On this episode of the Work-Life Equation, turn those parenting lemons into lemonade! It might not seem like it, but your child is more predictable than you think—and each stage of your child’s development, along with every meltdown, is a gateway to skill-building for your little one. Hear from early childhood experts Ellen Galinsky, the Chief Science Officer at the Bezos Family Foundation and Executive Director at Mind in the Making, and Rachel Robertson, the Education and Development Vice President at Bright Horizons as they discuss common parenting challenges and the science behind parenting that can turn frustration into great skills for life. Working Moms and the Mental Load Show Notes 1:01 - Learn about the motivation behind the Bright Horizons study on mental load. The full study results from the 2017 Modern Family Index put numbers to the issue. 1:23 - Read “The Default Parent” blog post by M. Blazoned. 2:43 - Ilene answers the question, “What was the high-level snapshot you got from the study?” ● 86 percent of working mothers handle all family and household responsibilities ● 76 percent of breadwinning moms manage the household vs. 22 percent of breadwinning dads 5:09 - Ilene describes how mental load plays out in her own life. 6:20 - Lisa posits one theory about mental load that explains how dads have tangible responsibilities and very specific tasks, but moms often shoulder all mental responsibilities, including all the things that need to be remembered. 9:15 - Lisa asks, “How can working moms lighten the mental load?” 9:44 - When thinking how to lighten the mental load, Ilene suggests two reflection questions: 1. Am I looking to solve the imbalance between myself and my partner? 2. Do I really want to share this load? (Which also means giving up decision-making.) 12:06 - Mental load affects new moms coming back to work from leave, which Bright Horizons discussed in a recent parent webinar, Life as a New Working Parent. 13:30 - Ilene says the research also shows dads want to be more involved in children’s lives, are more likely than moms to give up a raise for more family time, and more than ever interested in flexible working hours. Hear our conversation with today’s dads in podcast episode 16, “Talking Fatherhood with Millennial Dads.” 15:51 - Lisa talks about how millennial dads often feel like trailblazers, like the New York Mets player Daniel Murphy, who was criticized for taking paternity leave. 18:05 - Lisa makes the point that letting go is OK for moms to do, citing an article by Anne-Marie Slaughter, “The Real Holiday Magic Comes Not From Micromanaging, but Letting Go.” 18:47 - Lisa asks, “Can moms change or are they stuck being tiger moms?” Tiger moms are often characterized as keeping tight controls over their children or families. 22:15 - Lisa celebrates that working moms (and dads) are role models for their children, preparing the next generation for equality in parenting, as discussed in a previous podcast episode, Celebrating Working Mothers. 22:37 - Ilene does not believe in work-life balance that puts work on one side of the scale and parenting on the other side. Listen to the Bright Horizons webinar, Integrating Work and Life, to hear more about this dynamic. 23:43 - Follow this link to read or download the full study or search Modern Family Index on the Bright Horizons website, www.brighthorizons.com.
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