The Rising Lava Parenting Podcast

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23. Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents Oct 26, 2020

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⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________ BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents by Reid Wilson and Lynn Lyons

22. *BONUS* Setting Healthy Boundaries with Your Nanny Oct 22, 2020

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IG & FB @the.modern.nanny website: monacoaching.squarespace.com ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

21. Stop Ignoring the Junk Behaviors Oct 19, 2020

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Consequential behaviors include any behavior that threatens life or health or injury to a child student or others. If behavior is consequential, then the parent or teacher needs to intervene. So, this is physical aggression. This is you know throwing pencils at the teacher. Whereas inconsequential behavior is behavior that is not harmful or damaging but it's simply annoying. So, inconsequential behaviors would be things like whining, crying, tantrums, complaining, talking back, rolling your eyes, sarcasm, muttering under one's breath. All of these behaviors make up about 90% of inappropriate behaviors. That’s what research has found that most behaviors that we're dealing with each day are actually inconsequential. So, they do not need a consequence I agree with that. I agree that most of these behaviors do not need a consequence. So, the definitions of consequential and inconsequential behavior I’m on board with. However, when people start to then say just ignore the inconsequential behavior and they call it junk behavior and they just say just ignore the junk behavior. Just ignore the junk behavior it's going to go away. That is where I start to have a problem. Okay. Before I get super far into this I’m not going to go on this like 500 hour tangent but I do just want to say that positive reinforcement is such a powerful tool but that doesn't necessarily mean that you know you have to do everything else that ABA and positive parenting and behaviorism is. Okay. You don't have to just ignore the behavior. You don't have to change behavior shift behavior because when we just focus on behavior and we don't focus on the child and the child's needs and all of this. We're missing an opportunity to attach with our children. We’re missing an opportunity to really understand our child's sensory needs our child's temperament that kind of thing. So, I do think that it's a bigger picture than just oh this is our child we're going to teach it to sit-stay you know they're not dogs. They’re not pets. We want to create opportunities where we can create bonds with them. Where, we can understand their emotions, their feelings, that kind of thing. ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

19. Rethink Your Toys | How Kids Learn Series Oct 05, 2020

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The main purpose of having open-ended toys is learning. So more toys than not should be able to serve multiple uses and engage them in different ways. But there is a place for the others too. BALANCE. ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

20. Creating a Consent Culture with Rosalia Rivera Sep 28, 2020

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I've decided recently that I actively want to work on creating a culture of consent in my home and family. If my kids don't like something they can say "I don't like it" and if the child doesn't respond then they can walk away and they don't have to feel any guilt about what that other child's feeling because it's okay to you know to create this space and have a break. What consent is really understanding the concept of body autonomy. Body Autonomy: My body belongs to me I get to do what I want with it and no one can tell me what to do with it Find Rosalia consentparenting.com @consentparenting on IG + FB ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

18. Shift to Parent on Purpose with Teresa Williams Sep 28, 2020

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How can we realize if we're parenting from a place of intention and purpose or if we're being influenced and parenting from a place of habit? Teresa: Okay, one way is just to ask yourself a question, have I ever considered my parenting? Like, did I truly think about my core values, the core values that I want to give my children have I truly thought about and like remember when I said there's a parallel between like in corporate and parenting, how I thought about my family mission statement most times you know we want to have a baby we want to have a family we just have one and we go. So ask yourself have I really gone through the thought process because yes we want the best for our children but have we thought about what's my mission statement for my family, what's my purpose statement? And when you just think about it like well, I really haven't dug deep to ask questions about this journey of parenting where I want to go its habit, it's just oh I’m going to be a parent let's do this. Find Teresa instagram.com/theparentonpurposecoach https://m.facebook.com/theparentonpurposecoach https://www.parentonpurposecoach.com ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

17. Avoid the Power Struggle Sep 21, 2020

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I have a free four-day listening conference. It's one hour of video total, but today I’m going to put in the audio for day one of this listening conference. I feel like every single day has so much value, but I want you to be hooked here first so that you want to get into the conference listen to the rest of the videos and hopefully, it will change your life and help your child learn to listen. The listening conference has been discontinued, but episodes 2-4 will be included on the podcast in 2021. So stay subscribed. ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

16. Build in Time for Play with Alanna Gallo Sep 14, 2020

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Alanna: So, I am the founder of a brand called play, learn, and thrive. Well, I’m still a teacher so I’m a public school teacher I’ve been teaching for about 10 years and after I became a mom I sort of saw the issues that I was seeing in public school and realized that I wanted to do something about it. And so, I founded this brand this company to help educate parents and just to give them permission to step back and let their kids play, not push early academics and just kind of allow kids to really have a childhood. Xo Playtime Yay, we just finished another play podcast because I love learning through play. A quick reminder that you can join anytime our XO playtime membership where you can access all of my XO playtime learning plans. Each plan is centered around a theme and includes creative arts, reading, and writing, math and engineering, science sensory, dramatic play, social studies which is code for field trips and gross motor play along with some supplemental activities at the end some book ideas and some super fun engaging interactive learning through play activities to create your little problem solvers and engineers. Go to XOLaurenPace.com/XOplaytime for more information or click the link in my show notes. Find Alanna here @playlearnthrivekids (FB, Insta, Pinterest, Twitter) https://playlearnthrive.com

15. Learn Through Play | How Kids Learn Series Sep 03, 2020

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Today we're going to jump in with an episode on, ‘how children learn and what we should value in our children's education’. ACADEMIC VS. INTELLECTUAL GOALS So, we're going to talk about two different types of learning and specifically, I’m talking about for under kindergarten age level right now, but this will apply for all age levels. So, there are two different goals in learning that I want to talk to you about. The first is academic and the second is intellectual. So, academic goals focus on the mastery of facts. So, memorizing the alphabet, practicing drills, worksheets, and other kinds of exercises that prepare children for the next level of numeracy and learning. So, in older grades, this would be you know, the things that we have to know the facts for to memorize for a test history information that kind of stuff. Okay intellectual goals, emphasize reasoning, hypothesizing, posing questions, predicting answers to questions, developing and analyzing ideas, and then trying to understand something. So, we need both goals when it comes to learning. However, much of the early curriculum in non-accredited programs focus on the academic goals before the intellectual goals. Academic learning will happen without a doubt in kindergarten first grade and second grade, but research argues that preschoolers and toddlers actually will do better academically if they have the executive functioning skills which include self-regulation, organizing and planning, and flexible thinking before those academic goals come. XO PLAYTIME check out xo playtime here: xolaurenpace.com/xoplaytime ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

14. 6 ways to be a more empathetic parent, partner and friend with Dr. Nissen, MD Aug 25, 2020

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Empathy is certainly something that we can learn and it's not something that we're born with and it's something that we practice and that we come to live out and it begins with a foundation of strong emotional intelligence as kids. Empathy is literally being curious and trying to draw out everything from inside a person's mind that is making them feel a certain way and we can start to develop this with kids by working with them to perceive their emotions and understand the context that creates those emotions in themselves and other people. It's my hope that this will lead to stronger friendships, stronger relationships and better performance in life, better social skills, the prevention of mental illness and all the physical, illness and sadness that we're seeing in the world. My hope is that these things will help to make it better. Find Dr. Nissen www.DrNissen.com IG: @Dr.Nissen Youtube: "Brain Health with Dr. Nissen" Podcast: "Brain Health with Dr. Nissen" ⋒ SHOW NOTES: xolaurenpace.com/xoparenting ⋒ FACEBOOK GROUP: facebook.com/groups/xoparenting Sign up for 2-week or 4-week parent coaching for 10% off with code XOPARENTINGPODCAST, xolaurenpace.com/coaching _____________________________________ If you're new to me, I'm Lauren Pace. Mom of two (one on the way). I have a Master's Degree in Child Development with research in challenging behavior. I have worked as a behavior coach online, in classrooms, and in homes. Talking about child development & challenging behavior fires me up with so much passion and my goal is to help parents all over the world. I love helping parents understand their children, see hard behavior through new lenses & strengthen their relationships. _____________________________________

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