Calm AF | Overthinking, Anxiety & Nervous System Regulation

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How to Be More Consistent-ish Apr 19, 2023

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To change any habit, you must be consistent in your effort - everyone knows this. What people don't tell you is that consistent-ish is far more viable. If you want inner peace, if you want to feel more CALM in your life, you need to be relentlessly committed AND consistent-ish.

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5 Habits to Give Up to Manifest Your Future Self Apr 12, 2023

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If you want to create something new, you need to align your current daily habits with your future self's daily habits – which means dropping these bad ones.

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Slow and Steady: The Importance of Daily Habits Apr 05, 2023

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When you try to race too fast towards your Future Self, you don't give your identity a chance to catch up - so take that manifesting slow and steady, baby.

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Why You Aren't Doing the Things You Know You Should Be Doing Mar 29, 2023

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Here's something that I hear a lot: "I know the things I should be doing, Kristen. I'm just not doing them." So let's look at why that is. If you want to create something extraordinary, remember: what matters the MOST is how you show up in your day-to-day life. If you're not showing up for your future self every day, then you're not doing the things you know you should be doing.

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Calm AF Decluttering Series: Emotional Clutter Mar 22, 2023

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In Part 3 of the Calm AF decluttering series, we are talking about emotional clutter. Emotions are energy that's created and stored inside your body, energy that physically interacts with your chemistry, your organs, your cells – best to keep emotional clutter to a minimum. In fact, if you are tending to physical and mental clutter without managing your emotional clutter, then you're really only surface-cleaning.

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Calm AF Decluttering Series: Mental Clutter Mar 15, 2023

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In Part 2 of the Calm AF decluttering series, we are talking about mental clutter. Most people don't think about clutter being something that accumulates in the mind. But we think thousands of thoughts every day, and not all those thoughts serve us. In this episode, I give you actions that you can do on your own to get the mental decluttering ball rolling.

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Calm AF Decluttering Series: Physical Clutter Mar 08, 2023

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The physical clutter in your living and working spaces is impacting your energy; the calm AF approach to decluttering is an act of self love. It's a thing you do FOR yourself because of how it makes you feel, because you deserve to feel SUPPORTED, because – while the tidiness of your house has NOTHING to do with your worthiness – it sure feels good to have a nice space to relax in. In this episode, I give you the three steps to decluttering the Calm AF way.

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Curiosity Mar 01, 2023

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Curiosity lightens EVERYTHING up because it isn't looking for ONE definitive RIGHT answer. Curiosity is all about wonder. Curiosity is playfully looking for options. Curiosity is going to help you reconnect with who you really are, what you like, what you don't like, what you want, what you don't want. So you gotta put on your curiosity glasses. Put those sparkly lenses on and look around at all the things and just ASK QUESTIONS.

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How to Stop a Thought Spin-Out Feb 22, 2023

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Let's talk about thought spin-outs. This is when one anxious fear thought shows up, and before you can grab the thought to manage it, it's already spun off to another thought – and another thought and another thought. Thought spinouts feel like anxiety, they feel out of control.

Most of the time in a spin out, the thoughts are fast and furious. They feel very very urgent and very very true and your sympathetic nervous system is like "looks like we've got a major emergency happening….let's shut off all the higher level thinking and just survive here."

Once that sympathetic nervous system is activated, the thoughts aren't in your control. Not until your body signals that the emergency is over. Today, I'm sharing how to regain control in the middle of a spin-out and stay calm AF.

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Why Self Love Feels So Hard (Throwback!) Feb 15, 2023

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I hear it all the time: "I *get* the concept of self love...it just feels hard."

Of COURSE it does. You were born into and have bought into a society that persistently teaches you that you aren't enough. You have been taught since childhood that getting the approval of others is what decided whether you were worthy. And you have been taught that other people's opinions matter more than yours.

Of COURSE it feels hard...it's like learning a brand new language. The good news is...if you can learn a new language you can learn self love. The trick is baby steps:

1. Acceptance of what IS

2. Self LIKE and/or appreciation

3. Self love

It IS possible. You can like yourself and your life.

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