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Mind f*ck me; seduce me intellectually Aug 25, 2021

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What's the first thing that comes to you when you read/hear the phrase: mind fuck me? Is it the idea of a love interest seducing you through intellectual conversation?

If you're tired of the club scene and local bar, you can attest to the yearning of wanting to deeply connect with a love interest. If you're married or in a long-term relationship, you were probably drawn to your partner because they bared all intellectually.

In this episode, the ladies discuss experiences with former partners and what their current husbands have done to stimulate them beyond the bedroom. They dive into whether single hetero men lack the patience or "know-how" to inspire a woman mentally. Times they've been attracted to someone who was not their usual "type," places single people can meet their intellectual match, and what it's like to be married and sexually aroused by their husbands' intellect.

Time Stamps:

00:11:45-What comes to mind when you hear: Mind fuck me.

00:14:14-I've always been a personality person.

00:20:00-Culturally exposed men

00:24:14-If your partner is less culturally exposed; show them.

00:29:45-Become comfortable with self, first.

00:37:53-I prefer a man that's intelligent and swaggy.

00:45:29-Sapiosexuals in marriage.

00:48:47- Being equally yoked through intelligence and curiosity.

00:51:49-Lay down your ego and pick up femininity.

00:55:25-How heterosexual men/women present themselves to the world matters.

01:00:03-Sapiosexual weaponry and triggers.

01:11:03-I'm just a lil selfish, gotta check myself.

01:14:57-Nerdy dudes been in.

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Important Shit:

-Write to us at blackwomenhealpod@gmail.com for "Healer of the Week" and share what you're healing from or have healed. It will be read on the show so that we can celebrate with you! You can also send a letter for "BWH Two-Cents” to get the ladies' two-cents and advice about the tea in your life. You'll always stay anonymous.

Toxic parents and emotionally unavailable men BWH-Two Cents Aug 20, 2021

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In this episode of BWH-Two Cents,

The ladies read and respond to TWO letters from listener-family whose identity we'll keep anonymous. In the first letter, a niece has a strenuous relationship with her dad and asks the question, how do you know when to cut off your parent or a loved one? What do I do? Do I wait for change and keep going through this toxic cycle? Or do I do what's best for me?

The second letter is about a woman who recently dated an emotionally unavailable man for a year. She states: he flipped everything on me. I just thought I could be the woman he wanted to change for...

Tune in as we unpack and Stay Busy Healing

*The ladies of BWH are not licensed, mental health therapists or counselors.*

Time Stamps:

00:01:38-The toxic father

00:25:00-The narcissistic lover

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Taking sex off the table & preparing for marriage Aug 18, 2021

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Men have started asking women, what do you bring to the table? And it seems, everyone is in an uproar about it.

In this episode, the ladies ask: do modern hetero women care what men think or expect of them or, are they entitled and demand men to accept them with their toxic flaws and all? They also discuss ways women can prepare to be a wife, commit to a long-term partnership, and do better if already married.

The bottom line is, heterosexual men, do not place degrees and earnings of a woman at the top of the "must-haves" list. Instead, their seeking companionship from women who can support them and be a help-mate. Do you have what it takes?

Time Stamps:

00:08:13-Are women offended by the question: what do you bring to the table?

00:11:44- Are high-earning men attracting shallow women?

00:17:00-Match them energies & meeting quality suitors

00:19:13-With time, they'll show you who they are

00:21:30-Learn to listen to men

00:24:20-Do women really want to know what men need/want?

00:27:00-It's the behind the scenes for me

00:35:54-How to prepare for marriage or long-term partnership

00:46:00-Y'all giving away too much of yourselves; slow the eff down

00:52:46-Spiritual shit

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Black girl daddy drama Aug 11, 2021

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Do you have a strenuous relationship with your father? Are there unanswered questions of the past that could potentially help you heal your daddy issues?

In this episode, the ladies discuss what it's like to have a broken or nonexistent bond with their dads. Also, what it's like to grow up with a father at home. Many factors come into play of what causes these connections to be dysfunctional or arduous. Sometimes our mothers are partially to blame. In other instances, a father simply lacks the emotional intelligence to love his children based on his own traumas.

Maybe you had a great relationship with your dad, and you admire him the way others wish they could; the ladies also share what that's like too. Whatever your relationship with your father looks like, BWH wants you to know that you're not alone. Unfortunately, black families in America have suffered extreme tragedies and trauma over many years. Does that excuse the bad behavior of mothers and fathers; hell no, but we have a ton of work to do and, we hope you'll join in on the movement to Stay Busy Healing.

Time Stamps:

00:05:54-Topic Begins

00:10:50- Wtf are we supposed to do?

00:14:05-Settle tf down heart; have a conversation with your old man

00:17:00-Shoutout to the grandma's of the world

00:18:05-Why can't parents just be honest?

00:21:29-You can't miss what you've never had

00:33:04-The father who shows up for his kids

00:38:00-The emotionally unavailable father

00:52:41-When unhealed manifests; healing your inner child

01:00:18-Stop with the family secrets

01:06:40-Spiritual Shit

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Holding it together and gaslighting-BWH-Two Cents Aug 06, 2021

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The ladies read and respond to a letter from a listener-friend who is in a three-year relationship with a man that ghosts her when things don't go his way. She also states that she caught him on multiple online dating sights, too many to count.

*The ladies of BWH are not licensed, mental health therapists or counselors.*

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Important Shit:

-Write to us at blackwomenhealpod@gmail.com with your questions or anonymously for BWH Two Cents with letters about your own life experiences for a possible feature on the show!!!

My husband calls me N-word B*tch during sex, please help! BWH-Two Cents Jul 30, 2021

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The ladies read and respond to a letter from a niece whose husband calls her racial slurs during sex. A kinky fetish she never consented to. She states in the letter that she is still in love with her husband, despite this issue. Niece does not want to divorce her husband. She asks the question: "how can I get him to stop with the racial slurs so that I can win back my sexual attraction to my husband, and ultimately our sex life?"

*The ladies of BWH are not licensed, mental health therapists or counselors.*

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Securing the marital bag Jul 28, 2021

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Are you single and wondering how you will handle finances in a relationship or marriage? Are you the financial saver in your relationship, but your partner likes to spend? Do you and your spouse keep your finances separate? Do you maintain a "rainy day" fund?

If you said yes to any of the above, then this episode will surely resonate. The Aunties discuss one of the top reasons couples divorce in America, finances. They delve into ways single people that live with their partner can manage household bills and feeling secure not being the breadwinner in your marriage. Ultimately it's up to you and your partner to figure out what works best for the two of you. Communication and honesty is the key to being equally yoked financially and sustaining a healthy relationship.

-00:06:00-Spiritual Shit

-00:22:00-Topic Begins

Financial Literacy Companies mentioned in the episode:

-The Wall Street Trapper

-Earn Your Leisure

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Social media killing relationships and online dating Jul 21, 2021

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Have you ever caught your partner socializing inappropriately, do you use social media as a tool to meet new people and date, or linked up with an old boo?

In this episode, the Aunties discuss the days of MySpace and Black Planet, when things were still simple and we were less emotionally attached to the online world. Their experiences with people approaching them to date online. They also discuss simple and effective ways to conduct yourself online when you're married, single, or in a relationship. Studies show that social media can have lasting effects on romantic relationships in a negative way.

Rest in Eternal Peace Uncle Biz Markie

-00:16:09-Sheena's spiritual cleanse update

-00:24:00-Is social media killing relationships studies

-00:30:00-Before social media became "deep" or emotionally invested

-00:37:00-Privacy and social media exposing people

-00:44:33-Be mindful of how you use social media

-00:45:55-Y'all ain't tired of looking at ass yet?

-00:56:00-Monetize your social media handles

-01:00:00-Online dating

-01:05:43-Stop wasting one another's time

-01:13:00- Accountability and Community

-01:16:00-Focus on the relationship

-01:30:00-In closing; get offline and be in the world

Studies on Social media and relationships:

-http://www.ibii-us.org/Journals/JESD/V2N2/Publish/V2N2_10.pdf -Institute of Business Intelligence Innovation

-Oxford academic-https://academic.oup.com/jcmc/article/16/4/511/4067649

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Important Shit:

Should I date while finishing school? Jul 16, 2021

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In this episode of BWH-Two Cents, The ladies read and respond to a letter from a niece whose identity we'll keep anonymous. She states in the letter that she is 26, currently finishing her associate's degree, and will pursue her bachelor's immediately. Niece wants to know if she should be dating while completing her education, starting a new job, and saving for a new vehicle???

*The ladies of BWH are not licensed, mental health therapists or counselors.*

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Important Shit:

Is happiness really an inside job y'all??? Jul 14, 2021

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Is happiness really an inside job y'all?

In this episode, the ladies decipher the differences between happiness and joy, the definition, causes, and how to obtain true joy and fulfillment in your life.

Bible verse mentioned:

Acts 7:48-50 King James

Acts 7:48-50 NIV

The definition of Joy and Happiness were sourced from:

1.) Psychology Today

2.)Diffen

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