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Episode 204: Food and Body Freedom with Jessah Autum Dec 30, 2022

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Jessah is a Certified Health and Life Coach who helps women heal their body image and guides them to a sustainable approach to food and freedom so that they can finally feel confident and free in their body.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Jessah Autum about relearning what you know about the rules around diet and exercise to gain freedom in your life and your mind.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

Body image struggles are all too common amongst women, sometimes leading to eating disorders.
Learning how to eat with intuition, relearning what we know about food, and honoring health over food culture.
Letting go of learned rules of eating, and going back to what your body needs.
Food Freedom: Release of restrictions around food and finding guiding principles of your internal need of food.
Reframe a rule into a choice, and state why you are making the choice: put the power in your hands.
Why do we start having negative feelings around food and how can we teach our children differently?
Exposing diet culture: teach your children how pervasive and unrealistic it is, so they can avoid internalizing the messaging.
Teach your children boundaries about the topics they want to talk about. They don’t need to engage in diet and body image conversations.
What is the subconscious root to diet mentality, and what can we replace it with that serves us better?
Oftentimes the desires that drive our need to diet are not related to the weight itself. Identifying and addressing the root cause is far more effective.
Finding healthy exercises that you will consistently do requires finding something you love to do.
Overcoming the inner critic to achieve freedom of mind.

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Episode 203: Holiday Madness with The Greene Family Dec 28, 2022

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Listen to this Whinypaluza Wednesday Live vlog episode with The Greene Family! An extension of the weekly blog, join Rebecca and her family on the live vlog, brought to you here in case you missed it last week!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

In the ever-growing to-do list for the holidays, it is ok to draw a finish line.
You CAN opt out of things that bring you additional stress.
Even with early preparation, we still have last minute things to do. Congratulate yourself for what you were able to achieve early!
One caveat of early preparation, especially with wrapping gifts, is that you might forget what you have and what each thing is.
Some people use spreadsheets and account for all the gifts, money spent, etc. Find something that works for you and your organizational level, whether it is a spreadsheet or a journal.
Pay attention to how you feel. If something brings you stress or guilt, change it. If you feel great doing what you are doing- keep doing it!
Don’t be afraid to cross things off the list that just don’t work for you.
Look for innovations or compromises on things you don’t want to let go of doing, but don’t enjoy.

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Episode 202: Words of Wisdom from Rabbi Alex Dec 23, 2022

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Rabbi Alex Lazarus-Klein came to Buffalo in the Fall of 2008 to serve as the rabbi of Temple Sinai, now called Congregation Shir Shalom. He brings warmth, creativity, and compassion to the role of synagogue rabbi. A trained chaplain and gifted teacher, he is actively engaged in all aspects of communal life, from helping people with their everyday struggles, to intricate details of synagogue governance.

Rabbi Alex is a respected leader in the Buffalo area, serving on many local boards including the Buffalo Board of Rabbis, the Network of Religious Communities, Jewish Family Services, the Bureau of Jewish Education, the Jewish Community Center, and the Coalition of Economic Justice. He is currently serving as president of the Network of Religious Communities. He is also on the national board of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association out of Wyncote, Pennsylvania. He works with leaders of all faiths, to improve the quality of life in Western New York and beyond.

A 2004 graduate of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College he also holds Masters's and Bachelor's Degrees from the Jewish Theological Seminary, as well as a Bachelor’s degree from Columbia University. Before coming to Buffalo, he served as rabbi of Temple B´nai Abraham in Bordentown, New Jersey, and directed the Community Partnership Program for the Jewish Federation of Greater Philadelphia.

He currently resides in Amherst, with his wife Ashirah, and three young children, Jarah, Boaz, and Noam.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Rabbi Alex about how he helps guide his congregants through the highs and lows of all the stages of their lives.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

How Alex became a Rabbi and why it is his true calling.
How Rabbi Alex guides people through the cycles of their lives and how he helps his congregants through stress and hard times.
Special guidance he gave during covid times, and how he saw amazing things despite the added stress.
Removing expectations from outsiders drastically reduces your stress when planning special events, like a bar/bat mitzvah.
How he approaches guiding and supporting couples when they need help connecting and working at their relationship.
Grief comes in many forms, and Rabbi Alex has helped many people through myriad situations.
Having his own family, Rabbi Alex can give sage advice for parents.
How does he manage all the things he does in a day, on top of having a family?
Rabbi’s Advice: You aren’t here to be superhuman. You are here to be human.
What resonates most with him about Judaism.
How can we contribute to creating a world with more acceptance and love.
Why he wrote a book and how he hopes to help others.
How to fit your religious commitments into your kids’ busy lives.
The impact of removing guilt from your life.
Advice on navigating the ever-present Christmas season, when you are Jewish.

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https://shirshalombuffalo.org/

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Episode 201: December Sanity for Moms Dec 21, 2022

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December Sanity for Moms

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

What do you do to cope with stress, especially during the holidays?
Put the gifting stress into perspective: will the gifts make the holiday special, or will something else be more meaningful?
All the gifts don’t need to be amazing and perfect. The holiday ISN’T about the gifts.
Reinforce with your children that the holiday is about the memories more than the gifts.
You do not need to buy for everyone. Pare it down to people who really impact your life.
Big family? Draw names and buy for ONE person instead of everyone.
You don’t have to maintain traditions that don’t work for you. Make a list with your family about what you want to do. Remember: your opinion counts, too.
It is ok to skip cleaning and chores to fit the holiday business in, but don’t cut out regular, healthy eating and exercise. Make them a priority. Skipping them will make you feel worse, contributing to the stress.
Build downtime into your day.
Take time to have gratitude when you find yourself complaining or stressing about things that don’t matter.
If you want to have children who are less materialistic, set a good example.
Does grief factor into your seasonal stress? If the holidays trigger anxiety and depression due to grief, find a way to honor the person instead of skipping the holiday entirely, especially if you have others around you who want to celebrate with you.
Consider baking instead of shopping. Sometimes the gift of homemade treats is a special gift.

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Episode 200: 200th Podcast Episode Special Dec 16, 2022

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Listen to this very special Whinypaluza episode with Rebecca Greene as she celebrates her 200th podcast episode of Whinypaluza!

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

The last 200 episodes have been amazing, and Rebecca can’t wait to bring you more! Let’s review some great moments in our first 2 seasons.
Ryanne Mellick reminded us that kids don’t have the same skill sets as adults. Remember to have patience with them. There are skills you can utilize to help your kids calm themselves.
Shana James got us to open up about talking about sex. Encourage healthy conversations with your children and with your partner. Mature honesty is found in having an open and honest conversation with your spouse.
Julie Emmerson opened up to us about her history of having an eating disorder and being in recovery and what that looks like from the inside. Start small to begin the path forward.
Special Guest Lillie Greene was a very special conversation as Rebecca’s youngest got to open up about what it is like to be in middle school. Don’t underestimate your kids! They can rise to the challenge.
Lisa (Miller) Chase gave us insight into being successful in school from the point of view of a seasoned teacher.
Dana Kay gave us information about changing your child’s diet to treat behavior issues.
Rachel Bailey inspired us by thinking about the long game of parenting. How do you find inspiration and useful tools to get you through tough times in parenting?
Dr. Robyne Hanley-Defoe taught us we can do hard things, and so can our kids! Be persistent and trust the process.
Melissa Stecher helped us to organize not only our homes, but our busy lives by rephrasing “I have to” as “I get to.” She also reminds us we have a team in our family to help us out.
Wendie Pett taught us that our mind is more powerful than we know. You can even strength train with the power of your mind. Mindset is key, and the body follows.
Andrea Cairella taught us that when we honor our time and our boundaries, we reclaim our power.
Josephine Alturi reminded us to start small when learning to build mediation into our day.
Anne Marie Comaratta helped us to understand the college admissions process, and how an outside person might get your kid to open up.
Stef Richthammer reminds us to set intentions and teach our kids to problem solve and cope without us all the time.
Judy Herman opened up to us about her experience with being married to someone with bi-polar disorder. She revealed that you can’t do the work for your significant other. We can support them, but they have to do the work.
Beth Syverson opened up about her son’s struggles with drug addiction and how she grappled with the ups and downs of helping him in recovery.
Melinda Jennis talked about the importance of inclusion when it comes to our kids. Don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Dr. Dana McNeil taught us about the Gottman Method for marital therapy, and “The Four Horsemen to your Marriage.
Dr. Maggie Vaughn reminded us to take moments to connect with your spouse to maintain a healthy, strong marriage.

If you missed any of these fantastic episodes, go back and listen to them, you won’t want to miss out.

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Episode 199: Feeling Inspired Instead of Inadequate Dec 14, 2022

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This week: Feeling Inspired Instead of Inadequate

No matter how much you do well, if you see someone else doing something that you think is better, it can make you feel inadequate. How do we stop feeling this way?
Instead of complaining, search for tools to be more successful at what you are struggling with?
The next time you see someone doing something right- say Thank You!
When you start to feel inadequate, start thinking of all the things you do successfully every day. Write down a list and pull it out when you are feeling bad.
Feel curious and inspired instead of inadequate. Think about which serves your better.
Our brain lies to us. Look for evidence, and tell it to be nice to you.
You never know what is going on in other people’s lives, so you cannot compare yourself to them. Everyone has their own insecurities.
There is room for everyone to succeed! Don’t feel like someone else’s success detracts from your own.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Learn to change your reaction when this happens. Comparison is the thief of joy.
Give yourself compassion!

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Episode 198: The World of EMDR Therapy Dec 09, 2022

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Erin’s passion for helping others understand emotions began at a young age and continued to flourish throughout college. A graduate of Bowling Green State University, Erin majored in psychology and minored in communications, with a strong emphasis on research on eating disorders & body image. After completing her master’s degree in Clinical Psychology at West Chester University, Erin has spent her career treating clients in a variety of settings, including residential, PHP, IOP, and outpatient settings for both adolescents and adults. Erin is trained in relational trauma repair (RTR), and attachment-based family therapy (ABFT, level 2), and is a certified therapist & consultant-in-training in eye movement desensitization reprocessing (EMDR). Erin utilizes EMDR as her primary therapy modality, treating individuals struggling with anxiety, depression, relational issues, PTSD, interpersonal trauma, and attachment issues. On a case-by-case basis, Erin utilizes AAT with her border collie/poodle mix, Max.

Listen to this educational Whinypaluza episode with Erin Ziegelmeyerabout EMDR Therapy, and how it differs from talk therapy.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

What is EMDR and how is it different?
How processing past traumas in a new way can help relieve anxiety and depression.
EMDR is not limited to traumas, it can be used for any kind of negative thoughts.
EMDR allows a therapist to help without having to know every detail or story of your past.
How EMDR can help families and children.
What is attachment and how does it affect us?
Using her dog, Max, in therapy to help her patients.

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Episode 197: Trips Evolve Over the Years Dec 07, 2022

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Trips Evolve Over the Years

Family trips can be managed mayhem, whether you are driving or flying.

There is always a huge to-do list before you leave.

What are your pre-vacation prep rituals? How have things evolved for you over the years?
Packing for kids: when do you let them pack their own things?
Keeping kids busy and engaged in transit- it is more hands-on when they are younger.
The gift of GPS: No more “Are we there yet?!”
Handheld devices are a game-changer. Make sure you have a hotspot!
Once you get to your destination, say goodbye to your teenagers! It will take a lot of coaxing to get them to interact.
There is peace that comes with maturity in your kids. A lot of responsibility is taken off your plate so you can relax more.
Outings and activities can be more enjoyable for the entire family, as your interests evolve.
Remembering to celebrate growth and independence as your kids get older.

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Episode 196: Unpacking the 9 Types on the Enneagram Personality Test Dec 02, 2022

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Alice Fryling is a spiritual director and author. She and her husband worked with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship for over fifty years. Alice has also been actively involved in church ministry and teaching workshops on the Enneagram and Myers Briggs Temperament Inventory. Her books on relationships, spiritual formation, and spiritual direction have sold over half a million copies and are published in over ten languages. She and her husband, Bob, are parents of two daughters and grandparents of two grandsons and two granddaughters. They live in Monument, Colorado.

Listen to this insightful Whinypaluza episode with Alice Fryling about the Enneagram Personality Test.

Here is what to expect on this week’s show:

What is Enneagram?
What are the 9 types of Enneagram personalities?
The Perfectionist
The Caring Nurturer or Helper
The Successful Achiever
The Sensitive Creative
The Wise, Perceptive Observer
The Loyal and Sensitive to Authority
The Joyful and Fun-loving
The Leader & Challenger
The Easygoing Peacemaker
Each has its strengths and weaknesses- developing self-awareness is key.
How accurate are the tests?
Does your personality type change as you grow older?
When we are under stress, we often overplay our gifts.
Understanding the personality type of someone else can help you to engage with them and problem-solve.
The Enneagram will enrich your marriage, which in turn will enrich your parenting.
The Enneagram Triads: Head, Heart, and Gut
What are the gifts and compulsions of each personality type?

Connect with Alice:

Websitewww.alicefryling.com
Mirror For The Soul and Alice’s other books https://www.alicefryling.com/books
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Episode 195: Gratitude Is A Superpower Nov 25, 2022

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Thanksgiving week is the PERFECT time to flex your gratitude muscle. But why limit yourself to one day a year? We at Whinypaluza are thankful for this community and all the great conversations we have both on the podcast, and on social media. THANK YOU!

Gratitude Is A Superpower

There are actual scientific studies on the effects of having gratitude.
What does having gratitude DO for you? You’ll be surprised!
Voicing your gratitude before you go to bed can actually improve your sleep
Learn to build gratitude into your day by creating new habits and rituals.
Make a point to express your gratitude toward loved ones every day.
Learn to LOOK for things to be grateful for. Gratitude begets more gratitude.
Look outside of yourself more often and you will find more to be grateful for.
The Flip Challenge! Having a bad thought or reaction? Flip it! How can you turn it into a positive thought?
A brain that produces good thoughts and gratitude will help you to be happier.

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