Show notes
Inside, they explore:
→ The profound realization that stopped her body from conceiving: "I'm terrified to be a mother like my mother had been"
→ How following intuitive nudges (even when they don't make logical sense) changed the entire trajectory of her life
→ Why premarital coaching at 23 was the catalyst for decades of transformative personal growth
→ The sacred travel experience in Ireland that unlocked this truth: "You are a woman whether you have a child or not"
→ How our bodies hold stress and old stories—and what it takes to release them
→ The biggest code to dismantle: "To be a good mom means you put your children first, then your spouse, then work—and you're last"
→ Why there's no "one right way" to mother (and how liberating that truth can be)
→ What self-mothering actually looks like (hint: it doesn't always require money or time—it requires permission)
→ How generational wiring convinces us we don't deserve rest, help, or prioritizing ourselves
→ The travel soccer story: what one mom's "no" taught about triggers, choices, and rewriting family values
→ Why mothering is a process we can all cultivate—whether we're raising children, building businesses, or nurturing creative work
→ How the nervous system shapes the way we show up in relationships (and why regulating it matters)
→ The power of choosing yourself—even when it feels selfish, even when it's uncomfortable
Dr. Lyons also opens up about her own regret for "leaving herself out" during her daughters' teenage years, the doctoral work that led to her book, and why she now leads immersive retreats in Mexico and Ireland to help women flex their self-mothering muscles.
This conversation will make you pause, reflect, and breathe a little deeper. It's for anyone who's ever felt torn between caring for others and caring for themselves—and ready to rewrite the code.
Resources & Links:
Connect with Dr. Gertrude Lyons:
→ Website: www.drgertrudelyons.com
→ Instagram: @rewritethemothercode
→ Instagram: @drgertrudelyons
→ Linktree: https://linktr.ee/rewritethemothercode
→ Book: Decoding the Mother Code (available wherever books are sold, including audiobook)
→ TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ9ZF8JKIDY
→ Substack: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://gertrudelyons.substack.com/)
→ Podcast: Rewrite the Mother Code (https://www.drgertrudelyons.com/podcast)
→ Oprah Daily Article by Kristen McGinnis: https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/wholeness/a68888423/self-mothering-reparenting/
→ Complimentary 30-Minute Coaching Discovery Call (for listeners): https://calendly.com/drgertrudelyons/complimentary-free-coaching-session
Mentioned in This Episode:
→ Nicole Sachs's work on nervous system regulation and pain
→ Dr. Lyons's immersive experiences and retreats in Mexico and Ireland
Connect with Albiona:
→ Book a Free Discovery Call (1:1 Coaching) - https://www.theparentingreframe.com/coaching
→ Follow Albiona on Instagram - @theparentingreframe
→ Join Albiona's Paid Substack Community - https://theparentingreframe.substack.com
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We're all unlearning the codes we inherited and discovering what it means to truly care for ourselves—so we can show up whole for everything and everyone we love.
Until next time,
Albiona 🤎
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