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Ep 172: 4 Questions To Tap Into Your 10-year-old Self May 02, 2023

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As I head back to my home state of Oklahoma this week to promote The Life Council, I'm feeling nostalgic in every way. Even as life has marched forward, and I entered my twenties, then my thirties, and now my forties, I have found it useful to tap back into the childhood version of me. It reminds me who I am in my core and it reminds me where I came from.

And sometimes, even as I evolve in a positive way, I need that reminder of where I started. I want to tap into that original spirit.

This episode has four questions to ask yourself about your childhood self. We're going to talk about:

Place

People

Our bodies

Our dreams

Maybe you think about your childhood self all the time. Maybe it's been a long time since you really remembered that version of you.

This episode and these questions will bring you back to who you were when you were young.

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Episode 68: Hometown: A conversation about race

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Serendipity (Caroline's Story) Apr 28, 2023

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Welcome to the final episode in my Friendship Stories series.

My guest today is someone you might recognize if you've ever emailed or DM'd the show, or you've just heard me talk about her giant contribution to 10 Things To Tell You, my book launches, and all other behind-the-scenes operations around here: Caroline!

In this episode about the serendipity of friendship, Caroline tells us the story of her longtime friend Judi. After Judi experiences a tragic loss, Caroline was there for her when she needed it most. This is a story about the gift of friendship and how friends help us navigate life’s ups and downs. Throughout the course of this conversation Caroline also shares about her twin sister, Jill, which is a friendship story in and of itself.

Caroline’s multiple friendship experiences were the perfect ones to cap off this Friendship Stories series because I think it highlights the width and breadth of good friendship and its importance in our lives.

This episode concludes the Friendship Stories series, which I loved putting together as part of my research and then launch of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.

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Ep 171: Favorite Things (Right Now)! Apr 25, 2023

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It's time for another episode of Favorite Things (Right Now)!

As a reminder, we do Favorite Things episodes because they're fun and also because thinking about what we're really into right now is another way of making a gratitude list.

Plus who doesn't love hearing and sharing awesome things?!

On this episode, I'm sharing a variety of favorites, including:

The Life Council Book Tour

New Favorite Alarm Clock

The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

Laura Beth Davidson and also Jess Koehler

Aura

Judy Blume Forever

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The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown

Essentialism by Greg McKeown

BONUS Episode with Emily Ley: 5 Tips for Morning Routines

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: A Bridge Across Cultural Differences (Carol & Gloria's Story) Apr 23, 2023

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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

Carol and Gloria's friendship spans a few cultural differences, including race (Carol is Asian and Gloria is Black) and a large age gap (they have twenty years between them). In this episode, Carol speaks candidly about how these differences affects their friendship and bring both challenges but also beautiful gifts.

This conversation is also one about the importance of openness and vulnerability in friendship. I do want to say that as a white woman hosting this conversation, my job here was to listen to their lived experiences that are so different from my own. Carol and Gloria listened to this episode after we recorded it to make sure that their perspectives were represented.

Carol and Gloria’s friendship definitely qualifies as unique and I think you’ll enjoy hearing about it.

The FRIENDSHIP STORIES series is a set of conversations I had while writing my new book The Life Council: Every Woman Needs.

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: The Breakup (JeriLynne's Story) Apr 21, 2023

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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

Over the last few months, we’ve heard a number of uplifting stories about unique and transformative friendships in this series. But today’s episode is about an aspect of friendship that is painful and rarely discussed: the friendship break up.

My guest, JeriLynne, shares that when her marriage ended, there was collateral damage in the form of friendship loss as well. That friendship breakup left her without real closure and she continues to struggle to be vulnerable in friendships.

While it’s certainly easier to talk about all the positive aspects of friendship, I think it’s also important to discuss these harder, more painful parts of these formative relationships. JeriLynne’s experience is significant and unfortunately a very real part of these friendship.

I write about friendship breakups and friendship loss in The Life Council in a chapter called The Empty Chair.

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Ep 170: The Old Friend (a conversation with Shauna Niequist) Apr 18, 2023

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In my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about how the "old friend" doesn't necessarily mean than you've known one another for decades. All that is required to hold that Life Council seat is to have a friend who has known you from one version of yourself into another. That actual timeline might vary.

But Shauna Niequist is one of my oldest friends however you measure it. We met in the late 90's working at summer camp, where (as I wrote about in my first book Share Your Stuff), I learned from Shauna a different way to walk in the world than I had previously been exposed to.

For twenty-five years, Shauna has been a friend, role model, mentor, and, yes, even a fellow obsessive as we discuss in this episode.

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their two sons.

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MENTIONED:

Episode 112: Who was there? (a conversation with Shauna Niequist)

Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Island Life (Kammy's Story) Apr 14, 2023

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Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

The childhood that my guest Kammy is going to describe in this conversation is unlike any I've ever heard. She grew up on a remote island just two square miles in size, without much contact with the rest of the world. Looking back, Kammy can see that the friendships from this time in her life shaped her relationships to come, and the bond she shares with other children from the island is unrivaled. This is a fascinating conversation so different from the rest of our Friendship Stories.

The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.

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Ep 169: Battle Buddies (with Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland of Pantsuit Politics) Apr 11, 2023

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In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES.

Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.

Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.

I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.

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The Secret Tapes are BACK (for a limited time) Apr 07, 2023

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The Secret Tapes and all other ORDER BONUSES for my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs are back for a limited time!

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Purchase The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your receipt number to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and get all of the order bonuses including the exclusive book club, the printable discussion guide with journal prompts, and the Secret Tapes private podcast series.

CLAIM YOUR BONUSES NOW

The Secret Tapes are 10 episodes of conversations with some of the friends I write about in The Life Council. These are not just idle chats, these are insightful and meaningful conversations.

You do NOT want to miss out on these bonuses. You have until midnight Sunday, April 9 to go to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and claim your bonuses.

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Ep 168: The Life Council is OUT NOW! (10 things I haven't told you yet about my new book) Apr 04, 2023

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I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).

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This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.

In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Life Council PREORDER BONUSES (which expire at midnight on 4/4)

Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. (my first book)

Ep 167: Five Friendship Philosophies (an audiobook excerpt of The Life Council)

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