The Sabrina Zohar Show

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221: Can You Get Them To Change? Aug 21, 2026

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Discernment in dating is not about spotting every red flag, it's about not creating green ones that were never there. Sabrina opens with the story of the emotionally unavailable man she spent years making excuses for, then breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, why your gut is quiet and your anxiety comes with a story, and how the halo effect keeps you ignoring obvious incompatibility. She covers boundaries versus walls, whether "high standards" are self-trust or self-protection, how to trust yourself again after being lied to, and why limerence and fantasy keep you stuck in situationships that were never going anywhere.

If you're tired of overthinking texts, playing detective with attachment styles, and hoping someone becomes who you need them to be, this one is for you. See it for what it is, not for what you want it to be.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why The Spark Can Be Dangerous

02:42 Falling For The Fantasy Not Him

05:52 Anxious Texting And Chasing Crumbs

09:30 What Discernment Actually Means

11:47 Is It Your Gut Or Your Anxiety?

14:11 Boundaries Vs Walls In Dating

17:17 High Standards Or Fear Of Intimacy

19:26 Trusting Yourself After Being Lied To

21:40 The Evidence Vs Story Exercise

25:04 Stop Hoping They'll Change

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220: What Does It Mean To "Do The Work?" Aug 14, 2026

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What does it actually mean to do the work? In this solo episode, Sabrina breaks down how therapy talk gets weaponized to dodge accountability, and what real healing looks like when you stop intellectualizing and start implementing. She digs into sitting in discomfort, regulating your nervous system, the difference between ruminating and processing, why journaling rewires your brain, and how inner child work changes the way you show up in dating and relationships.

She also answers a listener question about telling a healthy, secure partner you're not ready, unpacks anxious and avoidant attachment, and shares why detaching from the outcome is the number one lesson of doing the work. If you're tired of surface level advice and ready for the real, unsexy practice of becoming secure in yourself and your relationships, this one is for you, babes.

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Chapters:

0:00 Therapy Talk Is Killing Accountability

3:10 What Doing The Work Actually Means

5:59 Stop Using AI To Replace Therapy

8:16 Ruminating vs Processing

11:20 Inner Child Work In Practice

13:43 Healing Doesnt Erase The Pain

16:34 Detaching From The Outcome

19:21 There Is No Being Fully Healed

22:30 Single vs Relationship Healing

25:48 Tool Of The Week + Product Of The Week

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219: Dating Someone Who Won't Choose You Aug 11, 2026

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Why do you keep chasing someone who only shows up halfway? Sabrina breaks down the difference between choosing yourself and waiting to be chosen, and why hope works exactly like a slot machine when you are stuck in a situationship. She reads a listener letter about falling for a married man from the gym, unpacks why ghosting and mixed signals feel so addictive, and explains how intermittent reinforcement turns a fantasy into an obsession you cannot shake.

Plus the first ever listener voice note on modern dating and dating app burnout, why early intensity says nothing about someone's intention, and a rapid fire round covering how to get over not being chosen, surviving a long distance breakup, handling core wounds and triggers that pop up out of nowhere, and what to demand when someone comes crawling back. If you are done with breadcrumbs, low effort dating, and being the one who always texts first, this one is for you.

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If you’re serious about changing your dating patterns instead of repeating them, the Art of Going Slow course helps you unlearn urgency, regulate your nervous system, and build real connection without rushing, chasing, or abandoning yourself ⁠HERE!⁠

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Chapters:

00:00 Two Dates Then They Went Cold

03:00 Why Going Slow Beats Intensity

06:00 Gym Crush Turned Out To Be Married

09:00 Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Them

12:00 Asking Why Keeps You Stuck

15:00 You Weren't Replaced, Reframe It

18:00 Core Wounds That Randomly Pop Up

21:00 Has Modern Dating Actually Changed

24:00 Attention Versus Intention In Dating

26:39 Tool Of The Week: Choosing Yourself

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218: You're Not Ready For Love If You Do This W/ David Ghiyam Aug 07, 2026

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What actually makes someone attractive, and why it has almost nothing to do with how they look. Sabrina sits down with Kabbalah teacher David Ghiyam for a conversation that goes completely off script, into her father wound, the dating patterns she repeated through all of her 20s, and why the relationship she almost walked away from for being "boring" turned into the healthiest one she's ever had.

They get into energy and attraction, healing childhood wounds, why safe love feels boring to a dysregulated nervous system, how to know if you're settling or actually in the right relationship, why a secure partner will still trigger you, and how fast you move from rupture to repair. If you keep dating the same person in a different body, this one is for you.

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Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

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Chapters:

00:00 What Makes Someone Attractive

03:36 What Makes A Man Attractive

07:20 Healing The Father Wound

11:08 Why You Think You're The Problem

14:40 Choosing The Man You Didn't Want

18:32 Why My Dad Disowned Me

21:45 Going Against Your Nature Works

25:43 Are You Settling Or Growing

29:30 Dating Again After Divorce

34:09 Does Staying Single Protect Your Peace

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217: How to Sit In The Discomfort Jul 31, 2026

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Certainty in dating is a fantasy. There is no milestone, not exclusivity, not "I love you," not moving in, not marriage, that finally makes relationship anxiety go away. In this episode Sabrina breaks down why your brain would rather have a bad answer than no answer, how anxious attachment turns an unanswered text into a story about rejection, and why chasing, overthinking, testing, people pleasing, and checking your phone every five seconds are ways of managing anxiety rather than dating strategies.

She also separates the two kinds of discomfort: walking on eggshells, accepting breadcrumbs, and tolerating mixed signals and inconsistency, versus asking for what you need, setting boundaries, saying no, and letting someone leave. Plus the tool of the week, evidence versus story, a simple practice for catching the narrative your brain invents when you do not have all the information. Secure people are not secure because they have certainty, they have capacity.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

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Chapters:

00:00 Why certainty in dating is a fantasy

02:58 Why your brain needs an answer now

05:39 Overthinking texts and short replies

08:01 Why not knowing feels so stressful

10:24 Wrong discomfort vs right discomfort

13:12 Do they come back after a break?

15:54 Why control does not make you safer

18:38 Why you attract the same people

21:53 Tool: evidence vs the story

23:48 Why secure people have more capacity

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216: Why You Freeze Instead of Walking Away Jul 24, 2026

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Do you go silent mid-argument and only find the words hours later in the shower? Stay in a situationship you can't end? Become whoever they need that week until you can't find your own taste anymore? In this vulnerable solo episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina unpacks the freeze, fawn, and flop behaviors that get mislabeled as being chill, low maintenance, or the "cool girl." She explains why people-pleasing is really self-abandonment, why going blank isn't you being broken, and why the avoidant "they don't care" story is a lie we tell ourselves to feel better.

Through raw personal stories about chasing older men, buying concert tickets to be chosen, and finally coming home to herself, Sabrina reframes these patterns as survival skills you can actually change. If you deal with anxiety, decision paralysis, overthinking, situationships, attachment wounds, or feeling "too much" or "too cold," this one is for you. There is nothing wrong with you, and it's time to stop earning everyone's love except your own.

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Chapters:

00:00 Why You Shut Down Instead of React

02:20 Why Avoidants Really Pull Away

05:30 Why You Freeze in Hard Conversations

08:25 My Situationship and Self Abandonment

11:08 Decision Paralysis in Dating

13:32 Freezing and Coming Home to Yourself

16:38 People Pleasing and Losing Yourself

19:12 Why Your Body Freezes and Goes Numb

22:27 How to Stop Overthinking Right Now

25:31 There Is Nothing Wrong With You

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215: They're Not Busy, They're Avoiding You Jul 17, 2026

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The disappearing. The suddenly busy. The phone that comes out the second eye contact gets real. In this episode of the nervous system series, Sabrina breaks down the flight response in dating and relationships: what's actually happening in the body when someone pulls back, why intimacy reads as danger, and why "I just need space" almost never has anything to do with space. Anxious and avoidant attachment both run this alarm, and we've spent years villainizing one and excusing the other instead of understanding either.

Inside: why going cold after a great date isn't self-sabotage, how hyper independence and fear of vulnerability get wired in childhood, why situationships are often two flight responses agreeing not to scare each other, and the difference between an explanation and an excuse.

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Chapters:

0:00 Why People Pull Away When It Gets Real

2:59 What The Flight Response Actually Is

6:06 Why We Villainize Avoidant Partners

9:38 The Anxious Avoidant Dance Explained

12:35 When Someone Says I Need Space

15:30 Why They Won't Let You In

18:17 Going Cold After A Good Date

21:10 How Flight Shows Up In Dating

24:50 What You Can't Control In Love

27:51 Tool Of The Week: Stay 10 Minutes

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214: Why You Fall for Potential Jul 14, 2026

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Have you ever fallen for someone's potential instead of who they actually are? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down why we chase the idea of a person, get stuck in situationships, and keep betting on emotionally unavailable partners who flood us with attention but never follow through with intention. She answers real audience questions about getting discarded, obsessing over an ex, dating someone who won't commit, and knowing when a person is wasting your time.

If you struggle with falling hard fast, ruminating after a breakup, or self-abandoning just to get chosen, this one is for you. Sabrina shares how to build discernment, tell the fantasy from the reality, and finally choose yourself so you can stop pouring your energy into people who were never going to change.

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Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

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Chapters:

00:00 Falling For Someone's Potential

03:21 What Chasing Potential Really Means

06:31 Attention Vs Intention In Dating

09:53 How To Stop Thinking About Your Ex

13:14 If He Wanted To He Would

16:46 Situationship With No Future

20:01 Stop Wasting Time On The Wrong People

23:26 Texting Chemistry And Red Flags

26:34 Moving On From The Idea Of Him

29:29 Facts Vs Feelings: Choose Yourself

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213: Is There Something Wrong With Me? Neurodivergent Dating W/ Dr. Jacob Ambrose Jul 10, 2026

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If you have ever asked yourself what is wrong with me, or wondered why you take everything so personally, this episode is for you. Sabrina sits down with licensed psychologist Dr. Jacob Ambrose to unpack rejection sensitivity, why one comment can send you into a spiral, and where that deep fear of not being enough actually comes from. They get into the childhood core beliefs that convince you the problem is you, and how anxious attachment keeps you chasing outside validation just to feel okay on the inside.

From limerence and obsessive thinking to the anxious avoidant dynamic, holding onto hope after a breakup, and the myth of being discarded, this conversation reframes the traits you were taught to hate about yourself as the exact things that make you powerful. If you are ready to stop the self-attack, understand your patterns, and choose yourself instead of shrinking to keep everyone comfortable, press play, babe. You are not too much, and you are not broken.

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Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

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Chapters:

0:00 Why Do I Take Things So Personally

4:25 ADHD In Women vs Men

9:21 Stop Watering Yourself Down

14:23 Anxious Or Avoidant Attachment

18:09 Is It Always The Avoidant's Fault

23:12 Dopamine And Chasing Love

27:53 Rejection Sensitivity And RSD

32:41 Why Criticism Feels So Personal

36:33 The Myth Of Being Discarded

41:29 When Is Hope Healthy

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212: Why You Can't Let Go (Even When You Know You Should) Jul 03, 2026

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Why can't you let it go? You typed the text, deleted it three times, and sent it anyway just to get the last word. In part one of a three-part series, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the fight response: keeping score, replaying old arguments, the silent treatment, test texts, and why anger rumination keeps you stuck instead of setting you free. Whether you're single, dating, or years into a relationship, this one is for anyone who can't stop fighting to be right.

Sabrina gets honest about how needing the last word costs you sleep, connection, and the chance to actually be known, how triggers resurface after an abusive relationship, and why your reactions reveal more about your history than the person in front of you. You'll leave with one research-backed tool, the 20-minute rule, to calm down before you say or send something you'll regret. Expect real, warm, no-bullshit guidance on attachment, dating, and putting the armor down.

Pre-order Sabrina's book coming out October 2026,⁠ "Why Am I Like This?"⁠

Get your free workbook and access to the companion course after pre-ordering 'Why Am I Like This?' by filling out the form at the bottom of the page at http://sabrinazohar.com/book

Take the new and improved dating quiz! sabrinazohar.com/quiz

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Chapters:

00:00 Why you can't let it go

02:35 What being triggered really means

04:50 Needing the last word

08:41 Keeping score in relationships

10:58 Test texts and silent treatment

13:53 Fight as a survival response