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LaShaude and Dorianna James explore how the gospel strengthens marriages by fostering heaven on earth, emphasizing forgiveness and rejecting perfection. They advocate for modeling relationships after Jesus' love, promoting forgiveness and deeper spiritual connections.
04:16 - Understanding the Gospel's Impact: Experiencing Heaven on Earth
06:35 - The Power of Gospel Understanding: Creating Paradise in Marriage
08:57 - Reflecting God's Love: How Forgiveness Transforms Relationships
11:37 - Role of Forgiveness: Overcoming Resentment in Marriage
14:49 - Gospel's Solution: Addressing Selfishness, Fear, and Laziness
18:00 - The Gospel as a Role Model: Influencing Marital Dynamics
21:41 - Conclusion & Engagement: Resources for Enhanced Marital Bonds
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In this episode, you'll discover tips to reignite passion and overcome obstacles, unraveling the secrets behind nurturing an enduring connection.
Timestamps:
08:38 - Surpass Apathy, Nurture Love
09:31 - Realize Your Marriage Dream Board
10:31 - Break Free from Ignorance's Grip
11:57 - Craft a Vision for Remarkable Relationships
13:18 - Discover True Relationship Wealth
14:17 - Seek Wisdom in Marriage Models
15:41 - Elevate Your Marriage: Extraordinary!
17:01 - Expand Imagination for Relationship Blessings
18:00 - Journey Beyond Familiar Relationship Paths
19:21 - Reimagine God's Plan for Your Marriage
20:17 - Embrace a Boundless Vision for Love
21:41 - Unfold God's Plan for Your Relationship
23:36 - Unveil Miracles in Your Marriage
24:27 - Redefine Relationship Boundaries
25:50 - Open Doors to Divine Relationship Growth
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This episode delves into the profound essence of intimacy, guiding listeners through the transformative power of vulnerability in relationships. It offers insights on shedding masks and embracing authenticity, fostering stronger connections. The discussions touch on the importance of genuine community, encouraging listeners to create safe spaces for emotional expression and growth. It navigates the complexities of intimacy, spanning beyond physicality to encompass emotional, financial, and spiritual aspects. With tangible examples and relatable anecdotes, it equips individuals with tools to cultivate openness, trust, and grace in their relationships. Ultimately, this episode serves as a roadmap for fostering deeper connections and experiencing the richness of genuine intimacy in all facets of life.
Below are some detailed timestamps. Feel free to HOP in wherever! <3
00:00 - Introduction, Setting the Stage
00:26 - Encouragement to Download, Introduction of Hosts
00:54 - Reflection on Podcast Evolution and Material Sharing
01:24 - Reflecting on the Last Episode's Depth
01:50 - Banter on Parenting and Topic Introduction: Fear of Intimacy
02:19 - Exploring Fear of Intimacy in Relationships
03:18 - Concealing True Selves, Withholding in Relationships
04:13 - Importance of Being Fully Known for Full Love
05:11 - Gospel's Role in Allowing Openness in Relationships
06:08 - Encouraging Intimacy with God's People and Spouse
07:03 - Experience of Love Within Community and Marriage
07:31 - Impact of Vulnerability in Strengthening Relationships
07:56 - Battling Enemy's Lies through Openness and Community
08:54 - Strengthening Against Enemy's Attacks Through Support
09:50 - Importance of Genuine Christian Community
10:19 - Experiencing God's Grace Through Community
10:47 - Actively Participating in a Godly Community
11:16 - Fighting for Authenticity in Relationships
11:44 - Shedding Secrecy to Embrace Vulnerability
12:11 - Overcoming Past Family Dynamics for Intimacy
12:39 - Consistently Pushing for Emotional Openness
13:03 - Creating Safe Spaces for Vulnerability
13:27 - Cultivating a Safe Place for Emotional Expression
13:56 - Integrity and Wholeness Through Openness
14:26 - Addressing the Tiring Facade of Secrecy
14:44 - Biblical Perspective on Wholeness and Intimacy
15:11 - Analogies of Wearing Fig Leaves in Relationships
15:35 - Encouragement to Drop the Mask, Embrace Fullness
16:03 - Establishing a Groundwork for Intimacy
16:33 - Ensuring Forgiveness and Grace in Relationships
17:00 - Initiating Tough Conversations for Intimacy
17:30 - Encouraging Full Disclosure and Support
17:59 - Cultivating an Environment of Forgiveness
18:23 - Embracing Imperfections and Growth Together
18:51 - Transition to Defining Intimacy
19:19 - Into-Me-See: Defining True Intimacy
19:41 - Intimacy Beyond Physical Connection
20:08 - Sharing Vulnerabilities, Insecurities, and Stories
20:35 - Intimacy in Financial and Emotional Sharing
21:05 - Aim for Progress, Not Perfection
21:34 - Building a Relationship Rooted in Trust
22:02 - Encouraging Openness in Marriage
22:26 - Preparation for Uncomfortable Conversations
22:55 - Embracing Fullness in Relationships
23:22 - Dive into Intimacy's Core Meaning
23:51 - Beyond Transactional Relationships
24:20 - Fighting for Emotional Transparency
24:49 - Acknowledging Challenges in Vulnerability
25:19 - Various Forms of Intimacy to Explore
25:49 - Conclusion & Encouragement for Intimacy
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[02:17] Some Scripture
[02:58] Don't Be A Fool
[03:55] Report vs Rapport
[04:20] Destination vs Journey
[05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them
[08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster
[10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application
[11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This
[12:20] Intimacy In Conversations
[13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night
[13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift
[14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse?
[18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd
Discover the beauty of marriage through the lens of faith! In this episode, we'll explore how shared beliefs and prioritizing each other are strengthened by faith. Uncover invaluable tips on building a resilient, loving bond, navigating challenges, and experiencing the profound impact of including God in your marriage.
05:09 - How to Understand the Impact of Selfishness on Oneness
07:58 - How to Prioritize Your Spouse's Spiritual Growth
10:20 - How to Trust God's Work in Your Spouse's Life
12:04 - How to Develop Spiritual Rhythms Together
16:22 - Conclusion: How to Focus on Overcoming Selfishness & Personal Growth
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What does forgiveness, grace, & ACCOUNTABILITY look like when your spouse cheats?
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In this episode you'll learn:
How EVERYONE needs boundaries with people of the opposite sex.
The goal is not celibacy or just not cheating. The real goal is...
How community keeps your relationships safe.
...and so much more!
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How God can use one spouse to save the most toxic failing marriages in the world!
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invite your spouse to read the books that you're reading and they won't do it
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you're just beating your head against the wall
you're destined to fail because you feel like it takes two to tango but your spouse is not moving whatsoever
you feel like a fool because your spouse is making you look bad in front of your friends and your friends are telling you you should quit
you want to treat your spouse the way that they treat you
Scripture:
And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and truth" (John 1:14).
Or do you despise the riches of his kindness, restraint, and patience, not recognizing that God’s kindness is intended to lead you to repentance? (Romans 2:4)
We love him, because he first loved us. (1 John 4:19)
but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)
This is an episode that we recorded for the Phenomenal Family Inner Circle back in 2020, but it's still 🔥. Enjoy!
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2. I loved my wife even though I cheated? What? How???
3. God used this terrible event to lead me to Him.
4. It gets better. It gets better than ever.
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[04:05] Learn The O2 Prayer
[05:00] How To Ask Good Follow-up Questions
[09:30] What is Discipleship?
[12:25] Do You Know Your Spouse's Obstacles and Opportunities?
[13:30] Getting To Know Your Host
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[02:17] Some Scripture
[02:58] Don't Be A Fool
[03:55] Report vs Rapport
[04:20] Destination vs Journey
[05:19] What Happened To Them & In Them
[08:27] The Train VS The Rollercoaster
[10:00] Questions For Reflection & Action Steps For Application
[11:00] Our Best Conversations Have This
[12:20] Intimacy In Conversations
[13:05] I'm Too Tired To Talk At Night
[13:55] Be A Man (or Woman) Of The Second Shift
[14:55] Do You Give Your Best To Everyone But Your Spouse?
[18:30] Dorianna Makes It Wierd
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[02:00] What is "Christian community"?
[04:55] The Power Of Accountability
[06:00] Scripture On Christian Community
[08:20] I Want God In My Marriage
[09:20] God Works Through His People
[11:05] The Gifts Of God In Our Marriage
[19:15] You Need Intimacy In Your Small Group
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[09:40] Intention Beats Accuracy
[13:57] God is Still There When You're Not "Productive"
[17:30] My Worth Is Set By God
[19:12] Humans' First Day At Work
[21:42] We Fight Against Our Limits
[24:53] You're Trying to Control Your Spouse
[27:42] A Podcast/Book Is Not Your Savior
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In this episode, you will learn …
✅[01:20] How To Have Hard Conversations With Your Spouse
✅ [02:45] Jesus used Teachings, Stories, and Questions
✅ [04:45] Atomesphese, Story Question Method of Asking Perfect Questions
✅ [05:21] Don't Argue Via Text Messages
✅ [07:55] Don't ask LOADED Questions
✅ [09:20] Narrative Transportation AKA Storytelling
✅ [12:53] Intimacy is INTO-ME-SEE
✅ [18:15] Communication Tips From an FBI Negotiators
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In this episode, you will learn …
✅[05:45] Ask For What You Want
✅ [07:40] Your Marriage Should Be Bathed In Prayer
✅ [09:00] Sitting With Your Father Is Never a Waste of Time.
✅ [10:45] Trust What's Happening Under The Surface
✅ [13:30] The Best Intimacy Advice We Have Is....
✅ [15:45] Your spouse studies differently than you.
✅ [18:37] Your Marriage Will Get EXPOSED
✅ [19:10] Children Will Expose You
✅ [20:50] Being sleepy is like being drunk?!? Don't fight drunk!?!
✅ [24:20] Is Your Spouse A Stay At Home Parent?
✅ [30:20] Why Does Everything Cause An Argument
✅ [34:25] How To Build Up Your Spouse With Love
✅ [40:30] There Is Data For Your "Unique" Dilemma
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✅How To Encourage Your Family To Sing Out To God
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In this episode, you will learn …
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✅The best apology is changed behavior.
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✅ How To Turn Thorns Into Roses!
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✅[21:30] How ALL conflict can be turned into a good exchange.
✅[25:30] The 5 Rs to Repair a Conflict
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In this episode, we explore how quarantine has affected your marriage!
In this episode, you will learn …
1. This Pandemic is a magnifier 🔍 of where you're really at in your marriage and life. It exposed where we really were.
2. Sin is a 🦠 virus and cancer and seed that grows if not taken care of. The silent treatment is like pouring gas on the fire or letting a weed grow in your garden.
3. There's an opportunity in this solitude. You could cultivate an intimacy that will support you in 2021.
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In this episode, you will learn …
1. We must help our spouse move from Unbelief To Belief in every area of their life.
2. Don't give your spouse so many compliments and criticism/corrections. They need to be reminded of the covenant relationship they have with God in Christ more than they need your words.
3. Use the 4 G's to help them know their identity in Christ.
God is great – so we don’t have to be in control
God is glorious – so we don’t have to fear others
God is good – so we don’t have to look elsewhere
God is gracious – so we don’t have to prove ourselves
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In this episode, you will learn …
1. Disciples Make Disciples (It's not our pastor's job... it's on us)
2. It's NOT family or mission... It's Family On Mission
3. Integration > Addition. We don't add disciple-making into our schedule we integrate it into our lives.
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2. Write down what's important. Develop an ideal week on paper and on purpose.
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In this episode, you will learn …
1. Jesus cares about Justice.
2. Cast Your Votes. Using your voice to promote black people (and policies that support black people) into positions where they can make decisions for our community.
3. Advocate For The Arts. Intentionally consuming and supporting films, books, shows, and news outlets that portray black people in a fair and accurate way.
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In this episode, you will learn …
1. Cheating comes from our hearts. It's not the other spouse's fault.
2. Faithfulness is a learned behavior. You need safeguards to help you stay pure.
3. It is not the end. This could be the start of your new honest open real relationship.
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3 Big Ideas:
1. Policing Your Spouse Only Trains Them To Hide
2. Change the Dynamic of How Truth Is Confessed
3. Pray and Trust God With the Unconfessed Secret Parts Of Your Relationship
Colossians 3:16 - Let the Word of Christ dwell in you richly in all WISDOM; teaching and admonishing one another...
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3 Big Ideas:
✅The best apology is changed behavior. Changed behavior comes from God. You can change.
✅We forgive even though we still remember. Forgiving someone does not mean you no longer feel the pain of their offense.
✅Extend the same forgiveness that you've been given. God in Christ forgave us by absorbing in himself the destructive and painful consequences of our sin against him.
Ephesians 4:32 And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.
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In this episode, you will learn …
✅ We need obedience-driven discipleship, not curriculum-driven discipleship. We all know more scripture than we apply.
✅ We should ask and answer, "What is God saying to you?". This is a question we should all be asking each other. Observe. Reflect. Discuss.
✅ We need to ask and answer, "What are you going to do about it?". This is a question we should all be asking each other. Plan. Have Accountability. Act.
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[02:00] Phenomenal Family Shoutouts
[03:45] How to know the difference between curriculum-driven discipleship versus obedience-driven discipleship.
[05:45] How do I OBSERVE what God is saying to me?
[06:15] How do I OBSERVE what God is saying to me in scripture?
[07:15] God speaking can feel like a speed bump. (see Jonah 1:4)
[08:35] God speaking can feel like a brick wall. (Acts 16:6)
[09:45] God speaking can feel like a window.
[10:15] God speaking can feel like a mirror. (Luke 15:17-20)
[10:45] How do I REFLECT and DISCUSS what God it saying to me?
[13:45] How do I PLAN what I'm going to do about it?
[17:45] We need ACCOUNTABILITY.
[21:00] We must ACT. Matthew 7:24-29
[22:30] Recap
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[02:00] What is the simplified process of buying a house? Is it complicated?
[03:15] How much money do you need in your bank account in order to buy a house?
[04:30] Why go to FB and IG first?
[05:00] What is equity and why should you understand it?
[06:30] Your money is better spent growing in your home than growing in your bank account.
[07:00] Renting vs Buying a Home
[08:30] Securing the Bag means keeping the bag by not paying rent forever. Pay yourself by purchasing a home.
[09:00] Check out the home you’re going to buy at different times of the day
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[12:00] How long do I have to stay in a house if I buy it? What’s the process of selling?
[17:00] What are some successful ways to profit from real estate? What if I’m not married?
[19:00] Recap
[21:00] Lighting Round Questions
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[03:30] #1 You don't know how to limit frustrations in your marriage.
[08:30] #2 You don't have a shared family budget for your time or your money.
[12:00] #3 You don't have a core mission or vision for your family.
[16:00] Revised James Family Mission Statement
[18:00] #4 You don't have agreed-upon rules for when you fight.
[22:00] #5 You believe that once you get married you'll live "happily ever after".
[23:30] #6 You believe that your marriage will solve personal problems that only God can fix.[26:30] #7 You stonewall when arguing.
[30:00] #8 You criticize or attack your spouse's character instead of the behavior their doing.
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In this episode, you will learn …
✅ Pleasure without boundaries quickly turns dark. This episode will teach you why and how to set healthy boundaries with people outside your marriage.
✅Don't fulfill legitimate needs in illegitimate ways.
✅Any friendships without boundaries quickly turns dark.
✅Don't put yourself in tough situations to have to make tough decisions.
✅Sometimes the best way to say no is to not give yourself the opportunity to say yes.
✅Don't use the "brother/ sister in Christ" vocabulary to allow you to put yourself in intimate situations.
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1. Because of the gospel, Christians have become new creations (2 Corinthians 5:17).
2. Because of the gospel, we are forgiven (Ephesians 1:7).
3. Because of the gospel, we can forgive, just as Christ forgave us (Ephesians 4:32).
4. Because of the gospel, we are accepted by God.
5. Because of the gospel, sin's ruling power over us is broken (Romans 6:6, 14).
6. Because of the gospel, we have access to God through Christ (Hebrews 4:14-16).
7. Because of the gospel, we have hope (Romans 5:1-4).
8. Because of the gospel, Christ dwells in us by his Holy Spirit (Galatians 3:13-14).
9. Because of the gospel, we have the power to fight and overcome remaining sin.
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[18:30] It’s never too early to plan. What should parents do each year to start planning for life after high school?
[22:00] So you have a junior or senior in high school and no money saved for college. What do you say to that parent?
[24:30] What’s some advice parents can give to their kids so that they can be successful once they’re in college.
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Do you want to learn 7 Tips To Deal With In-Laws?
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[04:15] Work With Your Spouse
[05:45] Set Boundaries and Limits. This is where you can use your family's core values.
[11:00] Enforce the Boundaries and Limits
[16:15] Important ACTION STEP
[18:00] Communicate Directly
[23:00] Know Yourself and Be Yourself
[24:20] Honor the Relationship between your spouse and your in-laws
[25:50] Don't Fumble the Inheritance
[29:15] Quick Recap and Action Steps
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6 Things That Submission is Not
[04:15] Submission doesn't mean always agreeing with your husband
[06:45] Don't pay the submit date on your wife!
[7:10] Submission does not mean leaving your brain at the altar.
Exodus 4:25 Proverbs 31:16
[11:15] Submission does not mean you do not try to influence your husband.
[15:15] Submission is not putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.
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[18:45] Submission does not mean getting all of her spiritual strength through her husband.
[20:40] Submission does not mean living or acting in fear.
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✅ [01:20] 8 Tips For Words of Affirmation
✅ [11:50] A Special Game We Play
✅ [13:00] 7 Tips For Quality Time
✅ [18:50] 9 Receiving Gifts
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This is a valuable conversation about our personal experience with pornography and how God has delivered us from its grasp. This episode is for anyone overcoming this habit or someone who is striving with people overcoming this habit. This is our most powerful and transparent episode to date.
[02:00] What was the allure?
[05:00] What was the effect of watching Darkflix?
[09:45] When did you make that decision to stop?
[12:00] How did God save us from Darkflix?
[21:00] What if my spouse watches Darkflix?
[23:00] How to deal with the shame?
[28:00] What would you say to someone trying to be free?
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We describe 3 core values that saved our marriage from a HEATED argument. You'll want to hear them all and how we applied them!
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[02:00] What qualities should I look for in a spouse? From Proverbs 31
-Does this person follow through on his word?
-Does this person make you stronger?
-Is this person hard-working?
-Is this person generous and hospitable?
-Is this person wise?
-Does this person trust Jesus
[05:00] What happened?!?!
[07:30] Core Value: Don’t make permanent decisions based on temporary feelings.
[08:00] Core Value: Truth has a time and a vehicle.
[10:00] Core Value: We operate on God’s Time and God’s Dime.
[12:30] Mission Statement: Reflect God Reflect Greatness
[15:15] Bonus: Blame and Shame in Marriage
[17:15] Recap & 3 HW Assignments
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In this episode, we explore the 5 love languages.
[01:30] How to keep your God as your source instead of your spouse?
[09:30] Why should we study the 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman?
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[11:15] What are the 5 emotional Love Languages?
l. Words of affirmation – using words to build up the other person. “
2. Gifts – a gift says, “He was thinking about me. Look what he got for me.”
3. Acts of Service – Doing something for your spouse that you know they would like. For example, cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service.
4. Quality time – by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention. Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and listening.
5. Physical touch-holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
[13:30] Why are they called different “Languages”? If you have to communicate with another person and you don’t speak their language it’s just pointing grunting and broken communication. No matter how hard you try to communicate love in your primary language IF you don’t speak your spouse's language it will not translate into them feeling loved.
[14:30] Marriage Confession = We did not speak each other’s language.
[20:20] Who cares... Love is love, right? No. Being sincere is not enough. We must be willing to learn our spouse's primary love languages and choose to love them in their language for a long period of time (without conditions). Learn your language to effectively share with your spouse what you want.
[21:30]Where can they find the test? Take the Love Languages Quiz. Find out yours and your spouses. Link in description. https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
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[08:30] What are 5 tips to survive the Honeymoon Phase? How should we go through the honeymoon phase?
1. Be aware of your mental state.
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3. Base your boundaries and commitments on God's word.
4. Redefine love to mean sacrifice.
5. Constant isn’t common. See constant consistency as concrete and steadfastness. It’s sexy!
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This episode is all about securing the bag.
A budget doesn't limit your freedom. A budget gives you freedom. It's permission to spend. It allows you to give generously, spend wisely and save for the future
I enjoy being on the same page as Lashaude. Being able to agree on goals with him and as a team see our goal accomplished.
"Baby Step 1" and the others were fun for me to accomplish. It made me feel like we were a couple moving forward and getting stuff done.
-It'll take about 3 months to get the budget consistent.
- We were made to be a river, not a reservoir. Blessings were meant to flow through you not just to you. They are from God through you to others.
Hurt people hurt people. Blessed people bless people
-Stewardship means "We own nothing.“
"Every faculty you have, your power of thinking or of moving your limbs from moment to moment, is given you by God. If you devoted every moment of your whole life exclusively to His service, you could not give Him anything that was not in a sense His own already."
– C. S. Lewis, Mere Christianity
A budget puts your money on a mission. You can have more fun with a plan than you can without one. If you fail to plan then you plan to fail.
Saving $1000 is not for if something happens but WHEN something happens. These are wise healthy habits that inheriting wealth can’t teach you.
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We analyze the vows that I made to my wife. We reflect on the purpose and plan we expressed on our wedding day. Also, my wife grades me on my performance so far.
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[02:20] What’s the topic for today? How the past is poisoning the present.
[03:00] Don’t believe the myth that you and your spouse both agree on the expectations for your marriage. Instead, remember that the more openly you work to express these expectations the more you can manage expectations.
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[04:20] The expectations you bring into the marriage need to be expressed.
[05:35] What are the unspoken expectations that you have in your marriage? How are could they be negatively affecting or frustrating your marriage?
[06:40] It’s never to late to reevaluate the expectations that you have for your marriage with your spouse.
[06:50] What to do when you start to find out your spouse isn’t meeting your expectations?
[07:50] How are you going to manage your expectations? Frustration = unmet expectations.
[09:20] Your overall personal well being does affect your marriage. What personal challenges have you brought into the marriage but have neglected to address?
Overall well-being is a measure of emotional and spiritual health of the individuals within the marriage. A couple's relationship can only be as healthy as the two individuals within a relationship. Trying to build high levels of intimacy with others before you've properly managed your own emotional spiritual health is dangerous. This is where many couples find themselves searching for a spouse to complete them.
Marriage mathematics is not 2 halves make a whole it’s two (whole) people coming together as one.
Marriage mathematics should be two whole people become one (1+1=2) not two halves becoming one( ½ + ½ = 1).
[09:15] Podcast Giveaway Winners!
You don't want to put your spouse in a position the God was intended to feel. There's a certain level of healing reserved for God to perform not your spouse.
[15:05] Mutual empathy for one another can be the number one tool to resolve or avoid most conflicts within marriage.
[15:50] Here we discuss one of the best ideas we have for handling conflict.
1. Listen to their complaint.
2. Respond with “What I hear you saying is___.Am I right?”
3. If wrong go DIRECTLY back to step #1.
You don’t have to “win” or finish an argument on the spot. When needed ask for time to craft an appropriate response.
[18:20] Marriage is a process of leaving and cleaving.
Ephesians 5:31- "For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."
[20:20] Top Flight Security of the World Craig!
[24:00] In what areas of your life do you feel that you need personal healing? How can your spouse best support your healing?
[24:20] Embrace the process of learning your REAL spouse. Are you committed to learning and loving your REAL spouse?
[25:00] Two reason’s you don’t know your REAL spouse. (1) They put their “best foot forward” while dating. (2) There are parts of your spouse that were (properly) not shared with you while dating.
[24:30] How To Enter The Giveaway
[30:35] Disenchantment can lead to REAL intimacy.We want to be 100% known AND 100% loved.
[32:35] The God we serve FULLY knows us and FULLY loves us. He aint leaving you! Philippians 1:6
[35:21] LaShaude’s Marriage Confession