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Latest Episodes:

Summer Somatic Reset: High-Performance Leadership Without Engaging in Hustle Culture Jul 29, 2025

Show notes

In episode two of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores how high-performing leaders can shift from leading through scarcity and fear to embodying leadership rooted in safety and abundance. She unpacks the common traits of many high achievers, how the drive to succeed often stems from survival instincts formed in childhood, the toll this can take over time, and how parts work and nervous system regulation can pave the way for sustainable leadership.
Through practical somatic tools and real-life examples, Sarah offers a path to more life-giving leadership rooted in nervous system regulation, nourishment, and the steady presence of your adult self. Whether you’re leading a company or your own healing journey, this episode will help you shift from striving to thriving so you can lead without sacrificing your wellbeing!

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] The journey to life-giving high-performance leadership
[01:25] What it looks like to be a high achiever
[06:01] How striving protective parts drive high achievers
[12:44] What happens when protective parts become problematic
[14:17] How constant striving adversely impacts ourselves and others
[18:45] Learning to lead from our adult selves, not our younger parts
[22:44] How to reparent our younger parts and retrain our nervous systems
[25:45] The importance of prioritizing nourishment, even when it’s challenging
[32:33] Other focus areas for high achievers, like learning to rely on others
[35:26] Why people are drawn to regulated leaders
[40:00] Question 1: Feeling in your power and not getting derailed
[45:19] Question 2: Starting, running, and sustaining a successful business
[50:54] Question 3: Navigating imposter syndrome from a somatic perspective

Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:

Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!

All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.

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Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System? Jul 22, 2025

Show notes

In this first episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions in relationships: Is this person wrong for me, or is it my nervous system? Sarah shares how attachment wounds, protective parts, and nervous system patterns shape our experience of love, and why good things don’t always feel good at first.

Through guided practices and personal insights, Sarah invites you to explore how to differentiate between old protective patterns and present-day truth, empowering you to build relational capacity, deepen self-trust, and recognize what truly supports growth and connection.

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] The truth behind relationship confusion
[01:43] Why good things often don’t feel good at first
[03:59] Cultural myths that keep us stuck in romantic uncertainty
[06:23] How neuroception links past wounding to present experience
[10:05] The importance of building capacity inside a relationship
[13:06] A guided practice to access your adult self and discern relationship truth
[23:19] The mirror effect: How relationships reveal our growth edges
[26:12] Recognizing when you’re in a protective part versus your adult self
[30:35] What it feels like when a relationship is right (and why it may still feel uncomfortable)
[35:23] When is a relationship wrong? Growth, safety, values, and relational polarity
[41:59] Understanding boredom as a relational signal
[44:49] Question 1: Building capacity and checking in with your truth daily
[48:41] Question 2: Breaking patterns by giving your younger parts the love they lacked
[51:49] Question 3: Reparenting our parts to build attraction and receive healthy love

Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:
Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!
All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.
bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway

Connect with Sarah on:

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Getting to Know Freeze: How This Self-Protective State Shows Up in Dating, at Work, and More Jul 15, 2025

Show notes

Many of us know what it feels like to be stuck, wanting to move forward in life but somehow unable to. This is often an indication we’re in freeze—one of the most misunderstood forms of nervous system dysregulation. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the freeze response: what it is, why it happens, and how it shows up in everything from our relationships to our purpose.

Freeze is not laziness or weakness, but a deeply adaptive survival response. Drawing on neuroscience and compassionate insight, Sarah offers powerful somatic tools to gently help you come out of dysregulation and into safety. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of overthinking, avoidance, or self-doubt—this episode will give you a roadmap for stepping toward the life you desire.

Episode Highlights:

00:00 Intro

00:24 Freeze & The Autonomic Nervous System

03:25 Chronic Dysregulation Takes A Lot of Energy

06:21 Characteristics of Freeze

12:50 How We Experience Freeze In Our Relationships

17:32 Tools to Heal Your Relationships

22:44 How Younger Parts Show Up in Relationships

25:08 How We Experience Freeze in Our Purpose

31:01 Coming Closer to Regulation

36:30 Question 1 - “Why Can’t I Step Toward Dating?”

41:26 Question 2 - “How Do I Get Out of a Deep State of Freeze?”

47:06 Question 3 - “Why Am I Dysregulated So Often?”

Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.

Everyone on the waitlist will receive access to limited-time pricing:

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How Childhood Trauma Impacts Our Present Lives Jul 08, 2025

Show notes

Our early childhood experiences leave a lasting imprint on how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us—often in ways we don’t even realize. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how childhood trauma can shape our nervous system, attachment style, and even our health, and why the self-protective patterns we developed early on often leave us feeling stuck in our adult lives.

Using neuroscience and real-life examples, Sarah will guide you toward tangible tools to address your nervous system and come to the aid of younger parts. Whether you had loving parents who didn’t always get it right or caregivers who were harmful or dangerous, this episode will help you to heal the past and step toward your future with more ease and empowerment.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 Childhood Shapes Who You Become

01:36 How Adverse Childhood Experiences Affect Our Adult Lives

07:53 Understanding Adaptive Attachment Styles

11:50 The Origin of Our Younger Parts

16:03 How Childhood Parts Show Up in Adult Life

20:22 Your Nervous System Picks Your Romantic Partners

24:02 How Our Deepest Desires Become the Path to Healing

31:55 Question 1 - Why Do I Feel More Activation As I Heal?

36:25 Question 2 - Are My Struggles with Dating Rooted in the Past?

41:11 Question 3 - Why Don’t I Feel Anything About a Past Trauma?

Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

Everyone on the waitlist will receive access to limited-time pricing:

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Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

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Getting Your Needs Met: Shifting from Codependency and Hyper-Independence to Interdependence Jul 01, 2025

Show notes

We all have needs. But what happens when we stop listening to them, or never learned how to in the first place? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us through the heart of relational healing: learning how to get our needs met.

With tenderness and clarity, she unpacks how early attachment wounds shape our ability to express, feel, or even recognize our needs, leading many of us into cycles of codependency, hyper-independence, or invisible exhaustion. From the helpers who give too much to the ones who learned to stay small and silent, Sarah explores the nervous system patterns that keep us stuck in survival, disconnected from true intimacy.

Through the lens of somatics and parts work, she introduces a compassionate roadmap toward interdependence: a relational experience where we can be fully ourselves and fully connected. It's not about being needy, it’s about being human.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 We All Have Needs

03:25 Understanding Codependency

08:42 Different Roles of Codependency

12:41 Hyper-Independence

20:31 Unseen and Unknown

22:07 Interdependence

26:10 Getting Your Needs Met

39:33 Question #1 - How to Reshape the Nervous System

48:08 Question #2 - Hypervigilant Younger Parts with Deep Wounding

57:15 Question #3 - Loving Inquiry

01:04:49 Question #4 - Young Part Bargain

Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re wanting practical tools and live support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week live program.

All waitlisters get access to limited-time reduced pricing. Click the link below to learn more.

https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What is Burnout? And How Do We Break the Cycle? Jun 24, 2025

Show notes

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight—it’s what happens when we chronically override our nervous system. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah draws upon both Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work to explain what burnout really is, and how our protective parts often push us to keep going, even when our body is begging us to pause.

Packed with tangible somatic tools, this episode will guide you toward healing through small, tolerable steps and simple lifestyle changes. If you’re experiencing burnout, please know you are not broken. This is simply a sign your system is being pushed beyond its limits, and with the right care, it’s absolutely possible to heal.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:40 Hierarchy of Your Autonomic Nervous System

08:55 3 Primary Reasons for Burnout

15:47 What We Neglect in Burnout

22:07 Chronic Fatigue & Shutdown

24:27 The Healing Power of Walking

26:33 Building a Supportive Nighttime Routine

30:11 Why Lifestyle Change Is Essential

38:34 Question #1: How to Find Your Community

43:31 Question #2: When Work Becomes Your Whole Life

48:47 Question #3: Does Your Reaction Match the Circumstance?

Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.

Everyone on the waitlist will receive access to limited-time pricing:

https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist

Connect with Sarah on:

Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter

Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/

Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Heartbreak, Grief and Moving On Using Parts Work Jun 17, 2025

Show notes

Breakups aren’t just hard—they can feel completely disorienting, terrifying, or even impossible. That’s because we’re often not only grieving the end of a relationship as our adult self, we’re also navigating the pain, fear, and longing of our younger parts.

In this episode of You Make Sense, we’ll explore why it can feel so difficult to leave or let go, even when we know deep down that a relationship is no longer right for us. Together, we’ll walk through how heartbreak reactivates old wounds, why love can feel confusing or even threatening to our protective parts, and how to begin creating the safety necessary to take our next right step.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:40 Signs It May Be Time to End a Relationship

07:32 How Dysregulation Can Keep You Stuck

13:36 How Do I Know If This Relationship Is Right for Me?

17:03 Anchoring Into Our Adult Selves

26:26 Your Partner Can’t Be a Perfect Parent to Your Parts

31:21 Why It's So Hard to Let Go of a Relationship That's Ended

35:14 Processing Grief

41:11 Question 1 - Healing in the Midst of Grief and Dysregulation

46:59 Question 2 - Accessing Healthy Aggression After Betrayal

50:57 Question 3 - Why It Can Feel So Hard to Leave

Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:

Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.

Click the link below to download the workbook:

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From Confusion to Clarity: A Path Back to Your Internal Knowing and Truth Jun 10, 2025

Show notes

Do you ever feel like you’ve lost touch with what’s true for you? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us back to our internal truth—the quiet, steady knowing that lives within the body. She explores why so many of us lose contact with our truth and instead outsource decisions to others. Through powerful stories and somatic insights, she offers a compassionate roadmap for reconnecting with the wisdom that has always been there, waiting to be heard.

You’ll learn how to begin distinguishing between intuition and a trauma response, while also getting tangible tools to help guide you back toward your truth based in the present moment. Whether you're questioning a relationship, your career path, or simply wanting to feel more at home in your life and body, this conversation will help you transform confusion into clarity.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:47 Your Internal Truth and Knowing

04:40 2 Reasons We Lose Contact with Our Truth

15:31 Distinguishing Between Intuition and A Trauma Response

22:45 What’s True in This Moment?

25:38 Truth from Adult Self vs. A Younger Part

31:09 How to Come Back into Your Embodied Experience

36:41 Question #1 - 2 Things to Remember About Intuition

51:26 Question #2 - Identifying Your Parts

59:13 Question #3 - Is This Job Right For Me?

Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:

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When You Stop Choosing Yourself: How Self-Abandonment Turns into Resentment Jun 03, 2025

Show notes

What if the key to thriving isn’t in pushing harder, but in understanding the ways your nervous system brilliantly learned to protect you? In this episode, we will explore how self-abandonment is an adaptive response many of us found, often in early childhood, to maintain safety, belonging, or connection. Sarah unpacks why this pattern, while protective, can also lead to resentment in our relationships, work, and sense of self.

Through the lens of the nervous system and attachment, she shares how chronic giving without receiving can disrupt our internal balance and impact our emotional, physical, and relational well-being. Drawing parallels from nature's rhythm of give-and-receive, Sarah reminds us that honoring our needs isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. When we stop abandoning ourselves, we start making space for deeper connection, creativity, and vitality.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:15 What Is Self-Abandonment?

03:34 Receiving Is a Natural Part of a Child’s Development

06:10 Having Needs is Not a Weakness

07:58 How Self-Abandonment Shows Up in Our Adult Life

13:15 Long-Term Effects of Self-Abandonment

15:37 The “As If” Tool

17:24 Identify and Connect with Your Resentment

21:02 Communicate Your Needs in a Tolerable Way

23:20 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself

24:48 Question #1 - Rescuing Others Isn't Your Job

28:31 Question #2 - Self-Care and Nourishing Yourself

32:01 Question #3 - Getting to Know Your Doer Part

Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:

Want more science-backed tools? Take her free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck?” to learn more about your nervous system specific to you. You’ll get a downloadable worksheet and personalized guide to help you feel better in your body and life.

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Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/

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What To Do When Life Doesn't Happen on Your Timeline May 27, 2025

Show notes

What if you’re not behind at all, but right on time for the life that’s uniquely yours? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores the emotional weight of unmet timelines and how grief, comparison, and trauma can leave us feeling stuck or wondering if we’ll ever get “there”. She guides you through why things might not be unfolding as quickly—or in the exact order—you might have hoped for, and how to begin finding purpose and power right here in the waiting.

Together we’ll explore how to work at the level of your nervous system to create the internal safety that makes expansion possible so you can meet your life with more trust, presence, and ease. This episode is a loving reminder that your path isn’t linear, and it’s certainly not a race. You’re right on time.

Episode Highlights

00:00 Intro

00:16 When Life Doesn't Happen On Our Timeline

05:51 6 Reasons Why Where We Are Feels Like “Not Enough”

06:06 #1 - Unresolved Grief

09:14 #2 - A “Striving” Protective Part

10:46 #3 - Unrealistic Expectations

12:52 #4 - Comparison

14:39 #5 - Struggling to Take in the Good

17:24 #6 - Needing to Control

23:56 Your Nervous System Informs Your Relationship With Time

25:36 Changing Your Orientation to Your Timeline

32:50 “How Do You Keep the Faith on Your Healing Journey?”

48:02 “How Do I Find People Who Are on a Similar Path?”

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Enrollment closes May 29th — join us!

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