Zen POP Parenting blends Gen X sensibility with mindful living, emotional awareness, and the music, movies, and moments that shaped us. Parenting is the thread that runs through it all—because whether our kids are little or grown, how we connect, communicate, and make sense of ourselves and our history matters.
Hairbands and Performative Masculinity- Episode #829
Aug 19, 2025
Cathy and Todd explore how 1980s glam metal, later dubbed “hairbands” in the ’90s, fused hypersexual, alpha-male posturing with makeup, teased hair, and flamboyant style, creating a theatrical masculinity that rose with MTV and collapsed with the arrival of grunge. From Def Leppard to Poison, these bands borrowed from femininity while reinforcing traditional masculinity, leading to a theatrical version of toughness built for MTV’s visual era. They discuss the rise, peak, and fall of the genre, its shift from rebellion to redundancy, and how it reflected and reshaped cultural ideas about gender, authenticity, and performance.
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Todd and Kathy discussed the evolution of hair bands and their impact on Gen X culture. They clarified the distinction between heavy metal and hair bands, explaining that hair bands emerged in the early 1980s with bands like Quiet Riot and Def Leppard. Todd shared his research findings, including the origins of the term “hair band” and the influence of David Bowie on the genre. They also announced upcoming changes to their virtual community and podcast, including the addition of a Zen Parenting Radio podcast.
Evolution of 1980s Hair Metal
Todd discussed the evolution of hair metal bands in the 1980s, highlighting key albums and artists like Van Halen, Motley Crue, Def Leppard, Bon Jovi, and Poison. He noted that Bon Jovi transformed their style after the hair metal era, while bands like Def Leppard and Poison maintained popularity. Todd also argued that Guns N’ Roses, with their deeper musical talent, served as a bridge or catalyst in the transition from hair metal to grunge, though he acknowledged the appeal of lighter, fun songs from the era.
Rock Music Evolution and Subgenres
Todd discussed the evolution of rock music, particularly focusing on the transition from 1980s hair bands to different metal subgenres. He explained how bands like Van Halen and Whitesnake evolved their sound to become more mainstream, while other bands like Metallica and Slayer embraced thrash metal. Todd also shared his own categorization of rock music, distinguishing between heavy metal, hair band glam metal, and hard rock. The conversation touched on how different musical styles reflect societal changes and performative masculinity.
Gender-Bending in Music History
Todd and his partner discussed the evolution of masculinity in music, particularly focusing on the 1980s hair metal era and its subsequent shift to grunge in the early 1990s. They explored how bands like Van Halen and Motley Crue embraced exaggerated masculinity while incorporating feminine elements like makeup. Todd then highlighted ten notable gender-bending artists throughout history, including Harry Styles, Janelle Monae, Lady Gaga, Marilyn Manson, Annie Lennox, Freddie Mercury, Boy George, Grace Jones, Prince, and David Bowie. They discussed how these artists challenged traditional gender norms through their fashion, presentation, and music.
Rock Music Influences and Experiences
Todd and Sweetie shared personal stories about their musical influences and experiences, particularly focusing on their introduction to rock music in the 1980s. Todd recalled his love for Van Halen in fifth grade, while Sweetie shared her early exposure to alternative music through her sister and brother-in-law. They discussed how different people and experiences shaped their musical tastes over time, with Todd highlighting significant moments like listening to “Round and Round” in seventh grade and his unsuccessful attempt to attend a Def Leppard concert in high school. The conversation concluded with Todd recounting how he finally saw Def Leppard perform at a concert in Tinley Park with his roommates, despite initially being unable to attend due to his parents’ restrictions.
Power Ballad Discussion and Debate
Todd and Sweetie discussed their favorite power ballads, with Todd sharing his top 10 list that included songs by bands like Motley Crue, Def Leppard, and Tesla. They debated the merits of various songs and bands, with Todd defending his choices based on personal connections and musical qualities. The conversation concluded with a brief mention of moving on to random facts and “WTF” topics.
1980s Hair Metal Band Analysis
Todd shared random facts about 1980s hair metal bands, including tragic deaths and bizarre incidents, before transitioning to a discussion about the cultural impact of hair bands and their paradoxical representation of masculinity. Todd emphasized how these bands, while appearing to subvert gender norms, ultimately reinforced heteronormative ideals. The conversation concluded with Todd reflecting on the importance of avoiding trendy parenting labels, instead opting for “Zen parenting” as an undefined and adaptable approach.
Evolution of 80s Hair Metal
Todd shared his love for 1980s hair metal bands and discussed how the music scene evolved from the glam rock of the 1980s to the grunge movement of the 1990s. He highlighted the authenticity and raw emotion of grunge bands, contrasting it with the perceived superficiality of 1980s hair bands. Todd also shared his top 10 favorite hair metal songs, emphasizing the enduring appeal and nostalgia of the genre. The discussion concluded with a brief mention of upcoming topics for the next meeting, including performative masculinity and boy bands.
Gen X Feminism in “9 to 5” and “Working Girl” Episode #828
Aug 12, 2025
Cathy and Todd discuss 9 to 5 and Working Girl, two movies Gen X women grew up on that shaped how we think about work, power, and what it means to succeed. We watched women push through, keep their heads down, and prove themselves in systems that were never really made for them, and we learned to do the same. We’ve told our daughters they can be anything, but we also passed down burnout, perfectionism, and the pressure to keep it all together. Now girls are asking, “Why are we working so hard for something that doesn’t even work for us?” This episode is about what these films gave us, what they left out, and how we’re rethinking success, feminism, and parenting the next generation.
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Todd and Kathy discussed technical issues related to Wi-Fi and recording devices, noting improvements in connectivity. They also talked about editing a podcast, considering the duration of opening segments and transitions between songs. Todd mentioned his leg pain and a humorous incident involving an ice pack. They prepared to record a new episode of “Zen Pop Parenting,” with Todd introducing the segment.
Gen X Feminism in 1980s Films
Todd and his co-host discussed the cultural impact of two iconic 1980s films, “9 to 5” and “Working Girl,” exploring how they reflected and shaped Gen X feminism. They highlighted the films’ portrayal of workplace inequality, the pressure to “have it all,” and the contrast between systemic change and individual ambition. Todd shared personal anecdotes about watching these movies with his daughters and reflecting on their messages in the context of his own life and the 2016 election. The discussion also touched on the broader cultural landscape of the 1980s, including music and fashion, and how these elements contributed to the era’s feminist energy.
1991 Hearing’s Impact on Culture
Todd discussed the Anita Hill-Clarence Thomas Supreme Court nomination hearing in 1991, highlighting its impact on workplace harassment awareness and the “Year of the Woman” election in 1992. He noted that while Clarence Thomas was ultimately confirmed, the hearing sparked national conversations about gender, race, and power in the workplace, with parallels to more recent events involving Christine Blasey Ford and Brett Kavanaugh. Todd also mentioned how the cultural shift influenced TV and film, citing shows like “Murphy Brown” and movies like “9 to 5” and “Thelma & Louise” as examples of changing portrayals of women in the workplace.
Women’s Strength in Film
Todd discussed the themes of strength and resilience in women, using examples from movies like Steel Magnolias and Working Girl. He shared interesting facts about the filming of Working Girl, including Melanie Griffith’s addiction issues and Mike Nichols’ directorial approach. Todd also highlighted Carly Simon’s achievements and the success of 9 to 5, noting its cultural impact and Dolly Parton’s role in its creation.
Working Girl” Character Analysis
Todd discussed the film “Working Girl,” focusing on Melanie Griffith’s transformation from a sex symbol to a leading actress and the movie’s plot twists. He highlighted the unexpected proposal scene and criticized the character development, particularly the rapid progression from an affair to a marriage proposal. Todd also compared “Working Girl” to other films with similar plot elements, such as “The Deer Hunter” and “9 to 5,” and expressed a desire to watch it as a double feature with “9 to 5.”
Fantasies of Workplace Revenge
Todd discussed the movie “9 to 5” and its plot, which revolves around three female office workers who fantasize about killing their boss. He shared details about the characters’ fantasies, including Judy’s desire to hunt down her boss, Dora Lee’s plan to give him a taste of his own medicine, and Violet’s Snow White-inspired plot to poison his coffee. Todd expressed his fondness for the movie despite its slow pace and over-the-top plot, noting that it served as a fantasy for women facing workplace oppression. He also briefly mentioned Melanie Griffith’s marital history and her daughter, Dakota Johnson, who followed in her mother’s footsteps in the entertainment industry.
1980s Feminism in Film
Todd discussed the themes of 1980s and 1990s movies, particularly focusing on “Working Girl” and “9 to 5,” which often celebrated individual women’s success within a system that harms women, rather than addressing systemic inequality. He explained how these films portrayed personal victories within unchanged systems, contributing to a mentality that there can only be one woman at the top. Todd also shared his favorite scenes from both movies, highlighting humorous and dramatic moments, and discussed the concept of “neoliberal feminism” in the context of these films.
Generational Feminism and Communication Dynamics
Todd discussed the plot of a movie involving a character named Catherine who stole an idea from someone else and later shared it at a wedding. He also explained the different waves of feminism, particularly focusing on Generation X’s experience in the 1980s, which was about balancing career and family while navigating office politics and sexual harassment. Todd highlighted how women have historically learned to speak in a way that men can understand, a concept illustrated by a quote from Meryl Streep, while noting that men often struggle to communicate effectively with women.
Cultural Pressures on Women in Work
Todd discussed the cultural pressure on women to be smaller and less assertive in the workplace, tracing this back to the 1980s and examining its impact on personal and professional identity. He highlighted how feminism was often framed as a personal strategy rather than a collective movement, using examples from films like “Working Girl” and “9 to 5” to illustrate this point. Todd also connected this concept to multi-level marketing schemes, noting that 99% of participants either lose money or make nothing, and emphasized the importance of understanding these schemes as a form of exploitation rather than legitimate business opportunities.
MLM Exploitation and Gender Equality
Todd discussed the targeting of women by multi-level marketing (MLM) schemes, highlighting how they exploit women with limited options, such as stay-at-home mothers, by promising independence and financial freedom that is rarely achieved. Todd emphasized the importance of teaching girls about systemic inequalities and preparing them to navigate these challenges, while also encouraging sons to understand consent and respect for women. The conversation also touched on the double standards faced by women, including the expectation to be both powerful and palatable, and the need for a new model of masculinity that supports gender equality.
Empowering Women’s Ambition
Todd discussed the importance of ambition for women, referencing Reese Witherspoon’s 2015 speech at the Glamour Women of the Year Awards. He highlighted how ambition is often misunderstood and undervalued for women, contrasting it with the portrayal in movies like “9 to 5” and “Working Girl.” Todd emphasized that ambition should be seen as a positive force, not just for personal success but for creating a better world, and shared his own evolving understanding of ambition as he has aged. He encouraged parents to teach their daughters that ambition is not selfish but can be generous and collaborative, citing examples of women helping each other, like the WNBA team he mentioned.
Analyzing Feminism in 80s Films
The group discussed the movies “Working Girl” and “9 to 5,” analyzing themes of feminism, racial diversity, and body representation. They shared favorite quotes from the films, including memorable lines from Dolly Parton and Harrison Ford. The participants played a music game related to the movies and discussed movie trivia. They concluded the podcast by playing the instrumental theme from “Working Girl” as their closing music.
What The Hunger Games Teaches Us About Dehumanization with Jacey, Camryn and Skylar Adams Episode #827
Aug 05, 2025
Our daughters Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join us as we explore the themes behind The Hunger Games books and movies and what they say about power, survival, and the cost of being human in an inhumane system. We talk about the Capitol’s need for control, how hope threatens oppression, and what happens when kids are forced to grow up too soon. Plus, we connect it all to parenting—what it means to show up and why sibling bonds matter when systems fail.
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Ferris & The Dude: The Art of Doing Nothing- Episode #826
Jul 29, 2025
Cathy and Todd discuss Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and The Big Lebowski, two films that ask the same question in totally different ways: what if we just stopped playing the game? They set the scene with the cultural vibes of the ’80s and ’90s including achievement culture, Reaganomics, slacker disillusionment and reflect on how Ferris and The Dude each push back against pressure and performance. From parade dancing and White Russians to teen burnout and existential shrugs, the share personal stories, emotional insight, and parenting takeaways, exploring why sometimes doing “nothing” is exactly what we need.
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Todd and Kathy introduce episode 826 of Zen Pop Parenting, which is their 9th episode in this series. They discuss the theme of “doing nothing” as portrayed in the movies Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and The Big Lebowski. The hosts debate which of these two films they would choose if stranded on a desert island, with Todd preferring Ferris Bueller for its personal connections and Kathy leaning towards The Big Lebowski. They warn listeners that the episode will contain explicit language due to clips from The Big Lebowski. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off Analysis Todd and his co-host discuss the movie “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off,” offering their perspectives on the characters and themes. They argue that the film is primarily about Cameron’s journey, with Jeannie’s character development also being significant, while Ferris remains unchanged. The hosts set the scene for the movie, describing it as a 1986 John Hughes film set in suburban Chicago, focusing on Ferris skipping school with his friends for a day of adventure in the city. They also discuss the cultural context of the 1980s, including Reaganomics and achievement culture, and compare the film’s box office performance to other popular movies of that year. The Big Lebowski: Cult Classic Analysis The discussion focuses on the movie “The Big Lebowski” (1998), starring Jeff Bridges as “the Dude.” Todd explains that the film, set in early 1990s Los Angeles, follows an unemployed bowler who gets involved in a crime plot after someone ruins his rug. The movie’s absurdist humor reflects the post-Cold War era’s cultural drift and confusion. Todd notes that the film’s structure is based on Raymond Chandler’s detective stories, and despite its cult status, it was not a box office success upon release. The main character is described as a 1960s counterculture figure who remains unchanged in the 1990s. Reflecting on Classic Films Todd discusses his memories of Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and The Big Lebowski. He recalls watching Ferris Bueller frequently after its release, noting its quotable lines and impact on his generation. Todd mentions performing a palm routine to a song from the movie and recognizes Sig Sig Sputnik’s music from the soundtrack. Regarding The Big Lebowski, Todd admits he came to appreciate it much later, only watching it for the first time about 20 years ago. Ferris Bueller’s Day Off Discussion Todd and his conversation partner discuss their experiences with playing hooky and compare them to the movie “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.” They explore the feasibility of replicating Ferris’s day off in real life, considering the time it takes to drive from the suburbs to Chicago. The conversation then shifts to discussing White Russians and Todd’s habit of quoting a specific line from the movie when his daughters are sick. They reflect on the differences between how mothers and fathers typically care for sick children, acknowledging that these tendencies are learned behaviors rather than biological traits. Ferris Bueller Trivia Highlights Todd shares various random facts about the movies “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” and “The Big Lebowski.” He mentions that John Hughes wrote “Ferris Bueller” in under a week, and that Alan Ruck, who played Cameron, was 29 years old during filming. Todd also notes that Ben Stein’s famous lecture scene was improvised, and that a scene where Ferris and his friends visit a strip club was cut from the final film. Additionally, he points out that Charlie Sheen stayed awake for 48 hours to prepare for his uncredited role in the movie. Movie Trivia and Behind-the-Scenes Insights The discussion covers various aspects of the movies Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and The Big Lebowski. Todd shares several facts about both films, including the frequency of the word “dude” in Lebowski and details about Cameron’s house in Ferris Bueller. They also discuss Sarah Jessica Parker’s reluctance to narrate in Sex and the City due to its similarity to Ferris Bueller. The conversation touches on the role of Sam Elliott’s character in Lebowski and concludes with a disturbing revelation about Jeffrey Jones, who played Ed Rooney in Ferris Bueller. Movie Insights: Ferris and Lebowski The discussion focuses on two movies: “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” and “The Big Lebowski.” Todd comments on the obliviousness of parents in 1980s films, particularly in “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off.” The conversation then shifts to “The Big Lebowski,” with Todd praising John Goodman’s acting and discussing favorite scenes and quotes from the movie. Todd expresses admiration for Jeff Bridges’ performance as “the Dude” and compares a particular scene to Fred Armisen’s impression of Nick Fehn on Saturday Night Live. Analyzing Iconic Movie Scenes The group discusses favorite scenes from movies, focusing on “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” and “The Big Lebowski.” They analyze the Art Museum scene in Ferris Bueller, noting its melancholy tone and character development. For The Big Lebowski, they highlight the eulogy scene, appreciating its humor and John Goodman’s performance. The conversation touches on the deeper meanings of these scenes and the characters’ relationships. Movie Character Analysis Deep Dive The discussion focuses on the deeper meanings and character analyses of two movies: “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” and “The Big Lebowski.” For Ferris Bueller, they explore how the protagonist’s actions represent a deliberate reclaiming of time and a rejection of societal pressures, emphasizing the importance of living in the moment. They also delve into Cameron’s character development and his confrontation with his father issues. Regarding The Big Lebowski, they discuss the main character’s philosophy of detachment and acceptance of life’s absurdities, contrasting it with the nihilists in the film. The conversation concludes by briefly mentioning parental guidance themes in the movies. Teen Rebellion in John Hughes Films The group discusses John Hughes’ films, particularly “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” and “The Breakfast Club,” noting similarities between characters and Hughes’ repetitive themes. They explore the idea that teenage rebellion in these films is often about finding oneself rather than breaking rules. The conversation then shifts to a discussion of oblivious parents in Gen X movies, with examples from various films including “Home Alone” and “Pretty in Pink.” They conclude by examining the portrayal of Daniel LaRusso’s mother in “The Karate Kid,” debating whether she was aware of what was happening in her son’s life. Big Lebowski and Ferris Bueller Themes Todd discusses various aspects of the films “The Big Lebowski” and “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off,” focusing on character analysis and life lessons. He highlights Walter’s projection issues, the Dude’s contrasting laid-back attitude, and Donnie’s role as the overlooked character in “The Big Lebowski.” Todd also explores themes of masculinity in crisis, the philosophy of “abiding,” and the importance of friendship and loyalty in both movies. He concludes by comparing the Dude’s detachment with humility to the Nihilists’ angry detachment, emphasizing the difference between believing in nothing while still caring versus needing to win. Ferris and Lebowski Movie Quotes Todd leads a discussion about favorite quotes from “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” and “The Big Lebowski.” They share and analyze several memorable lines from both movies, discussing their context and impact. The conversation then shifts to categorizing the films as either “cringey” or “classic,” with both being deemed classics in their own right. They play a music game, trying to find songs that capture the essence of both movies. The session concludes with a rapid-fire trivia round about both films, testing their knowledge of characters, plot points, and memorable scenes.
Stranger Things Season 1: What the Upside Down Teaches Us About Our Shadow Selves, Trauma, and Grief- Episode #825
Jul 22, 2025
Cathy and Todd discuss Stranger Things Season 1 through a cultural, emotional, and psychological lens. They explore how the show’s 80s nostalgia, supernatural mystery, and strong character dynamics reflect deeper themes of trauma, shadow work, friendship, and resilience. Set against the backdrop of 2016 (Cubs World Series Win, presidential election, and personal turning points), they unpack why the Upside Down isn’t just a scary place but a metaphor for the parts of ourselves we avoid, and how love, connection, and curiosity help us survive what feels unknowable.
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Meeting summary for ZPR Podcast Recording (07/02/2025)
Quick recap Todd and his co-host discussed their love for the TV show Stranger Things, exploring its themes, characters, and psychological aspects. They delved into the show’s portrayal of trauma, friendship, and personal growth, while also sharing their favorite moments and music from the series. The discussion touched on the importance of understanding and supporting children’s interests, as well as the anticipation for the upcoming fifth season of Stranger Things. Summary Stranger Things and D&D Connections Todd discussed his love for Dungeons & Dragons, comparing it to the show Stranger Things, which he believes reflects his childhood. He mentioned that Stranger Things season one was nominated for 18 Emmys and won 5, and he shared interesting facts about the show’s creation and influences, including its references to various 80s movies and music. Todd also highlighted the show’s themes of friendship, family, and teamwork, and mentioned that the actors had played Dungeons & Dragons before filming began. Stranger Things Season 1 Review Todd and his co-host discussed their love for the first season of Stranger Things, highlighting the character of Joyce Byers and her intensity, as well as the show’s revival of 1980s and 1990s actors like Winona Ryder and Matthew Modine. They also talked about Steve Harrington’s character development and the controversial “Papa” storyline. The hosts shared their favorite scenes from the season, including the dramatic moment when Mike is willing to jump off a cliff for his friend, and the emotional reunion of the kids with Will in the hospital. They concluded by discussing the deeper themes of the show, including trauma and grief, and how it relates to their podcast’s title. Shadow Self in Stranger Things Todd discussed the psychological themes in Stranger Things, focusing on the upside down as a representation of the shadow self and unconscious trauma. He explained how characters like Will, Eleven, and Hopper deal with their own traumas and how facing these dark aspects can lead to personal growth. Todd also highlighted the importance of integrating the shadow self and the dangers of ignoring or repressing it. He concluded by drawing parallels to real-world issues, such as the ethical considerations in scientific experimentation, particularly in the context of AI development. ChatGPT and Stranger Things Insights Todd discussed his interactions with ChatGPT, expressing frustration with its lack of understanding and personality, despite uploading personal information to improve its responses. He explored themes from Stranger Things, particularly focusing on the character of Eleven as a modern-day chosen one and the importance of parental trust and openness. Todd emphasized the show’s lessons for parents, including believing their children’s experiences and staying curious, while highlighting the intuitive and creative nature of children. He also humorously criticized the cluelessness of the Wheeler family in the show, drawing parallels to his own experiences. Children’s Interests and ‘Stranger Things Todd discussed the importance of understanding and supporting children’s interests, emphasizing that being different is a superpower and that connection heals trauma. He highlighted the significance of body language as a form of communication, especially in the show “Stranger Things.” Todd also shared his favorite quotes from the show, including Dustin’s curious conversation with his teacher, and mentioned the release schedule for the upcoming fifth season, which will be released in three parts on significant dates. Stranger Things Trivia and Music Todd and his friend engaged in a discussion about the TV show Stranger Things, sharing their favorite music and trivia about the series. They played a music game where Todd chose “Heathens” by 21 Pilots, which was combined with Stranger Things theme music in a concert. Todd also administered a quiz to his friend about various Stranger Things facts, which they answered successfully. They encouraged others to watch or rewatch the series in preparation for the upcoming Season 5.
Pulling a Milli Vanilli: How Pop’s Biggest Scandal Became a Metaphor for Imposter Syndrome Episode #824
Jul 15, 2025
Cathy & Todd revisit the rise and fall of Milli Vanilli, one of pop music’s most infamous scandals, and discuss how their story became a powerful metaphor for imposter syndrome. In the late ’80s, image was everything—style often mattered more than substance. They take a look at what happens when performance is rewarded over honesty, and how that same pressure to “fake it” still shows up today: in parenting, work, and how we see ourselves. From cultural deception to personal doubt, this episode discusses what it means to lose your voice, find it again, and redefine success on your own terms.
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Summary Milli Vanilli and Imposter Syndrome Todd and Cathy introduce their podcast “Zen Pop Parenting,” which explores how pop culture can help understand parenting and relationships. They discuss the topic of their current episode, “Pulling a Milli Vanilli: How Pop’s Biggest Scandal Became a Metaphor for Imposter Syndrome.” They provide background on Milli Vanilli, a German-French pop duo consisting of Rob Pilatus and Fab Morvan, and mention the documentary about them on Paramount Plus. Todd and Kathy plan to discuss the duo’s creation by producer Frank Farion, their scandal, and its relevance to imposter syndrome. Milli Vanilli: Pop Culture Icons The discussion focused on the 1980s pop duo Milli Vanilli, their rise to fame, and their impact on music culture. Todd highlighted their stylish image, good looks, and dance moves as key factors in their popularity, while also noting that their songs were a blend of pop and R&B. The conversation then shifted to band names, with Todd and others discussing memorable and sometimes controversial names, including Toad the Wet Sprocket, Smashing Pumpkins, and Panic! at the Disco. Milli Vanilli: The Vocal Scandal The discussion focused on the Milli Vanilli scandal, where it was revealed in 1990 that Robin and Fab, the duo’s lead singers, did not perform their own vocals, despite winning the Grammy for Best New Artist that year. The scandal unfolded during a live MTV performance when the backing track skipped, leading to one member fleeing the stage before being coerced to return. The conversation explored how the duo became scapegoats for systemic issues in the music industry, with the real singers kept anonymous while the public faced the fallout, and highlighted broader themes about authenticity in pop music that influenced the rise of grunge. Music Industry Authenticity Shift Todd discussed the contractual issues faced by various artists, including Jojo, Prince, and TLC, highlighting the challenges they encountered due to label disputes. He also mentioned the cultural context of the late 1980s, including the AIDS crisis, the fall of the Berlin Wall, and the rise of pop culture icons like Madonna and the Simpsons. Todd emphasized the shift from escapist, image-focused music to a return to authenticity in the music industry, using Milli Vanilli as a prime example of this pendulum swing. Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Todd discussed his experience with imposter syndrome, sharing that he still feels nervous when leading men’s groups despite his success in podcasting. He emphasized the difference between feeling nervous and experiencing imposter syndrome, and highlighted that many successful people, including Neil Patrick Harris, have faced similar feelings of inadequacy despite their achievements. Todd also reflected on his career journey, noting that he no longer needs to be the one with all the answers and is open to learning from others. Milli Vanilli’s Impact on Pop Culture Todd discussed the inclusion of Milli Vanilli’s music in the “Pam and Tommy” show, clarifying that it was an acted series rather than a documentary. He highlighted the use of the duo’s songs in conjunction with high-profile events like the O.J. Simpson trial and the Menendez brothers case, noting the meta aspect of using songs that were popular during these events. Todd also shared insights about the documentary exposing the lack of vocal credits for Rob and Fab on the album “All or Nothing,” which he found alarming. He reflected on the music industry’s focus on sales and image over talent, and mentioned the Grammys revoking Milli Vanilli’s award. Additionally, Todd touched on the concept of imposter syndrome, its origins, and its relevance to individuals who feel out of place in environments not designed for them. Music Authenticity and Tragic Stories Todd discussed the inauthentic practices of some music artists in the 1980s and 1990s, including Milli Vanilli, Marky Mark and the Funky Bunch, and C & C Music Factory, where vocalists were often uncredited or not paid for their work. He also shared that Rob Diner, a member of the group Rob & Fab, struggled with drug addiction and died from an accidental overdose. Todd expressed sympathy for Fab, who managed to overcome personal challenges and learn to sing. He concluded by connecting Milli Vanilli’s music to the Menendez brothers case, noting that the brothers listened to the band’s music before and after committing their parents’ murders. Exploring Celebrities’ Deception and Impact Todd discussed the Menendez brothers’ case, highlighting how their wealthy background and alleged abuse influenced their actions, and drew parallels to other cases like Milli Vanilli, emphasizing deception and societal expectations. He explored the concept of imposter syndrome, explaining its characteristics and how it relates to the human tendency to confess secrets, using examples such as James Frey and Lance Armstrong. Todd also discussed the case of Elizabeth Holmes, noting the complexities of her situation, including allegations of fraud and the impact of her actions on others, while considering factors like misogyny and personal history. Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Todd discussed imposter syndrome, explaining that it affects high achievers due to social comparison, internalized messages, gender bias, perfectionism, and lack of representation. He highlighted how women often face more imposter syndrome due to societal expectations and shared insights from Amy Poehler’s podcast about embracing imperfection. Todd also touched on parenting, noting that children learn more from observing their parents’ handling of failures than from listening to advice. He reflected on the impact of curated perfection in music, comparing artists like Madonna and Milli Vanilli, and concluded with a discussion on Bruce Springsteen’s approach to authenticity in his music. Parenting and Imposter Syndrome Todd and his partner discussed the challenges of parenting and the phenomenon of imposter syndrome in this context. They explored various aspects of imposter syndrome in parenting, including feeling like one is not doing enough, second-guessing choices, avoiding conversations about parenting, and overcompensating with perfectionism. They also touched on the importance of self-compassion as a solution to imposter syndrome and the need to model self-compassion for children. Authenticity and Vulnerability in Leadership Todd shared reflections on authenticity, accountability, and the challenges of balancing confidence and vulnerability, particularly for women. He emphasized the importance of being true to oneself and highlighted how societal expectations and imposter syndrome can hinder personal growth. Todd also discussed a cringeworthy media moment involving a press conference, where individuals were unfairly pressured to prove their abilities, underscoring the need for better media training and support in difficult situations. Milli Vanilli: Lessons in Resilience Todd and his co-host discussed the impact of the music duo Milli Vanilli, focusing on Rob and Fab’s experiences and the lessons learned from their rise and fall. They shared quotes and reflections on topics like imposter syndrome, self-worth, and the pressure of public expectations. Todd highlighted the importance of resilience and reinvention, referencing Rob’s tragic death and Fab’s journey to redemption. They also played a music game, selecting songs that captured the vibe of their discussion, and concluded by emphasizing the message of perseverance.
Revenge of the Nerds & Weird Science -The Nerds Grew Up and took over- Episode #823
Jul 08, 2025
Cathy and Todd discuss what 80’s nerd movies like Weird Science and Revenge of the Nerds taught Gen X and what those messages look like in hindsight. They break down how these films centered male fantasies, ignored consent, and portrayed women as tools for male transformation, all while positioning the “nerd” as a misunderstood hero. They discuss the cultural backdrop: Reagan-era ideals, latchkey independence, and a tech world just beginning to take shape. Then they look at how these stories shaped a generation’s view of power, relationships, and identity and how that’s showing up in parenting today. This isn’t about canceling the past. It’s about being honest about what we learned, what we missed, and how to do better now.
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1980s Nerd Culture Films Impact Todd and Cathy discuss the 1980s movies Weird Science and Revenge of the Nerds, exploring their cultural impact and the evolution of nerd culture. They highlight the films’ controversial themes and discuss the actors involved, including Robert Downey Jr.’s early role in Weird Science. The conversation aims to reflect on how these movies shaped Gen X nostalgia and influenced perceptions of nerd culture today.
1980s Nerd Culture Evolution Todd discussed the cultural context of the 1980s, highlighting Ronald Reagan’s presidency, the Cold War, and the shift in middle-class values. He noted the rise of underdog stories and nerd culture in movies like The Karate Kid, The Goonies, and Revenge of the Nerds. Todd also mentioned the impact of MTV and the transition from boy-centric to girl-centric nerd stories in recent years, citing movies like Mean Girls, American Pie, Napoleon Dynamite, and Juno.
1980s High School Movie Memories Todd and Cathy discussed their high school experiences, with Todd recalling his transition from being part of the “cool crowd” in grade school to a less prominent social status in high school. They shared memories of 1980s movies like Revenge of the Nerds and Weird Science, with Todd noting that Weird Science became a favorite due to its memorable quotes and jokes. They also discussed interesting facts about the movies, such as Kelly LeBrock’s role in Weird Science and Anthony Michael Hall’s decision to pass on National Lampoon’s European Vacation to star in it.
Movie Trivia and Casting Insights Todd and Cathy discussed various trivia and facts about movies, including John Hughes’ writing process for Weird Science and casting choices that didn’t materialize. They also explored details about the Revenge of the Nerds series, such as filming locations and interesting trivia about the cast and crew. Todd shared personal anecdotes about attending a karaoke bar called Trader Todd’s, which played a role in her marriage. The conversation concluded with a brief mention of Michael J. Fox’s potential involvement in Revenge of the Nerds and an amusing fact about Curtis Armstrong’s almost-rejection for his role due to looking too clean.
Weird Science: Gender Stereotypes Critique The discussion focuses on problematic aspects of the movie Weird Science. Todd points out that the film is a male fantasy that objectifies women, with the main female character, Lisa, existing solely for the male protagonists’ desires. The movie ignores consent and autonomy, reinforces toxic gender norms, and portrays women as responsible for fixing men’s self-esteem. Todd also notes the lack of diversity in the film, a common issue in John Hughes movies, and draws parallels to other films with similar themes.
Sexual Assault in 80s Cinema The group discussed two movies, focusing on their portrayal of women and boundary-crossing behavior. They highlighted issues in Weird Science and Revenge of the Nerds, including objectification, hidden cameras, and lack of consent, culminating in scenes of sexual assault that were normalized in the films. The discussion raised concerns about how these movies, watched by young audiences, contributed to harmful narratives about sexual assault and gender dynamics.
Problematic Movie Consent Dynamics The group discussed problematic moments in 1980s and 90s movies that normalize harmful behaviors, particularly around consent and power dynamics. They identified several films with concerning scenes, including Revenge of the Nerds, 16 Candles, American Pie, and The Breakfast Club, where characters engage in inappropriate or non-consensual actions. The discussion highlighted how these films often portray women as objects and reinforce gender power imbalances, with Todd noting that even modern films like 50 Shades of Grey continue to normalize these problematic dynamics.
Film Critique: Masculinity and Intelligence Todd and Cathy discussed their hot takes on the movies Weird Science and Revenge of the Nerds. They criticized Wyatt’s acting in Weird Science and questioned Betty’s quick acceptance by the nerds in Revenge of the Nerds. They explored themes of masculinity, emotional intelligence, and representation in these films, noting how they reflect and influence cultural attitudes towards intelligence, gender roles, and social dynamics.
Tech Culture and Ethical Leadership Todd discussed the themes and lessons from 1980s movies like The Social Network and Weird Science, highlighting how they reflect and influence modern tech culture and leadership. He emphasized the importance of emotional intelligence, genuine connections, and ethical use of power, contrasting these values with the often ruthless pursuit of success and status. Todd also referenced Scott Galloway’s critique of Elon Musk, questioning the glorification of wealth and innovation at the expense of compassion and ethical behavior.
Classic or Cringe: Nerd Films Revisited Todd and his co-host Cathy discussed the movies Weird Science and Revenge of the Nerds, evaluating them as both “cringe” and “classic” due to their cultural significance and problematic content. They shared memories of the films, highlighted key scenes, and discussed the careers of the actors involved. The hosts also played a music game, selecting songs that captured the essence of the movies, and ended with trivia questions about the films. They reflected on the movies’ messages, noting both positive and problematic aspects, and encouraged listeners to hold onto the empowering elements while letting go of harmful messages.
What the Brady Bunch & Modern Family Teach Us About Blending Families- Episode #822
Jul 01, 2025
Cathy and Todddiscuss how two iconic shows—The Brady Bunch and Modern Family—reflect changing ideas about family across generations. They look at what made The Brady Bunch groundbreaking in the late ’60s and how Modern Family pushed those boundaries further by exploring race, sexuality, parenting, and identity. They compare how each show handles conflict, humor, and the realities of blending families, whether through remarriage, adoption, or shifting roles. They share personal stories, favorite episodes, and the moments that still resonate. They also highlight what holds up, what doesn’t, and what these shows teach us about belonging, repair, and the work it takes to stay connected.
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AI Summary Blended Families in TV History Todd and Cathy discussed the differences between the Brady Bunch and Modern Family, focusing on their portrayals of blended families and the cultural impact of each show. They highlighted that the Brady Bunch, a 1960s-70s sitcom, depicted an idealized nuclear family structure, whereas Modern Family, a 2000s mockumentary, explored more complex emotional themes and diverse family dynamics. They also touched on the shows’ representation, with the Brady Bunch being heteronormative and all-white, and Modern Family embracing diversity in race, culture, and sexuality. Todd shared personal anecdotes about their family’s connection to both shows, including a memorable cameo video for their daughter. Brady Bunch: Cast and Spin-Offs Todd discussed various aspects of the Brady Bunch series, including its spin-offs, cast dynamics, and behind-the-scenes details. He mentioned that Robert Reed, who played Mike Brady, was a closeted gay man and had a difficult relationship with the show. Todd also covered the show’s various sequels and spin-offs, including the animated Brady Kids and the 1990s reboot. He shared some interesting facts about the cast, such as Barry Williams’ surfing scenes and Ariel Winter’s legal emancipation from her parents. Brady Bunch and Modern Family Nostalgia Todd and Cathy discussed cultural references from “The Brady Bunch” and “Modern Family,” including quotes, episodes, and characters like Cousin Oliver and Aunt Jenny. They shared their thoughts on specific moments and characters, such as Cam’s Fisbo persona and Dylan’s song in “Modern Family.” The conversation was light-hearted and focused on nostalgia and humor related to these shows. Blended Family Dynamics in TV Todd discussed the themes of blended families in the TV shows “The Brady Bunch” and “Modern Family,” focusing on how these families navigate emotional depth, adapt to change, and resolve conflicts. He emphasized the importance of humor, patience, and understanding in blended families, highlighting how the shows demonstrate that family is a construction and not solely based on biology. Todd also discussed how the characters evolve over time, showing that people can outgrow their initial roles within a family. He concluded by touching on the challenges of maintaining fairness in blended families and the need for parents to balance loyalty and inclusion for all children involved. Balancing Work and Family Dynamics Todd discussed the challenges of balancing work and family life, emphasizing the importance of communication and validation in family dynamics. He highlighted the unique experiences of different family structures and the need to acknowledge and validate each other’s feelings. Todd also compared the parenting styles and conscientiousness of the Brady Bunch and Modern Family, concluding that the Modern Family kids may be more evolved due to the show’s later release date. Comparing TV Classics: Brady Bunch vs. Modern Family Todd and Elise discussed and compared two classic TV shows: The Brady Bunch and Modern Family. They ranked characters from both shows and highlighted memorable episodes and guest stars. Todd expressed that while Modern Family is a better show in terms of content and popularity, The Brady Bunch may have more lasting power due to its syndication and cultural impact in the 1970s. They also touched on the differences in TV viewing habits between generations and the potential future of these shows. TV Show Quotes and Production Challenges Todd discussed various topics related to TV shows, including quotes from “The Brady Bunch” and “Modern Family.” He expressed frustration with his current production work and decided to skip certain segments. Todd also mentioned the need to find specific audio clips and quotes, but faced some technical difficulties. Brady Bunch and Modern Family Insights Todd and Jeff discussed Jan’s allergy to Tiger, which made it impossible for them to live together. They also shared their term of endearment “sweetie” from the Brady Bunch. Todd provided updates on the cast of the Brady Bunch, including Barry Williams, Maureen McCormick, and Christopher Knight. They watched and discussed clips from Modern Family, focusing on scenes that highlighted cultural misunderstandings and gender dynamics. Blended Families and Music Trivia Todd and his co-host played a music game where they each chose a song that captured the vibe of their discussion about blended families, with Todd selecting “Changes” by Bowie and his co-host choosing “All You Need is Love” by the Beatles. They then conducted a trivia session about both Modern Family and The Brady Bunch, with questions ranging from character details to episode-specific facts. The episode concluded with a discussion about upcoming topics, including a planned show about nerd culture.
Fell on Black Days: The Deaths of 90s Lead Singers and What It Teaches Us About Mental Health and Addiction- Episode #821
Jun 24, 2025
Cathy and Todd explore the rise of 90s grunge and the tragic stories of its most iconic frontmen — Kurt Cobain, Chris Cornell, Layne Staley, Scott Weiland, and others — whose music reshaped rock while exposing the industry’s deep neglect of mental health and addiction. From the breakthroughs of Nevermind and Ten to the cultural shift away from glam and pop, this show shares how Gen X’s disillusionment found its voice in grunge and what the deaths of its stars teach us about authenticity, vulnerability, and the danger of romanticizing pain. They dive into the music and movies of the era, unpacking myths like the 27 Club and the idea that great art has to come from suffering, while reflecting on how these stories can shape the way we live, connect, parent, and develop emotional intelligence in a more grounded, meaningful way.
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Meeting summary for ZPR Podcast Recording (05/27/2025)
Quick recap The discussion explored the rise and impact of grunge music in the early 1990s, examining how it replaced other music genres and influenced pop culture through movies and fashion trends. The conversation delved into the tragic deaths of prominent musicians and the challenges faced by Gen X artists, including their struggles with mental health and addiction while navigating cultural shifts. The discussion concluded with reflections on the authenticity of pain in art, the role of the music industry in exploiting artists’ struggles, and the cultural impact of 1990s grunge music through personal connections and trivia. 1990s Grunge and Mental Health Todd and Kathy discuss the deaths of 1990s grunge music lead singers, focusing on the impact of mental health and addiction. They plan to explore the cultural shift of 1991, when Nirvana’s “Nevermind” album overshadowed Michael Jackson’s “Dangerous,” as a significant turning point in pop culture. The podcast aims to balance pop culture discussions with serious topics like mental health and wellness. Grunge’s Rise and Cultural Impact The discussion focused on the evolution of music genres, particularly the rise of grunge in the early 1990s and its impact on other music styles. Todd explained that bands like Soundgarden, Nirvana, and Pearl Jam were considered the “Big 5” grunge bands, while The Smashing Pumpkins, despite their popularity, were not classified as grunge due to their different aesthetic and goals. The group also discussed how grunge music, characterized by emotional honesty and minimalism, replaced other genres like hair metal, corporate rock, and synth pop, and how this shift was reflected in movies like “Singles” and “Reality Bites.” Grunge Music and College Memories Todd and his friend discussed the grunge music era, sharing memories of listening to albums like Nirvana’s “Unplugged” and Pearl Jam’s “Ten” in college. They reflected on fashion trends of the time, noting how differently students dressed compared to today. The conversation also touched on the release of several significant albums in 1991, including Guns N’ Roses’ “Use Your Illusion” and Red Hot Chili Peppers’ “Blood Sugar Sex Magik.” They briefly mentioned the death of Blind Melon’s Shannon Hoon and his impact on the band’s music. Musician Deaths and Mental Health The discussion focused on the tragic deaths of several prominent musicians, particularly those who died at the age of 27, including Kurt Cobain, Jimi Hendrix, and Jim Morrison. Todd explored the reasons behind these deaths, attributing them to addiction, mental health issues, and a lack of support in the music industry during the 1990s. The conversation also touched on the beef between Kurt Cobain and Axl Rose, and the origins of the phrase “It’s better to burn out than to fade away.” Todd emphasized the need for better mental health support for artists and the importance of addressing the glamorization of early death in the music industry. Gen X Artists’ Struggles Todd discussed the challenges faced by Gen X artists in the 1990s, highlighting how they grappled with pain and disillusionment while navigating cultural shifts. He noted that unlike previous generations, Gen Xers had access to more resources and conversations about mental health, but still lacked the necessary support. Todd emphasized the romanticization of the “tortured artist” trope and the often overlooked role of the music industry in profiting from artists’ struggles with addiction. He concluded by reflecting on how today’s generation, influenced by social media, may be more aware of global events but still faces internal struggles similar to those of the past. Authentic vs Performative Artistic Pain Todd discussed the distinction between authentic and performative pain, emphasizing that real pain is often internalized and difficult to watch, while performative pain on social media can be attention-seeking and less authentic. He highlighted how the music industry in the 1990s sometimes exploited artists’ pain for commercial gain, contrasting this with current artists who often use their vulnerability to connect with audiences. Todd also shared insights from his experience as a parent and therapist, emphasizing that asking for help is a sign of strength and that celebrity or talent does not guarantee happiness or invincibility. He concluded by questioning whether art is more impactful when created from pain versus joy, suggesting that while pain can inspire creativity, artists should aim to process and move beyond their pain to create more balanced work. Grunge Music’s Cultural Impact Todd and his co-host discussed the cultural impact of 1990s grunge music, sharing personal connections to bands like Nirvana, Pearl Jam, and The Cranberries. They played a game where they matched songs to themes, with Todd choosing “Take Me Out of the Dark” by Red Hot Chili Peppers and his co-host selecting “Alive” by Pearl Jam. The discussion included trivia questions about various bands and concluded with a reflection on Dolores O’Riordan’s passing and her contributions to music.
The Bully of Our Generation: What William Zabka Taught Us (yes, the OG Johnny from The Karate Kid) Episode # 820
Jun 17, 2025
Cathy and Todd dive into how 80s pop culture—especially the roles played by William Zabka—shaped Gen X’s early ideas about bullying, power, and masculinity. From The Karate Kid’s Johnny Lawrence to Just One of the Guys’ Greg Tolan, Zabka’s characters weren’t just villains—they were cultural blueprints. In this episode, they explore how these archetypes trained us to recognize bullying as loud, obvious, and physical, and why that old model leaves many Gen X parents unequipped to understand the quiet, social cruelty their kids face today. They reflect on Zabka’s surprising return in Cobra Kai, the emotional growth Gen X is still working through, and how we can better support a generation that sees power and empathy very differently.
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Meeting summary for ZPR Podcast Recording (05/20/2025)
Quick recap
The podcast episode focuses on exploring 1980s pop culture and its impact on Gen X perceptions of bullying and social dynamics, particularly through movies like The Karate Kid and discussions about actor William Zabka’s roles. The hosts share personal experiences with bullying and examine how these cultural references have evolved over time, including the success of the Cobra Kai TV series as a modern reimagining of the original story. The episode concludes with a trivia game about 80s movies and TV shows, followed by discussions about song choices and upcoming content for the podcast.
Summary
Podcast Planning: Zen Pop Parenting Todd prepares for recording a podcast episode, discussing technical aspects like audio fading and applause. He reviews the show’s intro, which focuses on connecting families through movies, music, and meaning. Todd also mentions incorporating clips from William Zabka and references to “The Karate Kid.” The episode appears to be part of the “Zen Pop Parenting” series, which combines Gen X pop culture with real-life reflection.
Zabka’s Bully Roles in 80s Cinema The discussion focuses on actor William Zabka and his portrayal of bullies in 1980s movies, particularly in “The Karate Kid” and “Just One of the Guys.” Todd and his co-host explore how Zabka’s characters shaped Gen X perceptions of bullying, power dynamics, and masculinity. They also touch on other 80s movies and actors, including “European Vacation” and “Back to School,” and briefly discuss the trend of female celebrities showing their breasts in films during that era. The hosts emphasize how these movies and characters, though outdated, have left a lasting impact on their generation’s understanding of social dynamics.
Reflecting on Past Bullying Experiences Todd shares two personal stories about bullying from his past. In the first, he recalls being punched in the mouth by a classmate named Steve in high school after being a “smart ass.” In the second story, Todd admits to bullying a classmate named Jim in fourth grade, later apologizing to him as an adult, though Jim didn’t remember the incident. Todd’s colleague then shares two of her own bullying experiences from childhood, including being pressured by male friends in fourth grade and a high school incident where a girl threatened to beat her up but ultimately just wanted help with schoolwork.
Revisiting the Karate Kid Legacy The discussion covers various aspects of 1980s pop culture, focusing on The Karate Kid and its actors. Todd and his co-host share trivia about William Zabka, who played Johnny in the film, noting that he was less popular than other teen idols due to his villainous role. They also discuss the film’s ending, pointing out that Daniel’s winning move was technically illegal under tournament rules. The conversation then shifts to the TV series Cobra Kai, which they praise for its humor and fresh perspective on the original story. They briefly touch on other 80s reboots, including a short-lived Brady Bunch sequel series, before returning to discuss Cobra Kai’s success in reexamining the roles of hero and villain in The Karate Kid.
Evolution of Bullying in Media The discussion focuses on the evolution of bullying from the 1980s to the present day, using examples from popular culture. Todd and his co-host compare the archetypal 1980s bully, exemplified by characters in movies like “The Karate Kid,” to modern forms of bullying. They highlight how bullying has shifted from physical and overt to more subtle, psychological, and social media-based tactics. The conversation also touches on parenting strategies for dealing with modern bullying, emphasizing the importance of validating children’s experiences and asking open-ended questions. They discuss the character development of Johnny Lawrence in “Cobra Kai” as a metaphor for Gen X’s emotional growth and parenting challenges.
80s Movie Bracket Discussion Todd and his conversation partner discuss movies featuring bullying, selecting winners in a bracket-style competition. They ultimately choose “Carrie” as the winner over “Mean Girls” in the final round. They then evaluate various 80s movies and actors as either “cringe” or “classic,” generally favoring “classic” designations. They discuss memorable quotes from “The Karate Kid” and touch on William Zabka’s career developments. The conversation concludes with a discussion about song choices that capture the vibe of their podcast topic, settling on “Tubthumping” by Chumbawamba and “Here I Go Again” by Whitesnake.
Movie Trivia Game Discussion Todd and his companion engage in a trivia game about movies and TV shows, including Karate Kid, Cobra Kai, Back to School, Just One of the Guys, and European Vacation. They take turns asking and answering questions, discussing various characters, plot points, and behind-the-scenes facts. The conversation ends with them mentioning a recurring joke about Cyndi Lauper from “Just One of the Guys” and hinting at an upcoming episode of their show, which will air next Tuesday.
How The Outsiders Changed Youth Culture and Created Our Biggest Stars- Episode # 819
Jun 10, 2025
Todd and Cathy share the upcoming changes to their podcast, Zen Parenting Radio, which will be renamed Zen POP Parenting starting June 1st! They also discuss the normal shifts in kids’ friendships, highlighting the importance of loyalty, boundaries, and the reality that friendships evolve. As parents, we can feel more overwhelmed than our kids when these changes happen, but it’s important to normalize the ups and downs of friendships and offer support without letting our own fear or discomfort take over.
How MTV and ‘Video Killed the Radio Star’ Shaped Our Generation—and Our Parenting- Episode # 818
Jun 03, 2025
Todd and Cathy share the upcoming changes to their podcast, Zen Parenting Radio, which will be renamed Zen POP Parenting starting June 1st! They also discuss the normal shifts in kids’ friendships, highlighting the importance of loyalty, boundaries, and the reality that friendships evolve. As parents, we can feel more overwhelmed than our kids when these changes happen, but it’s important to normalize the ups and downs of friendships and offer support without letting our own fear or discomfort take over.
Gen X Pop Culture Meets Real-Life Reflection- Episode #817
May 27, 2025
Todd and Cathy share the upcoming changes to their podcast, Zen Parenting Radio, which will be renamed Zen POP Parenting starting June 1st! Cathy and Todd share the story behind Zen Parenting Radio’s evolution into Zen Pop Parenting—a podcast where mindful living, emotional awareness, and Gen X pop culture come together. From the music, movies, and moments that shaped them to the real-life experiences of parenting kids (young or grown), they explore how connection and communication help people better understand themselves and each other.
What Brings You Peace & Fire? Episode # 816
May 20, 2025
Todd and Cathy share the upcoming changes to their podcast, Zen Parenting Radio, which will be renamed Zen POP Parenting starting June 1st! Cathy and Todd discuss what brings you both peace and fire and why your somatic experience (what you feel in your body) is a more authentic guide than overthinking. They unpack what the word miracle really means, challenge narrow ideas of productivity, and share a single word that can help you enjoy life instead of staying stuck.
Why Empathy Matters- Episode # 815
May 13, 2025
Todd and Cathy share the upcoming changes to their podcast, Zen Parenting Radio, which will be renamed Zen POP Parenting starting June 1st! Empathy drives connection, but some claim it’s dangerous because it disrupts the status quo they want to maintain. We explore why empathy is being framed as a flaw, and how history, research, and pop culture remind us that caring about others isn’t weakness—it’s what keeps us human. Plus, a deep dive into the greatest villains and protagonists in film and what they teach us about staying grounded in what we know to be true.
Talking About Friendships # 814
May 06, 2025
Todd and Cathy share the upcoming changes to their podcast, Zen Parenting Radio, which will be renamed Zen POP Parenting starting June 1st! They also discuss the normal shifts in kids’ friendships, highlighting the importance of loyalty, boundaries, and the reality that friendships evolve. As parents, we can feel more overwhelmed than our kids when these changes happen, but it’s important to normalize the ups and downs of friendships and offer support without letting our own fear or discomfort take over.
What Do You Think About When You Wake Up? Episode # 813
Apr 29, 2025
We dig into the gender differences in why we show up the way we do, how we’re conditioned, why women so often carry the weight of everyone’s well-being, and why emotional presence is still seen as optional for a lot of men. We talk about why these conversations are essential in our own homes, and what sometimes keeps us from having them. We also explore how all of this shows up not just in families and relationships, but in leadership, corporate culture, and the bigger cultural conversation around change and staying connected.
Leave Things Better Than We Found Them- Episode # 812
Apr 22, 2025
We talk about our oddly soothing obsession with rug-cleaning and lawn care TikToks—and what they reveal about care, restoration, and using your energy to make things better. We also get into the difference between seeking positive vs. negative attention, and why people sometimes act out when what they really want is to be seen and to belong. From ASMR satisfaction to deeper reflections on generosity vs. harm, we discuss showing up with intention and leaving things better than we found them.
Choose Your Three Words- Episode # 811
Apr 15, 2025
Cathy and Todd talk about the collective anxiety so many of us are carrying right now, whether it’s our daily responsibilities or the heaviness of what we’re witnessing on a national or global scale. They discuss Cathy’s three personal guideposts—integrity, humility, and compassion—how these words help her navigate parenting, conflict, relationships, and the uncertainty of this moment, along with the pop culture icons that represent each one. They also take time to talk about the male loneliness epidemic: why it matters, how it’s showing up in culture, and what it means for connection, emotional health, and community.
The Unseen Work of Regulating Others- Episode # 810
Apr 08, 2025
Cathy and Todd talk about the double standard of managing other people’s emotions—how it’s both expected and criticized—and why this kind of emotional regulation is often misunderstood and overlooked. They also discuss menopause and why emotions can shift or intensify, and how learning what’s really going on can help the whole family better understand and respond, rather than dismissing what can be a really difficult time. Plus, they talk about The White Lotus, Yellowjackets, and talk about their upcoming conversation on navigating friendships—with our kids and within ourselves—on Wednesday, April 9th at Deerfield High School.
Strong Enough to Connect: Masculinity, Humility, and Responsibility Episode# 809
Apr 01, 2025
Todd and Cathy discuss a recent episode of survivor, Cathy’s frustration at Todd’s double parking, as well as humility, masculinity, responsibility, and emotional support in relationships.
Raising Kids Who Enjoy Learning- Episode# 808
Mar 25, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of raising kids who enjoy learning, emphasizing the need for a play-based learning environment and the importance of not overburdening children with academic tasks too early. They also highlighted the challenges faced by educators, including pressure from parents and curriculum requirements, and advocated for more creative and diverse teaching methods. The conversation also focused on parenting strategies, the role of teachers, and the need for parents to manage their children's schoolwork, with a particular emphasis on understanding and supporting children's identities and interests.
“Adolescence” Episode 3- #807
Mar 18, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed their personal experiences and a Netflix miniseries called "Adolescence,", focusing on issues such as gender dynamics, male rage, and online influences on young men. They explored the manosphere, its impact on society, and the importance of addressing digital sexism and male supremacy, while also examining family dynamics and communication styles between genders. They emphasized the need for understanding and addressing the experiences of boys and young men, encouraging open conversations about online content and emotions, and promoting positive relationships between genders.
Not Tuning Out—Just Engaging Differently Episode #806
Mar 11, 2025
Todd and Cathy shared strategies for staying informed without burning out from the world, and the need for personal well-being for continued engagement and making a difference.
Holding It Together- Episode #805
Mar 04, 2025
We discuss Women's History Month, emphasizing the importance of understanding women's experiences and challenges in society. They explore various aspects of women's safety, cultural norms, and the need for men to engage with and support women's issues. We also highlight the significance of nurturing relationships, adaptability, and women's role in holding memories and creating change, while encouraging men to be curious and empathetic towards women's experiences.
End of Discussion- Episode #804
Feb 25, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of critical thinking, the avoidance of thought terminating cliches, and the need for clear roles and expectations within their team. They also expressed concerns about the current state of the administration and its impact on society, and highlighted the importance of adapting to changing cultural norms and supporting children's spiritedness. Lastly, they emphasized the need for open and honest conversations, and encouraged others to join Team Zen and support children's feelings of unfairness.
This Is So Awkward, Modern Puberty Explained- Episode #803
Feb 18, 2025
Todd and Cathy talk with Cara Natterson MD and Vanessa Kroll Bennett, authors of This Is So Awkward, Modern Puberty Explained. We share experiences and motivations for focusing on puberty and sex education. They also discussed the differences between traditional and progressive education systems, the influence of pornography on societal attitudes towards body hair, and the challenges parents face in navigating conversations about puberty and sexuality with their children. The group agreed on the importance of open communication, maintaining physical affection, and promoting bodily autonomy and agency in these conversations.
How an Open Mind Strengthens Our Relationships- Episode #802
Feb 11, 2025
Todd and Cathy reminisced about the evolution of telephones and shared their experiences with prank calls and shared phone lines. They also discussed the importance of open-mindedness, empathy, and understanding in human interactions, emphasizing the need to trust oneself and not rely solely on personal experiences or opinions. The conversation concluded with a reflection on the passage of time and the changing dynamics of family relationships.
Flood the Zone: Staying Calm When Things Get Loud- Episode #801
Feb 04, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed the concept of "flooding the zone" in family dynamics and personal peace of mind, emphasizing the importance of critical thinking, discernment, and effective communication. They explored various strategies to manage the effects of flooding the zone, including being clear about core values, prioritizing and filtering information, and engaging with discernment. The discussion also touched on the importance of emotional regulation, resilience, and setting boundaries in parenting, as well as the role of physical touch and respect for children's boundaries.
The Ten Best Moments- Episode #800
Jan 28, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed highlights from their recent Zen Parenting Conference, including various topics such as generational slang, societal challenges for boys and girls, and the importance of open communication with children. They reflected on the conference's success, emphasizing the interactive nature of the event, the impact of guest speakers, and the significance of human connections. Todd also shared personal experiences and insights from the conference, expressing gratitude towards family, friends, and supporters while acknowledging the need for continued growth and adaptation in their initiatives.
5 Things to be Optimistic About- Episode # 799
Jan 21, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of optimism, perseverance, and emotional intelligence in personal and professional development, using examples from their experiences and current events. They also highlighted the impact of independent filmmakers and digital platforms on the entertainment industry, and expressed optimism about the growing understanding and research on menopause and women's health. Lastly, they emphasized the need for expanding one's awareness and perspective, and the importance of self-compassion and nurturing relationships in personal growth.
The Nuance of “Let Them” The Importance and Pitfalls of Self-Help- Episode #798
Jan 14, 2025
Todd and Cathy discuss Mel Robbins book “Let Them”, the importance of nuance in self-help concepts. They also touched on the importance of trust and communication in relationships, and the concept of "letting go" in personal relationships. Lastly, they shared their thoughts on various TV shows and movies, and emphasized the importance of self-awareness and emotional expression in relationships.
10 Quotes to Change Your Life- Episode#797
Jan 07, 2025
Todd and Cathy discussed Cathy's most recent Substack which were 10 quotes that impacted Cathy. The conversation covered a range of subjects including the balance between joy and sadness, the value of kindness and compassion, and the significance of critical thinking and role modeling in conversations.
New Practices for 2025- Episode#796
Dec 31, 2024
Todd and Cathy discussed various TV shows, movies, and practices to improve mental and emotional well-being, including gratitude lists, morning pages, and yogic adjustments. They also emphasized the importance of prioritization, effective task management, and creating playlists for personal enjoyment and staying connected with others. Lastly, they touched on the concept of meditation, the importance of initiating conversations with daughters, and the need for nonjudgmental and engaging interactions.
Elf, The Movie- A Holiday Deep Dive Episode #795
Dec 24, 2024
Todd and Cathy discussed the movie "Elf," covering its production, casting, and memorable scenes. They explored the film's themes, characters, and cultural significance, while also playing a trivia game and sharing personal reflections on the Christmas spirit.
One-Way Connection- Episode #794
Dec 17, 2024
Todd & Cathy discussed the release of Cathy’s book "Restoring Our Girls," which focuses on challenges faced by teenage girls. Todd shared insights on making P, B, & J's, parenting, particularly maintaining connections with his daughters as they mature and become more independent.
Do Your Teens Wait Until Night To Open Up- Episode #793
Dec 03, 2024
Cathy & Todd discussed the release of Cathy's fifth book, the importance of allowing oneself and one's children to express their true selves, and the challenges of parenting. They also shared personal stories about their daughters and the reasons behind children unloading their emotions at night. Lastly, they emphasized the importance of emotional release, creative problem-solving, and maintaining stability for children.
Teens Helping Teens Navigate Mental Health- A Conversation with the Founders of Chase Light- Episode #792
Nov 26, 2024
This week’s podcast features a chat with three high school seniors from Hinsdale Central, just outside of Chicago. Zara, Rami, and Molly have started Chase Light, a group focused on breaking down the stigma around mental health and offering support to their peers.
Adapt- Parenting Through The Lens Of Spiral Dynamics- Episode #791
Nov 19, 2024
Cathy & Todd discussed the concept of Spiral Dynamics, a theory about human evolution and societal development, and its application in parenting and relationships. They emphasized the importance of balance, flexibility, and empathy in understanding different stages of development and maintaining a strong value system. They also touched on the interconnectedness of values and the need for critical thinking.
Helping our Kids Feel Less Alone- Episode # 790
Nov 12, 2024
Todd and Cathy emphasized the importance of understanding and connecting with daughters, using Cathy's upcoming book on parenting girls as a guide. They shared personal experiences and strategies for maintaining strong relationships with children, highlighting the need for physical presence, understanding, and adapting communication styles. They also stressed the importance of respecting individual needs and preferences, and encouraged the use of humor and creativity in communication, while also promoting community and optimistic perspectives.
30 Minutes of Calm- Episode #789
Nov 05, 2024
Todd and Cathy bring calm in the context of an upcoming election. They discussed the importance of self-compassion, its three components, and the concept of mindfulness, emphasizing that self-compassion is not about letting oneself off the hook, but rather about treating oneself with kindness and understanding.
The Election is One Week From Today- Episode #788
Oct 29, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
Love Bombing- What It Is And Why You Should Know The Signs- Episode #787
Oct 22, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
Disrupting Anxiety Spirals Episode # 786
Oct 15, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
Comparison Culture- Episode # 785
Oct 08, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
“Know Me”- The Danger of Labels & Conversations That Shape Our Daughters- Episode # 784
Oct 01, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
Navigating Teen Turbulence- Experimentation, Lack of Motivation, & Technology Addiction- Episode # 783
Sep 24, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
The 8 “C’s” of IFS- Episode #782
Sep 17, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
Todd and Cathy discuss cell phone use in schools, and the challenges of navigating through difficult situations such as elderly care and relationship dynamics. They also highlighted the importance of effective communication, teamwork, and self-care in dealing with such situations. Lastly, they discussed the top 10 common obstacles families face when dealing with aging parents.
7 Habits that Create a Healthy Partnership- Episode #780
Sep 03, 2024
Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of self-understanding, open communication, and healthy boundaries in parenting and relationships. They also highlighted the value of shared experiences, respect, and emotional regulation in building strong relationships. Additionally, they touched on the appeal of various forms of media and the need for ongoing conversations about family history and challenges.
Navigating Milestones- Episode #779
Aug 27, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss the concept of milestones in parenting, emphasizing the importance of allowing children to develop at their own pace and encouraging them to step out of their comfort zones. They shared personal anecdotes about their own children's developmental differences and their experiences with spiders, cicadas, and flies. They also highlighted the challenges and milestones of parenting, including the transition of children into school and beyond, and the need for parents to provide support and connection in the face of various pressures.
It’s All Your Projection (Unless It’s Not)- Episode #778
Aug 20, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss projection and why sometimes we are projecting, sometimes we are reacting, sometimes we are sharing our feelings, and sometimes it's a mix of all three! They also discuss why the first day of school (from Kindergarten through college) is filled with both joy and fear, and reminisce about how the saxophone is used in so many 80s movie scores and pop music.
What is “Tonic” Masculinity? – Episode# 777
Aug 13, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss the new language around healthy masculinity, inspired by Vice Presidential nominee Tim Walz, and they explore how men can embrace traditional masculine traits while also valuing and expressing compassion and kindness. They talk about the small happy things—those small, happy moments that not only boost our mood but also improve our overall perspective. They also discuss strategies for supporting men, women, boys and girls when it comes to mental wellness, emphasizing the importance of a balanced approach.
Normalizing Anxiety- Episode #776
Aug 06, 2024
Cathy and Todd talk about anxiety and why it’s a completely normal part of life. They explain how anxiety isn’t just a response to stress but a built-in part of our survival system. Using the movie Inside Out 2, they show how anxiety, like the other emotions in the film, helps us navigate uncertainty and stay safe. They also offer practical tips for managing anxiety and discuss how accepting and understanding it can lead to greater adaptability and resilience.
Life Trajectories- Episode #775
Jul 30, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss life trajectories, emphasizing that success isn't confined to a single right path, way, class, major, or job. They highlight the importance of children trusting their instincts and their own knowledge as they go through life. They also explore how resilience and adaptability are developed through every setback, and how we can help our children feel supported and trusted as they navigate their experiences.
Cathy and Todd discuss cognitive labor, which is the mental effort and worry of anticipating needs, considering options, making decisions, and tracking progress in the home and with kids. They explore how it's connected to emotional and invisible labor and stress the importance of ongoing discussions to reduce resentment and ensure everyone feels seen and understood.
Balancing Presence, Thought, and Action in Parenting- Episode #773
Jul 16, 2024
Todd and Cathy emphasize the importance of being present, thinking critically, and doing in parenting, and discussed the concept of human archetypes and the need to focus on the present moment. They also shared personal anecdotes about balancing 'being', 'doing', and 'thinking', and discussed the challenges of societal expectations and the importance of living authentically. Lastly, they addressed underlying issues in relationships, the importance of taking action, and the need to process emotions healthily.
The Pressure to Conform- Episode #772
Jul 09, 2024
Cathy & Todd discuss why our kids feel pressure to conform, focusing on when it’s developmentally appropriate and when it may be cause for concern. They also discuss how adults feel the same pressure to conform, emphasizing why relating to our kids, rather than judging them, is more impactful for their learning and for maintaining our connection.
Todd and Cathy discuss the importance and value of difficult conversations in partnership and parenting, emphasizing the two extremes: complete avoidance or overbearing insistence on discussing things. They explore how to find a middle ground—being approachable and open, but also willing to set boundaries and agree to expectations. This approach allows for a home environment where real conversations are encouraged and practiced, and where everyone feels heard and comfortable sharing.
Novelty & Ordinary- Episode #770
Jun 25, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss what brings us joy when we are young versus what brings us joy when we are older. They also discuss agreements that can be made within a relationship to keep communication open and healthy. They share why it’s important to appreciate who we are and where we are now, rather than trying to return to a certain time, body, or mindset that may not align with who we have become.
Who is in the Brat Pack?- Episode #769
Jun 18, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss who's in the inner circle of the Brat Pack and who is Brat Pack adjacent based on their memories from the 80s and their experience with Andrew McCarthy’s Brat Pack Documentary. They discuss how growth and self-awareness play significant roles in the documentary, and why some individuals evolve faster than others. They also touch on Inside Out 2 and address a listener question about shifting generational cycles.
Women Unfolding- Episode #768
Jun 11, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss how women are socialized to become smaller and more restricted, and then begin to unwind and unfold this process once they become aware of what's happening. Cathy provides an overview of this in her Substack titled 'Women Unfolding,' explaining why this is the image she sees in her mind when she works with women. Todd shares his version of men unfolding, and they discuss songs that have parentheses in the title and debate whether or not those parentheses are necessary.
Working Toward Acceptance- Episode #767
Jun 04, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss acceptance and emphasize the importance of releasing old ideas and remaining open to new ones in order to figure out how to accept and move forward. They also discuss the reality of nuance and paradox, explaining why decision-making is not about finding the 'right' decision, but rather the right decision for right now. The also talk about Tim McGraw's music and how it reminds us to be our best selves.
Reactive Conversations- Episode #766
May 28, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss why necessary conversations are so difficult to manage and why and how we try to avoid them. They share examples of the experiences that lead to avoidance and offer insights into developing understanding instead. They emphasize why the most challenging and reactive conversations can be pivotal for relationships and lead to greater intimacy.
Love on the Spectrum- Episode #765
May 21, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss Netflix's 'Love on the Spectrum' and why the people and families featured make it such a good watch. They discuss the importance of loving, and liking, our children just as they are, and how this allows them to thrive, and they analyze Harrison Butker's speech and why it was offensive in many different ways.
Gen X & Gen Z Slang- Episode #764
May 14, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss Gen X slang and intertwine the most popular phrases with clips from the most memorable pop culture moments. They discuss how language changes over time and break down the most popular Gen Z slang, offering suggestions on when to use it (or when not to).
Man or Bear- Why Did It Go Viral? Episode #763
May 07, 2024
Cathy and Todd discussed the viral "man or bear" debate, addressing why many women felt compelled to pick "bear" and why some men felt hurt or angry. They discussed the importance of listening and empathy when it comes to other people’s experiences and how being defensive might be our initial reaction, but we can choose compassion and understanding. They also discussed why opting out of something we don’t want to do makes room for the things we do want to do. Todd and Cathy are hosting a live discussion about the “man or bear” debate on Monday, May 20th at 7pm CT through the MenLiving platform – all genders are welcome, see below for link to join.
Mornings with Teenagers- Episode #762
Apr 30, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids in the morning without being too annoying. They also discuss when to use Gen Z slang and when not to, and why not "needing" too much from our kids makes us easier to talk to. They also discuss Taylor’s new album, the movie Swingers, and why pop culture makes for great conversation with our kids.
Teenage Boys and Belonging- Episode #761
Apr 23, 2024
Todd and Cathy discussed the importance of developing talents and the challenges of pursuing one's passions. They also emphasized the need for understanding and empathizing when teenage boys lash out or question their belonging (they share an audioclip from Dr. John Duffy). They shared the difference between empathy and sympathy, and why it’s important to be really clear about what you need and ask for it. They ended the show by discussing the victim, villain, hero triangle and what it really means when you are 'hero-ing' someone.
Cathy and Todd discuss the distinction between weaponized incompetence and regular incompetence, exploring how gender norms and societal expectations shape these ideas. They engage in real-time reflection on how they navigate these dynamics within their partnership and parenting, and they stress the need for communication and flexibility depending on the situation. This is a good episode to listen to with your partner or friends! Lots of issues to discuss and process.
The Two Secrets to Parenting – Episode #759
Apr 09, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss two factors that make parenting feel more self-directed and understandable. While it will still be messy, unpredictable, and tiring, at least you will feel more in your integrity while doing it! They also talk about listening skills, anxiety, NCAA basketball, and Beyoncé's new album.
Todd and Cathy discuss about how genuine curiosity helps our kids really hear us and value what we're saying. The same goes for understanding each other in a partnership or empathizing with someone from a different gender perspective. When we're open about not having all the answers, it paves the way for learning and staying connected.
The Do’s & Don’ts of Emotional Conversations- Episode #757
Mar 26, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of emotional conversations with our kids and why we need to pay attention to how we experience and perceive what our children are telling us. They discuss what kids really need from us when they are emotional and how we can support them without absolving or absorbing their pain. They also discuss Friday Night Videos and commercials from the 80’s.
The Ordinary is the Extraordinary- Episode #756
Mar 19, 2024
Todd & Cathy discuss why it’s the ordinary moments that make us feel connected and content, and why what we end up missing are the simple things, not the big things. They also discuss the five things that make someone a Gen Xer, have a follow-up discussion about astrology and its usefulness, and Cathy talks about her new book RESTORING OUR GIRLS, coming in early 2025.
The Stories We Tell Ourselves- Podcast #755
Mar 12, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss the stories we create about our lives and process whether or not we can reconsider our stories – not to deny reality, but to focus on what’s working rather than what’s lost. They also talk about role models for men, why it’s important to acknowledge every aspect of ourselves, what’s going on with Hall&Oates, and whether or not astrology is a science-based tool.
Even Nothing is Something- Podcast #754
Mar 05, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss why we struggle to show up as fully ourselves in groups, and how we can get better at noticing this behavior. Then Todd says, “I’m just not feeling it” so they move into a pop culture conversation that seems to be about nothing, or maybe it was about a lot of little somethings including Bon Jovi, the members of New Edition, why stuffed animals are important, how Cathy got their daughter to stop stealing her brush, why Cathy’s college friends are so funny, and the importance of capybaras, cats, interrogation videos and gorillas on Reels & TikTok. Join Team Zen to hear Cathy & Todd’s talk about bringing genuine romance back into your relationship (3/18, 7 pm).
How Our Past Shapes Today – Episode #753
Feb 27, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss how our upbringing shapes our current approach to parenting, share why some traditional parenting tricks fall short, and attempt to redefine romance—it's not just about grand gestures, but the heartfelt intentions behind them.
Are We Over-Involved in Our Adult Children’s Lives? The Research Might Surprise You- Episode #752
Feb 20, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss an article from The New York Times titled, 'Parents Are Highly Involved in Their Adult Children’s Lives, and Fine With It,' explaining that staying intimately connected to our older children has benefits, not just risks, and most young adults agree. They discuss the perspectives of previous generations and why things have changed, as well as why it’s easy to stay connected due to devices and the research around effective parenting. They also discuss the fascination with OOTD (outfit of the day) and GRWM (get ready with me) on social media and how we can talk to our kids about comparison culture and self-worth.
Staying Open in a Distracted World- A Conversation with “Open” Author Nate Klemp- Episode #751
Feb 13, 2024
Todd and Cathy talk with Author Nate Klemp about his new book, Open: Living with an Expansive Mind in a Distracted World. They discuss why technology is addictive and so appealing, and how it’s not our fault that we are attracted to screens and scrolling. They also discuss how being closed leads to polarization and conspiracy theories, while staying open reconnects us and helps us see the world in a new and more optimistic way. Nate shares his experiences with screen bingeing, psychedelic-assisted therapy, and meeting people who think differently, emphasizing the importance of being willing to have a conversation.
Talking to Kids About Online Sports Betting- Episode #750
Feb 06, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss the explosion of online sports betting and why kids and teens are more likely to develop a gambling disorder than adults. They discuss the reasons why teens use it, how AI is being used to market at them, and how, just like weed, alcohol, and porn, it necessitates an ongoing conversation to make sure our kids understand how it works (not in their favor) and the possible consequences. They also discuss why setting boundaries is essential to practice true empathy and how the 2024 Grammys were a Gen X dream.
Two Types of Messy Conversations- Episode #749
Jan 30, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss the two types of messy conversations and explain why it's important to know the difference if you want to connect with your kid. They discuss the awesomeness of Zen Parenting, 2024 and share some of the most important lessons learned. They also highlight the significance of knowing less, listening more, and discovering what 'time well spent' means.
Rescuing Our Sons- An Interview with Dr. John Duffy: Part 3- Episode #748
Jan 25, 2024
In Part Two of our three-part series with Dr. John Duffy, author of 'Rescuing Our Sons,' John shares why emotional intelligence is crucial for boys. He tells a story about one of his clients who took a gender studies class and explores the 'Taylor Swift effect,' emphasizing why boys need more of this kind of joy. Find Part One in the show notes and tune in tomorrow for Part Three.
Rescuing Our Sons- An Interview with Dr. John Duffy: Part 2- Episode #747
Jan 24, 2024
In Part Two of our three-part series with Dr. John Duffy, author of 'Rescuing Our Sons,' John shares why emotional intelligence is crucial for boys. He tells a story about one of his clients who took a gender studies class and explores the 'Taylor Swift effect,' emphasizing why boys need more of this kind of joy. Find Part One in the show notes and tune in tomorrow for Part Three.
Rescuing Our Sons- An Interview with Dr. John Duffy: Part 1- Episode #746
Jan 23, 2024
Cathy and Todd interview Dr. John Duffy, author of 'Rescuing Our Boys,' discussing his book and the state of boys in America. In the first part of a three-part series, they explore John's experiences while talking with boys during therapy, the reasons boys feel like they don’t belong, and the lack of male role models for boys today. Listen tomorrow for Part Two.
What Does It Mean to Be Seen- Episode #745
Jan 16, 2024
Cathy and Todd discuss the power of words and how their significance is subjective to the person using them. They focus on the necessity of being seen, emphasizing how the quality of our partnerships and parenting is influenced by our ability to truly see others. The discuss what it means to have a healthy relationship and share why anecdotal evidence may not always be conclusive.
Wisdom from our Friends- Episode #744
Jan 09, 2024
Cathy and Todd share the best clips from interviews with their friends Michelle Icard, Dr. Devorah Heitner, Dr. John Duffy, and Dr. Alexandra Solomon (they are all keynote speakers at Zen Parenting, 2024, Jan 26&27)! They also discuss the heightened skincare of teens, why we need so many sweatshirts, and why conflict is so common in our most important relationships.
How Did It Go?- Episode #743
Jan 02, 2024
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s important to process how the holidays went before moving forward—what worked, what didn’t, and what can be repaired or celebrated. They also focus on school refusal after the holidays, emotional labor during the holidays, and answer a question about what’s most important when raising boys.
Dr. Shefali & The Parenting Map- Episode #742
Dec 26, 2023
Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship. They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience.
Find Your Next Favorite Holiday Movie- Episode 741
Dec 19, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite holiday movies, what makes them great, and whether or not they are truly holiday movies. They share clips from the best movies and finish with the top 20 best holiday movies of all time.
Should I Let My Kid Fail? A Conversation with Michelle Icard- Episode 740
Dec 12, 2023
Todd and Cathy talk with Michelle Icard, the author of '14 Talks by Age 14' and her new book, '8 Setbacks that Can Make a Child a Success.' They discuss why we try to manage everyone's emotions, the challenges of letting our kids experience failure, and how embracing these challenges can contribute to building their character and enabling them to navigate their own lives.
Gender Norms- Truth or Fiction?- Episode #739
Dec 05, 2023
Todd and Cathy discuss gender norms and explore ways to validate, acknowledge, and challenge them. They also dive into the comedy of Nate Bargatze, highlighting its observational nature that prompts thought and reflection.
Support Systems for our Kids- Episode #738
Nov 28, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss how to create strong support systems for our kids, allowing them to have new and unique experiences and build relationships that contribute to their self-understanding. Teaching them about boundaries, encouraging them to ask for help, and making sure they know it's totally okay to speak up if something feels off give them the confidence to trust themselves, even when you're not right there with them.
Developing a Grateful Mindset- Episode #737
Nov 21, 2023
Todd and Cathy dive deep into some quotes about gratitude and explore how to incorporate gratitude into our everyday and ordinary lives. They also answer some listener’s questions and play clips from Planes, Trains, and Automobiles (the best Thanksgiving movie!) and Nate Bargatze’s stand-up.
Fentanyl- What You Need to Know- A Conversation with Patrice Lenowitz -Episode #736
Nov 14, 2023
Cathy and Todd talk with Patrice Lenowitz, Executive Director of The Nurtured Parent, domestic abuse survivor, victims’ rights advocate, activist, and mother of Max, who tragically died of fentanyl poisoning in 2022. Patrice is now on a mission to raise awareness around Fentanyl Poisoning through legislation and education and to help parents understand why and how kids are exposed. She also talks about the importance of supporting our youth when it comes to trauma, anxiety, and depression, to decrease the likelihood of street drug usage to alleviate their pain.
Raising Non-Entitled Children-Episode #735
Nov 07, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss entitlement and how to better relate and understand our kids. They talk about the importance of intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation, why it takes kids time to change their behavior, and how to avoid using shame when communicating family values.
The One About Anxiety and FRIENDS-Episode #734
Oct 31, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the loss of Matthew Perry and the significance of Chandler and the TV show "FRIENDS" for our generation. They also share strategies for addressing anxiety with children, focusing on normalizing, accepting, and preventing emotions from becoming overwhelming.
Listen Listen Learn Learn-Episode #733
Oct 24, 2023
Todd and Cathy discuss empathic listening and how to respond with curiosity and non-judgment when our kids ask difficult questions. Whether it pertains to conflicts abroad or everyday challenges, the capacity to listen to our children is something we can continuously improve over time. Additionally, our ability to understand our partner's communication style and needs can help us avoid conflicts.
Our Favorite Quotes & Mantras- Podcast #732
Oct 17, 2023
Cathy and Todd exchange quotes and mantras that remind them to stay in the moment, alleviate their anxiety, and prompt them to center their thoughts on gratitude. They discuss how they use these phrases and explore why our brains tend to fixate on what's wrong rather than what's already working. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.
Timestamps
(00:00:00) Introduction and the podcast's motto.
(00:00:37) Discussing Cathy's meditation area, post-it notes, and the importance of quotes and mantras.
(00:01:30) Mention of Michael Singer's "The Untethered Soul" and its influence.
(00:01:50) Introduction to the Zen Parenting in-person event focusing on teens: discussing the complexities and challenges faced by today's teenagers.
(00:03:00) Explanation of the event's approach: Opening up conversations and fostering communication with teenagers.
(00:04:15) The importance of understanding and accepting children as they are.
(00:06:20) Discussion on neurodiversity and the challenges of labeling.
(00:09:03) The significance of self-awareness in parenting and personal growth.
(00:12:45) Diving deeper into specific quotes and mantras that inspire Cathy and Todd.
(00:14:47) Delving into the mantra of "You are enough" and its implications.
(00:18:07) Reflecting on the interconnectedness of life and the importance of perspective.
(00:28:19) Exploring the idea of "letting go" and its relevance in various life situations.
(00:34:20) The role of vulnerability in personal development and parenting.
(00:42:16) The concept of "holding space" for oneself and others.
(00:43:56) The importance of gratitude and its impact on daily life.
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Love Every Day- A Conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #731
Oct 10, 2023
In this episode of Zen Parenting Radio, Todd and Cathy have a thoughtful conversation with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, a relationship expert and clinical psychologist. They discuss Dr. Solomon's upcoming book, "Love Every Day," providing listeners with helpful insights into love, relationships, and self-discovery.
Revisiting The 7 Habits- Podcast #730
Oct 03, 2023
Cathy and Todd revisit Stephen Covey's “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” (1989) and discuss how each habit can help us improve our relationships with ourselves and our loved ones. They also explore why a paradigm shift is the key to reducing anxiety and enhancing our understanding of others. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.
Never Enough- A Conversation About Toxic Achievement Culture with Jennifer Wallace- Podcast #729
Sep 26, 2023
Cathy and Todd talk with Jennifer Wallace about her New York Times Bestseller Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It. They discuss the definition of happiness and why parents feel so pressured to help their kids “succeed”. They also process the difference between extrinsic and intrinsic motivators, why interdependence changes our perspective, and why “mattering” is the key to family wellbeing.
ADHD By Gender- Podcast #728
Sep 19, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the differences between ADHD in men and women and the reasons why so many adult women are getting diagnosed today. They do a follow up about highly sensitive people (HSP), discuss the #GRWM craze, and share an 80’s commercial that will get stuck in your brain.
Growing Up in Public-A Conversation with Dr. Devorah Heitner #727
Sep 12, 2023
Todd and Cathy talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, the author of "Screenwise" and her NEW book "Growing Up in Public." They discuss the downsides and benefits of tracking your kids, whether it's a good idea to read your kids' texts, how to address the topic of sexting, and whether colleges are scrutinizing your kids' posts. Her book is now available as of September 12th, and it's a must-read!
Todd and Cathy discuss the three different types of perfectionism and why trying to perfect actually backfires and leads to fragility. They discuss why our culture has overvalued the idea of being perfect, the importance of humanizing over humiliating, and they answer a follow-up question about highly sensitive children.
Highly Sensitive People- Podcast #725
Aug 29, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the concept of being a highly sensitive person, and they explore how it feels to be a highly sensitive kid. They also address "ASK US ANYTHING" questions from listeners, offering guidance on how to talk to your kids about behavior modification charts in school (when they're not used at home) and providing advice on how to relate to an irritable and uncooperative child. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.
6 Steps to Reduce Anxiety Podcast #724
Aug 22, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss Jack Kornfield’s advice for reducing anxiety, and how fear, history, and programming can make it more difficult. They process why back-to-school is particularly challenging for parents, and the simultaneous presence of joy and grief as children grow and transition. They are joined by Millie Hsi, a friend and member of their Team Zen virtual community, who shares her personal experiences and insights on coping with anxiety.
Difficult Conversations between Women & Men #723
Aug 15, 2023
Todd and Cathy welcome Shaun Emerson and Chris Lozier, hosts of the If You’ve Come This Far podcast. They discuss why it can be difficult to discuss men and women’s issues without getting defensive, and why statistics may point toward progress, but reality still feels imbalanced. They debate the effectiveness of frameworks and personality tests in personal growth, and how labels can be freeing but also stunting. They process how knowledge is vital, but transforming our knowledge into practice is what really leads to meaningful change.
What is Barbie Really About?- Podcast #722
Aug 08, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the many layers of Barbie and why it has become such a phenomenon and lightning rod when it comes to discussing gender differences. They share candidly about seeing each other’s perspectives, how to think critically, and how to bring our 'whole' selves into the viewing experience. They discuss why the movie is an existential crisis, a representation of girlhood and womanhood, and an absolute paradox all at the same time. This is a good podcast to listen to with your partner and/or family!
Raising Good Humans Every Day- A Conversation with Hunter Clarke-Fields- Podcast #721
Aug 01, 2023
Todd & Cathy talk with Hunter Clarke-Fields, Author of Raising Good Humans Every Day- 50 Simple Ways to Press Pause, Stay Present, and Connect with Your Kids. They discuss Beginning Anew, find a thread, playing your own music, mindfulness, the messy, and not parentifying our kids. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.
Shifting Life Patterns- Podcast #720
Jul 25, 2023
Cathy & Todd discuss how our early experiences dictate our life patterns, and how we can recognize these patterns and decide what helps and what hurts. It's all about honoring the memories and traditions that mean something to us, while also letting go of what no longer serves us. They also discuss the legacy of Madonna and how she shifted the musical landscape for women, and Todd’s hot take on the best baseball player of all time.
The Champion Teammate- A Conversation with John O’Sullivan- Podcast #719
Jul 18, 2023
Todd & Cathy talk with John O’Sullivan, Founder of the Changing the Game Project and host of the Way of Champions Podcast about his new book, The Champion Teammate: Timeless Lessons to Connect, Compete and Lead in Sports and Life. They discuss how to be a valued teammate, what it means to be a champion, and what it takes to connect, compete, and thrive in sports and life. What’s shared is applicable way beyond sports so it’s an important conversation for all parents, but it’s especially enlightening for those who are currently raising athletes.
Love is Not Control- Podcast #718
Jul 11, 2023
Todd and Cathy discuss how co-opted therapy speak can make “love” more like control. They specifically discuss Jonah Hill’s ex-girlfriend sharing texts where he says he is enforcing his “boundaries” when he is actually giving her rules and ultimatums. They discuss how life is messy and everything is nuanced, and how Maya Angelou taught that love liberates, it doesn’t hold.
Better, Not Perfect- Podcast #717
Jul 04, 2023
Todd and Cathy discuss the difficult, but also transformational quality of change and how it teaches us to grow and trust life’s patterns. They answer a listener question about how to view their daughter’s outbursts and challenging behavior, and they share and process three quotes from Season 2 of The Bear – starting with Richie’s thought-provoking quote, “I'm not like this because I'm in Van Halen. I'm in Van Halen because I'm like this…
The Outcome is Not the Outcome- Podcast #716
Jun 27, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss how to experience parenting challenges as part of the story rather than the entire story. They discuss how to zoom out and see the big picture, but also how to zoom in and experience compassion and connection with your kids. They process how to not take things personally, and how to recognize that we are all just watching our own movie.
Todd and Cathy discuss how we can talk to our kids about spirituality and self-trust, and why role modeling and patience can be the most effective tools. They discuss how to deal with anger, how to talk to our kids about anger, and how to utilize difficult emotions for deeper self awareness.
Field of Dreams- Podcast#714
Jun 13, 2023
Todd and Cathy Adams explore the themes of wonder, father-son relationships, vulnerability in parenting, and the enduring appeal of baseball in their heartfelt analysis of the movie "Field of Dreams," emphasizing the importance of understanding and empathizing with parental figures and embracing the wonders of life. For the full show notes, visit zenpopparenting.com.
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Ask Us Anything- Podcast#713
Jun 06, 2023
Cathy & Todd answer listener questions (about the practice of self-awareness, highly sensitive kids, and how to talk to our kids about every important thing before they graduate…) and they also discuss Taylor Swift, her popularity, and how she is connected to Full Catastrophe Living.
What Succession Teaches Us About Family Systems- Podcast#712
May 30, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss how codependency, enmeshment, narcissism, and lack of boundaries are weaved into Succession and the Logan family, and how we can be more self-aware about what we are role modeling and teaching our children. They also discuss the importance of internal and external validation and why no matter what happens to the Logan children, they will never be satisfied.
Do Your Kids Understand You?–Podcast #711
May 23, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss how it’s not our kids’ job to support us, but we can encourage them to understand us. They also discuss the importance of self-compassion when parenting, why our boys need more male role models, and how to deal with change as our kids grow and graduate.
Part 2- Porn, Consent, and Sexual Assault- A Conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Center for Respect–Podcast #710
May 16, 2023
In the Part 2 of our conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our kids a “lens” when it comes to porn and sex on television. He also shares why talking about sex becomes even more important as we age, why he doesn’t use statistics when talking to groups, and how the bottom line for every discussion is about respect and valuing our most important relationships.
Part 1-Porn, Consent, and Sexual Assault- A Conversation with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Center for Respect-Podcast #709
May 09, 2023
Mike Domitrz, Founder of the Center for Respect, returns to discuss how to talk to our kids about porn, consent, and sexual assault. He shares how to simplify difficult topics and how to offer our kids a “lens” when it comes to porn and sex on television. He also shares why talking about sex becomes even more important as we age, why he doesn’t use statistics when talking to groups, and how the bottom line for every discussion is about respect and valuing our most important relationships.
How to Talk to Your Kids About Swearing- Podcast #708
May 02, 2023
Cathy & Todd discuss swearing, its origins, and how to talk to your kids about its usage. They also discuss when and how to offer a heartfelt apology, and how to relate and understand other people’s experiences.
The Movies that Matter- Podcast #707
Apr 25, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the movies that matter most to them, and how they relate to self-awareness, integrity, and even parenting. They discuss how we can use pop culture to communicate and get to know our kids, and how their other podcast, Pop Culturing, is deep dive into Gen X movies and TV.
How to Raise Leaders- Podcast #706
Apr 18, 2023
Todd & Cathy discuss evidence-based ways to be an effective leader and how to teach and demonstrate leadership to your children. They discuss the importance of early and ongoing social emotional learning, and how everything begins with self-awareness. They also process Adam Grant’s research around give and take, why knowing your “why” is important, and why feedback hits differently depending on your background and experience.
What’s Your Parenting Style?- Podcast #705
Apr 11, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the research behind parenting styles and how it affects our communication and even our politics. They also discuss the “Tennessee Three” and how it relates to the difference between generations and how we are evolving (or not evolving) as people and as a country. They share a viral TikTok post from GradSchoolGramma that demonstrates what it really looks like parent in a self-aware, compassionate way, and mindful way.
The Addiction Inoculation & SEL with Author Jessica Lahey- Podcast #704
Apr 04, 2023
Cathy & Todd talk with author and educator Jessica Lahey about her book The Addiction Inoculation and the importance of Social Emotional Learning (SEL) when it comes to substance-use disorders, self-awareness, and emotional intelligence and regulation. They discuss the risk factors surrounding addiction and how genetics and culture play a role. Jessica shares what kids most need to hear from us and how we can create conversations about alcohol use, abuse, and the myths that don’t hold up to research.
What To Do When Life Is Messy- Podcast #703
Mar 28, 2023
Cathy and Todd answer listeners question about what to do when life gets messy, unpredictable, and uncertain. They discuss movies to bring the family together, how to support our children who are dealing with friend issues, and how to figure out what “fair” means over and over again.
Birth, Death, & Hygge- A Conversation with Michelle and Lauren from The Sister Project- Podcast #702
Mar 21, 2023
Todd & Cathy talk with Michelle Anderson and Lauren Massarella from The Sister Project. They discuss the hygge lifestyle (a Danish word that loosely translates as cozy, comfy, and overall wellness), parenting, birth, and women’s health. Cathy, Michelle and Lauren lost their moms to dementia, so they discuss what it’s like to care for someone with dementia and how to support them through the process of death. They discuss the pain and beauty of grief and how we can take care of ourselves and each other.
What Is Zen Parenting? Part 2- Podcast #701
Mar 14, 2023
Cathy & Todd discuss 4 invitations to being a positive parent. They discuss 1) What do we want for our kids? 2) Relationship b/w EQ (Emotional intelligence) IQ (Intelligence Quotient) & BQ (Body Intelligence) 3) When we cop out 4) Discussion, not discipline
What Is Zen Parenting? Part 1- Podcast #700
Mar 07, 2023
Cathy & Todd celebrate their 700th episode by discussing the universal principles of Zen Parenting, the importance of civil conversation, and what has remained the same for the last 12 years. Part 1 of 2.
Practicing Self-Compassion- Podcast #699
Feb 27, 2023
Todd & Cathy discuss the different aspects of self-compassion and take the quiz to see who is more self-compassionate. They also talk about the movie Grease & Mr. Rogers.
Who Does What? Podcast #698
Feb 21, 2023
Todd & Cathy share how their roles have changed over the years and who does what around the house. They discuss the importance of communication around household expectations, and how roles are supposed to evolve and change as the kids grow. The discuss how invisible labor can be overlooked and why not everything we “do” can be found on a checklist.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary & The Parenting Map- Podcast #697
Feb 14, 2023
Dr. Shefali returns to ZPR to discuss her new book The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship (available for preorder NOW, released on 2/28). They discuss how to check our own egos, recognize our children’s psyches, and make connection the cornerstone of our parenting experience. Dr. Shefali is hosting a FREE Parenting Mastery Online Summit with 30 Global Experts (Cathy is one of them!). Click here to register.
How to Role Model Emotional Wellness- Podcast #696
Feb 07, 2023
Cathy & Todd discuss how our children learn by watching how we live and how we react, and why owning our emotional responses creates connection and opportunity for learning. They discuss the difference between responding and reacting (especially when it comes to anger), why “do what I say, not what I do” doesn’t land well, and why comparing our childhood experiences is like apples and oranges.
How To Listen To Each Other- Podcast #695
Jan 31, 2023
Cathy & Todd discuss how we handle trauma, why boys are falling behind in school, and why the emotional intelligence of fathers is essential for cultural change. They also share a personal example of conflict, listening, and repair, and why self-compassion is essential if we are going to communicate effectively.
Teenage Boys- Creating Deeper Conversations- Podcast #694
Jan 24, 2023
Todd & Cathy discuss ways to engage in deeper conversation with teenage boys, and how every suggestion is helpful to all relationships and conversations. They also discuss Prince Harry’s new book Spare, and how he learned to deal with “hover monkeys” and “mind squirrels” when becoming an Apache helicopter pilot. While his experience is unique, what he learned is helpful to all of us.
Adult Decision Making- Podcast #693
Jan 17, 2023
Cathy and Todd discuss the passing of Cathy’s mom, Cathy’s recent diagnosis and surgery, and how they support each other in a crisis. They discuss their patterns of behavior, what they need from each other, and why showing up for each other in crisis can be difficult.
Todd & Cathy’s Moms Set the Record Straight- Podcast #692 (Rebroadcast)
Jan 10, 2023
Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Cathy's mom passed away yesterday, and we wanted to share this to honor her. We share some great stories and have some great laughs. Please listen and enjoy – and even more important, be good to each other.
In honor of Mother’s Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids. We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to raising us in the 70’s – we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms!
Good, True, & Beautiful- Podcast #691
Jan 03, 2023
Todd & Cathy share their experiences of what they find good, true and beautiful, and why finding and discussing these things makes life more meaningful. They talk about the joy of feeding the birds and squirrels, creating a comfortable sleeping environment, and why Todd is never late for a party.
8 Peaceful Things in 2022- Podcast# 690
Dec 27, 2022
Cathy & Todd discuss 8 peaceful things from 2022 and how to incorporate more peace and joy into 2023. They discuss the importance of music, why we need to embrace our creativity, and the TV shows they are watching with their teenagers.
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Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer (1964) Podcast #689
Dec 20, 2022
Todd and Cathy replay their Pop Culturing episode on Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.
Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer is a 1964 Christmas stop motion animated television special produced by Videocraft International, Ltd. (later known as Rankin/Bass Productions) and currently distributed by Universal Television. It first aired Sunday, December 6, 1964, on the NBC television network in the United States and was sponsored by General Electric under the umbrella title of The General Electric Fantasy Hour. The special was based on the Johnny Marks song “Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer” which was itself based on the poem of the same name written in 1939 by Marks’ brother-in-law, Robert L. May. Since 1972, the special has aired on CBS; the network unveiled a high-definition, digitally remastered version of the program in 2005.
8 Ways To Make Your Holidays Super Terrific- Podcast #688
Dec 13, 2022
Todd and Cathy offer 8 suggestions to make the holiday season more connective and less overwhelming. They discuss how to set boundaries, deal with grief, and find ways to limit social media and say no. They also discuss their new Team Zen app and the exclusive podcasts that will be shared on January 10th.
Increase Your Life Force- Podcast #687
Dec 06, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss their experience with the documentary Stutz by Jonah Hill and why developing life force energy is the first step toward any problem. They also discuss the importance of seeing clearly, how to deal with Part X, and why the movie Apollo 13 was an invitation to see and understand each other better.
10 Reasons We Get Triggered- Podcast #686
Nov 29, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss how and why our kids trigger us, and how to lessen our reactivity and reframe our experiences. They also discuss the importance of gratitude and why we should learn to ride the waves and roll with the changes.
Dealing with Uncertainty Podcast # 685
Nov 22, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, specifically what it means to manage our “thorns” or inner pain that we react to our do our best to avoid. They discuss the paradoxical nature of life and uncertainty, and how our goal is to manage discomfort, not runaway or avoid. They share some of their mindfulness tools and a new definition of enlightenment.
Raising Kids With Intrinsic Motivation- Podcast #684
Nov 15, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss how to help our kids discover intrinsic motivation (internally motivated because it feels good and right) instead of extrinsic motivation (external rewards such as grades, praise, fame). They also discuss MenConnect, a solution to the epidemic of lonely men, and how to make mornings calmer and more collaborative.
Five Essential Parenting Practices- Podcast #683
Nov 08, 2022
Todd and Cathy do a deep dive into the five essential parenting practices that Cathy shared in her Zen Parenting Moment Newsletter last Friday. They share how these practices create connection and meaning in the home and beyond.
Values AND Safety- Podcast #682
Nov 01, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of teaching both values AND safety, and why they work together to create an optimal environment for you kids. They also discuss the top 15 best parenting role models from pop culture and what made them so successful (a few are debatable…).
It’s me, HI, I’m the problem it’s me- Podcast #681
Oct 25, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss taking responsibility without blaming ourselves for everything that happens. They discuss how certain self-help books, groups, and cults have the power to convince people that they are “at cause” for everything that happens, negating how outside influences also play a role in eventual outcomes. They discuss the difference between reaction and response, why emotions like anger and envy can be helpful, and of course, Taylor Swift’s new album, Midnights.
Codependency- Podcast #680
Oct 18, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss codependency, enmeshment, overidentification, and other issues that can be layered and difficult to define. They share the importance of learning to say no, why boundaries are important in every relationship, and how paying attention and questioning can become a daily habit.
Reimagining Love: Dr. Alexandra Solomon Interviews Cathy & Todd – Podcast #679
Oct 11, 2022
Todd and Cathy are interviewed by their friend Dr. Alexandra Solomon. She ask them about how they met, their history, and the trials and tribulations of their couple hood.
Bids For Connection- Podcast #678
Oct 04, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss John & Julie Gottman’s research around “bids for connection”, specifically how couples who acknowledge each other’s bids 86% of the time stay married and connected. They also discuss how music and pop culture helps us connect to our kids, and why acknowledging each other’s texts makes a big difference.
Genuine Gratitude- Podcast #667
Sep 27, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss the practice of gratitude (specifically how to notice, savor, and express) and how it helps the brain pay attention to what’s working. They discuss the four noble truths, appreciating people’s quirks, and songs named after the bands that sing them.
Anxiety- Relieving or Healing? Podcast #676
Sep 20, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss the wisdom of anxiety and why it’s a messaging system that reminds us to stay curious about ourselves and our loved ones. They process the difference between relieving and numbing anxiety, and how “healing” anxiety can involve getting to the core of our unconscious concerns and worries.
A Little Bit Culty – A Conversation with The Vow’s Sarah Edmondson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames – Podcast #675
Sep 13, 2022
Cathy and Todd talk with Sarah Edmonson and Anthony “Nippy” Ames from A Little Bit Culty Podcast and HBO’s Documentary The Vow. They discuss how we can recognize cultish influence all around us - in the way we use language and jargon, in our communities and groups, and of course, our politics -- none of us are completely immune to it. Those of us who consider ourselves seekers – or those of us who consider ourselves teachers, coaches, or healers – can pay attention to how power can distort, how a certain status, belief or community can make us feel more special than others. As parents we need to talk to our kids about this, how a relationship can initially feel good, but then become abusive, how we can slowly be pulled into something that initially feels cool, but then becomes uncomfortable – and most important, how we can teach our kids to question what doesn’t feel right, ask for help, and build a relationship with them where they know we are available to listen and support. Cathy shares how important Sarah and Nippy have been in her life, and how their decisions and dedication to help others continues to be inspiring.
Todd and Cathy discuss Loretta Ross’ 2021 TED Talk titled Don’t Call People Out, Call Them In, about how the most effective activism begins with conversation, connection, and curiosity. They discuss how this applies to partnership and parenting, and how reactiveness and righteousness can get in the way of growth and change.
Listen to this One with your Partner Volume 2- Podcast#673
Aug 30, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss several conversations that were prompted by the We Can Do Hard Things podcast titled “Why are there no pictures of us?!?!”. They share how they communicate through nuanced and challenging conversations, and how to speak up while also respecting your partner’s perspective. They offer examples of difficult discussions and what lives underneath the discomfort.
Back to School Transitions- Podcast # 672
Aug 23, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss the grief and joy of back to school, and why they are memorable moments in time. Todd helps Cathy process through why this time of year is especially hard, and they discuss all the personas and running tapes that live inside of us and want to be heard. They also discuss why it’s important to be gentle with ourselves and how doing our “best” can mean something different every day.
Men- It’s Time to Feel- Podcast # 671
Aug 16, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s important for dads to practice feeling so their kids come to them with their pain and big emotions. They discuss why dads think moms are just “better” at feeling, and how kids can develop a trusted relationship, regardless of gender, if they feel seen and heard. They also discuss the importance of integrity and how we can use baseball stats to better understand our parenting.
Humans Are Fascinating- Podcast# 670
Aug 09, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss Adam Grant’s research around why humans are fascinating, especially when it comes to parenting and partnership. They also discuss why optimism is essential and the beer-drinking games people play.
Practice Peace- Podcast #669
Aug 02, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss how to “practice” peace through embracing our anger and how gender can play a role in how we experience anger. They also discuss how they differ in their driving choices and how making decisions that make you feel peaceful are the best approach.
Anxiety, Fear, and Worry with Dr Dan Peters- Podcast #668
Jul 26, 2022
Todd and Cathy talked with Dr. Dan Peters, psychologist, author, and host of the Parent Footprint Podcast. They discussed the difference between anxiety, fear, and worry, how to identify “paper” tigers, and how to talk to our kids about real world threats and safety.
The Truth About Suffering- Podcast# 667
Jul 19, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss the truth about suffering (or life is suffering) which is #1 of The Four Noble Truths. They discuss how this truth is so easily misinterpreted and how it actually offers deep wisdom and relief. They use several analogies and metaphors to make their point (some better than others…) and recognize the resilience and hope that lives at the heart of our experiences.
Joy, Jeeps, and Jeff Bridges- Podcast#666
Jul 13, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss focusing on the little things to find joy, especially finding a sense of community and paying attention to nature. They discuss how to “do hard better”, how to take care of ourselves during difficult times, and the genuine and warm nature of Jeff Bridges
Humanity- Podcast #665
Jul 05, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss how to get in touch with our essential humanity to navigate difficult times. They talk about getting up again and again, specifically how to pay attention, make a difference, and focus on what matters most. They also discuss Tom Cruise movies, Stranger Things, Mythology, and finding joy in what inspires us.
Violins, Dancing, Outrage, & Love- Podcast #664
Jun 28, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss the impact of the overturn of Roe V Wade, finding joy through the sadness, and how we can show up during difficult times. We also mention this blog by Adam Grant titled How to Argue about Abortion
All Feelings Are Acceptable- Podcast #663
Jun 21, 2022
Cathy & Todd discuss how paradoxical emotions are common and normal, and how we can accept rather than avoid our emotional experiences. They discuss why experiencing uncomfortable emotions are not a failure or an inability to keep our inner impulses in check, but rather the way we experience the normal ups and downs of life. They also debate whether the person grilling has the most power and how Chicago baseball is going.
Stranger Things, Season 4 (Volume 1)- A Pop Culturing Podcast #662
Jun 16, 2022
Todd & Cathy are joined by two of their daughters (Camryn, 17 & Skylar, 14) to discuss Season 4, Volume 1 of Stranger Things. They discuss how the season was influenced by horror movies from the 80’s (Carrie, The Amityville Horror, A Nightmare on Elm Street to name a few….) plus other fan favorites from Generation X (Star Wars, War Games, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, etc). They each choose a song to help them run away from Vecna, process the show’s best characters, and share their hottest takes from this season and what comes next.
A Better Man with Actor/Author Michael Ian Black- Podcast #661
Jun 14, 2022
Cathy and Todd talk with actor, comedian, and author Michael Ian Black (The State, Wet Hot American Summer, Inside Amy Schumer, The Baxter) about his book A Better Man: A (Mostly Serious) Letter to My Son. They discuss healthy masculinity, why language keeps us from understanding each other, and how communication and empathy can keep us connected to ourselves and our kids.
Don’t Give Up- Podcast #660
Jun 07, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss common sense gun laws that can make a difference, and discuss the work that Moms Demand Action and Founder Shannon Watts have done and are doing. They discuss how optimism is the recognition that something can be done, and also how taking care of yourself and taking breaks from the news are part of the process. They also discuss Cathy’s latest Zen Parenting Moment about Stranger Things and Kate Bush, and her recent interview with Lewis Howes on The School of Greatness Podcast.
Big Problems, Little Problems with Ben Feller- Podcast #659
May 31, 2022
Todd and Cathy talk with Ben Feller, former AP White House reporter under George W Bush and Barack Obama, and now author of Big Problems, Little Problems, a story of how a dad teaches his son to solve the daily challenges of life. They discuss priorities, lessons from our children, what it’s like to work in the White House, the state of journalism, and also debate their favorite journalism movies (Michael Keaton happens to be in two of them….)
Every Day Is A Good Day- Podcast #658
May 24, 2022
Cathy and Todd process what “every day is a good day” actually means, and how to recognize the challenges of the world and also take care of ourselves in our day to day lives. They also discuss disenfranchised grief (when your grieving doesn't fit in with your larger society's attitude about dealing with death and loss) and how to recognize and process what hurts, even if others can’t relate.
Parent Nation Unlocking Every Child’s Potential, Fulfilling Society’s Promise- Podcast #657
May 17, 2022
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Women’s Stories- Podcast # 656
May 10, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss why a wider perspective (instead of a personal narrative) is needed when we talk about the potential overturning of Roe v Wade and reproductive rights. They discuss why having proximity and understanding of other people’s experiences can develop our compassion and desire to support rather than harm. They process how in the end we all want the same things (love, family, wellness), but we tend to turn on each other instead of band together in establishing a collective good.
Struggling to Eat – A Conversation with Author Debi Lewis: Podcast#655
May 03, 2022
We talk with Debi Lewis, author of Kitchen Medicine: How I Fed My Daughter Out of Failure to Thrive about feeding her child who struggled to eat. Her memoir shares how she learned to love food, navigate a complex medical system, deal with diet culture, and advocate for her family.
Parental Nostalgia- Podcast #654
Apr 26, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss the meaning of nostalgia (as discussed in Atlas of the Heart) and share how it effects our parenting, politics, and perspective. They discuss Senator Mallory McMorrow’s speech from last week, and the difference between fitting in and true belonging.
Bittersweet- Podcast #653
Apr 19, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss Susan Cain’s new book, Bittersweet, and also Brenè Brown’s Atlas of the Heart TV series on HBO Max. They discuss what bittersweet looks and feels like, and why it can offer a more accurate depiction of reality. They discuss bittersweet experiences, music, and why sad songs make us happy.
Hacks for a Happier Marriage with Kaley & Nate Klemp: Podcast# 652
Apr 12, 2022
We talk with Kaley & Nate Klemp, authors of The 80/80 Marriage: A New Model for a Happier, Stronger Relationship. We discuss invisible labor, fairness, compassion, and what to do if one partner is reluctant to make a change.
Emotional Well-Being is #1- Podcast#651
Apr 05, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss prioritizing mental and emotional well-being above all other things. School, sports, and other issues can still be expectations, but during this time of elevated teen anxiety and depression, we can focus on the most important thing which is their emotional health. They also discuss Lady Gaga and Liza Minnelli’s Oscar moment, and Cathy’s Zen Mother’s Day Event, A Virtual and Free Discussion, on Friday, May 6 and the the MenLiving Special Guest Event featuring Kim Redding discussing infidelity and shame.
Helping Our Kids Recognize Patterns of Abuse, Part 2- Podcast#650
Mar 29, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss the cyclical nature of abuse and how to recognize red flags and help our kids recognize them, too. They discuss Evan Rachel Wood’s documentary, Phoenix Rising about her history with Marilyn Manson, and how other documentaries and even personal stories have similar patterns and experiences. They discuss how to notice and create a conversation around grooming, love bombing, gaslighting, and isolation so we can help our kids develop healthy boundaries and recognize when they are being manipulated.
Helping Our Kids Recognize Patterns of Abuse, Part 1- Podcast#649
Mar 22, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss the cyclical nature of abuse and how to recognize red flags and help our kids recognize them, too. They discuss Evan Rachel Wood’s documentary, Phoenix Rising about her history with Marilyn Manson, and how other documentaries and even personal stories have similar patterns and experiences. They discuss how to notice and create a conversation around grooming, love bombing, gaslighting, and isolation so we can help our kids develop healthy boundaries and recognize when they are being manipulated.
Let’s Regroup- Podcast#648
Mar 15, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s necessary to regroup (especially when we are hit with bad news most days) and how regrouping is just like the tide going in and out – sometimes we go all in, and then we recede – repeat. They discuss how to practice devotion, the work of Gabor Matè, and taking a wider view when it comes to Ukraine, “Don’t Say Gay”, and other challenging events.
What makes us happy (Replay)- Podcast#647
Mar 08, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development. They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better, and what Bill Gates and Warren Buffet both recommend for a happy life.
Managing What’s Difficult- Podcast#646
Mar 01, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss managing so many difficult things at one, and how the grief process is a way to understand and manage pain. They discuss Ukraine, Dopesick and Michael Keaton’s acceptance speech, and the everyday experiences in our homes, lives, and abroad that force us to wake up to what’s important.
Where It All Began- Podcast#645
Feb 22, 2022
Cathy and Todd discuss how Zen Parenting Radio started and play a clip or two from their first podcast (11 years ago!). They discuss what they’ve learned, their most humbling experiences, and then share the prologue from Cathy’s audiobook (also titled Where It All Began).
Support Them from the Outside- Podcast #644
Feb 15, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss how to approach our children when they are struggling – do we give them space, keep showing up, or both? They discuss the importance of paying attention to our inner workings so we can role model what this looks like for our kids, and they offer guidance on how to develop our emotional literacy so we can pay closer attention to how we feel.
Why We Do What We Do- Podcast #643
Feb 08, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss conversational dynamics and how we can pay better attention when talking to our kids or partner. They also share why human behavior is similar to financial markets, and why bands have so many farewell tours.
Virtual Summit Day 5: “The Right to Speak and Hear Truth”- Podcast #642
Feb 04, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 5 "The Right to Speak and Hear Truth" of Cathy's new book : Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: self expression, the art of communication, words are things, heard and understood, learning differences
Virtual Summit Day 4: “The Right to Love and Be Loved”- Podcast #641
Feb 03, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 4 "The Right to Love and Be Loved" of Cathy's new book : Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: Open heartedness, empathy, self-compassion, breathing, grief
Virtual Summit Day 3: “The Right to Act”- Podcast #640
Feb 02, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 3 "The Right To Act" of Cathy's new book : Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: Autonomy and the hero’s journey, Individuation, Self-care, Energy, True and false self
Virtual Summit Day 2: “The Right to Feel”- Podcast #639
Feb 01, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 2 "The Right to Feel" of Cathy's new book: Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and our Children in an Unpredictable world. Topics covered: Pleasure, emotional intelligence, creativity and play, and sexuality.
Virtual Summit Day 1: “The Right to Be”- Podcast #638
Jan 31, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss chapter 1 "The Right to Be" Topics include: Body foundation, root to rise, physical and emotional safety, survival and connection, and reestablishing our roots.
You Are Me & I Am You- Podcast #637
Jan 25, 2022
Cathy and Todd take a deep dive into Thich Nhat Hanh quotes (the Zen Buddhist monk/teacher who died last week at 95), and also discuss human archetypes and why we show up the way we do. They also discuss the importance of children’s individuation and why female monkeys are ready to lead their barrel.
Rethinking and Unlearning- Podcast #636
Jan 18, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss some quotes from Adam Grant, Author of Think Again, and why rethinking our beliefs leads to a wider perspective and a more compassionate viewpoint. They also discuss why allowing our kids to have different beliefs and perspectives allows them to “individuate” or find their own sense of self.
Teaching Responsibility- Podcast #635
Jan 11, 2022
Todd and Cathy discuss how we ask our kids to be responsible for themselves, but we also encourage them to ask for help. They process how to help our kids discern between the two requests, and how we can be more clear about our expectations. They also share some clips from the upcoming Zen Parenting Summit and how mindfulness and meditation are related.
The Case for Optimism- Podcast #634
Jan 04, 2022
Cathy and Todd offer the case for optimism (but don’t worry, it’s not toxic positivity…). They share some actual good news and why we are stronger and more resilient than we think.
Finding Strength (Replay)- Podcast #633
Dec 28, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of bravery and strength. They discuss what it means to be a strength-based parent and play a clip from Lea Waters, author of The Strength Switch. Todd plays a clip from the TED Talk podcast about how people with less money actually give more to those in need, and how exposure and empathy are the keys to greater giving.
Hypervigilance- Podcast #632
Dec 21, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss hypervigilance, or the elevated state of constantly assessing potential threats. They discuss how our uncertain and ever-changing world can create this, or how some of us learned it in childhood. They also discuss the mental wellness of our kids and how we can talk to them about self-care and staying hopeful.
Infidelity; A Conversation with Annmarie Chereso- Podcast #631
Dec 14, 2021
Todd+Cathy talk with coach and author Annmarie Chereso about recovering from infidelity, the process of self-awareness, and the importance of forgiveness. They discuss how we can notice our attachments and live with more presence and compassion.
Zen Parenting Summit 2022- Podcast #630
Dec 07, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss being flexible with how we see ourselves, our interactions, and our past experiences. They share how we can be realistic and optimistic, and how we can reframe challenges to benefit our future selves.
Be Flexible With Your Story- Podcast #629
Nov 30, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss being flexible with how we see ourselves, our interactions, and our past experiences. They share how we can be realistic and optimistic, and how we can reframe challenges to benefit our future selves.
Are You Dysregulated?- Podcast# 628
Nov 23, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss dysregulation and how it relates to self-awareness, social awareness, and our relationships overall. They discuss how when we yell, storm out, or lash out during a meeting, conversation, or even online it’s an indicator of dysregulation. They process how to become more aware, find calm, and act in congruence with our values.
Feelings Live In The Body- Podcast# 627
Nov 16, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss how feelings are physical body-based sensations and how thoughts are mental constructs like beliefs, opinions, and judgements. They discuss the definition of trauma and how to recognize and respect our shadow.
Suffering- Podcast #626
Nov 09, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss the paradox of suffering, how it can be viewed as negative, important, as a path to awareness, and also as a way of staying stuck. They discuss why people run marathons, why and how we grieve, and how make exhaustion and productivity a status symbol.
Doing Enough- Podcast #625
Nov 02, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss why we sometimes need to disappoint others so we don’t disappoint ourselves, and how we need to stay curious and open when it comes to connecting with our children. They discuss the writing of Thomas Merton, Anne Lamott, and Mary Oliver, and share why doing enough and doing more is always a work in progress.
Cognitive Distortions and CBT- Podcast #624
Oct 26, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss cognitive distortions, or habitual ways of thinking that are often inaccurate and negatively biased. They discuss how addressing these distortions are at the heart of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). They also share their favorite scary shows for spooky season and why it’s best to not work through other people’s problems.
Jargon and Belonging – Podcast #623
Oct 19, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss how “loading the language” and using jargon can be purposeful in building community, but can also veer toward excluding and feeling more “special” than others. They discuss how certain wellness communities, organizations, and workout facilities can feel “cult-ish” and how personal agency and individual integrity are essential in staying grounded.
What To Do When We’re Out Of Rhythm- Podcast #622
Oct 12, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss why order, disorder, reorder is a natural parental rhythm, and why getting out of rhythm is an opportunity for new learning. They also discuss why not knowing what comes next keeps us human nd why it’s OK to not be good at everything.
Getting To Zero- An Interview With Jayson Gaddis- Podcast #621
Oct 05, 2021
Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis about his new book Getting to Zero, and how to manage conflict in our most important relationships (partnership, parenting, even work!). Todd & Cathy walk through a few of their challenges and Jayson offers reframes & considerations that focus on compassion toward ourselves & each other. Available today!
Cathy & Todd discuss why difficult conversations are necessary and allow for deeper connection and intimacy. They also answer a listener question about how to talk to our young teens about relationships and sex.
Rob Bell Is Back- Podcast#619
Sep 21, 2021
Todd and Cathy talk to Rob Bell about his new Everything is Spiritual Tour and how our creative impulses and willingness to speak up keep us true and connected.
(Bonus Episode) Zen Parenting, The Book- Podcast #618
Sep 15, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss Cathy’s book (now available for preorder, available everywhere 2/1/22) and the process of condensing 10 years of podcasts, 20 years of clinical practice, and 50 years of living into one book.
Different Types of Empathy- Podcast #617
Sep 14, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss an episode of We Can Do Hard Things and the difference between feeling deeply and feeling cognitively. They discuss how each style has its benefits, and why the blend of both can help us take action and create change.
Women’s Rights are Human Rights- Podcast #616
Sep 07, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss the new Texas law that strips women of their privacy, their dignity, and their physical and mental health.
Decluttering Our Parenting Mind- Podcast #615
Aug 31, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss how to declutter our parenting minds so we can really be with the child who is in front of us. They discuss how parenting is rollercoaster, how life is a toggle between fear and joy, and how life is not a linear journey like a train, it’s a sailboat ride filled with adventure.
Anxiety, Experienced Podcast # 614
Aug 24, 2021
Todd & Cathy discuss the difference between saying “I have anxiety” and “I feel anxiety” and the difference between anxiety and fear. They also discuss three different stress responses in kids and how we can better support them when they are feeling overwhelmed.
What Do I Need?- Podcast # 613
Aug 17, 2021
Cathy & Todd discuss self-betrayal, taking breaks, and how to share our opinion while respecting the inherent dignity of others. They discuss how to keep going when we feel stuck and the pillars we can rely on in the midst of a crisis.
School Transitions Podcast #612
Aug 10, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss shifting from summer into school year, and why it can feel anxiety provoking. They also discuss how we can better understand our worry, and how we can help our children find balance this year.
Anxiety to Excitement- Podcast #611
Aug 03, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss how similar anxiety and excitement feel, and how we can channel the negative arousal of anxiety into a motivating experience of excitement. They also discuss Simone Biles’ decision to make her mental wellness a priority, and why rejection carries wisdom if we are willing to examine our experiences.
Why Tweens And Teens Are Lonely- Podcast #610
Jul 27, 2021
Cathy + Todd discuss Dr. John Duffy’s recent CNN article, Your tweens and teens are lonely – and they want your help. They share why our kids may be pretending to be okay when they are not, and how we can stay connected and engaged even when our kids seem to be pulling away.
Todd and Cathy discuss how to allow for difficult emotions while releasing judgment, shame, or fear about how we are feeling. They also discuss why labeling ourselves can be counterproductive and what it means to feel sparkle and terror.
Highly Sensitive People and the Power of Subtlety- Podcast #608
Jul 13, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss the strengths of Highly Sensitive People and how these traits can be understood and utilized to navigate parenting and partnership. They also discuss why the brain can remember every word from an 80’s song but it can can’t come up with a simple word like “mailbox”.
Honest Feedback Podcast # 607
Jul 06, 2021
Cathy & Todd discuss offering and receiving feedback from our children and why it’s important to stay curious rather than defensive. They discuss how parents say that “their kids can tell them anything”, but how kids don’t always feel this way due to poor communication and overreaction.
Questioning our negative thoughts- Podcast #606
Jun 29, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss Chatter: The Voice in our Head, Why It Matters, and How to Harness It by Ethan Cross and how our capacity for introspection can morph into a cycle of negative thinking. They discuss some of his suggested tools for self-regulation and real-world examples of taming our inner voice.
Life of Meaning- Podcast #605
Jun 22, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss a Freakanomics interview with Angela Duckworth about self-esteem, and what it takes to raise children who feel empowered. They also discuss how we can find meaning in our experiences, and the difference between heeding and exceeding limits.
Practicing What you Know- Podcast #604
Jun 15, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss Najwa Zebian’s book, Welcome Home, and how we can find a home inside ourselves instead of searching for home in other people. They also discuss the concept of “praxis” which means turning theory into practice and then reflection. They celebrate Pride month and share why all people (especially parents) need to become competent and educated allies for the LGBTQ+ community.
Permission To Be Creative- Podcast #603
Jun 08, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss Ethan Hawke’s TED talk about creativity and why what we love is our offering to the world. They discuss why creativity matters and how offering and receiving sustains us. They share how creativity effects our relationships and parenting, and how we are either “jackhammers” or “hummingbirds”.
Languishing or Upgrading?- Podcast #602
Jun 01, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss Adam Grant’s article about languishing (the middle place between thriving and depression) and Rob Bell’s podcast about discomfort and “upgrading”. The process how word usage plays a role in our motivation and why doing nothing is an important something.
A Light from the Bench- Podcast #601
May 25, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss graduation season and why it's both beautiful and difficult. They discuss the importance of recognizing Mental Health Awareness Month and what Oprah & Prince Harry's show, The Me You Can't See, teaches us about internal vs external success.
What Have We Learned? Podcast #600
May 18, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss what they’ve learned over 10 years and 600 episodes of Zen Parenting Radio, and they describe what Zen Parenting means to them (Cathy’s book titled Zen Parenting comes out in 2/22). They also discuss why the perseverance to do something different demonstrates grit, and why Gen Z calls certain millennials “cheugy” (pronounced chew-gee).
Essentialism- Podcast #599
May 11, 2021
Cathy and Todd revisit Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism and why now is an important time to reconsider priorities and focus energy on what really matters. They discuss why deciding what’s essential makes us more content and ironically more productive in the long run.
We Are Rocks- Podcast #598
May 04, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss how like rocks in water, we were flooded with information, challenge, and uncertainty in 2020. 2021 is about focusing on our mental wellness and recognizing how like rocks in water, we have been changed and reshaped by difficult times. In Kruti Joshi’s words, The most beautiful rocks have faced the hardest waves.
5 Small Interventions for Psychological Well-Being- Podcast #597
Apr 27, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss Esther Perel’s 5 interventions and how they can help us cope with uncertainty and grief. They also discuss why the only way out is through, and how looking for the bright side too early can be a form of spiritual bypassing.
Invisible Situations Podcast #596
Apr 20, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss “invisible” situations (such as being neurodivergent, anxious, have migraines or an autoimmune disorder) and why we are sometimes not “believed” when we try to explain our challenges or differences (this comes from Julie Lythcott-Haims new book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, in the chapter about self-care). They also discuss how our attention creates our reality, and why knowing what brings our life meaning is an essential step toward contentment.
Todd and Cathy discuss fear, The Golden Girls, and we interview Mercedes Samudio of Shame Proof Parenting where she discusses EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing)
Life Is So “Lifey”- Podcast #594
Apr 06, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss this transitional time and why we need to be compassionate with ourselves as we gently and slowly return to a more pre-covid way of living. They discuss why transitions are difficult and how grief plays a role, and why we should rely on compassion, curiosity, mindfulness, and connection to get us through.
Life Waves- Podcast #593
Mar 30, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss the natural waves of life, and how we have to appreciate the good moments and also move through the hard times. They discuss the importance of asking for help and setting boundaries when in the midst of a crisis, and why Brene Brown says the most compassionate people are also the most boundaried.
Rage Becomes Her- The Power of Women’s Anger- Podcast #592
Mar 23, 2021
Cathy and Todd talk with Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her: The Power of Women’s Anger and Executive Director of The Representation Project. They discuss the importance of emotional competence, how to discuss gender inequality with our kids, and why we should pay attention to our own gender conditioning.
(Replay) Listen To This One With Your Partner- Podcast #591
Mar 16, 2021
This podcast dates back to May of 2017, but is one of our favorites. Todd and Cathy discuss why “figuring out” our partner will cause frustration, but why staying present with every new experience will create intimacy. They use a post from fellow coach Jayson Gaddis They discuss why it’s important to ride the waves with your partner rather than trying to control their emotional expression, and why unpredictability can be just as connecting as predictability. They share a recent miscommunication, explain why labeling family members is detrimental, and practice saying toy boat really fast without messing up.
Women & Boundaries- Podcast #590
Mar 09, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss Oprah’s interview with Meghan and Harry and how it relates to boundaries, freedom, and our unconscious internalized beliefs about women. They also discuss International Women’s Day and the obstacles women confront when they embody empowerment.
Boundaries & Enmeshment- Podcast #589
Mar 02, 2021
Cathy and Todd kick-off boundaries month by discussing internal boundaries and the clinical understanding of family enmeshment. They discuss how we take on other people’s emotions, why it’s hard for us to be happy if the ones we love aren’t happy, and how to take care of ourselves while we take care of others.
Gen Z perspective on sexual orientation: A discussion with Jacey, Edgar, and Grace Podcast #588
Feb 23, 2021
We talk with our daughter Jacey who identifies as gay, her friend Grace who identifies as bi-sexual, and her friend Edgar who identifies as gay. They share their coming out stories, family reactions, and experiences that have been helpful and harmful. They discuss how to be an ally and advocate for the LGBTQ+ community and how to support your kids when it comes to embracing and understanding sexuality.
Creativity & Balance Podcast #587
Feb 16, 2021
Todd and Cathy discuss Creativity and Balance, Part 3 of Empathy Volume Month. They discuss ideas and tools to take care of ourselves during uncertain times, and how to bring balance to our self-care and relationships.
Empathy Burnout Podcast #586
Feb 09, 2021
Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about empathy volume and focus on how to turn down empathy to avoid burnout. They discuss the 3 types of empathy and how we can remain empathetic without exhausting ourselves. They also discuss Adam Grant’s new book Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know and how our ability to be “cognitively agile” keeps us curious and connected to the ones we love.
What Do We Care About?- Podcast #585
Feb 02, 2021
Todd+Cathy discuss mindful caring as a kick off to their “Empathy Volume” month (how to turn it up and stay connected, how to turn it down to avoid burnout). They share three ways to make empathy a priority, and how having clear intention about what means the most impacts how you show up. They also discuss Dr. Robert Livingston’s new book about racism and bias called The Conversation, and how two-hit wonders are a real thing.
Messages & Arrows- Podcast #584
Jan 26, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss the “messages and arrows” of our emotions, specifically that they give us the information we need to understand ourselves and teach our kids. Every feeling has an underlying reason, and the more we understand our emotional messages the easier we will see the arrows that point to what matters most. They share that February is “Empathy Volume” Month (Turning empathy up to stay connected, turning empathy down to avoid burnout). Listen to this month’s Zen Parenting Radio podcasts and join Team Zen for an in-depth discussion around empathy volume filled with resources, practices, and community (use coupon code Team Zen for one free month).
Accountability. Forgiveness. #583
Jan 19, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss how accountability leads to unity, and how impunity or justifying something deeply harmful leads to more divisiveness, not healing. They discuss how this is true with our government and the insurrection, and also when we have challenges in our partnerships, parenting, and friendships. Forgiveness is what we do for ourselves, not others, and comes after a process and practice of realizing that we can’t change what happened (it often takes a great deal of time). Forgiveness does not mean reconciliation, condoning a person’s behavior, justifying the offense, or denying or forgetting the impact on our lives. It means cutting the cord and taking back the energy that is rightfully ours while never forgetting the wisdom we gained.
Our Many Colors Podcast #582
Jan 12, 2021
Todd and Cathy continue their discussion about how and why we grow and share specific colors that represent our stages of development (often referred to as spiral dynamics). They discuss how this effects politics, values, “fake news”, sports, leadership, and our need to belong.
How Do I Get My Partner To… (Replay)- Podcast #581
Jan 05, 2021
Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” – they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people.
Why We Grow- Podcast #580
Dec 29, 2020
Cathy and Todd focus on Me, We, and Everybody, a teaching of moral development (or Spiral Dynamics) taken from The Robcast. They share why this personal growth model (similar to understanding the chakras or the Enneagram) helps us see ourselves, relate to others, and understand how we all evolve (and regress) in different ways.
Rudolph The Red Nosed Reindeer- Podcast #579
Dec 22, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss 1964’s Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer and why the adults dropped the ball in helping Hermy and Rudolph understand their specialness – BUT, it’s still a great holiday rewatch filled with joy, learning, and nostalgia.
Raising Whole Sons- Podcast #578
Dec 15, 2020
Cathy and Todd reference a recent post by Dr. Alexandra Solomon about how we are doing a better job raising our girls to be leaders than raising our sons to be caregivers. They discuss how to raise whole sons who respect every aspect of their humanity, and how failing to do this hurts our boys and society. They also discuss the opinion writer who wants Dr. Jill Biden to drop “Dr.”, what Shawn Mendes can teach us, and how to talk about invisible labor in the home.
Handling Negative Emotions- Podcast #577
Dec 08, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss the difference between a “bottler” or “brooder” when it comes to negative feelings, and why being curious about feelings allows us to be less reactive and more compassionate. They discuss why darkness is not always bad, and why there is wisdom inside all of our emotions.
Healthy Human Beings- Podcast #576
Dec 01, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss Susan David’s book and TED Talk about emotional agility and why the ability to be agile leads to healthy human beings. They discuss why we need the skills to deal with the world as it is, and why sharing our emotions allows us to pay attention to our values and notice what’s working in our lives and families.
Do No Harm- Podcast #575
Nov 24, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss the double bind of “do no harm”, in that all decisions, even educated and well-thought out choices, may impact some negatively. They discuss the positive impact of empathy and the danger of gaslighting, and share Anne Lamott’s theories around hatred and self-understanding.
Men Living- Podcast #574
Nov 17, 2020
Cathy interviews Todd, Frank Naugo, & Shaun Emerson discussing the relaunch from the Tribe Men's Group over to Men Living. They discuss the resources available that will help men step up to make a more harmonious world.
Standing On Solid Ground- Podcast #573
Nov 10, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss how the election has provided a more sturdy foundation to rebuild trust, beauty, and a sense of self and community. They discuss how we can continue to do small acts of kindness, continue our activism, and remember to “sing while filled with our dreams and troubles”.
Getting Through- Podcast #572
Nov 03, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss getting through difficult and vulnerable moments (like election day) and how self-compassion and mindfulness are key. They discuss coping mechanisms versus escapism, how to effectively breathe, and why we should check-in on our strong friends.
Hierarchy of Needs- Podcast #571
Oct 27, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs and how Ezra Klein’s article in Vox used Maslow’s work to explain the importance of next week’s election. They discuss the importance of the election, what’s at stake, and why we need to remember our dignity, humanity, and interconnectedness as we move through this week and into 2021.
Being Well In Anxious Times Podcast #570
Oct 20, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss Emily and Amelia Nagoski’s book Burnout, and how we can better process and release the stress we experience. They discuss their interview on the Unlocking Us podcast with Brene Brown, and the seven things we can do to make a difference in our overall well-being. They also discuss why women experience stress differently than men, and why rest, human connection, and befriending your inner critic are tools for healthier living.
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Point To The Moon- Podcast #569
Oct 13, 2020
Cathy+Todd discuss Cathy’s recent Zen Parenting Moment about how to guide our children with humility, and why spiritual narcissism can lead us to believe we have all of the answers. They discuss the HBO documentary The Vow and why in all situations we need to stay connected to our own inner knowing.
Dominance Is Not Strength- A Conversation With Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #568
Oct 06, 2020
Relationship expert Dr. Alexandra Solomon join Cathy and Todd to discuss why dominance isn’t strength when it comes to politics, partnership, and parenting, and why last week’s debate was so difficult to watch. They discuss the necessary breakthroughs for a successful marriage, and what it means to hold space for someone we love.
The Distance Learning Playbook With Rosalind Wiseman- Podcast #567
Sep 29, 2020
Cathy and Todd talk with Rosalind Wiseman (Founder of Cultures of Dignity and author of Queen Bees and Wannabees) about her new book The Distance Learning Playbook for Parents and her “Tiny Guides” to help you quickly comprehend core social and emotional concepts.
Be Like Ruth- Podcast #566
Sep 22, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss losing RBG and why we have to practice what she taught us rather than decide all is lost. They discuss how we can grieve and also be strong, be afraid but also find joy. They discuss the importance of mindfulness and share Author Michael Singer’s description of a strong heart.
Pain Is Human- Podcast #565
Sep 15, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss NFL player Dak Prescott’s willingness to discuss depression and why there was backlash. They process the yin and yang of emotions and why challenge makes us stronger, not weaker. They also discuss whether vulnerable pictures of our kids should be posted on social networking, and how the Japanese art of Kintsugi is a visual representation of falling apart and piecing ourselves back together more beautifully.
Our Kids Talk School- Podcast #564
Sep 08, 2020
Jacey, Camryn, and Skylar join Cathy and Todd to discuss the 2020 school year. They discuss the pros and cons of remote and hybrid learning, and why our educational goals from 2019 should not be our focus in 2020. They girls discuss what they’ve learned about themselves and education since the lockdown.
Finding Alignment- Podcast #563
Sep 01, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to find personal alignment rather than what our society calls “success”. They reference the 4 Noble Truths, Mel Robbins, Eckhart Tolle, the 8-fold path, To Kill a Mockingbird, the power of intuition, and how scientists estimate the probability of your being born at about one in 400 trillion. They also discuss the shocking death of Chadwick Boseman, and Cathy’s new book deal. Zen Parenting, the book, will be coming out next year!
Reframing The School Year Podcast #562
Aug 25, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss how to see this school year differently and how to accept and reframe our experiences. They discuss how figuring out something new will take time and patience (and self-care), and how children will learn a lot about self-regulation and how to go with the flow in a new system of learning.
How To Motivate Your Kids- Podcast #561
Aug 18, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation for kids, and discuss the harm of unachievable success in the documentary The Weight of Gold (about Olympic athletes) and The Go Go’s documentary (about the rise and fall of the band). They also discuss the true and false self, and the “Three Lords of Materialism” (coined by Chögyam Trungpa in his book Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism) and how they relate to our perception of success and motivation.
2020 School Year- Podcast #560
Aug 11, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss why understanding ambiguous loss, the dignity of others, and the humanity of teachers is essential as we navigate a back to school plan. This uncertain time necessitates reflective and respectful discourse, and a reminder that our kids are looking to us as role models in how to respond to a difficult and unprecedented event.
Managing Screen Time Part 2- Podcast #559
Aug 04, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #2 of a two-part series.
Managing Screen Time Part 1- Podcast #558
Jul 28, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss managing screen time by investigating the Eightfold Path (8 practices that serve as a framework in Buddhist philosophy). The practice can help us relate to screen time (and everything else) differently and shift how we relate to our children when it comes to technology. #1 of a two-part series.
Why Are Conspiracy Theories Believable- Podcast #557
Jul 21, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver's Last Week Tonight episode about conspiracy theories, and share the psychology behind why people believe tend to believe them. We also discuss how to have productive conversations with people who share and promote harmful pandemic theories.
Build A Solid Foundation- Podcast #556
Jul 14, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss why building a strong foundation can get us through difficultly and uncertainty, and help us recognize what’s most important in crisis and calmer times. They share what a “strong foundation” looks like and why it’s an everyday practice. They discuss Eckhart Tolle, Richard Rohr, and why dark helps us understand the light (and vice versa).
How To Connect To Your Kid- Podcast #555
Jul 07, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss why connection necessitates letting go of needing and focusing more on understanding. They share a story of connecting with their daughter and why knowing her well was the key to engagement.
Inhabit Your Life- Podcast #554
Jun 30, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss the Zen parable about the monkey in the river and why it teaches us to find the aliveness of every moment, even if we are afraid or uncertain. They offer examples and analogies from The Karate Kid, Parenthood, Dead Poets Society and even High School Musical. They also discuss the importance of staying educated and continuing to integrate discussions about race into our parenting, and why we need to WEAR MASKS and demonstrate our care for each other and our communities.
What Self-Care Really Is- Podcast #553
Jun 23, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss how self-care is about building a life that you don’t need to escape from – by speaking up, asking for what you need, resting, and interacting with integrity. They discuss how we can practice this in partnership and parenting, and when we are discussing and learning about difficult issues like race. They also discuss what makes a great song and share some of their picks.
Truth Is Hard, But It’s So Much Easier Podcast #552
Jun 16, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss how self-awareness, vulnerability, and a willingness to listen upfront lead to authentic and connected conversations later. They discuss how this applies to race discussions, partnership, and parenting, and how cognitive dissonance and whataboutism get in the way of meaningful and productive communication. They reference So You Want to Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo, Brene Brown’s podcast with the Duplass brothers, and White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo.
Spiritual Bypassing & Race- Podcast #551
Jun 09, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss how spiritual bypassing (the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings) can run counter to being a listener and learner when it comes to race. They discuss how spiritual bypassing has become normalized and separates us from the issues we need to work through when it comes to social justice, partnerships, parenting, or our own growth and development.
Talk About Race- Podcast #550
May 31, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss the protests and why self-awareness and being a student are essential when talking about race. They share who they learn from, why we need to speak up, and why dismantling racism in ourselves is necessary, difficult, and uncomfortable.
Questions To Love Podcast #549
May 27, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss some of the questions from this New York Times article titled The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
What’s Your 1 Thing? -Podcast #548
May 19, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss the highlights of a Freakonomics podcast titled Reasons to Be Cheerful as well as The Goop Podcast titled The Culture of Busyness. Some of the topics discussed were the negativity bias, loss aversion, and getting out of the way so our kids can become the people they are supposed to be.
Content Vs Context- An Interview With Jim Dethmer Podcast #547
May 12, 2020
Todd and Cathy interview Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group. They discuss the difference between the content (what is happening) of our lives and the context (from what energy are we dealing with what is happening. They also talk about the universe, death, toddlers, weed, and body intelligence in this real world example when Cathy and Todd's 12 year old daughter interrupts the interview.
What Does Messy Look Like? Podcast #546
May 05, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss what it means to experience messy and how messy, but necessary, conversations can cause discomfort and uncertainty. They discuss why others are not always bad or wrong, and how we can see the nuance and grey in every situation. They discuss how enlightening or self-aware moments can look different for everybody, and how a Good Will Hunting moment isn’t the only example of catharsis.
Hitting A Wall- Podcast #545
Apr 28, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss why hitting a wall is to be expected, and why it’s not a failure, it’s a recalibration. They discuss what walls can teach us and why adaptation and pivoting are important now, and after, the pandemic. They discuss why all feelings are acceptable, and why if we can be specific about what we are feeling, we will have an easier time moving through it.
This Is What You Shall Do- Podcast #543
Apr 27, 2020
Cathy+Todd discuss Walt Whitman’s poem This is what you shall do and discuss how his wisdom is relevant today. The discuss what it means to “dismiss whatever insults your soul”, and why this relates to us globally and in our own families. They also share lessons from The Little Rascals and Dead Poets Society.
Feelings About Feelings- Podcast #544
Apr 21, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss how we judge our own feelings and then instead of self-regulating, we get lost in a cycle of emotions. They discuss Mark Brackett’s book Permission to Feel, and his interview on Brenè Brown’s Unlocking Us podcast. They also share some ways we can monitor our emotions and show up for our kids, partners, and world in a more compassionate way.
The Light At The End Of The Tunnel- Podcast #542
Apr 07, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss vivid dreaming and why you might be feeling old griefs during this pandemic. They discuss why talking about your feelings and appreciating humor and joy are stabilizing. They share why Lin Manuel Miranda, John Krasinski, the Cuomo Brothers and Matthew McConaughey have been helpful over the last couple of days.
Alone Together- Podcast # 541
Mar 31, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss creating new habits during the pandemic – for some this can add structure, and for others this can feel too overwhelming. They share the difference between people who are enjoying this time of shelter-in-place, and those who are working harder and taking risks so we all can feel safe and cared for. They also discuss the show Alone and why we need to take care of those who are by themselves, and why relationships are the things that matter most.
Grief Is What You Are Feeling- Podcast # 540
Mar 25, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss an article in the Harvard Law Review titled The Discomfort You Are Feeling is Grief. Grief expert David Kessler explains how we are all feeling anticipatory grief during this pandemic and how to find hope and meaning in our daily experiences. They also discuss how to pull inspiration from Caroline Ingalls (Little House on the Prairie) and the movie Castaway.
Tools To Cope- Podcast #539
Mar 20, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss a few ways to cope with uncertainty and why self-care and emotional well-being is the most important thing right now.
Grounding Forces During Uncertain times- Podcast #538
Mar 16, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk to kids about the uncertainty of these times, and why it’s important to focus on the whole rather than the individual. They discuss why it’s ok to let kids sleep and loosen up on your typical structure, and ways to help other people in need.
Stay Connected- Podcast #537
Mar 15, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss the impact of the corona virus, emotional labor, & Kramer's attitude towards the gas gauge.
It’s OK To Feel Tired- Podcast #536
Mar 10, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss how negative news cycles and uncertainty can leave us feeling tired and overwhelmed. They discuss how to take care of ourselves (it’s a practice!), and how to talk to our kids about their feelings and coping tools.
There’s More To The Story- Podcast #535
Mar 03, 2020
Cathy & Todd discuss the highlights and takeaways to the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference.
Compassionate Partnership- Podcast #534
Feb 25, 2020
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What love says when we are alone and afraid- Podcast #533
Feb 18, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss Elizabeth Gilbert’s Valentine’s Day post titled TEN ACTUAL THINGS THAT LOVE HAS SAID TO ME WHEN I WAS ALONE AND AFRAID (FOR ANYONE WHO MIGHT NEED IT TODAY). They discuss each one and how they can rewire the way we experience ourselves and the way we see the world.
Ms. Americana & Powerful Women- Podcast #531
Feb 13, 2020
Cathy & Todd talk about the new Taylor Swift Documentary, Shakira's and J-Lo's Superbowl half time show, and other powerful women.
On Purpose With Heidi Stevens & John Duffy- Podcast #532
Feb 11, 2020
Cathy+Todd talk with Heidi Stevens from the Chicago Tribune, and Dr. John Duffy, author of Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety. They discuss having a moral compass, the current political climate, handling Facebook conversations, and of course, parenting. Make sure you subscribe to Heidi and John’s podcast, On Purpose.
Humility & Procrastination Podcast #530 (Replay)
Jan 28, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing.
Every Trigger is an Opening- Podcast #529
Jan 21, 2020
Cathy and Todd continue their discussion about wounds and triggers, and why parts of ourselves need to be acknowledged and validated. They discuss awareness and forgiveness, and why every trigger is an opening and opportunity to heal.
Wounds & Triggers- Podcast #528
Jan 14, 2020
Cathy and Todd discuss childhood wounding and why it leads to triggers in adulthood. They discuss how healthy parts of the self can soothe the wounded parts, and why being triggered is like a replaying an old, painful event or message.
Relationship Resolutions- Podcast #527
Jan 07, 2020
Todd and Cathy discuss “relationship resolutions” for 2020, and why practice and self-compassion are essential when starting a new year.
Dr. Dan Siegel- The Power of Showing UP- Podcast #526
Dec 31, 2019
Cathy and Todd interview Dr. Siegel's newest book- The Power of Showing Up- How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become & How Their Brains Get Wired.
Dandelions and Orchids: Podcast #525
Dec 24, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Thomas Boyce’s book, The Orchid and the Dandelion and how all children can thrive if given the right environment. They also discuss neurodiversity, This is Us, some of the best movies of the year, and what’s in store for 2020.
Tony Porter from A Call To Men & Author Hunter Clarke-Fields Podcast #524
Dec 17, 2019
It's a double feature as Cathy and Todd interview the CEO of A Call To Men Tony Porter & Author of Raising Good Humans Hunter Clarke-Fields.
What is Marriage? Podcast #523
Dec 10, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss why women are expected to take a man’s last name, and why this can be an important discussion and decision for couples. They discuss the meaning of Miss, Ms, and Mrs., why Queen and Slim and Marriage Story are important movies, and why Carol Spinney, the man who played Big Bird will be missed.
Setting An Intention: Podcast #522
Dec 03, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss poetry, Frozen 2, The ZPR Holiday Calendar and setting an intention.
It’s A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood- Podcast #521
Nov 26, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss the new film "It's A Beautiful Day In The Neighborhood" about Mister Rogers as well as a quick take on women's menstruation.
Getting The Love You Want: Podcast #520
Nov 19, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss Imago Dialogue as introduced by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt's book titled Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples and why it could help your relationships.
Denying Reality: Podcast #519
Nov 12, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “feel felt” and how to attune to your partner and children. They also explain why it’s important to understand your child’s experience and not deny their reality.
Effortless Perfection (Or Not): Podcast #518
Nov 05, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss Anna Quindlin’s quote, “The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself”, and how we can help our kids understand this at an early age. They discuss the anxiety kids feel to do everything right, and why kids from high-achieving schools are now considered “high risk”.
Rosalind Wiseman-Building A Culture of Dignity: Podcast #517
Oct 29, 2019
We had two special guests on the podcast today - Rosalind Wiseman and our daughter Jacey - you don’t want to miss this discussion about dignity, respect, Euphoria, sex ed, boy group chats and of course, Mean Girls - we will post next week! 💥
Self-esteem Vs. Self-compassion Podcast #516
Oct 22, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between self-compassion and self-esteem and why only one is healthy for the individual and family. They share the three components of self-compassion shared by Kristin Neff, and discuss her impact on Brenè Brown and others.
Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s)- Podcast #515
Oct 15, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss the Adverse Childhood Experiences test, and why California Surgeon General Nadine Burke Harris plans to incorporate it into early-childhood wellness screenings. They discuss how an ACE score determines the long-term health of a child, and why understanding an ACE score can help deepen our self-awareness and evolve our parenting.
Teaching Money- Podcast #514
Oct 08, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss how to talk about money and responsibility with your older kids. They discuss Rupture and Repair and how to recognize your own baggage so you can communicate effectively (rather than defensively).
Rob Bell Interview- Podcast #513
Oct 01, 2019
Todd and Cathy interview author/podcaster and all-around amazing guy- Rob Bell
Emotional Neglect: What Your Feelings Are Saying- Podcast #512
Sep 24, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss the different types Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) and why it’s important to recognize our own experiences and blindspots. They discuss Malcolm Gladwell’s new book, Talking to Strangers, and how it can help us think in a more nuanced and expansive way.
Part II Parenting The New Teen With Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #511
Sep 17, 2019
In the second half of this two part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with friend Dr. John Duffy about his new book Parenting the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety: A Complete Guide to Your Child's Stressed, Depressed, Expanded, Amazing Adolescence They discuss weed, gaming, identity traffic, and much more.
Parenting The New Teen With Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #510
Sep 10, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram - it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with modern psychology. They discuss the light and dark of each number and why understanding the different types develops self-compassion and empathy for others.
More To The Story: Zen Parenting Conference 2020- Podcast #509
Sep 03, 2019
Cathy+Todd introduce the speakers for the 5th annual Zen Parenting Conference, February 28+29, 2020. They share why there’s more to love, more to learn, and MORE TO THE STORY. The 2020 conference is for parents, educators, therapists and definitely TEENS. Go to zenpopparenting.com and click events for your early-bird tickets! Only $25 for a teen ticket!
The Enneagram- Podcast #508
Aug 27, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful tool for understanding ourselves and the people in our lives called the Enneagram - it’s a system of nine personality types that combines traditional wisdom with modern psychology. They discuss the light and dark of each number and why understanding the different types develops self-compassion and empathy for others.
What is Gaslighting? Podcast #507
Aug 20, 2019
Cathy and Todd breakdown the manipulation tactic known as gaslighting, where the goal is to abuse or control through lying, manipulating, and destabilizing. They discuss how it can be used by partners, parents, friends, bosses, and the political system, and why self-awareness and reality testing are essential to keep yourself from being victimized. They also discuss Norway’s approach to childhood sports and how its contributed to their record-setting number of Olympic medals.
Say Anything- Podcast #506
Aug 13, 2019
We couldn’t tape a show this week because Todd was sick ☹, so this is our Pop Culturing Podcast where we talk about the movie Say Anything… (1989) – we share why Lloyd and Diane’s love and friendship inspired us to be better people. We will return to our regularly scheduled programming next week!
Say Anything ... is a 1989 American romantic comedy-drama film written and directed by Cameron Crowe in his directorial debut. The film follows the romance between Lloyd Dobler (John Cusack), an average student, and Diane Court (Ione Skye), the class valedictorian, immediately after their graduation from high school. In 2002, Entertainment Weekly ranked Say Anything ... as the greatest modern movie romance, and it was ranked number 11 on Entertainment Weekly's list of the 50 best high-school movies.
Mental Health and Empathy Podcast #505
Aug 06, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss the benefit of mental health days after a law passed in Oregon allowing them to be excused. They also discuss the light and dark side of empathy, and how pain and challenge is a an opportunity to become more compassionate toward ourselves and others. The discuss post-traumatic growth and how we are hard-wired to help people in need, especially if we relate to their experience.
Being Apart To Come Together Podcast #504
Jul 30, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss why alone time or time away from your partner can be healthy and connective. They share the benefits and discuss the balance of togetherness and individuation. They share why it’s important to keep a sense of self and why the healthiest partnerships exist within the paradox of safety and adventure.
Stranger Things- The Hurt Is Good Podcast #503
Jul 23, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss Stranger Things Season 3 and how it deals with grief, trauma, and growing up. They also discuss the “believe women” theme and all of the obvious and less obvious 80’s references.
How To Be Yourself- Podcast #502
Jul 16, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss how we all have different approaches to challenging situations, and why there isn’t one way to speak up or solve a problem. They discuss how we can help children build a “self-awareness muscle” through question-asking and curiosity, and why understanding and honoring who we are is a life-long endeavor.
Raising An Upstander- Podcast #501
Jul 09, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss Jon Krakauer’s book Missoula: Rape and the Justice System in a College Town and the documentary the Bystander Moment (ZPR and The Tribe Men’s Group are hosting a free screening of this movie at the Elmhurst Public Library on July 9th at 7 pm). They discuss the statistics and trauma of sexual assault, and the why it’s important to talk to our kids about entitlement, desire, and consent. They explain what it means to be an Upstander and why supporting and speaking up for others is a socially responsibility.
Meet Our Kids- Podcast #500
Jul 02, 2019
To celebrate their 500th episode and 8 years of podcasting, Todd and Cathy talk with their daughters Jacey (16), Camryn (14), and Skylar (11) about their experiences with “zen” parenting, and discuss the issues confronting teens and pre-teens today. Todd and Cathy also announce the launch of their new podcast, Pop Culturing - they discuss movies, tv shows and books, and break down key moments and little-known facts to touch upon underlying themes of self-awareness and what it means to be human.
What Your Therapist Thinks- Podcast #499
Jun 25, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss some questions that Lori Gottlieb addresses in her book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and share their own experiences with being the practitioner and the patient.
Redefining Fatherhood- Podcast #498
Jun 18, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss how fatherhood is being redefined and expanded as we learn more about ourselves and gender, Team Zen, Taylor Swift and much more...
The Wisdom Of Anxiety- Podcast #497
Jun 11, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Paul’s book The Wisdom of Anxiety, and why anxiety is an opportunity to be curious rather than afraid. They discuss how compassion, stillness, and gratitude play a role in understanding and coping with anxiety, and why anxiety is a wound and a messenger. They also discuss the Equal Rights Amendment and how it hasn’t yet been ratified by 38 states.
Finding The Genuine Podcast #496
Jun 04, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss Sister Joan Chittister and her new book The Time is Now: A Call to Uncommon Courage. They discuss civil discourse, why we get our loves out of order, and why we yearn for the genuine. They discuss why self-care is the first step toward bettering our partnerships, parenting, and engagement in community and activism.
Women Aren’t Nags, We’re Fed Up- Podcast #495
May 28, 2019
Todd and Cathy talk with Gemma Hartley, author of Fed Up. They discuss emotional labor, how it affects partnership and parenting, and why it needs to be an evolving and ongoing conversation. Gemma will be taking questions during our Team Zen talk on June 4th – click here to join Team Zen and participate.
Women’s Autonomy Podcast #494
May 21, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss why the new laws in Alabama and other states strip women of their reproductive and human rights. They discuss how we have to take a wider view and not assume everyone has access to the same resources or education. They discuss how men make these decisions but remove themselves from what should be legislated or criminalized, and how we could refocus our energy to educate and support all communities. This episode is for mature audiences.
Girls & Anxiety Podcast #493
May 14, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss girls and stress and play clips from Rich Roll’s interview with Under Pressure author Lisa Damour. They also discuss the conflict between James Charles and Tati Westbrook, and how to talk to boys about being a bystander.
Be A Happier Parent- Podcast #492
May 07, 2019
Cathy and Todd talk with Former New York Times reporter KJ Dell’Antonio about her book How to be a Happier Parent. They discuss some common issues that challenge parents, and explore how to decrease the stress and find more joy.
Cobra Kai- Podcast #491
Apr 30, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss how people and organizations are both light and dark, and why it’s important to recognize this in ourselves. They discuss the You Tube Original Show Cobra Kai, specifically the nostalgia and surprises, and how all the characters are multidimensional and imperfect. They also share Carol Cadwalladr’s TED Talk where she calls out the Titans of Tech and Ricky Henderson’s Baseball Hall of Fame speech.
Cathy and Todd discuss a sports psychologist Dr. Michael Gervais interview on Armchair Expert with Dax Shepard. They discuss the difference between being the best and being your best.
Permission Slips- Podcast #489
Apr 16, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss how to give ourselves permission to change or try something new. They share some wisdom from Oprah’s new book The Path Made Clear, and discuss why trusting and honoring ourselves can strengthen our relationships.
Essentialism- Podcast # 488
Apr 09, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss Greg McKeown’s book Essentialism about how we can do less, but better. They discuss how to figure out what’s essential, how to let go of what we no longer need, and how essentialism relates to KonMari and the movie City Slickers.
The Space Between- Podcast # 487
Apr 02, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss how parenting experts can appear to contradict each other (even when their information is valid), and why we need to know our family and trust our instincts when making parenting decisions. They discuss Gabor Matè’s interview on the Goop podcast, Lori Gottlieb’s interview on NPR’s Fresh Air, and they share MILCK’s #ICANTKEEPQUIET project.
What makes us happy – Podcast #486
Mar 26, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss the lessons from the longest study about happiness from the Harvard Study on Adult Development. They discuss Steven Pinker’s data about the world getting better, and what Bill Gates and Warren Buffet both recommend for a happy life.
Public Shaming- Podcast #485
Mar 19, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss public shaming and why responsibility, humility, and reflection need to be a part of the process. They discuss John Oliver’s interview with Monica Lewinsky and the college admission scandal.
Greatest Hits from the 2019 ZPR Conference Podcast #484
Mar 12, 2019
Cathy and Todd speak about the most impactful moments of this year's conference.
Connection Is Everything Podcast # 483
Mar 05, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss Dax Shepard’s interview with Dr. John Gottman, and discuss his research around marriage, parenting, sex, and the key to longevity.
School Decisions- Podcast #481
Feb 26, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss why parental self-awareness is essential when our kids are making their life decisions. They discuss how our history plays a role in what we think is best for our kids, and why we need to be clear about what “success” means. They discuss why what worked for us may not work for them, and why staying connected is dependent on honest and vulnerable communication.
Punitive vs Restorative- Podcast #480
Feb 19, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between a punitive (inflicting punishment) and restorative perspective (seeking to understand and address what happened to all involved), and why it’s important to recognize how we parent and why. They discuss why a restorative approach necessitates self-awareness and mindfulness, and why our willingness to effectively communicate with our kids about choices will help them with their decision-making as adults.
Simplicity & Equifinality- Podcast #479
Feb 12, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss why focusing on simple allows other things to flow more easily, and why aligning with what feels right allows determination, grit, and curiosity to show up naturally. They discuss why equifinalityv(the fact that there are many different pathways to the same outcome) is important to acknowledge when we are making choices for ourselves or for our children.
Words Matter- Podcast #478
Feb 05, 2019
Cathy and Todd discuss the Superbowl and the most impactful commercials, specifically The Washington Post commercial titled Democracy Dies in Darkness. They discuss how the Justice Department minimized the description of domestic violence and why less information can create more problems. They process Lady Gaga’s deposition for Kesha, the Dirty John Podcast, and why connection and listening are the keys to every life relationship.
What Parts Do You Repress?- Podcast #477
Jan 29, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss the shadow parts of themselves that they pretend aren’t there, and Todd shares an activity where he had to act out the parts he tries hardest to repress. They share why the people who annoy us tend to display traits in ourselves that we don’t want to look at, and why accepting all of our parts keeps us whole and develops our compassion.
What Is Traditional Masculinity?- Podcast #476
Jan 22, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss the new American Psychological Association (APA) guidelines for men and boys, and why a Gillette ad about healthy masculinity has drawn so much criticism.
Truth & Lies- Podcast #475
Jan 15, 2019
Todd and Cathy discuss why instead of looking for truth, we can begin to notice the lies that we consistently tell ourselves. They discuss failure, and why Cody Parkey’s kick during the Bears game became a teachable moment. They talk about extended family, noticing our ego, and what we can learn from the movie Cocktail.
Take Turns- Podcast #474
Jan 08, 2019
Cathy shares an essay by Mark Nepo about partners who are willing to take turns exploring the outer and the inner. They discuss why equality is like an unwinding onion with limitless new things to explore, while focusing on Glenn Close in The Wife and Amy Adams in Vice. They also talk about what “unlikability” means for female candidates, and why it’s important to discuss specifically what makes us like, believe, or pay attention to person in front of us.
Team Zen Podcast #473
Jan 01, 2019
Todd and Cathy share different questions asked by Team Zen members during Zen Talks. Team Zen was created based on feedback from listeners – they wished they could ask Cathy+Todd a question, get resources for a specific challenge, and find a supportive and interactive community. Team Zen does all of this, and more. It includes two live ZenTalks a month, a private Facebook page with resources and Q&A, a premium podcast, and an opportunity to connect with a community of Zen Parents, just like you.
Dark and Light Podcast #472
Dec 25, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss why light and dark are part of the holidays, and why every season has a purpose. They discuss Barbara Brown Taylor’s book, Learning to Walk in the Dark, and why embracing dark can make us more compassionate and integrated people. They discuss the challenges of spiritual bypassing and what Wayne Dyer meant when he said, “Learn to die while you are living”.
There’s No Right Answer Podcast #471
Dec 18, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss Jonathan Haidt’s book The Coddling of the American Mind, specifically focusing on the interview with Sam Harris on the Waking Up podcast. They discuss why universities struggle with controversial speakers, why safe spaces were created, and why some people have a hard time viewing emotional pain as valid pain. They process why there are no simple answers, and how each situation carries unique challenges and dynamics that need to be considered.
Love Is Help- Podcast #470#
Dec 11, 2018
Cathy and Todd introduce four more speakers and four special organizations who will be at the 2019 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss a podcast featuring Tony Robbins and the author of The Untethered Soul, Michael Singer, and they play a clip from Will Smith about why love is help.
The Joke- Podcast #469
Dec 04, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss Brandi Carlisle’s song The Joke, and why it was written for people who feel “under-represented, unloved or illegal”. They talk about the newest sexual assault allegations, and what needs to be done to create change. The discuss the dignity of George HW Bush, and why his agenda while in office was surprising.
The Sequel- Why Do We Have 2 Kidneys? So We Can Give 1 Away- Podcast #468
Nov 30, 2018
Our friend Josh St. Pierre returns to the show to give us an update on his recent kidney transplant (click here to listen to Josh’s first podcast where he shares his story). He shares what it felt like to get the phone call about the potential match, how he’s reflecting and recovering, and why he’s grateful for the people and lessons learned along the way. Click here to learn more about organ donation.
Narrate Your Own Story- Podcast #467
Nov 27, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss how we tell our story, and how we can frame it in a way that serves us rather than depletes us. They discuss why mindfulness and sharing our story are essential when dealing with trauma, and also when we are parenting and relating to our children. They discuss Mark Epstein’s books, Sharon Salzberg’s path to compassionate teaching, and why Michelle Obama says we need to own our story.
Becoming- Podcast #466 (Fixed)
Nov 20, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss Michelle Obama’s new book Becoming, focusing in on some of the best pieces of advice for parents and kids. They discuss why we are always evolving, why growth never ends, and why we should allow our kids (and ourselves) to fail, pivot, and change.
More Words For Anger- Podcast #465
Nov 13, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss anger and how it can be productive, but also be destructive if not monitored. They discuss Pete Davidson’s apology and Lt. Com. Dan Crenshaw’s willingness to accept it on SNL this weekend. They discuss how Bridesmaids and Pitch Perfect allowed the women to be the complex characters, and why Bohemian Rhapsody is so fun to watch.
Fear Is A Pair Of Glasses- Podcast #464
Nov 06, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss how fear can be helpful if we are willing to listen and look at what’s it’s trying to say, but destructive if we live from constant state of fear by blaming and dehumanizing. They discuss Dr. Bessel van de Kolk’s book, The Body Keeps Score, and his interview with Krista Tippet on the Being Wise podcast, and how trauma becomes lodged in our bodies and what we can do to move it through. Cathy and Todd share examples of trauma and disconnection from Million Little Things, 8th Grade, The Haunting of Hill House, and the way our current administration is dehumanizing immigrants and people seeking asylum at the border. And if you are reading this on Tuesday, Nov 6th – GO VOTE.
Blame & Superiority- Podcast #463
Oct 30, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss why blame and the belief that we are superior to another causes pain in our family, community and country. They discuss how dehumanization is a weapon to oppress and harm, and why we need to be thoughtful about words we say and write. They also discuss why intimacy coordinators are being used at HBO, why Todd can continue to express himself authentically, and Dax Shepard’s interview with Brenè Brown.
Wisdom from Glennon & Abby- Podcast #462
Oct 23, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss some great quotes and wisdom gained from Cathy’s weekend with Glennon and Abby at Omega Institute. They discuss why being a “cool girl” is no longer necessary or healthy, why pleasing everyone will exhaust you, and how our wounds can become our greatest source of strength and inspiration. Glennon and Abby are the keynotes at the Zen Parenting Conference on March 8&9, 2019 – get your tickets at zenpopparenting.com.
Daring To Lead- Podcast #461
Oct 16, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book, Daring to Lead, and apply her well-researched leadership principles to the family structure. They discuss why fear is inevitable, how courage can be practiced, and how we can teach and role model leadership in our homes, so our kids can take it into the world.
A Measured Approach to Power- Podcast #460
Oct 09, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss power dynamics within relationships – specifically who has it, how to share it, and how to talk about it. They discuss why taking a measured approach to power – with our kids, in our partnerships, and even on-line - has the potential to teach compassion and deepen relationships. They discuss why stepping back is sometimes necessary, why stepping forward can be powerful, and why This Is Us leads to great family discussions.
The History Of Not Believing- Podcast #459
Oct 02, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss the history of not believing women, and why recognizing what we’ve missed and creating change can be messy and difficult. They share clips from a Hidden Brain podcast about how social proof and horizontal action play a role in the #metoo movement, the truth about Anita Hill’s testimony (click here to hear the “You’re Wrong About…” podcast), and why the Duke Lacrosse story became nationally known (click here to see the 30 for 30 documentary trailer). They share the history of “female hysteria”, and why recognizing our own biases and beliefs will allow us to be more compassionate toward ourselves and empathetic toward others.
Tell Me About Your Experience- Podcast #458
Sep 25, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss #WhyIDidntReport and why it’s important to listen, rather than assume we already understand, other people’s stories. They discuss the importance of hearing – women who talk about sexual assault, our spouses, our children – rather than assuming we already understand their experiences. They talk about questioning unconscious bias and share clips from a vulnerable and brave Charles Blow interview.
Are You Trying To Force Your Kid?- Podcast #457
Sep 18, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss how Todd wants to make his daughters watch the documentary "RBG" and how it's not working. They also talk about a dad who wants to force his daughter to attend "optional" soccer practices. They talk about their own struggle of brand vs. mission for Zen Parenting Radio. Lastly they play a clip from the "flu" episode.
Not Her Daughter: A discussion with author Rea Frey- Podcast #456
Sep 14, 2018
Cathy and Todd talk with Rea Frey about her new domestic suspense novel, Not Her Daughter. She shares the story behind the book, the conversation it has created, and why it makes the reader question the line between right and wrong. They also discuss modern-day parenting, the trauma of birth, and some real-life kidnapping scares. Not Her Daughter will be made into a major motion picture, and it’s made numerous top book lists for summer, including a shout-out in Us Weekly. Booklist proclaims, "Brings to mind Jodi Picoult...thought-provoking domestic drama."
Self Care For Kids- Podcast #455
Sep 11, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss how kids can practice self-care and why a mental health day may reduce their anxiety and possibly decrease the odds of physical illness. They also discuss how couples can discuss balance and equity in the home, and how our society views female anger, specifically Serena Williams anger, during the U.S. Open.
Boundaries and Compassion
Todd and Cathy discuss boundaries and compassion, and how they are threads that run through so many questions posed by parents, especially during Team Zen conversations. They also share why discussing controversial subjects doesn’t need to create more controversy, and why understanding how Fortnite makes kids feel will help explain why the game is so popular.
Movies & Screens Podcast #453
Aug 28, 2018
Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise and 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speaker, about supporting/guiding a child through their first-phone experience. They also discuss recent movies such as 8th Grade, BlacKKKlansman, and the new documentary, America to Me, filmed at Oak Park River Forest High School.
Ritual & Power Podcast #452
Aug 21, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss the rituals and habits the set the tone for our days and nights, and why recognizing and understanding our power is the great success determiner.
Get Your Brave On- Podcast #451
Aug 14, 2018
Cathy and Todd announce their 2019 Zen Parenting Conference speakers. They share why you MUST get to know these amazing women, read their books, and get your early-bird tickets to the conference. They discuss the difference between FOMO and JOMO and why JOMO can help us lead healthier and more peaceful lives.
Listen, Allow, Support, Repeat #450 (Replay)
Aug 07, 2018
Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It’s an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child – you don’t want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss Pixar’s Inside Out. See Soren dance below…
A Call To Men Podcast #449
Jul 31, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss Episode 4 of the series We Are Man Enough that discusses the #metoo movement.
Who Are Your Faith Keepers? Podcast #448
Jul 24, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss Brady Bunch, Serena Williams Wimbeldon interview, how to deal with conflict, empathy, and finding out who you ca count on for honest, yet compassionate feedback.
Whose Team Are You On? Podcast #447
Jul 17, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss one of Toby’s quotes from This is Us, and explain why his wisdom could strengthen any relationship. They discuss how to love our inner child without letting it take control, and why there are always only two options, love or fear. They share wisdom from Richard Rohr and Gary Zukov and some humor from Friends.
Threads Worldwide- An Interview with Co-Founder Kara Valentine- Podcast #446
Jul 13, 2018
Todd and Cathy speak with Co-Founder of Threads Worldwide. An organization that creates life-changing work with women around the world through the fair trade of artisan jewelry. In 2011 they founded Threads Worldwide to weave together the collaboration and collective power of women everywhere.
The Growing Edge Podcast #445
Jul 10, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss a productive definition of hope based on insight from Parker Palmer and Howard Thurman. They discuss Hannah Gadsby’s Netflix Comedy Special and share why her bravery and willingness to speak up is leading the way.
Connection Is Food- An Interview with Relationship Experts Jayson Gaddis and Ellen Boeder- Podcast #444
Jul 03, 2018
Todd and Cathy talk with Jayson Gaddis & Ellen Boeder, partners and cofounders of The Relationship School. Jayson also hosts the Smart Couple Podcast, and Ellen is a therapist with a private practice. They discuss how couples grow and thrive, why men have a harder time focusing on personal growth, and why connection and self-understanding are the keys to an empowered life.
Raising Global Citizens- An Interview With Patty Monahan Podcast #443
Jun 29, 2018
Todd and Cathy talk with Patty Monahan, founder of Our Whole Village, a company that specializes in family vacations and adventures. They discuss why travel is so important at every age, why we should teach our children to be global citizens, and why travel creates confident parents and strong families.
Differently Wired: A Conversation With Debbie Reber- Podcast #442
Jun 26, 2018
Cathy and Todd talk with Debbie Reber, author of Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. They discuss why this book is rally cry for all parents raising exceptional children, and why it benefits every parent to listen and understand differences. Debbie also shares 18 powerful “tilts” or paradigm shifts that can change how we see ourselves and our children.
Why Do We Have 2 Kidneys? So We Can Give 1 Away- Podcast #441
Jun 19, 2018
Todd and Cathy talk with Josh St. Pierre, a 42 year old full-time soccer coach who is need of a kidney. Josh explains why live liver and kidney donation is essential and how to figure out if you are a match with someone on the registry. He also shares his story, starting with being diagnosed with kidney failure at 30, and why he is willing to ask for help and speak up for every person needing organ donation.
If you're interested in being a living donor, please call 312-695-0828 and say you're interested in being a living donor on behalf of Josh St. Pierre.
Real-Time Emotional Labor- Podcast #440
Jun 12, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss a recent emotional labor issue and why it created an important discussion about invisible work. They also discuss the deaths of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain, and discuss why allowing our darkness and discussing mental wellness is essential. They offer a recipe for fulfillment and share why we need to call women’s sports just “sports”.
Negative Sticks, But Does It Have To? – Podcast #439
Jun 05, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss Abby Wambach’s graduation speech at Barnard and why it made such an impact. They share wisdom from Franciscan friar Richard Rohr about why it’s so easy to remember the negative, but so difficult to absorb the positive.
Why Are Women So Tired? A Talk with Karen Brody, Author of Daring To Rest- Podcast #438
Jun 01, 2018
Cathy and Todd talk with Karen Brody, author of Daring to Rest: Reclaim Your Power with Yoga Nidra Rest Meditation. They discuss why women feel so much pressure to be productive, and why we need to redefine what rest really means. They discuss the power of yoga nidra, why it makes such a difference physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and why intention is an essential part of the process. Karen is also the creator/writer of Birth, a play about how low-risk, educated women are giving birth today. Since 2006 the play been performed around the world as part of BOLD, an arts-based global movement inspiring communities to create childbirth choices that work for mothers.
Reparent Yourself- Podcast #437
May 29, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss Dr. Robin Berman’s book, Permission to Parent, and also her interview on the goop podcast. They discuss how our brain grows on love, why group-think starts in childhood, and why continuing to seek the approval of your parents can be detrimental to your present-day relationships.
True Crime And Pop Culture- An Interview With International Best Selling Author Charlie Donlea- Podcast #436
May 25, 2018
Cathy and Todd talk with International Best-Selling Author Charlie Donlea. They talk about each of his three books including his latest and greatest "Don't Believe It" They also talk pop culture, Serial, The Making Of A Murderer, baseball, and Dungeons & Dragons. Won't want to miss this one!!!!
Intersectionality- Podcast #435
May 22, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss intersectionality, a way of describing how multiple threats of discrimination exist when an individual’s identities overlap with several minority classes — such as race, gender, age, ethnicity, health and other characteristics. They discuss why we need to recognize our differences and listen to each other so we can begin to view experiences through a broader and more inclusive lense. They share how this can affect parenting and how it can shape our world view and make it easier for us to take care of each other. They share clips from Franchesca Ramsey and Laci Green, and recommend Kimberlè Crenshaw’s TED Talk titled, The Urgency of Intersectionality.
Moms Demand Action (Part 1): A Path To Common Sense Podcast #433
May 18, 2018
In part 1 of this 2 part interview- Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, and Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that are making a difference, and how we can all get involved to decrease the epidemic of gun violence that is now a public health issue.
Moms Demand Action (Part 2): A Path To Common Sense Podcast #434
May 18, 2018
In this two-part interview, Todd and Cathy talk with Sara Knizhnik, Campaign Organizer at Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence, & Diane Lans-Kautz, Leader of the Moms Demand Action Chapter in Elmhurst. They discuss how Moms Demand Action started, how members are making a difference at the state and federal level, and why it’s a bipartisan group (that supports the 2nd amendment) that is not just for moms. They discuss legislation, other groups and individuals that are making a difference, and how we can all get involved to decrease the epidemic of gun violence that is now a public health issue.
Link to Part 1: https://zenpopparenting.com/podcasts/433/
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How To Raise An Adult (Part 2)- Podcast #432
May 15, 2018
Todd and Cathy continue discussing Julie Lythcott-Haims’ book, How to Raise an Adult, specifically focusing on what our kids should know before they venture out on their own. They share a clip from Luvvie Ajayi’s TED Talk about the importance of speaking up, even when it’s uncomfortable, and why “keeping the peace” can keep us stuck in time. Todd shares a clip from a highly emotionally-intelligent father who understands how to reach his daughter, even while she’s under duress.
How To Raise An Adult (Part 1)- Podcast #431
May 08, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss a practical checklist of what kids need before they go to college written by Julie Lythcott-Haims, author of How to Raise an Adult. The checklist offers intention and clarity, and recognizes that skills develop over time in a child-developmentally appropriate way. They also discuss why Todd wanted to play Cashflow for his birthday, and why financial awareness is necessary education for our kids.
I Feel Pretty- Podcast #430
May 01, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss the Super Soul Podcast conversation between Amy Schumer and Oprah about her new movie, I Feel Pretty. They talk about trusting your intention, why emotional labor is vital to the health of the family, and why accepting yourself leads to real confidence and a deeper connection with others.
The Profound Loneliness of American Men- Podcast #429
Apr 24, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss the emotional challenges of American men and why this impacts every part of our society. Their guests, Frank Naugo and Shaun Emerson, discuss why men struggle with intimacy, vulnerability, and friendship, and why anger or numbness can become a default setting. They share clips from the Hidden Brain podcast titled How American Masculinity Creates Lonely Men, and discuss how we can redefine what it means to be a man.
How To Value Each Other- Podcast #428
Apr 17, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss “moral outrage” and how to use it to create positive change. They explain how society tends to value a clean and concise way of thinking, but how thinking out of the box or seeing the bigger picture can lead to greater compassion and connection. They discuss how to support a child who doesn’t want to share, why spaghetti thinking is as important as waffle thinking, and why archetypes can help us understand ourselves better.
“Better” Zen Parenting #427
Apr 10, 2018
Todd and Cathy welcome their friends John and Julie Duffy, hosts of the Better Podcast (formerly titled Undue Anxiety). They talk about Tony Robbins, the #MeToo movement, and why listening and respecting others is essential for real change. They discuss couplehood, family dynamics, and how we can live in joy but always leave room for the dark.
Less Show, More Soul #426
Apr 03, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss how to recognize when we are showing up authentically rather than performing. They also discuss how to deal with a child who seems consistently disappointed, and why taking responsibility for our own behavior is key. Todd shares a clip about investing from Freakonomics, Cathy discusses the joy of Funko characters, and they offer some wisdom from Tommy Boy.
The 4 Types of Fear Podcast #425
Mar 27, 2018
Todd & Cathy Discuss the 4 different types of fears as described by Iyanla Vanzandt, Dierk's Bentley, Bruce Willis' wine cooler commercial, Eddie Murphy's single "Party All The Time", and how we've all already done the hardest thing we will ever do.
Focus Your Energy- Podcast# 424
Mar 20, 2018
Todd shares a story of a softball coach who proclaims "boys are stronger than girls" and what happened after that statement was made. They also discuss why focusing on too many things makes us feel overwhelmed and paralyzed, and why choosing one thing helps us take action and create real change (they share examples from MOMS Demand Action and from A Wrinkle in Time). They share how they created their women’s circle/men’s group, why we should speak up for others, and they play a new song by Lin-Manuel Miranda and Ben Platt called Found/Tonight (some proceeds go toward the March For Our Lives).
How Do I Get My Partner To….- Podcast# 423
Mar 13, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss the question that they hear the most – “How can I get my partner to….” - they discuss why this question is multi-layered, messy, and not easily answered. They discuss why wanting to change others feels easier than changing ourselves, why true wisdom comes from quiet, and the life-changing advice Oprah has for all people.
3 Forces For Good- Podcast# 422
Mar 06, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss Cheryl Strayed, MILCK, Mike Domitrz and all the goodness from the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference. They discuss the most frequently asked question ZPR question, the Oscars, and how we can all become forces for good.
Manifesto To End Busyness- Podcast #421
Feb 27, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss The Gentle Warrior’s Manifesto to Reduce Busyness from Courtney Carver’s book, Soulful Simplicity, and they discuss a Freakonomic’s podcast titled After the Glass Ceiling, A Glass Cliff, about why only 5% of Fortune 500 companies are run by women. They share why men and women eat Doritos differently, why we need to linger longer, and why Cathy loves Lionel Richie.
Teenage Wisdom Podcast #420
Feb 20, 2018
Todd and Cathy discuss the Parkland tragedy, and talk about why it’s time to take action to keep our kids safe at school. They explain how we can take on all pieces of the puzzle – common sense laws, mental wellness, and community/parent/school support – rather than fight about which one matters the most. They also discuss Dr. Dan Siegel’s book Brainstorm, and process how the teenage brain works and why it’s necessary for teenagers to take risks.
Humility & Procrastination Podcast #419
Feb 13, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss why we are always evolving, and share a clip from The Robcast about why humility is essential. They discuss why it’s never too late to excel at sports or other activities, why procrastination may not be such a bad thing, and why Slow TV on Netflix is so soothing.
Fault & Responsibility- Podcast #418
Feb 06, 2018
Todd and Cathy share some of the touching and funny Superbowl commercials, and they discuss a video of Will Smith explaining why fault and responsibility are two different things. Cathy shares some of her favorite self-compassion quotes, and they discuss why some quotes wake us up or resonate so strongly. Todd discusses his gullibility, he defends Taylor Swift, and he shares an aha from our Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker Mike Domitrz.
Finding Strength- Podcast #417
Jan 30, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss the road to wellness and why shame, judgment, anxiety, and hope all play a role. They also discuss why asking for help is so essential, and why asking for help is an act of bravery and strength. They discuss what it means to be a strength-based parent and play a clip from Lea Waters, author of The Strength Switch. Todd plays a clip from the TED Talk podcast about how people with less money actually give more to those in need, and how exposure and empathy are the keys to greater giving.
Honesty & Healing- Podcast #416
Jan 23, 2018
Cathy and Todd discuss the challenges of healing and why honesty and support are essential. They talk about how each of us are challenged to do hard things, and how not doing our own work leads to projection. They discuss how to talk to your kids about difficult topics like sex, and how living a “healthy life” means something different to everyone depending on their circumstances.
Cathy’s Recovery & Sarah Silverman Podcast #415
Jan 16, 2018
Todd+Cathy discuss Cathy's recovery of the flu as well as an inspirational exchange between Sarah Silverman and one of her followers.
Cathy Has The Flu Podcast #414-1/2
Jan 11, 2018
Yup- Cathy has the flu :( We're gonna shoot for another one at the end of the week. if not, next Tuesday for sure. Sorry for the inconvenience. Keep truckin'
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The Art of Fulfillment- Podcast #414
Jan 02, 2018
Todd+Cathy discuss how to “let go” and “bring in” for the new year, and how to wake up to our lives in 2018. They discuss how Steve Bartman and Bill Buckner became the scapegoats for their perspective cities pain, and how we tend to project all blame on one person or event in our own lives. They explain why the science of achievement and the art of fulfillment work well together, and why humor is essential in the midst of challenges.
These Are a Few Of Our Favorite Things- Podcast #413
Dec 26, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss their favorite things from 2017, and share why faith played a big role this year. They answer some questions posed in the Tim Ferriss book, Tribe of Mentors, reflect on growing up in the 80’s and 90’s, and share why they are hopeful for 2018.
Meaning Creates Joy- Podcast #412
Dec 19, 2017
Todd and Cathy talk about how meaning relates to happiness and joy, and how this knowledge can make our holidays less stressful and our parenting more conscious. They also discuss the benefits of Forest Bathing and share why trees can be our best teachers. They discuss the benefits of being cold, the zen-ness of their rabbit, and the need for more optimistic TV shows and movies.
#Metoo. So What Now? An Interview with Mike Domitrz- Podcast #411
Dec 15, 2017
Todd and Cathy talk with Mike Domitrz, Founder of The Date Safe Project and 2018 Zen Parenting Conference keynote speaker. They discuss they #metoo movement and what comes next – how does this change our behavior? How will this impact our relationships and society overall? How can it influence our parenting? Mike offers his expertise and support as we all navigate this ever-changing and uncertain time.
Less Perfect, More Peace- Podcast #410
Dec 12, 2017
Cathy and Todd share how we can take care of ourselves and say no during the holidays without feeling guilt. They discuss Shauna Niequist’s book Present Over Perfect and why our decision to be good to ourselves allows us to be more present for the ones we love. They also discuss why discomfort and confusion during this time of #metoo is normal and necessary for change, and how we can be more thoughtful and self-aware about our choices. It’s awards season again! Cathy shares the Golden Globe Best Picture nominees.
9 Statements For Women Podcast #409
Dec 05, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss how inequality can lead to challenging and often unconscious communication, and they share some civil statements that women can use to feel heard. They discuss common unconscious double standards in private life and the workplace, and explain why the skit “Welcome to Hell” from Saturday Night Live was so thought-provoking. They share a moment from A Very Brady Christmas, some wisdom from Zen Parenting Conference keynote Mike Domitrz from The Date Safe Project, and a powerful speech from actor Jeff Daniels.
We Are Differently The Same- Podcast #408
Nov 28, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss how they experience the world differently, and why understanding and respecting these differences lead to better communication. They talk about why connection is like nourishment, and why not connecting can make us feel uncomfortable mentally and physically. They discuss Gretchen Rubin’s Four Tendencies and share which tendency describes their underlying motivation. They talk about the movie Wonder, owning our stuff, and why sexual assault allegations are uncovering a deeply-embedded systemic issue.
The Gift Of Failure- Podcast #407
Nov 21, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss Jessica Lahey’s The Gift of Failure, and discuss why allowing our kids to make mistakes will help them succeed. They also discuss the difference between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, why rewards and punishment don’t work, and why praising our kids for effort rather than outcome will lead to greater success and a healthier sense of self. They play a clip of a Hillary Clinton interview on the Dear Sugar podcast, a commercial about failure from Michael Jordan, and discuss Carol Dweck’s book Mindset.
The Five Invitations- Podcast #406
Nov 14, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Invitations, a book that shows us how to wake up fully to our lives. As a compassionate teacher and cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, author Frank Ostaseski supports the dying. His five invitations dive into the suffering, joy, and inevitability of death, and why embracing this wisdom will lead to a more mindful and compassionate life. Cathy and Todd use clips from Dead Poets Society and Star Wars to highlight his points, and discuss why this book empowered them to live with greater intention and meaning.
Emotional Labor is an Unpaid Job- Podcast #405
Nov 07, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss an article in Harpers Bazaar titled “Women aren’t nags, we’re just fed up” about emotional labor and the sensitivity surrounding this topic. They discuss how to have a productive conversation about what it really takes to manage a house, and why it’s not always true that men are “problem solvers” and women are “sensitive”. They discuss how they are challenged with this issue, how it’s easy to go on autopilot, and why this is an ongoing discussion and not a one-time conversation. They explain how this relates to gender issues overall and what we are all currently modeling for both our daughters and sons. If you find this discussion interesting, join Cathy+Todd for a one-time virtual class about civility and compassion (in the home and for the holidays), and why the way we talk to our loved ones extends into the world. Click here to register.
It’s OK To Let Go – Podcast #404
Oct 31, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss why it’s OK for kids to change their minds and try new things, and why it’s important for adults to do this, too. They discuss how self-awareness is essential, and how self-forgiveness and understanding are also essential because we will always be a mystery (the great paradox!). They discuss the offensive gesture during the world series, how they managed their daughter’s crying episode, Byron Katie’s “The Work”, cranial sacral holds, and some humor from Anchorman.
From Refugee Camp To An Engineer- Podcast #403
Oct 27, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk with Roksanna Taghizadeh, an immigrant who grew up in Iran, became a refugee in Germany, and eventually made it to the United States where she became an structural engineer. She shares her immigration story, explains what it’s like to live in a refugee camp, and shares why the current political environment has been surprising and emotionally challenging.
Cell Phones & Getting Uncomfortable- Podcast #402
Oct 24, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s OK to be uncomfortable, and why focusing on what works and what we are grateful creates the foundation to deal with discomfort. They reference the Good Newspaper, and explain why good news can help us speak out about the uncomfortable news. Todd shares some wisdom from Simon Sinek about why cell phones shouldn’t be the classroom or the boardroom, and why will power sometimes isn’t enough. They discuss if it’s safe for Todd to drive with his knee, why we shouldn’t answer the phone in a movie theater, and a wise observation from Martin Luther King.
#MeToo Podcast #401
Oct 17, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss the power of #metoo (a hashtag for anyone who has been sexually harassed or assaulted) and why sharing stories and listening to each other paves the way for change. They also talk about the power of words and why inclusive language is not just about being politically correct, it’s about growth and understanding. They discuss software that allows parents to see how their children are doing throughout the school day, why children hold in painful secrets, and why Cathy won’t share her water bottle.
Equality Connects Us- Podcast #400
Oct 10, 2017
On their 400th episode, Cathy and Todd discuss why they started Zen Parenting, how it’s changed, and why equality, compassion, and connection motivate them to keep going. They share their favorite Tom Petty songs, discuss why difficult conversations are essential, and explain how if we work together, we will soar.
Brain Trusts, Civility, & Compassion- Podcast #399
Oct 03, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of civility when we have different opinions or viewpoints, and offer some definitions and research from Brenè Browns book, Braving the Wilderness. They also discuss the Las Vegas tragedy – how we can make the unbearable bearable, and how we can give of ourselves to help others. They share who resides in their “brain trust”, offer some wisdom from Cory Booker, and discuss why we have dehumanized in the past and why rehumanization is essential for the future.
Peer Health Exchange: Improving the mental and physical lives of young people- Podcast #398
Sep 29, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk with Danya Rosen, Executive Director of the Chicago Peer Health Exchange, an organization that empowers young people with the knowledge, skills, and resources to make healthy decisions. They train college students to teach a skill-based health curriculum (focusing on mental health, sexual education, and overall wellness) in under-resourced high schools across the country. They aim to reduce unplanned pregnancy and substance abuse by offering knowledge, support, and access to resources. The Peer Health Exchange has had a statistically significant positive effect on sexual and mental knowledge, skills, and help-seeking behavior. They are also located in the Bay Area, Boston, Los Angeles, and New York.
The Wilderness & The Keeper- Podcast #397
Sep 26, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s book, Braving the Wilderness, specifically the difference between “fitting in” and “true belonging”, and why listening and civility are our ways back to each other (this book discussion will continue next week). They also discuss a blog titled The Keeper and how it created an argument in one home, and why it’s an important discussion piece for any marriage. Todd shares a great Chicago story about how one person’s sacrifice lead to another person’s extreme act of bravery, and how we are all interconnected and modeling for each other.
Success And Momentum- Podcast #396
Sep 19, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss Simon Sinek’s definition of success and why momentum is the key. They talk about the best predictor of whether or not we will view our lives as successful (and it has nothing to do with money). They discuss why a man can be perceived as assertive and a woman is perceived as bossy, how the 2017 Emmy Award winners made some history, and why Oreos and seeing the movie IT are not great self-care choices for Cathy.
Safe Spaces, Triggers, and Civility- Podcast #395
Sep 12, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss The Smartphone Generation vs. Free Speech by Jean M. Twenge about the millennial generation (otherwise known as iGen) and why they are different. They discuss how they were raised, how they think, and why they understand emotional risk more than physical risk. They also discuss They also discuss Brene Brown’s new release, Braving the Wilderness, and how it focuses on stepping out and speaking up, and how we can answer questions with civility rather than mistrust and disdain. They talk about how we can support our kids without being permissive, how we can teach our daughters to trust themselves, and why the Jedi know how to fight hate with light.
A Checklist For Self-Compassion- Podcast #394
Sep 05, 2017
Cathy and Todd offer ways to practice and recognize self-compassion, and explain why our ego tends to argue against too much self-love (but why we don’t have to listen…). They discuss lovingkindness meditation, why it’s important to accept compliments, and how we can get to know ourselves like a friend. They also discuss Keyshawn Johnson’s decision to pull his son out of Nebraska football – was this decision too much or just right? They discuss their upcoming self-compassion class, their upcoming screening of Angst, and why it’s important for each of us to speak our truth.T
Angst: Let’s Talk About Anxiety- Podcast #393
Aug 29, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss anxiety, how and why it shows up, and why it’s important topic of conversation in every home. They discuss their documentary screening of Angst: Normalizing the Conversation Around Anxiety on Monday, September 11th, 7pm, at York Theater. This movie is a perfect opportunity to open an important conversation and normalize what’s been stigmatized. It’s appropriate for kids 10+, and it’s highly recommended for all parents and teens. They share the wisdom of Michael Singer from his book The Untethered Soul, and what it means to have a “voice in our head”. They also discuss Hurricane Harvey, how to give, and why we need to stay focused on hope. Click here to get tickets to the screening of Angst at York Theater on Sept 11th.
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Be a Force For Good- Podcast #392
Aug 22, 2017
Todd and Cathy reveal their three speakers for the 2018 Zen Parenting Conference, and explain why each of them is a force for good. They discuss candor, wisdom, kindness, and responsibility, and offer new resources that will help each of us live with greater clarity and intention. They answer a listener questions, and also discuss their NEW+IMPROVED website! Go to zenpopparenting.com to find all the podcasts, events, books, and resources that you’ve been asking for - all in one place! And get your early-bird 2018 Zen Parenting Conference tickets, a spot in Cathy’s How to Be Brave pre-conference workshop, and become a Zen Friend to support our conference scholarship program.
There’s Room For All Of Us- Podcast #391
Aug 15, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss fear-based thinking, what happened in Charlottesville, and how an abundance mindset can shift the way we relate to each other. They answer listener questions about a husband who doesn’t understand the challenges of busy motherhood, and how to manage, and hopefully reduce, an anxious home environment. Todd talks about his trip to New England with his daughter, and explains why this experience led to more authentic communication and connection.
Good Grit, Bad Grit- Podcast #390
Aug 08, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss Caroline Adams Miller’s book Getting Grit, about what grit really means, and why we need to be thoughtful about the kind of grit we are using and promoting. They share some clips from her interview with Jonathan Field’s on The Good Life Project, and explain why self-awareness, compassion, and connection are essential in becoming a force for good. They also discuss the challenges with participation trophies or awards and offer new insight into why these are only a symptom rather than the problem. They discuss why giving our kids space to find their own grit is essential, and why humility, community, and confidence are essential in keeping our goals healthy and manageable.
Say Yes & Say No- Podcast #389
Aug 01, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss what a hell yes feels like, and why saying no is so important. They share an interview with Oprah on the Dear Sugar podcast where she explains how she learned to say no, and why a no can be the best decision for all involved. They also share why letting go can be just as important as holding on, and what it really means to be impeccable with your word. They discuss the proposed military transgender ban, and why proximity to people different than us will decrease fear, increase compassion, and create unity.
Humans Are Like Porcupines- Podcast #387
Jul 25, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss why humans are like porcupines, and why it’s important to stay open and use “relational ethics”, when communicating with our loved ones. They discuss Andy Murray’s subtle equality comment after Wimbledon, they share a quote about compassion from Pema Chodron, and explain what Tim Ferriss means when he says, “Hard Choices/Easy Life”. They also discuss a bill that could affect teens who are caught sexting - teen expert Rosalind Wiseman explains, “We understand why adults don’t want young people sending these kinds of pictures but it’s dangerous and unethical for lawmakers to write and pass laws that can’t tell the difference between a sexual predator and a young person who is going through adolescence.”
Truth & Healing- Podcast #386
Jul 18, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss how to have honest communication with friends and why it can be helpful to be “called out” by the people we love. They also discuss why our understanding of healing is oversimplified, and how it’s a daily action rather than a destination. They share a quote from Brad Pitt about toxic masculinity, explain the difference between shame and guilt, and discuss how marriage is handled on Friday Night Lights.
How To See Pain Differently- Podcast #385
Jul 11, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss how to embrace a challenging past by accepting it as a given rather than viewing it as a “gift” (which can sometimes feel inauthentic). This concept is taken from Sharon Salzberg’s book, Real Love: The Art of Mindful Connection, and it allows us to acknowledge our experience and move forward as a force for good. They also discuss how kids can be sensitive to clothing and why it’s important to find ways to keep them comfortable. They share why joy+sadness are a team, why trying to defend our emotional state can cause conflict, and explain why The Soupdragons I’m Free is Todd’s empowerment song.
Think Differently About Fear Podcast #384
Jul 04, 2017
Cathy and Todd share a quote from Gutsy Girl author Caroline Paul about how we can use “micro-bravery” to handle our fear. They discuss why bravery can mean different things to men and women, and why it’s hard to differentiate between fear, excitement, and other strong feelings. They talk about ball players who get the “yips”, the movie Get Out, and explain why The Babadook represents repressed grief and anger.
Discussing Equality Is Difficult….And Necessary- Podcast #383
Jun 27, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss gender inequality and why Todd gets frustrated talking to men about this issue. They discuss why it’s difficult to understand inequality, how we can be better listeners, and why the impact can negatively affect women and men. They reference an article from the New York Times titled Talking to Boys the Way We Talk to Girls by Andrew Reiner and discuss how we can make changes in our own home that will impact the world. They answer a listener question about a challenging four-year-old, talk about their vacation and the Backstreet Boys, and share some movie clips.
Simple Ways to Have a More Joyful Home- Podcast #382
Jun 20, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss Mary Oliver’s poem Wild Geese, specifically this line – you only have to let the soft animal of your body love what it loves. They discuss that the things we love may not be cool or trendy, but sometimes embracing this uncoolness is the first step toward creating a more joyful home. They discuss Hamilton, the Backstreet Boys, and the most important scene from Revenge of the Nerds.
Money & Happiness- Podcast #381
Jun 13, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss how money contributes to happiness and how our relationship with money affects our feelings of success. They reference an episode of The Good Life Project called The Truth About Money and Happiness and discuss documentaries such as Happy, Born Rich, and the 1%. They also discuss how to talk with our girls about body image and why it’s important to find a new and true definition of beauty.
Lessons From My Dad- Podcast #380
Jun 06, 2017
Cathy’s dad recently passed away so Cathy and Todd share how he lived and what he taught them. Most importantly why culture literacy leads to a bigger heart and mind, why willingness is the key to a deep and meaningful life, and why we are all simply “walking each other home”.
Who’s Busier? Podcast #379
May 30, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss how to approach who’s busier in a partnership, and how to talk to a friend who thinks she’s busier than you. They discuss why “turning toward” is the key to a long-lasting marriage, and share some tips from author and relationship expert Esther Perel.
Listen To This One With Your Partner- Podcast #378
May 23, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss why “figuring out” our partner will cause frustration, but why staying present with every new experience will create intimacy. They use a post from fellow coach Jayson Gaddis They discuss why it’s important to ride the waves with your partner rather than trying to control their emotional expression, and why unpredictability can be just as connecting as predictability. They share a recent miscommunication, explain why labeling family members is detrimental, and practice saying toy boat really fast without messing up.
Free Your Mind- Podcast #377
May 16, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss why freeing ourselves from needing to be right can shift the dynamics of a conversation, and ultimately, a relationship. They share a clip of Glenn Beck from the On Being Podcast where he explains why using fear divides, and why it’s time to come together and listen. They also share an interview from Tim Ferriss’ podcast about why treating all people with dignity is essential, and why we want all people to be just like us. This episode will free your mind (and as En Vogue says), and the rest will follow…
Portraying Girls Beyond Stereotypes- A Discussion With Jodi Bondi Norgaard- Podcast #376
May 12, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk with Jodi Bondi Norgaard, founder of Dream Big Toy Company and the creator of the award-winning Go! Go! Sports Girls line of dolls and books for girls encouraging healthy and active play over fashion and body image. Jodi is a keynote speaker, entrepreneur, activist, consultant, and founding member of The Brave Girl Alliance, a think tank of girl empowerment experts.
Decrease Anxiety By Creating A Button Podcast #375
May 09, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss why teens and adults need buttons (or release valves) to manage their anxiety. They may rarely (if ever) use supports that are offered, but just knowing they are there decreases feelings of anxiousness. They talk about what it means to be “busy” and why busyness requires a sense of self-awareness and personal responsibility. They share a story about Canadians helping out with the National Anthem, play some of Kristin Wiig’s best SNL characters, and explain why allowing someone else to explain something can feel freeing and empowering.
Be Wise, Live The Paradox- Podcast #373 (Rebroadcast)
May 08, 2017
Todd and Cathy talk about how we can “comfortably hold our paradoxes”, and use examples from Danielle LaPorte to explain why this acceptance leads to wisdom. They discuss how to share information about your kids without feeling like you’re listing a resume, why allowing kids to share their viewpoint results in less and anger and more connection, and why 13 Reasons Why has become the most talked about show for teens.
Veganism And The Environment- A Discussion With Charlie Rogers Podcast #374
May 05, 2017
Todd and Cathy talk with Charlie Rogers, 17, about what it means to be a vegan and a steward of the environment. They talk climate change, carbon footprints, minimalism, education, and why it’s important to make choices that align with our souls - in our teens, and as parents.
Loving Bravely: A discussion with Dr. Alexandra Solomon- Podcast #372
Apr 28, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, author of Loving Bravely: 20 Lessons of Self-Discovery to Help You Get the Love You Want. They discuss why the past shows up in love relationships, the challenges of hookup culture, and how to listen with the “third ear”. They also discuss why self-awareness is essential, and why offering compassion to yourself and your partner are keys to connection. If you are in a marriage or partnership, or if you are interested in having a healthy partnership, this is a must-listen episode.
Show Up, Speak Up- Podcast #371
Apr 25, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s important to speak up in a relationship instead of “kick the can down the road”. They discuss why intimacy is created when a couple is willing to communicate about what matters, and how both sexes have been conditioned to not share their true feelings. They talk about internalized misogyny, why our beliefs and actions are not always congruent, and share a clip from Gone Girl about the myth of the “cool girl”. Todd shares some “quick takes”, they play a movie game, and they sing songs by Pat Benatar and Run DMC.
Peace Comes From Within- Podcast #370
Apr 18, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss internal vs external peace, and why internal peace is the key to contentment. They talk about “good enough parenting” and share why Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, believes that being good enough, is good enough. They offer an opportunity to join their monthly Zen Talks, explain their 10,000 campaign goal, and talk more about being a force for good and focusing on what matters.
Ride The Waves Podcast #369
Apr 11, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” and explain why Teen Vogue and Rookie Magazine offer smart and timely journalism for teens. They discuss why regret is “unskillful”, share perspective from This American Life and 10% Happier with Dan Harris, and play movie quotes that start with B.
Acceptance, Zen, & Regret- Podcast #368
Apr 04, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of zen, why acceptance keeps us from suffering, and how to let go when things don’t seem to be going our way. They explain what it means to be “sex positive” and explain why Teen Vogue and Rookie Magazine offer smart and timely journalism for teens. They discuss why regret is “unskillful”, share perspective from This American Life and 10% Happier with Dan Harris, and play movie quotes that start with B.
Be Your Own Guru- Podcast #367
Mar 28, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss the importance of balancing studentship and maintaining your own perspective. Teachers are necessary and helpful in guiding us through life, but it’s also important to ground ourselves in our own identity. They also discuss why it’s vital to focus on women’s equality and awareness around women’s rights (or lack of rights). Gender equality for men is just as vital, but they emphasize bringing attention to the disparity. They answer a listener question about managing the tantrum of his son, they discuss Pear Jam’s Elderly woman behind the counter in a small town, and Todd shares some of his favorite movie quotes.
Buck up Or Console? Finding The Middle Ground- Podcast #366
Mar 21, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between telling your kid to buck up and offering them consolation, and why it’s not one or the other, it’s both. They also explain why it’s importance to answer your kids questions and not assume that they already know what to do. They talk about the new State Farm commercial titled Following and Julia, the new character on Sesame Street. They discuss Beauty and the Beast, Pretty in Pink, chess, and why Todd wants to play catch his daughters.
How To Have A Conversation When We Disagree- Podcast #365
Mar 14, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss Megan Phelps Roper’s TED talk titled, "I grew up in the Westboro Baptist Church, here’s why I left”. She explains how rational and considerate conversation allowed her to see things differently, and offers four healthy ways to communicate when we disagree or feel polarized. They also discuss Rob Bell’s most recent podcast about “the lie of redemptive violence”, and why emotional leadership begins by listening instead of demanding. They share the wisdom of Stephen Covey, why being calm creates change, and why George Costanza ordered chicken salad instead of tuna.
10,000 Joys, 10,000 Sorrows- Podcast #364
Mar 07, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss the definition of 10,000 Joys and 10,000 Sorrows, and explain why acceptance of both leads to a more balanced and calm life. They discuss Mark Nepo’s interpretation of what it means to “unlearn what we have unlearned”, and why life is a constant tension between acquiring new information and letting go of what we don’t need. They also talk about Stranger Things, why rabbits and trees are Zen, and why pictures can be just as important as words.
We Are Here- Podcast #363
Feb 28, 2017
Cathy and Todd share the highlights from their conference, including the messages of their speakers, Rob Bell, Rosalind Wiseman, and Ali Smith. They process their Friday night talk, specifically focusing on we are here, bring the light, love louder, if not you, then who?, just do right, generate peace, create meaning, and let’s take care of each other. They also share an important message from Maya Angelou at the very end of the show.
Live Without Regrets Podcast #362
Feb 21, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss the top ten things that adults usually regret – why they regret them, and how to view these things differently. They answer two listener questions – one about lying to the school about vacations, and the other about how to support an emotional partner. They share Phish music, My Blue Heaven quotes, and discuss this weekend’s conference. Click here to get your ticket, it’s your last chance!
Walk In Someone Else’s Shoes- Podcast #361
Feb 14, 2017
Todd and Cathy discuss Valentine’s Day and how we can find ways to love ourselves and others every day. They also discuss the importance of understanding another’s perspective, and how we can incorporate empathy into our everyday parenting. They talk about Adele and Beyonce, Anchorman and A League of their Own, and share the wisdom of Atticus Finch.
Tell The Truth 5 Different Ways- Podcast #360
Feb 07, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss five truths, as explained by Neale Donald Walsh in his book Conversations with God, Vol 2. They also discuss the variability of feelings, how to determine what you are feeling, and why shame can get in the way of our true emotions. They process the difference between wounds and wholeness and why responding is better than reacting.
How To Deal- Podcast #359
Jan 31, 2017
Cathy and Todd share tens ways we can deal with the challenges our world is facing. Specifically focusing on how we can support ourselves and the ones we love, and how we can help and give back to others. They talk about daily action, a documentary that will inspire you, and why taking care of nature will create more peace. The Zen Parenting Conference is only a few weeks away!
I Can’t Keep Quiet- Podcast #358
Jan 24, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk about the Chicago Women’s March – why it happened, who was there, and what comes next. They also discuss self-awareness and the “4 ways of being in the world” as described by the Conscious Leadership Group. They talk REM, unification, and share an anthem by MILCK called “I can’t keep quiet.”
The Five Essential Questions in Life- Podcast #357
Jan 17, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss The Five Essential Questions in Life, proposed by Dean James Ryan during a Harvard Graduate School of Education commencement speech. They also discuss the power of words and how word choice can empower or drain us. They talk about Dennis Miller, Hidden Figures, and answer a listener question about how marital separation effects kids.
Mindfulness & Connection- A Talk With Annmarie Chereso: Podcast #356
Jan 13, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk with Annmarie Chereso, founder of Bring It! Home, an organization that offers programs to increase wellbeing and conscious leadership in the home and school. They talk mindfulness, parenting, partnership, and share why self-awareness and connection are the keys to deeper contentment. Bring It! Home is based in Chicago and is a Zen Parenting Conference sponsor.
Take Turns Being Cloudy & Clear Podcast #355
Jan 10, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss how experiences can “rearrange” us, causing us to open our heart wider, or close ourselves tighter. They process how relationships are a back and forth, and how in the words of Mark Nepo, we “take turns being cloudy and clear”. They share Deep Thoughts by Jack Handey, wise words about compassion from George Lucas, and why certainty is elusive.
Foster Care & Adoption: Children are Waiting- Podcast #354
Jan 06, 2017
Cathy and Todd talk with Susan McConnell from Let It Be Us about foster care in Illinois and throughout the country. They also talk with Kyle Osterhues and his mom Carolyne about his experience in foster care and their experience with adoption. This touching show sheds light on the importance and impact of foster care, and how so many great kids are waiting for their forever family.
Be curious, not judgmental- Podcast # 353- (fixed)
Jan 03, 2017
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of listening to others and being open to differing perspectives. They share quotes such as Polish your mind with the minds of others and Be an expert who is interested in everything, and discuss why it’s important to not make our individual story everybody else’s story. They talk about Todd’s “man cold”, discuss the Newtown Documentary they are screening on 1/18, and contemplate this quote from Mark Nepo - “just because you feel broken, doesn’t mean the world is broken.” They introduce their new partner Healthy Habits Healthy Moms
Feeling Good- Podcast #352
Dec 27, 2016
Todd and Cathy share wisdom from Wayne Dyer and Tony Robbins about feeling good and why it increases our ability to parent well. They also discuss Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls and why this book prompted an important discussion. They talk about George Michael, different types of fear, and why we need to know what we are FOR rather than against.
Find Meaning- Podcast #351
Dec 20, 2016
Cathy and Todd process why paradox allows us to become more self-aware and open-minded. They also discuss why it’s important to be an “emotional leader” and find meaning in our decisions. They share wisdom from Growing Pain’s Jason Seaver, a great line from Don Henley, and why Madonna and the elderly woman behind the counter in a small town are similar.
Kindness As Empowerment- Podcast #350
Dec 13, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss why kindness is empowering and why practicing kindness makes you healthier and much less stressed. They also discuss why self-awareness is essential in monitoring our own reactivity, and why being mindful is the first step toward choosing kindness. They share a clip from an interview with Life-Vest Inside’s Orly Wahba on The Good Life Project podcast. She explains how kindness offers us the tools to create change, and how we can transform inspiration into action.
Connecting In The Land Of Dementia Podcast- #349
Dec 09, 2016
Taking care of our parents: A discussion with Deborah Shouse, author of Connecting in the Land of Dementia
Todd and Cathy talk with Deborah Shouse and her brother Dan about what it means to be a “care partner” for parents or loved ones with dementia. They offer how we can bring greater understanding and hope to an undeniably challenging time. They share the power of being present, why appreciation and going with the flow are essential, and how creativity and music can offer a brand new perspective.
Truth & Reality- Podcast #348
Dec 06, 2016
Todd and Cathy discuss fake news and where to find trustworthy information (as explained on Planet Money). They also discuss lessons from former NBA player Chris Herren, and why this coach thinks society is hurting kids by giving them all trophies. They distinguish between Stephen Covey’s circle of concern and circle of influence, and explain why our willingness to do good creates more good.
Building a culture of consent and respect: A discussion with Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project Podcast #347
Dec 02, 2016
There are so many questions about relationships, sexual intimacy, consent, bystander intervention and supporting survivors, it can be feel overwhelming. Confusion is widespread in schools, college campuses, and the military, and as parents it can be difficult to approach these conversations with our own kids. Mike Domitrz from the Date Safe Project offers a refreshing perspective on sexuality, respect, consent, and why it’s all about communication and caring for each other as human beings.
Ten Hints for Using Here and Now – Podcast #346
Nov 29, 2016
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Cathy reads ten hints from her grandmother’s notebook, a “here and now” list (what we would call mindfulness) that her grandmother transcribed in the 70’s. Cathy and Todd discuss the message of It’s a Wonderful Life, why John Hughes spoke for kids and teens, and why hope is such a valuable thing.
Undue Anxiety with Dr. John Duffy- Podcast #345
Nov 25, 2016
Todd and Cathy welcome back Dr. John Duffy and his wife Julie to discuss why so many people are dealing with undue anxiety. They process why it’s difficult to discuss, where it’s coming from, and why we need to talk to our kids about it. They discuss Dr. Duffy’s new podcast called Undue Anxiety, Bruce Springsteen, and why communication and connection are the keys to feeling less alone.
Show Up And Accept What Is Podcast #344
Nov 22, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss why “some things in life cannot be fixed, they can only be carried”, a quote taken from Megan Devine, therapist and grief teacher. She shares that most of what passes for grief support is not very useful, and that humans have the capacity to handle feelings and the feelings of others with compassion and understanding. Not by blaming, judging, or compartmentalizing, but by practicing presence, honesty, and the ability to show up and accept what is. They share clips from The Good Life Project, a podcast hosted by Jonathan Fields.
Let’s talk about Mental Wellness – An interview with Alexa James, NAMI Chicago’s Executive Director Podcast #343
Nov 18, 2016
We talk with Alexa James, Executive Director of the National Alliance of Mental Illness (NAMI), Chicago. She explains the importance of sharing our stories to de-stigmatize mental health, and how language and perspective can shift our thinking. We discuss the myths and challenges around mental health for adults and children, and how we can shift our focus to care, recovery, and hope. NAMI Chicago’s mission is to provide hope and improve the quality of life for those whose lives are affected by mental illness, providing information and referrals, education, support, advocacy, and active community outreach.
Create Beautiful Things Podcast- #342 (Fixed)
Nov 15, 2016
Cathy and Todd explore how art, creativity, and imagination have the power to create change (highlighting Cathy’s blog about The Beatles bringing the country together). They also discuss the difference between pro and against and why focusing on what you DO want (rather than what you don’t) leads to a desired outcome. They offer steps to stay focused on what you desire, answer a listener question about an emotional toddler, and explain why Sammy’s Van Halen songs are more meaningful than Dave’s.
The Grass Grows Through- Podcast #341
Nov 10, 2016
Cathy and Todd process why the election felt shocking and how we can take care of ourselves. They discuss how nature always find a way, how we can organize in our homes and in our communities to create change, and how we can embrace our value and use our power for good. They talk about how we can be better listeners to those who think differently, how we can practice empathy and find commonality, and how we can allow this wake up call to keep us awake and engaged in our lives. They share grief, fear, hope, serenity, optimism, and some wise words from Andy Dufresne.
Live in the Grey- Podcast #340
Nov 08, 2016
Cathy and Todd talk about how living in the black and white keeps us from listening to each other, but if we live in the grey, we remain open, curious, and empathetic. They talk politics, parenting, Anne Lamott, Dave Matthews, poetry, and the most effective way to hold space for each other.
Cubs Win
Nov 03, 2016
Todd and Cathy talk CUBS, connection, emotions, and history. They also talk Bull Durham, City Slickers, and Field of Dreams. Enjoy the joy Chicago, we love you.
A Long Swim Part 2- An Interview With Doug & Susan McConnell Podcast #339
Nov 01, 2016
The following is the second half of a 2 part interview we did with our friends Doug and Susan McConnell. Doug is a marathon swimmer. If you haven’t heard it yet, I recommend you go back and listen to podcast #337. We left off with Doug and his team led by Susan who just swam the English Channel. Doug now turns to Hawaii's Ka'iwi Channel which has only been completed by 35 swimmers. The swim itself is 32+ miles and started on the west end of the almost deserted Island of Molokai. Things do not go as planned as Doug & Susan explains.
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A Long Swim Part 1- An Interview With Doug & Susan McConnell Podcast #337
Oct 28, 2016
There are 7 billion people walking the earth right now. There have been 5,000 people who have successfully summited Mount Everest. Just over 1600 human beings have swam the English channel- Today’s guests are Doug and Susan McConnell. Doug is only the 48th person over the age of 50 to successfully swim the English Channel. But he could not have done it without his team led by his wife Susan. In this two part interview- Doug shares with us how the idea came up as a gag over a few glasses of wine to a commitment that changed the direction of his life. He tells us about the obstacles namely sharks, hypothermia and how he navigated past each one of them and he sets the record straight of the old wives tale of whether or not it helps to pee on a jelly fish stings. To learn more about the MCconnell’s effort to raise awareness about ALS, please visit http://www.alongswim.com/
Be Kind To It, And Let It Be Kind To You Podcast #336
Oct 25, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the book On Living by Hospice Chaplain Kerry Egan, and focus in on the three things we can do with pain: accept it, be kind to it, and let it be kind to you. They also share three great takeaways from Dr. Shefali’s Evolve Conference, process why negotiating with our kids is not always the best answer, and share some wisdom from Austin Powers.
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Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
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If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
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Recognizing Our Unconscious Bias and Triggers- Podcast #335
Oct 18, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss unconscious bias and how our “brain shortcuts” can cause us to deviate from our true values. They also discuss why people get triggered and how we can differentiate between political correctness and considerate language. They share their experience of the Sia concert, how girls and boys are raised differently, and Cathy’s awesome experience at the Emerging Women Conference. They also answer a listener's question when their daughter seeks out a definition of beauty.
Curiosity, Decency, and Motivation Podcast #334
Oct 11, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss sexual assault, how it’s an act of power and control, and why so many women are using the #notokay hashtag. They share research from Daniel Pink, author of Drive, about how to better communicate with our kids and inspire them to become more intrinsically motivated. They also listen to wise words from the Holistic Life Foundation’s Ali Smith, one of the keynotes for the Zen Parenting Conference.
Misery Loves Company – Or Does It? Podcast #333
Oct 04, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss why misery loves company and how we can better support each other through failures and success. They also process why pain isn’t a competition, and how what we focus on creates our life story. They share a poignant quote about happiness from Patton Oswalt, answer a listener question about how to teach our children humility, and discuss why all songs about teachers are negative or sexualized. They also answer a listener's question who struggles with a very confident child.
Use Your Energies Wisely- Podcast #332
Sep 27, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss that we all have energy to share, but we have to be conscious of how we use it so it doesn’t get misdirected or used to harm. Todd shares his metaphorical paddle boarding experience, and Cathy explains why experiencing “illumination” reminds us to have faith during dark times. They share the poetry of Mark Nepo, Rob Bell’s recent podcast, surprising wisdom from Kanye, and the compassionate mission of Linked In CEO Jeff Weiner.
What If? Podcast #331
Sep 20, 2016
What if we questioned how we looked at things, said things, believed things? Cathy and Todd discuss Heidi Stevens article from the Chicago Tribune about how using “what if” in front of our kids statements can change our reaction, and another Tribune article about why there’s a difference between empathetic belief and empathetic action. They also discuss the Emmy Awards, including Sarah Paulson’s apology to Marsha Clark, and why it’s OK that Eddie Murphy doesn’t want to do stand up anymore. They answer a listener’s question about how to take care of one child’s emotional needs when the other kids are also having emotional breakdowns.
Raising Digital Natives: A discussion with Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise Podcast #330
Sep 16, 2016
Cathy and Todd talk with author Devorah Heitner, author of Screenwise about appreciating the benefits of technology in the home while monitoring overuse and inappropriate content. They also discuss why not all tech-time is created equal, what it means to be a tech-positive parent, and why parents hold the wisdom that children need when they use their devices.
Dealing With Pain Podcast #329
Sep 13, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance and transformational experience of pain using the wisdom of Louis CK, Glennon Doyle Melton, Brene Brown, and Pema Chodron. They process how and why we are hard-wired to deal with pain, why the bravery to feel it will heal us, and how we can better handle the pain we feel. They share pop culture references from Silence of the Lambs, Mr. Mom, and Cheers.
What Is Men’s Work? Podcast #328
Sep 09, 2016
We interview Erik Treese and Bryan Thomas from The Mankind Project. The Mankind Project is a global brotherhood that conducts challenging and highly rewarding programs for men at every stage of life. We dive deep into what men's work is, shadows, emotional intelligence, and the danger of phrases like "man up" and "boys don't cry." We also discuss how relationships can be affected as a result of men working on themselves.
Grow (in the familiarity of your interiors) Podcast #327
Sep 06, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss what “the familiarity of your interiors” means, and why it’s vital for personal growth and healthy relationships. They talk about the Little League World Series, specifically the 1982 Kirkland champs, and why adult pressure can lead to sports not being fun. They also discuss why popular fiction books have so many unhinged characters, how empathy can be taught, and the definition of “universal principles”.
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Other Resources
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
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Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
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Rituals And Change Podcast #326
Aug 30, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss why change is a type of loss and how rituals can acknowledge meaning, slow down time, and connect us. They offer many examples of rituals, explain why ritual is different than superstition, and discuss why Rob Bell says the space between certainty and uncertainty is where the magic happens. Get your early bird tickets for the 2017 Zen Parenting Conference (with Rob Bell, Rosalind Wiseman, and Ali Smith), and get your tickets to Screenagers on 9/26!
Three People You Need To Know- Podcast #325
Aug 23, 2016
Todd and Cathy announce and discuss the speakers for their 2017 Zen Parenting Let’s Get Real Conference. New York Times Best-Selling Author and Oprah favorite Rob Bell, parenting educator and author of Queen Bees and Wannabes (the basis of the 2004 film Mean Girls) Rosalind Wiseman, and Executive Director of the Holistic Life Foundation, a safe space for learning mindfulness in the inner city of Baltimore, Ali Smith. The conference is Feb 24+25, 2017 at the Westin in Lombard (15 minutes outside of Chicago, 15 minutes from O’Hare). Early bird tickets are for sale until Sept 30th.
A Very Brady Podcast #324
Aug 16, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss how The Brady Bunch is a great learning tool and why it’s still relevant today. They answer a listener’s question about how to help her son with friendships, and why caring and loving too much can actually be a problem. They finish by discussing Tony’s Robbins appearance on Super Soul Sunday and why things can be easy to teach, but hard to apply.
Give Up Control- Podcast #323
Aug 09, 2016
Todd and Cathy discuss how when we give up control, we recognize that we never had control in the first place. They process what it means to have humility, be patient with the “not knowing”, and be appreciative for the right now. They discuss why the oldest child is expected to be most responsible, Todd’s most recent experience with letting go, and Dr. Shefali’s most recent appearance on Super Soul Sunday.
Words & Images Matter- Podcast #322
Aug 02, 2016
Todd and Cathy discuss the book Words Can Change Your Brain and process why “compassionate communication” supports healthy relationships and the brain development of our children. They also discuss the impact of an all-female Ghostbusters cast and how a female presidential nominee shapes the way boys and girls see each other.
Cathy and Todd discuss how we can shift the dynamics of any situation by “flipping the script” (as explained in this Invisibilia podcast). They also discuss why we have to keep peace inside so we can keep peace outside, why we have to question the negativity that we hear, and why the journey from the head to the heart is always the longest and most important. They end the show with a poem by Mattie J.T. Stepanek.
It Was The Best Of Times… Podcast #320
Jul 19, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss how to process the continuous bad news and stay in a place of compassion. They talk about the importance of mercy and grace, and how we can all contribute to a ripple effect of goodness. They discuss Tony Robbins new documentary, Mark Nepo’s wisdom, and share some advice from Martha Beck.
Privilege and Compassion- Podcast #319
Jul 12, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss privilege and why self-awareness is essential when we are talking about societal racism. They also discuss why recognizing injustice is not synonymous with taking sides, how we can talk to our children about injustice, and why the best leadership is calm. They share clips from The Daily Show, President Obama, and Michael Franti’s “Same As It Ever Was” song. They end by discussing why the phrase “happy wife, happy life” may need to be reevaluated.
Cathy and Todd discuss why we “force” our children to try new things, and why this is usually about our fear rather than theirs.
Coming out at 60 – One woman’s journey #317
Jul 01, 2016
Todd and Cathy talk with Georgia DeClark, preschool teacher and parent coach who’s life took a dramatic turn when she decided to come out at 60.
Be Content In This Moment- Podcast #316
Jun 28, 2016
…so you can be content when you achieve your goals. Cathy and Todd talk about why striving and goal-setting can keep us from contentment, and why money doesn’t equal happiness. They discuss why actor Tony Hale didn’t feel any happier after getting a major role on Arrested Development (hint: he realized he wasn’t living in the moment), and how Lady Gaga found peace and reconnected to her authentic self.
Jill Salzman from Founding Moms: Support for Female Entrepreneurs- Podcast #315
Jun 24, 2016
Todd and Cathy talk with entrepreneur Jill Salzman about Founding Moms, a collective of offline meetups and online resources (based all over the world) where mom entrepreneurs can exchange, connect and learn from one another. Jill shares her authentic take on work and mothering and how women are changing the workplace and supporting each other. Check out Foundingmoms.com and listen to Jill’s podcast, Breaking Down Your Business for more.
We Can Work It Out- Podcast #314
Jun 21, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss Orlando, gun legislation, and how we can better communicate about our differences. Todd shares why not hearing “Happy Father’s Day” led to a two-hour conversation about the energy we bring to a room and what we really want for our kids. They also discuss why we must continuously wake up while parenting, why parenting is a one-way-giving situation, and how our homes can become places of unconditional support and acceptance. They discuss this blog by Roseanne Cash and they announce the screening of Screenagers at York Theater on Sept 26, 2016.
Healthy Masculinity, Healthy Femininity Podcast #313
Jun 14, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the Stanford rape case, the presidential campaign, and why embracing healthy masculinity and femininity is the key to meaningful change. They also discuss how anger can be paralyzing, why we should be supporting each other rather than fighting each other, and why we need to use our individual voices to create more love and compassion. They reference Tara Mohr’s Playing Big, Marianne Williamson’s A Woman’s Worth, The Hunting Ground, The Mask You Live In, Miss Representation, and The Sunflower by Simon Wiesenthal.
Talking To Kids About Fear Podcast #312
Jun 07, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss talking to kids about fear - how to notice it, normalize, and get creative with it. They process why parents need to acknowledge their own fear so they can authentically talk with their kids about being afraid. They share why fear is not always bad and why it gets us closer to the truth. They answer listener questions about religion and music in family culture, and how a pregnant busy mom can find some quiet. They also reference Pema Chodron and Byron Katie.
Sleep, Sex, & Work- Podcast #311
May 31, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss some listener questions about toddler sleep issues, a 6-year-old who wants to know more about sex, and why work jargon can be so annoying.
Other Resources
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
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National Runaway Safeline- Help For A Silent Crisis- Podcast #310
May 27, 2016
Todd and Cathy talk with Maureen Blaha, Executive Director of the National Runaway Safeline, a support and intervention system for youth and parents. Maureen shares why teens runaway and how families can be more open to the emotional needs of kids. The safeline is based in Chicago but helps kids and families nationwide. http://www.1800runaway.org/
Why We Do What We Do- Podcast #309
May 24, 2016
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Cathy and Todd discuss the need for validation, why it’s important to become aware of our needs, and sometimes put them aside, to connect with our kids, and how we can better support each other as we become more self-aware and conscious. Zen Parenting is part of the Education: Next Generation virtual conference – click here to register and read more about it. The Zen Parenting Conference will be held on Feb 24+25, 2017 – more information coming this summer!
The 7-Year-Old In You – Podcast #308
May 17, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss their difficult conversation and how they went “in and out of child” – is your present-time self talking or is it your 7-year-old? Your inner 7-year-old has a right to be there, and he/she may have some valid points, but the adult needs to manage the conversation so it doesn’t go off the rails. They also discuss why learning and healing through relationship can be more powerful than individual work. While both are important, the goal is to take self-awareness and apply it to all relationships. You may be calm and loving when you are alone, but can you bring these practices into a difficult conversation?
Choose Your Own Story- Podcast #307
May 10, 2016
Have you seen the movie or stage production of Once? The movie starred musician Glen Hansard, and his interview on Sam Jone’s Off Camera podcast led to a deep discussion about education, parenting, friendship and why it’s so important to create our own life story. Cathy and Todd also discuss mom guilt and how to become more clear about how your true feelings.
Life’s Too Short To Feel Like Crap Podcast #306
May 03, 2016
Cathy and Todd talk about suffering and why we either transform it, or we transmit it (quote taken from Richard Rohr). They also discuss why it’s important to celebrate young women, why talking about sexuality is so important, why tampons and pads have a “luxury” tax, and what it means to be in the “8:30 club”. The first three people to purchase Cathy’s award–winning book, Living What You Want Your Kids to Learn through the Zen Parenting website will also receive a free copy of The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary.
Other Resources
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co. Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Your Questions Answered Podcast # 305
Apr 29, 2016
We've been inundated with listener questions so we decided to dedicate an entire show to answering them. Below are the topics as well as the time stamps for each question:
3:15 Chakras and toddlerhood
14:42 Step-parents and an 8 year old with a huge personality
23:52 Preschool drop-off
30:22 Spanking
36:28 2 year old son with tantrums
43:25 Top 10 books
We also mentioned a podcast that would be helpful for step parents which can be found @ http://www.wbur.org/2016/03/25/dear-sugar-episode-forty-eight
Spring Clean Your Mind Podcast #304
Apr 26, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss an article from the Chicago Tribune about getting rid of emotional and mental clutter. They process the devastation around Prince’s death, but Todd thinks he has alexithemia because he’s not as sad as everyone else. They also talk travel sports, small breakdowns, and Caddyshack.
Do you have an intuitive or sensitive child? An interview with Dr. Therese Rowley (Part Two) #303
Apr 22, 2016
In the second part of our interview with Dr. Therese Rowley, Therese says Cathy has "clairsentience", she challenges me to remove love some of the walls i have built up, and gives parents of hyper-active children some holistic things you can do to help them. You can learn more about Therese by going to http://thereserowley.com/
15 Seconds To Joy Podcast #302
Apr 19, 2016
Cathy and Todd explain how negative experiences stick immediately, but it takes 15 seconds of savoring a positive experience for it to imprint on the brain. They also discuss why judging or fighting someone doesn’t create change. Instead, we can recognize negative behavior and then role model a more rational and kind way to interact. A listener asks a question about work/life balance and they provide insight and resources.
Do you have an intuitive or sensitive child? An interview with Dr. Therese Rowley (Part 1) #301
Apr 15, 2016
Does your child seem intuitive, gifted, or sensitive? Cathy and Todd talk with Dr. Therese Rowley, author, consultant, skilled intuitive and innovative educator who challenges us to see sensitive children through a new lens. This is part one of a two-part interview (part two will be posted next Friday).
Emotional Hygiene Podcast #300
Apr 12, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of “emotional hygiene” (as explained by the Dalai Lama) and why boundaries lead to more compassion (as explained by Brenè Brown). They also discuss how we can subtlety (and often unconsciously) shame our kids, and how to become more aware of why and how we say things.
Forget Punishment, How About Kindness? Podcast #299
Apr 05, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the 60 Minutes report about the prison system in Germany and how they put rehabilitation above retribution. They also discuss the article in The Atlantic about punish-free parenting, Rocky Balboa’s great advice, and Tim McGraw’s Humble and Kind performance.
Kindness & EQ- Podcast #298
Mar 28, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss how emotional intelligence and “cognitive control” lead to our ability to be kind. They also discuss the relationship between EQ, grit, and resilience, and why paying attention is the essential factor. Cathy and Todd will be focusing on kindness the entire month of April, starting with a talk on Tuesday, April 6th at Fitz’s Spare Keys at 7 pm titled Teaching Kids to Be Kind. Click here to register.
The Key To Self Understanding Podcast #297
Mar 22, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss self regulation and self organization and why it’s essential for self understanding and relationship building. They discuss the definition of the mind, how the brain processes emotion, and why the brain can always learn new things (neuroplasticity). They also discuss the hilarity and absurdity of the Walk of Life Project.
Teaching Your Kids About Money Podcast#296 An Interview With Bill Dwight From Famzoo.com
Mar 18, 2016
We interview Bill Dwight, the Founder of Famzoo.com. Famzoo is an online family banking designed for kids, teens, and parents. With this amazing resource, it makes it easier for families earn, save, budget , and spend. We've been utilizing Famzoo for several months and have loved it. Listen in to help teach your children the power of money.
To learn more about Famzoo- click on the Famzoo link on the lower right hand side of zenpopparenting.com Make sure to enter "zenfinance" to get an extra month free. You won't regret it.
Other Resources
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
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Be Curious About Your Fear- Podcast #295
Mar 15, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss their experience at the Zen Parenting Conference, they process why it’s important to be curious about your fear, and they answer a listener’s question about feeling continuously triggered by negative people.
Diplomatic Parenting Podcast #294
Mar 08, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the definition of diplomacy and why it’s important in parenting as well as in government (micro and macro level). They also discuss the true and false self (as explained by D.W. Winnicott) and why the true self is the key to our integrity, compassion, and connection to others.
Part 2- Divisive Issues: How Do We Talk, How Do We Listen? Podcast #293
Mar 04, 2016
This is Part 2 of this discussion, Part 1 aired on March 1st and can be found @ https://zenpopparenting.com/292
Cathy and Todd discuss the many issues raised at the Academy Awards (race, sexual assault, sexual abuse, the environment), why they are necessary to discuss, and what each of us can do to be more empathetic, open, and aware. This is Part 1 of a two-part discussion. Other links mentioned in this podcast:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=epKmOtDZj5Q
Other Resources
Zen Gets Real 2016 Conference tickets are now on sale.
Zen Gets Real Attendee And Sponsorship Information
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Part 1- Divisive Issues: How Do We Talk, How Do We Listen? Podcast #292
Mar 01, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the many issues raised at the Academy Awards (race, sexual assault, sexual abuse, the environment), why they are necessary to discuss, and what each of us can do to be more empathetic, open, and aware. This is Part 1 of a two-part discussion (Part 2 will air on Friday).
Grow Or Die Podcast 291
Feb 26, 2016
Todd and Cathy discuss the literal and spiritual definition of grow or die, and share why this universal wisdom keeps us in alignment with ourselves and others. They also discuss the brain of an introvert and how it differs from an extrovert (click here to see the illustrations).
Staying Connected And A Changing School System Podcast #290
Feb 23, 2016
Staying connected and a changing school system
Cathy and Todd discuss why our relationship with our children needs to change and evolve as they age, and why it’s important to be creative in maintaining a connection. They also discuss major changes in the college admission process and how this will effect our children’s high school experience.
A Discussion With Dr. Shefali Tsabary (Replay) Podcast #289
Feb 19, 2016
This podcast is a replay of an interview we did with Dr. Shefali Tsabary who is our keynote speaker @ the Zen Gets Real Conference on March 11th and 12th. We hope to see you there!!!!
We interview Dr. Shefali Tsabary the author of the The Conscious Parent (with a forward written by the Dalai Lama) and her new book Out of Control which questions why and how we discipline children. Some of the issues we discuss with Dr. Shefali: – What are the first steps we can take to become a more conscious parent? – What prevents us from being the parent that we want to be? – Why most discipline strategies don’t work. How parenting our children can help us heal our past wounds. – How to release guilt when we recognize our parenting challenges are less about our children issues and more about our issues. – Can our children be an instrument for our own personal growth? – How do we release the power of natural consequences? - See more at: https://zenpopparenting.com/shefali/#sthash.ZA8QwqMD.dpuf
Other Resources
Zen Gets Real 2016 Conference tickets are now on sale.
Zen Gets Real Attendee And Sponsorship Information
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
A Discussion With Dr. Shefali Tsabary (Replay) Podcast #289
Feb 19, 2016
This podcast is a replay of an interview we did with Dr. Shefali Tsabary who is our keynote speaker @ the Zen Gets Real Conference on March 11th and 12th. We hope to see you there!!!!
We interview Dr. Shefali Tsabary the author of the The Conscious Parent (with a forward written by the Dalai Lama) and her new book Out of Control which questions why and how we discipline children. Some of the issues we discuss with Dr. Shefali: – What are the first steps we can take to become a more conscious parent? – What prevents us from being the parent that we want to be? – Why most discipline strategies don’t work. How parenting our children can help us heal our past wounds. – How to release guilt when we recognize our parenting challenges are less about our children issues and more about our issues. – Can our children be an instrument for our own personal growth? – How do we release the power of natural consequences?
Who do we trust? Podcast #288
Feb 16, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss why wellness is more important than dollars, and why journalists who present both sides of a story keep us open and connected. They also discuss the friendship between Scalia and Ginsburg, why compassion in essential in all situations, and the tools we need to manage our anger.
Can Youth Sports Be Fun AND Competitive? John O’Sullivan Says Yes Podcast #287 (Replay)
Feb 12, 2016
We speak with the Founder of Changing The Game Project John O'Sullivan. Their mission is to ensure that we return youth sports to our children, and put the ‘play’ back in ‘play ball.’ For every Tiger Woods and Andre Aggassi, there are thousands of others who are in it for the fun (until the adults take the fun out of it.)
What Level Is Your Relationship? Podcast #286
Feb 09, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss relationship “levels” (as explained by Tony Robbins) and how we can communicate and become better partners. They discuss how these levels can apply to our children and other relationships, and how we can be supportive and connected rather than enabling.
Other Resources
Zen Gets Real 2016 Conference tickets are now on sale.
Zen Gets Real Attendee And Sponsorship Information
Cathy’s 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn won the National Indie Excellence Award!Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy’s books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
The Tribe Men's group
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund future Zen Parenting programming.
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family’s dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don’t forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don’t forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Never Give Up- One Family’s Journey- Podcast #285
Feb 05, 2016
This is a follow-up interview from a podcast we did in October of 2014 titled Setting Boundaries With Love (Interview begins @ the 21:00 minute mark) At the time, Rick's wife Trish was battling with a rare form of Hydrocephalus and in need of exposure to raise funds for the medical expenses that came with this journey. We were happy to oblige.
Fast forward to February of 2016 and we pick up where we left off in October of 2014- only this time Trish was able to join us for the interview. It's a heartfelt interview of the miracles of medicine as well as faith.
Is Your Best Good Enough? Podcast #284
Feb 02, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss “doing your best” and why the definition of “best” is defined by the individual. They also discuss The Four Agreements, The Karate Kid, Best in Show, Inside Out, Canada’s Prime Minister, and why Flint Michigan is so heartbreaking.
From Dream To Reality- Fiction Writer Charlie Donlea- Podcast # 283
Jan 29, 2016
1st time author Charlie Donlea shares his experience of bringing his dream of being a pubished author of his own suspense thriller into reality. His journey began all the way back in 2001 when he started his first manuscript. Perservering through many failures, obstacles, and challenges, Charlie never gave up on his dream. In this provactive interview, we explore inside the mind of Charlie to find out why he kept going even though all signs told him to quit.
Do Our Words Connect or Disconnect? Podcast#282
Jan 26, 2016
Todd and Cathy discuss how using certain words can turn people off, and using other, more inclusive words can build connectedness. They also discuss the most important thing Tim Robbin’s learned from his parents, the mysteriousness of the universe, and answer a few listener questions.
Recognizing Spiritual Ego – Podcast #280
Jan 19, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss "spiritual ego" and why many teachers develop a sense of “specialness” around their knowledge or awareness. This can lead to a desire for power rather than an ability to live the message. They also discuss a listener question about how to talk to teens about drugs.
Tara Mohr – Callings and Communication- Podcast #279
Jan 15, 2016
Cathy and Todd welcome back Tara Mohr, author of Playing Big and expert on women’s leadership and well-being. Tara explains what a “calling” really means, and she shares how women can communicate more effectively in the workplace and at home. Tara’s book is now in paperback - you can read more about her at taramohr.com.
Learn It, Then Live It- Podcast # 278
Jan 12, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss autonomous growth and relational growth and process why they are both essential. They also discuss the impact and passing of David Bowie, answer a listener question, and explain how to meet your goals through “temptation bundling”.
Understanding Opiate And Heroin Addiction Podcast #277
Jan 08, 2016
Cathy and Todd talk with Kenji Oyasu, Executive Medical Director of the Brightside, a clinic dedicated to the treatment of prescription drugs and heroin addiction. He offers new insight to why this addiction is so deadly, why it can be a challenge to treat, and the new model of recovery that is offering hope and changing lives.
5 Ways To Be Impressed This Year- Podcast # 276
Jan 05, 2016
Cathy and Todd discuss the things that can impress us this year versus the things that typically impress us (money, labels, “likes”). They also share how they handled their daughter’s desire to watch a scary movie, and they answer a listener’s question about what to do when a teenager is making poor choices.
Less Busy, More Connected Podcast #275
Dec 29, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss how we can stay connected and curious about our kids lives. They also share a new perspective on being busy, and why contemplation is more important that “doing”.
They reference the following books, blogs and quotes:
Anna Quindlen’s book Loud and Clear.
A blog titled Busy Is A Sickness by Scott Dannemiller
The Victor Hugo quote – “To contemplate is to toil, to think is to do”.
Randy Pauch’s book The Last Lecture
4 Gifts You Can Give Yourself Podcast #274
Dec 22, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss four gifts you can give yourself for the holidays and throughout 2016, and the mindfulness wisdom of Bill Murray and Billy Corgan.
How To Change The World Podcast #273
Dec 15, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the difference between the circle of influence and the circle of concern, and which one can actually change the world. They also discuss why worry isn’t necessary, how to make your newsfeeds more enjoyable, and how we can turn despair into hope.
Physical And Emotional Safety Podcast #272
Dec 11, 2015
Todd and Cathy talk to Jay Smith, creator of the MacGill First Aid Kit. While planning for an upcoming vacation, Jay has trouble finding a kit with all of the essential emergency supplies – so he MADE one. It’s an ideal holiday gift, and you can use coupon code zencode for a discount (Cathy and Todd have already bought three!). Jay also asks a question about his daughter’s recent jealously of her stepmom, and Cathy and Todd offer some support.
If you're interested in ordering a family first aid kit, don't forget to enter the coupon code ($5.00 off and free shipping), by entering "ZENCODE" upon checkout.
The Importance Of Character Podcast #271
Dec 08, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of character and reference David Brooks’ new book The Road to Character. They also discuss suffering, getting your “loves” in order, and why their house felt like a scene from European Vacation this weekend.
Smile At Your Intensity
Dec 01, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss the pressure children feel around homework and how we can support them rather than increase their anxiety. They process the meaning of inner disarmerment and why this individual practice will lead to a change in our immediate surroundings and world (outer disarmerment). They also discuss Mr. Mom, the Rocky movies, and Todds new coaching education.
When you want to contract, expand – Podcast #269
Nov 24, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s important to stay expand when we are in fear or crisis rather than contract and shut down. We have the capacity to function and make heart-centered choices even when we are afraid. They also discuss Mockingjay Part 2, Planes, Trains, and Automobiles, and a great question from a listener regarding the many different paths to “success”.
Talking To Our Kids About Paris- Podcast #268
Nov 17, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss talking to kids about tragic events such as the recent terrorist attack. They also discuss 10 things every middle schooler should know, and answer a few listener questions about sensitivity and technology. Click here to read Cathy’s blog about what to do after Paris.
Understanding Your Child’s Identity Podcast #267
Nov 10, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why children like to have something of their own to feel “special", and why it helps to normalize these feelings rather than shame them into thinking differently. They also discuss why normalizing feelings is reliant on the parent’s self understanding, and why it’s important to frame the world, experiences, and opportunities as abundant rather than limited.
“All Teenagers Are Amazing” Part 2- Dr. John Duffy Podcast #266
Nov 06, 2015
In the 2nd half of this interview with Dr. Duffy, we talk about issues specific to teen-agers and our the topics covered includes empowering our sons, Brene Brown, and how to "manage" the boys who come to take out your teenage daughter. HINT- It does not include a shotgun over the fireplace and other difficulties of being a teenager in this day and age.
How To Handle Criticism -Podcast #265
Nov 03, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss criticism, why it hurts so much and why it’s an inevitable part of life. They discuss why it’s important to speak up, even in the face of criticism, and how to offer constructive criticism rather than blame and guilt. They share personal stories about how they talk to each other about their pain, and why most of the pain stems from childhood. They discuss the wisdom of Elizabeth Gilbert and cartoonist Lynda Barry and how they deal with criticism in their creative lives.
“All Teenagers Are Amazing” – Dr. John Duffy Podcast #264
Oct 30, 2015
That is a quote from Dr. Duffy who visits us again in this two-part interview. We talk about issues specific to teen-agers and our the topics covered includes suicide, drugs and alcohol, technology, depression, and the difficulties of being a teenager in this day and age.
How Do You Respond? Podcast #263
Oct 27, 2015
Cathy and Todd share some reactions to their kids behavior, why it’s important to recognize how you feel before your respond, and why understanding your response will keep you self-aware. They also discuss privilege, their upcoming interview with Dr. John Duffy, and why Todd thinks he’s being duped by strawberry companies.
How to Know If You’re Conscious Podcast #262
Oct 20, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to live above and below the line, a consciousness tool taught by Jim Dethmer from the Conscious Leadership Group. Above the line means you think from a place of abundance, creativity, and openness, while below the line means you think defensively and rigidly and with a constant need to be right. This understanding affects our understanding of the workplace, our parenting, and most importantly ourselves.
Crying releases stress hormones- Podcast #261
Oct 13, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of grieving, the value of “keening”, and a listener asks a question steming from Susan Stiffelman’s book, Parenting with Presence. Todd shares his favorite quote about personal responsibility, Cathy tells a serendipitous story about the conference she attended, and they somehow work in Six Feet Under and Terminator 2.
Are kids’ sports taking over your life? Podast #260
Oct 06, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why it can be challenging for families when kids are involved in youth team sports or travel leagues. They also discuss why valuing relationship above all else will make decision making so much easier, and why leaders who value relationship are the most successful.
How To Change Your Thinking Podcast #259
Sep 29, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the effectiveness of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and why it’s more powerful than just focusing on behavior. They also discuss Tara Mohr’s five new takeaways about mindfulness and lovingkindness, and why Elizabeth Gilbert thinks fear is “boring”.
Children Know That Grace Is Given, Not Earned- Podcast #258
Sep 22, 2015
Cathy and Todd share the words of a 6-year-old girl who wants her divorced parents to stop fighting. She offers wisdom beyond her years, and wakes us up to what children know and what we need to remember.
Her words are a form of grace, and being open to her words will deepen your awareness and remind you that grace often comes from the most uncommon places – other people, a sunset, an animal, or simply the willingness to notice what has always been there.
Change your words, change your life: Mindfulness vs Mindlessness
Sep 15, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the life-changing mindfulness research of Ellen Langer, author and professor from Harvard who has been researching mindfulness (and mindlessness) since the 70’s. She defines mindfulness as paying attention and being able to notice new things, while recognizing that experiences are based on the words and ideas that we attach to them. Ellen Langer was interviewed by Krista Tippet for the On Being Podcast.
They also talk about different ways of dealing with sibling rivalry. Todd unveils his new technique in dealing with children being unkind towards one another.
Brenè Brown, Rising Strong: The Reckoning
Sep 08, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss Brenè Brown’s new book Rising Strong and focus on the first step, The Reckoning. Reckoning is how we engage and become curious about our feelings, our willingness to practice emotional intelligence. If we do not engage our feelings, if we deny and disengage, then our emotions “don’t go away; instead, they own us, they define us…” (from Rising Strong).
Dr. Wayne Dyer: 10 Secrets To Success & Inner Peace
Sep 01, 2015
Cathy and Todd pay tribute to Wayne Dyer by sharing his Ten Secrets, and explain how Wayne influenced their lives and millions of others. They also discuss the Beastie Boys, Batdad, and why they dance before taping a podcast.
What does “Be Present” mean anyway?
Aug 25, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to be present, and how this knowledge can be turned into daily practice. They also discuss their differences when it comes to filling up a Saturday, why it’s important to dance with our fear, and why the Humans of New York Facebook page wakes us up to the world.
Do Boys Read Books About Girls?
Aug 18, 2015
Girls tend to read books with male protagonists (Harry Potter, Diary of a Wimpy Kid), but do boys read books with female protagonists? Todd and Cathy ask this question, as well as how men respond to female leads in movies and television (specifically their recent experience after seeing the movie Trainwreck, and why Amy Poehler once got mad at Jimmy Fallon in the SNL writer’s room). They also talk about Who’s the Boss, Family Ties, and why IBM and Netflix are changing their family policies.and they talk about Amy Schumer’s Football Town Nights sketch and why humor can open up important conversations.
The Truth About Sex Education
Aug 11, 2015
*May not be appropriate for children*
Cathy and Todd discuss John Oliver’s most recent rant on Last Week Tonight about sex education. He makes vital points about why abstinence-only education doesn’t work for all, why there's no required standards for sex education around the country, and why shame/guilt/fear do not change sexual behavior, they only negatively impact the way people feel about themselves. They also discuss why Elizabeth Smart believes abstinence-only sex ed can be harmful, and they talk about Amy Schumer’s Football Town Nights sketch and why humor can open up important conversations.
Dealing with “Victim Mentality”
Aug 04, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why some people grow from difficult times, and why some people stay stuck and feel victimized by their experiences. They discuss the power of personal responsibility and why taking care of yourself and moving through challenge is a natural and necessary part of human evolution.
I feel it, but is it true?
Jul 28, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss self-acceptance, and Todd offers a new understanding of his difficult emotions (with the help of Jeff Foster). They also discuss the vital distinction between fact and opinion, and process how life is full of paradox. They discuss Kathryn Schulz’s TED talk about the importance of being wrong, and why “to err is human”.
Walking Through Fire (Fixed)
Jul 21, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss their workshop with Tony Robbins, specifically their inspiring moments and new life lessons. Tony is an advisor to leaders around the world, a recognized authority on the psychology of leadership, negotiations, organizational turnaround, and peak performance, and he has been honored consistently for his strategic intellect and humanitarian endeavors.
Why Do I Talk This Way?
Jul 14, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss speech patterns, specifically discussing the new documentary Do I Sound Gay? by filmmaker David Thorpe. They also discuss the phenomenon of “upspeak” and how those who use it may not be taken seriously, and why the Kardashian voice or “vocal fry” is not only challenging on the ears, but also the vocal cords.
Reframing The Path Of Healing
Jul 07, 2015
Do you feel like you have been “working” on “healing” and that any sadness or discomfort means you are failing? Todd and Cathy discuss Jeff Foster and specifically his teaching that feelings and experiences will always be a part of us, and that the more we accept and understand this, the less challenging they will be. They also discuss Malala’s new documentary, share a passage from The Book of Awakening, and celebrate the U.S. Women’s Soccer Championship.
Finding Your Family’s Rhythm
Jul 03, 2015
When a spouse travels or works long hours, it’s hard to find a consistent family rhythm. And when an often-absent spouse is home for a day or two, it can throw off the daily rhythm and cause friction. How can we acknowledge and discuss this openly without offending each other? Cathy and Todd share their experience with this challenging topic, and demonstrate how this is relevant to all of our relationships.
Do We Need To Fight With Our Teenager?
Jun 30, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss an article titled “Why mothers and teenage daughters fight” and question why and how these fights occur. Can we be self-aware when we are talking with our teenagers, and can we create space between our emotional experiences and how we react? It’s not easy, but it’s a worthy practice to keep family relationships healthy. Todd shares an inspirational story and Cathy talks about addictiveness of reality television.
Listen, Allow, Support, Repeat
Jun 26, 2015
Cathy and Todd share a letter from a listener whose son discovers himself through dance, and how this discovery leads to self-aware parenting. It's an inspirational and emotional story about how to create a connected relationship with your child - you don't want to miss it. Steve is the father in this story has a part-time photography business which can be found here. Cathy and Todd also discuss Pixar's Inside Out.
Trade Criticism for Compassion
Jun 23, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why self criticism and fear decrease our ability to create meaningful change, and why self compassion is essential for goal setting. They also discuss the “neurotic roommate” inside our head, why balance may not exist, and the big mistake at the end of The Karate Kid.
Happiness vs. Pleasure
Jun 19, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss a blog by Mark Manson titled, Stop Trying to Be Happy. They discuss the difference between happiness and pleasure, and why "happiness is the process of becoming your ideal self". It's the pursuit of our ideal self, not the achievement of goals, that allows us to experience our "happy".
Relationship Resilience
Jun 16, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss overdetermination, the recognition that multiple factors lead to a single outcome. They also process the importance of integrity and communication and how they play a role in our most important relationships. They reference M. Scott Peck’s The Road Less Traveled and Beyond, Pearl Jam, and the movies Blow, Poltergeist, and Honeymoon in Vegas. How does it all fit together? Listen and find out!
Find Your Own Path
Jun 12, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss a powerful commencement speech by Jim Carrey, and also a thought-provoking quote by Ethan Hawke. They process why it's important to follow your own path and trust love instead of fear.
No More Public Shaming
Jun 09, 2015
We discuss the public shaming of children, and how it can be detrimental to the child and your relationship. We discuss compassion and empathy, and how spreading anger or shaming will not create a better world. We also share some of Brenè Brown’s research around shame – specifically why secrecy, silence, and judgment will exacerbate it, and empathy will eradicate it.
Pronouns, Puberty, and Loss
Jun 05, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss Sheryl Sandburg’s moving tribute to her late husband Dave, and highlight the numerous lessons about present-moment living and finding meaning even in the darkest times. They also discuss Caitlyn Jenner and why transgender is an umbrella term with many different variables. Todd shares a blog about a dad who talks to his daughter about puberty, and why this can positively impact how a girl responds to her own development.
The Weaker Sex And Loving Kindness
Jun 02, 2015
Do you practice spreading loving kindness to yourself and others? “Metta” is tool that you can use AND share with your kids. Cathy and Todd also discuss why education and awareness play such a huge role in educating boys and changing societal norms.
The “Five Awareness Exercises” That Can Change Your Relationships
May 29, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the “five awareness” exercises that helps you maintain loving relationships, how to connect with a child who has different interests, and how Todd’s been handling his worry. They also discuss close talkers, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, and how you can support them in their Kickstarter Campaign for the ZPR Conference in March, 2016.
Zen Parenting- Conference With People We Love
May 26, 2015
Our “Conference With People We Love” and Dealing with Anxiety
We are hosting our first-ever live event, and we launched a Kickstarter campaign to make it the BEST it can be! Our “Conference With People Will Love” is March 11/12, 2016, and we already have amazing speakers confirmed (Dr. Shefali, John O’Sullivan, John Duffy) – check out our campaign to become a sponsor, vendor, get your tickets (with VIP status!) or simply to support this exciting event. We hope you will join us, it’s going to be a fantastic weekend! We also discuss Todd’s issues with worry and anxiety, and why it’s so important to “release” a problem rather than “think through” a problem.
You are not defined by your diagnosis – A Conversation with Maddie McFadden
May 22, 2015
Maddie's world changed when she was diagnosed with Turners Syndrome in 5th grade, but it didn't define her, it simply allowed her to know herself so much better. Turners Syndrome comes with physical challenges and learning disabilities, and Maddie had to accept and endure both. Her story will remind you that we are so much more than a diagnosis, and that even our challenges can be our greatest gifts. Maddie is our niece and we know you will be inspired by her story - her motto is Be Fearless, and she puts her energy toward living these words.
What Our Children Learn When We Run Away
May 19, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss what it means to “runaway” from our problems. It’s a lot more common then we realize, and when we do it, our children learn to do the same. They also discuss how to communicate with kids when they break the rules, why we should think before we judge other parents, and why David Letterman will be missed.
How Did We Get Here?
May 15, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss partnership and how slowly and incrementally we take on certain roles and get stuck in patterns. They process how to communicate what feels fair and balanced, and why communication is not one big talk, but rather many talks that lead to greater trust and stability. Effective communication with a partner leads to a more intimate relationship, and it serves as a training ground for how we communicate with others. Listen to this episode with your partner!
Filtering Our Lives Through Social Media
May 12, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss this article about Madison, a girl who’s life appeared perfect on Instagram, but in actuality, she was struggling and took her own life. We process what it means when the inner world doesn't match the outer world, how social media shapes our perception of other people, and what we can learn from Madison. We also discuss the movie Beginners, and why it’s now in Cathy’s Top Ten favorites.
“Overwhelmed” With Author Brigid Schulte
May 08, 2015
Cathy and Todd talk with Brigid Schulte, award-winning journalist for The Washington Post, and author of Overwhelmed: How to Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time. She shares why busyness has become the new status symbol, why moms are still the default caregivers/home managers, how kids are absorbing our stress, and why we should find more time for the present.
What Do You Do When Your Child Rages?
May 05, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss Bruce Jenner and Janet Mock and why understanding transgender helps us expand our awareness about everything. They also discuss how a listener handled his child’s rage, and they answer a listener question about how to handle it when your kid won’t practice her instrument. Even more important, they share their full list of top 10 favorite movies – they might surprise you!
Other Resources
Parent/Daughter date night!!! Next in is our ZPR community screenings is a documentary called The Empowerment Project brought to you by Zen Parenting Radio and CCS. This film documents ordinary women doing extraordinary things. It's on Monday, May 18th @ York Theater in Elmhurst. Click here for tickets.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTIogIwn8U0
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The POWER of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
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Free Range, Helicopter, Lawnmower Parenting
May 01, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss Bill Maher’s take on Free-Range Parenting and question why we judge other parents decisions. When we judge ourselves less, we judge others less (and vice versa). They share their own judgment stories, Cathy’s last Chicago Parent column, and more of their top ten movies.
Sibling Rivalry- A Different Perspective (Take 3)
Apr 28, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss the meaning of “behavior is neutral” and share a personal story about deescalating sibling rivalry. They also discuss mindfulness, Cheryl Strayed, and why the movie Best in Show is so brilliant.
Kids In The House – A Conversation with Founder Leana Greene
Apr 24, 2015
Todd and Cathy talk with Leana Greene, Founder of Kids in the House. After becoming a mother of three, Greene decided to focus on raising her family and developed a strong passion for parenting and education. She spent her time reading parenting books and attending lectures to gain as much knowledge as possible.
Curse It, Nurse It, Rehearse It
Apr 21, 2015
When you are struggling, do you curse it, nurse it , and rehearse it? Or do you disperse it and reverse it? Todd and Cathy discuss all of these possibilities, and which choices lead to greater contentment. They also discuss Lionel Richie songs, new apps, why Cathy wears her earphones when she’s grocery shopping, and how Todd allowed his daughter to make her own choices this past weekend.
Nothing is certain except death and TEXTS
Apr 17, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss mortality and question why we shy away from talking about something we all share. Todd references a book called Being Mortal by Atul Gawande, and talks about an important conversation he had with his 93 year old grandmother. They also discuss how cancelling on friends through text has become the new normal, and why it’s important to be impeccable with our word and never take anything personally (Two of The Four Agreements).
Does Your Partner Give You Credit?
Apr 14, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why it’s sometimes important to give your partner “credit” for introducing you to new ideas or experiences. Cathy admits that it was difficult when Todd first started doing yoga and getting interested in her line of work – she was excited for him, but she also felt like she losing a part of her identity.
Roman Krznaric: Why empathy will change the world
Apr 10, 2015
We talk with Roman Krznaric, author, cultural thinker, and empathy expert. He has been named one of Britain’s leading popular philosophers, and he’s the founder of the Empathy Museum and the Empathy Library. Over half a million people have watched his RSA Animate video The Power of Outrospection (it’s a much watch!). Roman talks to us about the golden rule vs the platinum rule, how to raise empathetic kids, and why empathy has the power to change the world.
Why empathy can get us out of the “hole”
Apr 07, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss empathy and how it relates to connection, self awareness, and parenting. They discuss how empathy is the necessary step, in all situations, toward real and meaningful change.
Equal Justice & Quantum Entanglement
Apr 03, 2015
On today’s show we discuss Bryan Stevenson, Executive Director of the Equal Justice Initiative, and why he is one of our heroes. We also discuss an episode of NPR's Invisibilia called Entanglement – specifically how it’s the explanation for why random people tell Cathy stories, and why she doesn’t like to answer the door for the pizza guy. Intrigued? You should be, this show goes deep!
Scientology and the Nature of Ideology
Mar 31, 2015
On today’s show we discuss the documentary Going Clear: Scientology and the Prison of Belief, and why ideology shapes our culture and our lives. We also discuss positive psychology and mindfulness – we focus on why it’s important to notice strengths as we deal with our challenges.
Can Youth Sports Be Fun AND Competitive? John O’Sullivan Says Yes.
Mar 27, 2015
We speak with the Founder of Changing The Game Project John O'Sullivan. Their mission is to ensure that we return youth sports to our children, and put the ‘play’ back in ‘play ball.’ For every Tiger Woods and Andre Aggassi, there are thousands of others who are in it for the fun (until the adults take the fun out of it.)
Are your children free to “explore”?
Mar 24, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss a New York Times article that makes a case for “free-range parenting”. Why are we so fearful to let our kids roam free and have their own adventures, and do the statistics reinforce or dispute our fear? Parents have started calling the police when they see a child at the park unaccompanied – is this helpful or harmful to our way of living?
They also discuss how to talk and stay connected to your child when they make a decision that disappoints you.
The name of the article is The Case For Free Range Parenting by Clemens Wergin
Other Resources
Parent/Daughter date night!!! Next in is our ZPR community screenings is a documentary called The Empowerment Project. This film documents ordinary women doing extraordinary things. It's on Monday, May 18th @ York Theater in Elmhurst. Click here for tickets.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTIogIwn8U0
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book.
It's winter time which means it's time for an upgrade on your hat wear. Don't you owe it to your ears to keep 'em warm? Click here to order.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwxYdy2bQns&feature=youtu.be
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
What to do when life stinks
Mar 20, 2015
You’ve been let down, put down, you’ve failed, and you’ve had your heart broken. Once we reach a certain age, it’s a given that we will have dealt with lots of life’s challenges. But then what do we do?
Pardon The Interruption
Mar 17, 2015
On today’s show we discuss Interruption Science, the study of the effects of interruptions on job performance. Not only do interruptions challenge our job performance, but they challenge our parenting skills and our ability to feel calm and happy.
Radical Optimism For Raising Teens and Tweens- Dr. John Duffy
Mar 13, 2015
We speak with Dr. John Duffy the author of The Available Parent- Radical Optimism For Raising Teens and Tweens. He talks to us about how to minimize conflict and maximize satisfaction in your relationship with your child.
Are The Men In Your Life Lonely?
Mar 10, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss why boys and men can experience emotional isolation and loneliness due to a lack of meaningful relationships with male friends.
Stephen Hawking thinks our greatest threat is…
Mar 06, 2015
Agression. British theoretical physicist and cosmologist Stephen Hawking believes that the greatest threat facing us today is our inability to “correct our aggression”.
Let’s fulfill our potential!
Mar 03, 2015
We discuss the book Mindset: The New Psychology of Success – How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential, specifically the difference between a fixed mindset and a growth mindset by Carol Dweck.
From Role to Soul: 15 Shifts on the Awakening Journey by Annie Burnside
Feb 27, 2015
We speak with Author Annie Burnside about her book "From Role to Soul: 15 Shifts on the Awakening Journey" From her work with many who have awakened, Annie has learned that what it takes for us to finally quit trying to awaken, and simply awaken, is highly individualized.
And The Oscar Goes To…
Feb 24, 2015
Cathy and Todd discuss the Oscars, specifically all of the amazing speeches and shout-outs for social change. They answer a listener’s question about a son that doesn’t want to be involved in extracurricular activities, and another question about how to parent together with different philosophies.
My Kids Don’t Listen To Me
Feb 17, 2015
We discuss Cindy Crawford’s non-photoshopped picture that went viral and how women were normalized by its authenticity. We also discuss how to see situations from a child’s perspective and why it made sense when our youngest daughter ate a sleeve of Hershey kisses – instead of insisting that our kids listen to us, we can make sure we are listening to them. A listener appreciates how his partner tells him the truth, and we discuss the importance of being thoughtful when offering feedback to someone you love.
Play Big with Tara Sophia Mohr
Feb 13, 2015
Cathy and Todd talk to Tara Mohr, an expert on women’s leadership and well-being. She is the author of Playing Big: Find Your Voice, Your Mission, Your Message, and she’s the creator of the Playing Big leadership program for women. Cathy first heard Tara Mohr at an Emerging Women conference, and she fell in love with her message and book. Listen as Tara talks about why women get blamed for not playing big, the two kinds of fear that hold us back, and why our inner mentor is our greatest guide. Find Tara at http://www.taramohr.com/ and read her viral blog post, 10 Rules for Brilliant Women.
“Not everything that counts can be counted…
Feb 10, 2015
And not everything that can be counted counts." Albert Einstein
Today we discuss our workshop with Dr. Daniel Siegel, Psychiatrist and Executive Director of the Mindsight Institute, where we learned more about mindfulness and how it can change every aspect of our lives AND our children’s lives.
5 Ways To Raise Kind Children
Feb 03, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss a blog that offers 5 ways to raise kind children. They also talk about “dementia of the pre-occupied”, not a true diagnosis, but a great description of what it feels like when you begin forgetting why you walked into a room or what you planned to say next.
Things People Say That Aren’t True
Jan 27, 2015
This week Todd and Cathy bust open these so-called “facts” to recognize how these negative belief systems slow us down or keep us stuck. They also discuss “mini freedoms” and why they are so important to busy parents.
Sleep Trouble? Dr. Darius Is In The House
Jan 23, 2015
We speak with Darius A. Loghmanee, MD Attending Physician, Sleep Medicine; Assistant Professor of Pediatrics, Northwestern University Feinberg School of Medicine. We cover all the bases from infants to adults.
Actions Express Priorities
Jan 20, 2015
Todd and Cathy discuss why our actions dictate our priorities (a Gandhi quote), and how investigation into our priorities tells us a lot about what we think and believe. They also discuss Rob Bell’s new podcast (The Robcast) and his teaching about why “good can be the detriment of best”.
It all starts with connection
Jan 13, 2015
On today’s show Cathy and Todd talk about why connection is essential if we want our children to listen and cooperate. If we are seeking changes in our children’s behavior, we need to we focus our attention on deepening the relationship and creating daily connection.
Does your partner have your back?
Jan 06, 2015
A listener shares how her husband has her back – he tells the kids that he loves them, but he loves their mom the most. We also discuss how negative behavior from your children is a method of communication – instead of yelling or punishing, consider asking questions and offering some attention.
Detachment vs Non Attachment- What’s the difference? (And a follow up on spanking)
Dec 30, 2014
They sound the same, but there is a distinct difference between detachment (giving up) and non attachment (opening up). If you learn the difference, forgiveness will become easier and you will inevitably experience more love in your life.
Are you a master or a disaster?
Dec 23, 2014
Cathy and Todd talk relationships and discuss and article (link below) from The Atlantic called "Masters of Love" In the article, it talks about the most current research about “master” and “disaster” partnerships. The biggest take away? If your partner sees a bird and points to it, look at the bird and acknowledge you’ve seen it. This is a metaphor for aspects of your relationship! Also, do you scan your relationship for kindness or for contempt? Be conscious of what you are looking for, because what you focus on grows.
Todd shares some money tips (he loves money tips!), they play some clips from Frosty the Snowman, they laugh a lot, and they ask listeners to comment on how their partner showed up for them. Go to the Zen Parenting Radio website and click “send us a voice message” – share a brief story about why your partner has your back.
"Masters of Love" Article by Emily Esfahani Smith
Other Resources
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
What kind of parent are you?
Dec 16, 2014
Today we talk different parenting styles from a blog by Denise Stirk, Malala’s Nobel Peace Prize speech, and Todd shares more money tips. We also talk about why the best choices are made responsibly (rather than just running away or pretending something isn’t happening), and we answer a question about whether sleep training is practical option for a 3 year old.
The link to hear a snapshot of Malala's speech can be found below...
http://www.upworthy.com/shes-known-as-malala-but-when-she-revealed-her-other-names-i-got-teary?c=upw1
Other Resources
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Puberty & 401K’s
Dec 09, 2014
Why are girls going through puberty early?
Cathy and Todd discuss a recent NPR interview with the authors Julianna Deardorff and Louise Greenspan of The New Puberty. The book looks at the percentage of girls who are going through early puberty and the environmental, biological and socioeconomic factors that influence when puberty begins. They also discuss why sexuality is an ongoing communication, not a one-time conversation. Todd talks about Tony Robbins new book (Money: Master the Game), 401K’s, and why everybody needs to know more about money.
The website Todd referred to that compared 401K plans can be found here.
Cathy also shares some Zen wisdom that’s set the stage for her own self awareness.
Other Resources
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Are You a Crab in a Pot?
Dec 02, 2014
Do you let others grow and expand or do you keep pulling them back down into the pot? When you try to crawl out and try something new, do family/friends/co-workers pull you down or deter you? When you change or grow it can be quite uncomfortable for the people around you. Just like crabs in a pot, we pull back the ones who are crawling out because change can feel risky and unpredictable.
We also discuss how Billy Corgan reacted to Anderson Cooper’s slight. How would you handle public ridicule? We play some clips from our discussion with Dr. Darius, sleep expert who we interviewed for our next Conversations with People We Love, and Todd brings back Tournament of Bad because he’s got some bubble wrap issues.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M0e5dB5BkxI
Other Resources
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Preserve Your Marriage By Having “Mini Meltdowns”
Nov 25, 2014
Todd & Cathy share a marriage challenge where Cathy was able to speak up (not easy), and Todd was able to really listen (also not easy). In couplehood- Can we allow our partner to share their pain without taking it personally? Are we brave enough to ask for what we really want? Instead of preaching to others, can we begin to offer what we want to receive, love instead of fear, and BE the change we want to see in the world?
Today Cathy and Todd talk about the challenges of today’s culture, but also the signs of meaningful change. They also talk about why we should trust our children to make good decisions rather than worry or “freak out”. Todd shares clips from Planes Trains and Automobiles because it’s Thanksgiving! We are grateful for you!
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6OS_AZt6pds&list=UUvdNYzqMwvAcwP0alEyHfPw
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Teaching Girls to Love Themselves
Nov 21, 2014
We talk with Mary Ellen Young & Sandra McDonnell about their book, Elements for Girls: A Fun and Engaging Self-Discovery Project. This book supports preadolescent and teenage girls on their journey of self awareness, and offers them a sense of acceptance and empowerment as they grow. We shared their book with our Be U girls, and have gotten tremendous feedback. Listen as we discuss the challenges faced by young girls and how to support them, and why this book may be the first step toward meaningful discussions.
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Which Wolf Will You Feed?
Nov 18, 2014
Todd & Cathy discuss the “two wolves” parable and how we can use this when we are teaching our kids.
An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life... "A fight is going on inside me," he said to the boy.
"It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. "One is evil - he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego. "The other is good - he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. "This same fight is going on inside you - and inside every other person, too."
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather,
"Which wolf will win?" The old chief simply replied, "The one you feed."
Do you let your children surprise you or do you plan everything for them? Do you tell them how to compete, or do you let them figure out what competition means to them? Is true competition based on internal goals (doing the best of your ability) or external validation (being first/being better than others)? This week Cathy and Todd discuss these things and share how their children have been developing their own interests from a place of self understanding rather than obligation.
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
In person workshop focusing on Sleep Strategies, Symptoms, and Solutions for your Child. Click here for more info...
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Are You A Naysayer To Your Kids?
Nov 11, 2014
On today’s show we discuss why it’s important to support children’s dreams, and why it’s important to do what you love. We talk about Dave Grohl, Jim Morrison, Billy Corgan, and other famous people who realized their dream regardless of what they were told. Parents can redefine what it means for their children to be successful, and they can focus their energy on acceptance and belonging. This results in children who are intrinsically motivated and who have a sense of self worth.
Michael Jordan's view of failure.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JA7G7AV-LT8
Alan Watts- What if money was no object?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KSyHWMdH9gk
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
In person workshop focusing on Sleep Strategies, Symptoms, and Solutions for your Child. Click here for more info...
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Support For Our Sons
Nov 07, 2014
We interview Matt Theodores who is the director of Maine Boys To Men. Boys To Men supports the happy, healthy, non-violent development of boys and those who help raise them. By working with parents, teachers, coaches, boys and girls, Boys to Men challenges the pervasive messaging that defines masculinity in terms of violence, harassment, apathy and sexual conquest. Their programs support empathy, tolerance, respect, leadership, and critical thinking.
In the interview, we discuss the focus of their program:
Mission
The Mission of Boys to Men is to reduce interpersonal violence, specifically male violence against women and girls, and support the development of emotionally fluent, civically engaged boys. Boys to Men will:
• Provide assistance and educational resources to boys and those who help raise them.
• Provide programming to students which challenge traditional gender stereotypes and sexism.
• Increase community awareness about the challenges facing boys and the corresponding bias and violence against girls and women.
Vision
Boys to Men envisions a world in which:
• Boys and men are loved and valued for who they intrinsically are without regard to arbitrary cultural stereotypes of masculinity, femininity, and gender roles.
• All boys have the opportunity to develop into healthy men, supported by adult mentors who model healthy masculinity and respectful, nonviolent relationships.
• The absence of violence and fear frees all people to be caring and productive members of society.
Core Values
Community Responsibility for Raising Healthy Boys:
• It is the responsibility of the entire community to raise healthy, happy, non violent boys.
• Adult male investment in the raising of boys is an indispensable component of transforming boys into men.
Non-violence:
• Violence is not the solution to any problem or conflict.
• Violence prevention is an important responsibility of boys and men.
• Every person has the right to live free of threats or acts of violence or abuse.
Gender Justice:
• Traditional media and cultural representations of masculinity and femininity are too narrowly defined and contribute to destructive and damaging behavior towards individuals of all genders and ages.
• We are committed to eliminating the inequalities and institutional injustices that result from these traditional media and cultural representations of masculinity.
Respect:
• The ability to honor all people regardless of race, gender, sexual orientation, ethnicity and/or religion is essential to healthy development.
• Respecting differences is a learned skill/ability and therefore young people must be taught to accept and value themselves, others, and the world around them.
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Our 200th Podcast Celebration!
Nov 04, 2014
We've made it to 200! We celebrate by hearing from our listeners and by listening to some of our "greatest hits". We also talk about the intention of Zen Parenting and why self awareness leads to more connected families and eventually, a more connected world. Thanks for listening, we appreciate you!
We announce the release of Cathy's new book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting as well as our two week Self-Aware Virtual Retreat. Information can be found below.
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Don’t be afraid of fear
Oct 28, 2014
Do you get annoyed by your fear? Are you tired of being afraid? We discuss how to shift the way we look at fear. Pema Chodron said, Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth, so maybe our fear is trying to help us, heal us, push us closer to who really are. We never stop being afraid, but we can begin to have a gentler relationship with the discomfort.
We discuss how to talk to your kids about hitting - punishment and consequences may not be working, but how about a down-to-earth meaningful discussion. What is your child hoping to achieve by hitting? How you can support your children when they feel like hitting? What tools can your children use instead of hitting? Instead of using fear or shame, we can shift the focus to the feelings behind the hitting.
Todd shares his weekend retreat experience with The Mankind Project. He was awakened to a whole different definition of masculinity.
Other Resources
Receive Cathy's new book Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn by registering for our two week Self-Aware Virtual Holiday Retreat which begins on December 1st. Click here for more details.
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe Men's Group and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Registration can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Alfie Kohn encourages us to raise “reflective rebels”
Oct 24, 2014
Our guest Alfie Kohn, author of The Myth of the Spoiled Child, says that the negativity thrown at parents and the supposedly narcissistic kids they are raising is unfounded. Kohn says parents should work to raise kids with high self esteem, and that the fashionable belief that kids must develop grit and self-discipline through failure and suffering is unproven and often counterproductive.
A few of the topics we discuss with Alfie:
Warm responsive parenting is often confused with over indulgent and permissive parenting
Punishment and rewards don't work
Competition is uniquely counterproductive
We want to raise "reflective rebels"
Other Resources
Cathy's 3rd book, Living What You Want Your Kids To Learn- The Power of Self-Aware Parenting, is now on sale! Scheduled ship date is first week of November. Go here to order your book.
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Setting Boundaries With Love
Oct 21, 2014
We are always told to avoid "toxic" people, but sometimes it's difficult to completely cut ties. This is when we learn to set boundaries. Cathy shares a metaphor she found in Glennon Melton's latest blog - the reason we can see the beauty of a tiger behind bars is that we are safe from being devoured. If we don't set up our own boundaries (bars), then we risk allowing others to take advantage of us (and we miss their beauty!).
We also share the website worldpulse.com - it allows women from all over the world to communicate with each other and transform their circumstances.
At 22:00, we interview Todd's good friend Rick Williams. Rick shares the story of his wife Trish - for the last 19 months she has been dealing with Hydrocephalus. Rick has persevered to support Trish in unbelievable ways, but they have reached an impass - recovery is possible, but insurance has run out. To learn more and donate, please visit Trish's fund raising page here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VM-MH0b6w44&feature=youtu.be
Other Resources
We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? It's on Wednesday, October 22nd @ 8:00 Central. The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register. An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below. It's called "Finding Connor Deegan"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Are you supporting your partner and hurting yourself?
Oct 14, 2014
Are you supporting your partner instead of listening to your own internal knowing? Are you choosing to support rather than voice your opinion? Supporting your partner and kids is important, but if you do it by hurting yourself, it can create resentment and disconnection. Cathy and Todd go deep on this one (think Zen Parenting grad school) and ask listeners to practice extreme self awareness. If you take care of yourself first, and do what feels right, it may create an environment for others to do the same.
Cathy talks about Emerging Women, the conference she attended in New York this weekend. There were so many amazing speakers, and they all shared a similar message. Success comes from the inside, find your joy, and make a life, not a living. It's time to bring female leadership into the workplace and into the world - it will lead to greater strength, compassion, forgiveness, creativity, and balance.
Other Resources
We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? It's on Wednesday, October 22nd @ 8:00 Central. The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register. An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below. It's called "Finding Connor Deegan"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE
Shameless plug for Cathy's sister's S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew?
http://www.sosclorox.com/
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Down Syndrome- One Parent’s Story
Oct 10, 2014
Our friend Shawn Bowen tells her story about her son Matthew who was diagnosed with down syndrome in the hospital 4 days after he was born. Matthew is now 7 and is amazing as he was when he showed up seven years ago. Shawn talks about her initial reaction to Matthew's diagnoses, advocating for her son in a school system, Matthew's health challenges, and how the perception of down syndrome has changed for the better as time goes by. Hope you enjoy...
Other Resources
We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register. An inspirational story related to this workshop can be found below. It's called "Finding Connor Deegan"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE
Shameless plug for Cathy's sister's S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew?
http://www.sosclorox.com/
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
You don’t need to put your kids in a class
Oct 07, 2014
Do your kids love to dance, or play sports, or be artistic at home? Do you keep insisting that they need to take a class? We all want what is "best" for our kids, and that often means getting them into the "best" class with the "best" teacher at the "best" facility The intention is based in love, but what if your kid doesn't want to take a class? Maybe he/she just wants to enjoy the creative process without being told what to do.
We can always offer a class or opportunity for growth, but our kids know when they are ready to know more, and sometimes they don't need as much guidance as we think they do. A few examples are Ballerina Mindy Copeland who didn't start dancing until she was 13, and Saturday Night Live comedians Fred Armisen and Kristen Wiig who didn't start their life in comedy until their early 20's
https://screen.yahoo.com/weekend-garth-kat-mothers-day-000000363.html
We also answer two questions from our listeners - one who's husband is displeased with his work and allows his feelings to affect the family, and the other is a mom who feels that time-outs are helping her son - she questions herself after listening to last week's podcast on time-outs.
We invite you to attend a live webinar with us titled How is your Child Sleeping? The discussion revolves around assessing your child's sleep behavior and the effects on overall development. Register by clicking here. $15.00 to register
Other Resources
Shameless plug for Cathy's sister's S.O.S. Pads campaign- Who knew?
http://vimeopro.com/bottlerocket/sos-pads-who-knew
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Are Time-outs Hurting Your Child?
Sep 30, 2014
Time-outs are typically viewed as an effective parenting technique, but the latest brain research suggests that they may be making things worse. Instead of using time-outs as a break, parents have used them as punishment. This isolates the child and eliminates the possibility for connection and compassion at a time when they need it most. We discuss the blog written by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, where they share how the latest brain research have proved time-outs ineffective.
We share an update about Erin and Aaron Kreiger - they shared their journey of grief and infant loss back in June - (click here for Part 1 and Part 2 ), as well as a blog titled 25 ways to ask your kids "So how was school today?"
Other Resources
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Anxiety and Gender Equality
Sep 23, 2014
Have you heard of He for She? This campaign, headed by the UN, is asking men to stand up and support gender equality - not just for the sake of women, but also for their own freedoms and for the welfare of our nation. Emma Watson is the Ambassador for He for She, and she gave an amazing speech yesterday in front of the UN. She was given a well-deserved standing ovation. Click here to check out HeForShe.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c9SUAcNlVQ4
Todd reads a few questions from listeners about childhood anxiety. Cathy talks about the importance of being self aware, practicing self care, and why finding our calm can create calm in our kids. She also suggests that we ask kids how we can support them - if kids are met with understanding and compassion rather than fear and shame, they can usually offer their own solutions for change.
Todd brings back "Tournament of Bad" and explains why he is frustrated with Sharon Osbourne.
Other Resources
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rd4HfGvOl2k&index=19&list=PLJATAQGVhEVv7KoAcf-V7UKiN0_De-wqn
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Adrian Peterson, spanking, and waking up
Sep 18, 2014
In this "special edition" episode of ZPR, we discuss spanking and hitting, especially how it relates to the Adrian Peterson case. Three-fourths of our country still believes in spanking as an appropriate method of discipline, so instead of pointing fingers and demonizing, let's discuss, understand, and pay attention to why and how this became acceptable.
Emotions, outbursts, and negative behavior are all messages; our children's way of communicating needs and challenges. Is causing them physical pain the best way to handle their self expression? Instead, can we take responsibility for the energy we bring, pay attention to our ability to listen and empathize, and focus on creating a connected and trusting relationship with our kids?
In 1989 the United Nations proposed The Rights of a Child , this identified the human rights of a child, and made corporal punishment illegal. 38 countries ratified this resolution - the only two countries who did not were Somalia and the United States.
As people and as parents we are supposed to grow and evolve, we are supposed to learn new ways of being. When it comes to spanking or harming a child in a physical way, we can break the cycle and wake up to a new way of relating to our kids.
We posted a previous podcast on spanking which can be found here.
Other Resources
Todd co-facilitates The Tribe and is now accepting applications for his 2015 retreat. Highlights of last years retreat can be found here.
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
And these children that you spit on…
Sep 16, 2014
as they try to change their worlds....are immune to your consultations, they're quite aware of what they're going through - David Bowie's famous line from the song "Changes" sums up our misunderstanding of children today. Todd is sick of hearing people say kids are more spoiled than ever or kids are narcissistic, it was never like that when I was young...."The Myth of The Spoiled Child", a book by Alfie Kohn, proves that these assertions are simply not true.
We play a few clips from the documentary "Moving Forward" - it helps us understand and respect the impact we have on our children. More specifically we discuss the importance of two things that go wrong in childhood- things that should not happen, but do (abuse, neglect, etc.) and things that should happen, but don't (have you ever heard of the term proximal abandonment?) The full feature can be found on Netflix, but you can watch a 30 minute clip by clicking here.
We also discuss some improvements we have made to Be U, Inc, and how Cathy and I scared our kids by coming home an hour later than we promised - listen to how we navigated this challenging situation.
Other Resources
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Bethel Learning Center are sponsoring a FREE screening of Replace the Race followed by a discussion on October 8th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85ynjfDcmcs
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Eliminate Morning Meltdowns
Sep 09, 2014
Our daughter was struggling to get out of bed this morning - struggling to get dressed, struggling to eat breakfast. The trick to dealing with a scenario like this is to check yourself before responding (even if you have to fake that you are not frustrated). If we meet this situation with a sense of calm and trust natural consequences, we may be able to sidestep some possible landmines.
We discuss how to support your loved ones when they are grieving. Todd shares his insights after losing his mother last week.
Power School is an on-line resource that monitors our daughter's progress at her school on a daily basis. We must balance out the positives and negatives of such a resource and figure out what works best for both parent and child.
We also discuss the best way to create change in your life. The answer is more simple than you think. Sometimes it's as easy as "do something different."
Other resources
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
For Todd’s Mom (Rebroadcast)
Sep 02, 2014
Instead of posting a new podcast, we are reposting one of our favorites, the one where we interview our moms. Unfortunately, Todd’s mom passed away last weekend, and we wanted to share this to honor her. We share some great stories, have some great laughs, and near the end, Sharon (we call her GG) shares how at peace she is with her family. Please listen and enjoy – and even more important, be good to each other.
In honor of Mother's Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids. We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to raising us in the 70's - we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms!
Other resources
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Grieving The Loss Of A Pet
Aug 26, 2014
We lost our "Zen Bunny" Greeley last week and it was a shock to our family. How do we deal with the grieving process, and how do we help our children deal with their sadness? As parents we need to allow our children to grieve, and respect that it's an individual process.
We also discuss how to handle "disrespect" from our children - are they trying to be mean, or are they trying to communicate something? If we can do our best to not be offended and communicate in a productive way, it will keep our relationships healthy.
Have you seen the movie "Boyhood"? It's a special movie and we give a quick review of this incredible film.
We also answer a listener's question about how to deal with energy vampires.
Other resources
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IiDztHS3Wos
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If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Stop Teaching Our Kids To Kill
Aug 19, 2014
We discuss the newly revised version of "Stop Teaching Our Kids To Kill" a book written by Lt. Dave Grossman and Gloria DeGateano, Founder and CEO of the Parent Coaching Institute. Originally published in 1999, the book is updated and includes even more indisputable research that demonstrates the affects of violence on the child and adolescent brain.
We also talk about the "Ignore No More" app created by a mom who wanted her son to respond to her texts/calls, and also Cathy's blog titled , "Want Change, Then Rethink".
We also discuss why mini-breakdowns are the key to a healthy marriage (or any other relationship!).
Other resources:
If you think there are times when we put too much educational pressure on our children, then check this out! Be U, Inc and Field School PTA are sponsoring a FREE screening of Race to Nowhere, The Dark Side of America's Achievement Culture on Sept. 11th @ 7:00 PM Click the link below to reserve your seat.http://cathycassaniadams.com/events/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
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How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
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Robin Williams, Mental Illness, and Back To School Anxiety
Aug 12, 2014
Robin Williams' death prompts a discussion about mental illness and depression. We play some clips from his most meaningful roles as well as some of his stand-up. Mental illness carries a stigma that makes asking for help difficult. We support a group called NAMI (National Association of Mental Illness) and we discuss the importance of removing the stigma from mental illness. A few other clips discussed in the show:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3yqXeLJ0Kg&list=PLZPBiTEeqgyqoiyay3UOAQoEwJO3r3tEI
****Warning- the clip below has explicit language
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wi-JlvBCl3A
We also discuss Cathy's blog about back to school anxiety - she suggests feeling it rather than avoiding it - this helps you process your feelings so you can be more available to your children.
Other resources:
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
We choose what’s familiar and what it means to be a “sex-positive” parent
Aug 05, 2014
Sometimes we make decisions based on old patterns from childhood, even though they are unnecessary or unhelpful today. The first step toward understanding why we make certain decisions is to become more self aware and introspective. It also necessitates listening to other viewpoints and being conscious of our own defensiveness. Our children, spouse, and friends can all act as mirrors - allow them to help you see yourself better.
For example, when Todd was younger he always asked friends to come over/join his family get-togethers because it reduced the possibility of family chaos (everyone was on their best behavior). But as a father in a calmer household, he still feels a "need" to have others around rather than just be present with his family. This "need" is based in an old pattern, an outdated method of protection that is no longer necessary. But it takes self awareness to recognize this - what are your outdated patterns?
We also discuss an amazing blog written by Lea Grover called "This Is What Sex-Positive Parenting Really Looks Like" . We open up about how best to treat the topic of sexuality with your children. It starts by finding a sense of comfort with the topic, and deciding what values you would like to impart.
Other resources:
Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Looking for a Vitamix blender? Don't forget to use our coupon code 06-007296 for free shipping.
Domestic abuse: Is the NFL sending the right message?
Jul 29, 2014
The NFL and Comissioner Roger Goodell handed down a punishment to NFL player Ray Rice for allegedly knocking out his fiance in an Atlantic City Casino. Some players have been suspended for 5 games for memorabilia violations, others 4 games for violating the league's drug policy. Ray Rice received a suspension of ..... wait for it ..... 2 games! We discuss the inconsistencies of this decision and why this sends the wrong message to players and society.
Two other resources supplied by one of our listeners can be found @ http://www.ncadv.org/need-help/what-is-domestic-violence and http://www.injuryclaimcoach.com/domestic-violence-help.html
We also role play a conversation Cathy and I overheard during breakfast - a little girl wanted to share a story with her grandma, but Grandma was in "teaching" mode and missed a big opportunity for connection. We discuss how to listen and communicate with your children so you can both feel heard and appreciated.
The Aspire App for victims of domestic abuse as presented by Dr. Phil.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qooHj4QLh3s
Other resources:
Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
The Meaning of Life
Jul 22, 2014
Is there a difference between a happy life and a meaningful life? We explore the subtle differences and why this understanding can change your life. We discuss a blog by Jed Diamond (Founder of the health program "Men Alive") titled How the Science of a Meaningful Life Can Help Us Live Joyfully and Well:
Happy people satisfy their wants and needs, but that seems largely irrelevant to a meaningful life.
Happiness involves being focused on the present, whereas meaningfulness involves thinking more about the past, present, and future—and the relationship between them.
Meaningfulness is derived from giving to other people; happiness comes from what they give to you.
Meaningful lives involve stress and challenges.
Self-expression is important to meaning but not happiness.
In a recent New York Magazine article they summarize a study that concludes Men Would Rather Give Themselves Electric Shocks Than Sit Alone With Their Thoughts. We discuss why we're so uncomfortable with our minds.
In this week's Hit 'N Run Topic we discuss the new development regarding Archie's Comic Digest.
Other resources:
Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Do You Need to Be Right, or Can We Agree to Disagree?
Jul 15, 2014
The topic of contraception and women's rights can be so emotionally charged, it often leads to to yelling and judgment. But our listener, Charles, left us a respectful and informative message sharing his viewpoint. Can we disagree but still listen to each other in a respectful manner? It takes awareness and compassion, but it's always possible.
We also talk about listening with an "Empty Cup":
Nan-in, a Japanese master during the Meiji era, received a university professor who came to inquire about Zen. Nan-in served tea. He poured his visitor's cup full, and then kept on pouring.The professor watched the overflow until he no longer could restrain himself. "It is overfull. No more will go in!""Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?"
Sometimes we think it's easier to complain about the perceived "shortcomings" of our loved ones rather than deal with the problem. In the long run, this can be the tougher way to go - communication breaks down and resentment builds up. We share some of our personal stories of discussing the difficult stuff, big or small (i.e. Todd makes an annoying sound when biting his nails)
Other resources:
Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
It was a normal Friday, until it wasn’t – the diagnosis of Kawasaki Disease
Jul 11, 2014
Have you ever heard of Kawasaki Disease? Chris and Monisha Lozier's daughter Mae was a healthy and happy 4 year old until she got swollen glands and a fever. They found themselves living in a hospital for the next 9 days and eventually discovered their daughter had Kawasaki Disease. This is is an immune disease in which the medium-sized blood vessels throughout the body become inflamed. It's cause is unknown, and it's largely seen in children under five years of age. It affects many organ systems, and it's rarest and most serious effects are on the heart - it can cause fatal coronary artery aneurysms in untreated children.
Chris and Monisha takes us through their experience with Mae and how they eventually arrived at this diagnosis. They talk about advocating for your child in a hospital, misdiagnoses, and the blessings that can arise from such a challenging experience.
No worries listeners, the story ends well (Mae just received a completely clear heart scan, she's doing great!), but it is an important and interesting story that will keep us better informed. We hope you enjoy.
Other resources:
Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Finding Contentment and the Benefits of Empathy
Jul 08, 2014
We discuss a blog by Gayle Allen and Deborah Farmer Kris called “Why It’s Important To Teach Empathy To Boys”. They define empathy as the ability to sense other people’s emotions coupled with the ability to imagine what someone else might be thinking or feeling. How does this relate to parenting? We discuss three benefits of raising an empathetic child:
It breeds courage- this will help your child stand up for those in need of help.
It breeds happiness- it gives our children the ability to have stronger interpersonal connections, and are more eager to collaborate, effectively negotiate, demonstrate compassion, and offer support.
It breeds thoughtful problem solving. Empathic problem solvers put themselves in others’ shoes in a way that allows them to design solutions to problems that will help us evolve.
We follow up on our talk from last week’s podcast about the Hobby Lobby Supreme Court decision. Todd also shares a few “tricks” or “reminders” to reduce the possibility of forgetting your child in the back of a car during the warm summer months.
Cathy also shares 3 things that content people do:
Differentiating between feelings, thoughts, and me
Practice what you want instead of talking about what you want
Live in present time
We also refer to a previous podcast titled, "She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you)" which is a wonderful example of how our children are here to teach us.
Do you know any parents that are polite and gentle with you while at the same time are nasty and cruel towards their children? We ask the question- why is this okay? We refer to this podcast - “Speaking down to children and lessons from “Frozen”
Finally we answer a listener’s question about how to get started on a more conscious path.
Other resources:
Come see us @ Green Fair on the Fox in Batavia, IL on Saturday, August 9th from 9:00-3:00 @ Peg Bond Center 151 N Island Ave
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Hobby Lobby, corporations and women’s rights
Jul 01, 2014
We discuss Hobby Lobby and the supreme court decision affecting contraception and women's rights. Cathy gets all riled up, so watch out! We also remind you to put that bathing suit on and get in the pool - your children are watching you! Cathy explains what it means to be an empath, and we also answer a listener question about bossiness and bullying.
At the end we have a conversation with The Joyful Mother Sigrid Kjeldsen.
We discuss a blog called "Moms, Put on that swimsuit" Many moms out there have self-image issues and are unconsciously passing them down to their children. We are not meant to look like the women on the magazine covers and yet we cover up our bodies because we don't look like them. The message that is being conveyed is we don't love our bodies. We need to show our kids our whole selves so they can embrace their whole selves. Dads- you're not off the hook - Todd challenges the dads to "show up" in a different way - by being vulnerable.
An emapth is a person that is hypersensitive to the emotions and energy of people and animals, and they have the ability to physically feel what others are feeling. Cathy is an empath and this has its share of challenges - we discuss how it impacts her and our relationship.
We chat with Sigrid Kjeldsen from "The Joyful Mother" . Sigrid speaks our language and is on a mission to support moms. One of her resources is the "Mommy Meltdown Cure" which is an 8-week self-study on-line coaching program. To find out more, click here.
We are bringing "Race To Nowhere" to Field School in Elmhurst. This documentary exposes the negative affect of constantly pushing our children to "succeed". The showing is Septemebr 11th and it's FREE. Click here to reserve your seat.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uem73imvn9Y
Other resources
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
The Adolescent Brain
Jun 24, 2014
We discuss Dr. Daniel Siegel's new book titled "Brainstorm- The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain". Dr. Siegel explains that adolescence has an ESSENCE that is often overlooked. ESSENCE stands for:
ES: An Emotional Spark is revealed in the enhanced way emotion generated from sub-cortical areas washes over the cortical circuits of reasoning. The downsides are emotional storms and moodiness; the upside is a powerful passion to live life fully, to capture life being on fire.
SE: Social Engagement emerges as teens turn more toward peers than parents, the downside being falling prey to peer pressure simply to gain membership in a group, the upside being the central importance of supportive relationships in our lives. Relationships are the key factor associated with medical and mental health, longevity, and even happiness.
N: Novelty-seeking emerges from shifts in the brain’s dopamine system with the downside of risk-taking behavior and injury, and the upside of having the courage to leave the familiar, certain, and safe home nest for the unfamiliar, uncertain, potentially unsafe world beyond.
CE: And our Creative Exploration of adolescence is found as we push against the status quo, imagining how things could be, not simply accepting them for what they are. The downside? Not just conforming to life as usual can be disorienting and stressful. The upside? The thrill and passion of discovery—and the reality that most innovations in art, music, science and technology emerge from the adolescent mind.
Dr. Siegel reminds us to be conscious of adolescent ESSENCE so we can better relate to our children and respect this important time of development.
Resources:
Daniel's book can be found here
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
She was cut from her soccer team (what she did next might surprise you)
Jun 20, 2014
Casserly had always been on the top tier soccer team only to find out from her coach that she was being moved down to the next level. Her reaction to this gut punch might surprise you. Casserly is going into 6th grade and graduated from our first "Be U Girls Club" in the fall of 2013. We asked Casserly and her mom Rita to share this story in an effort to remind us that children are here to teach us as much as we are here to teach them.
From a parent's perspective - how would have handled this situation? Would you have tried to fix it? Would you have reacted with anger or thought it unfair?
From a preteen's perspective - do you feel you have the tools and the self understanding to react in such a compassionate and authentic way?
Other Resources:
For more information on Rita's Coaching business go to http://www.ritahyland.com/
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Kids and Cell Phones – Striking a Balance
Jun 17, 2014
How do we introduce cell phones to our kids? It's a big step into an adult world, and concerns such as these are common: Will they abuse it?, Will they turn into "phoneheads"?, What kind of phone is appropriate?, What are the expectations around use of the phone?
A few years ago Janelle Hoffman wrote a blog about phone expectations that went viral. We used her blog as "bones" for a list we created called "Jacey's Phone Smarts":
We own the phone, but it’s yours to use.
We will know all phone passwords.
Answer calls/texts from your parents, and answer the phone politely when it rings.
Phone stays plugged in downstairs at night. Listen to your instincts and call and text only at appropriate times during the day.
During the day the phone is for safety – (specifically so we can communicate). Talk to people during the day, do not become a “phone head”.
If it breaks or get lost, you will cover the cost.
Use technology only for good. Do not use it to harm or lie. Do not involve yourself in group texts, phone calls, or games that are intended to harm or lie. Use the phone to be a good friend.
Do not text anything that you would not say in person
Phone is to be silenced and put away in public. Family events are for family, not phone time. You are a kind and respectful person, so don’t let the phone change that part of you.
Do not take pictures of yourself or anybody else that you would not show to your parents or your grandparents. Sharing pictures of your body or anything inappropriate could harm your friendships, your life, your future. Just be your smart self.
Be present for experiences and don’t think you have to take a million pictures.
Leave your phone at home sometimes and know that it’s OK, you are not missing anything.
Listen to lots of different music and enjoy! Be conscious of explicit lyrics – don’t fill your brain with negative or violent language, it only hurts you. Just be your smart self.
Keep your eyes up and see the world and BE with people! Use the phone to connect, not disconnect.
Before downloading any apps, get our OK first.
We are in this together – we can always discuss all of this. You have shown tremendous responsibility and that’s why you are getting a phone. ENJOY!
We also answer a listener's question regarding the lack of attention that his parents pay to their own grandchildren. We expand on what he could do to help and how to go about it.
Cathy discusses her experience with reading the book "Gone Girl" and why she may not finish reading it. We'll give you a hint- it's about filling your life with negative stories and how it will affect your your perception of everything else.
Other Resources:
Scratch Wireless is th phone and plan they got for the their daughter.
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Grief and Hope: Surviving pregnancy and infant loss- Part 2
Jun 13, 2014
In the second half of this 2 part interview, we continue the conversation between Aaron Krueger and Erin Kuhn-Krueger about their experience with multiple miscarriages and stillbirth. In this moving and inspiring interview they share their challenges, coping tools, and their strength and determination to become parents. This show is a must if you have experienced pregnancy or infant loss, or if you know someone who is trying to navigate the grief associated with baby loss. This is Part 2 of a two part interview with the Krueger family - Part 1 was aired on Friday, June 6th. Part 1 can be found here.
Erin has a website and blog called "Will Carry On". She shares her experiences and insights and offers resources and tools for other families in need.
Click here to hear an episode about Cathy and Todd's experience with miscarriage.
Click here to watch the movie "Return to Zero" about a couple's experience with stillbirth.
Other Resources:
Click the following links to purchase Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent Part 1 & and Part 2
Click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
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#Not All Men, #Yes All Women- Can Both Be True?
Jun 10, 2014
Of course there are plenty of men who are not misogynists, but that doesn't mean that women are not subjected to misognystic behavior. We have to take responsibility for ourselves and also recognize what we tolerate- our friends inappropriate jokes or behavior, the song lyrics we listen to, the movies we love, the people we idolize. And it's not just men, women need to recognize how they contribute - gossiping, judging, and disrespecting other women can add to the overall problem.
Todd gets on his soap box. There are numerous youtube clips, blogs, books articles helping and supporting the girls, but he is seeking more support for the boys. If we are going to make change, it can't be one sided. Girl empowerment is essential, but so is supporting boys in expressing their emotion. If we focused on both simultaneously, real change could occur.
They also discuss The Fault in our Stars and Malificient, two great summer movies.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=642lKXC97c4
Other Resources:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Don't forget about the webinar for Assessing the Risk Factors For Obstructive Sleep Apnea in Children. Register here.
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Grief and Hope: Surviving pregnancy and infant loss- Part 1
Jun 06, 2014
We speak with Aaron Krueger and Erin Kuhn-Krueger about their experience with multiple miscarriages and stillbirth. In this moving and inspiring interview they share their challenges, coping tools, and their strength and determination to become parents. This show is a must if you have experienced pregnancy or infant loss, or if you know someone who is trying to navigate the grief associated with baby loss. This is Part 1 of a two part interview with the Krueger family - Part 2 will air Friday, June 13th.
Erin has a website and blog called "Will Carry On". She shares her experiences and insights and offers resources and tools for other families in need.
Click here to hear an episode about Cathy and Todd's experience with miscarriage.
Click here to watch the movie "Return to Zero" about a couple's experience with stillbirth.
Other Resources:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Don't forget about the webinar for Assessing the Risk Factors For Obstructive Sleep Apnea in Children. Register here.
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Can you be a “friend” to your child?
Jun 03, 2014
Of course you are the parent and your role is important, but can you sometimes just drop the role and relate to your child as an individual? We break down the the role of parent to redefine what it means to support your child.
When your child comes to you with a problem, do you deal with the internal or the external? Most of us deal with the external - focus on how it looks and how to fix it. But do we consider what our child is feeling and experiencing? Instead of trying to "fix" the problem immediately, can we first:
Listen
Validate
Normalize
If we initially put more attention on the internal, our children we will be better able to hear our opinion and probable solutions.
Other Resources:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sk5qsmRyVcE
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. Don't forget about the webinar for Assessing the Risk Factors For Obstructive Sleep Apnea in Children. Register here.
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Happiness is an Inside Job
May 27, 2014
Do you want to be happy? Guess what, you've got the tools to do it! Happiness can be cultivated regardless of your childhood or genes - you just need to make it a daily priority! Shawn Achor is a Harvard Professor who teaches a class on how to be happy - research shows it comes from the INSIDE and has little to do with the external experiences. It's not about waiting to be happy until you find success, it's about being happy and then achieving success due to your happiness. Happiness comes from striving for something that has value, not the attainment.
Genes and environment can play a role in your everyday feelings, so you need to strengthen your happy muscles, you have the power! Here are a few specific steps you can take right now to make yourself more happy. Pick a few and practice for 21 days - see if it makes a difference:
Spend two minutes each day expressing gratitude either verbally or written.
Write about one meaningful thing that happened to you in the last 24 hours and provide as much detail as possible.
Exercise
Take two minutes a day and breath mindfully
If you do this, it will not only will you feel good, you will create a ripple effect of happiness all around you!
Other Resources:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
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“My name is Emerson and I love everybody.”
May 23, 2014
Did you know that May is Williams Syndrome Awareness Month?
Williams syndrome is a genetic condition characterized by medical problems, including cardiovascular disease, developmental delays, and learning disabilities. People with Williams Syndrome also tend to have enhanced verbal abilities, highly social personalities and an affinity for music. It effects 1 in 10,000 people worldwide – an estimated 20,000 to 30,000 people in the United States.
We interview Amy Connell-Donohue, the mother of 11 year old Emerson who was diagnosed with Williams Syndrome when she was 1. Amy shares her road to diagnosis and the challenges of finding out that your child is not typical. She also shares lessons from Emerson and says that she's the glue that holds the family together. Amy's article about her family is in the May issue of Chicago Parent, it's titled Having it All.
We know Emerson personally and she is dear to our heart! Learn more about Williams Syndrome here: http://williams-syndrome.org/
Whispering Trails Music Therapy Camp
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gF4DiqEdN3w
Other Resources:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
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Living consciousness and keeping our kids “busy”
May 20, 2014
Todd and Cathy discuss their disagreement over how "active" their kids should be in extracurricular activities. Keeping kids "busy" is connected to our past experiences and our need for constant productivity. It is essential that we see ourselves and our motives clearly when creating expectations for our children.
We also talk about some conscious parent foundational elements including self-awareness, mindfulness, and kindness. Conscious parenting is not a "technique", it's actually a way of living and relating to yourself and others.
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
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Pink Floyd’s “Mother” Can Help Us Understand Conscious Parenting
May 13, 2014
Mother do you think they'll drop the bomb? That's the first line in this epic song. We disect the lyrics and use it to help understand conscious parenting. Roger Water's song (on the show we use the Natalie Maines version) points out that parents can have the best intentions when "protecting" their children, but if done unconsciously, or with lack of self awareness, it can backfire.
Full Lyrics to Mother:
Mother do you think they'll drop the bomb
Mother do you think they'll like the song
Mother do you think they'll try to break my balls
Ooooh aah, Mother should I build a wall
Mother should I run for president
Mother should I trust the government
Mother will they put me in the firing line
Ooooh aah, is it just a waste of time
Hush now baby, baby don't you cry
Mama's gonna make all of your
Nightmares come true
Mama's gonna put all of her fears into you
Mama's gonna keep you right here
Under her wing
she won't let you fly but she might let you sing
Mama will keep baby cosy and warm
Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe
Of course Mama's gonna help build the wall
Mother do think she's good enough for me
Mother do think she's dangerous to me
Mother will she tear your little boy apart
Oooh aah, mother will she break my heart
Hush now baby, baby don't you cry
Mama's gonna check out all your girl friends for you
Mama won't let anyone dirty get through
Mama's gonna wait up till you get in
Mama will always find out where
You've been
Mamma's gonna keep baby healthy and clean
Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe Ooooh Babe
You'll always be a baby to me
Mother, did it need to be so high....
Our guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary is about to rocket into the Oprah stratosphere. She'll be on Oprah's Soul Series and Life Class on Sunday, May 18th. Time to set your DVR's.
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Todd & Cathy’s moms set the record straight
May 09, 2014
In honor of Mother's Day, we invited our moms to talk about what we were like as kids. We also talk about the changes that have taken place from the time they were kids (a.k.a. the olden days) to raising us in the 70's - we also discuss how their grandchildren are being raised. We get nostalgic and we have a lot of laughs. We love our moms!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUkE9qaVgmo&list=PLyfsVoKpa6Y3LqyDbc04-6M6V9rJETgt-
Our guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary is about to rocket into the Oprah stratosphere. She'll be on Oprah's Soul Series and Life Class on Sunday, May 18th. Time to set your DVR's.
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Natural consequences, cell phones, and sexting
May 06, 2014
What's the difference between punishment, discipline, and natural consequences? We discuss a few different events that happened in our house that allowed for natural consequences. Rather than using fear to punish, natural consequences help children understand and integrate a teaching.
We also discuss cell phone usage - specifically:
What is the correct age to give your access to a phone?
What conditions should be put on it?
Are we telling our children that we don't trust them if we ask them to look through all their messages?
There was a story in the Chicago Tribune about a middle school that had to deal with sexting. We discuss the different technologies surrounding kids and their phones.
Our guest Dr. Shefali Tsabary is about to rocket into the Oprah stratosphere. She'll be on Oprah's Soul Series and Life Class on Sunday, May 18th. Time to set your DVR's.
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs. 630-631-6844
Looking for a chirporactor? Give Dr. Kelly and the Tree of Life team a call to schedule an appt. 630-941-8733
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
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Do you ever feel like a fraud?
Apr 29, 2014
Most of us do. Why do we sometimes feel like fakes at work, at home, in the world? Why are we afraid that someone is going to figure out that we really don't know what we are doing? We discuss how this feeling plays into our parenting and how we can practice feeling as "real" as possible. We play a clip (below) from Amy Cudder's Ted Talk on self doubt and how to deal with it.
We also discuss our upcoming "The Good Life Virtual Retreat" . What does it mean to live a good life? It means to "shed the veils over our souls" (a quote from Elizabeth Lesser) and learn to live in love. Our retreat starts next week and we will practice "letting go" so we can actually notice all the goodness around us! You don't want to miss it, click here to register.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4xYENd02_E
Other notes:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
How important is a good smile? Just ask our new partner John J Kelly DDS. They are located on the northwest side of Chicago and will meet all of your family's dental needs.
Painting or remodeling? Don't forget about our parnter Avid Co.
Popular, I want to be Pop-U-lar
Apr 22, 2014
Do we want our kids to be popular? How important is this? What makes our kids popular? Is it athletic ability and physical stature or is it physical attractiveness and attention from the opposite sex? We share our perspective and discuss why parents play a role in how their children are perceived. We also use great 80's movies like Ferris Bueller's Day Off, The Breakfast Club, Pretty in Pink, & Revenge of the Nerds to make our "popular" points.
We are facilitating our next virtual retreat! It's called "The Good Life" and it's in celebration of Mother's Day. Register and gift the retreat to someone for FREE!
Other notes:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care have some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
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Pessimism, sibling rivalry, & a ressurected goldfish
Apr 15, 2014
Typically pessimists respond to problems by believing these three things:
It's Personal- They blame themselves for an event that has occurred.
It's Permanent- They think it will never get better.
It's Pervasive- They assume failure in one area of life means failure in life as a whole and that failure is happening everywhere and can't be stopped.
Do we carry some of these traits? Does it affect our parenting? We discuss this and offer options for turning these thoughts around.
We also discuss a few scenes from The Shawshank Redemption and Terms of Endearment.
We answer a listener's question regarding a rivalry between her two sons- (ages 8 and 10) and how we almost lost Goldie the goldfish.
We are facilitating our next virtual retreat! It's called "The Good Life" and it's in celebration of Mother's Day.
Youtube clips
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u4xYENd02_E&feature=youtu.be
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw
Other resources discussed on the show-
The 4 Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Other notes:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our Facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
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Outliving cancer with tears, wit, and grace
Apr 11, 2014
In this compelling interview, our friend Katie Weiss shares her breast cancer experience, starting with the fact that she was diagnosed at 35. Due to her age she is told her lump is probably nothing, but she walks us through the series of incidents that lead to the mind-numbing news that she indeed had breast cancer. Recently separated and with a three-year-old daughter at home, Katie takes us from diagnosis, to chemotherapy and finally recovery. Katie's storytelling is vulnerable, raw, and full of humor - we were laughing and crying a the same time! There is so much to learn from her amazing story, this podcast is a must listen!
Other notes:
Click here to find Cathy's books The Self-Aware Parent 1 & 2, click here to find her blog, and click here to find her Chicago Parent column.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
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Paternity Leave or Play Ball!
Apr 08, 2014
Is it manly to take paternity leave? When Daniel Murphy's (a player on the New York Mets) wife had a baby, he utilized the paternity leave that is allowed under the collective bargaining agreement set forth by Major League Baseball. But why is he being criticized? Is it "man code" to get back to work as soon as the birth is over? If we are a nation of family values, why do we place work over family?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbMFHX5iq
We also discuss Todd's blod titled, Am I a Bad Dad? Am I a Bad Husband? where he discusses "traditional" father/mother roles and whether it's nature, nurture, or gender (or all three?) that influence our ability to parent.
Lastly we review some previous podcasts titled Grieving a Miscarriage and The Business of Being Born and Honey, it’s time!
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
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8 ways to encourage mindfulness in your home
Apr 01, 2014
We discuss 8 different ways to help your children be more mindful:
1. Mindful breathing
2. Past/present/future
3. Take in the joy
4. Quiet time
5. Practice listening
6. Emotional awareness – feeling – asking questions about feelings
7. Gratitude – don’t judge what they are grateful for – role model
8. Do it yourself
We also discuss the idea of creeping separateness. This is when we "ignore the cracks" in a marriage. The little things that are done (or sometimes not done) which create distance between couples. We come up with a few practical ideas on how to fill those cracks.
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
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Do you walk the walk, or just talk the talk?
Mar 28, 2014
Our friends and neighbors Jeanne and Jeff Plaisted walk the walk. They decided that on their 15th anniversary they were going to do something special. Massages on the beach in Hawaii? Nope. A cruise through the Caribbean? Try again. They decided to make a difference. They stepped away from their day to day life and packed up for a two-week trip to Nicaragua. They were inspired by Spark Ventures, a Chicago-based nonprofit that partners with grassroots organizations to help children in developing countries.
They told us about their experience and how it changed their perception of our world. They also wanted to lead by example and teach their sons (3rd grade and 6th grade) what it means to be a global citizen. Their story is truly inspiring!
Todd has a few spots opening for his Men's Group. Email me @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Tree of Life Chiropractic Care has some interesting workshops planned. An outline can be found here.
If you shop Amazon by going through our website first (there is an amazon link on the bottom right hand of our home page), a portion of your sale will help fund our Be U program. Thanks for supporting us!
Check out our new website & be sure to sign up to get all new podcast sent direct to your inbox @ ZPR.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting
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Feeling overwhelmed? You’re not alone
Mar 25, 2014
We all know that most of us are overwhelmed. The question is- what do we do about it? Like most things- it begins with awareness. We get into a discussion based on a book by Brigid Schulte titled -Overwhelmed- Work, Love, & Play When No One Has The Time. We play some clips from an amazing interview she did with NPR's Terry Gross. Some of the highlights include:
The idea of "contaminated time"
Is there a different set of expectations between men and women when it comes to parenting?
We claim to be a culture of family values- Is this in alignment with the behaviors and policies we currently have?
Balancing the responsibilities of parenting between mom and dad
The dangers of being "fun dad"
The biology that men have in regards to being a nurturer.
Resources
Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh
A New Earth weekly interview with Oprah Winfrey and Eckhart Tolle
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Outliving Cancer with Tears, Wit, and Grace
Mar 23, 2014
In this compelling interview, our friend Katie Weiss shares her breast cancer experience, starting with the fact that she was diagnosed at 35. Due to her age she is told her lump is probably nothing, but she walks us through the series of incidents that lead to the mind-numbing news that she indeed had breast cancer. Recently separated and with a three-year-old daughter at home, Katie takes us from diagnosis, to chemotherapy and finally recovery. Katie's storytelling is vulnerable, raw, and full of humor - we were laughing and crying a the same time! There is so much to learn from her amazing story, this podcast is a must listen!
“Powerful Women Intimidate Me” ~Todd
Mar 18, 2014
Todd confesses that he still feels intimidated by powerful women in our society, and he uses Oprah and Hillary Clinton as examples. This leads to a discussion about the campaign created by Sheryl Sandberg called "Banning Bossy" The campaign is designed to empower female leadership by making us more conscious of the words we use to describe young girls as they assert themselves.
The confidence gap starts early- Between elementary and high school, girls’ self–esteem drops 3.5 times more than boys’.
Bossy holds girls back- Girls are twice as likely as boys to worry that leadership roles will make them seem “bossy.”
Girls get less airtime in class- They are called on less and interrupted more.
They also discuss Cathy's blog- "Banning Bossy: It's not about the word, it's about the conversation" and why this campaign (which has been ridiculed by bloggers and the media) is worth another look.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6dynbzMlCcw
Other topics include the value of partner vacations and why being away can bring you back to center.
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Why do certain people drive you crazy?
Mar 11, 2014
Why do we get "triggered" by certain people or circumstances? You could call it a "trigger", or you could call it a "thorn". A thorn is when you are disturbed because something you are experiencing feels similar to a negative (or uncomfortable, or unresolved, or painful) experience from the past. Instead of feeling/responding to something in present time, the experience can trigger old pain from the past. That makes the present experience feel like too much to bear, and you may respond in an inappropriate or over the top way.
An example is when you are driving and somebody cuts you off - you go from being calm to out of control very quickly, and most likely you are having a response based on old thoughts or experiences (that person thinks he's better than me, that person doesn't respect me, that person is a jerk driver just like that guy who hit me 10 years ago....). When we pull up all of that pain into a present-time situation, it's understandable why we go from 0-60 so quickly.
We played a few clips from an interview between Oprah Winfrey and Michael Singer who authored "The Untethered Soul" We discuss what our thorns are, why it's best to acknowledge them, and how best to remove them.
We also talk about one of the best guys in the world.
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Resources links
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HKDPBt2m_iE
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AuqemytQ5QA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xdDOPx2D8Y
“Leukemia Sucks” ~Maddy, Age 4, Cancer Survivor
Mar 07, 2014
"Leukemia messed with the wrong girl in November 2011 - my then almost two year old daughter, Maddy. That was when my family's journey with leukemia began...."~Erin and Dan McCarthy
Last month, Maddy became a SURVIVOR, after 2+ years of treatment. It was brutal - Maddy had 3 surgeries, over 50 rounds of outpatient chemotherapy (as well as hundreds of chemo meds at home), 10 spinal tap chemo injections, 4 blood transfusions, 12 ER visits, hair loss, 16 body scans, numerous inpatient admissions, and on and on..
Dan & Erin share their 2-year experience with their daughter's Leukemia and take us through all of the ups and downs of diagnosis, chemo, and what it means to be a survivor.
Dan has also been nominated as a person of the year by the Leukemia Society. Please consider donating (click here to find his page.) Every dollar counts as a vote, and we would love to see Dan receive this tremendous honor (not to mention raise a ton of $$ for cancer research)!
Erin is a professional photographer and if a listener books a session during the ten-week voting period, she will donate all costs to LLS. Find her website here.
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Want your kid to work for Google? Stop studying and start cultivating
Mar 04, 2014
There are 5 attributes Google, Inc. currently looks for when hiring an employee and guess what? The school you came from and your G.P.A. don't mean that much. In a New York Times article titled "How to Get a Job at Google" Thomas Friedman interviewed Laszlo Bock, the Senior Vice President of People Operations for Google and asks what they look for when hiring employees. Google determined that “G.P.A.’s are worthless as a criteria for hiring, and test scores are worthless. ... We found that they don’t predict anything.”
What does count?
General cognitive ability- and it’s not I.Q., it's learning ability.
Leadership — in particular emergent leadership as opposed to traditional leadership. Emergent leadership is described as "understanding when to assert your leadership qualities and just as importantly, when to step back and allow others to lead."
Humility and ownership- “It’s feeling the sense of responsibility, the sense of ownership, to step in,” he said, to try to solve any problem — and the humility to step back and embrace the better ideas of others.
Expertise
Be U, Inc.- Kids and Grownups Living from the Inside Out- We discuss the similarities between what Google is looking for and what our consciousness development system is all about.
What do you do when your kids are "fighting" and they're both right? We share a story of our two daughters having a serious disagreement, how they were both right, and how we navigated through the experience.
We also give our Oscar ballot results. Here's a clue- Todd was the runaway winner, but did some interesting "research" to get ready for the evening.
We also play this ultra-funny Saturday Night Live Commercial. Listen and enjoy.
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Dealing with an emotional child
Feb 25, 2014
How do we react when our children have an emotional response? Yes, there needs to be some boundaries on how our children treat us, but we must also be aware of our own triggers and take responsibility for the energy we bring. We share a recent experience when our daughter had an emotional response (let's just say it wasn't handled perfectly).
We also use the ocean as a metaphor to distinguish between fear and respect. The easier and quicker lesson is to teach fear, but is there a more effective way to communicate without passing fear down from one generation to the next?
Do you want your kids to like you more? Ask them to teach you something you don't know. I did this last weekend when I asked my girls to tell me about "Frozen". They lit up because they loved sharing a part of themselves (and teaching me in the process).
We also answer a few questions from some listeners whose partners have different parenting styles. We also talked about this in podcast our podcas titled "Are You On The Same Page As Your Spouse?"
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Adoption: 5 Kids, 3 Countries, 1 Family
Feb 21, 2014
Our friend Jenny Zabrocki shares her personal stories about her modern family. Jenny and her husband Jon had three biological children and then decided to adopt. They adopted a son, Mesfin, from Ethipoia and a daughter, Iris, from China. She helps us understand the challenges and celebrations surrounding the adoption process. Jenny's very honest and grounded way of sharing her story is an inspiration, and a reminder of how much each of us has to give.
Click here to read Jenny's "Live by Family" blog.
Resources:
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Parenting makes your brain mushy
Feb 19, 2014
Do you forget names or what you are going to say next? Do you walk into a room and forget why you are there? Don't fear- we can relate, and we also have some ideas to make your brain less mushy. There is a book called "Keep Your Brain Alive" that discusses Neurobics - these are ways to train your brain to stay alert and sharp.
Cathy just returned from a vacation and discusses its importance and how we put "fake" importance on our day to day activities. If we can all step back and re-prioritize we'd be in a much better place.
Lastly we discuss boys and the stigma against physical affection. A question came in from a listener about her 10 year old son being one way during the day and another way at night. Along the same lines, we discuss a blog written by Shannan Younger titled, "Thank you, Shaun White, for not medaling in the Olympics" Shaun White (famous snow-boarding Olympian) asks for a hug from another man in his moment of defeat.
Resources:
Mom Translator Skit- SNL
Keep Your Brain Alive by Lawrence Katz & Manning Rubin
Thank you, Shaun White, for not medaling in the Olympics
Lumosity- a simple online tool to improve cognitive function in various populations.
Jill Bolte Taylor's Ted Talk- A Stroke of Insight
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Do your kids show gratitude?
Feb 11, 2014
Last Friday night was "pizza & ice cream night" in our house. Nowhere to go, nothing to do other than watch the Olympics, eat some unhealthy but yummy food and spend some quality time together. At least that was the picture I had in my head for the evening. The problem was one of my daughters was not on board with MY plan and instead told me how bored she was and how she wanted to watch "Merlin". I instantly went to a place of judgement thinking- this kid has no idea how good she has it- pizza, ice cream, Olympics. I think about Slum Dog Millionaire when the children are looking through the trash heaps for something edible to eat. Cathy and I discuss this experience at length and give some ideas on how best to navigate through such a situation.
What would you do if your kid decided to switch from Spanish over to French? Well that's what mine did even though I view it as less practical. It was a test to my overly-logical view point as well as my parenting. How would you react?
We also discuss the book All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood by Jennifer Senior. The research now shows that we are busier than ever and how that can affect our psyche. We distinguish between helicopter parenting and being a "super" parent. Last we discuss how joy is one of the more difficult emotions to own.
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Working the Work Life Balance
Feb 07, 2014
We sit down with Amy Rodgers Duffin as she explains her tactics for striking that elusive balance of career/mom/wife. Some of the things she explains in this conversation...
I am not sure who came up with this term, but to most women, it’s something we dream about, but find it difficult to have. As valuable as a winning lottery ticket, achieving work life balance means that we would actually have the time to meet the expectations of our career AND have enough quality time for ourselves, our families and our hobbies so that we feel “balanced”.
The demands of work in this electronic, 24-7 iphone world are intense. Many jobs are not just 8-5 anymore, but open for business whenever our phones are turned on. Whether your career is managing a household or a role in Corporate America, achieving balance is more challenging than ever. However, there are ways that we can work to have a more balanced life so that we feel satisfied. Here are some tips to help:
1. Identify your Balance Activities
Identify the activities that you need to spend time doing to feel satisfied. This could be quality time with your kids, working out, time for crafts or a visit to the book store. Establish a targeted amount of time to spend on these activities that will make you feel good. It could be 30 minutes of special reading time with the kids, two workouts a week or a one hour trip to the bookstore. Be realistic with the amount of time that is feasible so that you can make it happen.
2. Plan a Schedule
Plan your week to include time for your balance activities. We schedule meetings, kid’s activities, business trips and dinner reservations and don’t think twice because it is a necessity to ensure it gets done. Scheduling time for balance activities will help to ensure that time is budgeted and available for you. Be protective of this time just as you would with your work or parenting activities.
3. Choose Quality over Quantity
Start with small and realistic timeframes for your targeted balance activity and ensure that the time you have is well spent and focused. You can feel immensely satisfied getting in one good workout or having special time with your kids where you are fully engaged. Learn to value the quality of the time you have over the quantity.
4. Leave the guilt behind
It’s important to recognize that having activities that “balance” us is a necessity to our mental health. Feeling guilty for taking the time away from work or your family to do things you enjoy is normal. Taking time out for your balance activities can greatly refresh you and ultimately make you better when you return to your work or family. Learning to give yourself permission for balance activities will help to replace guilt and frustration with satisfaction.
5. Own It!
I am a big believer that we have a large role in our own happiness, balance and success. Once you have a plan, you have to own it to make it successful. It takes discipline, conscious decision making and assertiveness to manage your plan. Work to develop this highly valuable skill –you can do it!
Ultimately, it takes a lot of “work” to manage your balance, but every step you take will make for a happier you. Please send your best tips on how you work your work life balance to Amy at workingwomenresources@gmail.com.
Lastly- we discussed a "wifes chart" from the 1930's.
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Who’s ready for some feedback?
Feb 04, 2014
When was the last time you asked somebody for feedback? Maybe from your partner, your work, or your kids? We discuss the importance of feedback, specifically how to give it, and how to receive it. We also discuss Phillip Seymour Hoffman's tragic death and how these real life situations can be discussed in the home (for children who are old enough to understand).
We end by talking to Kelly Pietrangeli from MyProjectMe.com Her website and Facebook page is for busy moms, and it's all about self care. The website is a toolbox for motivation, inspiration and solutions - it's a place to ‘check in’ with yourself and get back on the right track.
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Are you “sapping” your child’s development?
Jan 28, 2014
We talk about personal responsibility as well as Kathy Caprino's blog titled "7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders" A link to the blog is listed under "resources" below. The 7 beahaviors are:
1. We don’t let our children experience risk
2. We rescue too quickly
3. We rave too easily
4. We let guilt get in the way of leading well
5. We don’t share our past mistakes
6. We mistake intelligence, giftedness and influence for maturity
7. We don’t practice what we preach
We also answer a listener's question on how to not feel like a drill sargeant when she's getting her kids ready for school.
Resources
Kathy Caprino's blog- 7 Crippling Parenting Behaviors That Keep Children From Growing Into Leaders
Josh Becker's Podcast- I Simply Am Podcast
Po Bronson's Book- Nurture Shock
ZPR's archived podcast-Why Failure is a Good Thing
Asia's "Heat of the Moment"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDpPoytXVvo
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Has cancer touched your life?
Jan 24, 2014
Help is on the way! We interview a truly inspirational person- Jonny Immerman. At 26 years old, Jonny was diagnosed with testicular cancer and began his fight against the disease. Throughout his experience, Jonny was lucky enough to have loving support from his family and friends but had never met anyone his age who was a cancer survivor. He wanted to talk to someone just like him, someone who truly understood, and was intimately familiar with his experience. In short, he was looking for someone who had already beaten the same type of cancer. This was the beginning of Jonny’s vision and in 2003, it became a reality when he founded Imerman Angels.
Imerman Angels provides personalized connections that enable 1-on-1 support among cancer fighters, survivors and caregivers. Listen in and become inspired.
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Boys don’t talk a lot, and that’s OK
Jan 21, 2014
We discuss the importance of the inner world, specifically how this relates to preadolescent/teenage boys. They generally don't ask for help, but that doesn't mean they don't need support. We offer tips and guidance in how to understand and relate to "boy world". We also discuss the "innerscape" and "outerscape" of a person and why "remembering and forgetting" are part of the consciousness process.
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Virtual Relationship Retreat- For individuals, couples, friends, or the workplace. Practice self awareness, develop communication skills, and discover ways to create peaceful and more harmonious relationships. Click here for more details.
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10 Habits To Turn Your Marriage Around
Jan 14, 2014
In the first half of the show we discuss ideas a blog written by Dr. Mark Goulston on how to increase the happiness of your "couplehood" The 10 habits discussed:
1. Go to bed at the same time
2. Cultivate common interests
3. Walk hand in hand or side by side
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default
5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong
6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel
9. Do a “weather” check during the day
10. Be proud to be seen with your partner
The second half of the show we discuss a blog written by Kate Hunter titled " The Age Your Kids Need You Around The Most" Many times parents tend to take a less active role of parenting during the pre-adolecent stage as children begin to spread their wings. Many experts believe this is the time when they need us the most.
Todd also submits two entries into the Tournament of Bad- Golden Globes & the phrase "Happy Wife, Happy Life"
Resources discussed in this week's show:
Dr. Mark Goulston's blog 10 Habits of Happy Couples
Kate Hunter's blog "The Age Your Kids Need You Around The Most"
Hunter Clark's interview with Cathy on her "Yoga Stories" podcast
Todd's first blog "11 Mistakes Your marriage Needs You To Stop Making"
HeartMath's Power Of The Heart's Electromagnetic Field
Previous ZPR podcast which discussed the relationship b/w the heart and the brain "Respect for The Scarecrow & The Tin Man"
REMINDERS:
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Dr. Shefali Tsabary discusses her new book “Out of Control”
Jan 10, 2014
We interview Dr. Shefali Tsabary the author of the The Conscious Parent (with a forward written by the Dalai Lama) and her new book Out of Control which questions why and how we discipline children.
Some of the issues we discuss with Dr. Shefali:
- What are the first steps we can take to become a more conscious parent?
- What prevents us from being the parent that we want to be?
- Why most discipline strategies don't work. How parenting our children can help us heal our past wounds.
- How to release guilt when we recognize our parenting challenges are less about our children issues and more about our issues.
- Can our children be an instrument for our own personal growth?
- How do we release the power of natural consequences?
REMINDERS:
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10 Mistakes I Made as a Wife (And Why I’m Better For it)
Jan 07, 2014
It's Cathy's turn to share what she learned after 11 years of marriage. Her mistakes:
1. Being a martyr
2. Pretending to like things I didn't like
3. Not trying things I haven't tried (paradox)
4. Worrying about the small stuff (and not seeing the big stuff)5.Not trusting Todd's ability to parent
5. Wanting Todd to read my mind
6. Shutting down instead of saying what I felt
7. Not saying thank you and sorry
8. Not admitting to my mistakes
9. Not recognizing that letting go is the best way to love
In the second half of our show, we interview our new Partner, Hunter Clark from hunteryoga.com/zen. In our continual effort to provide resources to our listeners, we introduced Hunter's 28 day Daily Practice Immersion. This program will help our listeners develop a home yoga practice that will fit into your day; help you form the new, positive habit of self-care; and teach you practical ways to relieve stress and relax the body and mind.
The first 7 days are free so we encourage you to signup by going to hunteryoga.com/zen
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11 mistakes I have made as a husband (and why I’m better for it)
Dec 31, 2013
When I do the annual job of washing the windows in my house, I always say without exception, "I never realized they were that dirty." I can now see how green the trees are, how blue the sky is. We see the world through our own filter. Our soul needs to to be cleaned as well by doing things such as reading books, working with a therapist, meditating, taking a mindful walk, etc. These are all actions that can give us a better perception of the world.
Conversely—if you are filling your thoughts/heart with negative things, that is the world that you will see. If we can all make this shift, our lives will be happier because of it. We share some resources that may help including Mark Nope's "Book of Awakening" , Gary Chapman's "5 Love Languages" and the documentary Man on Wire (trailer is below).
In the second half of our show (22:48 mark) - I go over 11 mistakes I have made in my 11 years of being a husband. We discuss each one and share some stories. They are (in no particular order):
I made up for my ineptitude with grand gestures.
I spoke a different language.
I fixed her problems.
I thought we were the same.
I let her pass me by.
I did not put her on the calendar
I thought we were supposed to grow together.
I let things roll off my back.
I talked down to her in the presence of others.
I made a big deal when I did something nice.
I didn’t fight fair.
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Are we shortchanging men?
Dec 27, 2013
We interview Josh Becker, a teacher for Breakthrough for Men and host of the I Simply Am podcast. Breakthrough for Men is dedicated to making real change in the quality of men’s lives. We discuss why it's much more difficult to gather a group of men (vs. women) for the purpose of self exploration. Josh helps redefine the definition of manhood - society encourages men to be strong and not vulnerable, intelligent and not thoughtful, powerful and not beautiful. And men are using unhealthy coping mechanisms (alcohol, drugs, sex, gaming, gambling) to to deal with their unrecognized feelings and challenges. Josh can be found here and information on Breakthrough for Men can be found here.
How can women help men open up?
If and when your husband shows any sense of vulnerability, do not use it against them or make fun of them in any way, and create a safe and trusting environment for your husband to express emotions. Men need to know they're safe before opening up.
How can men open up?
Take a look at the people you surround yourself with. Is it based soley upon alcohol and sports? If you find that it's less fulfilling than it used to be, it might be time to find a group of men that have some other interest. Can't find one? Check this out - I Simply Am blog/podcast by Josh Becker
Todd, Cathy, & Josh play a random question game - find out their answers to these questions:
What is one thing you wish you knew 20 years ago that you know now?
Who is your favorite teacher?
How do you practice self-love?
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Speaking down to children and lessons from “Frozen”
Dec 24, 2013
We interview blogger/editor Ben Martin of The Good Men Project. We discuss his blog which asks the question Why is it socially acceptable to speak down to children when we would rarely (if ever) speak to another adult in the same way? Cathy also shares her thoughts on the lessons from the movie Frozen (the trailer can be found @ the bottom of this blog). This movie is all about self acceptance, shining as brightly as we can, and how to utilize our gifts.
Cathy and Todd shares some personal experience with feeling freedom after a personal breakup, miscarriages, and forgiveness.
We also preview Friday's Conversations With People We Love with Josh Becker.
Ben's blog can be found here.
We also discuss smaller items like google calendar, sleeping in movies, & walking out of movies, the poower of empathy (Brene Brown video clip below)
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Santa Clause Visits ZPR
Dec 17, 2013
Among the topics of todays podcast:
We discuss a blog title "Is Disney TV poisoning our kids"? Some people thinks so. Some shows are OK, whereas others are just not good for your kids to be watching. Where's the balance between prohibiting certain shows for your kids and letting them figure out for themselves what is good/bad and then having a discussion about the shows. We contrast the "perfection" of the female actresses of Disney TV vs. what was popular in our day such as the girls on Facts of Life or even current shows such as Modern Family. The blog can be found here
The badness of the cartoon "Might Mouse" and the goodness of Captain Caveman. See clips below-
Lastly Santa pays a visit to ZPR. What can I say, it's one of the more interesting interviews we have done. Santa shows up @ the 34:37 mark in the show.
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What is Soul to Soul Parenting?
Dec 13, 2013
We talk with Annie Burnside, author, blogger, and teacher who focuses on spiritual development for individuals and families. In this podcast we discuss the problem with parenting books, why personal growth is the key to parenting, and how to infuse spiritual language and lessons into digestible bites. Annie also talks about raising teenagers and the true definition of success. Towards the end of the show, we talk about the YouTube clip included below. Annie is the author of Soul to Soul Parenting and she offers Soul Circles in the Chicago area.
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Heroes & Forgiveness
Dec 10, 2013
The theme for this week is forgiveness (big and small) and heroes. Cathy and Todd talk about a mugger who apologized to his victim on facebook...35 years later. In the spirit of the holiday season they discuss other forms of forgiveness - to ourselves and others. They illustrate this with the story of the two monks. and they also talk a lot about Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer.
As we age, our heroes evolve - Todd's hero growing up was Walter Payton, but now he is in awe of others such as Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, and a man named Chuck Feeney. The story about their philanthropic efforts can be found here. We also discuss Nelson Mandela and Malala.
» Read more about the apologetic mugger here.
» Read more about the two monks here.
The documentary called The One percent is mentioned in which Jamie Johnson exposes the life of an heir to the Johnson & Johnson fortune.
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We also dedicate the show to the life and memory of Nelson Mandela. He is honored in part in this music video from U2
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4 Tips to Reduce Holiday Chaos
Dec 04, 2013
We discuss 4 ways to reduce your holiday stress: Dealing with family, How to cope with a case of the “shoulds”, Setting an intention for the holidays, Register for the 8 days of Holiday Calm Virtual Retreat. Todd features the first of four weekly shout outs to a a holiday movie. This week we feature National Lampoons Christmas Vacation.
The Tournament of Bad is in full force as we debate delaying the gratification by listening to holiday music after Thanksgiving – Cathy listens whenever she wants, Todd waits – what do you do?
We also play a touching clip that brings Cathy to tears
A support system for LGBT youth
Nov 29, 2013
We talk with Nancy Mullen, social worker, author, pastry chef, and advocate for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) youth. Nancy worked for several years in the HIV/AIDS field and shifted to her work with LGBT youth in 1998 as the executive director of a small, grassroots agency. She is a sought after public speaker on topics such as LGBT Youth and Adolescent Development and Current Trends in Working with LGBT Youth. She is a blogger and author of Urban Tidepool, a memoir that Nancy describes as “Reminiscent of Lemony Snicket’s “A Series of Unfortunate Events” with a gay twist, a helping of The Glass Castle and a hint of Erma Bombeck.”
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Let’s save Thursday for the turkeys
Nov 26, 2013
What is Thanksgiving about? Being with family or finding the best deal? Many retailers moved Black Friday deals up a day and now people are expected to work on Thanksgiving or they feel the need to shop instead of relax. We subscribe to not feeding into the frenzy – will you join us? We also discuss a book titled Triumphs of Experience by George Vaillant. The book is the longest longitudinal study of human development. Among the surprising findings: people who do well in old age did not necessarily do so well in midlife, and vice versa. We discuss more from the book and share a clip from the author. We learn a new idea from the author in which he states that the ability to take love in and metabolize it is the key to a successful life.
Other random stuff:
The Safety Dance, The Fabulous Thunderbirds, and Todd’s disdain for shopping and receving clothes as gifts.
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Three documentaries that will change your life!
Nov 19, 2013
We were inspired by a 60 Minutes segment about a group of billionaires who took “The Giving Pledge”. It’s headed up by Bill/Melinda Gates and Warren Buffet, and the only requirement is to give away at least half of your fortune. Sometimes it’s easy to look at the super rich and say, “Well if I was that rich, I would do the same thing.” The bottom line is that most people in the U.S. are rich compared to other people around the world. We must ask ourselves, are we doing everything we can to help others? The 60 Minutes is below.
One of the billionaires is a man named Jeffrey Skoll. He produces documentaries with the hopes to bring about social change. This led to a discussion about our own favorite documentaries with a link to the trailers below:
Girl Rising- The movie tells the stories of nine girls from nine countries. Their stories reflect their struggles to overcome societal or cultural barriers.
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I Am- In the film, Shadyac conducts interviews with scientists, religious leaders, environmentalists and philosophers including Desmond Tutu, Noam Chomsky, Lynne McTaggart, Elisabet Sahtouris, David Suzuki, Howard Zinn, and Thom Hartmann. The film asks two central questions: What’s Wrong With the World? and What Can We Do About it?. It is about “human connectedness, happiness, and the human spirit”,and explores themes including Darwinism, Western mores, loneliness, the economy, and the drive to war.
Get “I Am” here.
Miss Representation- The film interweaves stories from teenage girls with provocative interviews from the likes of Condoleezza Rice, Lisa Ling, Nancy Pelosi, Katie Couric, Rachel Maddow, Rosario Dawson, Dr. Jackson Katz, Dr. Jean Kilbourne, and Gloria Steinem to give an inside look at the media and its message. The film’s motto, “You can’t be what you can’t see,” underscores an implicit message that young women need and want positive role models, and that the media has thus far neglected its unique opportunity to provide them. The film includes a social action campaign to address change in policy, education and call for socially responsible business
Get “Miss Representation” on Netflix here
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Former bully turned teddy bear
Nov 15, 2013
Conversations With People We Love-
We interview a self admitted former bully. Mark Schultz is a friend and somebody who told Cathy and I that we had to watch the documentary Bullyand then interview him on his experiences as a former bully with the hopes that we can all learn a little bit from his experience. He shares with us how he became a bully and the unlikely person who showed up to change his ways.
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Bullying: Reaction to the Miami Dolphins situation
Nov 12, 2013
We are talking about bullying…. again, but this time it’s about the adults (Rich Incognito/Jonathan Martin story). We discuss “man code” and the culture of the NFL, but recognize that many cultures have a “code” that is expected to be kept. It’s easy to direct anger at the an individual, but we are reminded that most bullies were a victims at some point in their lives.
We also discuss end of life decisions as a result of a news story from last week. As Todd ages, he further differentiates the difference between one’s physical body, emotions, and heart. Are we our body? This video from Nick Vujicic might help inspire you.
Tournament of Bad- Todd takes issue with the new bubble wrap.
Finally we answered a question from a listener tring to recapture the closeness with her daughter that is eluding her.
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“Sons are so much easier than daughters”
Nov 05, 2013
Are you sure about that? Parents of boys say this to us a lot, but this can be a matter of experience or expectation. Sure, it may feel true in many situations, but not hearing a peep from your boys about anything doesn’t mean that nothing is going on – they may just be less comfortable expressing their emotions and asking for help.
Maybe a girl does become more frustrated or unsure about emotional experiences or relationships, but this is entirely normal and healthy. They are often more connected, tapped-in, and caring when it comes to people and life. Not such bad traits, right? Instead of telling them they are dramatic and oversensitive, let’s learn how to support, soothe, and guide them so they can feel good about their gifts and who they are. And when it comes to our boys, let’s allow for emotional expression and demonstrate that it’s OK to ask for help.
By the way- Todd gets frustrated when other men tell him about all the drama when it comes to raising daughters. The term “drama” carries a negative energy or something to avoid, so Cathy suggests “framing and naming”. We respond to something based on how we view it, so if we think girls are over dramatic, then we fight against or think it should be different. If we believe emotions are normal and that our job is support emotional expression, then we won’t be so triggered by our daughter’s emotional experiences. We can call our girls dramatic and oversensitive, or we can call them intuitive, connected, and heart-centered. Totally different response based on how we define them.
We also discussed a blog titled “He said he was leaving. She ignored him.” In it the writer takes a different approach to her marital issues and low and behold it worked. He tried to blame her for his pain and unload his own feelings onto her and she simply didn’t take it. Listen in to see how it all went down.
Finally we answered a question from a listener regarding her concern over her daughters’ modeling job. She was worried that the wrong message was being sent regarding her inner beauty vs her outer beauty.
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Passion vs Work – Striking the Right Balance
Nov 01, 2013
Do you ever feel like you don’t have time to live your passion? You are not alone. That’s why we invited Chicago musician Gerry O’Keefe to talk with us about living his passion while taking care of work and family business. We discuss how to keep your passion despite the responsibilities we have as a parent, employee, spouse, etc., his new album titled “Whatever Suits You”, Van Halen, David Cassidy, not allowing the negative to penetrate our mindset, and finally The Monkees
Be sure to listen in to a “sing-off” between amateur vocalist Todd Adams vs professional vocalist Gerry O’Keefe. Who wins? You decide.
If you live in Elmhurst, make sure you see Gerry O’Keefe perform at HB Jones on Saturday, November 9th at 7:30! It’s a fun and all-ages show.
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Why Failure is a Good Thing
Oct 29, 2013
Failure is important right? We learn a lot from failure, right? Then why do we try to protect our children from ever failing? We have a discussion between the relationship between failure, confidence, narcissism, self worth, etc. The people who have made the largest impact on our world had significant failures, too. We also discuss families who send their kids to an “athletic boarding school” Is this an effort to give their child the best opportunity to succeed, or is it deeper than that?
Don’t forget to listen in to our bi-monthly podcast called- “Conversations with People We Love” This week we speak with Chicago’s own singer/songwriter Gerry O’Keefe about the delicate balance between following your passion and responsibilities of work/family.
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Be afraid, be very afraid (or not)
Oct 22, 2013
In the Jewish tradition there are two different words that describe fear. The first is called Pachad- “projected or imagined fear,” or the “fear whose objects are imagined.” The second is called Yirah- the fear that overcomes us when we suddenly find ourselves in possession of considerably more energy than we are used to. We discuss the video below from Tara Sophia Mohr describing the differences.
We then discuss healthy ways to overcome fear:
Analyze your fear
Acknowledge it, name it, write it down. Keep a journal.
Define it contours- where did it begin? What triggers it? how does it affect you? What power does it have? Sometimes it can be healthy, recognize when it’s not.
Imagine the outcome you desire.
Take control of your fear
Baby steps
Deliberately encounter it. you might realize it’s not as bad as you thought. Be prepared to deal with failure
Ride the wave. If you’re doing something- keep the momentum going. Don’t give up. Don’t let others hold you back.
Change the way you think about fear
Make it a source of fascination. Learn from it. ask why it holds so much power
See it as an opportunity. Who would you be if you didn’t have this fear?
Give fear a place in your life
Let yourself be afraid. It’s an emotion just like joy or sadness. Go easy on yourself
Celebrate your victories
We also discussed inherent differences between men and women as it has to do with the decision on whether or not to shine.
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Want to raise a happy child?
Oct 18, 2013
Well, you’ve come to the right place. In our very first bi-monthly “Conversations with People we Love”, we talk with Heather Criswell, author of “How to Raise a Happy Child” . Crawl inside the mind of Heather, a noted “kid whisperer”, and see how she discovered (through 25 years and 30,000 children) what works with every child, in every situation, every time. Heather also shares some of her own struggles and she discusses how language can be particularly important when talking with your child, especially around issues such as body image. Heather is an inspiring person that you should know! We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com You can be sure to hear more by liking our facebook page @ https://www.facebook.com/ZenParenting You can subscribe to Cathy’s blog by going to http://www.chicagonow.com/self-aware-parent/ Thank you for listening!!!
Quit Telling Your Kids To Try Harder
Oct 15, 2013
Science now tells us that if we react to our children's "failures" with compassion instead of criticism, our kids will have a greater likelihood of succeeding. We discuss these ideas and the book Self Compassion by Kristin Neff.
We also discuss the different ways men and women measure acts of love. The good news for the guys is that we use a point system, the bad news is we haven't been keeping score the right way.
We announce the beginning of our bi-monthly installment of ZPR called, “Conversations of People We Love”. Our first show will debut on Friday, October 18th - we will talk with Heather Criswell- author of the book “How To Raise a Happy Child”
We also include a few entries into our tournament of bad.
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Are You On The Same Page As Your Spouse?
Oct 08, 2013
A listener emailed and said her husband becomes agitated when she discusses personal growth or suggests listening to our podcast. We discuss the importance of honoring where your partner is in this moment (maybe he doesn't want to listen to the podcast), and still speaking up about your own needs (but he can appreciate that you enjoy it). Change can be scary, but it's a necessary and normal part of everyday life. Self awareness is not always about being dissatisfied with yourself or others, it's about recognizing potential and being cognizant of everyday choices. This allows us to live from a place of peace and contentment.
Do you really know what Grand Theft Auto is really about? Are you aware that you get points for killing, selling drugs, and sleeping with prostitutes? We continue our conversation about the affect these games have on young minds. The insanity of it all is perfectly described in this Saturday Night Live segment.
We announce the beginning of our bi-monthly installment of ZPR called, “Conversations of People We Love” Our first show will debut on Friday, October 18th with a conversation with Heather Criswell- author of the book “How To Raise a Happy Child”
We also include a few entries into our tournament of bad.
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How to avoid the pitfalls of a traveling spouse
Oct 01, 2013
Do you have a spouse who travels? Are both the exit and reentry a challenge? Do you feel appreciated for what you do while your spouse is away, and does your spouse feel appreciated for the hard work involved in work travel? We discuss the importance of validation and communication when your partner travels, and why it's important to say what you need.
We also discuss the importance of prioritization and how we need to allow our partner to arrive at their own conclusions instead of forcing them to act. Todd recognized how his ego got in the way of a big decision, and he shares why and how he decided to shift.
We also discuss the genius of Louis CK as he talks about his kids, technology, and the importance of sadness. The entire clip can be found here. We also give some practical advice on how to curb our addiction to our phone, technology, ipad, etc written byAdina Kalish Neufeld. The entire article can be read here.
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Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on THIS Thursday, October 3rd
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What love language does your child speak?
Sep 25, 2013
We discuss the 5 different love languages based on a book by Gary Chapman. The discussion will help you decide your dominant love language and help you figure out the love language of your children (and spouse!). This can be the first step toward a deeper and more understanding relationship with your family.
Todd also discusses a feel good story about a homeless man named Glen James and what he did to change his own luck.
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Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on Thursday, October 3rd
Todd is running a Men's Adventure Retreat on March 7th thru 9th. Email comments@zenparentingradio.com for more information
Give us a review on iTunes and receive both of Cathy's books for 1/2 off by sending us an email.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
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Bringing kindness to the schools
Sep 17, 2013
We discuss “Rachel’s Challenge”, a presentation for schools that focuses on kindness and self-awareness. This program that has reached over 19,000,000 people. Each day 160,000 students do not go to school because they are bullied, teased and harassed. By turning the story of a tragic death at Columbine High School into a mission for change, Rachel's Challenge is helping create safer learning environments and making a world-wide impact.
Rachel's Challenge is a series of student empowering programs and strategies that equip students and adults to combat bullying and allay feelings of isolation and despair by creating a culture of kindness and compassion. The programs are based on the writings and life of 17 year-old Rachel Scott who was the first student killed at Columbine High School in 1999. Rachel left a legacy of reaching out to those who were different, who were picked on by others, or who were new at her school.
Within this discussion we discuss the 5 things we can do right now to become better parents:
Look for the best in others
Dream big
Choose positive influences
Speak with kindness
Start your own chain reaction
We also discuss Todd and Skylar's battle over a banana, and we answer an email from a listener whose 5 year old is struggling with going in the classroom during church.
Interested in having Cathy/Todd speak at your school or scout meeting? Email us @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on Thursday, October 3rd
Todd is running a Men's Adventure Retreat on March 7th thru 9th. Email comments@zenparentingradio.com for more information
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Are We Talking To Our Sons?
Sep 10, 2013
We discuss a blog titled The Conversation You Must Have With Your Sons by Carina Kolodny. One out of five college girls are sexually assaulted. As parents we do everything we can to help our daughters make smart decisions and stay out of difficult situations. Are we having conversations with our sons about making responsible decisions? Or does this kind of conversation feel unnecessary or uncomfortable?
Cathy fires back at the people who say the lyrics to Robin Thickes' “Blurred Lines” are not that bad.
We also play a clip from Dylan Garrity talking proclaiming the similar message in his own words.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_xHp5iTtWRc
We address three different questions in the email bag concerning:
Talking to other parent who speak a different language
A 3-1/2 year old who does not listen
A 3 year old son who “fake” cries
Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on Thursday, October 3rd
Todd is running a Men's Adventure Retreat on March 7th thru 9th. Email comments@zenparentingradio for more information
Give us a review on iTunes and receive both of Cathy's books for 1/2 off by sending us an email.
We would love to hear any comments from the show by sending us an email @ comments@zenparentingradio.com
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3 ways to help your child succeed in life
Sep 03, 2013
What does it mean to "succeed"? To us it means self awareness, connection to the whole, and sharing your gifts and talents. On this show we share a few ways to help your child find greater success.
1) (6:10) Send them to overnight camp. Benefits-
Give your child a sense of independence that is hard to duplicate in their normal day to day lives.
It’s a safe setting
They can “shed” their old selves and be who they are
There is less focus on appearance
It’s a place where children can feel grounded
They connect with nature
Give them a different set of social circles to count on when one is not going well
2) (17:35) Let your child be sad even when it doesn’t make sense
Todd tells a story of Camryn feeling homesick even though
Cathy’s blog- The three myths about introverts
3) (23:20) “Influence” who your child is friends with
Decide if a child/group either drain or fills your child up
The delicate balance between prohibiting and discouraging certain friendships
Understanding/connecting with other parents
4) Other Random Topics
(33:09) Friday the 13th discussion
(37:28) Resource of the week www.Kids-in-mind.com Evaluator of movies for kids
(39:35) Tournament of Bad
Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on Thursday, October 3rd
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5 Things That Happy People Do Differently
Aug 27, 2013
We discuss an article in Psychology Today titled What Happy People Do Differently
The Real Rewards of Risk- When anxiety is an optional state
A Blind Eye to Life's Vicissitudes- The benefit of seeing the forest but not the trees
The Unjealous Friend- We're buoyed by others' good fortune
A Time For Everything- The upside of negative emotions
The Well-Being Balancing Act- Pleasure and purpose work together
Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on Thursday, October 3rd
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Got back to school anxiety? You’re not alone
Aug 20, 2013
8 things to help deal with back to school anxiety
Why Ashton Kutcher’s stock skyrocketed for Todd
One man’s message to his daughter- “I hope you have great sex”
4:27 Anxiety is normal. Sometimes parents tell their kids not to feel anxious.
Listen
Ask questions
Be engaged
Own your role in the situation
Know you’re not alone
It gets easier
Advocate for your child in dealing with “inschool” sadness
Ask for support for teacher
12:16 Chidren’s disappointment with classroom assignments.
Todd balances understanding their disappointment with the privileges that our daughters enjoy.
Girl Rising Documentary
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BJsvklXhYaE
17:58 Ashton Kutcher gives an amazing speech @ the Teen Choice Awards
Opportunity looks a lot like hard work
Being Sexy
Build a life, don’t live one
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FNXwKGZHmDc
26:00 Different definitions of smart
Einstein quote- Everybody is a genius. But, if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it’ll spend its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
34:02 Oops I made a mistake, that’s all. (Cathy cries)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lB3fi7opDBc
36:29 Dear Daughter: I hope you have awesome sex by Ferrett Steinmetz
We discuss this blog and the differing opinions on it
44:28 Isn’t it Ironic? by Alanis Morisette
Should it be called something different
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jne9t8sHpUc
46:30 Tournament of Bad
Louisiana ladder- somebody actually won it
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IwlQ6bzCPL0
A Night Out for Moms-to-be! August 22nd 6:30-9:00
Reverend Ed Bacon coming to speak @ Dominican University on Thursday, October 3rd
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Hunger Games Camp- Good or Bad?
Aug 13, 2013
3 things every parent should know, Hunger Games Camp, & what Taylor Swift can teach our kids
It’s OK Not To Be OK
Aug 06, 2013
We discuss how feeling "bad", whether it's emotional or physical, is actually not so bad.
Should grief be a diagnosable disorder or is it normal human emotion?
Movie quotes from Airplane, Talladega Nights, and Billy Madison
Talking about patience as a virtue and Todd Todd sings "Patience" (G n Roses a cappella)
Time Stamp
.30 Looking at your kids illness differently
1:58 11 Things I wish every parent knew by Stephen Cowan
2:24 A symptom is the body's way of letting us know something has to change
9:30 The craziness of the temperature fluctuations of a pregnant woman
12:45 The gift of pain
15:30 Grief is a diagnosable disorder?
18:00 Free Parenting presentation on Monday, August 12th
21:10 Be Prepared and put your children in a position to succeed
24:15 Our daughters like to impersonate Cathy- our kids are absorbing everything (positive and negative) that's going on around them
26:26 Anger is a second tier emotion
28:36 Gary Zukav interpretation on anger
31:53 Be prepared and be patient with your illness
33:20 Differences ways we can view physical and mental illness (NAMI)
39:20 Tournament of Bad
42:45 Bis Markie a capella via Todd
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Upcoming FREE class at The Dailey Method, Elmhurst - Getting Ready for Junior High (for parents with kids 9 or older)
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Are You Addicted to Productivity?
Jul 30, 2013
Brene Brown's definition of Critical Awareness and dealing with our constant need to be productive.
Time Stamp
2:20 Critical awareness
4:08 Body Image
10:03 Todd's no shower story
15:15 Categorize and differentiating children's fears
19:10 Addicted to productivity
28:38 Debate on different definitions of meditation
33:03 #4 & #5- from Things I wish every parent knew
39:30 Kids are your your spiritual teachers
45:04 Tournament of Bad
Give us a review on iTunes and receive both of Cathy's books for 1/2 off by sending us an email.
Upcoming FREE class at The Dailey Method, Elmhurst - Getting Ready for Junior High (for parents with kids 9 or older)
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Is Your Son Wearing a Mask?
Jul 23, 2013
Topics:
We discuss the problems with society's version of masculinity vs. the hopes we have for our sons.
We also discuss a few of the 11 things one doctor wished every parent knew.
The Mask You Live In Trailer
11 Things I wish Every Parent Knew
Time Stamp:
1:05 Redefining Masculinity
2:38 Be U- Helping Children Become Emotionally Intelligent Leaders
5:15 Clip #1 from The Mask You Live In- society’s stereo-types of what it means to “be a man”
9:26 Clip #2 from The Mask You Live In- Statement from man who is in touch with his emotions
17:40 Ted talk clip
19:30 Clip #3 from The Mask You Live In- The word “Love” is not used in the household
24:26 11 Things I wish Every Parent Knew by Dr. Stephen Cowan
27:15 Growth and development are not a race.
30:28 Creating family traditions encourages strong roots and a healthy life.
35:00 We grow in cycles
38:12 The Cabin in the Woods Review
43:52 Link to get books for ½ off
45:08 Recap on “Be U”
45:47 Tournament of Bad
Links
Miss Representation Documentary Trailer
The Cabin in the Woods Trailer
Kevin Breel Ted Talk: Confessions of a Depressed Comic
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The Science of Happiness
Jul 16, 2013
The Science of happiness, fathers who expect more from their sons, and using medical marijuana for sick kids
Go Visit Your Parents Or Go To Jail
Jul 09, 2013
Turning your children's failures into positive experience, When children blur the lines between fact and opinion and how we can help them.
Become a better parent today by implementing 1 simple word
Jul 02, 2013
The word you need to incorporate into your parenting- "WAIT".
The “Spy” Mom- Is it OK to spy on your kids?
Jun 25, 2013
We have heard about spouses doing this to one another, but to their kids? Really?
Sibling Bullying Is It In Your House?
Jun 18, 2013
Bullying by a sibling can have long term effects. Get answers how to stop it.
Dealing with the Summertime Blues
Jun 12, 2013
It can start before summer vacation. But don't let it get you both down. Todd and Cathy have answers.
Learn how to develop your child’s Emotional Intelligence
Jun 05, 2013
Does your child know their value and importance? Can they work with others and manage their emotions?
Are you raising your kids to trust themselves?
May 28, 2013
If you aren't, you are missing the boat of being a parent but that's ok. We will dispense of some tips in this episode.
What If The “Good Old Days” Are Right Now?
May 21, 2013
They actually are and Todd and Cathy will help show you how to live them every day.
Sticks & Stones
May 15, 2013
Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me – is it true? We think yes, and we think no.
When is your child good enough?
May 08, 2013
Can you live with your child being good enough or do you need them to be perfect?
NBA Star- “I’m Gay”
Apr 30, 2013
Discover why this will help our culture to continue to evolve to be one of inclusiveness instead of one of exclusion.
The Butterfly Effect, how to teach your Children to create goodness in their lives
Apr 23, 2013
In the aftermath of the Boston Bombings there are many wonderful things we can show and teach our children
School recess rules- No yelling or running. Are you kidding me?
Apr 16, 2013
Recess Time! Everyone make sure they are quiet and in control of their bodies!
ADHD, Bullying Dads, & “Training” Your Kids
Apr 09, 2013
Todd and Cathy discuss ADHD, bullying dads and social norms.
Sibling Rivalry
Apr 02, 2013
Todd and Cathy talk about sibling rivalries, the family meeting and four different ways to open up to personal transformation.
Have you shamed your kid today? You are not alone.
Mar 26, 2013
This week Cathy and Todd discus Brene Brown's shame and vulnerability research. Ways to NOT respond, why some friends are easier to share with and more.
Are You Worrying Yourself Sick? Todd is.
Mar 19, 2013
Cathy (with the help of Brene Brown) helps Todd work through is worry of stress, money and fear making him sick. Also, how both positive & negative emotions can be good.
iPad, Throwing Snowballs at Cars, & “Roadhouse”
Mar 12, 2013
Is there an app for throwing snow balls at cars?
Learn how to help your child with the stress of standardized tests
Mar 05, 2013
Stress, Grades and Standardize Test, how to help your kids over come it, Todd talks about the HBO show "Girls", as well as helping your kids get a good night sleep.
Whose Choice is it anyway: the Parent or the Kid?
Feb 26, 2013
When "we" try out or get an A, do we really help our children? It's a clear cut answer.
Domestic Violence – it can happen to men
Feb 19, 2013
How does this type of domestic violence effect our children and their foundation of future relationships?
Learn how to discipline kids without humiliation
Feb 12, 2013
Because do you really think making your kid hold up a sign is going to help their confidence?
Love – is it Real or is it Fake?
Feb 05, 2013
1,2,3...explain love to me.
Teaching your son to “Be A Man”
Jan 29, 2013
Todd and Cathy discuss our cultures' perception of women, and how to help your sons grow up to be real(ly nice) men.
The Flu Shot and Lance Armstrong…what’s your opinion?
Jan 22, 2013
Taking care of your family and the flu.
Listening, Punishment, and our High School Police Stories
Jan 15, 2013
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of listening, inside and out. How yoga/quiet time can help our kids, and how listening to what our kids have to say (instead of being punishing and punitive) can help us be better parents.
Congress allowed “Violence Against Women Act” to lapse…what in the world is going on?
Jan 08, 2013
Todd and Cathy discuss violence against women in today's world.
3 Ways To Help Your Kids Shine This Year
Jan 02, 2013
2013 is the year to make both you and your family shine.
“Families are a tyranny run by their sickest member” – yes or no?
Dec 28, 2012
If you didn't have the good in depth conversation this holiday season with your family, why not start off the New Year with this beauty.
Love In The Midst Of Tragedy
Dec 18, 2012
Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of personal responsibility in the wake of a tragedy
How to Guide Our Sons, Death, & The Karate Kid
Dec 12, 2012
No gender is better than the other. Boys and girls can only fully love each when they empower each other.
Is the Universe Kind?
Dec 04, 2012
Is the universe kind or are we living in a world of Debbie Downers?
Zen Parenting Cross-Talk With Parenting Unplugged
Nov 27, 2012
We finally got a chance to talk face to face, this time in Portland at the Pagatim HQ
Rev Ed Bacon on Zen Parenting
Nov 20, 2012
Rev Ed Bacon talks about the 8 Habits of Love.
Think You’re Busy, Think Again
Nov 13, 2012
Thanksgiving is coming up, don't be to busy to stop and enjoy the moment
ZPR Talks Politics
Nov 06, 2012
Todd and Cathy go to the polls (as one might say) about how to talk with your kids and politics.
The “R” Word
Oct 30, 2012
Families come in all sizes, the important thing is finding out what size fits yours. Ann Coulter tweeted the r-word to describe the president. Cathy and Todd discuss the importance of letting go of the r-word.
Todd: “My Kids Are Spoiled And So Are Yours”
Oct 23, 2012
We speak about the brave young lady, Malala and her fight for education in the Middle East. How are we able to teach our children how lucky they are that they have access to education?
Do you “Lose Yourself” in family pictures (and Todd’s hangover stories)
Oct 16, 2012
Cathy and Todd discuss why moms don't like to be photographed, Todd shares a hangover story and they dive into the positives of a sending your kids to preschool.
Public humiliation and yelling in front of your kids
Oct 10, 2012
Some people believe that kids will get over it, we are here to inform you it's not that easy
Are your kids “needy”?
Oct 02, 2012
Are you the only parent who has to stay at the party or the sports practice? Do you feel like your kid needs your support all the time, but other kids don't seem to need their parents?
Human beings are naturally generous!
Sep 25, 2012
Just don't sit there and think about it or we will all be in trouble.
Zen Parenting Talks Judgement (Not Smails)
Sep 18, 2012
Judging is normal. All humans judge situations so they can better assess what to do next. BUT, we have to notice when we are judging and realize that our assessments aren't always correct.
Zen Parenting Talks Sports
Sep 11, 2012
When it comes to sports, do you encourage or push? Cathy and Todd discuss why supportive encouragement is great, but pushing can be harmful.
Women are better than men
Sep 04, 2012
Are girls "meaner" than boys? A lot of parents say this, but is it really true? Cathy and Todd discuss this and refer to Cathy's latest blog about why calling girls mean can be harmful.
Invasion of the Toddlers
Aug 28, 2012
What to do when your toddlers comes in the middle of the night. We talk about many different things you could try and our take of what worked for us and what didn't.
Pardon the Interruption
Aug 21, 2012
Don't you love it when you are trying to talk to someone or get something done and your kids won't leave you alone?
Are you a people pleaser?
Aug 14, 2012
Cathy and Todd chat about the difference between laws and principles, Cathy's migraines, how ridiculously great the OWN network is and how we can't please everyone all the time, not even your partner.
Quit Pushing “Self Help” On Your Partner
Aug 07, 2012
You want to grow, you want to learn, you want to more enlightened....that's great, but don't push it on the rest of the family!
Be Like Batman and Embrace Your Anger
Jul 31, 2012
Cathy and Todd discuss the role of anger plays for themselves and their children.
Children and Trauma
Jul 24, 2012
It's hard to treat boo-boos you can't see. Sometimes the best way to assist your child is to listen.
Love your neighbor, even when they make you mad
Jul 18, 2012
We could use a little more of this in our world today.
Zen Parenting talks boobs
Jul 10, 2012
Mammograms people! Get your mind out of the gutter. We also talk about "The Busy Trap" from the NY Times.
Why you shouldn’t want your kids to be happy
Jul 03, 2012
Todd and Cathy let you in on a little secret. This is really how you should want your children to feel.
Who lies more? – Men or Women
Jun 26, 2012
That's an easy one right? Or is it? Do politicians count?
Mindfulness, Waffles, & Road Rage
Jun 19, 2012
It almost sounds like ""baseball, hot dogs, apple pie". Todd and Cathy take on all three topics.
What does it mean to be “special”?
Jun 13, 2012
If every kid is special, then nobody is.
Adjusting to a summer schedule
Jun 05, 2012
Sounds fun, but it's not always easy
Spanking- Yay or Nay?
May 30, 2012
Do you remember this quote? "This is going to hurt me a lot more than it will hurt you."
I think we have a bad connection
May 23, 2012
No technology will fix this one. We have to go old school and that's the best way!
What to do if your kid is shy
May 15, 2012
Throwing them into the deep end didn't help them learn how to swim, so it's not going to work with this either.
Don’t over schedule your summer
May 08, 2012
Are you gearing up for summer? Cathy and Todd discuss striking a balance between activities and downtime.
Do you say “good girl” or “bad boy”?
May 02, 2012
Either way and you may be sending a different message altogether
Boys vs. Girls
Apr 25, 2012
They wear different clothes. They play with different toys. Yes, they play sports differently. But how? Todd explains.
This just in…don’t tell your children you are proud of them!
Apr 17, 2012
Yes, you read that right.
Over scheduling kids and allowing for boredom
Apr 11, 2012
It's an always moving and doing world. Sometimes the best move is nothing at all.
F-bombs vs Kids Killing Kids- Which gets an “R” Rating?
Apr 04, 2012
This is about much more than who can see this film in the theater. This is hurting future generations.
Dealing With Bullies
Mar 27, 2012
Let's talk about the documentary and how kids can really fight back
Are you in the “middle place”?
Mar 20, 2012
Sometimes being this position can be the most beautiful time of your life.
All your questions… answered
Mar 14, 2012
Well, almost all of them, except for that one about Todd's High School Flock of Seagulls hairdo...
Do you “Rush” to judgment?
Mar 07, 2012
Yes, Rush has apologized, but that’s after a lot people spoke up and said “this is not OK” – how do we “speak up” in our life without bringing anger to anger?
Would you rather have your kids be a fan of Katy or Taylor?
Feb 28, 2012
One screams for certain behavior while the other stands for something totally different. Can you see the difference?
Edward vs Todd
Feb 21, 2012
Are you a giver? Or, are you an OVER giver? Do you give too much and forget to keep some for yourself?
What do you mean by “love”?
Feb 14, 2012
No! It's not the birds and the bees talk your parents failed so miserably at delivering in your youth. This is the real thing!
Ah, the French…first the Statue of Liberty and now they are better parents?
Feb 07, 2012
I thought all they gave us was Pepe Le Pew and Police Inspector Jacques Clouseau.
Things I wish somebody told me before becoming a dad
Jan 31, 2012
It wouldn't have stopped me, but as Dad used to say, "A little knowledge is a very good thing."
Emotional Vomit Declares Victory!
Jan 24, 2012
And why wouldn't we? It's our show.
Don’t let yourself become Mr. Vernon!
Jan 18, 2012
Don't forget that we were all once John Bender, Andrew, Allison, Claire or Brian even if our names were Judd, Emilio, Ally, Molly or Anthony.
Zen Parenting vs. Parenting Unplugged
Jan 10, 2012
Who will come out on top? Who has the strongest uppercut? Will it be a draw?
Understanding Father/Son Issues
Jan 04, 2012
We are not just tossing around a baseball in the backyard on this episode.
Is your husband less “manly” because he cares for your kids?
Dec 27, 2011
He can bring home the bacon. Fry it up in the pan, and never let you forget he's the man...Can you name that tune?
‘Tis the season… to get parts stolen off your car
Dec 20, 2011
Well, at least he stole is nicely. Seriously. It may be the nicest thief ever.
I don’t care if you’re terrified, smile and tell Santa what you want
Dec 13, 2011
If you look close enough, you'll see it's actually Santa who is crying in this picture.
Here’s your popcorn, enjoy the show, and by the way, you are an idiot!
Dec 06, 2011
Todd talks tough in this one, can he back it up?
Releasing negative emotions
Nov 29, 2011
Just because we seem happy all the time doesn't mean we don't have. Find out how we get rid of them!
Gratitude and the truth about anger
Nov 22, 2011
This is the perfect show to listen to just before you have to deal with the Mother in Law! :)
Reflections on Penn State
Nov 16, 2011
Say it ain't so Joe! Why couldn't you help keep our children safe?
Teaching our kids to love themselves without being vain
Nov 09, 2011
You will not learn who Carly Simon is singing about in this episode...
What you really feel is in your heart
Nov 02, 2011
It seems so simple but sometimes it can be the hardest thing to accept.
The Forced Apology – a path to peace?
Oct 25, 2011
Or just a piece of the path that leads to frustration, resentment and ultimately more headaches for you.
Handling disagreements between you and your child
Oct 18, 2011
It doesn't have to be this painful. If you are willing and open, it can be the best disagreement you've ever had.
Sweetness in Life: Lessons from Walter Payton
Oct 12, 2011
He may not have scored a TD or made a first down every time he touched the ball, but that doesn't mean we can't learn from him.
Stop time, Stay Present, Enjoy the Moments
Oct 04, 2011
Think you can do that? This could make your parenting issue disappear as quickly as 1...2...3
Do Not Tell Your Kids How Smart They Are
Sep 28, 2011
Honestly! They already know.
Are you worried that your child is a conformist?
Sep 20, 2011
Why being a leader is not all it is cracked up to be.
How do we handle our children’s fears?
Sep 13, 2011
It's time we overcome our own fears and get there together, so in the end we all feel safe.
Do tantrums freak you out?
Sep 06, 2011
Maybe you are approaching the child having one the wrong way. ZP can help! Resources are inside :)
Grieving a Miscarriage and The Business of Being Born
Aug 30, 2011
Everyone takes their own personal journey but does need love and support along the way
Honey, it’s time!
Aug 23, 2011
The real game starts now! What did Todd and Cathy have planned and what have they learned.
What to do if your kids are anxious about school
Aug 16, 2011
It doesn't help when you explain what a wedgie and swirly is and tell them how many you got.
Stay present for your children
Aug 09, 2011
It may be the simplest advice you ever receive and the hardest to follow
Maybe you don’t know everything about your partner….
Aug 03, 2011
In this episode Cathy and Todd ask each other deep questions and surprise each other with their answers
Improve your relationships by focusing on the strengths
Jul 27, 2011
Leave the knit picking to the monkeys
What are your children really trying to say?
Jul 20, 2011
Because what came out of their mouth's might make your parents turn over in their graves. "But I'm not dead yet." Bet you can't name that message below.
Is something really “wrong” with your child?
Jul 13, 2011
Or is there something wrong with us?
Do You Know What Your Children Are Playing?
Jul 05, 2011
Video games are winning, while our children are losing
Is it a disorder, or is it child-like behavior?
Jun 28, 2011
Are pills really the answer?
Are Fruity Pebbles on the Pyramid chart?
Jun 21, 2011
Of course they are, right below me Lucky Charms!
Don’t just do something, sit there!
Jun 14, 2011
Learn how to really integrate this wisdom into your daily routine.
They’re not for you, they’re for my baby!
Jun 07, 2011
Breastfeeding: all in favor, raise your hand!
Moms’ way? No way! This is YOUR family
May 31, 2011
It’s time to find your own way of doing things….yes, your family did it “this” way, but now you are starting a new family.
Can you be present for their pain?
May 24, 2011
Or does it just hurt too much?
Cathy discusses paradigm shifts, Todd still doesn’t understand what a paradigm shift is…..
May 18, 2011
Well, at least we spelled the word correctly
You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned
May 11, 2011
Now if that doesn't sound Zen, I don't know what does.
It Turns Out…Furry Blue Monster is Scary To 2 Year Olds
May 03, 2011
Gee, who would have guessed that? Is there another way to help the kids get over their fears?
The Race To Nowhere- What Do Our Children REALLY Need?
Apr 26, 2011
It's time to shut the books and focus on emotional intelligence
“Dad, You want to have a catch?”
Apr 20, 2011
Sure, but just wait until I am dead. Oh, and you are going to have to do a few things first...
Are you modeling a healthy relationship with money for your children?
Apr 12, 2011
In this "installment", Cathy and Todd discuss money and how it impacts the family.
Respect for the Scarecrow and the Tin Man
Apr 05, 2011
Do you parent from the Head or the Heart? Can these two work together?
In The Words Of David Putty… “That’s Right”
Mar 30, 2011
But wait a minute, Putty was a Devils fan, and I don't think Todd and Cathy are dumping on the Blackhawks or the Bulls anytime soon.
No More Nagging!
Mar 22, 2011
Find your own joy and watch all your relationships improve
Get Busy Living, or Get Busy Dying
Mar 15, 2011
Why are Todd and Cathy talking this way? This episode unveils something new about these two.
It’s Not What Happens, It’s How You Deal With It
Mar 09, 2011
Don't even let you mom try to convince you otherwise
Let Your Kids Struggle
Mar 01, 2011
To a point, because it may be the best thing you can do for them.
How do YOU feel about sex?
Feb 22, 2011
Before talking to your kids about sex, you better know how you feel about it.
Stop Looking At Me!!
Feb 15, 2011
Why do our kids say such mean things to us sometimes?
Todd’s cheap and instead of writing loving words in cards he draws pictures of boxmen….
Feb 09, 2011
How some Hallmark cards execs passed on this I will never know
Why don’t wives know better?
Feb 01, 2011
We will get the job done, just maybe not the way they would.
TV/Movie Dads- We tell you ours. Who are yours?
Jan 25, 2011
Does anyone really wonder why Al Bundy is not on the short list?
It’s time to scream some of this anger out!
Jan 18, 2011
Nothing like screaming at the ocean!
Men are indeed from Mars…..
Jan 11, 2011
but are women really from Venus? And if we are not from the same planet, how do we communicate?
It’s the best 4 letter word in parenting
Jan 05, 2011
Our elders might be turning over in their graves if they saw us parenting this way but...
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