their unique nervous system and craft a personalized plan to stay Calm AF, no matter what life throws at them.

– For those ready to take it further, you can upgrade to Mastering Calm AF, which includes 12 weeks of personalized support via Voxer. This ensures you have direct access to me as you implement what you learn in the course, navigate challenges, and create lasting transformation.

What to Leave Behind in 2024: Upgrade Your Energy for 2025 Jan 01, 2025

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Happy New Year!

How FUN to start the day with a brand new episode for a brand new year!

BUT…

This isn't another episode about resolutions or "New Year, New You."

Because the new year doesn't need a new you.

It needs the real you—calm, aligned, and ready to create the life you truly want.

But before we step into that energy, there's some baggage to leave behind.

In this episode, I'm naming the sh*t you need to leave in 2024 so you can level up your energy in 2025. We'll cover:

The 7 patterns, beliefs, and habits holding you back (looking at you, perfectionism and overthinking).
Why regulation, resilience, and rewiring are the keys to creating real success.
How slowing down and aligning your energy leads to faster, more fulfilling results.

This year, your goals will be a natural byproduct of living from a regulated, empowered state. No hustle, no grind—just calm, aligned progress.

Tune in now to learn how to leave behind what no longer serves you and step into the real you in 2025.

✨ Ready to take this work deeper? My course Regulated is here to help you master your energy, build resilience, and create lasting change. Check it out now while the pre-launch price is still available!

Let's make 2025 the year of clarity, confidence, and alignment.

You are here to live a life that feels as good as it looks. No more settling for less.

–Regulated is a self-paced online course to help you understand your unique nervous system and create a plan that works for YOU to get and stay calm AF. Get it now before the price goes up.

– Mastering Calm AF is where you take what you learn in the Regulated course and move from knowing to implementing. Over 12 weeks, you'll receive weekly guidance and my direct support through Voxer during coaching hours, ensuring you don't get stuck at the points where you'd typically give up. This program is designed to help you create lasting change and confidently navigate your journey from unsure and anxious to calm and confident.

– If you're looking for the most high-touch, personalized support, private coaching is for you. This is coaching at the speed of life—tailored entirely to you, with direct access to me as you navigate the challenges and opportunities that matter most. Whether it's your marriage, career, or personal growth, we'll work together to keep you regulated, focused, and powerful as you create lasting transformation. Private coaching is by application or referral. Click here to apply for a spot in 2025.

Success and Ambition Without Burnout: How to Achieve and Thrive Dec 18, 2024

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Can you be ambitious AND calm? Can you be a high performer without burning out?

In this episode of Calm AF, I'm sharing the exact principles I teach my high-performance clients so they can keep striving, keep growing, and actually thrive—without burning out.

Resources:

Regulated: A step-by-step guide to mastering your nervous system, transforming how you respond to stress, and finding more calm and clarity in your daily life.

Mastering Calm AF: If you want to take what you learn in Regulated and ensure you don't just learn but apply it, this 12-week program provides accountability, real-time support through Voxer access, and guidance to help you stay on track and navigate challenges as they arise.

Private Coaching: Personalized, high-level support designed to meet you exactly where you are and guide you toward greater clarity, regulation, and alignment. Private mentorship will be a great fit for you if you have worked with me in the past or you have a healthy understanding my coaching style. This is by application only.

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Breaking the Overthinking Spiral: The Path to Aligned Action Dec 11, 2024

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Overthinking feels productive—it's like you're preparing, analyzing, and planning for every possibility. But in reality, it's a mental trap that keeps you stuck, drains your energy, and erodes your confidence.

In this episode, we're diving into why overthinking happens, how it sabotages your progress, and—most importantly—how to break free. You'll hear the story of a high-achieving client who struggled with perfectionism and overthinking and learn the practical steps to shift from analysis paralysis to aligned action.

What You'll Learn:

The surprising reason your brain defaults to overthinking—and why it feels so hard to stop.
The real cost of overthinking, from lost momentum to shattered confidence.
Simple, actionable steps to regulate your nervous system and start moving forward with clarity.

If you've been stuck in a loop of second-guessing, hesitation, and mental gymnastics, this episode will give you the tools to take the next aligned step toward your goals.

Resources Mentioned:

Regulated: A self-paced online course to help you understand your nervous system and create a personalized Calm AF plan. Course launches 12/12.
Mastering Calm AF: A 3-month program with course content and personalized support from me. Access to course begins 12/12/24 with accountability and personalized support beginning 1/9/25
1:1 Coaching: High-level, tailored support for ambitious high performers who want to embody their drive AND enjoy their success.

The Competitive Edge Nobody Talks About: Emotional Regulation Dec 04, 2024

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Discover why emotional regulation is the ultimate competitive advantage in Episode 303 of Calm AF. In this episode, we explore how staying calm under pressure transforms your leadership, relationships, and personal growth. Learn why the calmest person in the room holds the most power, and how emotional regulation can help you build trust, process feedback effectively, and achieve faster, better results in every area of your life.

What you'll learn in this episode:

Why fear-based leadership doesn't work in the long run—and how calm leaders get bigger results.
How emotional regulation helps you handle feedback without spiraling or snapping.
The ripple effect of calm: How your energy impacts the people around you.
Simple tools to build emotional regulation and stay grounded in high-pressure situations.

If you're ready to unlock the power of calm and use it as your secret weapon for success, tune in now.

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The Ripple Effect of Regulation Nov 27, 2024

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In this episode, we're diving into the power of a regulated presence and why it's the most game-changing skill you can develop.

You'll learn:

Why your peace doesn't depend on controlling others.
The difference between performative calm and true regulation.
How staying regulated creates a ripple effect that impacts everyone around you.

Plus, I'll share practical tools to start regulating your nervous system today and explain why your nervous system will resist these changes—and how to override that resistance.

If you're ready to stop managing everyone else's energy and start stepping into your own, tune in now.

kristenfinch.com

From Overwhelm to Calm: How to Stay Regulated in a Dysregulated World Nov 20, 2024

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Sometimes, the most powerful move you can make is to stop.

In this episode, I'm sharing what I learned during a months-long pause from my usual routines, including how letting go of the old ways of working revealed a new, more aligned path forward. I'll take you behind the scenes of why I had to cancel everything—except 1:1 client work—and how that shift transformed not only my business but also how I live and coach.

This episode is an invitation to pause, recalibrate, and step into a new era of intentional, powerful living.

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300 Episodes: Embracing the Shift to What's Next Jun 26, 2024

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As we move forward, I want you to imagine how it feels to take everything we've learned from these 300 episodes and let it integrate within you. You don't need to carry the weight of constantly seeking more information. You are ready. You are equipped with all the tools and knowledge needed to move freely and lightly. Get ready for a big shift.

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