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13. Five ways to parent differently than we were raised with Dr. Rahat Sayyad Aug 17, 2020

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Today I have a special guest joining us. Dr. Rahat Sayyad. I found her on Instagram and she's from India! She is a physician (Intensivist practicing for 6 years), a mom of two toddlers and she enjoys reading medical journals, listening with podcasts, writing, she can't dance and she hates lizards. I love those fun facts about her. I was reading through some of her posts and I was really interested with one in particular about how we have to parent differently than the way we were raised and not to say that our parents are wrong, but times have changed and there are so many things we can do better when we know better. So we're going to cover some of those things today. I get comments all the time from my mom, her friends, my aunts and they always say I wish I would have known this when I was raising kids. I think that's something just like with kids when they know better, they can do better and when WE know better WE can do better. Let's talk about how we can raise emotionally stable well-adjusted humans by parenting differently than we were parented and I've selected just a few of her eight points that she made in her post to expand on with me. (The rest of this blog is information from Dr. Rahat Sayyad that was spoken on my podcast) ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

12. Biting: Reasons why & how to help them STOP Aug 10, 2020

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BITING USUALLY BEGINS DURING TODDLERHOOD Around 17 months to the age of three years old is the peak of aggression for most children. This aggression comes out in hitting, biting, scratching, or screaming. And the reason why this is the most aggressive period of time is that children have higher needs but lower language skills. Their needs are higher, but they don't have the skills to be able to communicate those needs. A lot of their frustration and communication come out with physical aggression, hence an increase in biting. It’s important to know before I get started that biting is absolutely developmentally appropriate, meaning it is normal for children to bite. They are not Psychopaths. They do not need to be isolated or never have a playdate again. There are things we can do to help with the biting, reduce it, and have our children function in a way so they can be around other children. So biting is absolutely normal, but it is also unacceptable. WHY DO CHILDREN BITE? ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

11. Is it a speech delay? Don’t wait and see with Angie Hronek, MS Aug 03, 2020

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Is it a speech delay? Don’t wait and see. Discover how to determine if your child has a speech delay, the next steps, and how the delay affects success with behavior, academics, and social life. Speech delay is sometimes confused with autism and vice versa. With Speech Therapist, Angie Hronek, MS, CCC-SLP www.ASHA.org @speechworksutah www.speechworksutah.com https://speechworksutah.lpages.co/now-youre-talkin ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

10. BONUS: Learn the signs to STOP Human Trafficking with Malouf Foundation Jul 30, 2020

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Jake Neeley is the Malouf Foundation director, which is a foundation that is a part of the company Malouf. Malouf Foundation is supported by Malouf, so anything that comes into the foundation goes out to support their cause. Human trafficking is one of the fastest-growing criminal enterprises in the world. Jake considers himself familiar with this cause but recognizes that this is a complicated, multi-faceted issue that we are ALL learning about. Any of us can learn more about human trafficking. Everyone doesn't have to be an EXPERT, but this will bring us to a higher level of competence to understand what it looks like and how to help victims. Find Malouf Foundation: https://www.malouffoundation.org/ Take the Malouf Foundation On Watch training here: https://www.malouffoundation.org/onwatch/ Instagram: @malouffoundation ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

09. Building a Strong Foundation to Support Positive Behavior Jul 27, 2020

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So back at the beginning when I did my very first podcast, I talked to you guys about a boy in my classroom who had really challenging behavior (he was stabbing kids with pencils), and everything we were trying just wasn't working. And so we implemented an individualized Behavior Support plan. What I didn't tell you in the episode is everything that led up to that. I'm going to talk to you a little bit about the teaching pyramid model and why it's so important for us to understand not only as teachers but also as parents. There are foundational pieces that we need to have present in our homes to help us create an environment that supports the kind of behaviors that we want our children to have before we get into the consequences and the discipline. ⋒ BOOK PURCHASE: https://bit.ly/xojournal ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

08. Getting Through Trapped Emotions with Talesha Carter Jul 20, 2020

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All behavior is communication, even PARENT behavior. When we feel triggered or explode for no logical reason -- it's likely that we have trapped emotion coming to the surface. Talesha Carter, is going to share how we UN-TRAP that emotion & how do we help our kids do the same. Emotions are energy in motion. If you take anything that has energy, like a thought, vibration, feeling -- all of that combined together can become trapped in the body. ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________ Find Talesha Taleshakim.com Facebook: Talesha Kim IG: Instagram.com/taleshakim

07. Create an Intentional Family Culture Jul 13, 2020

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Family Culture is made up of the unwritten rules. The things that the [insert last name] do. It’s what relationships look like And what this family does when no one else is watching. We spend so much time planning for the wedding, college, vacation, first day of school… that sometimes we overlook the day-to-day. The tiny moments, interactions, patterns, and habits that are actually shaping our children's world view. The day-to-day is where you will find the family culture. Our traditions, the days we value, the activities we participate in, who cleans, who cooks, how we talk about our neighbors, how we look at strangers. The affection we show and the way we resolve conflicts. All of these little things are part of the way our children see the world. Strong families don’t happen by accident. It’s intentional. Family culture isn’t how big our house is or how many toys we buy. It isn’t how many activities we sign them up for or what our favorite meals are. Family culture is the values, priorities, habits, and experiences we choose for our family. It’s the atmosphere of our homes. It’s what makes our families unique. 1. What do we want for our child long term? aka When our kids leave the home, who do we want them to be? 2. How can we help them develop this? -- Pick 5 Values that you want for your child long-term. -- Go through each value and ask the question, how can we help them develop this? ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

06. How to be an Advocate for Your Child with Dr. Brittan Barker, Ph.D. Jul 06, 2020

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Dr. Brittan Barker has professional and personal experience with person-centered care and ADVOCATING for your child who needs extra support. Dr. Barker talks about how to advocate for your child, the process from assessment to intervention, and the REALNESS of how exhausting it can be. 🌟SCHOOL-AGE FREE SUPPORT PROCESS🌟 Write a formal letter Get a psycho-social educational evaluation free Parents will be given a packet of test results Meeting with the family Move forward with IEP (if qualified) 🌟UNDER-THREE FREE SUPPORT PROCESS🌟 Contact your state’s early intervention hotline Get evaluated for free in your home by professionals Get IFSP support (if qualified — pay scale may apply) "Parents need to take care of themselves just as much as their kids and there's nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed or feel guilty about these are our kids and they happened here for very specific and special reasons and it's our job as parents to support them just as we would if they were learning to ride a bike." FIND MORE FROM BRITTAN The easiest way to find out more about Brittan and some of the work she does, especially our research would be at our Labs website. Her lab at Utah State is called the Aural Rehabilitation Lab. USU’s Rehabilitation specifically supports rehabilitation for people who are affected by hearing loss. Website is www.BrittanBarker.com. Instagram @auralrehablab WEBSITE SUPPORTS - Institute for Patient- and Family-Centered Care https://www.ipfcc.org/bestpractices/sustainable-partnerships/background/pfcc-defined.html - Dr. Barker’ Aural Rehabilitation Lab at USU www.brittanbarker.com - Baby Watch Early Intervention program for children aged 0-3 years who live in Utah http://health.utah.gov/cshcn/programs/babywatch.html - How to find an early intervention program for children aged 0-3 years in your state (English) https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/actearly/parents/states.html - How to find an early intervention program for children aged 0-3 years in your state (Spanish) https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/spanish/actearly/parents/intervencionTemprana.html - How to request an initial evaluation for special education services for your elementary school-aged child (with model letter; English) https://www.parentcenterhub.org/evaluation-2/ - How to request an initial evaluation for special education services for your elementary school-aged child (with model letter; Spanish) https://www.parentcenterhub.org/carta-evaluacion/ - What is an IFSP? https://www.understood.org/en/learning-thinking-differences/treatments-approaches/early-intervention/ifsp-what-it-is-and-how-it-works - What is an IEP? https://www.understood.org/en/school-learning/special-services/ieps/understanding-individualized-education-programs ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

05. Instead of Timeouts, Try the "Safe Place" Jun 29, 2020

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Today I'm going to talk to you guys about something called the “Safe Place.” So the safe place is actually something that I get the most negative comments about. In fact, it's the topic that I get the ONLY negative comments about. I seriously don't get very many negative comments about the stuff that I teach, except for this so on Instagram, Facebook, and on my blog I've gotten comments before and I'll share some of those as the episode goes on. I am going to tell you about the strategy, how it works, and why it's actually one of the best things you can teach your child contrary to the misinformed commenters. First and foremost, we do NOT do timeouts in our home. So timeouts typically go like this: you either have a Time Out Chair, time-out Corner, or they have to sit in a certain place for a certain amount of time. The expectation is that as soon as they come out of a timeout, they should be behaving well. Timeouts that aren't effective usually result in Slammed doors, yelling frustrated parents doing whatever they can to get the results that they want, and not knowing any other possible way. It's just so common to do at timeouts. So what we do might look like a time out to your natural eye, but I'm going to explain how it's different. Read the blog: https://xolaurenpace.com/blog/2020/5/26/4g67t7yo2lr7dpm83c7flvtp3y4rgl ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

04. How Sensory Affects Behavior with Wendy Bertagnole, MS Jun 22, 2020

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Ever since Wendy introduced me to sensory, and its effect on behavior, my eyes have been opened. Something that's really stood out to me was one of the sensory things was proprioceptive input and she talked about how we have different preferences. So some of us like to sleep with like heavy blankets on or have tight jeans or whatever and I was like, that is me it changed my life. If I don't have a heavier comforter, I have to put pillows on top of me to get to sleep and so it just helps me figure out my own sensory preferences and calm my body. The Seven Senses Imagine that we all have a series of seven cups in us and each cup represents our seven senses. (Yes, there are seven— there's actually nine but we're just going to go into seven cuz the other two are less researched). So a big cup would mean our body is seeking more of that a little cup is our body only tolerate a little bit of it. So we're going to avoid it most of the time. Our seven senses are see, hear, taste, touch, smell, proprioception, and vestibular. Somebody with a large hearing cup would be one who likes to have the music on and they don't mind background noise. They can have a conversation with people without having things bother them noise does not bother them really, and they enjoy the noise. Somebody with a small hearing cup (which is most moms at like 6 p.m) would be one where loud noise can be really overstimulating or just overpowering and too much. Find Wendy's workshop here: https://exceptionalparentingpodcast.com/epf-lauren/ Follow here on instagram here: instagram.com/wendybertagnole ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

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