The Personal Image System Podcast

Latest Episodes:

113: 20 Grooming Hacks Oct 17, 2018

For notes, infographics, and other great information go to: https://www.realmenrealstyle.com/113 For this episode, I’m going to be giving you some big help. Sometimes you need to save some extra time when grooming.One example is that you may not have the time to take a blazer to the dry cleaners - but you might find out that it smells. To help you get through your day you can spray some vodka on it and it will remove the smell.

Some of the tips on this episode may seem a bit crazy, but honestly, I tested these and they work.

20 Grooming Hacks:

Vodka get rids of body odor.
Baking soda can be a great toothpaste.
Cut your nails and file before a shower.
Use scissors on your nails after a shower.
Cool to cold showers are best for you.
Wash your hair less.
Shave after you shower.
You can shave IN the shower as well.
Brush your teeth in the shower.
Shave your neck weekly.
Use hair conditioner as a shaving cream.
Use Lip Balm if you cut yourself shaving.
If you have a beard, use conditioner.
Hair gel can be used on your eyebrows or beard.
Coffee filters can help get rid of an oily face.
Olive oil is a good option for dry lips.
Use nail clippers to cut stray hairs.
Keep a bar of soap in your gym bag.
Don’t use your fingers to pop a pimple.
Use deodorant on hot spots on the back of your foot.

Highlights:

If you have a jacket you don’t want to take to the dry cleaner, spray vodka on it.
- Test the fabric first.
Make sure use clean the jacket at some point, as it’s a temporary fix.
Baking soda is a safer way to get rid of smells.
If you run out of toothpaste, use baking soda instead.
Baking soda can also be used to kelp with “swamp crotch”.
Make sure you buy a glass file.
A hot shower will keep you in the water too long and you lose oils.
Washing your hair too much can cause damage.
You can shave in the shower as well.
Higher end barbers will touch up for free.
You can also use cooking oil to shave.
Put holes in a deodorant soapbox and toss it in your gym bag.
Use tissues when you pop a pimple to avoid infection.

Mindset Takeaway:

There’s no excuse not to look your best, and these hacks will make sure of it.

112: Become a High Paid Expert 7 Steps Aug 22, 2018

How would you like to double your salary? Of course you would. The trick to making more money is to be an expert in your field.

If you put your head down and just do your work, you’re going to be forgotten. No one will notice you - and that’s no job that actually has security. Companies go out of business all the time, but if you’re an expert with your own company you’ll never be in the unemployment line.

One of the most important things is to continually learn. The world is changing every day. If you aren’t staying on top of trends and technology, you’ll be left behind.

But this is just the start of what you need to do.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I bring you 7 simple steps to increase your salary and be a high paid expert than people seek out to work with.

Download this episode today and start climbing the social and financial ladder.

7 Steps to Double Your Salary:

Solve a burning problem
Never stop learning
Never stop practicing
Choose the right niche
Share your work and expertise
Make Yourself Referrable
You need to connect

Highlights:

Colleges only guarantee a student loan debt.
The less generic your answer, the more valuable will seem.
Make sure you surround yourself around books.
Don’t be afraid to abandon a book.
Some things you simply can’t learn from a book.
Decide your overall goals to know what your focus should be.
You can make money in any industry if you become the best.
Don’t fear other people stealing your work.
Focus in on what you know AND who you know.
Nothing substitutes for live events.
The best masterminds are the ones you put together.
Take Massive action.

Mindset Takeaway:

If you put your head down and just get your work done, you won’t go anywhere.

111: Don't Get Caught with Bad Breath Jun 27, 2018

One thing many of us take for granted is the smell of our breath. It’s right under your nose, so you can’t notice what’s going on. You’re too used to it.

Even though you can’t smell it, everyone else can. It could be costing you in your personal and business life.

Think about it, do you want to be in a close negotiation with someone who smells? Do you want to kiss someone who smells? It can make you worried that there’s something worse going on in there.

Luckily, this is a pretty simple thing to fix.

The first thing is, if you smoke - stop. Your breath is always going to smell horrible to anyone who isn’t a smoker themselves.

Secondly, most of the bad smell in someone’s mouth comes from bacteria growing. This bacteria isn’t too difficult to get rid of, but you have to remain dedicated. I’m going to give you ten tricks on how to eliminate bad breath that won’t take more time in your day: and are super effective.

Download this episode today to learn how you can stop being offensive with your breath and be someone people want to be close to.

10 Tips to Eliminate Bad Breath:

Drink water
Chew gum
Brush your teeth properly
Use a tongue scraper
Floss
Mouthwash
Timing
Diet
Keep your gums healthy
Don’t smoke

Highlights:

Bacteria is what emits most odor
Drinking water will help eliminate the bacteria.
Start your day by drinking water.
Saliva production slows when you are sleeping.
A sugarless gum will help you produce more saliva.
Chewing gum can also help when you don’t have time to brush your teeth.
If you swallow gum, it’s fine.
Your tongue has the most surface area.
Flossing isn’t as important, but food stuck in your teeth can cause bad smells.
Mouthwash may not prevent cavities, but it does kill bacteria and freshen your breath.
Do your teeth maintenance after meals.
Certain foods can cause a smell through your lungs.
Cinnamon and crisp fruits/vegetables can help as well.
Red wine can also cut back on bacteria in the mouth.
Talk to your dentist about your gums.
Gums can permanently recede.
Tobacco guarantees bad breath - cut it out if you can.
In none of this works, talk to you doctor in case there’s something worse.

Mindset Takeaway:

You don’t want people to avoid you because of your breathe.

110: 10 Steps to an Amazing First Impression May 30, 2018

Check out the full show notes at: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode110

Have you ever met someone who rubbed you the wrong way when you met them? I know I have, and in one case that person ended up becoming one of my best friends.

He made a bad first impression, and it was really hard to overcome. When we get an impression from someone, it can be hard to change - because no one wants to be wrong. It really gets to our ego.

The best way to overcome this is to make a good first impression.

Notice I said good, not okay. That’s because an okay first impression is forgettable. You won’t be remembered - especially if you’re at a networking event.

On today’s episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, I wanted to help you with this because a first impression can really make or break you.

I’m going to give you ten tips to make sure you shine when someone meets you. Even if they don’t remember your name, they’ll remember enough about you to refer you to others.

So download this episode now, and start making the right first impression every time.

Check out the full show notes at: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode11

109: 10 Eye Contact Mistakes May 22, 2018

View the full show notes and resources at RealMenRealStyle.com/109

When is the last time you really thought about the eye contact that you’re giving to people?

Chances are, you’re sending off signals you don’t want to.

For example, if you don’t give people enough eye contact you can seem rude. You also make the person feel as if they are boring, and that you aren’t interested - even if that’s not the case.

On the other hand, if you give them too much eye contact it can seem aggressive. They may become intimidated, and quite frankly, think you’re being an ass.

So what is the right amount of eye contact?

Well, it’s honestly a complicated answer. It can change with the culture you are in, as well as the situation.

A good rule of thumb here in North America, though, is the 50/70 rule. When speaking, make eye contact 50% of the time. When listening, make eye contact 70% of the time.

I really wanted to dive further into this topic and go over all the complexities of the discussion.

I came up with guideline of 10 Eye Contact Mistakes I commonly see people making, and I’m going to share them all with you in detail on this episode.

Download this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast known to learn how you can use your eyes to give off the right message.

10 Eye Contact Mistakes:

Not Enough Eye Contact
Too Much Eye Contact
Not Knowing Cultural Norms
Maintaining Eye Contact
Reading Too Much Into Other People’s Eye Contact
Eye Contact in Authority
Don’t Look Away Too Quickly
Not Establishing Eye Contact at the Start
Not Listening with Your Eyes
MAKE EYE CONTACT

Highlights:

In North America there’s a 50/70 rule.
- When speaking, look at the person 50% of the time.
- When listening, look at the person 70% of the time.
Eye contact rules are different all over the world.
Sometimes eye contact is seen as aggressive.
Learn the cultural rules of where you are visiting, and the people you deal with.
Most guys think a girl who makes eye contact with them, want them.
Not giving enough contact can make you seem weak.
Don’t let your eyes dart away.
To avoid nervous eye contact, count in your head.
3 to 5 seconds in the best amount of time to look at someone when you meet them.
Don’t stare at people’s feet or looking away.
Eye contact show that you are paying attention.
If you’re not listening with your eyes, it can be disrespectful.
Don’t get caught staring off.
Pick one eye to look at.
Try to discover what color their eyes really are.
Do not stare at a woman’s breasts when you are speaking to her.
You have to practice giving eye contact.
Record yourself giving presentations or talking to people.
Nothing feels natural at first.

Mindset Takeaway:

Your eye contact can make or break what people think of you.

View the full show notes and resources at RealMenRealStyle.com/109

108: Brown or Black Shoes? May 16, 2018

For the full show notes go to RealMenRealStyle.com/episode108

There’s one thing that a lot of people I know have a hard time deciding. In fact, I’m sure you’ve encountered this problem before as well.

What color of dress shoe should you buy? Black or Brown?

Even though the question itself is simple, the answer can be very complicated. There are a lot of factors you should be considering before you buy a pair of dress shoes.

For example, when you wear them how formal are the occasions you will be attending? If you go to a lot of black tie events, then there’s only one option for you: black.

Brown shoes will never be as formal, and the lighter they are they less formal they will be.

On the other hand, you will never be able to buy a pair of black dress shoes that look casual. Their strength can also be their weakness.

There’s also so much more to consider, such as your existing wardrobe, how much the shoes will take to maintain, and even what style of shoe you prefer.

Download this episode today to learn about everything you need to consider before choosing between brown or black dress shoes.

107: 5 Reasons to Buy a Watch May 09, 2018

Check out the full show notes and resources at RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode107

When I was in the military I used to wear a watch every day. In fact, I didn’t just have one, I had two.

Once I got out of the military I stopped wearing them, and honestly forgot about them.

When I started doing my YouTube show a company reached out to me and offered for me to wear their watches. I took them up on it, and I became hooked again.

A watch has so many benefits. It’s a great way to up your style game, to express yourself, and to make sure you’re punctual (science even says so).

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I break down 5 reasons you should buy a watch.

Whether it’s to stop being rude by looking at your phone, have an heirloom to pass down, or just to show off who you are a bit more.

Download this episode now to learn how important a watch can be in you life.

5 Reasons to Wear a Watch:

Deep meaning
You’ll be more punctual
Avoid distraction of a cell phone
Awesome man jewelry
They garner compliments and start conversations.

Highlights:

The only thing James Bond would wear to bed was a watch.
It’s about your relationship with time.
Watches can be great heirloom products.
Studies show watch wearers tend to arrive earlier.
When you check the time on your find, you tend to check other things as well.
It can be rude to check the time, and you can’t do it discreetly with a phone.
There’s many things you can do with the strap.
Watch options give you endless possibilities to express yourself.
A lot of people know about watches and want to talk about them.

Check out the full show notes and resources at RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode107

106: What Really Makes You More Attractive May 02, 2018

Check out the resources and full show notes at: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode106

There’s so many articles and so much information on what women want it can be confusing.

One article says a guy with a guitar. Another says to wear a suit. Another says to wear red. Does that mean you should do all of them and make a sexy powerhouse?

No!

If you aren’t confident in a red suit, you’re going to look uncomfortable and awkward.

If you carry a guitar but can’t play you’re going to look like a doofus.

Instead, you have to know what works for you. Know what you are confident in, and try different things.

To help you, I am going to go over 7 things that you can easily adapt that will really make you more attractive.

These are all things you can make work for you. It’s not so specific that you have to overhaul your lifestyle or spend years studying something like an instrument.

Download this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast now to learn all about incorporating things you can easily, and subtly, start bringing into your day to day life that will make you more attractive to women.

7 Ways to Increase Your Attractiveness:

Patterns
High Status Items
Fragrances
Voice
Texture
Color
Silhouette

Highlights:

Attractiveness is not dependant on one thing.
Find how to make attractive things work in your own personal style.
You have to be confident in what you bring into your wardrobe.
Don’t feel like you’re wasting money by trying things.
In a 2018 study, pattern mixing can become more attractive.
If you go overboard with patterns, it will turn women off.
Some items can increase your status.
Fragrance can be helpful.
The sound of your voice is something you can work on.
Accents can make someone more or less attractive.
Texture can make people want to touch your clothing.
We all want to be comforted - texture can help with that.
Bring in touches of gold and red.
Women want a man with wider shoulders than midsection.

Check out the resources and full show notes at: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode106

105: Bad Habits That Are Killing Your Image Apr 25, 2018

Check out the infographics, show notes, resources and more at RealMenRealStyle.com/episode105 There’s a lot of things we do that seem trivial to us, but can make a big impact on other people.

We all make some of these mistakes, and I’m not exception. One example is having your hands in your pockets.

This can send a lot of different signals to people, and it’s never a good thing.

Some people think you are hiding things Others thing you don’t care enough to take the time to engage with them.

In any case, having your hands in your pockets really does limit you. You’re going to be less expressive. You’re going to be less visually engaging.

One trick I use is to touch my wedding ring from time to time when I’m speaking. That forces me to leave my hands out of my pockets. Other people might prefer to hold items, like pens. The other thing to remember is to make sure these things don’t become excessive and distracting.

I have plenty of more habits to go over in this episode, and a lot of tips on how you can break them.

Download this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast now to learn about the bad habits you’ve developed and how to overcome them to improve your image.

Check out the infographics, show notes, resources and more at RealMenRealStyle.com/episode105

104: How to Match Your Belt with Your Shoes Apr 18, 2018

For full show notes, infographics, and video go to RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode140

In today’s world we live in an infinite number of choices. Picking a belt to go with your shoes isn’t as simple as black with black and black with brown.

Today shoes and belts both come in a wide variety of colors. Browns come in all hues, and you can find nearly every color of the rainbow.

So can you match a light brown belt with dark brown shoes? Is it ever appropriate to wear another color belt with black?

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, I answer all of these questions and more.

I want to make sure you look the best you can for every situation, and dive into what colors can say about you. For example, do you know what to wear to show a sign of respect?

Find out all of that and more by downloading this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast now.

2 Simple Rules:

Leather matches leather
Metal matches metal

Highlights:

In today’s world we have infinite choices that can make things seem complicated.
Consider what colors your gravitate towards in your wardrobe.
Black is the most formal of colors and you want to have it on hand.
You don’t need an exact match on metals, you want them to be very close.
Dark shows and suits are a sign of respect.
Don’t wear dark brown and black together.
Warm and cool colors want to stick together.
Black is considered a cool color.
Greys and blacks work well together.
Black doesn’t look very good with oxblood.
Avoid light brown belt with dark brown shoes.

Mindset Takeaway:

Knowing the right match will give you the confidence you need to rock your style

For full show notes, infographics, and video go to RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode140

103: How to Identify Quality Leather Apr 11, 2018

SHOW NOTES: RealMenRealStyle.com/episode103

Leather is something we are all attracted to. It’s a nice material, that looks great and it very durable.

It’s been used for protection and style since the beginning of time. The only problem is most people don’t know what they are looking at.

When making a purchase one a material like this, you want to know you’re getting a deal.

There’s actually a lot to consider when buying leather. The first is what you’re going to use it for. Is it something that is just going to be for show, or is it something that’s going to get a lot of use?

Do you want a softer leather, or something a little harder?

Download this episode now to learn how to identify the right leather for your needs, and how to know if you’re getting a good deal or not.

4 Things You Should Look at When Buying Leather:

Grade
Layers
Finish
Thickness

Highlights:

You don’t always need the best grade of leather.
1st grade is the best, 4th grade is the lowest quality.
You wouldn’t want 1st grade on the bottom of a shoe, or where things are used a lot.
Full grain means the top layer.
Colored leathers come from a dye applied to the top layer.
Thickness is usually measured in ounces.
The animal is comes from will determine how thick and how soft it is.

Mindset Takeaway:

In order to know if you’re getting a good deal, you need to know what you’re looking for.

102: Match Patterns Like a Boss Apr 04, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode102

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I have decided to dive into an issue most men are afraid to tackle: patterns.

Patterns can be confusing, and you may not know what’s too much or too little.

Do you match everything with the same pattern?

Do you even know what all of your pattern options are?

Don’t worry! I’m going to guide you through all of this simply, and quickly, so you can get out there and really start upping your style game in new ways.

But remember, you don’t want to just dive right in. You’re going to want to experiment and explore your options first.

There’s nothing that’ll turn you off faster than jumping in too deep and feeling uncomfortable in front of other people.

Download this episode now to learn how you can master patterns to stand out and leave a positive visual impact on those around you.

5 Pattern You Should Be Rocking:

Stripes
Checks
Twill weaves
Paisley and Floral
Dots

5 Rules for Wearing Patterns:

Keep patterns muted
Bring in patterns gradually
Avoid placing similar patterns and proportions next to each other
Look for items that compliment, not match
Practice wearing patterns

Highlights:

Patterns are everywhere.
Solids won’t bring as many compliments as patterns will.
Stripes are the easiest to bring into your wardrobe.
Checks are stripes going both directions.
If you like solids but want to bring in a pattern, consider a herringbone weave.
Florals are best for neck ties and pocket squares.
The larger your dot, the more casual it becomes.
Patterns don’t need loud crazy colors.
It’s easier to lose accessories if you start to feel uncomfortable.
Don’t have same sized patterns next to each other.
Show your creativity through complimenting patterns.
Keep trousers solid

Mindset Takeaway:

Patterns are like a spice, you don’t need to throw too much in there to pull out the flavor.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode102

101: 5 Timeless Items Mar 28, 2018

Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode101

There are lots of items that go in an out of style. It can be hard to know what to add to your collection that won’t make you look old or outdated in a few years.

Sometimes it’s hard to spot the difference between a trend and a solid investment.

If you want to look at what you should be adding to your style you should look at items that have withstood the test of time.

Chances are if people were wearing it, and making themselves look great, a thousand years ago and it’s in stores today you’ll be fine.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, I look at the various items that will never go out of style.

I break down their history, and what you should be looking for when deciding to invest in something that will make you best dressed guy in the room for decades.

Download this episode now before you purchase something you’ll regret in the next few years.

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5 Timeless Items:

Well Fitted Wool Suit
Jewelry
Leather shoes
A signature fragrance
Headwear

Bonus:

Neckwear

Highlights:

In general, a suit should be dark colored.
A good suit builds up your shoulders, chest, and makes your hands look larger.
If you can afford it go with 100% wool fabric.
Wool drapes best.
Jewelry can symbolize your place in society.
Stay with a classic watch with moving hands.
A simple fact is more attractive.
Leather or metal bands are best.
Leather shoes form to your feet better.
Take care of your leather shoes.
Smells have always been identifying markers in the animal world.
Women are more sensitive to fragrances than men are.
Don’t let your scent be overpowering.
Hats are still in fashion, and helps protect your head.
Nail functionality for your headwear before using it for style.
Neckwear has been a status symbol for thousands of years.

Mindset Takeaway:

Some items never go out of style - those are true investments.

Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode101

100: Menfluential Mar 21, 2018

Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode100

What if you could transform your brand into more than just products or services? Whether it’s your marketing agency or dropshipping business, can you turn your business into an experience or even a multi-day event? The answer is yes.

You might be thinking that what you sell isn’t material for a conference. But that’s where you are mistaken. It turns out passion for a brand is a reason to meet with others who share that passion and want to connect with each other.

Today, I am discussing my experience building the very popular conference Menfluential, formerly known as StyleCon, where members of the Real Men Real Style community gather every year to connect with each other

Are you looking to hear the secrets to building a successful experience for your brand? If so, download this episode of Real Men Real Style now to hear the details.

5 Things Menfluential Can Teach You:

Make a positive environment and political barriers disappear
Develop multi-day events with virtual tickets to maximize attendance
Name your events according to what’s happening inside them
Encourage vulnerability by having people share their stories
You never know what ideas will sprout out of new businesses

Highlights:

Deliver content tailored to the medium for your audience.
Start small when taking on new entrepreneurial endeavors.
Approach new ventures with the mindset of not wanting to lose money.
Always try to improve with new projects.
Make environments motivational and people will have positive experiences.
Sell virtual tickets to widen audience while keeping attendance low.
When people share their wounds, others will follow suit.
Create a place where your audience feel comfortable asking questions.
Thank your customers.

Mindset Takeaway:

Create an environment where people feel positively supported and you have a business.

Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode100

99: Dressing Sharp: Expectations vs Reality Feb 21, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode99

Have you been thinking about changing up your style? Think wearing a suit to work, or wearing nice clothes to a bar will get people to notice you more? Chances are you may be in for a rude awakening, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t go for it.

In reality when we wear new clothes what we expect to happen doesn’t. Women probably won’t compliment you because they are afraid you will think they are hitting on them and they worry things will go in the wrong direction fast. When you walk into the office looking sharp you probably don’t get a lot of people mentioning your outfit. It’s not because they don’t like it, or that they don’t notice it. You will make an impression, people usually just aren’t vocal about it.

And it’s also important to remember that just like a new pair of shoes, you have to break in your style. There’s going to be things about what you are wearing you will have to get used to and you won’t know what they are until you start wearing it for a long time.

Maybe wearing a suit jacket makes you feel too warm at first, because you’re used to the A/C blowing directly on you. Maybe those dress socks will get itchy because you’re os used to wearing short white gym socks.

I’m not here to discourage you from upping your game when it comes to your style. Quite the opposite. I want you to let you know the common expectations people have, and share with you the reality of what you are getting yourself into so that you don’t get discouraged and quit.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style and hear the reality of what happens when you decide to change up your style game.

7 Expectations VS Reality

New clothing will make you look great. Only the right clothing will make you look great
When you level up your style everyone will notice. Most people don’t care about your style.
You’re going to rock your new fashion. You need to build confidence before wearing clothes out.
You’re going to get compliments from women. More men will notice your style change.
More money = better quality. Most brands are way overpriced.
You’re going to rock a new hairstyle. Your hair either looks terrible or you can’t reproduce what the barber did
You’ll stop shaving and have a beard in a month. After a month you’re going to have an itchy scruff.

Highlights:

You have to nail fit, fabric, and function.
When you buy something off the rack take it to a tailor to have it fitted.
Find the right brand that works for your body type.
Get the best fabric you can afford.
Go with classic styles so they last.
People you interact with will be subliminally influenced by your attire.
Even if they don’t say anything, people will notice.
Women are more reserved about giving compliments.
Women worry men will think their compliment means they are hitting on them.
Overpriced brands are older and generally bought out by someone else.
Find groups and online forums that discuss the quality of brands.
People who write reviews are either super happy or super upset.
Don’t be afraid to go to the barber and ask them what they did.
Right after a haircut, take a photo.
Pay attention to the brush and products the barber used.
Most people take 6 months to a year to grow a beard.

Mindset Takeaway:

To really rock a style it takes time and confidence.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode99

98: What Do Women Really Think About Tattoos? Feb 14, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode98 Tattoos are everywhere these days. They used to be only seen from military men showing off their service, or from people who spent time in prison.

Today, we see them on nearly everyone who turns 18. Like anything, we typically do it to bring attention to ourselves - especially from a partner.

The question is, do women really want to see that ink? If so, what doe they want to see? It’s also important to know where they want it to be.

I imagine a tattoo on your face of a naked lady wouldn’t be too appealing to women.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style now to hear what women really think about ink.

10 Tattoos From Least Attractive to Most:

The mom heart (not attractive)
The dagger (not attractive)
Sexy lady (not attractive)
Flowers (not attractive)
Skulls (somewhat attractive)
Anchors (somewhat attractive)
Birds (more attractive)
Fierce animals (more attractive)
Foreign language (attractive - if you speak it)
The minimalist tattoo (most attractive)

10 Tattoo Placements From Most Attractive to least:

Forearm (most attractive)
Arms
Back
Underside of wrist
Chest
Knuckles
Ankle
Back of Calf
Legs
On your belly (not attractive)

Highlights:

Tattoos are very cultural.
Study shows women don’t find tattooed men more or less attractive.
Men found other tattooed men to be more attractive to women.
Women find men with tattoos to be healthier, more masculine, more dominant, and more aggressive.
A lot of women find men with tattoos to be worse partners and worse parents.
Tattooed men are seen as “the bad boy”.
If you have a foreign language tattooed on your body, you need to be able to speak it.
Woman like small tattoos that are simple.
Be careful of tattoo placement for your workplace.
Avoid tattoos on the face.
Tattoos are more and more common.
The best tattoo for a stylish professional is a minimalist tattoo on your back.

Mindset Takeaway:

Think it through before you get a tattoo.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode98

97: Style Pet Peeves That Drive Me Nuts Feb 07, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode97

There was a time when I knew nothing about style. I used to say that I didn’t care. The truth is I just didn’t know. I was also too lazy, and too busy, to care about my style.

I think that’s a very common thing. The more I started to know about style, the more I cared. The more I cared, the more I noticed other people breaking the rules.

Now, I’d like to make sure it’s known that no rule is set in stone. You can break any rule, but first, you have to understand it so you really know how and when it’s appropriate to break the rules.

For this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast I’ve decided to go into detail on 25 of my style pet peeves. Some of these things even I used to break because I didn’t know.

Today, when I see people break these rules, I don’t get angry or try to publicly shame them. I nicely, privately and respectfully explain to them what they are doing wrong, so they can up their game in the future.

Download this episode now to learn some of the most common style mistakes people make.

25 of My Style Pet Peeves:

When people say they don’t care about their style, then judge everyone else.
Square toed shoes.
Sagging pants.
No socks.
White socks outside the gym.
Off proportions.
Overuse of fragrance.
Long and oversized t-shirts.
Oversized logos.
Badly fitted suits.
Jackets without a pocket square.
Buttoning bottom button of a jacket.
Men who follow rules without understanding why.
Men that correct other men in public.
Not removing tack stitching or brand labels.
Dark shoes with light trousers.
Running shoes with everything.
Wearing Crocs.
Fully buttoned dress shirts with no tie.
Dressing oblivious to the unwritten dress code.
Unpolished shoes.
Badly wrinkled clothing.
Pajamas in public.
Bright green, red blue, and black “dress shirts”.
Don’t be a snob.

Highlights:

Most snap judgments are made off how people look.
A lot of people who claim they don’t care about style are just lazy or too busy.
Square toed shoes are for pilgrims and don’t look good on anyone.
No one wants to see your underwear or your butt crack.
You can buy no-show socks.
Not wearing socks will damage your shoes.
White socks are for athletics only.
Skinny ties don’t go with wide lapels.
Big men shouldn’t wear skinny jeans.
People around you don’t want to have to smell you continuously - even if you smell great.
Most stores offer free suit adjustments.
A suit is meant to make you look better, make sure they are tailored properly.
Suit Jackets, Blazers, Sports Coats, all have breast pockets for a reason.
Two button suits are not meant to have the bottom button buttoned.
Style rules were created for a reason, know why so you know when they do and don’t apply.
Don’t public embarrass somebody, try to raise up their self-esteem.
Invest in more than one pair of shoes, and have multiple color choices.
Crocs are not good-looking shoes.
There is always a dress code anywhere you go.
If you spend money on your dress shoes, take care of them.
Ironing shirts and pressing trousers doesn't take much work.
Bright shirts are not designed for dress shirts, they are for clubbing and partying.

Mindset Takeaway:

Be the person who pulls people up when they don’t know as much as you, don’t knock them down.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode97

96: 10 Tips for an Amazing Smile Jan 31, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode96

As children, we tend to smile all the time. Smiles are infectious and make everyone around us so much happier.

Unfortunately, as adults, we tend to lose our smile. We become more serious, more jaded, and less open to meeting new people.

If you take the time to change this and start smiling more often you’ll find a world of change. People will start approaching you more, your friends and family will appreciate spending more time with you, and you’ll find so many more opportunities than you previously had.

It’s important to note that your smile has to be genuine. There’s nothing creepier than a guy with his lips curled into a smile while the rest of his face is dead.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, I’ll give you 10 tips to create a smile that will change your life.

10 Tips to Improve Your Smile:

Practice smiling when you meet people.
Go to the dentist.
Whitening your teeth.
Check your teeth using a mirror.
Use your eyes when you smile.
Use lip balm.
Think happy thoughts.
Build up your confidence.
Consider straightening your teeth or veneers.
Practice taking selfies.

Highlights:

You want people to ask, “Why are you so happy?”
Regular check-ups are important to prevent gum disease and tooth decay.
Receding gum lines will never fully come back.
The dentist will have better whitening equipment.
You don’t want white teeth.
If you don’t have a mirror, use your phone to check your teeth,
Carry a floss pick on you.
There’s nothing worse than having something in your teeth you can’t get out.
A natural smile uses more than just the muscles around your mouth.
Cracked lips make you self-conscious.
Spend money to fix your teeth.
Selfies will help you learn angles you look good in.
Practice does make perfect.

Mindset Takeaway:

A great smile can open a lot of doors.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode96

95: Johan Ekelund: Why You NEED Shirt Stays Jan 24, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode95

How many times do you find yourself fussing with your shirt because it keeps coming untucked every time you sit down and stand up?

You’re not alone, it’s a very common problem - especially today. So many shirt companies try to save a dollar and cut corners any way they can. One of those ways is to remove the extra fabric from the bottom of button-down shirts.

Unfortunately, that skimp means we all suffer. No matter if you are skinny or not, your shirts going to come untucked and you’re at risk for showing plumbers crack to everyone around you. It’s something most of us are embarrassed by, as this is never a flattering picture of us.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, we are joined by the maker of the best Shirt Stay on the market - Johan Ekelund.

In this interview, we discuss the importance of shirt stays, and how they are literally changing people’s lives. It such a simple, and inexpensive, think to add to your wardrobe, yet is one of the best investments you can make.

Download this episode today to hear how this can boost your confidence, and change the way people look at you.

3 Reason to Buy a Shirt Stay:

Don’t have to tuck in your shirt all the time
Builds you confidence
They’re comfortable

Highlights:

It only takes a couple days to get used to shirt stays, then you forget about them.
Most people find it to be a game changer.
You no longer have to worry about plumbers crack.
Most companies make shirts shorter to save money.
Less than 1% of people know about them.
Sharp and Dapper have much better quality because they are handmade with pride.
A lot of guys who do wear shirt stays don’t talk about it.
Quality always costs a little more.

Mindset Takeaway:

Knowing your shirt will stay tucked in will boost your confidence exponentially.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode95

94: Should You Buy a Luxury Watch? Jan 17, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode94

Lately I’ve been considering an investment I never really thought I would make before. I’ve considering buying a Rolex, or similar luxury watch.

I posted a video recently expressing my interest, and I received a lot of interesting feedback I wanted to address.

Growing up I didn’t have much. My family was barely able to provide food, and needless to say I don’t really have any heirlooms. There’s nothing from my family I grew up with that I have, at least not of value.

As a father, I’ve been considering this for my children. I love the idea of an heirloom that will hold its value as it gets passed down from generation to generation.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, I explore reason why one would invest in a luxury watch. I’d love to hear your feedback, so send me an e-mail or post a comment letting me know what you think.

Download this episode now to hear the benefits of a luxury watch.

3 Reasons to Pick Get a Luxury Watch:

Celebrate a Milestone
Have a Family Heirloom
They Have a Resale Value (Should You Need It)

Highlights:

The money for a luxury watch could be used to donate to charity.
Mechanical watches don’t keeps as good of a time as Quartz.
Luxury build is better, but is it 100x, or more, better?
Rolexes can be family heirlooms.
Well made watches retain their value.
If used as an heirloom, consider something unisex.

Mindset Takeaway:

Want what you want without being afraid or asking permission.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode94

93: When the Ladies Don't Respond to Style Jan 10, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode93

I’ve recently received some letter from people asking me what to do if the ladies don’t respond to dressing well. Some people think that the women they are around prefer guys in street clothes, and that may not be the route you want to go.

Luckily, it’s has nothing to do with what you are wearing. Your clothes are just one element of your overall image.

When it comes to dating, there’s probably a lot of other things that can be going wrong. You may not have the confidence to pull of your look yet.

You may be lacking in some social skills, and are coming off as either too aggressive or like you don’t want people to talk to you. This kind of thing happens all the time, and guys don’t even know it.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, I’m going to do in depth on the three main reasons the ladies probably aren’t responding to you.

Download this episode today to see how you can up your game with the ladies.

3 Areas to Improve to Get a Lady’s Attention:

Level up your social skills.
Wear clothing you are confident in.
Some women simply won’t like you.

Highlights:

Your problems aren’t style.
Clothing is just one element of your personal image.
Don’t be afraid to make eye contact.
Learn the proper way to approach a woman, it takes practice.
Know what topics not to talk about.
Humor shows levels of intelligence.
Women love to laugh.
Be aware of your body language.
Don’t come across as overly aggressive or that you don’t want people in your personal space.
At some point have that person touch you, or you touch them (appropriately).
Some materials invite people to touch you.
Own your look and be confident, or you’re just in a costume.
Is the look appropriate for the situation?
Dating is a numbers game.
Only a small percentage of women out there are going to be attracted to you.
Different women are attracted to different things.
Be sure to have your own standards.

Mindset Takeaway:

Style is just one link in a greater chain.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode93

92: What to do When Dressing Sharp Backfires Jan 03, 2018

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode92

We all know that people judge you by your appearance, and that’s why we always aspire to be the best-dressed guy in the room.

Unfortunately, those judgments of your appearance can also come with a downfall. People may look at you and think you’re a white collar snob. It may cause problems at work with your boss, or even at home with your family.

The good news is there are always ways to diffuse these situations. There are things you can say and do that will make everything right.

Download this episode today to hear how you can get out of problems that dressing to sharp can cause.

5 Times Dressing Sharp May be a Problem:

When you dress better than your friends.
You’re dressing rich and successful when you’re not.
Dressing better than your boss.
When your blue-collar dad thinks you dress like a white collar snob.
Dressing up may make you a target for thieves

Highlights:

Dressing sharp doesn’t always work out.
Make sure your clothes send the message you want.
Sometimes people get upset if you make them think about their image
You are not your thoughts, you are your wisdom.
Dress to be the man you want to be, not the man you are today.
There will always be a gap between you and where you want to be.
Make sure you communicate and work hard to make your boss look good.
Shirts were died Indigo to hide stains.
Explain that your suit is your uniform.
If you commute to work, you may not want to wear your nicest watch.
Invest in outerwear if you commute, and don’t carry valuable things.

Mindset Takeaway:

It’s great to be the best-dressed guy in the room, but you have to be smart about it.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode92

91: How to Wear a Suit Without a Tie Dec 27, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode91

Have you ever wanted to wear a suit without a tie, but you were worried it would make you look sloppy?

The solution isn’t as complicated as you may think think. Making sure your choice is intentional is pretty simple, and I’ll give you 5 easy tips to make sure everyone you’re around knows you made the choice with purpose.

I do want to let you know, though, that the tieless suit isn’t for every event. Make sure you know what you’re getting into before you head out the door. Some events may require you to wear a tie, or dress up a bit more.

At certain events, like a black tie affair, nothing will help save you from looking like a mess. So definitely take the time to research where you are going before you decide to leave your tie in the closet.

Download this episode today to learn how you can rock a suit without a tie, and still look like the sharpest dressed guy in the room with confidence.

5 Tips to Making a Tieless Suit Intentional:

Wear a casual suit
Make sure your shirt is up to the task
The right undershirt
Add a pocket square
Choose the right shoes

Highlights:

You need to know the dress code before showing up.
Casual suits are generally lighter colored and have patterns.
A suit, by definition, is a jacket and trousers made from the same material.
Make sure your shirt buttons don’t rely on a tie bringing it together.
Darker colors are not as casual.
Wear a V-Neck when possible.
Crew neck shirts are fine for those with “Chewbacca” chest hair.
Too much chest hair can be distracting.
Pocket Square gives a little more pop.
Adding the pocket square lets people know you didn’t forget the tie
You can wear more casual shoes, like suede.

Mindset Takeaway:

Make sure you are sending the message that you did not forget to wear a tie.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode91

90: 5 New Years Resolution to Make 2018 the Best Year EVER Dec 22, 2017

It’s that time again. It always comes so fast, and each year we make resolutions that don’t hold up.

A lot of times they aren’t as beneficial as you would expect them to be, or are such short term goals that they don’t really help the rest of the year.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast I wanted to give you resolution ideas that will set you up for success. Not just for 2018, but for the rest of your life.

Take the time to analyze these 5 resolutions, and you’ll find they are a real game changer in all areas.

Download this episode today to learn how you can make 2018 the best year of your life.

5 New Year’s Resolutions:

Start to gamify your finances
Purchase proper insurance
Build better relationships
Get to know your body
Set boundaries

Highlights:

Create an automated finance system so you want to check it daily.
Find a bank that allows you to have multiple savings accounts.
There are ways to make more money on the side.
If you have high interest debt, focus on paying that off faster.
Most people are underinsured.
You don’t need insurance until you NEED it.
Go with credibly insurance companies to avoid the headaches.
You can build relationships in your down time.
Be the person that takes that first step.
Surround yourself with an uplifting community.
Have a detailed medical exam once a year.
Take care of your teeth.
As you get older, gum disease is more of a problem.
Track your sleep.

Mindset Takeaway:

New Year, New You. Time to make it count.

Resources:

Personal Capital

Haven Life video

89: The Battle of the Jackets Dec 13, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode89

How many times have you struggled with which jacket to pull out of your closer: denim or leather?

Have you wondered which material would be better to invest more in?

It’s a problem men have had for decades, and it’s something I’ve decided to put to the test. I take these two great jackets and put them head to head in a ring to determine a winner.

It’s not easy, both material have strong advantages over each other. We look at price, durability, maintenance, and even sex appeal to decide which of these jackets is the real winner.

Download this episode today to hear all about these two jackets and decide which you think is the best for you.

7 Rounds to Determine the Winner:

Sex appeal. Winner: Leather
Versatility. Winner: Denim
Price. Winner: Denim
Weather Protection Winner: Leather
Maintenance. Winner: Denim
Durability. Winner: Leather
Tailoring and adjusting. Winner: Denim

WINNER: Denim

Highlights:

Denim is a more rough and tough material.
Leather usually gets more compliments than denim.
Denim is more casual, but works well with layers.
Leather tends to be easier to match.
You can get a great denim jacket for $100
Leather is a luxury material and can go into the thousands.
Denim doesn’t stop wind and rain.
Leather protects better from the elements.
Cotton holds up much better than most materials.
Leather requires maintenance and treatments.
There’s a reason bikers wear leather.
Ancient armor was made from leather.
Leather is tough to have adjusted, and need special machine.

Mindset Takeaway:

Each jacket has its benefits, but the real winner is determined by how you look in it.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode89

88: Italian Vs. American Shoes Nov 15, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode88

Do you have a hard time determining what type of dress shoe to choose? You’re not alone.

There’s a lot of choices to go with. I always suggest that you stay away from glued soles, as they just don’t last as long and are made from a cheaper process. They are fine for athletics, but when it comes to a good dress shoe you want some quality.

So in the end your two best option are going to be the English (or American) style, or Italian shoes.

Both of these are made drastically different, using different leather, stitches, and all around construction. On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast we take these two show types toe to toe in a battle of the best.

Download this episode now to hear all the areas where one is better than the other and finally decide which is right for you.

5 Rounds to Determine a Winner:

Upper leather: Italian is calfskin. American/English is cow hide.

Winner: Draw.

Stitching: Most Italians use Blake Stitch. American/English us Goodyear Welt.

Winner: Draw

Comfort: American/English are thicker. Italian don’t take as long to break in.

Winner: Italian.

Durability.

Winner: American/English.

Value: Blake stitch is cheaper to make. Goodyear welt is more expensive.

Winner: Draw

Overall winner: Draw

Highlights:

The opinion between the two is still subjective.
Calf skin is lighter.
Cow hide is thicker and stronger.
Stitching mean a higher quality shoe.
Blake stitch is done from the inside.
Goodyear welt is uses two stitches.
American shoes are heavier and harder to break in.
A black stitch costs more to be resoled.
No dress shoe made from leather is waterproof.
Wear water resistant shoes when traveling.

Mindset Takeaway:

The shoe that you choose is going to be dependant upon your needs.

Resources:

Dress Shoe Construction Explained.

Shoe Construction Infographics.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode88

87: Why You're Not Successful Nov 08, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode87

We’ve all had some successes in our life, but chances are there’s a lot more you want. If you’re not quite where you want to be, chances are you’re acting like an average person in a few areas of your life.

To get the success you want, you need to stand out from the crowd. You really need to set yourself apart and become an amazing person. Believe it or not, it’s not that hard to do.

By changing your mindset in some key areas you’ll notice some big differences. For example, you probably try to get as many things done in a day as you can. That’s going to be a downfall, because you’re going to end up doing everything sub par.

Instead focus on a few important thing each day. Really put everything into it, and make it something you are proud of. It’s far better to make a few great things than to make a lot of crappy things.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio looks into what makes someone average and what makes someone amazing.

Download this episode today to learn how you can start changing yourself to become the person you want, and achieve the success you deserve.

10 Tips to Go from Average to Amazing:

Focus on quality, not quantity.
Be effective, not efficient.
Be consistent in completion.
Listen to what is not said.
Take the initiative.
Seek experience.
Be prepared.
Be honest.
Accept responsibility.
Train yourself to delay gratification.

Highlights:

You’ve probably had some success, but feel there’s still a ways to go.
In most things, most of us are average.
Don’t try to do as much as you can, hone in on a few things.
Focus on the 20% that will yield you 80%.
Learn to prioritize, and complete things on time.
Listen to someone and repeat back what they said they know you are listening.
Think about what’s not being said, and seek to understand.
Don’t wait for someone to ask you to do something.
Having an education isn’t the same as having actual experience.
Be prepared for events, don’t react to events.
Opportunities favor the prepared and the bold.
Small lies build up.
Being honest is the best policy.
You have control over most things.
Blaming others means you give up hope.
Instant gratification can have negative long term effects.

Mindset Takeaway:

Boost your success by going from an average person to an amazing person with just a few simple shifts of your mindset.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode87

86: 10 Items to Own Multiples Of Nov 01, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode86

How many times have you has a shirt or pair of pants you loved and something happened to them, which cause you to become upset? It’s hard to find that perfect item, the right look, the thing you are known for.

When this happens, it’s a good sign you should have bought multiples of that item. When you go shopping and you find those pants that fit you exactly how you like, buy multiples of them. Don’t wait, because clothing companies to change their styles and cuts all the time. You’d hate to come back next week and find that they’ve been replaced with something that isn’t quite right.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio breaks down 10 items you should have multiples of. It’s not just clothing, but even practical items you’ll need - whether it’s every day or when you’re in a pinch.

Download this episode today and start learning how to build your collection of the perfect items.

10 Items to Have Multiples Of:

Workhorse shoes.
Fitted jeans.
Suit trousers.
White dress shirt.
The perfect outerwear.
Complete dopp kit.
You favorite fragrance.
White pocket square.
Winter gloves.
Light colored shorts.

Highlights:

It’s good to have multiples of your go to items.
It means shopping less, and possibly saving more.
The shoes you wear the most you may want a nice pair and a dirty pair.
Shoes normally need 24 hours to release their moisture.
Duplicates doesn’t mean the exact same thing, you can get variations.
Jean fit, sizes, and cuts do change.
Dark jeans lose their dye quickly.
Suit pants are the first to get damaged, and it’s impossible to match later.
An extra pair of paints will double the life of your suit.
Always send both pairs of suit pants with the jacket to the dry cleaner.
White shirts never go out of style.
Some jackets or outerwear can be magnets to the people you want.
If you are going to get upset if someone burns a hole in it, you should get a duplicate of it.
Fragrance can go bad.
Get a small bottle of fragrance instead of one large bottle.
Cotton pocket squares are good for handkerchiefs.
One glove is not helpful to have.
A lot of people are prone to losing one glove.

Mindset Takeaway:

If there’s something you would be upset about if it were ripped or ruined, it’s a sign you should buy multiples of it.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode86

85: 10 Rules for Layering Oct 25, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode85

When people think of layering, they typically think of bundling up in the winter. They think about throwing clothes on top of clothed in order to fight off the cold.

The truth is layering shouldn’t be used just for functional purposes, it should be used for fashion. And believe it or not, layering can be used in the summer months as well.

Effectively layering your clothes, paying attention to what fabrics are on top of what, and taking a little extra time to think about you’re going to wear can really make you look like a million bucks.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio explains the fashionable aspect of layering. He explains ten rules you can use to make sure you look like the sharpest guy in the room.

Download this episode today and learn how you can avoid layering mistakes and really up your fashion game.

10 Rules for Layering:

You don’t need too many layers.
Mix fabrics, textures, weaves.
Go from thin to thick.
Every layer should look good on it’s own.
Colors should compliment each other.
Don’t have the same patterns.
Tuck in under layers.
Accessories can bring another layer.
Be careful of white clothing.
Go out and look for inspiration.

Highlights:

Layering can be used for function and fashion.
It is possible to layer during the summer.
Have a base layer, core layer, and top layer.
2 layers is good, 3 layers looks great.
Outside wear leathers, under knits, and then cottons.
Thin clothing should be close to the body, and get thicker the further away you get.
If a layer doesn’t look good, you don’t want to be wearing it.
A layer you don’t like can lower your self confidence.
Go for a single pop of color.
Avoid using the same pattern on different layers.
Don’t let under layers stick out.
Neck ties can add extra materials and patterns.
Hats and bags gives an extra layer.
White clothing is generally used for formal layering.
Subscribe to a menswear magazine and tear out what you like.
Check out pinterest boards you like.

Mindset Takeaway:

Layering isn’t just for function, it should be used to make you look great.

Resources:

Infographic on functional layering

RMRS Pinterest Board

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode85

84: 7 Skin Care Mistakes Most Men Make Oct 18, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode84

One of the most difficult things when putting together an ensemble can be your shoes. There are so many types out there, and many men mistakenly think that just because shoes are black they can go with any level of formality.

When we think of skin care, we typically think it’s for women. In all honesty, it’s not. A man has to take care of himself just as much, if not more, than a woman.

We are commonly exposed to more dirt, more chemicals, and hazardous materials due to the nature of our work. Most men often don’t realize how much harm is being done until it’s too late. One day they look in the mirror and realize they look like they are twenty years older than they really are.

This can be a big problem, because sadly agism is a real thing. You don’t want to lose out on the job or that girl just because you didn’t take care of your skin.

Once the damage is done, it’s too late - but that doesn’t mean it’s too late to prevent more damage from happening right now.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, Antonio discusses the 7 skin care mistakes that most men make. Download this episode now to learn what you can do to start taking care of yourself and stay the best looking guy in the room.

7 Skin Care Mistakes:

Using dirty fingers to pop pimples.
Not going to an Esthetician.
Not wearing sun block.
Having a cleaning routine.
The importance of diet.
Wash your pillowcase and sheets often.
Go see a dermatologist.

Highlights:

Most men don’t take enough effort to take care of their skin.
Agism is real.
When you pop a pimple you are pushing germs back into a pimple.
Use a cold compress on pimples for 3-5 minutes.
Cotton swabs can be use to drain pimples.
1-2% salicylic acid products help open the pores.
Estheticians are readily available to treat your skin.
Find a high zinc sunscreen (15-20%).
Zinc helps protect UVA and UVB rays.
A facial cleansing routine is important - especially at night.
Routines will help you find the right product for you.
Your bad skin may cause by the foods you are eating.
Wash your pillowcase weekly.
A dermatologist should be seen at least once a year.
Detecting problems early is your best bet.

Mindset Takeaway:

You have to take care of yourself early, before it’s too late and you look older than you really are.

Resources:

30,000 Euros In 3 Months News Article

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Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode84

83: 10 Dress Shoes Ranked Oct 11, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode83

If you are going to a black tie affair, very view shoes will actually work for the event. You don’t want to show up wearing moccasins, monk straps, or a Chelsea boot. You need to have something very formal.

On the other hand if you wear black leather Oxfords with jeans or a casual suit your shoes will be over dressed.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio takes out the confusion of what dress shoes you should wear by ranking 10 of the most common types of dress shoes. Download this episode today to learn what shoes you should be investing in, and what to wear to your next event.

10 Dress Shoes Ranked:

Black Oxfords
Oxblood/Dark Brown Oxfords and Balmorals
Wholecuts
Derbys and Bluchers
Brogues
Chelsea Boots
Monk Straps
Loafers
Dress Boots
Moccasins and Driving Shoes

Highlights:

Generally the simpler the construction, the more formal it is.
Know the difference between closed and open lacing systems.
Leather is reserved for black tie.
Rubber soul is generally less formal, leather is more formal.
Wholecuts are a “modern classic”.
Brogues designed to let water out.
Chelsea boots were big in the ‘50s/’60s among artists.
Monk straps were a change up on sandals monks used to wear.
Loafers were designed to be a comfortable dress shoe.
The soul of a dress boot really determines how formal it is.
Moccasins and driving shoes are both very casual, but dressier than a running shoe.

Mindset Takeaway:

The right shoes can really bring your attire together, while the wrong shoes can make you look like a clown.

Resources:

Dress Shoes Ranked Infographic

Shoe Construction

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode83

82: The Perfect Dress Shirt Oct 04, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode82

Many men grab a dress shirt off the rack without looking at how it’s made, or making sure it’s flattering to their figure. Different brands cater to different body types, so if you do decide to buy one off the rack make sure you know what you’re looking for so you don’t look like a slob, or a kid in dad’s old shirt.

A dress shirt can seem complicated to know what’s right for you. Honestly by taking just a few measurements, and paying attention to how a shirt is made can make you look like the sharpest guy in the room.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio breaks down the ten things you should look for when shopping for a dress shirt. Download this episode today to learn how you can stop looking like a slob and start looking like the best dressed guy in the room.

10 Things to Consider When Buying a Dress Shirt:

Fit
Fabric
Stitch
Collar style
Cuffs
Yoke
Pockets
Epaulets
Buttons
Bottom style

Highlights:

So many people wear the wrong dress shirt.
Sometimes it’s the wrong size.
Know the right type of shirt for the event.
The best fit is a custom fit, but there are brands that make a fit that works for you.
Even an expensive shirt will look cheap if the fit is wrong.
The shoulder points need to be right.
If buttons stretch on the front, don’t buy it.
Don’t buy shirts with sleeves that are too short.
If you raise your arms and your shirt comes untucked it’s too short.
Extra material from the bottom of the shirt can be used to repair shirts.
Know your own measurements to accurately buy online.
You want to be able to fit two fingers in between your collar and neck.
Measure your best fitting shirt.
Have 10 white and blue shirts, they are the most versatile.
Small repeating patterns are fine, but won’t be formal.
Larger patterns, dots, and florals, are much more casual.
Cotton is a good default and durable fabric.
Linens are very breathable with the right weave and thickness.
Silk is too much maintenance.
Twill weave is more durable.
Look for 10-12 stitches per inch.
Three types of collars: spread, point, and casual collars.
3 types of cuffs: Single button cuff, two button cuff, french cuff
Most men don’t need a split yoke.
Dress shirts shouldn’t have pockets.
Pockets make a dress shirt more casual.
Covered pockets make it very casual.
Epaulets were originally to display rank, and make a shirt more casual.
Buttons should match closely in color to the shirt.
Mother of pearl buttons are an add on, but much nicer.
Sometimes shirts have a gusset to give more durability.
Dress shirts should always be tucked in.

Mindset Takeaway:

When looking for the perfect dress shirt think fit, fabric, function.

Resources:

Tailor Store RMRS40 for 40% off for your first time, RMRS20 for 20% on all other orders.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode82

81: Secrets to Success School Doesn't Teach You Sep 27, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode81

Our education system doesn’t teach you how to be successful in life - it teaches you how to get by.

You are by teachers that failing is bad, that you have to follow the rules, and that there are solid equations to solve problems. In the real world all of this is false.

In order to be successful you have to fail. A lot. It’s the only way to find the real answer, which are never as easy as 1 + 1 = 2 in the real world. In the real world there are emotions at play, and people rarely follow the logical route.

Lastly rules aren’t set in stone. They are guidelines, and flexible as you are trying to find your way to success. When you reach the top, you set the rules and that’s the position you want to be in.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style we look at ten things school doesn’t teach you that you need to know if you want to be successful.

Download this episode today and get on track and rid yourself of the bad habits you’ve developed due to America’s educational system.

10 Secrets School Doesn’t Teach You:

Go the extra mile.
Make daily investment in learning something new.
Share you work with others and develop trust.
Making money is a great thing.
Think about abundance, not scarcity.
You can break the rules.
Fail fast, pick yourself up, and try again.
You need to become a great negotiator.
Your view is one out of billions.
Emotion trumps logic.

Highlights:

You want to learn how to spot mistake early.
There’s no guarantee you will get amazing teachers.
School teaches you how to do enough to get by.
Going above and beyond will set you apart.
Experiment and learn something new all the time
In order for you to do a great job you have to rely on teamwork.
A one man team can not have as much of a reach.
This a world of abundance and we can create wealth.
One plus one doesn’t always equal two in business.
Rules are guidelines, and can be ok to stray away.
Play a game where you can create the rules.
In school we try to avoid failure.
Failure in life doesn’t mean it’s over - you can try again.
Don’t suffer from learned helplessness.
There is a psychology to negotiating.
Most of us are unfamiliar with other countries and their history.
Tests and exams are based on logic, but most of what happens in life are based on emotions.
If you learn to master your emotions, you’ll end up doing better than most.

Mindset Takeaway:

School sets you up to get by, not to succeed.

Resources:

Skill Share

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode81

80: How to Dress for a Meeting Sep 20, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode80

We are constantly involved in meetings. Whether it’s a sales meeting, an interview, or hanging out with coworkers at the bar we are constantly meeting with other people. In these situations, appearance really matters - especially if you want to make a good impression.

You wouldn’t wear swim trunks and a tank top to your sister’s wedding in Alaska, would you? Of course not.

It’s important to know the proper way to dress, and sometimes the answer may not be so obvious. You may not want to wear a suit and tie to an interview with a startup in Silicon Valley. When you’re hanging out with coworkers you probably don’t want to wear torn up jeans and a paint splattered tee shirt.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style podcast, Antonio discusses the five ways we meet with people all the time and how to dress for the occasion.

Download this episode today so you know how to dress for in the best possible pay for your next meeting or interview.

5 Types of Meetings

Selling
Buying
Support
Casual
Formal

Highlights:

Even if you aren’t a salesman, you are always trying to sell.
The goal of a selling meeting is to persuade.
The worst thing you can do is betray their expectations.
In order to persuade, dress as sharp as the situation allows.
Don’t overdress or underdress on an interview.
- There is always a dress code, even if it’s not written.
Companies are looking for someone that fits into their mould.
Bring clothing that gives you options.
At a buying meeting, try to convey power.
Find ways to make personal connections with someone.
Support meetings aren’t about you.
- Dress to fit in.
Casual meetings are to get to know each other outside of business.
Casual does not mean sloppy.
In most situations you can wear nice shorts.
Being casual is about being approachable.
Formal is about setting the right mood.
People behave differently in a formal setting.

Mindset Takeaway:

Every single day we are engaging people and going into meetings.

Resources:

Vincero Collective Watches

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode80

79: Why I Started This Podcast Sep 13, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode79

Many people ask why the Real Men Real Style Podcast was started. In fact Antonio was asked to complete an interview asking just that question, so he decided to complete the questions right on the show.

He explains what purpose this podcast serves for his business model. He also goes into how it helps the production flow for his YouTube episodes, and who it was that convinced him to start the show.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style today to here all about the podcasting process, how it works, and if it’s the right project for you to take on as well.

Highlights:

Antonio created the podcast because he dislikes typing.
The podcast is a starting point for the Real Men Real Style YouTube videos.
Real Men Real Style started as a way to help customers and consumers.
Most men don’t present themselves well.
Society says it doesn’t matter how you look, but it really does.
Not all content Antonio’s team creates is produced.
Recording a podcast is a less complicated and more relaxed process than a video.
Things need to be simple or they won’t get done.
The podcast is more about personal enjoyment than financial gain.
Antonio finds it important to find a separation between work and family.
If you don’t enjoy podcasting, you probably shouldn’t do it.
People who want to get into podcasting need to know their end game.

Mindset Takeaway:

A successful podcast should be something you enjoy doing, and serves a purpose for your end game.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode79

78: 5 Brand I’ve been Using For Over 5 Years Sep 06, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode78

Finding a good brand can be very difficult. When we purchase a product we are making an investment, and we want to know that investment is supported by the company.

In order for me to find a brand I stand behind I need to know that it is not just a great product, but also that there is a customer support behind it. When things go wrong, and they always do, I want to know the company cares enough to resolve the situation.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style I reveal the 5 brands I’ve been using for over 5 years, which says a lot. These products range from shirt stays, to belt buckles, to leather conditioner.

Download this episode today to hear what brands you can count on, and that will have your back.

5 Brands I’ve Been Using For Over 5 Years:

Sharp and Dapper
Paul Evans
Anson Belt and Buckle
Ribbed Tee
Leather Honey

Honorable mention: Pete and Pedro

Highlights:

Shirt stays connects your shirt to your socks to keep your shirt tucked in and your socks held up.
Good companies will support the customer, and Amazon doesn’t.
Paul Evans sells great entry level shoes.
Anson is a father and son company with micro adjustment belts.
Ribbed Tee undershirts go lower and last a long time.
Leather honey works on anything leather and make it look great.
- Don’t over use leather honey.
Pete and Pedro has a variety of hair products that work great.

Mindset Takeaway:

A good brand is about a great products and great customer service.

Resources:

Sharp and Dapper

Paul Evans shoes or products (Use promo code RMRS100 for a $100 discount

Anson Belt and Buckle

Ribbed Tee

Leather Honey

Pete & Pedro

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode78

77: 10 Ways to Increase Your Confidence - Fast Aug 30, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode77

Confidence is one of the most important things people can have. If you doubt yourself and become self conscious it can really hold you back. You’ll never nail that interview, land that sale, or get that date if you don’t have to confidence to even try.

There are a number of small things you can do throughout your day to really boost your confidence. Most importantly, you don’t need a lot of time to do them. Even in the busiest of schedules you can find a few moments to do at least one thing that will help increase your confidence for the dat.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio talks you through ten ways you can quickly increase your confidence. The more you practice them, and the more they will become a part of your routine and the less you will doubt yourself.

Download this episode today to see how you can boost your confidence and be as successful as possible every day.

10 Ways to Increase Your Confidence:

Get a great haircut.
Stand up straight.
Keep your socks up.
Keep your shirt tucked in.
Shine your shoes.
Make time for a great shave.
Start using fragrance in the morning.
Take care of your nails.
Get in a quick workout.
Start to wear a pocket square.

Highlights:

Find a “go to” person to cut your hair.
Only go somewhere new if you get a good recommendation.
Getting the right haircut will make you feel good when you walk out the door.
It feels good to stand up straight, and look good.
They way we stand and look at ourselves has a big impact on our confidence.
If you feel uncomfortable, it will make you feel self conscious.
Have somewhere safe to keep your shoes at night.
Give your shoes a quick buff after you wear your shoes.
Make sure you have a good shine box.
Shaving shouldn’t be a necessary evil.
Improve your shaving lotion.
Experiment and explore, everyone has to start somewhere.
Don’t care about not smelling bad, care about smelling good.
Nail clippers damage the nail, and don’t give as clean of a cut.
Even short exercises can make you feel better in ten minutes.
Don’t be afraid to stand out.
Pocket squares can be great conversations starters, and give you compliments that will boost your confidence

Mindset Takeaway:

Without the confidence you need you will never achieve your goals.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode77

76: Is It Manly To Sit With Your Legs Crossed? Aug 23, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode76

Have you put much thought into how you sit? What you do with your legs can actually affect your mentality, as well as the signals you are giving off to other people.

Believe it or not, when you sit with your legs crossed this can send off negative signals to people. It makes you appear closed off, and like you aren’t listening. This can cause problems in business - especially if you are trying to negotiate.

In fact there was even a study by Gerard I. Nierenberg and Henry H. Calero that showed out of 2,000 negotiations that were recorded, not a single one ended with legs being crossed. That’s a pretty definitive conclusion.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to hear more about what signals your legs may be unintentionally sending off.

5 Sitting Positions:

Legs out front with the knees together.
Legs out front with the knees spread.
Leg over leg cross position.
Figure 4 leg cross position position.
Ankle-lock position.

Highlights:

The way you placed your legs when you sit sends a message.
- It indicates where you are from.
If someone sits with their legs crossed that normally don’t, it can be a signal that something is wrong.
The further something is from your body, the less you think about the action it takes.
You have to have observed someone’s normal behavior to get an idea about their verbal behavior.
Be respectful with how wide you have your legs spread.
Wider spread legs shows dominance.
Someone bouncing their legs shows that they are nervous.
Leg over leg is more common in Europe.
Figure 4 leg shows a higher status and is more common in America.
When making decisions or negotiations, you shouldn’t have your legs crossed.
If you are a natural leg crosser, you may be sending a negative signal.

Mindset Takeaway:

Understand that your leg position has an affect on you and others.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode76

75: Why Do We Measure Things? Aug 16, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode75

It’s natural for human beings to measure things. Even as children we measure our happiness based on what other children have. As adults it makes less sense to continue this mindset, as my income isn’t what makes me happy. It’s how you use your finances that will make you depressed, not the number of zeros at the end of your paycheck.

It’s not just finances that we miss measure. In fact there are many aspects of life that most people aren’t seeing get the whole picture of, and it can lead to emotional problems. Some people don’t realize what’s important when it comes to weight, work, and a good night’s rest.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio looks at things people commonly measure incorrectly. He looks at ways you can adjust your perspective, and begin measuring the right way. You’d be amazed at how shifting your measurements can make a huge difference in your health, happiness, and workplace.

Download this episode today to hear how you can start changing you life for the better, starting now!

5 Things You Shouldn’t Be Measuring:

Income
Weight
Sleep
Hours worked
Social Media/Vanity Metrics

Highlights:

We measure a lot of things that don’t matter.
Comparing yourself to someone else can lead to depression and negative emotions.
Don’t measure how much you make, measure what you do with it.
People who make more commonly end up more in debt.
Don’t measure your happiness based on your weight.
It's common to have natural weight fluctuations.
Measure your neck, midsection, and other parts, not just your weight.
Quality sleep is more important that the quantity of sleep you get.
35-40 hour work weeks is ideal for health and happiness.
Measure your work based on progress, not hours.
Know what’s important, not what’s urgent.
Look at the number of people that are true friends.
- Go out of your way to build this relationships
Consider how many people on your Facebook or Twitter would actually attend your funeral.

Mindset Takeaway:

Make sure you’re measuring the right things or you’ll end up with the wrong results.

Resources:

Beautyrest Sleep Tracker

Priority Matrix

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode75

74: 10 Unconventional Style Tips Aug 09, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode74

Style rules are really just guidelines. They are meant to help put you on the right track to finding your own style.

If everyone were to follow the rules exactly, we would all look the same. No one would stand out, and it would be a very boring world. That’s why we are bringing you this unusual episode of Real Men Real Style.

We explain ways you can go against the grain to find your own personal style. We’ll discuss rules you can “break” in order to not only be the best dressed guy in the room, but also the most eye catching.

Try these 10 unconventional style tips out for yourself and see if they work for you. Maybe they will work for you, maybe they won’t. The important thing is to make mistakes and try new things, that’s the only way to find what really fits you.

Download this episode today to get unique tips on creating a style all your own.

10 Unconventional Style Tips:

Go make style mistakes.
Don’t take your clothing to a tailor.
Wear white or black whenever you want.
Long sleeve shirts in the summer.
Short sleeve polos with a jacket.
Using electric, disposable, and cartridge razors.
Dress for yourself.
Formal with informal matching.
Create a uniform.
Have the courage to be the best dressed man in the room.

Highlights:

It’s possible for you to write the rules yourself and create your own game.
If you always stay in the lines you’ll never find the real boundaries for you.
You can learn to adjust your clothes yourself.
Find the right brand for your body type.
Wearing white sends the signal that you have the money to let your clothing be trashed.
If you have the confidence to pull off a bold color, go for it.
Less clothes doesn’t mean you are cooler.
- Lighter colored breathable fabrics will help reflect and protect.
If it’s hot, wear and unlined jacket with a polo shirt to keep cool.
- This will give you a more casual look.

A high quality polo can even work with a casual suit.
Try each razor to find what you personally need.
Think about what you represent, and dress for that man.
You can mix and create interesting combinations with formal and casual clothing.
When you find what look is right for you, repeat the style again and again.
- Get different variations, not exact duplicates.

You want to stand out, but not be a cartoon character.
Don’t let the environment you are in dictate the way you dress.
If you have to wear a specific uniform, pay attention to its fit and presentation.

Mindset Takeaway:

If you aren’t making mistakes, you aren’t trying.

Resources:

Ministry of Supply

Original Grain Watches

Style System VIP

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode74

73: Does Clothing Affect Your Athletic Performance? Aug 02, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode73

We know that what you wear can affect your career. Having a nice suit made from quality fabric will make people see you as a true professional. We also know that dressing nice will give you more confidence, and have a positive effect on your mental state.

But can what you wear really make a physical difference in your performance? Can the right pants make you run faster? Can the right shirt keep you cooler when you’re running a marathon? Can the right swimsuit really make you swim faster?

On this episode of Real Men Real Style Antonio takes a look at studies and analyzes what kind of an effect your clothes can and can’t have on you.

Download this episode today to see what your wardrobe can do to improve your performance, and what you may have in your closet that’s just giving you a placebo effect.

5 Ways Clothing Affects Athletic Performance:

Compression fit
Heat retention
Full body suits
Wearing black
Synthetic materials

Highlights:

It’s important to use style to get what you want out of life.
Compression can help with recovery time.
Sometimes results are a placebo effect, but was shown to work.
After exercising for a while, moisture-responsive fabrics will help cool you down.
Full body swimming suits reduces drag in swimming.
Teams wearing black had increased penalties.
People are intimidated by other athletes who wear black.
Synthetics today are made to allow moisture to escape.
Synthetic weaves can block rays from the sun and allow air flow.

Mindset Takeaway:

Whether it’s mentally or physically, the clothing you wear can affect your athletic performance.

Resources:

Style System VIP

RealMenRealStyle.com

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode73

72: Dress Like a Man, Not a Boy Jul 26, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode72

We legally become men when we turn 18 years old, but that doesn’t mean you are actually a man. What makes a man, in my opinion, is how much responsibility you have - not just for yourself but also for others. When you start taking responsibility for yourself, you should show it.

We all like to think that we don’t, or shouldn’t, judge people based on their appearance. Unfortunately, that’s just not true. People will always judge you based on how you look. How you look can instantly establish the amount of respect you’ll get from clients and potential bosses. If you dress like a boy, with cheap ripped up jeans and ratty old t-shirts they aren’t likely to appreciate you. If you dress in clean nice fabrics, and accessories that complement each other they’ll know you made the time and effort to take care of yourself and that you’ll be willing to take care of them.

On this episode of the Real Men Real Style Podcast, Antonio looks at 7 ways you can start dressing like a man, and start letting your appearance put you on track for success.

Download this episode today to hear how simple it is to appear respectable and see how much more people appreciate you.

7 Ways to Dress Like a Man:

Dress with intention
Have the courage to lead
Practice what you wear
Experiment and measure
Have a core wardrobe
Buy the best you can afford
Own less

Highlights:

Responsibility brings forth what it really means to be a man.
Don’t fall into current fashion trends.
You don’t have to wear a suit to dress like a man.
Make sure your clothes send the message you want them to send.
Don’t worry if you dress different than others.
Have the courage to be the best dressed man in the room.
People trust those who are willing to take the lead.
When we first start wearing something new we may feel uncomfortable.
Practice and try different combinations.
Changing your wardrobe can make a measurable difference.
Your attire will affect your mindset.
Your core items are the items you will wear the most.
If you have to be budget friend, concentrate on your fit.
Consider how much you are spending on things you don’t need vs. how much you are spending on your wardrobe.
Cheaper suits and materials don’t last as long.
Make sure you love everything you own.
Owning interchangeable items will help make your wardrobe easier.
No matter how you feel, most people WILL judge you based on how you look.

Mindset Takeaway:

Dressing like a man will positively impact your career.

Resources:

RealMenRealStyle.com

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode72

Bonus Episode: How Image Translates Into Income Jul 22, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/MakeMoneyWithClothing

We all know that the way we dress can have an impression on people. If you always wear sweatpants and a raggedy old t-shirt, people will think of you differently than if you wear a suit. To be honest, what people think of you isn’t the most important reason to improve your attire.

The way you dress can have a direct impact on how much money you make. That’s right, your outfits could be holding you back from your true income potential. If you want to get the part, you have to look the part. You’ll never see a real estate agent constantly selling million dollar homes wearing ripped jeans and a tank top.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio looks at 10- that’s right TEN- ways in which what you wear can translate into making more money. You’d be surprised at how much you can increase your wealth by putting a little extra time and money into your image.

Download this episode today to see how you can improve your financial situation through your clothing today! And make sure to check out Style System VIP if you're a professional interested in receiving personal style coaching.

10 Ways Image Translates Into Higher Income:

Enclothed Cognition
Affects abstract thinking
First impressions matter
Stand out from the crowd
Status
Expectation match
Intelligence and competence
Sends signals of authority and trust
Negotiations
Retention

Highlights:

Money is something that can cause good in the world.
Certain clothing can give you mental strength.
You can become self conscious if you’re in the wrong attire.
When people wear formal clothing their abstract thinking goes up.
Dress up for a test.
It’s hard to disrupt someone’s first impression of you.
Looking good will make you grab people’s attention.
Setting yourself apart from the rest will give you a leg up.
If you sell million dollars items, shouldn’t you dress like a million dollars?
Status is given to you by your peers.
Make sure your look matches what you are doing and the expectations that come along with that.
Your appearance can give off the impression that you are intelligent and competent.
Dark framed glasses make people seem more intelligent.
How you dress affects how you can persuade people.
Red can convey more power.
Your attire can validate what you are asking for.
Fancier clothing can significantly increase closing rates.
Wearing casual clothing against someone in a suit in negotiations means you will be dominated.
A sharp image will form a lasting impression that will out live a short conversation.
Style System VIP

Mindset Takeaway:

Improve your wardrobe and you’ll improve your income.

Resources:

Style System VIP

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/MakeMoneyWithClothing

71: Would You Turn Down $10,000? Jul 19, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode71

Have you ever wondered how you should approach partnering with someone? Whether it’s a traditional business partnership, or a sponsorship, it can be a big deal. Your business reflects you, and what your family thinks of you. Would your mother approve of the things you're involved in? Would you want your daughter to buy the products you are selling? These are just a few of the questions you should ask yourself before you begin a partnership.

In the end, all we have are our reputations. It’s important to protect it, and it’s certainly an easy thing to tarnish. When you enter into a project you need to know if it’s something you’re really an expert on. You also need to consider if your following will appreciate what you are supporting or not. If not, your partnership could do you and your other enterprises more harm than good.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style we explore the things you should be looking for in a partnership and analyze the reasons why Antonio turned down an easy $10,000.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style today to hear what you need to look for when you meet your next partner.

5 Things To Look For In A Partner:

Have to solve a problem.
Quality.
Innovation.
Customer Service.
Transparency.

Highlights:

Would you want your child using the products you talk about?
Are you really knowledgeable about the items?
It’s important to see products improve and grow.
Make sure your partner treats customers the same way you would.
Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Check reviews about your potential partners and their companies.
Make sure both of your principals align.
Sheath Underwear
Sheath testimonials

Mindset Takeaway:

You have to stick to your morals.

Resources:

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode71

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode71

70: 5 Matching Rules Jul 12, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode70

One of the most common questions I get is, “How do I match my clothing?” It’s sounds like a simple subject, but it’s not something we are taught in school. In fact most people are never properly instructed on how to match their clothing, and they are really doing themselves a disservice by not putting thought into their attire.

Let me ask you, when you walk into a room do you want people to think you look like a clown? Do you want to spend your entire time at an interview, or meeting with someone and they just can’t get past what you’re wearing or do you want them to acknowledge you look good and then move on to focus on you and your skills? To do this you really need to know the basic rules of matching and really think about what you are going to wear each morning.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style today and start putting more effort into yourself instead of hoping to get lucky with your looks.

5 Matching Rules:

Complement, don’t match
Imitate the masters.
Levels of formality.
Match leathers.
Match metals.

Highlights:

Style is simplicity.
It allows people to move on from your clothes and look at your skills.
Think through your outfit, don’t get lucky.
Matching is when fabrics are the same.
Complementing is when items work together and play off each other.
Look at people in the spotlight that you like their look.
If you imitate the masters you will pick up on their techniques.
Some pieces are made to go with certain clothing.
Know the difference between casual and formal.
You can’t throw a leather jacket over a suit, you’ll bring down the outfit.
The three main leathers are black, brown and oxblood.
Don’t have a harsh contrast between shades of leather.
Decide what colors you gravitate toward and pick a belt that fits.
Keep your metals the same.
Wedding bands don’t follow this rule.
These rules are all basic rules, and are not set in stone.
Matching Clothing Made Easy Video
Anson Belt & Buckle

Mindset Takeaway:

Looking great and matching properly will make people notice you and your skills - not your clothes.

Resources:

Matching Clothing Made Easy Video

Anson Belt & Buckle

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode70

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode70

69: Menswear Items That Have Been Around for 100 Years Jul 05, 2017

Society was built on refining things, seeing what works and what doesn’t. Menswear is no different. There are items that have survived centuries, or more, that are still popular today and are definitely worth you looking more into. Do you know what you would find in your bathroom that you would also find in an ancient Egyptian’s, or a Roman soldier’s?

On this episode of Real Men Real Style, Antonio takes a close look at 7 menswear items that have held up over the centuries. He looks at what has kept these trends alive and well, and why you should still be using them. You might be surprised to find that some of the ancient items- that are readily available in most stores- are actually superior to some of our more modern inventions.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to open your mind to the past, and get in touch with Menswear items that will keep you classy.

7 Menswear Items That Have Been Around for 100 Years:

Single-blade razors
After shave
Pomades
Vest
Bowtie
Suspenders
Hats, pinned collars, club collar, hidden button collars, boutonnieres, ascots, pocket watches, casual silk scarves

Highlights:

If an item has been around for 100 years, it’s doing something right.
The two single blade razors out there are the straight razor and the safety razor.
One straight razor can last you the rest of your life.
Even the Egyptians used straight razors.
Hair is associated with not being clean.
Most men think cartridge razors are the only option.
Cartridge razors lift hairs on the face, which can cause ingrown hairs.
It can be hard to get to smaller areas with a cartridge razor.
A shaving brush helps lift hairs and get a closer shave.
The reason aftershaves were important was because they prevented infections.
Aftershave also helps with irritations caused from shaving.
Most after shaves don’t sting anymore.
Romans used pomades as a soap.
Pomade has shine, and strength for hold.
Look for a water based pomade.
Vest originally developed to add more warmth while allowing movement. Eventually they were developed to hide the waist area.
Bowtie has the same formality as a necktie and can make you stand out.
Neck ties can get in the way. Bow ties resolve that problem.
If you want to build trust and confidence, wear a bow tie.
Suspenders were made before belts were invented, are more comfortable than a belt, and help disperse the weight.
Try to wear suspenders with buttons, not with clips.
Some collars can come off as pretentious, but can make you stand out in a positive way.
Find a hat that is functional and get comfortable with it.
A hat can become a part of your style, and that’s when you start to look really good.
When French soldiers were going into the trenches of WWI, their loved ones would pin flowers to their lapels.
Knights often times wore flowers.
What makes flowers beautiful is the fact that they won’t be around for long.
Ascots, pocket watches, and casual silk scarves can be more for the dandy.

Mindset Takeaway:

There’s a reason some items have survived centuries, so learn how to use them!

Resources:

Ancient Style Secrets Video

Aqua Velva

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode69

68: First 10 Things Women Notice Jun 28, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode68

We all know that first impressions are everything. It’s important to know what others first think of you, especially women. Know the first things that a woman will notice about you, and try to make sure you’re ready to make each engagement the best it can be because you don’t know where it will lead.

Women are highly in-tune with their surrounding and, whether they realize it or not, they are quick to judge. You only have a few seconds to land the right first impression, and there are ten very important things to be aware of. On this episode of Real Men Real style we will be looking at the first 10 things a woman will notice about you, before you even realize an interaction has begun.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to know what you need to concentrate on to really improve your game and be the kind of a guy that attracts women, not scares them away.

10 Things Women Notice:

Your silhouette
Your body language
Your hands
Your face
Your smile
Clothing
Your greeting
Style details
Your fragrance
Your voice

Highlights:

The first thing a woman will notice is your shape.
Show off your wider shoulders, and narrower midsection.
- A leather jacket will help make a stronger silhouette
Make sure you look approachable.
People watch where your hands are going out of safety.
She’s going to notice if you are looking at her or not.
If she is interested in you, she will look right at you.
Women check out men just as much as men do women, but women are better at using their peripheral vision.
Your smile is in your control, and you need to learn to use it.
Don’t be afraid to give a quick smile.
Your tone, and how you acknowledge them is very important.
Don’t be afraid to be the first person to say hello.
Women will notice details of your hair, watch, and the subtler accessories you have.
Don’t overpower people with your cologne (one spray only!)
How you speak and your genuine knowledge will stand out.
People will often forget what you say, but not how you make them feel.
Make sure you have a positive energy people want to be around.

Mindset Takeaway:

If you want to be more attractive to women, be more aware of how you look and the signals you give off.

Resources:

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode68

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode68

Bonus Episode: Dress Like James Bond - Summer Style Edition Jun 27, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/EpisodeJamesBond

Have you ever watched a James Bond film and thought about how his style still holds up? He doesn’t look cheesy like a lot of trendy films throughout the decades. Bond had an elegance that is timeless. He always looked great, and the ladies loved him for it. You could take almost any Bond outfit and it would still work today.

You might be asking yourself how this is possible. It’s pretty simple. Trends change, but being classy doesn’t. It’s easier to find styles that last when it comes to formal clothing, but it gets trickier when you are dealing with casual attire. Each season you see styles come and go, and that shirt you bought five years ago seems like a bad joke.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style we turn to James Bond to show us how to look out best even in the hottest months. Download this special bonus episode to see how you can by clothes for the summer that will look great now and ten years from now.

10 items you need to dress like Bond this summer:

Polo Shirt
Casual button down
Long sleeve dress shirt.
Light colored suit or jacket.
Summer trousers.
Shorts.
Loafers.
Socks.
Sunglasses.
Quarter zip sweater.

Highlights:

It’s not about the newest trends, keep it simple.
Wear solid colors.
Avoid what’s “in style” and stick with the classics.
Your fit is incredibly important.
Find a brand that fits your body type, and personal style.
We are exposed to disposable clothing in this country.
Spend the extra to get better quality clothing.
Expensive clothing costs more for a reason.
When you dress sharp, you want to look like a million dollars.
White or light blue polos are safe bets.
Get a performance fabric.
You can wear a patterned button down.
Have plain, stiffer collar dress shirts.
Beware of linens, as they may wrinkle.
Jackets without lining can help keep the sun off your skin.
If you wear shorts make sure they fit well.
Don’t wear cargo shorts!
Make sure your shorts aren’t too long.
You can wear no-show socks.
Go with aviators or Wayfarers.
Avoid sport wrap-arounds.
At night it gets cool, and you should have a sweater.
If someone else gets cold, having a sweater will make you the hero.
Wear a straw hat.

Mindset Takeaway:

If you want to have confidence, sophistication, and own your style you can’t go cheap.

Resources:

Ministry of supply

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/EpisodeJamesBond

67: 3 Types of Shoe Construction Jun 21, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode67

Have you ever gone into a shoe store and had someone tell you a bunch of terms you didn’t understand about the shoes? Did they tell you a Goodyear Welt is the best or that a Blake Stitch will irritate your feet? Well, these may not be true. The best thing you can do is arm yourself with knowledge before you start looking for a shoe.

Everyone wants to protect their feet while looking good. When it comes down to how shoes are made there are 3 types of construction. None of them are better than they others, but they all certainly have their own advantages and disadvantages. If you are the kind of person that goes through soles faster than most people you may want one type. If you need something more waterproof you’ll probably want a different style.

Download this episode of Real Men Real Style to learn how footwear is made, and find the type that will suit your lifestyle.

The 3 Types of Show Construction:

Cementing
Goodyear Welt
Blake Stitch

Highlights:

Upper is the section that is the leather portion covering the foot.
The insole is the material inside the shoe that touches your foot.
Outsole is on the exterior of the shoe, that touches the ground.
Welt is found on higher end shoes. It's the strip of leather that runs around the border of outsole.
Last is a 3D model of a foot used to maintain shape of shoe during construction.
Cementing is the most common construction.
- Uses an adhesive to connect the sole to the upper.
- Best used with a rubber sole, not leather.
- Advantage: Inexpensive.
- Disadvantages: Will fall apart and generally not worth getting resoled.

Goodyear Welt is a stitching along the outside of the upper.
- Bottom of the upper is shaped over the last and stitched on the outside.
- Makes resoling much easier.
- Advantages: Considerably waterproof, most cobblers can resole, and the shoe can be sewn yourself.
- Disadvantage: Much more expensive, and don’t have much flexibility

Blake stitch is stitched on the inside of the shoe.
- Requires specialized machines to resole.
- Advantages: Get advantages of Goodyear Welt at a lower price, can get resoled, upper and lower connect looks better, and much more flexible.
- Disadvantage: Is not as water resistant as Goodyear Welt, it has to be sent to special shops to be resoled which is more expensive, and the interior stitching can irritate some people’s feet.

Mindset Takeaway:

It’s important to know the shoe construction for your particular needs and wants.

Resources:

Shoe Construction Infographic

How to Spot Quality Shoes

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode67

66: Should You Pay for the Date? Jun 14, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode66

Dating today is very complicated. It can be tough just to find a woman. Once you finally get a girl to say yes then you’re put into a whole new awkward situation: who should pay for the date? Some women get upset if you don’t pay, others get insulted if you do pay. So what’s the right answer?

Unfortunately, it’s not as clear cut as it was for my father’s generation. It used to be that if you were a man, you paid. End of story. We are seeing a shift in our society’s mindset on the issue. More and more women are feeling that a man shouldn’t pay, or at least shouldn’t feel obligated to. In fact a study showed that 3 out of 10 women think a man shouldn’t pay.

On this episode of Real Men Real Style we discuss the response to this question from 10 women at the top of their field. From journalists, to comedians, to academic scholars you’ll hear the wide range of answers. You’ll be surprised at how similar, yet different, all of their answers were.

Listen to this episode today to hear how you can avoid the awkward and frustrating moment of what to do when the check comes.

10 Opinions About Who Should Pay:

A dating coach said a man should take the old school approach and pay.
A journalist feels the person who asks for the date should pay.
A sex blogger felt each date should be paid 50/50.
A comedienne thinks you should consider who makes an average of 19.7% more money.
A model/actress thinks a man has to spend money to impress a girl.
An academic feminist feels a man shouldn’t try to buy a woman.
A weightlifter feels that it’s up to the guy to make the gesture.
A reporter feels you should pay for the right reasons.
A feminist writer feels that it shouldn’t matter who pays.
A porn star insists a man should be willing to go all the way.

Highlights:

Figure out pretty quick how a woman you are dating feels about who pays.
Think about who invited who.
Is it personal or is it business?
Paying can also be a way to thank someone for their time.
Try to settle the payment before ordering the food.
Consider who is drinking and how much.
7 out of 10 women think a man should pay.
A man needs to have table manners, and shouldn’t talk about himself too much.
Just because you spent money doesn’t mean you are entitled to the woman.
It’s not the fact that you pay, but the reason why you are doing it that matters.

Mindset Takeaway:

Know your date’s feelings about who pays before anyone even orders.

Resources:

AskMen.com Article - Paying Etiquette: Who Picks Up The Check? http://www.askmen.com/dating/heidi_100/128_dating_girl.html

Medical News Today - Skinny Jeans Causing Health Problems For Men http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/247826.php

Handsome Guy Secrets https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Nm5AV70pDs

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode65

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode66

65: The Abomination of Skinny Jeans Jun 07, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode65

Skinny jeans are a huge style right now. Rock stars wear them, movie stars wear them, and the skinny jeans section is taking over the men’s department. You shouldn’t buy into the trend for several reasons. The first is that you probably don’t look good wearing them. Skinny jeans are designed for men with a VERY particular body type. Believe it or not the way you look in them is the least of your worries.

A study in English showed that half of the men wearing these trousers are developing health problems. There is a huge increase in discomforts, urinary tract infections, bladder infections, and even twisted testicles!

When picking your jeans you should consider the function of your pants as well as your health. Jeans were designed for cowboys, to move and ride freely while taking a beating. Skinny jeans go against this design making it almost impossible to run in. If you can’t fit a wallet into the pocket, how are you supposed to make a proper stride?

7 Reasons to Hate Skinny Jeans:

Skinny jeans can cause low sperm count.
They can increase the chances of urinary tract infection.
They literally twist your testicles.
Many men wearing them have the wrong body type.
The low rise of the inseam makes your torso look odd.
You can’t use your pockets.
Skinny jeans are an image of attraction, not an image of power.

Highlights:

Most men don’t look good in skinny jeans.
A study with 2,000 british men in tight jeans showed a lot of urinary tract infections, a lot of twisted testicls, and a lot of bladder weaknesses.
- 50% of men had a growing discomfort.
- 25% suffered from bladder problems.
- 20% had a twisted testicle.
- 25% wear them to prove they can still fit into them.
- 40% wear them to be stylish instead of being comfortable.
Tight jeans lead to over activity of the bladder, resulting in infections.
Dr’s suggest you leave room for comfort so you aren’t being restricted in any way.
Function comes before fashion.
- Skinny jeans make it harder to walk and run in.
Don’t put fashion and style above health.
Choose slim fit or straight instead of skinny jeans.
Most men are better off having an image of power, not an image of attraction.

Mindset Takeaway:

Skinny jeans are a hazard to health and fashion.

Resources:

Medical News Today - Skinny Jeans Causing Health Problems For Men

Handsome Guy Secrets

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode65

64: How Often To Wash Your Underwear May 31, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode64

Are you tired of your favorite clothing getting ruined or falling apart? There’s a good chance you are washing your clothes far too often. Every time you put an article of clothing through a wash cycle it takes time off it’s life. Some clothes shouldn’t be washed every single time you wear them or they’ll turn into rags far sooner than they should.

The less you wash your clothes the better, but that can enter into dangerous territory as well. If you don’t wash often enough, your clothes will begin to smell and you’ll offend those around you. It’s difficult to find the right balance, but there are some clues that will help you know often to toss your laundry into a machine. How much skin does ensemble touch? What kind of material is it made out of? How soiled is it?

This episode of Real Men Real Style looks at the number of times an article of clothing should be washed based on several factors. For example, you may be able to wear your suit up to 50 times without washing it? Download now to find out more.

5 ways to increase clothing lifespan:

Spot clean often.
Avoid putting clothes in the dryer.
Wear undershirts.
Don’t wear nice clothes when heavily exercising.
Clean clothes at the end of their seasons.

Highlights:

Your clothes have a number of lives.
- You can only wash articles so many times before they are too old.
Treat noticeable stains as soon as possible.
When an article of clothing comes into contact with a large area of skin, change it daily.
- Underwear, socks, undershirts.
- You may need to change more if heavily exercising.
T-shirts and polos can be worn 2 times if you don’t sweat in them heavily.
Hoodies and dress shirts can be warn up to 3 times.
- You typically wear clothing under these articles.
- If you don’t wear an undershirt under your dress shirt, only wear it once.
Jeans and sweaters can be worn up to 10-15 times between washings.
- When you do wash, wash gently and let them air dry.
- Wool can be reshaped in the wash.
- - Dry clean at the end of sweater season.
Suits, sports jackets, and coats can be worn up to 50 times between washing.
- Spot clean when you can.
- If it’s heavily soiled, even if you only wore it for an hour, it has to be washed.

Mindset Takeaway:

Take care of your clothing as needed - no more, no less.

Resources:

TaniUsa.com

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode64

63: 6 Steps to Happiness May 24, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode63

Do you ever feel stuck in the world? Are you feeling stressed out about life? Is anxiety starting to take over your life? Believe it or not there are six simple steps you can take to help you have a much more fulfilling life. On this episode of Real Men Real Style I’ll lay out what’s known as the pyramid of fulfillment, and help you get on the right track to living a happy life.

6 Steps to a Fulfilling Life:

Focus on basic safety and security.
Mental strength.
Human connection.
Keep learning and growing.
Confidence.
Self-extension.

Mindset Takeaway:

You need to take action and ensure you’re truly living a life of fulfillment.

Resources:

https://www.communicationfornerds.com

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode63

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode63

62: Dogs Make You More Attractive May 17, 2017

Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode62

A dog is known as man’s best friend. They are loyal, caring, and all around great animals to have. But did you know having an animal can also help your personal life? People love people with dogs. It’s a fact. Animal owners are looked at as being much more caring and far more attractive.

This is something we can see in several studies from various reputable sources taken over the span of many years. These studies show that people are much more likely to interact with you if you have a canine friend. A dog can make people much more likely to help you when you are in need. Most importantly, a pooch will increase the chances that you’ll get the number of a woman you just met.

5 Reasons to own a pet:

Makes you more approachable.
People are more willing to help you.
Increases your chances of friendly interactions.
Can make even a bad boy seem dateable.
Will increase your chances of getting a girl’s number.

Studies:

Studies show having dogs and being a pet owner makes you more attractive.

2015 Study shows women love pet people.
- Women who are dog people will judge you based on your dog.
2000 British Journal Study shows pet dogs enhance smart fashion.
- Being well dressed and having a dog increases interactions.
2008 Study about a man asking for money and numbers.
- 3 times more likely to be successful with a dog.
- Amount of money given also went up around 30%.
- Asking for a number with a dog triples your chances of success.
2013 Journal Of Evolutionary Psychology Study shows dogs increases a man’s long-term attractiveness.
- Being a nice guy with a dog didn’t increase attractiveness.
- Bad boys became much more attractive with a dog.

Mindset Takeaway:

Dogs make you more attractive and approachable!

Resources:

RealMenRealstyle.com/Episode62

Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode62

61: Real Men Give Flowers May 10, 2017

Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode61

Flowers make people feel happy. It’s proven! Flowers aren’t limited to just women, who would have thought? Men can give flowers to other men as well, or even accept them from women! It’s really just a nice gift to show you care. So why is there so much conversation happening around this topic? Flowers symbolize life after all, it doesn’t have to be strictly a romantic gesture. Tune in to change the way you view giving flowers!

3 Reasons Why Men Buy Flowers

It’s a great way to show you care.
Flowers are shown scientifically to make people feel great.
People of all ages demonstrate gratitude when given flowers.

Mindset Takeaway:

Flowers make people happy! No matter who gives them or receives them.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

http://1800flowers.com/RMRS

Show Notes: RealMeanRealStyle.com/Episode61

60: Hold Your Phone Like a Badass May 03, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode60

We all talk on the phone. Did you know there are ways to actually look better on the phone? Maybe stronger? More masculine? It’s completely possible! Sometimes you don’t even realize you are making yourself look smaller with your posing. You could be hurting your neck, annoying others around you, or hey, even your future wife could be watching! Make sure you look your best.

7 Better Ways to Hold Your Phone

Don’t have it on!
Think power poses when holding your phone.
Don’t look down.
Get your phone further away from your face.
Lay on your back when you’re checking your phone in bed.
Get a phone that sizes properly to your thumb size.
Hold your phone with your right hand, up to your right ear.

Mindset Takeaway:

Everyone talks on the phone. Now you can talk on the phone and look like a badass by keeping your head up, holding your phone further away, and of course, just turning it off.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode60

59: Stylish Survival Skills Apr 26, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode59

What would happen if you ONLY had your clothes to survive on? I know, you think, “how could that ever happen to me?” All I have to say is, you never know! There are multiple ways your clothing may be able to save your life in situations that call for it. I don’t recommend putting yourself in a position where you only have clothes to survive on, but just in case, I have all the tips and tricks you’d need to make it happen.

13 Ways to Survive With Just Your Clothes

Don’t put yourself in a situation where you have to survive on your clothes!
Carry a pen. This can be used to create puncture wounds/kill.
Long sleeve shirts can be used to filter water, a knapsack, as bandages.
A belt can be used as a weapon.
Pocket Squares act as face protection.
Jackets keep you warm! Use it as a blanket, or as a protective layer from bugs.
Pants. These can be used as a flotation device!
Zipper. This can be used as a makeshift sawblade.
Shoes. These create smoke as a signal if thrown into the fire.
Shoe laces can be used for fishing wire.
Glasses can be used as a magnifying glass to start a fire.
Socks can be used as a makeshift package. (carry food!)
Condoms can be used as a canteen.

Mindset Takeaway:

The number one purpose of your clothing is to protect you from elements. This will come in handy if you find yourself in a situation where survival relies on only your clothing!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

http://www.creekstewart.com/

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode59

58: Tips on Quitting Social Media Apr 19, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode58

Kick Social Media to the curb. Quit Facebook. Quit Instagram. Say goodbye to Twitter. But why? It’s built to be addictive. You might not even realize you are addicted. Yeah maybe it’s a fun outlet, but at what cost? Well, a lot more than you think.

Sitting on social media all the time may have taken more from you than you’ve noticed at this point. Feeling drained? Getting angry at friends or family members based on their very public opinions? Maybe your eyesight's been a bit worse. It’s no coincidence in this case. Let’s take a look at the negative impact Social Media can have...

8 Reasons Social Media is Bad For You

Forced comparison. We are forced to view the top 1% of what others are doing.
Division of people. Social media divides us.
Impacts sleep.
Impacts your immune system.
Inhibits growth hormones.
Limited thinking and kills creativity.
Impairs digestion.
If you are not paying for the product, you are the product.

7 Ways to Break Those Bad Social Media Habits

Disable notifications.
Get rid of useless people that you are following. (unfollow)
Don’t follow useless information.
Delete the app from your phone.
Change your passwords frequently.
Delete your account.
Increase your privacy settings.

Mindset Takeaway:

Everything isn’t what it seems on Social Media. You don’t have to delete your social media accounts, but use them in moderation. Use them effectively.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

www.facebook.com/help/delete_account

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode58

57: Make More Money, Work Less Apr 16, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode57

The goal is almost always to make more money while working less. Everyone has this overall goal in mind, yet few people understand how to effectively accomplish it, or at least consistently move the direction of more money through less work.

In this episode, I’m teaching you my 10 tips for making more money while working less. These have been developed and refined through running my own business, and are the pillars that, when applied to your life and your efforts, will allow you to accomplish more and more as you get better at implementing.

So change your mindset to one of continually adjusting your parameters, measuring your life, looking for places that waste time and energy, and continually educating yourself to better your life!

P.S. Get Zero to Launch, a course by Ramit Sethi, which I talk about in this video, here.

General Takeaways:

If everything that you’re doing is important, then nothing is important
Unless you put in an incentive to cut down features and extra work, they will fill all the time and energy you allow them to
Prioritize tasks according to their real importance

10 Tips to Make More Money While Working Less:

Solve a burning problem
Sell to customers capable of buying the product
Let EVERYONE know what you do, and the problem that you solve
Make the exchange of money easy
Develop your expertise and become the superstar
Set boundaries on your work, hours, etc
Hire someone to do all the things that it doesn’t make sense for you to do
Measure everything
Pay for detailed training to solve a specific problem
Hire a mentor

Mindset Takeaway:

Adjust your mindset towards money and it’s acquisition, using the 10 tips above, to one of abundance and a drive to tweak your systems and process to earn more.

Resources:

Zero to Launch - Ramit Sethi

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode57

56: Tailor Turns Down 100 Customers a Month Apr 12, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode56

Can you imagine, as a business owner or simply someone who understands the value of customers through the door, turning down 100 customers a month?! Believe it or not, there is a tailor who does exactly this, and I’m telling his story on today’s episode.

While people like this, who are deeply, passionately and artistically specialized in the work, are very expensive to work with, it can be worth it if the product is something you are deeply passionate about and have the money to invest in the experience of working with someone like this.

In general, though, his approach to his work teaches us a lot about what will cause you to stand out from the crowd in any industry: Passion, extreme craftsmanship, and a dedication to creating the best product possible.

General Takeaways:

Know who your customer is, what you can give, what you can do, and what you can not.
A lot of businesses promise the world. But honing in on your speciality, and knowing what you can and cannot do, is key.
Most people are focused on purely making money. But there is a level that transcends that; one of art and extreme care.
Look for artists who deeply specialize in what they do, if it really means alot to you, and enjoy the experience of working with them.

Mindset Takeaway:

If there’s one specific category or item you feel extremely passionate, consider tracking down a real artist in that field, someone who deeply specializes, and appreciate the experience of working with them.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode56

55: Travel the World, Pack Light Apr 05, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode55

Six months on the road. One outfit that ruled them all. How did I do it? That’s a great question. You could say I have a few tricks up my sleeve. You won’t want to spend a lot of time shopping while traveling around the world. Some of you might, but it comes with a hefty price tag (import taxes!)

Lighten up your load and start emptying that suitcase! Pack only the essentials necessary to get you around the world in the perfect, all encompassing, go-to outfit.

10 Ways to Travel the World on One Outfit

Make sure everything you take is interchangeable.
Bring simple luggage.
Take a watch!
Take a go-to overcoat.
Take a light sweater.
Pack some great underwear and undershirts.
Pack light-weight jeans.
Slip-on boots are a must.
If you bring shorts, have them be swimsuit bottoms or gym shorts.
Sunglasses!

Mindset Takeaway:

When you travel, the more lightweight items you have, the less you will have to pack. Ensure all your clothing is interchangeable, to mix and match the perfect go-to outfits!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode55

54: Weird Ways to Build Your Confidence Mar 29, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode54

There's a million ways to build your confidence. However, sometimes the steps we take to get there can be unexpected or “weird”. Hey, there’s nothing wrong with weird! It’s a relative term. Who knew cologne could give you liquid confidence? That’s not the only thing though. We might even talk about the impact duct tape can have on you...

In this episode, I tell you some “strange” ways to build your confidence. Okay, maybe not too strange, but these small tips touch on the activities that you might not even realize affect how you feel about yourself, and in some situations, how you carry yourself.

7 Weird Ways to Build Your Confidence

Get rid of body odor.
Use a fragrance.
Focus in on your breathing.
Duct tape your back.
Talk to yourself in the mirror.
Take care of your face/body.
Shock the system.

Mindset Takeaway:

Sometimes we forget the small tasks we can do in order to build our confidence. So what if some of these aren’t the norm? They boost your self-confidence!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode54

53: Habits of Stylish Men Mar 22, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode53

Style should be a habit you create; something you do without thinking. Sometimes we don’t even realize the impacts made by the small changes we implement. Some of us put so much thought into our styles, it begins to become a hassle rather than an effortless set of actions to be the suave men we are naturally!

Being aware can change the way you look and feel. Take my word for it! Check out these 10 tips that will turn your style routine from hassle to habit.

10 Habits of Stylish Men

Let go of worn out favorites.
Have a grooming routine.
Don’t be afraid to break the rules.
When buying new clothing, ask yourself “is it interchangeable?”
Know your measurements.
Be careful of workout clothing.
Make sure your casual clothing is not sloppy.
Get into the habit of using color effectively.
Find the brands that work best for you.
Don’t be afraid to take, and give compliments.

Mindset Takeaway:

You can use clothing to get what you want out of life. Especially by using these 10 stylish habits!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode53

52: How to Stand Out, Without Really Standing Out Mar 15, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode52

So you want to stand out, without really standing out. You might be surprised to know that it may not always be your clothing that separates you from the rest. No one wants to stick out like a sore thumb, or look and sound as if they don’t belong! You want to get others’ attention by looking good, not by looking silly. So how do you get there? How can you truly master the art of standing out, but not going too far?

That’s why we’re here today! I have the best tips and tricks you need to hear, in order to achieve just that. It may not be as hard as you think!

7 Ways To Stand Out, Without Really Standing Out

Know your message, and dress accordingly.
Take a classic twist on key items in your wardrobe.
Make casual look amazing.
Have good manners.
Use your eyes and your ears.
Be a positive person.
Say no to most things.

Mindset Takeaway:

Small changes to your wardrobe or the way you speak to others can have a great impact on your ability to stand out in a crowd. Pay attention to the little things!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode52

51: 7 Tips To Be Cool Mar 08, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode51

What does it really mean to be cool? The definition has changed throughout history as styles have developed from decade to decade, but there are a few factors we can associate with “cool” that are completely timeless. Admit it, we all want to be cool in our own way!

When we think cool, we sometimes think James Dean...or James Bond.. or.. Has anyone else noticed a lot of James’ are cool? Whether it’s your posture, your sunglasses, or the way you dress, here are some quick tips on changing your look from fool, to cool!

7 Quick Tips: How to be Cool

Stand up straight.
Don’t try too hard.
Wear sunglasses!
Wear a leather jacket.
Jeans.
Add a bit of stubble.
Don’t be afraid to go up and talk to people.

Mindset Takeaway:

Being cool looks effortless, but is far from actually being effortless! If you follow these tips, you will feel much better about yourself in a short matter of time. Be confident, be positive, and be yourself!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode51

50: Rings, Fingers, and Symbolism Mar 01, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode50

Most of the time you see a man wearing a ring, it’s usually his wedding rings, class rings, or family crest rings. Why not wear rings just for the hell of it, though? What if you see a ring at the mall, and you like it, but you’re worried how it might look? Well, what if I told you that wearing rings is actually a stylish decision to make?

If a man is confident, he will bring in a ring. With the four general rules I am about to share with you, you’ll be able to have the confidence to bring them into your wardrobe too. Let’s get started!

4 General Rules to Wearing Rings

Pay attention to the traditions of your country or culture.
Pay attention to proportion.
Try to match metals with metals.
If you’re going to wear multiple rings, ensure you balance them out.

Mindset Takeaway:

A lot of men think they can’t pull off rings, it’s just not true! Follow these 4 general rules to get you started wearing rings with style and class.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode50

49: 7 Ways to Improve Your Style Without Spending Much Cash Feb 22, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode49

It’s hard to have good style when you don’t have the budget to match, right? WRONG! This week I let you in on a few secrets. In fact, I let you in on SEVEN. It’s completely possible to be stylish without spending a TON of money.

Don’t let the fashion industry convince you that expensive = stylish. It’s just not true! It’s time you really OWN your wardrobe simply by putting in a bit of effort. You’d be surprised how much a tailored pair of pants or a watch can improve your style.

Listen up, as I tell you seven quick and easy tips on upgrading your style.

7 Ways to Improve Your Style:

Fit.
Pay attention to your accessories.
Experiment with your habits.
Incorporate a rarely used item.
Your hairstyle.
Remove clothing that you don’t love from your wardrobe.
Smile!

Mindset Takeaway:

Even if you think you don’t have the time or money to improve your style, you do! Use your resources and make some small changes that have a BIG impact on your wardrobe.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode49

48: 7 Things That Drive Me Crazy About You Feb 15, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode48

I bet you didn’t know that you drive me crazy sometimes. That’s right, you drive me crazy. Wait though, it might not be such a bad thing. Things that you do, make me reflect on who I am, and why I do the things I do. Some information may or may not be applicable to you, but I need to focus in on an audience that I can relate with.

So what if I contradict myself? Opinions evolve! I probably shouldn’t have taken such a hardened stance on some subjects, but it’s all a learning process. I’m not perfect, and I’m sure these kind of things drive you crazy about me. Maybe it’s my hand gestures, maybe it’s some old videos of mine contradicting things I’ve recently said. Who can really tell?

Alright, I’ll get to the point. Whether or not you realized it, here are the 7 ways that you drive me crazy.

7 Things You Do That Drive me Crazy:

You are right.
You are wrong.
You remember everything.
You don’t watch my videos.
You hate me.
You love me.
You demand better of me.

Mindset Takeaway:

If you couldn’t tell, I meant you drive me crazy in a good way. Take the things that drive you crazy, and use them for self improvement!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode48

47: Clothing Hacks I’ve Never Covered Before Feb 08, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode47

Having put out hundreds of videos over many years, it seems like I’ve covered almost everything fashion and personal impression-related. And yet, somehow I was able to find a list of several hacks that I’ve never talked about, and that’s what this episode is about.

Among the hacks covered is the value of shaving your sweaters, how to use layers to create the perfect fit, how to buy clothes that fit perfectly, and how to stretch out shoes that are just a little bit tight.

So whether you’ve been following me for a long time, or are brand new to Real Men Real Style, this episode is packed with style hacks that will take your fashion to the next level, and allow you to make a great impression on those around you.

The Hacks:

Know your stretch, and look for clothes with the correct amount of stretch
Shave your sweaters
Use layers to create the perfect fit
Wear your best fitted clothing when you go out to get clothes to compare it with what you want to get
Look at the inside of a piece of clothing as a tiebreaker for what is the highest quality
Always take one item that pushes the boundaries into the dressing room, just to see if you like it
Whenever you’re buying a nice pair of shoes, try to buy a matching belt as well
Buy some extra laces for your shoes
Get into the habit of taking care of your footwear
To stretch out a pair of shoes, take a ziplock bag, fill it with water, put it in the shoe, and freeze it to stretch it out just a little bit
Use a salt solution to soften your T-shirt

Mindset Takeaway:

Go through all of the above hacks that I’ve never shared before, so see if there’s anything specific that you can takeaway to improve the impression that you make on others.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode47

46: 10-Ways to Screw Yourself Over Feb 01, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode46

A lot of people are their own worst enemies when it comes to accomplishing what they want in life, and today I am talking about the 10 mistakes that many people are making everyday that are making success, however they define it, more difficult for them.

If you look at the 10 mistakes listed below and identify any that tend to come up in your life over and over again, you can be reasonably sure that it is holding you back. So be aggressive about cutting it out! If you truly want to succeed in life, there are enough external things that make it difficult without you making it harder on yourself through your habits, your thought-processes, or your preconceived notions.

These are the 10 ways I see pop up in people over and over again, and if you can get rid of them, you will be miles ahead of most of the world.

The 10 Mistakes That Will Screw You Over:

Making excuses for your habits and life
Lacking the ability or discipline to focus
Multitasking
Ignoring discipline
Waiting for the “perfect time”
Trying to make things perfect
Not preparing
Saying yes to everything
Choosing to stop learning
Being a “lone wolf”

Mindset Takeaway:

Learn from the above 10-mistakes, and keep a lookout for where they may be trying to pop up in your life, to cut them out.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode46

45: The 5-Ways I Judge You Jan 27, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode45

Most of us are taught from an early age not to be judgemental of others, and to let everyone live their own lives without our judgement. But the truth is that we all make split-second judgements about everyone we meet, the second we lay eyes on them. It’s simply human nature, and this immediate judgement is necessary in order for us to make sense of the world around us.

But knowing this trait about humans, it’s important that we realize this, and consciously make an effort to optimize that initial judgement being made of us, through our look, our mannerisms, our language, speech patterns, and more.

This episode is about the 5 ways I (and most people) make split-second judgements about people I see, and, as a consequence, what you can do to make that initial impression of you stronger, and what you want it to be.

Key Takeaways:

Everyone makes split-second judgments about you. They can’t help it
With this in-mind, your appearance and initial impression is incredibly important
People need to know that they are a priority to you
Open doors for people
Everyone will judge you based on their own shortcomings. The way we see other people is expression of ourselves

The 5-Ways I Judge You:

Punctuality
Preparation
Manners
Language
My own shortcomings

Mindset Takeaway:

Because people will always make split-second judgements about you, be careful to think about and engineer what that split-second judgement will be

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode45

44: The Importance of Meeting People In-Person Jan 25, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode44

In the modern world, technology, especially in communications, has made it less and less necessary to actually meet people in-person for any reason. We can do anything we need to through skype, facetime, google hangouts, or another app, and we can even use these same apps to keep up with our friends and family.

But today’s episode is about why that is simply not enough! While practically speaking you can accomplish a lot of the same thing virtually, there are so many other aspects of what an in-person meeting does for a relationship that will be completely lost if we move further and further towards all-virtual meetings.

So make a habit of attending live events, meeting people in-person, and developing relationships in this way, to create more impact, speed up the process of learning about others, and forge deeper relationships.

Key Takeaways:

When your business is online, it’s easy to to let yourself spend more and more time alone. Resist it!
A local event builds a trusted network, and often a deeper relationship
Go to networking events, because it’s often easier to get time from a busy person when you meet them in person
When you put in the effort to show up to events, it will often lead to things you never would have guessed
When you meet people face-to-face, you can often accelerate the conversation by weeks or months, as compared to continuing an email conversation
Shared experiences with people go a long way in developing a relationship

Mindset Takeaway:

Make an effort to go to live, in-person events on a regular basis, to develop new and deeper relationships.

Resources:

StyleCon 2017

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode44

43: 14 Modern Manner Mistakes Jan 12, 2017

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode43

A lot of people feel like, now more than over, manners are dead. But the truth this is actually the time that manners mean the most! In a world dominated by social media, phones, and skype, manners will set you apart from the rest, and help you make an impression.

Below are the 14 mistakes that I see people around me making all the time. If you can avoid these, you will already be well on your way to giving an impression that will set you apart from the crowd.

But most importantly, focus on making other people feel good through the use of good manners. People will forget many things about you, but never the way you make them feel, so always focus on making other people feel great in every encounter you have with them.

The 14 Mistakes:

Make your phone more important than the people around you
Don’t say something online that you wouldn’t say in person
Practice good manners at home, not just when you’re out and about
Be on time! If you’re going to be late, let people know
Always have situational awareness. Know what’s going on around you
Always show respect at work
Keep yourself from constantly interrupting others. When others are talking, actually listen, don’t just wait for your turn to speak
Do not overuse foul language. Understand how it portrays you to other people
Have patience and empathy for others, where they are in their life, and what they might be struggling with
Be purposeful about making introductions. Always be the one who makes the introduction
Do not ignore party manners. Maybe bring a gift, and always RSVP
Don’t ask nosey questions. Be careful about questions that could be considered rude or intrusive
Do not ask for special treatment
Do not argue over the check at the restaurant

Mindset Takeaway:

Focus on always making other people feel great by using good manners, everyday and in every situation.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode43

42: 10 Questions You Need to be Asking About Money Nov 30, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode42

Money is a tricky topic, and you will find that a lot of people are not at all comfortable with discussing it. This was certainly the case for me, to the point where I was too embarrassed to ask many of the questions about money that would have set me up to be more financially stable throughout my life.

So on this episode, I am answering the 10 questions that I should have asked about money when I was younger, so that you can avoid some of the mistakes and pitfalls that a lot of people make around what they do with their money.

It’s important to get these issues squared away while you’re young, to set yourself up for success through the rest of your life! Too many young people put off thinking about money until they’re older, and cause themselves a lot of extra pain through this decision than they needed to have. Don’t make that mistake! Listen to this episode to learn what you need to be doing to be financially stable in your life!

Key Takeaways:

A lot of people don’t talk nearly enough about money to fully understand it, but it’s essential to understand
When you’re younger, it’s often a very good idea to invest in yourself through education, books, self development, etc
No one should feel guilty for wanting to build wealth
I always bet on myself

The 10 Questions I Should Have Asked:

Is it wrong to want to be rich? To have the money to do what you want
How do I know if I can afford something? Ask yourself: Does it affect your lifestyle?
How Many credit cards should I have? You should make sure you have credit cards before you need them. As many as you can personally manage responsibly
What should you do with an unexpected windfall of money? Put it toward an emergency fund, and define an emergency strictly. For me, it’s about 3 months worth of expenses
Should you have an emergency fund, or invest, etc? For me, emergency fund first, everything else after
Where’s the best place to learn about money? Books. Listen to people who have gotten where you want to be
How do I get rich? There are an unlimited number of ways. Educate yourself
Should I pay off all of my debt? No, low interest loans are often not worth paying off, and having cash gives you options
What is good debt? Should you carry any debt? Good debt is usually real estate that is earning you value, or education that is going to earn you more money
Do I really need to save for retirement? As you get closer to retiring, you need to progressively think about it more seriously, but not when you’re too young

Mindset Takeaway:

Don’t be embarrassed to ask questions about money. Learn as much as you can about it!

Resources:

Ramit Sethi’s Courses

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode42

41: How I Made My First $100k Profit On Youtube Nov 18, 2016

$100k is definitely a milestone. Compared with large scale businesses, it may not be a lot, but when it comes to building from 0 to something that can support you as well as other people, it is a huge milestone, and very worth striving for.

This episode goes through the details of exactly how I was able to attain this very important first milestone. I’m breaking down where the money came from, what it took to get it, some of the obstacles that stood in the way, and how I was able to overcome them to create an online business that supports many people.

Owning a business is a dream for a lot of people, and so I want to help to show you how I got started, to both inspire and educate you on your way. Enjoy!

Key Takeaways:

Often it is a good idea to think about monetization before audience. If you plan to monetize, it’s important to understand what audience you want
Physical product sales can go a long way early on
Informational products have much higher profit margins. You don’t have to sell as much informational products to make the same amount of money
If you have a large following, look at sponsorships, and be creative about the different things you can offer sponsors
Affiliate sales can be good, but also depend heavily on your affiliate’s ability to convert
A lot of people think that they will be able to make a living off of adsense, but often even the top youtubers can’t do this
Membership websites can be a powerful revenue generator for influencers

Books Mentioned:

Mindset Takeaway:

If you’re starting your own business, your first $100k will be a milestone. Focus on ever-increasing goals like that to stay motivated and building, while appreciating each one you attain.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

40: How to be More Attractive to Women Nov 09, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode40

If you’re like most guys, the idea of being able to walk into a room and instantly be considered highly attractive by those in the room is extremely compelling, and worth striving for. But attractiveness and what causes it is a tricky thing to try to understand. In this episode I’m sharing 5 surprising ways that you can be considered more attractive.

The standard answers to the question are things like dress sharp, be confident, smile, etc. But this episode is all about the surprising things that can make a difference in your perceived level of attractiveness. And the good news is that you may already have some of these, or could have some if you decided to, so raising your level of attractiveness may be just a tweak away!

So listen to this episode, take notes, and read carefully through the 5 ways listed below, to find out exactly what you should be doing to look more attractive to everyone around you!

5-Ways to Be More Attractive:

Extreme grooming (bald heads or big beards) will attract attention, and sometimes a surprising amount of female attention. Something that shows that you have a healthy dose of testosterone
Practice regularly to become a great storyteller. Bring in humor and a little sarcasm
Walk into a room with a group of people, rather than alone. Walking in with 2 guys is good, walking in with 2 women is best
Wear textured clothing
Grey hair is attractive on older men as long as they have a youthful look to them

Mindset Takeaway:

Think about the ways you can use the above 5 methods to up your attractiveness, using your natural tendencies in your favor.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode40

39: Offense vs. Defense in Style and How to Stand Out Nov 02, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode39

In your style choices, you are either be playing defense or offense. Defense means playing it safe. Dressing the way that you normally dress. Wearing muted colors, wearing simpler accessories, and in general taking the route that you know will be very safe, but also not make any statements. While defense is important and powerful to your overall style strategy, a football team never won a game without putting at least a couple points on the board, right?

In this episode, we’re looking at what offense means for the stylish man. How can you do something that is just a little bit out of the ordinary in order to make a specific statement, and portray the image that you really want to portray. It could be in your accessories, whether it’s a pinky ring, or earrings, or perhaps it’s in the careful use of bright colors, rather than all muted tones. Perhaps it’s times to start regularly wearing a fragrance rather than just deodorant.

In general, defense means dressing to fit in, while offense means dressing to stand out. A careful understanding of how to do both will allow you to leverage each strategy when it is most advantageous. Don’t neglect offensive thinking in your overall style strategy!

Key Takeaways:

Most men are defensive when it comes to style, and think that defense will get them where they want to go in style
If you know how to strategically employ offense when it comes to style, you will be able to use it to your advantage
Too often, men dress to fit in, rather than dressing to impress with a specific message
Dress like the person that you want to be in the future. If you want to be a CEO maybe dress like a CEO
Most men only where deodorant, when an offensive strategy would be to wear a fragrance that sets you apart
Look at the ways that you can use color to actually draw strategic attention to yourself, and not just detract attention through all the normal colors
Wedding rings, conservative watches, and simple watches are all defensive style. Look into something that is a bit more headed toward personal adornment. Pinky ring, earrings, necklaces. All carefully
Understand that offensive style has the potential to offend very occasionally. Be cautious, but understand that it is part of the game
Simple patterns are defensive. You can pretty much wear as many patterns as you want, as long as they are not the same and right next to each other
Patterns allow you to use common colors, but in a unique way

Mindset Takeaway:

Think about the ways that you are playing defense with your style currently, and the ways that you could be playing a bit of offensive in your choices.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode39

38: What Type of Shoes Should You Wear? Oct 26, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode38

Do you know the history of footwear? Do you think it’s important? Do you know why it’s important?

This episode is all about the difference between curved and straight shoes. I’m talking about the history of how these two shoes came to be, and what that means for the decisions you make. The shoes you wear definitely affect the way you are perceived, which means it’s very important to understand.

Today, I’m getting into the history of these two type of shoes, which I believe should normally be worn, and why. Listen up and take notes on this episode of the Personal Image System!

Key Takeaways:

Lots of classically minded men stay away from square toed shoes
From a functional point of view, there really isn’t a right answer
From a style perspective, curve toed shoes are almost always preferred
From the earliest times, shoes would be one of the main ways people would convey their status
Up to about 200 years ago there was no distinction between shoes for the left and right foot
Then over time, the people who could afford it would get shoes custom built for each foot - distinguishing those shoes as higher quality

Mindset Takeaway:

Understand the history of the shoe, why it is the way it is today, and what that means for the decisions you should make in footwear.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode38

37: 5-Tips to Deal with Criticism Oct 19, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode37

Everyone is going to encounter criticism at one time or another in their lives. In fact, encounter criticism is one of the ways that you know you are a leader, because every leader in history has been criticized and ridiculed to one extent or another during their lifetime, so you are in good company.

But the way you deal with the criticism you are handed is very important. It’s easy to let it get you down, to be pulled down by the weight of the criticism, and to let it demoralize you. That is why this episode outlines the 5 specific tips that will help you effectively deal with criticism, to learn what you should learn from it, and to come out stronger.

So if you want to be a leader in your life and in the world, understand that the criticism is coming, if it is not already here. Listen up, take notes, and read carefully through the steps outlined below to be able to handle it and come out on top!

The 5 Tips:

Criticisms are a reflection of the critic, not of you
Take the criticism, and ask yourself if it is legitimate, and there is something you can take away from it
Congratulate yourself, because you are a leaders, and leaders have never been universally congratulated
Meditate. It can be as simple as focusing on your breathing, but take time to calm yourself
Connect yourself with people that can help you work through everything, allowing you to be open and to share what you are going through

Mindset Takeaway:

When you are criticised, don’t let it affect you emotionally. Rather take a deep breath, calm yourself, know that it means more about the critic than you, and then try to learn what you should from the criticism.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode37

36: How to Stop Giving a Damn About What Other People Think About You Oct 12, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode36

Most people subconsciously define their success and fulfillment by what other people think of them. They think that they need to achieve certain social norms in lifestyle or success in order to achieve validation from other people, and thereby be happy. But the truth is that achieving happiness in life is different for everyone, and it is far more important for you to understand what it means for you and then go after that, than to spend all your time working towards somebody else’s version of a happy and fulfilled life!

But it’s not always easy. We are wired and conditioned to seek approval from others, and to even be paranoid about what others might think of us. In order to be able to really focus on what makes use happy, we need to get beyond all of that, understand that most people hardly care at all for anyone but themselves, and move on with building the best life possible!

And that is what this episode is all about. It is about how to truly stop giving a damn about what other people think about you. Because once you can do that, you can start to define and then build the exact life that will bring you personally the most happiness.

Key Takeaways:

Too much focus on what other people will think can be completely paralyzing
The side of our brain that worries about what others will think tends to be completely paranoid
Understand that you have to keep the side of your brain that is trying to make sense of social interactions in check
Most importantly, remember that most people don’t care about you as much as you probably think
Understanding that people are not thinking about you at all until you are in direct interaction will free you up to behave in a way that is truly and authentically you
When you compare yourself with others, you will always think you are less than them, because they only choose to show the best of themselves. You never see under the hood
So focus on yourself, and work to continually improve on who you were a year ago, a month ago, a week ago, or even yesterday
Define your own happiness, outside of any other expectations or social norms, and be as specific as possible with it

Mindset Takeaway:

Remember that what is more important than anything is your ability to achieve what makes you really happy. So don’t worry about the social norms or what is expected of you, and instead focus exclusively on what will bring you personally the most happiness.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode36

35: 5 Ways to Level Up Your Style Without Shocking Your Friends Oct 05, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode35

A lot of people are held back by worries about how they think that their friends will perceive them if they upgrade their style. People want to upgrade themselves, to look better, and to be perceived as better by the way they dress and present themselves, but they are worried about what other people will say.

But it is important to understand that most people are obsessing over themselves, to the extent that they are unlikely to notice or care about the way that you are upgrading yourself. This frees you in a lot of ways to do whatever you want, without fearing other people’s opinions.

But once you have made the decision to start upgrading, how do you go about it? What are the first steps? Today, I am walking through the exact steps that you need to take to get started on the path to an upgraded look and presentation, without shocking your friends.

Key Takeaways

A lot of people are held back by how they think people will react when they see them
When you understand that most people are fixated on themselves, it takes the pressure off of you
Some people won’t like the fact that you have upgraded your style, but that is a reflection on their problems, not yours
But if you upgrade your style, you can be perceived as more valuable than another employee or job candidate, when you may be close to equals, but your style suggests something about you as a person
Just because something is unfamiliar, doesn’t mean it is bad

5 Ways to Level Up Your Style Without Shocking Your Friends

Step up key clothing pieces, one piece at a time. Look at what you’re wearing right now, and ask yourself what key item you could upgrade that would level up your entire outfit without being a drastic change
Upgrade your accessories. If you don’t wear a watch, maybe start. If you do, look into a way to upgrade it. Same with other accessories
Start wearing a fragrance, used in moderation, instead of just deodorant. Think of it as an “invisible style accessory.”
Upgrade your shoes. Look into dress boots, maybe rugged. Just look into small steps that will upgrade your style without making a huge splash in your overall look
Get everything, including the clothes you already have, tailored to fit you personally

Mindset Takeaway:

Understand that most people are focused on themselves, which frees you up to do whatever you want, and upgrade your style in whatever ways you want, without worrying about other people’s opinions.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode35

34: 10-Pieces of Advice I Would Give My Younger Self Sep 28, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode34

A lot can be said for advice given after the fact. After those involved have had some times to think about what happened, reflect on it in all it’s details, and understand key takeaways. This episode is all about the top 10 pieces of advice I would give my younger self right now.

This is important, because I think that hindsight can help others avoid similar mistakes in similar situations. My goal is to give you the tools to make the best impression possible, and thereby to live the best life possible, and this episode details 10 ways in which you can do that.

So grab a pen and paper if you’re taking notes, and pay careful attention to these 10 pieces of advice. They could save you a lot of time, energy, and effort, but only if you really take them to heart! Enjoy!

10 Pieces of Advice I Would Give My Younger Self

Pursue your dreams, not somebody else’s
Be present and enjoy the moment
Lose the guilt about being successful
Pay yourself first, and systemize self-improvement and self-investment
Find great mentors, and then eventually be a great mentor
Learn to use money effectively. If you don’t know how to use money, it will use you
Surround yourself with amazing relationships and people who love you
Tell yourself that you’re responsible for your own situation, and that you have the power to change it
Read the classics, and in general become a voracious reader and learner
Start now! The best time to plant a year is 10 years ago, and the second best time is right now

Mindset Takeaway:

Don’t wait to become the person that you want to be! Do it now, and become the person you want to be, right now!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode34

33: 5 Big Grooming Mistakes that Men Make Sep 21, 2016

Show notes at: Realmenrealstyle.com/Episode33

Do you know what the biggest organ in your body is? It’s your skin! As the largest organ in your entire body, don’t you think that you should put some time and effort into making sure that it is taken care of? Simple processes put into place now can add up to big results and improvement in your skin down the road.

That’s the main point of this episode: Make sure that you have processes! Without them, you relying on remembering to do things occasionally, and with that much human error involved, a lot of it simply will not get done. This is the power of process - it takes the human error out of actually getting stuff done!

So if you’re wondering what specific processes you should be putting into place to make sure that your skin stays healthy and vibrant as you age, listen to this episode! Remember, your skin affects your entire life, and your entire life affects your skin! It’s a whole ecosystem, to make sure you prioritize taking care of it!

The 5-Mistakes

Not starting early. There’s no better time to take care of your skin than right now, regardless of your age
Not developing routines and systems to make sure skin care happens every day
Not having a shaving routine. See also Shave Map Infographic
Not scheduling haircuts
Not understanding the overall body system, and how your skin is related closely to the food you eat

Mindset Takeaway:

As the biggest organ in your body, you skin is important! Put processes in place to make sure you take care of it every day.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Shave Map Infographic

Show notes at: Realmenrealstyle.com/Episode33

32: 5-Tips to Look More Muscular Sep 14, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode32

A lot of men don’t look quite a muscular and masculine as they would like. Some have a naturally skinny built, and it’s difficult to do much of anything about it. But you actually can change your perceived musculature and masculinity through a few basic tweaks in what you wear.

There are five specific tips, outlined below, that will go a long way. But through them all, one of the most important things to keep in mind is fit. Some people think that if you’re skinny, you should get looser fitting clothes to make you look bigger, but this is actually not the case! Looser fitting clothes accentuate the way the clothing drapes on you, causing you to look thinner and heading the wrong direction!

When a sports jacket or other clothing fits right, it gives the wearer the intended shape and look for the clothing, causing a much more masculine and well-built look in general. Use the below outlined five steps if you’ve always wanted to look bigger, but couldn’t seem to put on the muscle mass! There are ways to achieve a more masculine look, and that’s what I’m going over today!

General Takeaways:

Clothing can change the look and the silhouette of your body, and how muscular and masculine you are perceived
When you change your habits, it feels a bit strange at first, but work through it for the perception you want to give others

The 5-Tips:

Learn to love the long-sleeved shirt. If it’s hot out, roll your sleeves up to the elbow. Look for a strong collar to add a little weight to your neck
Blazers, sportcoats, and suit jackets. Jackets build up the shoulder, making you look stronger, and give you the V-shape
Learn to layer. More layers, done correctly and that fit you correctly, will give you a more built look
Use the horizontal line trick. Horizontal stripes make you look a bit stronger and bigger
Wear size enhancing textiles or fabrics, like flannels, tweeds, corduroys, and denim.

Mindset Takeaway:

Use clothing and the 5-tips above to build up your perceived musculature and give you a stronger and bigger look.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode32

31: How to Look like $1 million for Just $100 Sep 07, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode31

A lot of people think that in order to look good, you need to spend a small fortune on clothing, accessories, and toiletries. They think they’d love to look good, but they have to wait until they’re rich to get started. Gentleman, this is not the case! In this episode, I’m giving you tips on how to make a $100 budget go as far as possible to make you look the best you can!

One of the most important things to remember is to absolutely never compromise on fit. A lot of things are ok to compromise on, but the fit is something that you will really regret if you compromise on. This means you may need to take your clothing to a tailor, or learn how to make alterations yourself! But the time that you spend doing this will be well worth while, when all of your clothing fits appropriately, and makes you feel like $1 million!

So take a close look at the steps below to learn how you can look your best on a budget! Make sure the way you look and your presentation is part of your overall vision for who you want to turn into over time, and then be smart with your budget to look as much like that vision as you can!

5 Steps to Look Your Best for $100:

Never compromise on fit. Fit is of paramount importance. Learn how to make basic alterations
Key body accessories. The one thing you wear that is your key body accessory. Have fun with it, and own it!
Shoes: Set your expectations for your price range. You will get what you pay for.
Grooming: Have a regular haircut. Get the best you can afford, and get it on a regular basis. Pay attention to skin care. Go to the dentist regularly
Secondary accessories: Leather bags, portfolio, shades, hats

General Takeaways:

The vision of who you want to be should include what you look like, and your overall presentation
Take clothing to a tailor if it doesn’t fit right, or just learn to make alterations yourself!
Imitate someone that you want to look like
Look into thrift shops, garage sales, etc, if the budget is really tight
Educate yourself to look your best
Look into new brands of shoes to get better deals
Know what you’re looking for

Mindset Takeaways:

Know that you don’t need a huge budget to look really good. Make the most of the money you have by being smart with it, to make the best impression you can!

Resources:

The 5th (watches)

Leather Portfolios from Col. Littleton

The Ultimate Guide to Men’s Watches (ebook)

Men’s Ultimate Guide to Dress Shoes (ebook)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode31

30: 7-Mistakes Men Make with Jewelry Aug 31, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode30

There are a lot of stigmas surrounding jewelry, and whether or not men can or should wear it. The conversation can get heated on both sides, but today I want to walk you through the 7 mistakes around jewelry that men often make, to help you avoid them.

The history of jewelry and men shows that for many years it was considered a signal of status to wear jewelry. It was a way to show people the status you possessed, and your importance, and there is certainly still some of this idea ingrained in humans. If worn with confidence, jewelry can still be a strong signal of status and importance.

But jewelry must still be approached with caution, and a full awareness of the situation, and the impression that you would like to make on those around you. There are certainly circumstances where wearing jewelry is appropriate, but there are also times when it would be a detriment to the impression that you would like to make. Listen to this episode to understand the difference, and avoid the 7 mistakes men make with jewelry!

7-Mistakes Men Make with Jewelry

They assume that jewelry is feminine
Not wearing it with confidence
Not paying attention to the situation. Understand your environment and whether it’s appropriate or not
Not taking the jewelry in for maintenance or doing it yourself correctly. Fix loose stones, etc
Over accessorizing. Either wearing too much, or not enough. Understand the situation, and what it calls for. Go for a clean balance
Showering or swimming with jewelry
Not choosing the best piece for you. Look at your skin tone, and proportion correctly for your overall body size

Mindset Takeaway:

Understand that jewelry can be manly, and can show status and confidence if worn correctly. But always be careful of your setting and aware of the impression that you want to give, and whether jewelry is helping or hindering.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode30

29: 5-Steps to Buy Your First Watch and Why You Still Need One Aug 24, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode29

Watches can be an intimidating subject. Not only are nice ones often very expensive, but people who really know about watches are passionate and often very knowledgeable on the subject. If you feel overwhelmed, don’t worry, I was right there with you not that long ago. But I took the leap into the world of watches, and am so glad I did.

Watches represent a person’s connection with time in a way that a phone does not. The watch is always on your wrist as a reminder of the limited time you have to live your life, and a reminder to make the most of it. In addition, it’s far easier to check the time in a way that isn’t nearly as rude as pulling out a phone, and simply having a watch on your wrist really separates you from the crowd in today’s smart-phone driven world.

In this episode, I get into the 5-steps to remember when purchasing a watch. This is especially important for the novice or first-time watch buyer, as there is a plethora of options when it comes to watches, and it is easy to feel overwhelmed. So save this show notes page so you can reference it whenever you decide to take the plunge into the exciting world of watches!

Key Takeaways:

Watches are as much jewelry as functionality
Watches aren’t about telling time, but a man’s relationship with time
The best watches are the ones that you actually wear

5 Things to Look at When Buying a Watch:

Frequency of wear
Your personal needs and requirements
Your professional needs
The signal that you desire to send
Resale value

Mindset Takeaway:

Use the above 5-step method to purchase a watch you really love and will wear for a long time, and wear it regularly to stand out from the crowd.

Resources:

The Ultimate Guide to Watches: Free E-Book

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode29

28: 7 Steps to the Perfect Shave Aug 17, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode28

For a lot of people, shaving is simply something that has to be done. It’s a pure utility. But what if you were to experiment with creating a zen-like experience around this routine that men have done through the ages?

On this episode, I am outlining the 7 specific steps that will lead to the perfect shave. There is a lot of depth to what constitutes a truly great shave, and worth putting effort and time into. When you look good and sharp, you feel confident and give off the impression that you want to, and a really great shave will go a long way in getting you to that place.

So study the 7 steps, and put them into action! Experiment on a regular basis with the steps and the options available to you, knowing that everyone is unique, and what works for each person will be different. Take some time to find out what that is for you specifically, so that you can have a truly great shave every time.

Key Takeaways:

Try to transform shaving into an experience, almost a zen-like experience
Develop a routine around shaving
Don’t do any experiments of you have something important coming up that you need to look good for

The 7 Steps:

Prepare the shaving surface, by shaving as soon as you come out of the shower. Go over the shower with a warm towel
Up your shaving cream, know what’s available including soaps, and experiment with a variety. Apply with a shaving brush
Apply the cream, and then wait. Give it some time to enter the stubble. Maybe brush your teeth at this time, then, apply more shaving cream
Experiment with different types razors, including safety razors. Cartridges aren’t the only option, and will often cause ingrown hair. Really know what you’re doing before trying to use a straight razor. Look at one blade
Shave with the grain, only one pass, with small short strokes, light pressure, rinsing off every time.
Shave twice to get an amazing shave. The second time is when you can go against the grain if you have to.
Post shave care. Make sure you use an aftershave to replenish the skin

Video: 7 Steps to the Best Shave of Your Life

Mantic59 on Youtube

Mindset Takeaway:

Shaving can and should be more than a utility. Create a routine that you can look forward to and enjoy around the process, constantly experimenting to find out what you like the best.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode28

27: Making The Perfect Leather Bag? Col. Littleton Interview Aug 10, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode27

Today I have a very special episode for you. You’re about to listen to a conversation with Colonel Littleton of ColonelLittleton.com. This is an incredible brand for rugged accessories full of character. As we discuss, Colonel Littleton takes a lot of his inspiration from the military, past and present, and this results in pieces that have strong functionality and durability, but also a lot of character.

As Colonel Littleton says, clothing and especially accessories that will be with you for a long time become an essential part of the story of your life. Not only do they become props in the story of your life, but in some ways they even tell the story. Maybe it’s a small ding from a memorable trip, chew-marks from a favorite pet, or other remnants left behind on the item, when you buy something with quality and durability, the pieces can stand up to use, and live to tell the story.

This is what makes Colonel Littleton accessories so special: The stories they bear, as they go through life with you. We talk about this, as well as how Colonel Littleton runs his business with the golden rule in mind, and how he handles customers who are being ridiculous (hint: it’s not what you think). So listen all the way to the end and please enjoy this very special conversation with Colonel Littleton.

Key Takeaways:

Articles of clothing and especially accessories with character are fantastic conversation starters
The military is often a fantastic source of inspiration for rugged fashion, designed to get the job done!
In quality design and quality material, it just gets better with use and age
Accessories with character, that stay with you for a long time, fit into your story, and hold a special place in the story of your life
When businesses simply treat people they way that they would like to be treated, they will have success
In business, focus on the simplicity of creating something you would like and treating others the way you would like to be treated
When designing products, you often don’t know what will end up being a hit. You just have to do your best, and take advantage of the ones that do well, and learn from them

Mindset Takeaway:

Make sure that you purchase quality items that can be with you a long time, because they will help you tell the story of your life, and will serve is props in that story.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode27

26: 5-Steps to the Best Presentation of Yourself Aug 03, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode26

When it comes to making a great impression on a regular basis, it’s important to have a formula. Anything that can be distilled into a simple, short, step-by-step formula can be followed over time, providing you with results.

That’s what I'm giving you in this episode: The 5 steps to the best presentation of yourself possible. This simplification will go a long ways in making it easier for you to know the correct next step to reach your goals in personal presentation. Follow these steps, and you’re well on your way to making a great impression everywhere you go!

Just 5 steps! Anyone can implement 5 steps! So get out a pen and paper, take some notes, put it on your fridge, or as the background on your phone, or anywhere that will remind you, and put these into practice every day if you want to see real results!

Key Takeaways:

A lot of times your personal presentation is what’s going to make the difference when you’re being compared with others with similar skills
Give compliments. When you start to give compliments, people compliment you back, and it feeds your process of improving your presentation
Find and refine your signature style over time

The First 5 Steps to Presenting the Best You

Know your emotional ‘why?’ Why do you want to dress better? Use that to motivate you
Seek and find inspiration. Find somebody, whether celebrity or other, who inspires you. Steal from those who inspire you
Purge your wardrobe. Take out any clothing you’re unlikely to want to wear
Develop outfits that are your go-to looks. There’s nothing wrong with men having uniforms
Start to find the key pieces of your wardrobe that you want to invest in, even getting multiples of items

Mindset Takeaway:

Memorize the 5 steps in this episode! Put them somewhere you’ll remember them. Implement them daily for results.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode26

25: Silent Communication: Understanding Body Language Jun 13, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode25

Words do not express everything. In fact, often far more is communicated during a conversation through body language than through speech. But men tend to be poor readers of body language, and that’s what this episode is all about: To teach you how to understand what is being silently communicated to you.

One practical step is to start to understanding that everyone has a baseline of posture and body-movement. Observe this in the people you hang around with, to start to understand what is normal for them. Then, when something is a bit off, or different, you will be able to spot it quickly, and work to understand what is really going on.

Understanding body language is extremely important to your ability to communicate with anyone better. So much is communicated through body language, and if you’re bad at reading it, you will simply end up missing out on a lot of what is communicated! So learn how to read body language effectively and quickly on this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!

Key Takeaways:

People don’t express everything through words. A lot is expressed through body language
Men tend, in general, to be worse at reading body language effectively
Try to understand not only what is being said, but what is not being said yet still communicate, so that you can ask the right questions
Practice looking for and understanding body language
Start by looking at posture and stance. In control? Aggressive? Laid-back?
Maintain eye contact to show strength and dominance. Don’t look down
Changing your stance and posture not only affects others, but also the way you feel and act
Do NOT look at your phone during conversation
Try to understand a baseline of what is common body language for someone, so that you can understand when something unusual is going on

Mindset Takeaway:

Pay careful attention to body language. Understand what someone’s baseline is, and when they are deviating from it in a way where you can understand that something could be silently being communicated.

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode25

24: Dressing for a Night on the Town Jun 06, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode24

Not everyone knows that the dress-code for a night on the town, whether clubs or other places, is actually quite different than that for business activities. The set of requirements for clothing, and the functions that it serves, are quite different, and those differences are what this episode is all about, to ensure that you are well prepared to make a good impression in your off hours on the town.

One of the key points to take away from this episode is to have a full understanding of where you’re going, the type of venue, the people you’re going with, and the impression that you want to make on them. Knowing this, you can select an outfit that fits the needs, whether your shoes need extra traction for the dance floor, you need to be able to peel off layers of your outfit for the heat of the club, or any other set of circumstances you will often encounter in different types of settings.

In addition, understanding the impression you want to make is also important. While this is officially relaxing time, you should understand that you’re always making an impression on your peers and others, and your time off is no exception. Consider setting up bottle service beforehand to make a really stunning impression on your friends and those with you, if you are willing to invest in the experience.

Knowing how to dress and handle yourself for a night on the town is essential to making a good impression, and that’s what you’ll learn on this episode. So grab a pencil and paper (or pull up your notes app on your phone…) and get ready to learn on this episode of The Personal Image System!

Key Takeaways:

The dress codes for clubs and nights out is quite different from the dress code for business
Know where you’re going, and what the code is
If you can get on the VIP list, you can actually break a lot of the dress code rules without a problem. Otherwise, you need to follow the dress code rules
Clubs want to create a certain ambience, so they are going to enforce the dress code
Know what type of club you’re going to (hip hop, gay, disco-tech, novelty, etc), and what is expected
Dress for the heat of a club. Regardless of outside temperature, clubs will probably be quite warm. Consider being able to take off layers inside
Dark colors work better at night, and draws you into the natural environment and makes you look better
Where shoes with a bit of traction, especially if a dance floor is involved
Look the part you want to play. This bit of advice goes for life, and especially when going out
If you’re willing to pay for bottle service, set it up beforehand with the club to make a good impressio

Mindset Takeaway:

Separate the way you dress for business from the way you dress for a good time. Plan, prepare, dress correctly, and then enjoy yourself while making a great impression on those around you!

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode24

23: Grooming for the Real Man Apr 29, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode23

Are you aware of the impression that your grooming has on your overall presentation? Is it part of your daily routine? And most importantly, how do you put systems in place in your life to make it easier for you to quickly and easily look your best, and make the best impression possible?

This episode touches on a lot of things that have to do with grooming, and there are many lifestyle factors that need to be considered. For instance, have you made cleanliness a habit? You really should. Have you ever noticed how constantly animals are grooming themselves? Sometimes, it seems like they put even more value on cleanliness than humans do! There are so many reasons to make sure you are consistently clean, and like much of what I speak about, it’s a habit you need to put in place.

How are you choosing your scents? Do you let others influence your decision? If you do, you probably find down the road that you aren’t wearing the fragrance very much. This is because you never loved it to begin with! You need to prioritize your own preferences when it comes to scent, so that you really want to continually wear it, and it can have the desired effect on others!

That just scratches the surface of what we’re digging into on this episode. If you want to know how to take your grooming to the next level to make the best impression possible, then take notes and listen up to this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!

Key Takeaways:

In the world today, taking care of yourself has somehow become perceived as feminine
Biologically, the your end-goal is to reproduce
Your skin is your biggest organ, and you need to put effort into taking care of and maintaining it
Understand that scent, if you understand it, can be used to your advantage, and give you a big leg up on those who don’t
On the other hand, being poorly groomed, having bad skin, etc, will make it much more difficult to you to succeed
Stay clean. Cleanliness will make a good impression on others. Animals do it naturally, but some men seem to have a hard time with this simple task...
Avoid cleaners that have a lot of scent, and are at the lowest price point. You may do more harm than good for your skin using cheap soap in the long run
Use soaps for the purpose for which it was built. Don’t use hand soap on the rest of your body
Experiment with different soaps to find the one that works for you
Only use face moisturizers/lotions for the face, not products made for the hands
Be consistent in what you use, to make sure you iron out anything like allergic reactions before it really counts (an interview, etc)
Anything you wear, especially scent, should be discovered, not announced
Choose a scent that you personally like, so that you will wear it for yourself not others, so you will actually use it
For grooming, make sure that you have a weekly routine for: fingernails, toenails, trim hair (not head, but chest, etc), teeth

7 Essential Nail Grooming Tools for Men

11 Mistakes to Avoid When Brushing Teeth

One Tip to Double Your Chances with Women (scent)

Can Fragrance Increase Alertness and Productivity at Work?

Fragrance and Sex Appeal

Building Trust Instantly Using Fragrance

Mindset Takeaway:

Take care of yourself. You’re using the only body you have, so it should be extremely valuable to you!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode23

22: A Man and His Hair Apr 27, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode22

Many men often don’t put very much thought into their hair style. Their style is simply what they’ve always worn, perhaps how their parents did it for them, or how they’ve always done it. This a massive mistake, as their is a huge range of different stylistic and fashion statements that can be made with your hair, and your hair can have a real influence on the way you are perceived by others. To simply wear your hair a certain way because you always have is a waste of what could be a powerful influencing factor on your presentation.

Instead, take time to experiment with your hair! Find a good stylists who can try out some new looks, and allow yourself the freedom to do things you never have before! While experimenting and searching for new hair styles, use pictures of hairstyles that you like and would like to emulate to guide you on the path to the right one for you.

This episode is all about how you can use your hairstyle to positively impact the effect your personal presentation has on others. Don’t allow yourself to simply fall into your hairstyle, but rather make a conscious choice about your style, and use it to your advantage! Learn how you can do this and more on this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!

Key Takeaways:

Hair is something that a lot of men don’t put a lot of thought into, but just keep with what they’ve always had
Instead of that, you should be purposeful about what you decide to do with your hair
Take time to experiment, find stylists who know what they’re doing, and try different things!
Look at pictures of men that are wearing their hair the way you want to, and model them. Having an end-goal helps a lot
If your hair is thinning, you probably want to at least consider shaving your head. Thinning hair is one of the weakest signals you can send
If you’re trying something radically different, spend time around people you don’t know as well, and you’ll probably find that they don’t think it’s extreme
Experiment with a lot of different products to find what you want. Focus on hold and shine
Hold is more important for longer hair, where they want it to do something specific
Shine tends to give your hair more of a formal look, no-shine is more natural

Mindset Takeaway:

Don’t just do what you’ve always done with your hair. Take time to experiment and try new hairstyles, and while you experiment, have an end goal in mind.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode22

21: Habits of Stylish Men Apr 25, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode21

Habit is one of the most powerful tools that humans have at their disposal. When it comes to effecting real change, and accomplishing large goals, there is nothing as powerful or effective as steady progress toward those goals, and that is what a habit can accomplish. Habits have the almost magical power of breaking up very long-term processes into steps, and giving you consistency in reaching them. This is the secret of really stylish men: They have made good fashion a habit.

Small activities that are accomplished every day without fail give you not only consistent progress toward accomplishing your goals but, in essence, they fool-proof your style to help you dress well every single day even if other things go wrong. For example, if you make the habit, every single day, of laying out your outfit for the following day the night before, then when you accidentally sleep in, your outfit will not suffer, because it’s actually easier to put on the clothes you careful choose and laid out the night before.

This is just one of many examples of the ways in which habits are a powerful tool to help you dress better and come across as more accomplished and confident. Listen to this episode to get the rest of the habits you should be making a part of your everyday, such as shoe care and clothing repair. Learn how to leverage habits to be your best self through good style on this episode of The Personal Image System!

Key Takeaways:

There’s no one big change that will make you better able to leverage the power of style. It’s small changes, consistently over time. It’s habits
When you employ habits to help you be more stylish, you are using one of the most powerful tools humans have
Small changes, things that you do daily, are what is going to help you really become a better dressed and more stylish man
One of the key habits is taking care of your shoes. Clean, condition, and polish your shoes. Get a simple shoe shine box. Just having the box, and everything you need to clean and shine your shoes in one place, will make you far more likely to do it
Clean your shoes daily, and condition them weekly.
Polishing will help prevent salt and other things get on and in your shoes. It protects the material
When you have good footwear, and you take care of it, it only looks better with time
Make a habit of taking care of your clothing. For instance, if you see a button about to fall off, don’t put it off until later. Fix it right then
Brush your suit after you wear it
Lay out your clothing the night before
Consider using a subscription service
Schedule your barber visits beforehand

Subscription Services:

Sprezzabox

Birchbox for Men

Black Socks

Mindset Takeaway:

Build habits into your day that will help you dress and look better regularly, day after day, so that dressing well doesn’t require special effort.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode21

20: How to Not be a Sucker: Rules for Buying Clothing and Accessories Apr 22, 2016

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode20

How are your shopping skills? If you’re like most guys, you’ve probably never even considered the notion that shopping was a skill worth improving. Chances are, when you really, desperately need something (often the day or even just hours before), you find yourself at the store, frantically searching for the right outfit for that special occasion. Retailers understand that at this moment, you are easy prey, and will absolutely take advantage of you.

Don’t fall for the trap! You’re better than that! When you buy things out of necessity, in the moment, you almost never walk away with a good deal, and more often than not, you end up paying far more than you should. Instead, be prepared for the events that you know that life is going to throw at you. Save money and buy higher quality than you would otherwise be able to, by keeping your eyes open, knowing what quality looks/feels like, and jumping on good deals when you find them.

That is what this episode of The Personal Image System is all about - give you the tools that you need to become an expert shopper, especially for clothing and style related products. Spending your money wisely, on good quality clothing, is an art, and one that not nearly enough men have taken the time to perfect. But you can! Listen up, pay careful attention and maybe even take notes on this episode of The Personal Image System!

Key Takeaways:

A lot of guys get taken advantage of by retailers, because they’re clueless when it comes to shopping
Buy what you need before you need it. Be prepared! Otherwise, you will end up paying far too much, the day before you really need something
Don’t buy something just for one occasion.
Don’t fall for deals if the clothing isn’t exactly what you want, fits you perfectly, and is the right look. The most expensive clothing is the clothing that you never wear
Understand what good quality looks/feels like. Experience good quality, so that you know it when you see it, and you know if you’re getting a good deal or not
Go to luxury clothing stores, not to necessarily buy, but to become familiar with quality
Only buy items that you are going to use

Mindset Takeaway:

Prepare for the events in your life that you know are coming, when you will need to dress well, and purchase the necessary items well before-hand, when you can take the time to seek out good value.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Show Notes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode20

19: Shoes, Shoes, Shoes! The first thing women notice Apr 20, 2016

Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode19

Did you know that shoes are the foundation your wardrobe? When asked, women will often cite the shoes as one of the first aspects of a man that they will notice. Good, high quality shoes are absolutely essential to bringing together an outfit, and poor quality, cheap shoes will definitely ruin your look. So be prepared to invest in them! This is where many men can be tripped up. You should expect to invest between $300-$400 in a good pair of dress shoes, making them one of the most expensive single items in your wardrobe.

Why are quality shoes important enough to warrant that kind of investment? Throughout history, shoes have been a sign of power. In fact, medieval times and even later, shoes were considered a luxury, and not something that everyone could afford.Therefore, wearing shoes was a way to show your standing in society, and the make and quality would contribute to that standing.

It seems that we are still influenced by the history of the shoe, as study after study shows that shoes make an extremely pronounced difference on how someone is perceived. With this understanding, and the historical knowledge of why society is this way, and why it is so important, hopefully you will take the time to really learn about what you should be looking for in a good pair of shoes, what variety of types are essential for your wardrobe, and how to find the best deal that will fit your unique needs. Learn all that and more on this episode of The Personal Image System Podcast!

Key Takeaways:

Shoes are one of the items that you can and should spend a fair of money on
Having shoes at all used to be sign of wealth. They were a luxury
When asked, women they will often say that shoes are one of the first things that they will notice about a man
Shoes have a long history of giving us an idea of someone’s position in society
Expect to pay $300 - $400 for quality shoes
Look for stitching. Lower quality will have glue, higher will be stitched together
Look for a shoe company that has a good after-sale process and assurance policy
All of the signs of good dress shoes also applies to boots
Get on good vendor’s email lists and watch for discount codes!
When you start to wear quality footwear, you will start to understand why they are expensive, and why they are worth it
Understand your own feet, if there are certain problem spots, and make sure you speak with a knowledgeable salesman
Learn how to clean, condition, and polish your shoes, and do it on a regular basis!
Shoes are the foundation of your wardrobe, so invest in it!

More information on dress shoes Mindset Takeaway:

Understand that shoes, as the foundation of your wardrobe, are worth investing in! Don’t try to be cheap on this most essential aspect of your wardrobe!

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

Shownotes: RealMenRealStyle.com/Episode19

18: How Knowing the Rules of Etiquette Can Determine Success Apr 18, 2016

While manners are cross-cultural, and apply to all people groups and mindsets, etiquette refers to specific rules, set by societies and groups, for standard behavior under certain circumstances. Etiquette is extremely important in making a good impression, and the fact that you took the time to research and become good at etiquette actually shows another level of investment and may mean even more to those you want to make a good impression on.

So research is essential if you want to be good at etiquette. If you’re going to a party or gathering, know what is expected of you, and the environment that you’re going into, and make sure you meet those expectations. Do your homework! You may be surprised at how good the impression that you make can be if you just do some simple research.

That’s what this entire podcast is all about. Giving you the tools, helping you with your research, so that you can come across as a more accomplished, thoughtful, likeable person. If you want to be successful in your efforts in like life, regardless of what those efforts are, making a good impression on those around you will be one of the most important aspects of what you do, and that’s what this episode is all about. So learn how to make the best impression possible on this episode of The Personal Image System.

Key Takeaways:

Etiquette: The sum of your behaviors and how they measure up to other people’s expectations
These are the rigid rules in a society, and it’s going to be very different in different cultures
Because of this, research on etiquette is essential, and very worthwhile if you want to create a good impression
Always be aware of the situation and the expectations of other people
Be thoughtful of what the guest has requested, and what would make them the most happy and at rest
Confidence is not about aggression over assertiveness, it’s about you doing your homework, knowing what is expected of you, and making a good impression
Always look for ways that you can add value, and make other’s lives easier. Think of others
Always attempt to be a positive presence, and that your presence is changing the dynamic of the room of the better
Make a habit of thoughtful gestures. Look for things that need to be done, things that would make other people’s lives easier, and then go ahead and do it
Always greet people with a smile, with a handshake, look in their eyes, and say their names
Make a habit of remembering names and using them frequently
In work situations, above all else, do no harm. Don’t embarrass or belittle anyone ever
In a business environment, don’t go beyond a handshake in touching

Casual does not mean sloppy

Make an effort to become a good listener. Being a good listener will make people really like you

Mindset Takeaway:

Do your research before entering a situation. Know what is expected of you, and meet those expectations to make a good impression.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

17: How Manners Can Help You Succeed Apr 15, 2016

Manners are one of the most underrated aspects of what can make someone successful. People make snap judgements about you based on how you greet them, where you look, what you say, how you stand, and a myriad of other things. Most of these things that people notice right away can be improved through your learning good manners.

Details about how and if you greet people walking by them on the street, where you sit at a table, when you start eating, if you can lean on your elbows, if you should raise your voice, if you should tuck your dress shirt in, if you should get the door for women, and so much more. On this episode, we’re digging into the nitty gritty and giving you lots of information on how to skyrocket your manners, and through them, your impact.

What is most important is that you take the advice in this episode to heart, and practice consistently at home. Some will tend to save their good manners and behavior for those times when they really need them, when they’re meeting with an important person. But if you take that tactic, your manners will come off as stiff and unnatural. If you make good manners a habit at home, you will seem like a natural, creating a good impression everywhere you go. So make a habit of implementing the advice in this episode everyday, with everyone you interact with, both at home and abroad.

Key Takeaways:

Manners are one of the most underrated aspects of being successful
People make very quick decisions about you based on your manners
Manners are all about making other people’s lives easier and more enjoyable
Manners travel quite well across cultures
Etiquette is much more specific to the culture, and require a bit more research
If you want to have good manners, it all starts at home with forming habits
When you go somewhere, assume there will be a set place for you to sit, and ask. If there isn’t, just sit with who you came with
As far as when to eat, follow other’s lead. Don’t jump in, but act after others
If everyone is being served, a general rule is that if 3 out of 4 people have been served, it’s appropriate to start eating
Elbows may be rested on the table, but not with any weight on them
Don’t wear the same clothing all the time. If you’re going to be around people, make sure you switch it up, and make sure you always wash and clean your clothes
Treat common areas as if they were your own home
Don’t raise your voice. If you raise your voice, you’re probably wrong
Don’t swear. Even if you think it’s adding emphasis, it’s often not perceived that way
In business dining, understand that you’re still at the workspace. Don’t overdrink. Don’t get too personal with conversation.

Mindset Takeaway:

Make it a habit, no matter who you are with, to behave with good manners. This will lead to you unconsciously having good manners in every area of your life.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

16: Facial Hair & Bald Heads - The Science Of Style Apr 13, 2016

Beards have made a tremendous resurgence of late. Out of style for most of the 90’s and 2000’s, they’re comeback is apparent everywhere you look. But the question of whether they’re the right decision for you personally still depends on several factors, and that’s what this episode of The Personal Image System is all about.

This episode goes through the studies that have been done regarding facial hair, and its effect on the those who interact with the person who touts it. Men with beards tend to come off as more aggressive, older, and more commanding than those without. Contrarily, those with completely shaven faces will be considered younger, and kinder. The question is what message you want to send. If you are reaching an older age, and are attempting to display a younger version of yourself, perhaps completely shaven look is the right one for you. Conversely, if your goal is to look a bit older than you are, perhaps more mature, a well-groomed beard might be a smart decision.

We dig into all of this and more, including questions about whether it may be a good idea to shave your head at some point, when hair starts to thin,and what effect that will have on people who interact with you. If you want to learn about the right circumstances and reasons to grow or shave both facial hair and hair on the top of your head, then this episode is for you! Get ready to learn and grow on this episode of The Personal Image System.

Key Takeaways:

A study showed that professional baseball players with beards outperformed those without in the previous decade of all-star games
Beard care and maintenance is essential, if you decide that facial hair is the right thing for you
Beards send a strong message of masculinity
Research shows that aggressive men with beards come off as more scary than those without
Beards will make you look older and more mature
Not all beards are created equal. Not all men can grow a good beard
Contrarily, if you want to come off as more youthful, consider shaving your beard
Completely shaven faces are sometimes considered more attractive and social
A shaved head will often come across as more dominant, confident, masculine, older, taller and stronger. unshaved: more attractive

Mindset Takeaway:

Understand the effect that facial hair, or a bald head, will have on your presentation. As always, know your audience and the role you want to play, and make decisions accordingly.

Resources:

The Personal Image System (Master-Level Course on men’s style)

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