U Up?

Comedy
**U Up?**

U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between – they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com

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Latest Episodes:

My BF’s Sense Of Humor Gave Me The Ick Aug 11, 2024

Show notes

This Sunday Special is full of disconnects today, but before diving in, J&J take us to Plug City to talk you through where they were right before the recording. They spent the first part of their day at Albert’s Bar after the owner (a subscriber!) reached out claiming his spot was great for a first date. They took in the ambiance during a special project for the pod and ended with lunch to get the full experience so they could assess for themselves. Afterward, they read an “Icky or Picky?” about a trip to Jared’s second home, the Comedy Cellar, but our listener wasn’t laughing. She was out with her boyfriend for a fun date night, and one joke made him laugh so hard, a mix of the ick and embarrassment came over her. Next, an Aussie listener writes in about her relationship going downhill ever since she let her BF know how her parents felt about their relationship, and now distance is getting added to the mix as he moves closer to work. Are the obstacles all in their heads or can nothing be done? J&J give their two cents to help her out of the hole she’s in.

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How Do I Talk To My SO About Grief? ft. Dr. Naomi Bernstein Aug 07, 2024

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J&J are diving right in because Dr. Naomi Bernstein, Jordana’s sister and co-host of Oversharing, is in the studio to ease us into this episode. Plus, her husband Jeff tagged along, so we got both sides of their story as they take us back to dating in 2006. Afterwards, Jared sneaks in a mini session about his “hoodfishing” issue on the apps. The first email is from a listener struggling with talking to her boyfriend about grief. She recently lost her dad, but her boyfriend’s obvious discomfort has her holding back, so J&J get some help from Dr. Naomi on how she should proceed. The Awkward Encounter is one single mom’s “what happened in vegas” story. Then, we hear from a listener needing J&J to help her decide whether to give her BF a heads up that her ex will be at a wedding they’re attending soon. Her BF doesn’t want to know about exes, but they’re both in the wedding party, so should an exception be made to avoid an awkward moment? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about repeating a couples trip to Italy, getting grossed out by period sex, and bizarre eating habits.

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Why Do Exes Compliment You During A Breakup? Aug 04, 2024

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We’re kicking off the first Sunday Special of August with not-so-unique dating experiences. J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a seemingly flirty line that rubbed one listener the wrong way. Then, an email comes from a listener who keeps getting what he calls the “hero treatment breakup,” a breakup involving loads of compliments leaving you alone and confused. Jared and Jordana have played both sides of this breakup style and lend perspective over what they think is happening.

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Easy Ways To Let Your Date Know You Like Them Jul 31, 2024

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This episode is full of red flags and awkward moments, starting with a guy in his late 20s unsure of how to give green flag energy. Before diving in, Jordana is celebrating her husband’s birthday soon so they discuss thoughtful gifts and Jared plans a date for them. Then, a listener asks how to show girls he’s interested without being overwhelming or pushy. The Awkward Encounter is a truly wild escape from “the Bear.” Next, a listener is struggling with her partner wanting to abstain after they already had a child. They’ve successfully parented for a year now, so where is her ring? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about rating your SO, mixed messages, and a date at a membership lounge.

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Don’t Skip This Step When You Delete Your Dating Apps Jul 28, 2024

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Jared and Jordana are unraveling relationship problems, from an impending fight to a friend wondering whether she should voice how she really feels about her bestie’s latest relationship. Before diving into emails, J&J caught up about Jordana’s double date and Jared’s time spent with older singles in Boca over the last weekend. Next, they weigh in on a “Couple’s Court” about whether it was weird that our listener’s boyfriend revealed he still had access to his Bumble months after they’d been exclusive. Jared and Jordana come to differing conclusions from the emailer, plus Candice interjects with a third possibility. The episode ends with an advice email about a listener concerned with her friend’s serial dating pattern. She’s built the case on why she should and should not voice her opinion, but leaves it up to J&J to ultimately decide where she goes from here.

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Is It My Responsibility To Train My BF? Jul 24, 2024

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Before diving into emails, J&J get caught up in the sitcoms of the 90s. Plus, they follow up on a recent "Petty or Prudent?" after a YouTube comment schools them on the difference between kinks and fetishes. Then, the first email comes from a listener concerned her guy friend’s intentions may be more flirty than friendly. The Awkward Encounter will make you think twice about where you hide your sex toys. Next, a listener is her boyfriend’s first girlfriend and that’s been noticeable as their relationship continues, but how much onus is on her to help him mature? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about whether kissing gay friends counts as cheating, a traveling quirk, and a lack of boundaries with coworkers.

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Ho Phase Appreciation And A Realistic Look At Married Life ft. The LadyGang Jul 21, 2024

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This Sunday Special is a dream brunch group as J&J are joined by Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin and Jac Vanek of The LadyGang podcast. They start with learning the famous toxic ex origin story behind The LadyGang’s formation before J&J get into relationship icebreakers and questions that will tell you exactly how everyone’s relationship style differs. Then, they play a round of Firsts and Worsts, for a lightning round catchup on The LadyGang’s past and present relationships. Plus, Jared is outnumbered being the only one both single and male in the chat. Keltie, Becca and Jac each share differing marriage dynamics and perspectives on their past, and Jordana relates to one more than anyone else. The episode ends with a “Petty or Prudent?” about a male listener on the brink, wondering whether he should skip being his girlfriend’s wedding date to avoid being part of her family’s memories if a breakup will happen any day now.

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Why Love Island’s Casa Amor Isn’t A Real World Risk Jul 17, 2024

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Long intro lovers, today is your day! J&J have a lot to unload this week, from the one quality Jordana’s husband isn’t in love with to Jared’s weekend in the Hamptons with Hannah Berner, and a one-and-done take on this season of Love Island USA and that Casa Amor shakeup. Next, J&J get an email from a listener four years into her relationship and itching to know whether I do’s will ever be in their future. The Awkward Encounter is a trip down memory lane. Then, a male listener writes in wondering how his female coworker is getting so much attention on Hinge (no offense). The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about changing dating app photos, misused prompts, and an uncomfortable date.

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The Urge To Win The Breakup Jul 14, 2024

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We’re deep into summer and Jared’s in a bit of a rut. He talks Jordana through where his mind’s been while he’s been on the road. Then, they kick off the Sunday Special with a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a secret kink. Our listener stumbled upon her date’s Reddit and saw his activity in fetish communities online and, after witnessing what he was into, she felt turned off. Next, J&J answer an email seeking redemption for revenge. Our listener is happily married, but still pining over the perfect way to tell her ex off. Jared and Jordana speak about the attempt at winning in relationships and seeing beyond the traumas of the past.

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It’s OK To Lie On Dating Apps Sometimes Jul 10, 2024

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Double-standard debates in the dating world are weighing on us today, specifically those that are more of an issue for women than men. Before diving into emails, Jared and Jordana discuss the backlash to a Forbes article, “Are We Still Not Ready For A Mixed-Weight Romance On Screen?”, and the topic of mixed-weight relationships in general. Next, the first emailer wants to know how to let a guy know that you aren’t interested in hanging out when you still have to work – or be stuck in some capacity – with him. The Awkward Encounter is a dating don’t when you’re feeling anxious. Then, the second emailer needs help navigating her way out of a sticky situationship. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about prolonging the talking stage, living with an ex, and leaving out an important detail post-sex.

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