Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse

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How Narcissistic Abuse Could Cost You Your Identity: The Dangers of Echoism Sep 30, 2024

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Are you speaking up less? Fawning more? There’s a high cost to living with a narcissist, and it could be your identity.
This week, Lynn Strathdee, psychodynamic therapist, joins me to discuss echoism, the true opposite personality style to narcissism. She shares how fawning could result in a loss of our very self.
To learn more about Lynn’s work:
Website: https://www.echoismrecovery.com
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theechochamber?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc
Lynn Strathdee is a dedicated psychodynamic therapist with a passion for helping adults recover from narcissistic abuse. Armed with a degree in Psychodynamic Counselling, a Master's in French Translation, and a Post Graduate Certificate in Education, Lynn combines her rich educational background with extensive therapeutic expertise.
Lynn specializes in working with "echoists"—individuals whose identities have been profoundly impacted by narcissistic relationships. Understanding their unique struggles, she employs a blend of self-psychology and psycho-education to guide her clients toward reclaiming their sense of self and living fulfilling lives.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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This podcast/video is for educational purposes only. It does not constitute therapy, counseling, or professional mental health advice, nor does listening create a doctor-patient or therapist-client relationship. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call 911 or contact the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by calling or texting 988 (US/Canada).

How Relationships Become Dangerous: The Slow Shift from Toxic to Deadly Sep 23, 2024

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Dangerous relationships rarely begin physically abusive. Initially, you think you’ve met a fantastic partner, but slowly, the toxicity turns into something more insidious and lethal.
Trigger warning: this week, Lisa Sonni and I share vulnerable details of how we missed the early signs of danger in our narcissistic relationships.
IF YOU ARE A RISK of immediate danger or abuse, please get in touch with the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233.
References: Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft https://amzn.to/4e505fw
Blind to Betrayal by Jennifer Freyd https://amzn.to/4d3xwxW
Ro’s TikTok warning video: https://www.tiktok.com/@_rollercoasteroflove/video/7397857556867271942?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7413141517819479583
Am I the a-hole for divorcing my husband TikTok video: https://www.tiktok.com/@comfortlevelpodcast/video/7404870008377150766?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7413141517819479583

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

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Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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If You're in a Narcissistic Relationship, Why Couples Therapy is a Bad Idea Sep 16, 2024

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When there’s trouble in a relationship, most couples are urged to seek couples counseling.
In today’s episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why this suggestion is a terrible idea if your partner is a narcissist. Too many couples therapists lack the education to identify narcissistic abuse, and narcissistic and toxic partners are highly sophisticated at manipulating the therapeutic process.
For help breaking a trauma bond, see Lisa’s resources: https://strongerthanbefore.ca

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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Why Narcissists Have Problems with Being Securely Attached to You Sep 09, 2024

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What’s the connection between attachment styles and narcissism? This week, Dr. Erin Leonard, a practicing psychotherapist, joins me to discuss the common problems narcissists have with emotional intelligence and creating secure connections with others. She’s recently authored How to Outsmart a Narcissist, where she describes the best ways to protect ourselves from narcissists’ efforts to manipulate and exploit.

More about Dr. Leonard:

BOOK- How to Outsmart a Narcissist: Use Emotional Intelligence to Regain Control at Home, at Work, and in Life by Erin Leonard:
WEBSITE
PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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Dr. Carter's Best Advice About Narcissists That Every Survivor Needs to Know Sep 02, 2024

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Have you wondered what a narcissist was thinking? Why would they do what they do? Do they intentionally know they were being cruel?
This week, I’m going to re-release an interview I did with Dr. Carter in 2023. In it, he gave a unique perspective on the narcissist’s mindset and explained their worldview and defensiveness. Learn how they so effectively turn the tables on us, making us think we’re the crazy ones.
Stay safe this week! I look forward to having you back for our new episode featuring psychologist Dr Erin Leonard next week. She will be joining us to discuss resiliency, vulnerability, and attachment problems with narcissists.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

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Why Family Court Too Often Takes the Side of the Narcissistic Abuser Aug 26, 2024

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Have you noticed that too off family court becomes just another battle ground for the narcissist?
Lisa Sonni joins me this week to discuss post-separation of abuse. Most of us passionately want to protect our children from our toxic ex only to experience more helplessness in the mediation and courtrooms.
Resources Referenced:
Emotionally Bulletproof Kids
https://strongerthanbefore.ca/webinar-bulletproof-kids
When Dad Hurts Mom by Lundy Bancroft: https://amzn.to/3Xbg8mj
Angela - Family Court Corner: https://www.familycourtcorner.com

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Why Most People, Including the Victim, Fail to Recognize Narcissistic Abuse Aug 19, 2024

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Are you being abused and don’t know it? Not only is society blind to narcissistic abuse, but so are most victims.
In this episode, Lisa Sonni joins me to talk about why narcissistic abuse is so difficult to spot, even to the victims, and the role this plays in the difficulty of getting help.
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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Bill Eddy's Best Advice For Dealing with Narcissistic Bullies Aug 12, 2024

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Every person who has dealt with a narcissist has been bullied.
This week, expert and author Bill Eddy joins me to discuss what we get wrong about bullying behavior and the practical steps we all should take to better protect ourselves from antagonistic and vindictive people.
To learn more about Bill Eddy and his work, visit: https://highconflictinstitute.com
And be sure to check out his latest book, Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them - How to Stop Them: https://amzn.to/3Abr0r3

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

Why Sometimes It Feels Wrong or Immoral to Leave a Narcissist Aug 05, 2024

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Leaving is a moral choice. Often, breaking up or divorce is viewed as a personal choice, but it has ramifications and is character-defining.
Rossana Faye joins me this week to discuss why sometimes it becomes a moral dilemma to leave our narcissistic partner. Deciding to divorce is often not as clear-cut for many of us.

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Resources

The Complete Recovery Collection: Narcissistic abuse resources
First Steps to Leaving: Online self-paced digital course
Toxic-Free Relationship Club: Live coaching & community support

Follow Kerry!

Kerry Kerr McAvoy, Ph.D., an author and educator, helps listeners decode toxic dynamics, recognize manipulation, and rebuild self-trust.

As an Amazon affiliate, commission is earned from qualifying purchases.

When Your Partner is a Narcissist, Why the Term "Narcissistic" Matters Jul 29, 2024

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These days, it seems like everyone is a narcissist. Is the label of narcissist or narcissistic harmful or helpful?
This week, Lisa Sonni joins me to discuss the importance and impact of identifying narcissistic abuse and dysfunctional relationship dynamics.

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