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Social Media, Insecurities, and Trust: Building Resilience in Relationships | BEYOND I DO | S1E26 Mar 14, 2024

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Have you ever felt your heart skip a beat when your partner's gaze lingered a little too long on someone else? It's that uncomfortable cocktail of emotions we unpack in our latest heart-to-heart, where we tackle the gritty realities of marriage, trust, and the dreaded wandering eye. Your stories have touched us deeply, stirring a frank discussion on managing the tightrope walk of finances, trust, and personal boundaries within relationships. We're here to offer a shoulder, an ear, and our own tales of navigating these choppy waters. From TikTok vents to modesty in a social media era, we're peeling back the curtain on the delicate balance of attention and intention in our partnerships. As we share personal anecdotes and the wisdom we've picked up along the way, we confront the hard questions: What draws the line between a harmless glance and disrespect? How do we dress for ourselves without letting insecurities sneak in? And crucially, how do we communicate these intricacies with our significant others? This episode isn't just about sharing—it's about equipping you with the tools to build stronger, more resilient bonds. If the laughter and insights we've shared have brightened your day, that's all the fuel we need to keep this conversation going. So, let's journey together, forging a path through the wilderness of wedded bliss and beyond.

Don't forget to leave a comment :) -- BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSE https://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do -- Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesa https://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.ido Tik Tok @beyond.ido -- Dave Ramsey Course https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/hosts/alfcranchoca?pc=78239020 -- Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below! https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo -- We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett. How to get the exclusive discount? SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en https://bybarnett.com

From Darkness to Light: A Story of Transformation and Redemption | BTL Podcast S2E22 Mar 11, 2024

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Hey BTL Fam! For the first time joining us at the table, the man behind the scenes, help us welcome, Phil Cota!! Phil is one of Adam's closest friends and he sits with us as he shares the landscapes of past identities, near-death experiences, and the embrace of a higher purpose. We weave through stories of personal evolution where the unruly threads of previous lives entangle with the golden strands of redemption and faith. Witness the metamorphosis of individuals from gang affiliates to protectors of the flock, from club patrons to church staff members, each narrative a testament to the power of profound internal shifts. The laughter is hearty, the pastor encounters peculiar, and the bonds of brotherhood are as enduring as they are inspiring, all shared with the candor and affection that you've come to expect from us. The episode culminates with an exploration of true conversion and the role of accountability in a spiritual awakening. Specific chapters touch on the influence of mentorship, the importance of consistent practice in one's faith, and the impact of sharing wisdom with the next generation.

We close with heartfelt stories of faith's impact on community and relationships, leaving you with a reflection of your own path, and perhaps, a newfound inspiration to navigate through life's transformations with grace and determination.Join us for these stories of life, laughter, and the pursuit of a spiritual calling that reshapes everything. -- Connect with: Phil Cota https://www.instagram.com/philipcota?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFg Instagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/ Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter -- Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA -- Get to know the team: @amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/ @verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/ @nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/ @alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/ @chelsiebaham https://www.instagram.com/chelsiebaham/

Is masturbation a sin? Is there such thing as a soul mate? | BEYOND I DO | S1E25 Mar 07, 2024

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Embarking on the quest for love can often feel like navigating a maze without a map, but fear not, for we've got some light to help guide the way! Adam and Ashlee open their hearts, discussing the intricate dance of Christian dating—a journey where 'game' takes on a new, more genuine form. They tackle the myths and truths about confidence and courtship, all while reflecting on the thoughtful strategies and faith-led boundaries Adam embraced in the pursuit of his now-wife, Ashlee. It's a candid narrative of intentionality and respect, offering insight for anyone looking to find meaningful companionship without compromising their beliefs. As we wander further into the maze, we confront the enigma of defining relationships sans labels. It's a conversation many shy away from, but not us; we reveal how a transition from friendship to engagement can be seamless, sidestepping the dated boyfriend-girlfriend paradigm. We compare notes on Christian versus secular dating norms and recall personal stories of love lost and the lessons learned from relationships built on shaky foundations. This segment is an open invitation to consider the depth of connection and commitment, even if it means breaking away from the familiar. Finally, we broach the profoundly personal topic of abstinence and its profound impact on both pre-marital and marital life. Here, we explore the virtues of restraint and the spiritual framework supporting it. From the pitfalls of pornography to the importance of maintaining boundaries—even after saying 'I do'—they share their experiences, hoping to illuminate the path for others.

Whether you're single, dating, or already hitched, this discussion serves as both a guide and affirmation for anyone navigating the evolving landscape of relationships through a lens of faith.

Don't forget to leave us a review! :) -- BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSE https://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do -- Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesa https://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.ido Tik Tok @beyond.ido -- Dave Ramsey Course https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/hosts/alfcranchoca?pc=78239020 -- Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below! https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo -- We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett. How to get the exclusive discount? SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en https://bybarnett.com

"I struggle to read the bible" | Pastors Share Tips on How To Understand the Bible | BTL S2E21 Mar 04, 2024

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Have you ever read something in the bible that did not make sense at all?? If your answer was yes, don't worry, you're not alone. We have Pastor Will, Pastor Aaron and Pastor Adam who dive into an invaluable conversation about engaging with the Bible in ways that transform routine reading into a life-altering practice. In this episode discover how simple strategies and innovative tools like the Street Lights Bible app can change your scriptural experience, regardless of where you are on your faith journey. And if you've ever found yourself puzzled by the ancient texts, we shed light on resources like the Bible Project and other insights to guide your path from bewilderment to clarity in scripture study. Lastly, we take an unexpected turn into the latest "State of the Bible" report, revealing some eye-opening stats on Biblical literacy across racial lines. It's a chapter that not only challenges assumptions but also dives into the connections between race, theology, and how our unique perspectives enrich our understanding of sacred texts.Join us as we celebrate personal milestones, from weight loss achievements to the joy of receiving straightforward, honest feedback. It's an episode that promises to leave you with a fresh perspective on the intricate tapestry of culture, spirituality, and personal growth. As always, don't forget to leave a comment and share your thoughts! :) --

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Who Pays? The Unspoken Rules of Generosity in Modern Dating | BEYOND I DO | S1E24 Feb 29, 2024

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Ever found yourself reaching for the check at dinner, only to be met with a mix of gratitude and awkwardness?Adam and Ashlee open up about the delicate dance of generosity in our latest episode, where we tackle everything from dating faux pas to the intricate balance of giving without overstepping. Our conversation is a blend of humor and insight that takes you through the giving game, with stories of secret birthday meal payments and the silent 'dance' of bill-paying among friends that will leave you nodding along and chuckling at the relatable moments. Strap in as we venture through the minefield of social etiquette and financial dynamics in modern relationships. Adam shares his journey of crafting unforgettable moments amidst financial constraints, sparking a broader dialogue on work ethic and priorities that resonates whether you're single, hitched, or anywhere in between. Our chat isn't just about the laughs; it's about the heartfelt truths and shared experiences that shape how we navigate generosity, from footing the bill to supporting friends in times of need. Finally, we don't hold back when it comes to delving into traditional gender roles and their evolution in the face of contemporary dating norms. Reflecting on conservative Biblical principles and the whirlwind of modern feminism, we debate and discuss with an open heart and a critical eye. And for those who've ever been approached by a potential suitor or braved the waters of expressing interest, our anecdotes about charm, wit, and strategy in forming connections will surely strike a chord.Join us for a thought-provoking journey through the nuances of generosity and relationships that promises more than a few pearls of wisdom.As always, drop your thoughts in the comments! -- BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSE https://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do -- Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesa https://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.ido Tik Tok @beyond.ido -- Dave Ramsey Course https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/hosts/alfcranchoca?pc=78239020 -- Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below! https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo -- We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett. How to get the exclusive discount? SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en https://bybarnett.com

What you wear matters | Beyond The Letter Podcast | S2E20 Feb 26, 2024

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Ever wonder how the first rays of morning sunlight influence your outfit choice or why stepping out with confidence can change your whole day? We've got you covered in today's spirited discussion with Adam, Jermaine, Gabe and Nancy, where we unwrap the charm and challenges of daily grooming, the impact of light quality on dressing, and the importance of feeling self-assured. Together, we navigate the nuances of color analysis, delve into the evolution of personal style, and share amusing anecdotes on fashion feedback within relationships—because let's face it, your partner's opinion on your new shoes matters more than you might admit. As we steer through the terrain of professional and personal development, we unearth stories that showcase the intrinsic value of dressing for success and the subtleties of haircuts and self-presentation. Ever caught yourself judging a book by its cover, or in our case, a contractor by his suit? We get candid about such instances and explore the broader implications of appearance in our careers. From the polished to the underprepared, our tales underscore the power of first impressions and the importance of embracing growth and adaptability in our ever-changing professional landscape. Finally, we tread into the deeper waters of leadership, humility, and teamwork. With examples from sports legends to corporate innovators, we illuminate how fostering collaboration often trumps individual glory. There's a special focus on the balance of accepting accolades and navigating criticism—a delicate dance we're all familiar with. So join us for a hearty blend of laughter and insight, and let's start this journey together. Let us know in the comments if you think how you dress matters! :) -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFg Instagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/ Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter -- Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA -- Get to know the team: @amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/ @verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/ @nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/ @alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/

Dealing with finances in your marriage | BEYOND I DO | S1E23 Feb 22, 2024

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Money matters in marriage. The conversation of finances in marriage can be thorny, but we're here to guide you and your partner to financial harmony, sharing the wisdom of real-life couple Nathan and Sanaz along with the insights from Adam and Ashlee. They open up about strategies that have strengthened their financial unity, tackling everything from joint and separate accounts to the nuances of prenuptial agreements. Get ready to enrich your relationship with the kind of fiscal clarity that turns potential conflict into a path for growth. We often hear about the need for open communication in relationships, but how often are finances part of that dialogue? This episode sheds light on the art of managing household spending with equality and respect, celebrating the diverse contributions partners make—monetary or otherwise. You'll learn why merging finances might be your ticket to a stronger, lasting marriage, and how to appreciate the often-overlooked value of tasks like childcare and housework. Let's reframe the conversation around money, transforming it from a source of tension to a shared journey toward mutual goals. Nathan leaves us with a heartwarming reminder of the power of community and wisdom in our financial affairs, sending us off with blessings for prosperity and understanding in our marital finances. Join us for this eye-opening discussion that might just change the way you and your partner think about money. -- Dave Ramsey Course https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ramseyplus/hosts/alfcranchoca?pc=78239020 -- Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below! https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo -- We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett. How to get the exclusive discount? SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en https://bybarnett.com -- BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSE https://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do -- Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesa https://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== --Connect with Nathan and Sanaz Mesa https://www.instagram.com/nathanjmesa/Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sanazmesa/ Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/@sanazmesa?lan...Abundant Women https://www.instagram.com/alfcwomen/ -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.ido Tik Tok @beyond.ido

Can you be in love with two people at the same time? | BEYOND I DO | S1E22 Feb 15, 2024

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Can our hearts truly be split between two loves, or is it a battle against our own desires?

This episode wades into the deep waters of romantic love, tackling the question of whether it's feasible to harbor feelings for multiple partners simultaneously. We dissect the Greek philosophies of love, reflect on the ethical and moral implications, and consider the Christian stance on commitment and covenant. These discussions bring to light the intricate dance between love, emotion, and the choices we make in our relationships. We also address the delicate matter of sharing sexual history and managing mental health within new relationships, offering insights on when and how to broach these sensitive topics. Accountability is the cornerstone of any lasting relationship, and in this episode, we don't shy away from the hard truths. We discuss the challenges of upholding fidelity, the myths surrounding the concept of 'the one,' and the necessity for healing and personal growth. With references to biblical counseling and the power of community support, we explore how confronting past traumas and seeking accountability is crucial to fostering a healthy, monogamous marriage. Join us as we unravel the complexities of love, and discover the building blocks for nurturing a committed, fulfilling partnership. -- Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below! https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo -- We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett. How to get the exclusive discount? SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en https://bybarnett.com -- BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSE https://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do -- Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesa https://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.ido Tik Tok @beyond.ido

Apple Vision Pro: From Spiritual Exploration to Professional Revolution | Beyond the Letter S218 Feb 12, 2024

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BTL Fam, we have ANOTHER debate. MAY THE BEST ONE WIN! WHAT IS THE BEST FAST FOOD SPOT? In n Out or Chick fil A? Now it's time to strap on your tech goggles and step into the future with us! We're not just talking about the kind of AR that turns your living room into a dinosaur park; we're envisioning a world where augmented reality blends seamlessly into our spiritual lives and daily chats. Adam shares his personal escapades with AR glasses and muse on how they might one day make us wonder how we ever managed to connect without them. It's a thought-provoking journey through the digital looking glass that'll leave you questioning reality—and how we'll maintain our humanity within it. Now, let's get virtual in a different sense. Imagine replacing a cluttered desk and piles of books with a single sleek device that revolutionizes our workflows. We take you through our experience of using VR for sermon prep and studying, proving that even with a double astigmatism, the digital realm can be surprisingly cozy. We round off the chat by discussing a device that's reshaping the digital marketing game, pondering its potential to become the multi-tasking powerhouse of our professional lives. You might just find yourself itching to clear your desk and step into the virtual office of tomorrow. We hope to read your comments below and don't forget to cast your vote for the best fast food joint! :) -- Connect with: Pastor Aaron Levy https://www.instagram.com/_aaronlevy/?img_index=1 Colin Barrier https://www.instagram.com/_wadeinthewater/ -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4OvpFp9OB9_DgVdVVbXhFg Instagram https://www.instagram.com/beyond.theletter/ Tik Tok https://www.tiktok.com/discover/beyond-the-letter -- Have a question? Submit it TODAY, by clicking the link below! ***SUBMIT YOUR QUESTION HERE: https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondtheLetterQA -- Get to know the team: @amesa https://www.instagram.com/amesa/ @verlonbakerofficial https://www.instagram.com/verlonbakerofficial/ @nancysnavas https://www.instagram.com/nancysnavas/ @alizee.kayy https://www.instagram.com/alizee.kayy/ @chelsiebaham https://www.instagram.com/chelsiebaham/

ove Unfiltered: Navigating the Ups and Downs of Marriage | BEYOND I DO PODCAST | S121 Feb 08, 2024

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GET YOUR TISSUES READY!! Adam does something so sweet for Ashlee that brings tears to our eyes! Join us as Adam and Ashlee extend a heartfelt thank you to all our supporters who have embraced our journey in portraying the often uncelebrated aspects of a healthy marriage.

We kick off with a touching listener message that applauds our depiction of a strong, functional union, which leads us to reflect on the significance of mutual respect and its influence on leadership within the home and workspace.

Our candid discussion peels back the layers of our relationship dynamics, offering insight into how we navigate disagreements with the intent to consistently present a united and positive front.Listen in as we unravel the complexities of supporting a spouse in a high-demand role, the role communication plays in sharing burdens, and the intricate dance of teamwork in marriage.

Through personal anecdotes, we tackle the thorny issues of work-life balance and financial responsibilities, and the sometimes petty conflicts that arise. We delve into the art of reconciliation, the value of involving a community for counsel, and how mutual understanding is pivotal for the strength and growth of our partnership.

Wrapping up, we explore the lighter side of marriage with humorous mishaps and the occasional argument, emphasizing the importance of patience and humor in our daily interactions. Our conversation also turns to the significance of apologizing and leading by example in relationships, demonstrating how humility and clear communication can foster trust and strengthen bonds.

Join us for an episode filled with laughter, vulnerability, and the beauty of everyday love. Share below your favorite part of the episode!! -- Have a question about relationships? Ask us by clicking the link below! https://alfc.church.ai/form/BeyondIdo -- Did you hear the news? We've entered into an exciting new partnership with renowned jeweler Erin Barnett in Los Angeles. This partnership perfectly aligns with our love for relationships and jewelry. Whether you're looking for a special gift, an engagement ring, or a wedding band, Erin has you covered. And as part of the Beyond I Do community, you get exclusive discounts and the opportunity for a private showroom experience. It's time to celebrate your love with exquisite jewelry from our partner, Erin Barnett. How to get the exclusive discount? SEND HIM A DM and tell him you are part of the BEYOND I DO family or mention Adam Mesa. https://www.instagram.com/by.barnett/?hl=en https://bybarnett.com -- BEYOND I DO: MARRIAGE COURSE https://beyondido.thinkific.com/courses/beyond-I-do -- Connect with Adam & Ashlee Mesa https://instagram.com/amesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== https://instagram.com/ashleemesa?igshid=YTQwZjQ0NmI0OA== -- Don't forget to stay connected with us: Instagram @beyond.ido Tik Tok @beyond.ido

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