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**Bare Marriage**

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex–to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with Bare Marriage–the blog!

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Episode 161: Should Pastors be Expected to Give Sex Advice? Sep 29, 2022

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Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and fund our ongoing projects
The Great Sex Rescue, our book that showed the issues with a lot of evangelical teaching about sex, based on our survey of 20,000 women
Our Merch: Check out our Be a Biblical Woman collection
The other times we've talked about Josh Howerton, specifically with Josh Howerton plagiarizing others; and Josh Howerton misrepresenting research.
Download our rubric of healthy sexuality teaching that we used to score the books--and this Instagram Live!
Listen in to the podcast where we talked about how other authors have responded to The Great Sex Rescue, including the Tim and Kathy Keller anecdote

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 160: How Marriage Advice can be Misdiagnosed Sep 22, 2022

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Our Patreon! Our patrons have helped us have the time and flexibility to write She Deserves Better (out in April), along with the stats for The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex and The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex. Right now Joanna is working on two different peer-reviewed papers, and our next big project we'd like to fund is creating a database of good and bad books. You can support us for as little as $5 a month, and get behind-the-scenes access! Support us here.
Our Merch! Check out our merch, including our Be a Biblical Woman merch, and you'll help support us too!
Our Marriage Misdiagnosis Series. Start here, and then you can follow the links on the bottom of the posts for everything else.
Our rubric and scorecard of how the different books fared, including The Power of a Praying Wife.
My Instagram post of John Piper's horrible advice. Follow me there for more Fixed it For Yous!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 159: How Christian Marriage Books Set Me Up For Failure ft. Natalie Hoffman Sep 15, 2022

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Links to things mentioned:
Natalie’s Flying Free site, and Natalie’s awesome Facebook Page, Instagram, and YouTube channel. Plus listen in to her podcast!
Natalie’s book “Is It Me”?
The terrible books Natalie mentioned: Our post about Created To Be His Helpmeet; Julie Anne Smith’s review of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
The book that helped Natalie: Leslie Vernick’s Emotionally Destructive Marriage
Patrick Weaver’s I Hate Divorce t-shirts
Patrick Weaver on the Malachi verse that is too often translated “God hates divorce”
My post on how marriage was made for us, not us for marriage
Support us on Patreon! Or check out our awesome merch!
Our Marriage Misdiagnosis series! My mental load series: With thanks to Eve Rodsky and Fair Play!
Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are
Krispin Mayfield’s podcast on attachment, and his book Attached to God
The awesome men who have helped my thinking on sexual habits and the pornified style of relating–Andrew J. Bauman and Michael John Cusickᐧ

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 158: Pastors Plagiarizing: An Example Using Josh Howerton--with Scot McKnight's commentary Sep 08, 2022

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Should pastors be allowed to plagiarize in their sermons?
I’ll be frank: I think evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity, as we talked about on last week’s podcast. And I think plagiarism is part of that celebrity. It’s rampant among pastors and authors in evangelicalism, and it allows people to give a false sense of themselves to others to boost their status. It needs to stop.
Links to things mentioned:
Scot McKnight's book A Church Called TOV
Scot McKnight's New Testament Everyday Bible Study Series
Scot McKnight's previous podcast with us
Warren Throckmorton on Mark Driscoll's apparent plagiarism
David Dzimianski on Tim Keller's apparent plagiarism
Aaron New on Tim Clinton's history of Plagiarism
Christine Caine's plagiarism
Josh Howerton's Twitter Threads
Original Twitter Thread (long) about how plagiarism by pastors is fine
More recent Tweet about ethics of using someone's material without naming them if you disagree with them
Articles on Controversy with Josh Howerton and Andy Wood
Article Explaining Andy Wood controversy with Mark Driscoll
Andy Stanley's book The New Rules of Love, Sex and Dating
YouTube sermon where Andy Stanley goes over the central points of this book, which Josh Howerton seems to have used
(start at around 22:00)
Steven Furtick sermon with "two halves don't make a whole"
(start around 6:30)
Josh Howerton sermon where he says arguing with him is like arguing with God
(start around 12:20)

Note: The sermon we're referring to I originally saw because it was listed on this page. That sermon has since been removed. It is the only sermon from 2022 that can no longer be found on the Lakepointe Church site, on YouTube, and on their podcast archives. It was there a few weeks ago; it's now gone. I have no idea why, unless he got wind of what we were doing (some people did know, and there have been "breadcrumbs" in the last few podcasts). I hope to see a public statement from Lakepointe and Josh Howerton apologizing for plagiarism, and saying this is why they took the sermon down. If so, I will let you all know and read it out to you!
To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 157: Celebrities for Jesus -- Who should we follow? ft Katelyn Beaty Sep 01, 2022

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Evangelicalism has a problem with celebrity culture.
I mean, everyone has a problem with celebrity culture. But it can be worse in the church because we’re supposed to put Jesus front and centre, and too oten we’re protecting celebrity and ignoring the way of Christ.
Links to things mentioned:

Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to an awesome Facebook group, unfiltered podcasts, and more. Or if you don’t want to support long term, considering leaving something in our tip jar!
Katelyn Beaty’s book Celebrities for Jesus! Plus find Katelyn on Twitter ! That’s where I got to know her.
Our evidence-based courses: The Orgasm Course and the Boost Your Libido course and the Honeymoon Prep Course!
To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 156: How The Authors We Critiqued Responded to The Great Sex Rescue Aug 25, 2022

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One of the most frequent questions I’ve had since The Great Sex Rescue was published has been: “Have any of the authors responded to your critiques?”
People want to know–has anyone owned their mistakes and made changes?
And the quick answer is no.
I wanted to have a central place where I can show you what the authors who HAVE said something have said.
And I need to say something.
This is a personal podcast.

Links to things mentioned:
The Great Sex Rescue
Download our rubric and scorecard!
The blog post where I include links for everything I talked about, plus write out the email we sent to Gary Thomas
To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 155: The Rise of Lonely Men - Plus How to be Inspiring! Aug 18, 2022

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We’ve got some wonderful inspiring stories to share with you today–plus a new research study with implications for dating.
Today Rebecca and I tell you about two modern day heroes, plus two young women using the gifts God gave them to try to change their world!
Then we analyze that Psychology Today article we told you about–the rise of lonely, single men. Listen in!
Links to things mentioned:
Patreon
Our Whole Story Sex & Puberty course
An article about Chief Theresa Kachimondoto
The All the Books YouTube video
The Rise of Lonely, Single Men
Pew Research Study they cite
Study on loneliness in men
Our emotional maturity series

To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 154: Katharine Bushnell: Another Hero you NEED to know ft. Kristen Kobes Du Mez + Julie Coleman Aug 11, 2022

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Time for another hero of the faith! Well, three, actually!
This month we’re telling amazing stories of women that God used in history to fight against injustice and show that God values women. This week Kristin Kobes Du Mez, the author of Jesus and John Wayne, joins us to talk about her biography of Katharine Bushnell.
Links to things mentioned:
The New Gospel for Women: Katharine Bushnell and the Challenge of Christian Feminism
On Purpose: Understanding God's Freedom for Women Through Scripture by Julie Zine Coleman
The Great Sex Rescue
To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 153: Josephine Butler: The Hero You Never knew Aug 04, 2022

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Have you ever heard the name Josephine Butler?
If you were alive in London in 1880 you likely would have. In her time, she was as well-known as Florence Nightingale, but history has largely forgotten her.
Joanna and I sat down and read Josephine Butler: Patron Saint of Prostitutes, and discussed it today!
Links to things mentioned:

Josephine Butler, Patron Saint of Prostitutes (it's a great read for the summer!)
Join our Patreon and support the podcast transcription--and all the research we're doing!
Check out our merch!
If you haven't read The Great Sex Rescue yet, you need to. It seriously will change your life. And then buy it for a pastor or counselor you know!
To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Do You Know What Your Wife Has Been Taught About Sex? (Rerun Summer Episode) Jul 28, 2022

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What if your wife has been taught toxic things about sex–and you don’t even realize it?
Links to things mentioned:

The Great Sex Rescue: Our new book, that looks at how harmful some of these messages have been
Support our research by joining our Patreon group! Even for as little as $5 or $8 a month!
Our "Do All Men Struggle with Lust" podcast
Our open letter to Focus on the Family about Love & Respect (at the bottom of this post is links to all of the other things we've said about this book)
The study on complaining and maladaptive worry and status
To Support Us:

Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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