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When you’re a parent, every day brings a “fresh hell” to deal with. In other words, there’s always something. Think of us as your funny mom friends who are here to remind you: you’re not alone, and it won’t always be this hard.
We’re Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables, both busy moms of three kids, but with completely different parenting styles. Margaret is a laid-back to the max; Amy never met a spreadsheet or an organizational system she didn’t like.
In each episode of “What Fresh Hell” we offer lots of laughs, but also practical advice, parenting strategies, and tips to empower you in your role as a mom. We explore self-help techniques, as well as ways to prioritize your own needs, combat stress, and despite the invisible workload we all deal with, find joy amidst the chaos of motherhood.
If you’ve ever wondered “why is my kid…” then one of us has probably been there, and we’re here to tell you what we’ve learned along the way.
We unpack the behaviors and developmental stages of toddlers, tweens, and teenagers, providing insights into their actions and equipping you with effective parenting strategies.
We offer our best parenting tips and skills we’ve learned. We debate the techniques and studies that are everywhere for parents these days, and get to the bottom of what works best to raise happy, healthy, fairly well-behaved kids, while fostering a positive parent-child relationship.
If you’re the default parent in your household, whether you’re a busy mom juggling multiple pickups and dropoffs, or a first-time parent seeking guidance, this podcast is your trusted resource. Join our community of supportive mom friends laughing in the face of motherhood!
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Latest Episodes:

The Best Advice for Dealing with Teenagers Jun 28, 2023

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How do we raise healthy, loving, polite, and appreciative teens? Is it humanly possible? From remaining "passively available" to taking our adolescents' seemingly trivial problems seriously, our listeners had great advice for bringing up teenagers.

Amy and Margaret discuss:

The blessing of nerd-dom
How to keep your face in check when talking to your teen
Why it's important to let your teen fail sometimes

Here's our Fresh Take with Michelle Icard, author of "Fourteen Talks by Age 14"

Here's the link to the full thread in our Facebook group

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Ask Margaret: How Can I Stop Repeating Myself? Jun 26, 2023

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How do we get our kids to do things the FIRST time they're asked, not the millionth time? Is it even possible?

A listener from our FB group asks:

"You have often given the advice from the dog-training world not to repeat yourself over and over again, because you are teaching your kids they only have to respond to the 3rd, 7th, or 100th time you ask. My question is: what do I do instead?

Say I tell my toddler, "It's time to go brush teeth," and he ignores me to keep playing because: toddler. If I immediately remove the thing the toddler is playing with and pick him up to go to the bathroom, we are in tantrum land. Then bedtime is delayed by twenty minutes while we calm down.

I don't want to turn every interaction into an exhausting battle of wills, but I also don't want to sound like a broken record. HELP."

When kids are resisting instructions, it's important to suss out the real problems and find solutions for those specific instances.

In this case of asking your toddler to brush their teeth: it's normal to sometimes have to repeat yourself with toddlers. But you also want to establish that you won't repeat yourself until they respond.

You might insert an intermediate step where you say something like "Oh, it looks like you're really enjoying your truck right now. I'm going to go get the toothpaste out and give you a few more minutes." It's a back-to-one situation!

And remember: just because you repeat yourself or get frustrated with your toddler doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. You're doing the best you can.

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Fresh Take: Sara Olsher on Talking to Our Kids About Hard Things Jun 23, 2023

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When we're going through difficult seasons in our lives—illness, death, divorce, tragedy—it feels easier to protect our kids by leaving them out of the conversation. Sara Olsher, founder of Mighty + Bright, says kids don't miss a thing—and that we're missing the opportunity during such times to help our children learn resilience.

Sara founded Mighty + Bright after guiding her child through her own divorce and cancer diagnosis. Mighty + Bright provides visual schedules, picture books, and other tools to help parents prioritize mental health for their kids, learning together and incorporating coping skills into their day-to-day lives.

In this interview Sara, Margaret, and Amy discuss:

How to raise resilience for ourselves and kids
What works for families who are in hard seasons
Why protecting kids from difficult issues doesn't work

Here's where you can find Sara:

http://mightyandbright.com
@mightyandbrightco
Check out all the amazing children's books Sara has written: https://bookshop.org/contributors/sara-olsher

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Is This a Midlife Crisis? Jun 21, 2023

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What does it mean to have a midlife crisis? What exactly counts as "midlife," and (yikes) are we already in it? Can we avoid the disenchantment and the rash decision-making that stereotypically accompany such times in our lives?

A listener in our Facebook group asked:

"Who has been thru their midlife crisis and how did you deal? Turning 40 next week has me feeling like I've wasted my life. Can I get over the what-ifs?"

In this episode Amy and Margaret discuss:

How American culture has changed its views on aging
Why women and men experience midlife crises differently
Why the age of your children might be the thing triggering your crisis

Here are links to some of the resources discussed in the episode:

Howard P. Chudacoff: How old are you? Age consciousness in American culture
Laurence Steinberg: Crossing Paths: How Your Child's Adolescence Triggers Your Own Crisis
Mark Jackson: Life begins at 40: the demographic and cultural roots of the midlife crisis

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Ask Amy: Everything Is Fine—Except My Mom Guilt Jun 19, 2023

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When our children have a brush with danger, we moms love to punish ourselves for what might have happened. So does society at large. Amy tells a listener how to complete her trauma response and move on from a stressful event.

A listener on Instagram asked:

"How do I move past the mom guilt? I'm the mother to an 18-month-old that loves dogs. We have a rescue. I didn't grow up with dogs. We went for a walk today and came across an informal dog play date that we joined…the dogs were off leash. I asked if it was okay to bring my child, and the other owner said yes. I stupidly at one point let my little one walk away from me.

Another dog came to sniff at her, and my dog kicked into full-on protective mode. The first time I'd ever seen that. My little one almost got hurt. We left soon after that and I never let my child out of my arms again. And once I got home, I Googled and saw, no, you should never take a kid to a dog play park.

I feel so bad, so ashamed. How do I move on?

Amy suggests that this listener is stuck in an incomplete trauma response, which Amelia and Emily Nagoski discuss in their book BURNOUT. It's important, Amy says, to complete the stress cycle, or else you stay stuck in the tunnel (as these authors explain).

In our Ditching Mom Guilt episode, we discussed how mom guilt is a result of magical thinking in your primitive brain. If you're the cause of what's going wrong for your kids, you can also be the solution.

Amy suggests that gratitude-based meditation of "I am safe now, I am safe now" and extra cuddles with the little one can help complete the stress cycle, along with a healthy dose of self-compassion and conscious uncoupling from the undeserved shame all moms, not dads, are made to feel when their children are perceived to be in danger.

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Fresh Take: Rainesford Stauffer on Rethinking Ambition Jun 16, 2023

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Why do we as women get accused of too much or too little ambition, but never the right amount?

And why are mothers expected to let go of all nonfamilial ambitions once they become parents?

Rainesford Stauffer, author of the new book “All the Gold Stars: Reimagining Ambition and the Ways We Strive," started by completely reconsidering the role of ambition in her own life. In this book, she invites us to redefine ambition for ourselves. Going above and beyond doesn't have to the worthiest thing about us.

In this interview Rainesford and Amy discuss:

How and when Rainesford changed her thoughts around her own ambition
How parenting and ambition intersect
How to define ambition for yourself

Here's where you can find Rainesford:

www.rainesfordstauffer.com
Twitter: @Rainesford
Instagram: @rainesford_stauffer
Buy Rainesford's book: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780306830334

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Are Vacations Worth It? Jun 14, 2023

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Why don't vacations feel like vacations for moms? Could it be all the prepping, packing, and traveling, with the additional pressure to make memories that will last a lifetime for our little ones?

Here's how to make vacations truly fun and relaxing for the whole family. In this episode we discuss

the wisdom of "taking turns being tired"
why "going with the flow" is not an additive stance to vacation preparation
why vacations get better as kids age

Here are some links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:

Marie Holmes for HuffPost: Behind Every Precious Vacation Memory Stands An Exhausted Mother
CafeMom: Moms Don't Get to 'Relax' on Family Vacations, For the Husbands Who Don't Get It
Colleen Lanin for Travel Mamas: Ain’t Nobody Happy if Mama Ain’t Happy – Tips for Happy Travel with Kids
The Onion: Mom Spends Beach Vacation Assuming All Household Duties In Closer Proximity To Ocean

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Ask Margaret: My Kid Is Reacting Badly to Their New Sibling Jun 12, 2023

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How do we help our children transition from pampered baby of the family to middle child? Is the resulting misbehavior going to go on forever?

Someone in our Facebook group asked:

"My five-year-old became a middle child a few months ago. He is so sweet and loving to his new little sister, but has been acting out: spitting, running around, saying bad things, hitting another kid in his pre-K class. He has been very difficult at home, too. He was never like this before becoming a middle child. Somebody please just tell me this is a phase."

Yes, it's just a phase, Margaret assures us, citing her own experience being usurped as the baby of the family when she was five. This acting out is boundary-seeking behavior. When presented with changes in the family dynamic, kids will investigate to see if they can get away with more than they were able to previously. You can make your child feel validated in his frustration, but it's still important to set firm boundaries around unacceptable behavior.

Here's the article Margaret suggests:

Kate Marple for BabyCenter: Helping your child adjust to a new sibling

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Fresh Take: Jamilah Mapp and Erica Dickerson of "Good Moms Bad Choices" Jun 09, 2023

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What do we do when we don't fit the "perfect mom" mold? Are we still good mothers even if we don't?

Jamilah Mapp and Erica Dickerson are the co-hosts of the Good Moms, Bad Choices podcast, and the authors of the new book "A Good Mom's Guide to Bad Choices."

In this interview Jamilah, Erica, and Margaret discuss:

Being a single mother
Breaking parenting patterns
What authentic parenting looks like

Here's where you can find Jamilah and Erica:

www.goodmomsbadchoices.com
IG: @goodmoms_badchoices
Twitter: @Thegoodmoms
Listen to Good Moms Bad Choices podcast
Buy A Good Mom's Guide to Bad Choices: https://bookshop.org/a/12099/9780063161979

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What Makes You a Great Parent? Jun 07, 2023

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From being able to sleep anywhere to pulling loose teeth to staying calm in a crisis, our listeners are great at all kinds of things when it comes to being parents.

Amy and Margaret discuss:

Lowered expectations
Self-care for its own sake
Margaret's Fran Drescher moments

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