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#239: Healing Through Infidelity with Rainier Wylde & Kristi Born Oct 17, 2022

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Themes: Relationships, Transformation, Acceptance, Infidelity, Authenticity, Codependency Summary: In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with power couple Rainier Wylde and Kristi Born as they share the intimate details of how their relationship has evolved through infidelity. We discuss relational pain as a potent catalyst for transformation, the beauty in being honest with ourselves and our partner, and viewing ruptures as an invitation to truth. About Rainier & Kristi: Rainier Wylde is an author, teacher, and speaker. He has embraced life for all it is, celebrating its highs and learning from its lows. Rainier has managed a Fortune 500 company and built businesses; he has also elegantly blown them up, burned them down, and started over from scratch. Studying with Zen masters and Sufi mystics, Rainier founded and participated in neo-monastic communities for many years, becoming a spiritual director to both individuals and groups. Through the various positions he has held, Rainier discovered that life must be claimed to hold any worth. His work is to inspire others to live, fully and deeply, in the here and now. Kristi Born is a marriage and family therapist, relationship coach and teacher. She has worked with diverse populations and a wide variety of age groups. As a graduate school professor and popular educator, Kristi thrills in bringing people together to discuss topics that unleash their power and minimize their shame. Kristi specializes in the art of couple’s therapy and relationship healing. Through this work, she helps couples create their own designer relationships; conscious and wholehearted partnerships. She finds joy in partnering with Rainier Wylde to use their personal relational journey to help any and every person accept and step into their own power, telling a beautiful story of their own. Together they host the podcast Love Like Hell, exploring the modern landscape of intimacy and union. Discover: Love and relational pain as a potent catalyst for transformation Why we sometimes hide our past from our current partners Why we often jump into relationships too fast The beauty of being honest with ourselves and our partner and where to begin when you have a history of tiptoeing around the truth Viewing ruptures in relationship as an invitation to truth and an opportunity really see and understand each other The importance of holding onto yourself and your identity while in relationship The impact of relationship transformation on kids and what they can learn from seeing a marriage with a foundation of truth 00:00 Intro 03:28 Entering into relationships unconsciously 05:00 When dysfunction is normalized 08:16 Love as a catalyst for transformation 14:23 Fear of knowing your partner’s past 20:45 Why we often jump from relationship to relationship 23:36 Liberation through truth 28:38 Talking about things as they arise vs. burying them 30:10 Ruptures are an opportunity 40:04 How did the community react to the truth? 46:31 Wanting the best for your partner 49:57 Relationships are not risk-free 58:50 Impact of relationship transformation on kids Links: Instagram | @rainierwylde & @kristimarieborn Podcast | Love Like Hell Book | As You Are: Meditations on Self and Other Check out my first episode with Rainier | The Complexities of Being Alive with Rainier Wylde Sponsors: Open | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 30 days free at withopen.com/createthelove Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#238: Cultivating Mindfulness with Manoj Dias Oct 10, 2022

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Themes: Anger, Emotions, Mindfulness, Meditation, Breathwork, Self-Awareness Summary: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” I’ve loved this quote from Viktor E. Frankl for a long time, and it speaks directly to the topic of today’s episode: mindfulness. Tune in as I explore with returning guest Manoj Dias what is possible when we commit to a practice of loving self-awareness. Born and raised in the Theravada Buddhist tradition, Manoj Dias is an animated speaker, humble teacher and always a friend. Once tethered to a life of self-management, instead of self-awareness, he now intimately understands what it means to be healed from the inside out. Through mindfulness and meditation, Manoj has helped thousands of people around the world trade mania for pause, so that they may live fearlessly in honor of a happier and more meaningful life. Discover: Mindfulness and how developing a practice can quite literally change your life and relationships The beauty of anger (and what’s often beneath this emotion) Meditation as a tool for self-awareness and why we may resist it Somatic mindfulness and how it can help you become more present and grounded Breathwork as a powerful tool to cultivate more presence, connection and peace 00:00 Intro 01:38 Reconciling our feelings through wisdom 04:49 Choosing how we react 08:56 Why we continue to operate in unhelpful patterns 11:01 The beauty of anger & what’s often beneath it 20:06 Observing your mind 24:21 Somatic mindfulness 33:41 Developing a mindfulness practice 36:59 Breathwork Links: Try Open free for 30 days at withopen.com/createthelove and use code CREATETHELOVE at checkout! Instagram | @manojdias_ & @op_e___n Website | manojdias.com.au Book | Still Together: Connection through meditation Sponsors: Open | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 30 days free at withopen.com/createthelove Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#237: Return to Nature & Take Your Power Back with Darin Olien Oct 06, 2022

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Themes: Food Systems, Nutrition, Health, Superfoods, Sovereignty, Environmental Health Summary: Join me for an epic chat with Darin Olien: co-host of the Emmy® award-winning docuseries, Down to Earth with Zac Efron, NYT best-selling author, chart-topping podcast host and passionate advocate for human and environmental health. For over 20 years, Darin has traveled the globe in search of ways to holistically heal our society through food, exercise, and mental health and I’m pumped to have had the opportunity to pick his brain in this episode. Discover: How Down to Earth with Zac Efron serendipitously came to be The dire reality and consequences of ultra-processed foods and chemical agriculture Why we need to return to ancient and indigenous agricultural practices for the health of ourselves and the planet A strong argument for growing your own food Darin’s tips for healthy living in a modern world 00:00 Intro 01:38 Down To Earth with Zac Efron 07:07 Hunting superfoods 13:27 Lack of integrity in the food industry 19:54 We’ve divorced nature 30:40 Lab-made foods 37:16 Food switches to make now 43:28 What’s really in your tap water 49:51 Why you should know about Barukas nuts Links: Website | darinolien.com & barukas.com Instagram | @darinolien Podcast | The Darin Olien Show Book | Superlife: The 5 Simple Fixes That Will Make You Healthy, Fit and Eternally Awesome Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#236: You Don't Have to Suffer Alone with Aaron Albert Oct 03, 2022

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Themes: Mental Health, Social Media, Self-Help, Breakups Summary: Meet Aaron Albert: my buddy, co-founder and the CEO of Mine'd — a digital platform we co-created to connect you with top emotional wellness experts and community through daily live and on-demand classes. Tune in as we explore the landscape of social media as it pertains to mental health for both consumers and creators, plus our idea to create a different way of orienting towards mental, relational and emotional health challenges. A former child actor on the Disney Channel and Nickelodeon, Aaron has spent the adult part of his career in the health and wellness space, working with companies to build products and experiences that make people's lives better. As the co-creator of the largest chain of boutique spin studios in Southeast Asia, Absolute Cycle, Aaron was able to merge together two of his personal passions: fitness and motivation. Over the past four years specifically, Aaron really honed in on creating communities and products at multiple consumer, wellness, and tech companies, including Journey Live, Shine Text, Wave Meditation, Sweat with Studio, and Julianne Hough’s KINRGY. Discover: Why we felt it necessary to create a new way for people to engage in mental health content outside of the social media platforms that already exist Why it’s hard for us to get motivated to take care of our mental health How we can be narcissistic in our pain when the truth is: you’re not alone! 00:00 Intro 01:00 Impact of the pandemic on mental health 02:33 Why don’t we treat mental health like physical health? 06:10 Mental health content on social media 14:06 People want accessibility 21:32 Heartbreak & the birth of Mine’d 27:48 Creating authentic content 34:26 You are not alone 41:05 Narcissism in our pain 43:23 What is Mine’d? Links: Check out Mine'd here! If you’re an expert and interested in joining Mine’d, go here to apply! Instagram | @doyoumined & @asalbert LinkedIn | Aaron Albert Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#235: Eat Smarter with Shawn Stevenson Sep 27, 2022

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Themes: Health, Nutrition, Diet, Transformation, Mindset Summary: This week I’m joined Shawn Stevenson, author of the USA Today National bestseller Eat Smarter and the international bestselling book Sleep Smarter. In this episode Shawn shares how he was able to heal himself from chronic illness and turn a dire diagnosis around through simple mindset and nutrition changes. Shawn is also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the number #1 health podcast in the U.S. with millions of listener downloads each year. A graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. Shawn has been featured in Forbes, Fast Company, The New York Times, Muscle & Fitness, ABC News, ESPN, and many other major media outlets. Discover: How changing his internal narrative from “why me?” to “what can I do?” shifted his mindset and ultimately, his health outcomes What’s happening in the body when you get a craving Food as information Why as a society we are more sick than ever, even though technology is advancing 00:00 Intro 01:17 Writing Eat Smarter 07:00 The link between diet and chronic disease 19:27 From "why me?" to "what can I do?" 23:31 Pain is a great teacher 25:00 Having someone who believes in you 31:43 What is epigenetics? 37:14 Post-ingestive feedback & cravings 40:41 Processed and artificial foods 47:15 Connection between food and relationships 53:47 Food is information 55:47 Eating sacred 1:00:24 Effect of innovation to our health Links: Podcast | The Model Health Show Instagram | @shawnmodel Book | Eat Smarter How to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind with Bruce Lipton, Ph.D Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#234: Stepping Into Entrepreneurship with Dan Harrison Sep 22, 2022

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Themes: Entrepreneurship, Career, Transformation, Purpose Summary: If you’re a therapist, practitioner, naturopath or healer looking to build your biz online and cultivate more meaning, abundance and freedom in your life, then this episode is for you! Tune in for an insightful conversation with Dan Harrison; former certified financial planner turned course creator and online business mentor who specializes in authentic selling, relationship-based marketing and transformational leadership. Discover: The beauty of entrepreneurship and starting before you’re ready The best place you can focus your time and energy as an entrepreneur Selling the transformation vs. your time Some of the most common challenges when stepping into entrepreneurship 00:00 Intro 02:14 Soulful Sales 07:25 From sales rep to empowering people 10:37 The beauty of entrepreneurship 21:10 Being of service 25:00 Sell the transformation 32:26 Free vs. paid information 36:52 Biggest challenges in entrepreneurship 43:46 Fall in love with the process Links: Book a free 15 minute insight coaching call with Dan here and be sure to mention that I sent you! Instagram | @thedanharrison Facebook | Private Practice Rebels Website | Soulful Sales Co. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#233: Overcoming Perfectionism with Vitale Buford Hardin Sep 19, 2022

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Themes: Perfectionism, Excellence, Career, Authenticity, Self-Compassion, Self-Worth Summary: This week I’m pumped to be joined by my good friend, Vitale Buford Hardin who is a top leadership consultant, driver of leadership excellence, and CEO of The Hardin Group, a leadership consulting firm. Tune in as we unpack perfectionism, why it manifests, how it affects us in the workplace and within our relationships, and ultimately how to actually heal from it. Vitale believes that “who we are is how we lead,” so the real leadership work begins with ourselves. Vitale brings her training and concepts to life in a fun and relatable way, empowering teams and companies to transform the way they work, produce, and relate. She is an iPEC-certified executive coach, trainer, award-winning speaker, and author. Featured in The New York Times, she is the author of the book, Addicted to Perfect, detailing her struggle with perfectionism and how she overcame it. Discover: What perfectionism is and the different ways in which it can manifest The root cause of perfectionism The first step in detaching from the need to be perfect How companies and leaders can actually benefit from addressing and healing perfectionism in the workplace 00:00 Intro 00:46 What is perfectionism? 02:55 Why we chase perfection 05:30 Detaching from perfectionism 07:37 Perfectionism in the workplace 12:06 How it affects innovation 17:47 Are men or women more prone to perfectionism? 21:27 Perfectionism in relationships 28:00 Compassion and perfectionism can’t coexist 30:34 Excellence instead of perfectionism 32:23 Vitale’s struggle with perfectionism Links: Book | Addicted to Perfect: A Journey Out of the Grips of Adderall Website | The Hardin Group LinkedIn | Vitale Buford Hardin Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#232: The Art of Self Inquiry with Byron Katie Sep 12, 2022

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Themes: Self Inquiry, Ego, Liberation, Awareness, Mental Health, Spirituality Summary: This week I’m SO excited to be joined by a trailblazer and icon whose work has deeply impacted my life: Byron Katie. Tune in to discover the powerful method of inquiry born directly out of Byron Katie’s experience that allows you to release yourself from suffering and access the wisdom that always exists within you. In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. Byron Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her books include the bestselling Loving What Is, now in a revised edition, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. Discover: Four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light A powerful way to handle and reframe criticism A simple tool to identify the cause of your stress and suffering The profound freedom that comes with questioning and turning around your thoughts 00:00 Intro 00:56 What is “The Work”? 03:48 The four questions 09:05 Ego 13:54 Is it true? 22:19 The world is divided 24:58 Stop thinking 32:07 Self-realization, until it’s lived, has no power 34:12 It’s all perfect 36:04 Defensiveness 39:25 Judge your neighbor worksheet 50:46 Turning around your thoughts Links: Instagram | @byron.katie Facebook | @theworkofbyronkatie YouTube | @theworkofbk Podcast | The Work Worksheet | Judge Your Neighbour Join her for At Home with BK on Zoom every Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday from 9-10 a.m. Pacific Time. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#231: How to Relationship Better with John Kim & Vanessa Bennett Sep 05, 2022

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Themes: Attachment Theory, Conflict, Relationships, Intimacy, Parenthood Summary: Today I’m joined by John Kim and Vanessa Bennett for a wonderful conversation discussing the core themes from their new book, “It’s Not Me, It’s You,” including how to navigate differences in your relationship. John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) and Vanessa Bennett are not only licensed therapists and relationship coaches but master plate spinners. Writing books, hosting podcasts, creating mental health content, and raising their toddler are just a few of those spinning plates. Before their worlds collided, they each experienced the painful expiration of long term relationships which thrust them into their inner journeys, personal therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people relationship better. As a couple, they are committed to being transparent about their baggage, bullsh*t, and the slippery knots of their own imperfect relationship to help illuminate the surprising issues that hinder all of us from finding, enjoying, and sustaining love. Discover: How to navigate different love languages Framing your differences as opportunities Tips for navigating conflict with your partner The difference between doing life with someone vs. doing life at or around them 00:00 Intro 04:00 Therapists are human too 07:20 Writing a book with your partner 10:03 Different love languages 16:55 The anxious/avoidant dance 19:07 Differences in relationship 23:33 It’s in the small moments 28:20 Handling conflict 35:11 Past relationships vs. now 39:00 Softness & vulnerability in relationship 41:00 Greatest challenges in couples 47:22 Being transactional 53:47 Clean anger is necessary Links: Instagram: @vanessasbennett + @theangrytherapist TikTok: @thecodayoga + @theangrytherapist Pre-order Vanessa and John's new book, It’s Not Me It’s You, here. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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#230: Turn Your Pain into Your Purpose with Jayson Gaddis Sep 01, 2022

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Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Relationship Coaching, Intimacy, Emotional Intelligence Summary: In today’s episode I’m joined once again by the insightful Jayson Gaddis. Tune in as we discuss some of the most common relational challenges we both encounter and how Jayson helps others both better understand relationships AND teach relational skills themselves through The Relationship School. Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. His new book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon. Discover: The most common relationship challenges we both see A common root cause of unavailability One question to ask yourself when you don’t know whether to stay or go The advantages of being a coach vs. a therapist How Relationship School differs from other trainings Our thoughts on why relationship skills aren’t taught in school 00:00 Intro 01:42 The problem of not having mutual partnership 03:28 The most common relationship challenges 05:10 Dating unavailability 06:35 Should you stay or go? 08:07 Ghosting 08:52 People transform their lives around their relationship pain 11:18 Becoming a therapist 16:45 Group beliefs influencing individual beliefs 20:21 Breaking out of old systems 23:22 Challenging the client 29:18 Hearing feedback 33:46 Teaching how to handle conflict 35:19 Success of a relationship shouldn’t be measured by length 36:59 Movies modeling real life 40:02 Apologizing & conflict repair Links: Instagram | @jaysongaddis Website | relationshipschool.com Relationship Coach Certification Program | Visit this link to apply! Jayson's team interviews everyone that comes into the program. Once accepted, you will get a massive discount of $1000 at checkout when you use the promo code CREATETHELOVE Book | Getting to Zero I’m Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters with Dr. Harriet Lerner | Part 1 | Part 2 Embracing Conflict with Jayson Gaddis - The Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards
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