Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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Secretly Dating your Improv Coach (w/ Edi Patterson) May 30, 2025

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Actress Edi Patterson (The Righteous Gemstones) joins Nicole to talk about falling in love with her improv teacher, hiding their relationship from the world, and mistaking his proposal for a joke. She opens up about being a late bloomer in dating, throwing house parties that felt straight out of a '90s film, and the one dating lesson she learned from a kid that she wishes everyone would follow. Plus: ghosting guilt, cringey first date stories, 90 Day: Hunt for Love, and the time Nicole’s dog showed up on a stranger’s Instagram story.

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Bizarre Relationships with Animals (w/ Rose McIver) May 23, 2025

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Actress Rose McIver (Ghosts, iZombie, voice of Headgum) joins Nicole to explain New Zealand, why she doesn’t post her loved ones on social media, and talk about all the cute, funny other ways people show love. They get into weird animal relationship stories, like the woman in love with a dolphin (who died of heartbreak), the man who tried to live among grizzlies, and Nicole’s dream of becoming queen of the whales. Plus: a simple dinner hosting hack from Meghan Markle.

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Bob Derails the Pod (w/ Bob the Drag Queen) May 16, 2025

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Bob the Drag Queen(The Traitors, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) returns to the podcast to derail the show. This time, Bob interviews Nicole about her current relationship, run through their plans to prep for tariffs, and discuss LA's newest serial killer. He sniffs out the ulta-rich cast members on The Traitors, shares what he hates about Italy, and Canada’s ex-prime minister's blackface scandal. Plus, Nicole shares her latest showdown with the cops.

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The Male Loneliness Epidemic (w/ Drew Afualo) May 09, 2025

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TikTok star Drew Afualo joins Nicole to share her enemies‑to‑lovers love story and the worst dates that taught her to trust her gut. She tells the time she dated a man who drank ocean water and ended up getting his stomach pumped, walks through her viral list of red flags in men, and the backlash she received online for sharing it. They dig into the male loneliness epidemic, red‑pill culture, and what we can learn from the dating on Love On The Spectrum. Plus, Nicole tells the time she accidentally went on a beach date with a 60‑year‑old comedian, and the story of how banana bread uncovered an affair.

Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/mM7FvATy35g

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Dating Around the World (w/ Colton Dunn) May 02, 2025

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Comedian and Nicole's fictional boyfriend Colton Dunn (Superstore, Grand Crew, Key and Peele) joins Nicole to talk about dating customs in Europe (and what we can learn from them), getting mad at your partner over what they did in your dream, and what surprised him most about becoming a dad. He reflects on why improv might never be cool- even if you're good at it, and shares behind-the-scenes stories from some of the most iconic Key & Peele sketches. Plus: diaper blowouts, fake babies at Disneyland, and getting called the "Black Seth Rogen."

Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/qYOWub9maa0

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Too Shy to Talk to People (w/ Owen Burke) Apr 25, 2025

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Comedian Owen Burke (Drunk History) joins Nicole for a conversation recorded in the middle of the Los Angeles fires (things were unhinged). They talk about trying to function while the world is burning, the early days of UCB, and how Owen managed to find a wife while being painfully shy and awkward with dating—and how you can too. Plus, Nicole shares the time she gave John Mulaney her number. John, please call.

Watch this episode here: https://youtu.be/_TODPIkV8nY

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DIVORCED!!! (w/ Jackie Johnson) Apr 18, 2025

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Comedian and friend Jackie Johnson was terrified to do this podcast… until she got a divorce. She joins Nicole to talk about dating a record number of canceled UCB comedians, surviving a nightmare marriage, and only realizing she was unhappy after it ended (plus how to spot signs of abuse in your own relationship). Jackie shares how therapy—and a witch’s spell—helped her find true love. Plus, they discuss the red flags they missed in past relationships, why getting married on Valentine’s Day was a HUGE mistake, the secret to getting out of jury duty, and Jackie’s genius advice on when to swoop in and land a man.

Chicago! Catch Jackie’s show How to Get a Second Husband live on June 1st! Get tickets here.

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Childbirth Nightmares, Public or Private Proposal? (w/ Melissa Hunter) Apr 11, 2025

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Writer Melissa Hunter (Santa Clarita Diet, She-Hulk, Home Economics) joins Nicole to talk through the messy reality of childbirth - including her 32-hour labor, an unexpected unmedicated birth after her epidural failed, and shitting on the table. They also get into whether proposals should be private or public (including Nicole’s dream proposal), the red flags of dating someone who won’t drop the bits, and the time Nicole got scammed by a hot Instagram dating coach.

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The Funny Guy Trap (w/ Wayne Brady) Apr 04, 2025

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Comedian Wayne Brady (Whose Line Is It Anyway?, What If? podcast) joins Nicole to talk about the struggles of dating when everyone expects you to be the funny guy from TV. He opens up about being an introvert, and how his dates sometimes get disappointed when he's not his 'persona' they know him for. Wayne shares the wild story of dating someone whose parent was openly racist, the struggles he's faced navigating racism in relationships, and what it's like dating as a single father. Plus, the crazy story of how he got fired from Disneyland playing Tigger... the day before landing his big break.

WATCH this episode here: youtu.be/9GIwjGwhpxs

Check out Nicole's episode of Wayne Brady's podcast here: youtu.be/FGykSL24GZU?si=Vu9oYhPdpgPK2wLr

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Chubby Chasers (w/ Jana Schmieding) Mar 28, 2025

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Comedian Jana Schmieding (Reservation Dogs, Rutherford Falls) joins Nicole to discuss chub chasers, the difference between being fetishized and being genuinely wanted, and what it was like to date a man with body shame. She shares what it was like to date a sacred Native man, including a agonising "breakup ceremony" he put her through. Plus, they break down Curvy Wife Guy’s BBW bop, try to understand whatever the hell is happening between Kanye and Bianca Censori, and Jana shares her new daily ritual - a 6 seconds kiss on the lips to keep love alive.

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