Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

Latest Episodes:

I think I'm trauma bonded. Now what? How do I start my healing? Dec 05, 2022

Show notes

Trauma bonds are painful connection with another person that is based on fear. There’s an addictive quality making them very hard to break.

In this episode, we will briefly define a trauma bond and then identify the initial steps to breaking one.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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This podcast/video is for educational purposes only. It does not constitute therapy, counseling, or professional mental health advice, nor does listening create a doctor-patient or therapist-client relationship. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 911 or contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988 (US/Canada).

Is it healthy to obsess over my past narcissistic partner and what happened to me? Dec 01, 2022

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It’s become popular to spend time thinking about psychopathic and narcissistic abuses—for us to obsess over what’s happened to us.

In this episode, we’ll explore whether this way of thinking is good for us and how to tell if we’re falling into unhealthiness as we try to make sense of the

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

How do I combat my partner turning every issue into a "me" problem? Nov 28, 2022

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Have you heard of the acronym DARVO? It’s a nasty type of gaslighting that flips the script and attacks us when we bring up an issue.

In this episode, we will address the underlying dynamic of this abusive practice along with the three steps to combatting it effectively.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

How do I rebuild trust in myself after surviving narcissistic abuse? Nov 21, 2022

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It’s tough when you first leave a narcissistically abusive relationship. Your partner has made most of the decision, and over time, you’ve given up more and more of yourself, betraying yourself and your sense of safety. How is trust rebuilt?

In this episode, we will examine why reclaiming our self-integrity and relying on our intuition is challenging, along with a few practical steps to begin your healing.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

What people don’t understand about abuse and why it’s hard to leave a toxic relationship Nov 17, 2022

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The most common, useless advice given to victims is just to leave. Why do we say this when we know it’s hurtful and probably, not useful?

In this episode, we will examine the underlying biases and assumptions about abuse and abuse victims. Why there’s a cultural blindness to victims’ plight and how it leads us to neglect this most vulnerable group.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Should we blame victims for not spotting the signs they've met a dangerous person? Nov 14, 2022

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I recently started reading a book that’s been around a while—Neil Strauss’ book called The Game, though he’s since come out against the practices described in it. It’s all about his experiences of learning how to manipulate women sexually through post-hypnotic suggestions and other psychologically manipulative strategies. Despite knowing there are online resources and groups encouraging predatory behavior, we tend to hold victims responsible for the abuse.

In this episode, we will take a closer look at the dynamics of abuse and the responsibility for the abusive & predatory behavior.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Why can't I leave my partner? The seven stages of a trauma bond Nov 10, 2022

Show notes

Have you heard of the term “trauma bond?” It’s a condition similar to being brainwashed by Stockholm’s Syndrome. Victims recovering from narcissistic abuse liken the breaking of a trauma bond to overcoming a heroin addiction.

In this podcast episode, we will cover the seven stages of a trauma bond and how to begin recovery.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

What quality did I miss when I got into a relationship with a toxic person? Nov 07, 2022

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Every victim wants to know how they got into a toxic or dangerous relationship. Was there an early sign of danger that they missed? Were they too trusting, gullible, or naive? Most victims have been accused of being codependent. What does research have to say?

In this episode, we will dig deeper into this topic, particularly Sandra L. Brown’s groundbreaking research into the dynamics of pathological love relationships. What personality qualities made us predator’s target, and how can we protect ourselves better? Speaking of Sandra Brown, I’ll be interviewing her live Thursday evening. There are still a few remaining tickets to that event. This interview will debunk many commonly held myths about victims. Find out the truth about predatory behavior and pathological love relationships. Get your tickets through the link in the show notes. And if you’re hearing this after November 10, no worries. You can still purchase the video replay to keep in your library of mental health resources.

Book: Women Who Love Psychopaths

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Is it too much masculine energy for women to protect their boundaries? Nov 03, 2022

Show notes

On social media, it’s gotten popular to discuss masculine and feminine energy. Boundaries have come under attack as something masculine.

In this episode, we will define what a personal boundary is and what makes healthy and unhealthy. We’ll also touch on why cheating happens in narcissistic and non-narcissistic relationships.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Could chronic stress or trauma be making me sick? Oct 31, 2022

Show notes

Why are we surprised that there is a mind-body connection? That what we experience, like abuse, will affect us physiologically?

We cover a lot of ground in this episode, including how we see the world blinds us from recognizing dangerous people, the possibility of having narcissism and other mental health conditions, and defining dog-whistling when it comes to abuse.

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