The Unmasked Project

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My Polycule Imploded & I Got Locked Out (Literally) Sep 16, 2025

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🎧 Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

This week, Layla sits down with Naat—a fan-turned-social-media-slaya—for a brutally honest deep dive into her very first (and very dramatic) polycule.

What starts with a locked door at a lifestyle party ends in heartbreak, healing, and a hot mess of jealousy, boundaries, and group chat tension. Naat spills everything: the friend-group-turned-polycule, watching her boyfriend hook up across the room, and the moment she realized… maybe poly just isn’t her vibe.

But it’s not all drama—there’s flirting, forgiveness, and a whole lot of boots-the-house-down Gen Z slang. (Yes, we’re saying Boots now. Slay is over. Apparently.)

Whether you’re a seasoned swinger or ENM-curious, this episode is your permission slip to feel it all—jealousy, joy, and the chaos in between.

💥 In this episode:

From fan to team member: how Naat joined The Unmasked inner circle
Locked out at a lifestyle party and finding polyam fam vibes
First-time polycule: roommate romance and the friend group fallout
Watching your ex hook up in the same room—and staying chill(ish)
The unsexy truth about poly breakups and staying in the same friend circle
Cuck queen confessions, background checks, and bad Twitter men
Why communication is everything—and honest communication is more
Boundary fails, party faux pas, and that time Naat turned the lights on mid-gangbang
Taking people as they are—not their potential (ouch)
Layla’s take on poly growth, heartbreak, and loving someone through their breakup

⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Fan turned social media slay-ess: Meet Naat

0:54 – Gen Z slang audit: Slay is out, Boots is in

1:24 – That one lifestyle party with a locked door (and fate)

2:51 – Nat’s first polycule: friends, hookups, and chaos

4:30 – Breakups, boundaries, and bad communication

6:07 – Poly heartbreak: "Maybe this isn’t for me"

7:17 – Dating the roommate and hooking up in the friend group

9:05 – Trying to stay friends after a messy breakup

10:57 – The “I walked in on them” moment—ouch

13:04 – Layla on poly, soulmates, and the “Devil Woman” effect

16:32 – Jealousy vs. anger and how to talk through it

20:05 – Being cute-jealous vs. being a problem

23:34 – Cuck queen problems and red tape reclaiming

26:05 – Boundaries, broken agreements, and too-long hookups

30:36 – Light switch mishap during a birthday gangbang

31:50 – Advice for poly newbies: Figure out your why

33:20 – When your partner sets time limits on your other dates

35:00 – Condoms, double standards, and imaginary flowers

38:30 – Favorite part of the lifestyle? Flirting. Duh.

40:00 – Finding your crew and building the community you want

43:00 – Final thoughts on jealousy, love, and lessons learned

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Ep. 81 - Ovulation Made Me Do It: The Text I Shouldn’t Have Sent 👀 Aug 29, 2025

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🎧 Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!This week’s episode kicks off with heartbreak, hurt feelings... and a wildly inappropriate text message to an ex’s best friend. Oops.Layla gets raw about her breakup with James—who, btw, wrote a breakup song about her—and the impulsive decision that followed: sliding into his best friend’s DMs. The result? Some rejection, some reflection, and a whole lot of hilarious chaos.But that’s just the warm-up. From public play party orgasms with electric wands to navigating OF fallout and the uphill battle of scrubbing nudes from the internet, this episode is a full-on emotional striptease.We’re talking ovulation-fueled decisions, ethical dilemmas, boundary wins, and whether trying to hook up with your ex’s bestie is ever actually worth it. (Spoiler: usually no. But maybe sometimes?)Oh, and we may or may not have helped facilitate a sex scene live at a party. It’s fine. Everything’s fine.💥 In this episode:- When your ex writes a song called “Devil Woman” and you kinda love it- Shooting your shot with his best friend (and the very respectful curve)- Regret, ovulation, and horny mistakes we learn from—maybe- The real cost (and process) of deleting your adult content from the web- Electric play, party orgasms, and the vibe of curated chaos- Why the podcast is taking a short break—and what’s coming next🎧 Whether you’re team “text the bestie” or team “what the hell is wrong with you,” this episode is pure unfiltered fire. Hit play and dive in.🔥 Bonus episodes & behind-the-scenes tea in Discord🌶️ Products we love⏰ Timestamps: 0:00 – Breakup confessions & devilish songs from exes 3:30 – “I walked in on you with him” (James, if you're listening... hey) 6:50 – The text to the best friend and the respectful rejection heard 'round the world 10:30 – Ovulating and out of pocket: why she did it anyway 14:40 – Ethics, egos, and dating within the friend group 18:20 – OnlyFans regrets: what happens after you quit 21:00 – Scrubbing adult content from the internet: time, cost & trauma 25:30 – NSFW content gone viral (not in a good way) 30:00 – Party talk: peptides, play spaces, and power tools 33:00 – Electric wand + vibrator = public orgasm, no notes 36:00 – From awkward to electric: how safe play feels 40:00 – Party vibes, curated vs. casual, and the burnout is real 45:00 – Behind-the-scenes: podcasting, purpose, and a retreat reset 50:00 – What's next for the pod (and why we’re taking a breather) 53:00 – Burning Man plans & unmasked future teasers 56:00 – Wrap-up: Try something—try someone—new🔗 Follow us on IG🔗 Follow us on TikTok📧 Questions or stories? theunmaskedprojectpod@gmail.com

Ep. 80 - What It’s Really Like at a Play Party (First-Timers Tell All) 🎭👀 Aug 22, 2025

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

This week, we’re lifting the veil on one of the most tantalizing rites of passage in the lifestyle: your first curated play party. And we didn’t just talk about it—we brought in a couple who lived it.

Meet Ray & Andy: longtime listeners who won tickets to The Play and walked in wide-eyed… only to become the stars of the night. From mirror spanking scenes that stopped the room to blindfolded sensory experiences, energetic makeouts, and even some accidental hypnosis—it’s the kind of wild ride you only get when it’s your first time.

It’s raw, it’s curious, and it’s a little chaotic—in the best way. We talk about what makes a curated event hit different, how expectations line up with reality, and why chocolate representation still matters in these spaces.

If you’ve ever wondered what really happens at these parties—or if you're planning your first—consider this your unofficial survival guide.

💥 In this episode:

How a podcast and a Google search sparked a play party origin story
Their spicy meet-cute at a pool party (and a crowd-stopping spanking scene)
Inside The Play: vibes, attractions, and activities galore
The “Helen Keller” room, sensory games, and the orgy of hands
Party politics, wristband signals & navigating first-time nerves
What they’d do differently—and why they’re already planning to go back

🎧 Whether you’re lifestyle-curious or seasoned and jaded, this one brings you back to that electric first-time energy. Grab a drink, press play, and maybe even take notes.

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⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project0:40 – Meet Ray & Andy: Listeners Turned First-Timers2:00 – Their Sketchy First Parties & Why They Searched for More4:30 – Chocolate Representation & Feeling Seen6:00 – How They Met: Pool Party + Spanking Scene = Magic9:00 – Room-Stopper: When the Whole Party Watched12:00 – First Impressions at The Play15:20 – Massage Tables, Snakes & Sensory Rooms18:30 – Blindfolds, Hands & Accidental Orgies22:00 – Hypnotized to Climax?! (Yes, Really)26:00 – Parallel Play, Shy Guys & Consent Talks30:10 – Real Talk: Is There Enough Chocolate at These Events?34:00 – Playroom Dynamics & What Surprised Them39:00 – Party Themes: Hits, Misses & Dressing to Impress44:00 – Role Play Dreams & Why Cocktail Attire Is King48:30 – Advice for First-Timers: Boundaries, Connection & Saying Hi52:00 – Would They Go Back? (Spoiler: Hell Yes)54:00 – Wrap-Up: Try Something—Or Someone—New

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Ep. 79 - Smells Like BV? The Vagina Talk Everyone Needs (But No One Has) Aug 15, 2025

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🎧 Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

Second date, and we're bringing back a banger! We brought a masked OBGYN into the playroom. Dr. Arianna joins us to answer all your burning questions about BV, UTIs, birth control, vaginal hygiene, and the mysterious condition known as PMDD. From what your discharge actually means to whether boric acid is your best friend or a quick fix fail, we’re getting clinical without killing the vibe.

This isn’t your high school health class. We’re talking real talk about vagina smells at parties, post-play infections, and why some women feel like they’re losing their damn minds once a month. Plus: Do pregnancy salads work? Is it okay to birth on all fours? What’s the deal with Lotus births? Reddit brought the chaos—and Dr. Arianna brought the facts.

If you’ve ever whispered “Is this normal?”—this is your episode.

💥 In this episode:

BV, yeast, and why your vagina isn’t dirty
The great soap debate: What’s safe to use down there?
What causes post-party infections (and how to prevent them)
The truth about birth control and hormone myths
PMDD, mood swings, and the partner pain no one talks about
WTF is a Lotus birth, and should you actually do it?

⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome + Meet Dr. Ariana, Masked OBGYN

1:05 – What is an OBGYN (and yes, she does C-sections too)

2:52 – What exactly is BV, and why does it smell like that?

6:04 – How sex, toys, and yoga pants trigger infections

8:29 – Can soap cause BV? (Short answer: yes)

10:31 – Boric acid, BV myths, and treating the wrong thing

12:11 – Do you need antibiotics or just vibes?

13:28 – Yeast vs. UTI vs. WTF: What are you actually feeling?

15:47 – What partygoers should know about hygiene & handwashing

17:48 – Condoms, toy cleaning & washing your damn hands

20:12 – Let’s talk about birth control (and the anti-hormone panic)

24:00 – Is it bad to skip your period? Not always.

26:32 – PMDD: The mood monster in your luteal phase

29:02 – Fighting with your partner? It might be your hormones

30:50 – How birth control + SSRIs treat PMDD

34:09 – Reddit rapid-fire: pregnancy salads, all-fours births, and Lotus weirdness

39:39 – Birth plan vs. emergency plan: when doctors have to pivot

42:00 – Final thoughts + massive respect for Dr. Ariana

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Ep. 78 - She Found Out She Was on the No-Fly List… Here’s What Happened Aug 08, 2025

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

In this tell-all episode, we rip the mask off one of the lifestyle’s most whispered-about topics: the No-Fly List. Who gets put on it, why they’re there, and how it feels when you find out you made the cut. From unspoken boundaries to repeated STI scares, we’re digging deep into what keeps people “off limits” in open relationships and Lifestyle circles.

It’s raw, it’s real, and sometimes… it’s personal. We swap stories of awkward “not with you” moments, playing politics in play parties, and the awkward truth about why some people just can’t get past your partner’s rules. Plus, the surprising ways being single changes how couples treat you—and why some flirtations never make it past the DMs.

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I being respectful… or am I about to get grounded from the hot list?”—this one’s for you.

💥 In this episode:

- What a “No-Fly List” really means in the lifestyle

- The fine line between safety, jealousy & politics

- How STI patterns can land you on the list (and keep you there)

- Why being single changes the party dynamic

- The real reason some couples won’t play with you

- Respect, boundaries & calling out repeat offenders

🎧 If you’re navigating ethical non-monogamy, Lifestyle etiquette, or just want to avoid the “banned” list, grab your drink and buckle up—this one flies close to the sun.

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⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project

0:40 – “No-Fly List” 101: What It Means & Why It Exists

2:15 – Have You Ever Been On One? Confessions From the Crew

4:10 – The Role of Trust, Safety & Past Drama

6:00 – Pikme Behavior & Disrespecting Couples’ Dynamics

8:15 – Playing Together vs. Playing Solo

10:00 – STI Patterns & Drawing the Line

12:45 – When Being Single Changes the Game

15:10 – Why Some People Feel “Silently” Rejected

18:20 – Navigating Insecurities & Hotness Ratios

21:05 – The Siren Effect: Attractive Energy as a Double-Edged Sword

24:00 – Respecting Boundaries Without Killing the Vibe

27:40 – Do You Confront Repeat Offenders or Just Add to the List?

31:15 – Being Misunderstood in the Lifestyle

34:20 – Flirtation, Friend-Zoning & Why Men Don’t Approach

38:10 – Power Dynamics & Party Hosting

41:00 – The Slap Heard ’Round the Playroom

44:20 – Lessons Learned: Communication, Respect & Reputation

47:30 – Final Thoughts: Flying High Without Crossing the Line

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Ep. 77 - We Left a Play Party for the Gym Crew… Was It Worth It? Aug 01, 2025

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!This week, we left a play party… to crash a gym crew happy hour. Yep, it was that kind of night.

In this cheeky yet vulnerable episode, Layla and Brian unpack everything from flirty gym crushes to emotionally confusing “friendships” that only show up when someone’s single. We’re talking about hot bodies, hotter boundaries, and the real communication gaps hiding in open relationships.

From sweaty workouts to sweaty situationships, we explore what happens when fitness motivation meets lifestyle temptation. Is it ever safe to hook up within your gym crew? Why do some “friends” vanish into monogamy and pop back up like clockwork? And most importantly—are you washing yourself correctly?

Whether you’re navigating modern love, trying to avoid cheating tales, or just here for the real talk, this one’s packed with humor, heart, and a little sweat.

💥 In this episode:

Leaving a play party for a gym crush
Flirty friends, emotional boundaries & communication skills
When “he’s just a friend” hits different in an open marriage
Why your gym might be the new lifestyle hotspot
Confessions about hygiene, hand towels, and honesty
The power of couples therapy (and group chats)

🎧 Whether you're on a fitness journey, a wellness journey, or just trying to find your people, this episode serves gym motivation and romantic insights.

We’re sweaty, unfiltered, and still your favorite unmasked crew.

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⏰ Timestamps:0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project0:13 – Guys who are “100% straight”... but watching what?0:31 – Inside LA’s hottest gym party1:52 – We left a play party for this?3:06 – Gym happy hours: messy, sexy, or both?5:00 – Why we don’t date at our gym7:16 – DIY cut-offs & Michaels cart therapy11:27 – When friends only text you single14:15 – Flirting or emotional cheating?17:00 – How to keep the peace with your partner20:35 – Fitness motivation or forbidden vibes?24:20 – The great washcloth debate28:00 – Soap, sex, and sweat: body talk gets real30:00 – Reddit reactions: swingers, poly, and play rules34:10 – Do couples who swing together really stay together?37:00 – Emotional growth vs. hot mess express40:00 – Dating profiles decoded: what those bios really mean

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Ep 76 Pt 2 - He Used ChatGPT to Break Up With Me?! | Poly Breakups Jul 25, 2025

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project!

In this no-holds-barred episode, Layla reads a ChatGPT-generated breakup text that stirs up serious questions about communication, ghosting, and emotional responsibility in polyamory. The relationship started fast—but ended faster, with guilt trips, AI scripts, and passive-aggressive silence.

We dive into the messy emotional terrain of non-monogamy, sex parties, and swinger dynamics in a community that's evolving—sometimes for the worse. Are the parties getting younger and riskier? Are people using poly to avoid deeper issues? And what happens when emotional intelligence goes out the window?

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I really poly, or do I just like falling in love?”—this one’s for you. Whether you're deep in the poly lifestyle or just curious about the swinger scene, this conversation hits hard with raw truth and real laughs.

💥 In this episode:

The AI breakup text that ended it all
Emotional boundaries in open relationships
Ghosting, guilt, and poly dating etiquette
STI awareness & why vetting matters more than ever
Are you actually poly—or just addicted to NRE?
When the lifestyle starts to feel... unsafe

🎧 If you’re exploring ethical non-monogamy, sex positivity, or navigating a poly breakup, this one pulls no punches.

We’re bold, we’re raw, and we’re still your favorite unmasked truth-tellers.

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⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project

0:12 – Layla Reads the ChatGPT Breakup Text

1:15 – Ghosted: “My Silence Was My Communication”

3:30 – Guilt, Boundaries & Emotional Labor

5:40 – Is He Just Not Poly?

8:00 – Sex Party Etiquette: How Soon Is Too Soon?

11:30 – Why Some People Aren’t Cut Out for This Life

14:00 – STI Spikes & the Responsibility of Vetting

17:20 – Are You Poly or Just Addicted to NRE?

21:00 – Relationship Coaching: Intentions vs. Impulses

24:40 – Lifestyle Fatigue: Are the Vibes Off?

29:10 – When the Scene Feels Less Safe (and Less Sexy)

33:20 – Emotional Intelligence, Party Culture & Calling It Out

36:00 – The Crew Gets Real About Checking Your Friends

40:00 – Getting Off: Rants About Michaels Carts & Costco Carts

43:00 – Final Thoughts on Communication, Sex, and Self-Respect

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Ep 76 Pt 1 - The TRUTH About Boob Jobs, Botox & Beauty Pressure Jul 18, 2025

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Why do so many women feel pressured to change their bodies? In this raw, revealing episode, Jacki Schechner joins Layla & Brian to talk about boob jobs, Botox, body standards, and the surprising things men actually notice (and don’t).

From straight pubes to shrinking boobs, they unpack how the algorithm fuels insecurity, how cosmetic surgery plays out in the lifestyle space, and how aging, sex drive, and confidence evolve with time.

This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation. Subscribe so you don’t miss next week’s episode.

⏰ Timestamps

0:00 Welcome Back: Jacki Schechner on Beauty, Sex & Pressure

1:30 Botox, Fillers & Cosmetic Work in the ENM Scene

6:15 Do Men Really Care About Cellulite, Scars & Small Boobs?

9:45 Do People Think Breast Implant Scars Look Bad

13:00 Penis Size, Disappointment & Bedroom Etiquette

17:00 How the Lifestyle Space Boosts Body Confidence

20:30 Lingerie, First Parties & Feeling Sexy Again

24:00 Peptides, Weight Loss & Testosterone After 30

30:00 Can You Tell If Your Sex Drive Is Declining?

33:00 Jacki’s Breakup, Alcohol Journey & Learning Control

38:00 The Algorithm Is Lying to You About Beauty Standards

43:00 Part 2 Is Coming Soon. We're Not Done With Jacki

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Ep 75. - Why Young Men Are Struggling with Sex & Connection Jul 11, 2025

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Sabrina Baldini—TEDx speaker, sex educator, and host of After Sex Ed—joins us to explore what she calls “The Third Sexual Revolution.” From porn literacy and ED to dating app burnout and non-monogamy, we dive deep into how young men are navigating sex, relationships, and connection in a post-digital world.We talk about what’s broken in sex ed, how porn is shaping sexual expectations, and why so many people are craving something real—both in and out of the bedroom.Whether you're a curious dater, a parent, or just someone questioning what sex means today—this episode will challenge, educate, and probably make you laugh.⏰ Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: Who is Sabrina Baldini?2:00 – Why adult sex ed is more needed than ever6:30 – Teaching consent in kindergarten: A Canadian model10:00 – Sex ed trauma in the US: Robot babies & scare tactics13:45 – Porn literacy and how young men learn about sex18:00 – Why erections ≠ love (and why many men think they do)23:00 – Premature ejaculation & what it really means26:30 – The problem with 25-minute sex scenes31:00 – The Third Sexual Revolution: What it is & why now34:00 – Dating app fatigue and the rise of in-person connection38:30 – Can men and women really be friends?45:00 – Why non-monogamy might be part of the future51:00 – Is monogamy a spectrum?55:00 – What the cheating numbers really say about monogamy🔗 Want to Connect with SabrinaTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@LearnwithSabrinaInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/afters3xed/Sabrina's Website: www.aftersexed.com🎧 Subscribe for more stories like this! 🔥 Listen to all of our episodes on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4uOOhjA...🔥 Follow us on IG: / theunmasked_project 🔥 Follow us on TT: / themaskedswingers 🔥 Email us with your questions at theunmaskedprojectpod@gmail.com

Ep. 74 - She Had It All—So Why Did She Break Up With Him? Jul 04, 2025

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Welcome back to The Unmasked Project, fka The Masked Swingers!

In this live relationship coaching session, Layla opens up about the emotional intensity of dating while married in an ethical non-monogamy setup. Her partner, brand new to both polyamory and serious relationships, brings passion—but also insecurity and emotional dependency. With the help of renowned relationship coach Mary Jo Lorei, we dive deep into what happens when love overload meets emotional labor and blurred boundaries.

If you've ever struggled to balance autonomy and connection in an open relationship, or wondered how to say no without guilt, this is the episode for you. Whether you're navigating non-monogamous dating, redefining love, or stuck in emotional overwhelm, this conversation is packed with clarity and courage.

💥 In this episode:

Breakup advice that honors love and self-respect
A real-time live coaching session on polyamory coaching and boundary setting
Tools for overcoming relationship guilt, emotional burnout, and over-functioning
Insights on conscious relationships and redefining the role of “boyfriend”

🎧 If you're seeking polyamory advice, exploring relationship communication, or craving emotional clarity in love, don’t miss this one.

We’ve dropped the masks, but kept the raw, unfiltered vibe. The Unmasked Project is the evolution of our show—still hosted by Brian and Layla, still diving deep into intimacy, identity, and human connection. Only now, we’re going even deeper. Same bold energy. New name. Fully unmasked.

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⏰ Timestamps:

0:00 – Welcome to The Unmasked Project: Live Polyamory Coaching

0:58 – Introducing Mary Jo Lorei: Relationship Coach & Self Mastery Mentor

1:40 – Layla’s Polyamorous Relationship Setup: Married + Dating

3:15 – Dating a Poly Newbie: The Risks of Being Their First

4:50 – When Poly Love Moves Too Fast: Emotional Burnout Begins

6:30 – The Breakup: Navigating Guilt and Emotional Overwhelm

9:15 – Coaching Breakdown: What Do You Really Want from a Relationship?

11:50 – Redefining the “Boyfriend” Role in Non-Monogamous Dating

14:20 – Boundaries in Polyamory: When You Love Them, But It’s Not Enough