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Episode 181: How Does Dating Affect Teens? Let's look at the data! Mar 02, 2023

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Should we kiss dating good-bye? In purity culture, we made dating a sin. But what does the data actually say about how dating affects teen girls? In today's Bare Marriage podcast, we share our findings from our survey of 7000 women!
Things Mentioned in the Podcast:

Our new book She Deserves Better, which launches April 18! It helps us immensely when you pre-order!
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Our book The Great Sex Rescue
The University of Georgia study on teens who don’t date

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The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 180: Exodus Cry: What We Need to Know about Sex Trafficking Feb 23, 2023

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Our Patreon that helps support our podcast! You can join for as little as $5 a month! There's unfiltered podcasts, our exclusive Facebook group (it's really active!), merch, and more!
Exodus Cry. Check out the organization and see what they're doing!
See how to get involved (it's easy!). Join the fight against PornHub, sign petitions, read their articles, and more!
Watch Exodus Cry's documentaries. They're so well done and hard hitting.
Follow Benjamin and Exodus Cry on Instagram!
Our podcast last week with the woman who was put under church discipline when she wanted to get to safety from marital rape.

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 179: Why Did a Church Put a Marital Rape Victim under Church Discipline? Feb 16, 2023

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Today I want to tell you the story of an amazing woman who was the victim of her marriage AND her church that knew all the gory details, and yet chose to put her under discipline when she decided to end the marriage.
TRIGGER WARNING

In the first half of the podcast there is graphic descriptions of what her husband did to her. I did mention during the podcast when this was about to occur, so that people could fast forward if they chose to. But the description is horrendous. I wanted people to know what she was facing, and to understand her pastor knew this too.
NOTE ON NEURODIVERGENCE
Part of this woman’s story, she believes, is her husband’s lack of diagnosis for autism, which she believes contributed to his inability and unwillingness to see things from her perspective.

Plenty of autistic people are able to relate emotionally with their spouses, even if they do it in different ways. And they value connecting.

What is shared in this podcast is merely her story, and we understand that it is not the case with many neurodivergent people, who can have loving marriages.

THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST

Our new Fixed It for You Workbook! It’s selling so well, and it’s still on for just $4.99–until Monday!
The marital rape posts in our original series: The 2 kinds of rape; what to do if you’re a victim of marital rape; 5 next steps if you realize you’ve coerced your wife into sex
Kate Shellnutt’s article in Christianity Today about John MacArthur’s church’s further abuse of women, and Julie Roys’ account about Eileen Gray that broke the story.
My commentary from last week about the John MacArthur situation

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 178: Fixing Conversations Together! ft. Ngina Otiende & Philip Payne Feb 09, 2023

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Our Patreon! Our research relies on your support, and we're doing two huge new research projects this year. Join us on Patreon!
Ngina Otiende: https://intentionaltoday.com/ https://twitter.com/NginaOtiende
Philip Payne's new book The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood (available for pre-order now!)
Other books by Philip Payne, including Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul's Letters, and Mutual by Design (where he has written a chapter on headship)
Philip Payne's Twitter

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 177: The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood ft Philip Payne Feb 02, 2023

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Our Patreon! Our research relies on your support, and we're doing two huge new research projects this year. Join us on Patreon!
Philip Payne's new book The Bible vs. Biblical Womanhood (available for pre-order now!)
Other books by Philip Payne, including Man and Woman, One in Christ: An Exegetical and Theological Study of Paul's Letters, and Mutual by Design (where he has written a chapter on headship)
Philip Payne's Twitter

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 176: Bring Back 'Vanilla' Sex! Jan 26, 2023

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Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month, and you can get access to our awesome Facebook group, our unfiltered podcasts, and more!
This is the LAST WEEK to get the ebook for The Great Sex Rescue for just $2.99! On February 1 it goes up to its regular price!
The Orgasm Course! If this is a struggle for you, we can help. https://baremarriage.com/the-orgasm-course/
Our new book She Deserves Better is out in April! You can pre-order it now.
My post Bring Back Vanilla Sex, that a lot of this podcast was based on.

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 175: How Emerson Eggerichs Misuses Scripture in Love & Respect ft. Nijay Gupta Jan 19, 2023

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Our Patreon! Support us for as little as $5 a month and get access to unfiltered podcasts, while supporting our work counteracting harmful messages of marriage in the evangelical church
OUR LOVE & RESPECT ONESHEET: Download our new resource
Nijay Gupta's upcoming book Tell Her Story. Follow Nijay on Twitter!
Our post on Baby Bibles distorting the Genesis account
Our original Love & Respect post, followed by our Open Letter to Focus on the Family, Our look at how Emerson Eggerichs gaslights women in a sermon series, and how he brushes off a case of marital rape.
Our rubric and scorecard to see why Love & Respect scored 0/48.

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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 174: Why You CAN Trust Your Emotions ft. Becky Castle Miller Jan 12, 2023

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Patreon:
https://patreon.com/baremarriage

She Deserves Better (our new book coming in April; you can pre-order it now!)
https://amzn.to/3ZGFs2P

The Great Sex Rescue (on for just $2.39 on ebook this month, and the paperback is on sale too!)
https://amzn.to/3GV4aou

Becky Castle Miller
Website: https://www.beckycastlemiller.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/bcastlemiller

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@beckycastlemiller

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wholeemotion/

Marc Alan Schelske's podcast on emotional maturity:
https://baremarriage.com/2020/11/what-is-emotional-maturity-podcast/

Scot McKnight's and Becky Castle Miller's New Testament books:
https://amzn.to/3X3nB4l

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 173: The Strike at Putney: What Would Happen if Women Just Stopped? Jan 05, 2023

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Our Patreon! Support our work for as little as $5 a month, including all the amazing things that are coming in 2023, including two new big surveys, one sheets of harmful books to give to your churches, and scholarships as others continue the research!
Our podcast on finding new church homes
The Strike at Putney by Lucy Maud Montgomery
Our podcast with Beth Allison Barr
The research study finding that churches with gender hierarchy produce worse health outcomes for women, plus a shorter article describing this research by Dr. Camden
Information on the Iceland’s Women’s Day Off
Pre-Order She Deserves Better–our new book out in April!
The Harvard study including what SBC men and women think of female pastors:
The top Bare Marriage podcast episodes from 2022
The Great Sex Rescue! It’s on sale in ebook form across all platforms for the month of January, at only $2.99, and it’s on for $5 off in paperback on Amazon, too!

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

Episode 172: We Are Not Spiritually Homeless Anymore! A Personal Christmas Update Dec 22, 2022

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THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST

Our Patreon! They’ve supported some amazing projects this year, and you can join us for as little as $5 a month!
The original podcast on feeling spiritually homeless
Last year’s update on feeling so disappointed by faith leaders (plus the podcast on how the authors we critiqued responded to The Great Sex Rescue)

Support the show

Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!
Check out her books:

The Great Sex Rescue
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex

And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!
Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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