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Interviews With Dating Gurus - MTP200 May 15, 2020

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With the milestone 200th episode, it's fun to consider how far we've come, yet how many of the core ideas we still talk about have evolved. Big thanks to Eben Pagan (aka David DeAngelo) and the team at Double Your Dating for making this classic recording of my 2007 Interviews With Dating Gurus available to you as a free download for the very first time. It's truly like a blast through everything foundational here at X & Y Communications, which is fitting since it's the interview that basically put us on the map. Back then, getting this gig was for a dating coach like appearing on The Tonight Show was for a stand-up comic. We talk about deserving what you want, why self-help tactics usually fail, how (and why) to date multiple women on the way to meeting 'the one', and how I decided to get married. You'll get the first mention of 'the big four' ever, discover what an 'I/J' is and why high-quality women avoid them, hear the case for why chivalry still matters, and get a load of the one simple (and now infamous) meeting with a woman that changed my life forever. Then we talk about the first date phrase women use that lets you know you just hit the jackpot, and secrets to dating success for men who are shorter than average. You'll get my thoughts on dating younger women, how to identify a quality woman without being influenced by what others think, and of course I wouldn't think of leaving you hanging with regard to either 'the nuclear weapon or attraction' or 'the most important 30 minutes in dating'. You're likely to get a kick out of how radically different the conversation is in this interview from the typical pick-up artist advice from that time period. It was somewhat revolutionary back then. There are lots of links in this episode, so it's best to head over to the show notes page and collect all the goodies. https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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How Your Childhood Affects Your Manhood - MTP199 May 08, 2020

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Okay, this is going to be a sticky episode for many of you guys, as it contains plenty of potentially incendiary ideas that will rip the scabs off of old wounds. But it's all for the greater good, as you'll see. We'll uncover the types of traumas many of us endure during childhood, and shine the light on how it all affects us as grown men. According to my guest, psychotherapist Riana Milne, virtually all of us experience at least some of these traumatic experiences growing up, and I'm inclined to believe her. Having gotten to know Riana and her work, she has earned my genuine respect, as helping heal brokenness is arduous, messy work. So heads up, when Riana starts going over the top ten traumas kids tend to face, it really is going to stir the pot for many of us...starting with why there is more dysfunctional trauma going on now than in years past, and a greater number of psychopaths out there as well. Next, find out the nature of Jekyll and Hyde relationships and why they're so devastating. What is up with how people nowadays are so addicted to electronic devices and media? What impact does fatherhood in particular really have on child development? Are many of us completely oblivious to even having undergone trauma as kids? How damaging is mental illness to the futures of our children? Could a high need for sexual activity as an adult point to childhood trauma? How will kids going through the current COVID-19 global crisis be potentially affected as adults? And best of all, Riana reveals how to move from the blame and shame game toward a happier, more fulfilling life of great relationships with others. Discover blue sky ahead by scheduling 25-minutes with me for free at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Deep Into The Hero's Journey - MTP198 May 01, 2020

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Over the past four years or so, the idea of The Hero's Journey has come up more and more often. My guest has built his entire practice around it, so for this episode we decided to go beyond the basic definitions and examples and do a deep dive. So for starters, what is it about this archetypal rendition of the classic hero story that is so riveting to us as men? Joseph Campbell's idea of powerful myth has fueled atheistic thought, but is that really the only logical perspective one can take? How does The Hero's Journey speak to universal truth not only in how we as humans attempt to comprehend the universe, but also in how we process the pattern of our own lives? And what's more, how does it all matter to YOU in becoming the best 'big four' man of character you can be? What does The Hero's Journey tell us about patience, virtue and the importance of mentorship? Why is it so important to leave home, only to ultimately return? How does The Hero's Journey narrative help us reconcile 'Imposter Syndrome'? Who is 'The Goddess' and how does she empower us to be better with women? Why is it that the most interesting part of The Hero's Journey comes right before the end? And how come 'hero' is such a loaded term, such that few accept being referred to as one? By the way, is there such thing as 'The Anti-Hero's Journey'? Be the hero in your own life...and in the lives of women everywhere. It all starts with a free 25-minute phone call with me. Schedule at https://mountaintoppodcast.com

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Becoming Legendary - MTP197 Apr 24, 2020

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You don't have to be fictional--or dead--to be legendary. My guest Tommy Breedlove quite literally wrote the book on it. He joins us to talk about how to man up and reinvent ourselves in order to make a real, measurable difference in this life. So first off, what's the very foundation of becoming legendary? And what does being legendary even mean? How do women view and respond to legendary men? Do you have to be world famous in order to be legendary? What if we struggle to feel like we're 'enough'? How can we start today on our own path to legendary status? What are the new habits we need to develop over the longer term? Next, Tommy reveals the arch enemies of maximizing your core purpose...and wait until you hear the shocking place those enemies hail from. What is the best advice for sticking to what's good and avoiding the 'dark side'? On that note, what gets into certain men's minds leading them to become 'legendary' bad guys, anyway? How can we know the cause we're to become legendary for really is a good one? If we find ourselves angry, how do we harness that for a valid, significant legacy contribution to this world? And how can good be the enemy of what's best, thereby hamstringing our true purpose? Gentlemen, join a band of brothers who will lift one another to greatness. It begins by taking control of your own 'new normal' and getting on board for Un-Settled. https://mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled

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Be An Agent For Calm Not Panic - MTP196 Apr 17, 2020

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Mark Edward Davis has been a men's coach for years now, and he's the right guest to join me for the topic of 'panic proofing' ourselves...which has been on my mind since the COVID-19 disruption started. We jump right in, starting with how masculinity is integrally linked to staying calm and collected under pressure, and what it actually looks like to be 'the rock' when a storm hits. What is the stark difference between those who panic and those remain calm and lead? Hint: it's ridiculously simple and uncomplicated What is the secret to rising above potential feelings of inadequacy or even 'Imposter Syndrome' to lead in the midst of crisis? How about a real, practical way to literally be the voice of calm? Mark reveals the difference between smart soldiers and dead ones...in other words, why thousands of stormtroopers get shot in Star Wars when none of the main characters do. What do the most respected US presidents in recent history have in common? How can we build the habit of having 'field sense' during intense moments of crisis? How does the importance of fatherhood factor into all of this? Are attitudes even more contagious than COVID-19? How optimistic should we be? Get fired up for this essential conversation, gentlemen. And the way, what would Vince Lombardi do? Visit the newly-updated https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com and talk to me free for 25-minutes.

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Frisky Women Post-Lockdown - MTP195 Apr 10, 2020

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My long time friend David Shade is the undisputed master of giving women incredible pleasure. He returns to the show once again to deliver powerful insights into what it will be like relating to women after the current quarantine is over and the 'all clear' sign is given. So how about it? What is the 'new normal' going to be after COVID-19, especially as it relates to women and sex? David offers his thoughts, in context with the fact he is 64 and has a 20-year-old girlfriend. That's not a typo, and you'll hear not only exactly how he made that happen, but why it's not unusual for him. Doesn't he ever feel like he's babysitting...I mean, they're not even old enough to drink? Wait until you hear his shocking answer. That leads to his take on female sexual maturity, and how we as men can be more sexually mature even in our twenties. What does David have to say about giving women what they need in order for them to give you what you want? Will it surprise you to hear David talk about women being in charge? It shouldn't...once you discover what he really means. Find out David's ninja strategy for relating to women you've been dating during social distancing, and how to stop fearing 'rejection'. And how does the nature of women's fantasies portend what post-quarantine dating life will be like? How are you doing during the present quarantine situation? Talk to me 25 minutes for free when you sign up at the newly-updated http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com

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Disconnection Syndrome - MTP194 Apr 03, 2020

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Beyond the catchy phrase, what exactly was my long-time friend Dr. Jed Diamond talking about when he coined the term 'Disconnection Syndrome'? Well for starters, you'll find out it's far more complex than people merely being separated from each other. It's a systemic issue that's been brewing for years now, and affects even our relationship with self. To kick off the conversation, Jed defines Disconnection Syndrome and explains how it's directly responsible for many of the ongoing social issues we see in today's world. Discover how this transcends the interpersonal to include how we interact with the world itself, as evidenced by some of the perhaps unexpected environmental effects of the current global pandemic. Meanwhile, what are some of the negative effects that purely electronic interaction has on our real, human abilities to connect? Are there subtle ways we've cheapened our sense of connection without even realizing it? Discover the surprising answers to these questions, along with the shocking ways our physical bodies and minds adapt. The most profound part of this episode comes when Jed details how we have become disconnected from our own identity as men. What happened there, why is it so rampant in today's world and how do we fix it? Overall, how can we get back to basics in the form of real, live human connection, and how might the pandemic crisis actually help us collectively to do that? Many of the men who do Laser Coaching with me or who are on the Ten-Plus strategic coaching program have been communicating with me in recent days about specific ideas and concerns in the midst of the current pandemic. You too can talk to me for free for 25 minutes by scheduling at www.mountaintoppodcast.com.

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Rising Above Disruption - MTP193 Mar 27, 2020

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For those of us who live what I call 'The Suburban Sleepwalk', the present COVID-19 pandemic has represented one of the most profound challenges of our lifetime. We can't just watch this unfold on television...we're LIVING it. Obviously, having our proverbial 'cheese moved' is inherently painful, especially when our relationships and our very livelihood are disrupted. Even though such disruption feels like an imminent threat, how do we not only survive but thrive in context? What if instead of losing our sense of humor we found it? How can we turn lemons into lemonade? And does having our world shaken up quite literally challenge us to reevaluate what is important and valuable to us? Meanwhile, were the survival and preparedness guys really on to something here? What can we expect to be different in our lives--and in the world writ large--once the 'all clear' signal is given? Can we look forward to a kinder, friendlier and perhaps even cleaner world to live in, or will people simply revert back to their respective comfort zones? Tune in for surprising predictions on how the state of dating and relating will be affected, along with practical ideas on how to take every good, valuable and positive lesson from this present crisis and run with it long term. Coincidentally, and perhaps surprisingly, Emily and I were already committed to disrupting our lives in the best way possible. These times have only illuminated how powerful that can be. The best news is YOU can join us in reaching for better, doing more and living with greater purpose AND fulfillment. Your open invitation can be found at http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled.

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The Bad Widow - MTP192 Mar 20, 2020

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My guest, Alison Pena is known as 'The Bad Widow', and you're about to find out why. Just a few short years ago she found herself heartbroken by the loss of her beloved husband, who passed after a brief illness. But in the midst of her considerable grief and gritting her way through picking up the pieces, something remarkable happened. As you listen to her, you'll quickly realize her story is not only inspiring and unexpectedly uplifting, it's also as powerful a roadmap to understanding and relating to widowed women as you've ever imagined. And of course, if you've lost the love of your life yourself, this episode promises to be a source of inspiration for you. In this episode, we tackle all of the most confusing, frustrating and heartwrenching issues, beginning with why people's behavior tends to be so ironic toward those who are near death. And what about how weird people also get when you've experienced deep personal loss? Wait until you hear Alison's brave and ingenious plan to cut through that shame and uncertainty in order to genuinely connect with those around her. What was her stunning realization that somehow gave her peace and even freedom after her husband passed? And how did she open up to successfully finding love again? What's more, how did her current partner masterfully navigate her widowhood as a quintessential 'big four' man? What are the steps to doing the same if you ever date a widow? Join the cadre of men who want MORE out of life...while discovering how to live again. It's called Un-Settled, and you can sign on here http://www.mountaintoppodcast.com/unsettled

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Making Peace With Porn - MTP191 Mar 13, 2020

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I have to tip my hat to my guest, Matt Sinkovitz. Not only has he taken on the topic of how porn affects our lives, he's made it his primary gig. Right out of the gate, we address the concept of porn addiction. You'll appreciate Matt's candid take on this loaded topic. And with the global percentage of Internet traffic that's porn-related, could it be true that virtually everyone is watching it? In that context, how does a guy reconcile his deep feelings of shame and guilt over doing so? What are some of the particularly jarring and at times unexpected sources and consequences of that shame? Do most men really have schlongers as big as male porn stars? Are all porn actresses being exploited and/or trafficked? Isn't porn sex nothing like real-world sex anyway? What's the real-world difference between watching porn and satisfying oneself using pure imagination? Should getting a hot girlfriend or wife be a reasonable cure for the desire to watch porn? Is there a correlation between porn usage and other negative patterns in our lives...even at an unconscious level? So let's say we're successful in quitting porn...what real-world advantages can we expect to gain from that? Should we go full-on 'no fap'? How can we as men overcome hiding in the darkness to find the community and support necessary to succeed? And hold on a second...is porn really all bad? Is there a counterpoint that outlines some of the benefits of watching it? Listen and be both challenged and amazed. Head over to mountaintoppodcast.com to score free reports, the full Amazon store and your quick way to schedule a free 25-minute call with me.

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