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Episode 184: Honest Sex Oct 07, 2022

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Some say we are outgrowing marriage as a culture. However, the problem that author Shana James regularly sees as a relationship coach—and through her own divorce—is that many of us have not matured enough to create the emotionally-connected, sexually-satisfying relationships we long for. Shana is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast and has a TEDx Talk, “What 1,000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.” In her latest book, Honest Sex, she uses her Master’s in psychology, DISC, and Positive Intelligence certifications to guide readers.

As a relationship coach for 20 years, she humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. Shana’s new book, Honest Sex, teaches us what kind of honesty is effective for creating closeness, what sex actually is (rather than what we've been taught), and how to communicate desires and upsets to create more intimacy.

By examining new ways to sustain connection with a partner, author Shana James illuminates a framework for relationships to start strong and get more intimate and exciting over time.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Shana James about creating trust and honesty in your relationship to increase and improve intimacy with your partner.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

The topic of sex was very taboo for many of us growing up. Education was relegated to safety and reproduction. Having an open conversation about sex can lead to great discomfort for many of us.
Having an honest and intimate conversation with your partner can be intimidating. Oftentimes more so than talking with a stranger. There is a level of vulnerability that exists with closer relationships.
Immature honesty is typically based in complaining, shaming, and a closed mind.
Mature honesty is being open to talk about something, even when you have discomfort around the subject.
Shana’s expanded definition of what sex actually is: exploration, play, coming together with a person- emotionally, physically and energetically. Don’t limit it to intercourse.
Focus on the connection and enjoying, rather than the end result. While an orgasm is wonderful, it isn’t the only thing to focus on.
Avoiding these conversations will lead to stagnancy. Getting through the difficult conversations will get you through the discomfort and lead to a wonderful place.
Consider having a debriefing conversation after sex. Don’t ask “what didn’t work,” ask what they liked and what they want more of.
What is intimacy?
How to become “more alive” both individually, and as a couple.

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Episode 183: Do Moms Enjoy The Holidays? Oct 05, 2022

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

This week: Do Moms Enjoy The Holidays?

Moms tend to be the creators of magic for the holidays for others to enjoy. This often means being too busy to enjoy them.
Try to be less of a perfectionist- everything WON’T be done. And that is O.K.
The added stress can lead to hating the holidays. We don’t want that! What can we do differently?
Remember to look around and take in everyone’s enjoyment. The hard work is worth it! You are creating a lifetime of memories for your family.
Remember it is a labor of love to build and follow traditions and create special memories.
It is ok to take a break and create short cuts. Is takeout an option? What is the most important to you?
Have perspective and gratitude. Stress will be less if you appreciate what you are able to do.
Set boundaries. What are your limits, and what is good enough?
Embrace “Good Enough!”
Ask yourself, “What do I enjoy?” when it comes to creating your holiday to-do list. Skip at least one thing that does not bring you joy.
Be more mindful of what you say yes to.
DELEGATE! Involve your family and give them jobs to help you out.
Create a plan well in advance. Allow yourself time to get things done a bit earlier so you are not rushing and exhausted when company arrives.

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Episode 182: Healing From An Eating Disorder Sep 30, 2022

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Julie Emerson takes us on her healing journey as she recovers from an eating disorder. From overweight to scary-skinny, and the journey to self-love.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Julie Emerson about her journey and healing from an eating disorder.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

The unhealthy emotional connection to food started as early as when she was 6 years old.
Binging and late-night eating started at the age of 9. The dieting started at 19.
People were not vocal about their concerns when she was overweight.
Dieting became a high that she rode- weight loss was the thrill.
“Exercise bulimia” was a part of her life- eating too much and immediately doing a lot of cardio.
Binging and purging eventually made their way into her life in her 20s.
The binging and purging lasted for years.
Binging and purging became a coping mechanism and comfort when confronted with turmoil in her life.
It is difficult to approach a loved one when they see someone going through an eating disorder. They don’t know what to say or how to approach it.
Julie’s advice if you see someone struggling is to let them know you are there for them, and they have a place to fall if they get to a really bad place. Asking the simple question, “Is everything o.k.?” can be very impactful.
It is ok to say you are not ok. It is ok to say you need help. Start with saying it to yourself.
The road to healing and recovery does not have to start with a major moment. It can be as simple as just making the choice to change and taking it one day at a time.
Start small. An elaborate plan can often be more than you can handle.
When you know your triggers, take time to stop and breathe before you act.
Remember that you don’t need to be everything to everyone all the time. Take time for you. Take care of yourself.
Overcoming an eating disorder is like overcoming an addiction. The difference is we need food to live. Learning how to be around food and partake in a healthy way is very difficult.
There is powerful wisdom in the Serenity Prayer.
The challenge of learning to be comfortable with her body and with food, and being ok with the certainty that she would have to gain weight.
The journey to healing is a rollercoaster, but hopefully always moving forward.
Playing games with how and when you eat and using it as something to control is a sign that you have an unhealthy relationship with food. Food is fuel. Learn to listen to your body.
Educating your children and not creating negativity around food is the foundation to ensuring they don’t develop eating disorders. Create healthy boundaries and teach them how to best fuel their bodies for their personal activity level.
Create some healthy boundaries with food, but don’t forget to allow yourself or your kids to indulge in junk on occasion. The lure of the forbidden can cause problems down the road.
Your kids see and hear you, make sure you model healthy behavior.
If you see a sudden shift in your children, address it immediately and head-on.
Julie’s advice for anyone struggling with food. Start small. Start now.
Grant yourself forgiveness and focus on the path forward.

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Episode 181 Time Scarcity Perspective Sep 28, 2022

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This week: Time Scarcity Perspective

There always seems to never be enough time to do all the things you need to do and all the things you want to do. How do we create a sense of more time?
Evaluate your time and how you view it. Take an inventory of your day and how you spend your time.
How much time do you spend on regular activities? How can you use this knowledge to change the way you approach and view needing to do these activities?
How much time do you spend on social media? Your phone? Watching TV? Analyze how you spend your time and change what you spend time on to more important things.
What do you value most? How can you design your day around those things? How do you find the balance of “want to” and “have to.”
Create time for the important things! Schedule time with friends! Make dates with your spouse!
Change the way your talk about your to do list. “I will get so much done in 90 minutes” instead of “I only have 90 minutes to get this done.”
Remember that in just a few minutes, you really can get things done that matter. Meditate for 5 minutes. Tidy up for 10 minutes. You will be amazed at what you accomplish.
Shifting your thoughts to “I have plenty of time” will manifest more time.

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Episode 180 Adjusting To Middle School Sep 23, 2022

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Listen to this special Whinypaluza episode with Rebecca’s daughter, Lillie as she talks about her first week of middle school and the changes and adjustments that come with a new school.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

What Lillie loves about middle school in the first week
More teachers and more classes make for more fun!
Adjusting to the demands of getting to different classrooms for each class
Making new friends is a simple as starting conversations
Tips on overcoming your shyness if you aren’t comfortable talking to new people
Lillie’s hopes for middle school
The one thing Lillie says helps her adjust to change so easily- turn it into a challenge!
Find a buddy who can help you to adjust
What makes a great teacher in middle school
Remember to be kind and treat your friends well!
The exciting thing about turning 10
Remember: it’s ok to not feel ok.
Lillie’s outlook on her future, and the joy she finds in helping others to feel good.
The best and most difficult parts of her first week
How she would change the world if she could.
Lillie’s favorite thing to do with her family
What stresses Lillie out at the end of the day
Advice from Lillie for elementary school kids, and their parents
How you can plan to overcome future bumps in the road.
Use your support system and don’t be afraid to ask for help.

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Episode 179 The Money Dance Sep 21, 2022

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This week: The Money Dance

Do you fight about money with your spouse? It is one of the most common points of contention in relationships.
Make sure you and your spouse know what kind of financial background they grew up with. Habits and expectations are founded here.
The stress of paying for college is a big trigger. Learn how Seth turned his parents’ stress over his college tuition into a positive.
Differing views on what is affordable and what is a need vs. a want.
Compromise. Compromise. Compromise. If one spouse is conservative with money and the other is not. Find a comfortable middle ground.
Your view on money needs to be centered in respect for your spouse. Respect will lead to more understanding on your personal finances, and hopefully less arguments.
Oftentimes, where you spend your money is where you place your values. What you spend money on is what you value most. Value your time over cooking? You probably order takeout a lot.
Save vs spend? Just because you can technically afford something, does that mean you should buy it? What returns would you have if chose to invest that money? Discuss with your spouse and see what would mean more in the end.
Schedule regular meetings to discuss your finances. You both need to have a good understanding of where you are and where you are going. Learn to be financial partners!
Identify your role in any financial problem and make a plan to address it.
Remember to stay calm, don’t blame, and be open minded to how your partner feels.

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Episode 178 Helping Our Children Have A Successful School Year with Lisa Chase Sep 16, 2022

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Lisa Chase is a 33-year veteran in education. She has served as a team leader and advisor to her school’s community service club and talent show, as well as a cheerleading coach. Lisa loves her family, her students, cooking, and the Buffalo Bills!

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Lisa Chase about how to help our kids to have a successful school year.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Organization is key! Have everything in its place and make sure your kid is on board and learn to take ownership of how things are done.
Don’t assume your kid knows what needs to be done, until they have established a routine. Ask questions that will clue them in to thinking about whether or not something is done or needs to be done.
Communication with your child’s teacher is a valuable tool for both the parent and the student.
Establish the expectation that you will check to see your child’s work is done, until they prove that they don’t need supervision.
Check in with your kid! How are they socially and emotionally?
Keep offering support and security to your child.
Take time to stop and listen when your child communicates with you.
Do you have a “difficult” child? Lisa says they are often her favorite students. Encourage that connection between child and teacher to help your child feel better understood.
Anxiety in our kids is different these days. Technology, phones, social media, etc. all contribute to overload in our kids. Make sure they have downtime with the family.
Social skills have been affected after the pandemic. How do we encourage our kids to become more social? Encourage in-person interaction.
Teach your child how to solve conflicts. Try role playing. Keep practicing social skills with your kids, no matter how old they are.
Balance unplugged activities with you learning more about what they do online.
Tips on improving your communication with the school

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Episode 177 What Football Is Teaching Me Sep 14, 2022

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This week: What Football Is Teaching Me

We are more motivated than ever to learn about the game of football.
The things we learn about in football are so applicable to life.
Persistency- want to improve? Be consistent and work toward improvement
Practice DOES make perfect- or at least it makes for improvement.
Change can be good! Sometimes overcoming your fear of the unfamiliar can turn out to be a great thing! Taking risks and trying new things can open new doors.
Being a part of a team or group is beneficial. Insist that your kids join SOMETHING.
Study of patterns- they do it in football, you can do it in life. There are patterns in everything. Evaluate the patterns in your life. Are they working for you? If not, what do you change?
Visualization to achieve results! Repetition in the brain and in your mind’s eye can help you to reach your desired goal.
The qualities necessary in a good team leader are the same qualities necessary to be good at your job and a good parent.
Just as you need to make adjustments every day in football, you need to make adjustments in your expectations and your actions every day.
Work as a team! Working together and allowing others to help you will always make you a better competitor and better in life. Embrace your “team” whether it is family or friends.

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Episode 176: Thriving With ADHD Sep 09, 2022

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Dana Kay is a Board-Certified Holistic Health and Nutrition Practitioner and the CEO and founder of the ADHD Thrive Institute and the creator of the ADHD Thrive Method 4 Kids program. As a mother of a child with ADHD, she knows firsthand the struggles that come with parenting a neurodiverse child, but she also knows the freedom that is possible once parents learn to reduce ADHD symptoms. Dana has been featured in Forbes, Authority Magazine, Medium, Influencive, Thrive Global, and various others. She has also been a guest on multiple parenting and ADHD summits and podcasts. Her mission is to help families reduce ADHD symptoms naturally so that children with ADHD can thrive at home, at school, and in life.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Dana Kay about utilizing a nutritional approach to improving or even eliminating ADHD symptoms.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Hear Dana’s relatable story of how she became a nutrition expert, specializing in ADHD treatment.
What the Food First Approach is and how reducing inflammation can be a highly effective treatment for ADHD.
How to begin implementation of removing gluten, dairy, and soy from the diet by easing into it and creating a new “normal.”
Learn more about the Gut-Brain Connection and how it has impacted the increasing number of diagnosed conditions.
Exploring other avenues when nutritional changes don’t have the intended impact.
The impact of general health when inflammation is reduced by changing the diet.
What are some beneficial supplements to consider when you have already changed your diet?

Links Mentioned:

Thriving With ADHD Book https://adhdthriveinstitute.com/book/

Thriving With ADHD Book on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Thriving-ADHD-Naturally-Reducing-Symptoms/dp/1956649611/ref=sr_1_1?crid=P9KTOM7G5N0Q&keywords=thriving+with+adhd&qid=1661965520&sprefix=thriving+with+ad%2Caps%2C232&sr=8-1

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Episode 175: It’s OK To Quit Sep 07, 2022

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This week: It’s OK To Quit

There is a difference between an activity for a child where they are passionate and internally motivated to do and an activity where they rely upon nagging to get to every single time. If it isn’t something they are excited about, it is ok to quit!
Trust your instincts! They are often right. If you feel like it isn’t something to stick with, it may be best to let them quit.
Listen to your child’s input. Are they unhappy about going? Are you unhappy taking them? Forcing them to go may not be the best option.
There is importance in teaching commitment and follow-through, but not at the expense of self-respect and self-care.

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