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Soul Tired? The Real Reason You Feel Emotionally Exhausted Mar 02, 2022

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Feeling emotionally exhausted, mentally drained, and physically depleted even when you are doing "all the right things"? In this episode, the host explores the hidden burden of being the "energetic manager" in your relationships, family, and daily life.

Through a personal story about burnout, stress, and soul-level exhaustion, this episode dives into why so many overthinkers, people pleasers, perfectionists, and high achievers feel completely overwhelmed after years of chronic stress and emotional labor. The conversation uncovers how constantly managing other people's emotions, moods, and reactions creates deep energetic exhaustion that traditional self-care alone cannot fix.

You will learn why emotional hypervigilance keeps you stuck, how the invisible workload impacts mental health, and what it means to finally step out of the role of emotional caretaker for everyone around you. This episode offers powerful insights into boundaries, emotional regulation, burnout recovery, nervous system stress, and reclaiming your own life and energy.

If you have ever felt like an empty shell, emotionally responsible for everyone around you, or unable to truly rest, this episode will help you feel seen and understood.

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In This Episode

The difference between physical exhaustion and energetic exhaustion
Why chronic stress can show up in the body even when you "feel fine"
The hidden emotional labor many women carry every day
What it means to be the "energetic manager" in relationships and families
How overthinking, perfectionism, and people pleasing create burnout
Why traditional self-care may not solve emotional exhaustion
The connection between hypervigilance and feeling soul tired
How to stop managing everyone else's emotions
Learning to tolerate discomfort without fixing everything for others
Reclaiming your energy, boundaries, and emotional well-being

Being Hard On Yourself Isn't Helping...It's Hurting (05/13/2020) Feb 23, 2022

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We all have an inner voice that chatters away in our heads. For most of us, that voice is not the nicest. It's not pointing out our successes or our potential or our strengths. It's pointing out our flaws, rehashing mistakes, generally being a Mean Girl. In this throwback episode, we talk all about the talk. Apply to work with me at kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

Calming Down by Lightening Up Feb 16, 2022

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Lighten up - that's the doctor's orders. Published research by Dr. Karyn Purvis shows that, typically, it takes about 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain. Which means we have to practice a thought 400 times before it becomes a belief or second-nature. BUT. When play is involved, that same synapse will develop over on 10 to 20 repetitions. So, today we're talking about lightening the f**k up while you learn to calm the f**k down. Apply for RewiredAF at kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf

Recognizing and Remediating ALL-OR-NOTHING Thinking Feb 09, 2022

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In my experience, one of the greatest obstacles to achieving goals, manifesting outcomes, living a life you WANT to live every day, is what I call all-or-nothing thinking. You *have* to stop that sh!t if you want to get anywhere. Today's episode is all about it. Check out kristenfinch.com for more good stuff.

Throwback: How to Be Your TRUE Self (01/13/21) Feb 02, 2022

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What is my purpose? It's a question I hear ALL the time. And most people think it's a really deep question with a big answer. But I think it's super simple. Your purpose is to BE the realest, most authentic YOU, you can be. The problem? You've learned SO much about who you *should* be, and what you're *supposed* to look like. Today I'm diving in and sharing: ~ True Self vs Learned Self ~ Why becoming your True Self requires UNLEARNING and REWIRING ~ How to figure out who the TRUE you actually is

A Tiger Doesn't Apologize for Her Stripes Jan 26, 2022

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If you don't feel worthy being who you REALLY are - your most authentic and aligned self - you will find yourself feeling exhausted, resentful, depressed, anxious. In this episode, we dive into why that is, and what to do about it.

Break Old Habits and Rewire a Mindset that Sticks Jan 19, 2022

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Are you stuck repeating the same patterns, even though you know they're not getting you where you want to go? In this episode, we break down the #1 mistake people make when trying to change their mindset and manifest a new reality—and how to fix it.

Using powerful, relatable analogies (like choosing between a familiar road and a new one), you'll learn why your brain keeps pulling you back into old stories and limiting beliefs—and what it actually takes to rewire those neural pathways for good.

This episode dives into the science of how habits and thoughts are formed, why discomfort is a necessary part of growth, and how to stop "indulging in the familiar" so you can finally move forward.

If you're ready to stop overanalyzing your old thoughts and start building new ones that actually support your goals, this episode will give you a simple, actionable framework to follow.

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Creating Your Legacy Jan 12, 2022

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What legacy will I leave? What legacy do I WANT to leave? What do I hope people say about me when I'm gone? I really want people to say the same things about me that they are saying about Bob Saget. This is truly the weirdest episode ever and that is not something I ever thought would come out of my mouth. But grab a coffee and hear me out. And. Go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to apply for my upcoming January retreat.

Find Your Community Jan 06, 2022

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If the people you are surrounded by aren't lifting you up, cheering you on, dusting you off, laughing with you, celebrating with you, loving on you…FIND NEW PEOPLE. The people in your life will either elevate you or keep you where you are. It's time to surround yourself with the best. If you don't have this group, CREATE it. Go to https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredaf to find your people.

My Quantum-Leap Year Jan 05, 2022

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Some people greet the new year with goals, others with energy-charged words or phrases. There's no wrong way to strut into 2022 as long as you're choosing to strut in INTENTIONALLY. Me I love - and I mean LOVE - goals AND words. Lighting up my 2022 is the phrase, Quantum Leap. Because quantum leaps are the essence of easy manifesting. In this episode, I'm talking all about manifesting and turbocharging results in a PRACTICAL way. And. I'm taking applications for the January retreat and coaching session. Apply at https://kristenfinch.com/rewiredAF

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