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Deb's Naked Life | EP 920
If you're thinking about stopping drinking in your 60s but keep telling yourself you're too old, too set in your habits, or too far gone, Deb's story is the one you need to hear. She was a registered nurse who had directed a hospital addiction recovery program and still didn't see herself in it. She was caring for a dying parent, married to a heavy drinker, and drinking three to four glasses of wine every night before a single book changed the entire frame. She became alcohol-free at 62 and hasn't looked back once.
Deb and Coach Cole discuss:
Growing up alcohol naive, not drinking until her late 20s, and watching it quietly become a nightly habit, she barely chose
Directing a hospital addiction recovery program and still telling herself she wasn't like the patients in it
Reading This Naked Mind cover to cover with wine in hand, crying at the parts that felt like her own story
Stopping drinking while caregiving for her mother with dementia, and finding she could finally be present in those visits
Staying alcohol-free while her husband continued to drink, kept trying to pull her back, and what the honest reckoning that followed looked like
Talking herself out of the This Naked Mind coaching program four years in a row before finally committing at 62, after years of retirement
Why a slip isn't a relapse, it's a data point, and the language of growing and evolving versus changing
And more on curiosity, caregiving, and what it means to build a life you don't want to escape from…
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Who am I without alcohol? Does that question sound eerily familiar? Steph and Nicole both find themselves grappling with that very idea and wondering what the answer will mean for them. Steph is 55, and alcohol has been by her side and has helped define her for most of her adult life. Nicole looks to alcohol for the answers and to smooth the rough edges, and isn’t sure if she’s capable of being herself with a glass in her hand. Coaches Cole and Hayley help provide guidance and hope in this week’s episode.
Steph discusses:
Why "loss of identity" became the real subject of her coaching call, not just the drinking
The belief that she'd failed herself and her friends, and how that belief kept her stuck
Why chasing a "finished" identity by a deadline backfires
The threshold metaphor, and why stepping into the unknown feels safer than staying somewhere familiar but unwanted
Her plan to resign from teaching by May 1st, and what she's choosing to let go of first
Nicole discusses:
How alcohol became tangled with her identity before she ever turned 21
The seven-year relationship and the night that ended with her in a hospital for three days
November 5, 2025: the day she sat in her car and decided something had to change
Why grace and curiosity did more for her than willpower ever did
What she calls her "2D glasses" moment, and what she sees now that alcohol's gone
And more…
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Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/
Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/
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What does building a life you don't want to escape from actually take? Donna joined The Path in March 2021 after a COVID grocery store moment she couldn't unsee and hasn't had a drink since. Now five years in, she's back with Coach Hayley to share what's genuinely changed, what she's still working through, and a question that keeps getting more interesting.
Donna and Coach Hayley discuss:
That COVID grocery store moment, four wine clubs in a week, and what she calls "the gift COVID gave her"
The beta reader who said her memoir should have said more about her drinking, and what she heard two weeks later
Why confidence was her number one benefit from stopping, and how alcohol was worsening her anxiety while she believed it was helping
The 90-second rule for processing difficult emotions without numbing, and the morning practice she's built over five years
Why building a life you don't want to escape from is still the deeper work at year five
And more on forgiveness, gratitude, and what five years of alcohol freedom actually sounds like...
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Most of us were never taught how to give ourselves grace about drinking, only how to judge ourselves for it. Kelly and Amber are proof that the shame and guilt show up no matter how different the situation looks. For Kelly, it shows up after a weekend of drinking that went further than she planned. For Amber, it shows up the moment someone she's dating asks why she's not drinking, and a much older fear takes over.
Kelly discusses:
Why her biggest data point yet, a full night out at a friend's timeshare, left her more unsettled than any smaller one had
The real difference between "I've proven I can" drink moderately and "I've proven I can" have a great time without it
Why Coach Hayley adds the word "yet" every time Kelly says she can't figure out why she drinks
Admitting she's skipped a Path call because she didn't want to say out loud that she'd had a fun night of drinking
Using the ACT technique on the belief "it's part of my culture," and what that opens up
Amber discusses:
Why she can turn down a drink at work without blinking but freezes the second a date asks why she doesn't drink
The exact body sensation she calls "bracing for impact," and the part Coach Cole admits he carries too
Asking the part of her that calls itself broken what it's actually trying to protect her from
The Sharon Salzberg line about meditation that becomes her new mantra for catching herself mid-spiral
The exact phrase Amber swaps in for "I'm broken," and why it changes how she shows up on a date
And more…
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Coach Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach trained through the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Learn more about Coach Hayley: thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/
Coach Cole Harvey is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach and habit change and mindset coach. Learn more about Coach Cole: thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/
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Trigger warning: This episode contains references to drunk driving, DWIs, and thoughts of not wanting to live.
Zita was in her kitchen in 2017, working up the nerve for a hard conversation with her boyfriend, when the thought arrived: "You know what would make this easier?" She took a shot to self-soothe before the conversation, and it worked so well that her brain filed alcohol away as the answer to hard moments from then on. She's a registered nurse in her mid-30s who felt nothing when she watched other people drink, all the way through nursing school, with no reason to think that thought would change anything. It did. Three years and several DWIs later, one blacked-out night finally made her stop and ask what she was doing. Now approaching five years alcohol-free, she shares her story.
Zita and Coach Cole discuss:
How one shot before a hard conversation taught her brain a lesson it never unlearned
Why year two brought DWIs and car accidents, then a family intervention she wasn't ready to hear
The hiding stage, and what it costs to act unaffected while drunk around people who love you
Waking up unable to remember the night she drove food to her sick brother
Why she never missed a nursing shift while everything else came apart
The promise to her mom she couldn't keep, and what that finally broke open
How one addiction specialist's number, 90 days, became the only thing she could hold onto
And more on faith, filling her own cup, and what it really means to find your own path to alcohol freedom…
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The answer to "why I use alcohol to cope" is rarely what you expect. For Will, it’s buried in a need for control he's carried since a chaotic childhood. For Kathleen, it comes from decades of being the one everyone else leans on. Coaches Cole and Zoe help Will and Kathleen take steps towards freeing themselves from that weight.
Will discusses:
Decades of using alcohol to quiet a busy brain, and what happens after the first beer
Why knowing the pattern isn’t enough
The childhood fear of instability that shows up as a desperate need for answers and control
Coach Cole’s reframe: curious versus combat, connect versus control
A body scan moment where he notices tension in real time and releases it
The video game map metaphor — taking the next step without needing to see the whole path
Kathleen discusses:
Being introduced to alcohol at 16 as a social crutch when she moved to a new town
What her mother modeled, and how she replicated it without realizing it for decades
The hero child dynamic — being her father’s favorite and her mother’s confidant, and what that cost her
A 28-year emotionally abusive marriage, and how alcohol became her numbing agent
Learning to ask for what she needs directly, rather than hoping her husband picks it up
The unexpected parallel: she’s now modeling her mother’s behavior by going alcohol-free
…and more
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Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning. Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/
Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol so you can feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/
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Is it possible to build something meaningful out of the worst loss of your life? For Kelly, the answer arrived just five months after she got free from alcohol herself. That's when her brother died from the same thing she'd spent years measuring her own drinking against. She built Perfectly Made AF in response, a nonprofit funding alcohol freedom scholarships in his memory and an annual Boulder gala designed to prove an alcohol-free life is anything but boring. Kelly's Naked Life story traces how she got there, from years of comparing her own drinking to his, to the two days after his funeral when she had to choose what came next.
Kelly and Coach Cole discuss:
What almost happened two days after her brother's funeral, five months into her own alcohol-free life
Why "I'm not him" was the comparison that let her avoid her own drinking for years
The message she wrote her brother a month before he died, and why it came too late
How a scholarship fund turned into a full nonprofit with 18 people currently enrolled
The thinking behind this year's Perfect Gala, from a mobile planetarium to a "grounding portal"
Why Kelly keeps the scholarship recipients anonymous, even from herself
What she's hoping to build next, from new partnerships to content for schools
And more on decision fatigue, mommy wine culture, and what it really means to find your own path to alcohol freedom…
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Are you drinking to escape your life? Catherine was. She called it the escape room. Rachael didn't use those words, but she'd no doubt agree with them. If you're drinking to escape a life that feels like too much, too heavy, and too demanding, you'll want to tune in. Catherine and Rachael work with Coaches Hayley and Zoe to stop seeing alcohol as a way out, and start learning how to stay present even when life feels like too much.
Catherine discusses:
The "escape room" she built around wine and what happened when she closed the door for good
The in-control/out-of-control list Coach Hayley walks her through, and why it matters
Grieving the life she thought her daughter would have, and what getting stuck in that future costs her
The turnaround: "I'm willing to consider things might be okay if I don't try to fix it"
Rachael discusses:
Why she's more nervous about Saturday night than Friday night, and what that tells her
The reference library metaphor Coach Zoe uses to explain why stopping drinking doesn't reset old patterns
Her alive goal, which came out of the session word by word, and how alcohol dropped off the moment she said it out loud
How the conversation with her husband changes when she stops assuming what he's thinking
Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.
Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/
Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol so you can feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. Zoe taught Pilates for 15 years. She has four adult children and more animals than the Ark ever had.
Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/
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For 32 years, Travis was a functional drinker who never got a DUI, never missed a day of work, and never fit the picture most people hold when they hear "drinking problem," but spent years hiding beers in the garage, lying to his wife about the count, and woke up after one Christmas morning knowing his kids had been worried Santa wasn't coming. He came to This Naked Mind thinking he might be able to moderate. He joined The Path in November 2023, had one more bad birthday, and threw out the last two bottles of a Wisconsin six-pack the next day. He's at 757 days alcohol-free. Coach Cole Harvey is here to hear him tell it.
Travis and Coach Cole discuss:
The pit party at 18 that set up a chase he'd spend the next 32 years trying to get back to
Hiding beers in the garage, counting them in his head and lying about the number, and why the "alcoholic" label kept him from asking for help for years
The Christmas his kids were worried Santa wasn't coming, and why even that didn't break the cycle
A 2023 job loss that cracked things open, and the visualization exercise during a free Zoom that convinced him to commit to The Path
What happened on his 50th birthday and the two bottles he threw out the next day
The parallel mental health journey that changed what he understands about why he was drinking in the first place
Nearly 30 pounds lost and one afternoon of yard work that proved something had shifted in his body
What his 14-year-old daughter said to her friends about her dad, and why Travis still can't get through it without getting chills
And more on neural pathway habits, the functional drinker's relationship with the "alcoholic" label, and finding your own path to alcohol freedom...
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Andrew and Adele both know why they need alcohol to socialize — or think they do. For Adele, 64 and living in a New Zealand wine region, it started at 14 in the back of a school bus and never really stopped being about fitting in. For Andrew, who is navigating a late-life ADHD diagnosis and the possible end of his marriage, the answer turned out to go a lot deeper than the social stuff.
Andrew discusses:
His late-life ADHD diagnosis and why emotional dysregulation makes the pull toward alcohol so much harder to catch.
Realizing he has never felt safe — and how his body already knew that before he did
What finally made his marriage struggles make complete sense
The hand-on-heart technique from Coach Zoe and how it's helping him regulate in real time
Finding The Path after his wife asked for a divorce — and what group coaching calls unlocked
Adele discusses:
Fifty years of drinking to fit in, starting at 14 in the back of a school bus
Why AA's shame-based language kept her stuck, and what changed when she joined The Path
The five-year-old who felt different, rejected, and vulnerable after her parents' divorce
Struggling to show compassion for her younger self because of choices she hasn't forgiven
The visualization practice that gave her a glimpse of something she hadn't felt in a long time: peace
And more…
Coach Zoe Ewart is a Certified Naked Mind Senior Coach who brings her experience and understanding to help with the tricky parts of life's big changes. Her coaching gives you an enjoyable, light-hearted, and safe environment to effortlessly take back control of alcohol so you can feel better physically, mentally, and spiritually. Zoe taught Pilates for 15 years. She has four adult children and more animals than the Ark ever had. Learn more about Coach Zoe: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/zoe-ewart/
Coach Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time. Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/
Episode links: nakedmindpath.com
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