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    The Journey with Pastor Steve DeWitt

    The Journey presents life-giving truth found in the Word of God. For over twenty years Pastor Steve DeWitt has taught God’s Word with clarity and passion as the senior pastor for Bethel Church located in Northwest Indiana. Our desire is that The Journey becomes a trusted source of help for your life’s journey. For more resources, or to support The Journey, please visit us at the” rel=”nofollow”>http://www.thejourney.fm.

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    Living "Questionably" and Answering Hopefully - Part A Oct 16, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt Living "Questionably" and Answering Hopefully - Part A Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:13-17 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:13-17 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:13-17 Sermon Series: Spiritual Exiles Message: Living Questionably and Answering HopefullyAirdate: 10/16 and 10/19/26Programs: 2380 and 2381Well, good morning again, and hello, Cedar Lake campus, Hope Portage campus this morning. I, last weekend, had the joy of speaking, ministering at one of our former associate pastor's churches. He is Jeremy Carr, who is the senior pastor now in North Des Moines at Johnston E. Free Church.And so I was able to go and to see his ministry there.He's been there about a year now, and God's blessing, and they seem to be doing super great. So it was great to to be with them. I also understand while I was gone that we had a special offering last weekend to help meet needs in Nepal with the earthquake victims as well as some of the needs that we have with our facilities here. When I say here, mean at our Gary campus and at HP and at Cedar Lake with some of our facilities we use for primarily youth ministry and student ministry, our gymnasiums that we have. And I just was encouraged.We had an offering last weekend, second offering, kind of like lunch money, people throwing it in, of $13,500 that came in for that, which is really great. And if you're an old sports guy, you love sports, and maybe you have a heart for young people and all that, I'm sure you could still throw money in the offering towards that. And we'd find a way to apply that to some of the things that we need and probably still will need in those facilities. But thank you, everybody, for being a part of that. And that's pretty exciting for me because I'm one of those old sports guys.And I'd love to see our facilities be able to minister through athletics to primarily young people. Well, my title today kind of gives away the whole sermon, frankly. Here's my title: Living Questionably and Answering Hopefully. Now I could just stop and say, amen, amen, let's go home, because that's basically all that I'm going to say today. And some of you are excited right now.Like, wow, we're going to get out of here early today. The problem is most of us would leave having no idea what that means. And that's really what lies before us here is, like, what does that mean? What does it mean to live lives that are questionable and give answers that are filled with hope? And what does that have to do with really God's entire plan for the fulfilling of the great commission?It is a summary of first Peter three verse 15. If you went to Moody Bible Institute and say, I'm gonna take a class on evangelism, this might be the very first verse that you would memorize. If you have ever read a book on Christian apologetics, this verse always talked about. So this is one of these verses that that that stands out in a unique category and is often referred to when it comes to the whole matter of how we represent our faith, how we even share our faith. What does it mean to live Christianly and to speak Christianly in a hostile environment around us?And so we have this verse about bold, fearless witness. And who's the writer of it? Ironically, Peter, the most famous coward in all of the Bible. But I'll get into that in a moment. So let me read the text.And so follow along, please, if you have your Bibles. I think we have it on the screens as well. Here's what Peter writes beginning in verse now 13. “Now who is there to harm you if you are zealous for what is good? But even if you should suffer for righteousness' sake, you will be blessed.Have no fear of them nor be troubled. But in your hearts, honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you. Yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame. For it is better to suffer for doing good, if that should be God's will, than for doing evil.” Now if that language sounds familiar, it means that you've been dialed in in this entire series in first Peter because he is repeating what he has said here over and over again, of in different contexts.But basically, this same point. Christian, how do we live in a hostile environment? How do you how do you represent Jesus when the world around you looks down on that? You live lives of moral and spiritually observable beauty that causes the people around you to think maybe there's something to this Christianity. That's the whole point really of first Peter.And you do that primarily in your persecution and in your suffering. Now he has already said that as it relates, for example, the beginning of this chapter to Christian wives who are married to unbelieving husbands. What are they supposed to do? They are to by their moral behavior and their the beauty of their life, he says, to win their husbands over without a word. K?We talked about that. He talked about it with slaves, with their owners with their owners, and he's talked about it with Christian citizens as it relates to the government. And it's the same kind of point that he is trying to pound home. And I think we need to hear that it is our lives that speak about the truth of the claims that we make regarding Jesus being the Savior of the world and the person that will transform your life into one of hope and one of of of moral beauty and one that will live forever with eternal life. So what I wanna do today, since some of this is repeat, I wanna focus in on what is is unique that we have not seen so far, and that primarily is in verse 15.Again, I'll just read it. “In your hearts, Christ the Lord is holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you.” So we find these threads being weaved here regarding the implications and the applications of living a life of love and of goodness to others that even an unbelieving world can't deny. But he is saying something unique here because he gets at what I think is really our big obstacle in doing this. What's the biggest thing that all of us struggle with when it comes to somehow identifying ourselves with other people as Christians?I would submit to you, the biggest thing we struggle with is fear. Right? Fear. We are afraid of something. Maybe you know how this works.Let me just walk you through it, see if you can relate to this. You're at work. You're in some context, and you're having a conversation with your neighbor, your coworker, your family member, doesn't matter what it is. They'll say it's at work, it's coworker. And you're having a conversation, you're talking about the Blackhawks game last night.And you're like, yeah, in the second in the second period, did you see the and then did did you notice that? And yeah. He's like, yeah, man. That was awesome. And, yeah, it's just smooth.It's natural. You're having a great conversation. And then somehow, you say, well, how did the weekend go? Oh, my daughter. You know, she's dealing with that chronic illness.And my wife and I, we just oh, we're so devastated. We're just wondering what, like, what's this all about? And in that moment, there is a frog that resides down here. And in that moment, it goes ribbit right to the throat. Right?And now in your throat, there is something that with the Blackhawks or with whatever else it was, your garden, natural conversation, all of a sudden now, in the moment where the door swings wide open, Right? Because that person is sharing something very personal to them, something down on the heart level, down on the soul level. They're hurting. They're in pain. They're looking for what?Hope. They're looking for hope. But in their worldview, atheist, secular, agnostic, whatever it is, there is no hope. There is no confidence about anything in the future. Everything's random.Everything you just don't know what's gonna happen. They want hope. And the door swings wide open in that moment. And in your throat, there's ribbit, ribbit. And you're like, buddy.And something in you is going, tell them your story about when your daughter was sick. Tell them your story. When your mom had cancer, tell them your story of how you went through that terrible thing in your marriage. But your throat's going ribbit ribbit ribbit. And all we can sometimes get out in that moment is like, I pray for you.Oh, look at the time. I gotta go. And off we scamper. And that person who in that gospel moment of heart level kind of interaction is left hopeless. Can you relate to that?What is it about those moments that we get all clunky? Right? We are eloquent with the gardening and clunky with Jesus. What is it? And I believe Peter is putting his finger down on the heart of the issue that we have, so many of us have, when it comes to this.We are stupid, if I can use that word. Children, don't use it. But we're we're spiritually stupid. Why are we being stupid? Because there is something inside of us that is assessing whether or not this person's opinion of me is going to rise or fall dependent on what I dare share with them about the hope that I have in Jesus.And you might say, no, it's not that. I haven't completed my PhD in apologetics yet. And so until I get that done, I don't think God wants me to say nothing, and I'm just gonna stay silent until I have the diploma on the wall. Or you might say, well, yes, but I'm that's not my gift. I'm more called to a serving ministry.So I'm gonna mow his yard for him. But I'm not gonna tell him about the hope that I have found in the Lord Jesus Christ. This fear, Peter addresses in verse 13 by saying, now who is there that is going to harm you if you are zealous for doing what is good? But even if you should suffer for righteousness' sake, you will be blessed. In other words, when we do what God has called us to do, when and that can be in word or in deed, but as we are kind of living out loud this Gospel that we believe, sing, treasure, he says those kinds of activities generally are not going to have people saying to you, you're an evil person.There there are generally good things that we are doing, helping other people, showing care and concern that in the world is not so evident. But he says, but even if let's just say that the opinion of that person goes down on you because you say something spiritual in that moment. He says, you'll be blessed by it. Blessed by who? Class.God himself. God himself. There's a promise there. I've never heard anybody say, those Christians are so evil with all their feeding of the poor and the caring of the orphans. May the world be rid of them.People don't say that. In fact, if you look at the first three centuries of the church. K? So this is prior to basically, in in church history, deciding moment is in the the early fourth century when Constantine, the emperor of Rome, himself becomes a Christian and then legalizes Christianity throughout the Roman Empire. Big moment.Because up to that point, Christianity was largely hated and Christians were viewed extremely suspiciously and terrible persecution. Read Fox's Book of Martyrs as an example of the terrible things that were done to the early Christians. So prior to Constantine's conversion, if you look at that those three centuries, it's a interesting time to see how the church was the church when everybody hated them. And here is what one Christian apologist writing actually in the first century in the city of Athens writes about he writes to emperor Hadrian, emperor of Rome, about Christians. Here's how he describes them.They love one another. They never fail to help widows. They save orphans from those who would hurt them. If they had something, they if they have had something, they give freely to the man who has nothing. If they see a stranger, they take him home and are happy as though he were a real brother.First century people like you and me believing in Jesus. What did that look like for them? It looked like that. Not perfectly. They were sinners like we are.But generally, that's kind of the ethos of the first century church. Now let me ask you a question. When Hadrian gets this letter from this guy named Aristides, what does he think about these Christians that he's heard about when he hears about their care for the orphans and that they're always taking people home that are strangers and they love, care, and meet the needs of of the widows? What does he think in his mind? Does he think to himself, these people are really bad people.We've gotta get them out of the empire. Or in spite of what he had heard about Christians, when he hears about the way they conducted themselves, what did it do in Hadrian's heart? I'm saying to you, it created curiosity. It created curiosity. What are these people all about?I know they claim there's only one God. They deny Zeus. But what's their deal? Because they're like about things that don't know anybody else is doing that kind of stuff. And that is the power and was the power in the first century, in the first three centuries, of people like you and me taking the love that God has showed into our hearts, shined into our hearts, and expressing it in ways that were observable in the world around them.It said something powerful to people. It made them wonder what is the deal with these people. And the if you're saying, well, what's the theology behind it? Here's the theology behind that curiosity. It is known as the Imago Dei, the image of God.And the Bible tells us that when God made man Adam and Eve back in the garden, Genesis one, Genesis two, that when he made Adam and Eve, he made us, all of humanity, different than anything else in the entire galaxy. He placed within us this spiritual, soulish capacity. Right? We are spiritual beings. And in that spiritual place, he placed his image, likeness, his morality or sense of it, a sense of right and wrong, good and evil kind of a thing.Everybody has that. There is something innate within a human being that knows when something is good generally and when something is wrong. It's the Imago Dei. The fall happens. Right?Mankind falls into sin, but we retain, the Bible calls this, Paul calls it in Romans, the conscience. We all have a conscience, and that is the theology behind what he is getting at here. And it is a powerful help for us when we are trying to evangelize is that there are we know that that other person is made in the image of this God and has a sensibility about them, broken, dulled, fallen, but it's still there. As John Stott said, in all evangelism, I find it a constant encouragement to say to myself, the other person's conscience is on my side. I like that.And so this is the mantra of Peter throughout the entire letter is do you realize that you we, Christians, have an ace in the hole when it comes to buttressing the claims that we have about Jesus, and it is our lives and the kinds of things that we care about. And the world sees that, and they wonder. I drew up a diagram just to illustrate this. Maybe this will help. If you think about what is the common ground between an unbeliever, a non Christian, and and a and a Christian.Because there I mean, we're a new creation. The old is gone. The new has come, Paul writes. But we still have shared…

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    Gospel Motivated Modesty - Part B Oct 15, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt Gospel Motivated Modesty - Part B Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:1-4 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:1-4 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:1-4 Sermon Series: Spiritual ExilesMessage: Gospel Motivated Modesty Airdate:10/14 –10/15/26Programs: 2378 and 2379Well, as we wrap up that offering, I want to welcome and greet into our teaching time our wonderful brothers and sisters at our Cedar Lake campus and at at our Hoover Portage campus.Good to be in God's word together here as a church. And one of our core values here at Bethel is the unapologetic preaching of God's word. And what that means for us is that if God says it, we say it. K?God says it, we say it. Unapologetically is what it says, and then we try to apply it to our life. That's easy when there are there are truths that are sort of palatable. They feel right. They feel sort of normal.The challenge is when we are dealing with something where God's word swims against the current of culture, swims against what sort of feels normal to us. And the passage that we have in front of us today is one of those. I'm warning you. It's one of those. Where God what God says and what culture and what feels normal to us are diametrically opposed to one another.This will be a test, I think, for our hearts regarding where our authority really lies. So with that said, we're in First Peter three. Our series continues. We're preaching through First Peter. And the context for this these verses, verses three and four, is especially critical to realize that Peter is writing to Christians who are in a context where there is hostile Christianity or hostility towards Christianity all around them.And they're struggling with how do I live out my faith? How do I live as a Christian around people that don't religiously believe at all what I believe? I mean, Christianity says there's one God, one Lord, one savior, one way, and his name is Jesus. And the pluralism of the first century Greco Roman world said the opposite. There are many gods and there are many ways.And so Christianity just religiously was in conflict with the culture around them. Not only was it religiously in conflict, it was also morally in conflict. If you read through first century Roman history, you will find that that culture was highly sexualized, highly sensualized. In fact, as an example, read the accounts of the cities of Corinth and Pompeii, and you will find a level of sexual promiscuity that would even make our culture blush. If you look at, for example, the statues of Rome, and maybe you've seen these if you go to the art center in Chicagoor maybe you've seen them in your history books, the the the highly idealized human form, very smooth, very perfect.The the men and the women in various levels of dress or undress. The women in particular presented in very sexualized, very alluring ways. It gives you a sense of what it was like to live in that culture. So in the midst of a very sexualized culture, you have these Christian women who heard the gospel, now married to an unbelieving husband who didn't believe, and they're asking themselves, how do we, like, present ourselves when the culture sees us as sexualized objects when it's just all around us that we are to flaunt our sensualities. How do we do this?And how do I do this in a way that my husband, who doesn't believe, might actually come to believe? Is this about me gussying myself upand him becoming a Christian from it? Or what do we do? Peter writes then to this very issue. And what we're gonna find here is that Christianity is freedom from obsession about external appearance.Christianity is freedom from the obsession about my identity being in my looks. Or for women, and dear sisters here, the sexualizing of your appearance for acceptance by men or others. It is freedom from that. So that's where we're going here today. It is freedom to allow the beauty of Christ, that Christ likeness to be formed within you and for that to be your source of beauty.And this is where Peter is going now. So let me read First Peter three verses one through four, and then we'll get into it. Here's what God's word says. “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a wordby the conduct of their wives. When they see your respectful and pure conduct, do not let your adorning be external, the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry or the clothing you wear.”“But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.” Alright. Our focus today is on verses three and four. And you'll notice in both of these verses, the word that is repeated is that word adorning. Okay?Adorning in verse three is not to be external. Adorning in verse four is to be internal. And so we see from this that the adorning that is primarily in view here is not the clothes or jewelry or hair per se, or you could read this to be like a command not to wear anything. Clearly, he's not saying that. The adorning in view is what a woman looks to as the source of her worth or the source of her identity.We find here that there is a reason that this is important. And the one who defines what real beauty is, at the end of verse four, is God himself. Why should a woman assess herself by internal categories? Because in verse four, this is what is in God's sight very precious. Okay?So the hair, the jewelry, and the clothes in God's sight, not so precious. The internal qualities of a woman's beauty in God's sight, very precious. This is what God really highly values. So we find then in these verses, there's something and the Bible often does this. There's something not to do, and there is something to do.So notice what not to do. Don't assess your worth, your beauty based upon popular garnishing of beauty. And in the Roman world, the Roman women highly valued beauty aids. There's three that are listed. Notice what they are.And this is shocking. Hair, jewelry, clothing. First century women. So different than today. Don't you think?I mean, what were they thinking back then? Being all about their hair, their jewelry, and their clothing. And obviously, the more things change, the more they stay the same. Because here we are two thousand years later, go to the mall, look at a magazine or whatever. What is what are the categories, generally speaking, that women are marketed to and that women are attracted to?It typically has something to do with their hair, something to do with their clothing, something to do with jewelry or fashion, whatever it might be. The Roman women rivaled culture today in terms of their obsession with externals and the market that was available to them. And if we had more time, we thought about putting them up. I'm not going to. But if you look at pictures, for example, of first century Roman women and the very elaborate hairstyles that they had and the jewelry that they had, we realized that we're not talking about a culture really that different than our own.I mean, they had their own Armani. They had their own Calvin Klein. They had their own Ralph Lauren. They had their own fashions. They had their own sense of style.And these in the Roman word world were really, really important to these women.And like anything that is really highly valued, it was also expensive. So guess in that culture who the women were who could really garnish themselves. It was the wealthy women who had the money and the means to spend on their external beauty. As an example of this, listen to this is a first century Roman writer who writes about this very subject.So this is two thousand years ago. He says this. This is Juvenal is his name.There is nothing that a woman will not permit herself to do. Nothing that she deems shameful.When she encircles her neck with green emeralds and fastens pearls to her elongated ears, there is nothing more intolerable than a wealthy woman. Now what is he saying there? What he's saying there is that the lavish clothes and the lavish jewelry and the lavish cosmetics communicated in that culture that this was a woman of means. This was a wealthy woman. This was a sensual woman.This was a desirable woman. And that woman that walked around there in whatever city, Corinth or Rome, wherever, was a woman that was being noticed. The men would notice her, and the other women would notice her. And she liked it. She loved the attention that her externals drew to her, And the wealthy woman was able to do that.So what was the Christian woman then to do in a culture where this is what all the women were about? This is where all the focus was, was on those externals. And we find that Peter he he doesn't say here, don't do your hair, don't wear jewelry, and don't wear clothing. Okay? That's not what he is saying.Rather, he is undermining the obsession with those things. The obsession with externalities that says that my worth is in what I wear. My worth is in my body. My worth is in my attractiveness to men. My worth is in the value of the things that I put on in terms of jewelry.That is not, in God's sight, precious. These are not things to be an ultra priority. So women, what he's saying is do your hair, but don't find your value in your hair. Wear jewelry, but don't think it adds anything to your value. And wear clothing, but remember, you are much more than what you wear.And the reason for all of that is because God defines what is valuable. And in God's eyes, hair and clothing and jewelry mean nothing. He doesn't value any of that. He doesn't look at that woman walking through Corinth all gussied up and say to himself, wow, look at her. She's so much more valuable because of the external things that she's wearing.God looks at the heart. God looks at the internal person. And beauty there is what He really values. Now this is not to say that God doesn't value beauty. And as many of you know, this is a hot subject for me and a favorite one.And if you read through the Bible, you'll find that there are women who are noted for their beauty, like Abigail and Tamar and Bathsheba and Esther, all said to be very beautiful women. Or you read Song of Solomon, and there is a kind of celebration in Song of Solomon regarding female attractions. So the Bible is not, like, prudish about beauty or feminine beauty at all. But it notes it. It doesn't idolize it.In fact, many of the women that I mentioned in the story, their beauty led to tragic consequences in their life. So the focus of scripture regarding feminine value and feminine beauty revolves around the internal. It is about character. It is about virtue. It is about Christ likeness being formed within that woman in ways that is on display for others.Now I'm gonna keep saying this. Peter doesn't say women don't adorn yourself. He doesn't say that. I don't want anybody to think that that's what I'm saying even in in trying to exposit this. He is calling Christian women to pour their energies not into the external, but into the internal and to cultivate that inner self.Now here's a couple verses, Old Testament verses, that get at this distinction between the outside and the inside. Here's Proverbs eleven twenty two. This is one of my favorite verses. “Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.” Isn't that nice?So next time you see some woman, know, walking walking down the street, obviously, all about the external just go. Proverbs 31. “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” And you see that distinction there, don't you? Charm, okay.Beauty, it goes. But where is the real value in a woman? It is in her heart being in a kind of trusting relationship with God. And so if this is the way that God sees it and if this is the way that scripture sees it, don't you think this is the way that we ought to view feminine worth and value? Not based upon the garnishes of the exterior, not based upon the shape and the form, but rather based upon those internal qualities that are so attractive in the eyes of God.And if that is the case, what can we say about obsession with appearance? Or what do we say about a woman who dresses in a way that emphasizes certain physical features for the purpose of her own attention and her own self glory? And here is where, in principle, this not only is a passage for the Christian wife married to the unbelieving husband, but for every Christian woman and, frankly, every Christian man as well. The Christian woman is a woman who has discovered the real source of beauty in the entire world, which is not in jewelry, hair, fashion, but in Jesus on the cross, dying in her place. This is a woman that her identity now and her sense of worth is not wrapped up in her bank account, her children, her husband, her looks, her it's in Christ.I see myself in relationship to God and acceptance from him by virtue of what Jesus has done for me on the cross. That is now the defining value in my entire life, and it shapes how I look at all these other things. I don't let culture tell me what's important. I look at myself the way that God sees me. And in God's eyes, it is not that outside, it is the inside that matters.And she lives in a way that as she allows that Christ likeness to be on display, to win her unbelieving husband to saving faith. And so towards that end, what should she do? Where should she pour her energies into? Look at verse four. But let your adorning, let your sense of worth, sense of value, sense of beauty, be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.And right now, I just wanna read quickly the parallel passage. Peter is not the only one that writes about this. Here is the apostle Paul in First Timothy two nine and ten. He says this, “likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel with modesty and self control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness.” What are they to clothe themselves with?“Clothe themselves with good works.” Okay. So we're talking about adorning here. And adorning is the woman's sense of beauty, her own worth, her own value. It's where her attention is for her sense of attractiveness.And what God is saying here is that all of that actual lasting valuable beauty. It is all nonphysical. It's totally nonphysical. Dear sisters, did you hear that? It has nothing to do with the shape of your body.It has nothing to do with the form of your face. It has nothing to do with your height, nothing to do with your weight, nothing to do with your hair or the expense of the clothes that you wear or the value of the jewelry that you wear. It has nothing to do with that. And why are we glad it has nothing to do with that? What happens to all those things?They all perish, don't they? They all perish. Now amazingly, I was actually able to get a picture, and this is a little creepy, but I have a picture, a recent picture from inside Elizabeth Taylor's casket. And I wanna put it on the screen right now. Actually, I'm not gonna do that.I don't have to. Right? Why? What does she look like right now? Elizabeth Taylor, I think, you know, hailed around the world, especially in her prime as a very externally beautiful woman her whole career, the diamonds, the jewelry, the cl…

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    Gospel Motivated Modesty - Part A Oct 14, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt Gospel Motivated Modesty - Part A Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:1-4 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:1-4 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:1-4 Sermon Series: Spiritual ExilesMessage: Gospel Motivated Modesty Airdate:10/14 –10/15/26Programs: 2378 and 2379Well, as we wrap up that offering, I want to welcome and greet into our teaching time our wonderful brothers and sisters at our Cedar Lake campus and at at our Hoover Portage campus.Good to be in God's word together here as a church. And one of our core values here at Bethel is the unapologetic preaching of God's word. And what that means for us is that if God says it, we say it. K?God says it, we say it. Unapologetically is what it says, and then we try to apply it to our life. That's easy when there are there are truths that are sort of palatable. They feel right. They feel sort of normal.The challenge is when we are dealing with something where God's word swims against the current of culture, swims against what sort of feels normal to us. And the passage that we have in front of us today is one of those. I'm warning you. It's one of those. Where God what God says and what culture and what feels normal to us are diametrically opposed to one another.This will be a test, I think, for our hearts regarding where our authority really lies. So with that said, we're in First Peter three. Our series continues. We're preaching through First Peter. And the context for this these verses, verses three and four, is especially critical to realize that Peter is writing to Christians who are in a context where there is hostile Christianity or hostility towards Christianity all around them.And they're struggling with how do I live out my faith? How do I live as a Christian around people that don't religiously believe at all what I believe? I mean, Christianity says there's one God, one Lord, one savior, one way, and his name is Jesus. And the pluralism of the first century Greco Roman world said the opposite. There are many gods and there are many ways.And so Christianity just religiously was in conflict with the culture around them. Not only was it religiously in conflict, it was also morally in conflict. If you read through first century Roman history, you will find that that culture was highly sexualized, highly sensualized. In fact, as an example, read the accounts of the cities of Corinth and Pompeii, and you will find a level of sexual promiscuity that would even make our culture blush. If you look at, for example, the statues of Rome, and maybe you've seen these if you go to the art center in Chicagoor maybe you've seen them in your history books, the the the highly idealized human form, very smooth, very perfect.The the men and the women in various levels of dress or undress. The women in particular presented in very sexualized, very alluring ways. It gives you a sense of what it was like to live in that culture. So in the midst of a very sexualized culture, you have these Christian women who heard the gospel, now married to an unbelieving husband who didn't believe, and they're asking themselves, how do we, like, present ourselves when the culture sees us as sexualized objects when it's just all around us that we are to flaunt our sensualities. How do we do this?And how do I do this in a way that my husband, who doesn't believe, might actually come to believe? Is this about me gussying myself upand him becoming a Christian from it? Or what do we do? Peter writes then to this very issue. And what we're gonna find here is that Christianity is freedom from obsession about external appearance.Christianity is freedom from the obsession about my identity being in my looks. Or for women, and dear sisters here, the sexualizing of your appearance for acceptance by men or others. It is freedom from that. So that's where we're going here today. It is freedom to allow the beauty of Christ, that Christ likeness to be formed within you and for that to be your source of beauty.And this is where Peter is going now. So let me read First Peter three verses one through four, and then we'll get into it. Here's what God's word says. “Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a wordby the conduct of their wives. When they see your respectful and pure conduct, do not let your adorning be external, the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry or the clothing you wear.”“But let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.” Alright. Our focus today is on verses three and four. And you'll notice in both of these verses, the word that is repeated is that word adorning. Okay?Adorning in verse three is not to be external. Adorning in verse four is to be internal. And so we see from this that the adorning that is primarily in view here is not the clothes or jewelry or hair per se, or you could read this to be like a command not to wear anything. Clearly, he's not saying that. The adorning in view is what a woman looks to as the source of her worth or the source of her identity.We find here that there is a reason that this is important. And the one who defines what real beauty is, at the end of verse four, is God himself. Why should a woman assess herself by internal categories? Because in verse four, this is what is in God's sight very precious. Okay?So the hair, the jewelry, and the clothes in God's sight, not so precious. The internal qualities of a woman's beauty in God's sight, very precious. This is what God really highly values. So we find then in these verses, there's something and the Bible often does this. There's something not to do, and there is something to do.So notice what not to do. Don't assess your worth, your beauty based upon popular garnishing of beauty. And in the Roman world, the Roman women highly valued beauty aids. There's three that are listed. Notice what they are.And this is shocking. Hair, jewelry, clothing. First century women. So different than today. Don't you think?I mean, what were they thinking back then? Being all about their hair, their jewelry, and their clothing. And obviously, the more things change, the more they stay the same. Because here we are two thousand years later, go to the mall, look at a magazine or whatever. What is what are the categories, generally speaking, that women are marketed to and that women are attracted to?It typically has something to do with their hair, something to do with their clothing, something to do with jewelry or fashion, whatever it might be. The Roman women rivaled culture today in terms of their obsession with externals and the market that was available to them. And if we had more time, we thought about putting them up. I'm not going to. But if you look at pictures, for example, of first century Roman women and the very elaborate hairstyles that they had and the jewelry that they had, we realized that we're not talking about a culture really that different than our own.I mean, they had their own Armani. They had their own Calvin Klein. They had their own Ralph Lauren. They had their own fashions. They had their own sense of style.And these in the Roman word world were really, really important to these women.And like anything that is really highly valued, it was also expensive. So guess in that culture who the women were who could really garnish themselves. It was the wealthy women who had the money and the means to spend on their external beauty. As an example of this, listen to this is a first century Roman writer who writes about this very subject.So this is two thousand years ago. He says this. This is Juvenal is his name.There is nothing that a woman will not permit herself to do. Nothing that she deems shameful.When she encircles her neck with green emeralds and fastens pearls to her elongated ears, there is nothing more intolerable than a wealthy woman. Now what is he saying there? What he's saying there is that the lavish clothes and the lavish jewelry and the lavish cosmetics communicated in that culture that this was a woman of means. This was a wealthy woman. This was a sensual woman.This was a desirable woman. And that woman that walked around there in whatever city, Corinth or Rome, wherever, was a woman that was being noticed. The men would notice her, and the other women would notice her. And she liked it. She loved the attention that her externals drew to her, And the wealthy woman was able to do that.So what was the Christian woman then to do in a culture where this is what all the women were about? This is where all the focus was, was on those externals. And we find that Peter he he doesn't say here, don't do your hair, don't wear jewelry, and don't wear clothing. Okay? That's not what he is saying.Rather, he is undermining the obsession with those things. The obsession with externalities that says that my worth is in what I wear. My worth is in my body. My worth is in my attractiveness to men. My worth is in the value of the things that I put on in terms of jewelry.That is not, in God's sight, precious. These are not things to be an ultra priority. So women, what he's saying is do your hair, but don't find your value in your hair. Wear jewelry, but don't think it adds anything to your value. And wear clothing, but remember, you are much more than what you wear.And the reason for all of that is because God defines what is valuable. And in God's eyes, hair and clothing and jewelry mean nothing. He doesn't value any of that. He doesn't look at that woman walking through Corinth all gussied up and say to himself, wow, look at her. She's so much more valuable because of the external things that she's wearing.God looks at the heart. God looks at the internal person. And beauty there is what He really values. Now this is not to say that God doesn't value beauty. And as many of you know, this is a hot subject for me and a favorite one.And if you read through the Bible, you'll find that there are women who are noted for their beauty, like Abigail and Tamar and Bathsheba and Esther, all said to be very beautiful women. Or you read Song of Solomon, and there is a kind of celebration in Song of Solomon regarding female attractions. So the Bible is not, like, prudish about beauty or feminine beauty at all. But it notes it. It doesn't idolize it.In fact, many of the women that I mentioned in the story, their beauty led to tragic consequences in their life. So the focus of scripture regarding feminine value and feminine beauty revolves around the internal. It is about character. It is about virtue. It is about Christ likeness being formed within that woman in ways that is on display for others.Now I'm gonna keep saying this. Peter doesn't say women don't adorn yourself. He doesn't say that. I don't want anybody to think that that's what I'm saying even in in trying to exposit this. He is calling Christian women to pour their energies not into the external, but into the internal and to cultivate that inner self.Now here's a couple verses, Old Testament verses, that get at this distinction between the outside and the inside. Here's Proverbs eleven twenty two. This is one of my favorite verses. “Like a gold ring in a pig's snout is a beautiful woman without discretion.” Isn't that nice?So next time you see some woman, know, walking walking down the street, obviously, all about the external just go. Proverbs 31. “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” And you see that distinction there, don't you? Charm, okay.Beauty, it goes. But where is the real value in a woman? It is in her heart being in a kind of trusting relationship with God. And so if this is the way that God sees it and if this is the way that scripture sees it, don't you think this is the way that we ought to view feminine worth and value? Not based upon the garnishes of the exterior, not based upon the shape and the form, but rather based upon those internal qualities that are so attractive in the eyes of God.And if that is the case, what can we say about obsession with appearance? Or what do we say about a woman who dresses in a way that emphasizes certain physical features for the purpose of her own attention and her own self glory? And here is where, in principle, this not only is a passage for the Christian wife married to the unbelieving husband, but for every Christian woman and, frankly, every Christian man as well. The Christian woman is a woman who has discovered the real source of beauty in the entire world, which is not in jewelry, hair, fashion, but in Jesus on the cross, dying in her place. This is a woman that her identity now and her sense of worth is not wrapped up in her bank account, her children, her husband, her looks, her it's in Christ.I see myself in relationship to God and acceptance from him by virtue of what Jesus has done for me on the cross. That is now the defining value in my entire life, and it shapes how I look at all these other things. I don't let culture tell me what's important. I look at myself the way that God sees me. And in God's eyes, it is not that outside, it is the inside that matters.And she lives in a way that as she allows that Christ likeness to be on display, to win her unbelieving husband to saving faith. And so towards that end, what should she do? Where should she pour her energies into? Look at verse four. But let your adorning, let your sense of worth, sense of value, sense of beauty, be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.And right now, I just wanna read quickly the parallel passage. Peter is not the only one that writes about this. Here is the apostle Paul in First Timothy two nine and ten. He says this, “likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel with modesty and self control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness.” What are they to clothe themselves with?“Clothe themselves with good works.” Okay. So we're talking about adorning here. And adorning is the woman's sense of beauty, her own worth, her own value. It's where her attention is for her sense of attractiveness.And what God is saying here is that all of that actual lasting valuable beauty. It is all nonphysical. It's totally nonphysical. Dear sisters, did you hear that? It has nothing to do with the shape of your body.It has nothing to do with the form of your face. It has nothing to do with your height, nothing to do with your weight, nothing to do with your hair or the expense of the clothes that you wear or the value of the jewelry that you wear. It has nothing to do with that. And why are we glad it has nothing to do with that? What happens to all those things?They all perish, don't they? They all perish. Now amazingly, I was actually able to get a picture, and this is a little creepy, but I have a picture, a recent picture from inside Elizabeth Taylor's casket. And I wanna put it on the screen right now. Actually, I'm not gonna do that.I don't have to. Right? Why? What does she look like right now? Elizabeth Taylor, I think, you know, hailed around the world, especially in her prime as a very externally beautiful woman her whole career, the diamonds, the jewelry, the cl…

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    A Husband by Design - Part B Oct 13, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt A Husband by Design - Part B Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:7 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:7 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:7 Sermon Series: Spiritual Exiles Message: A Husband By Design Airdate: 10/12 –10/13/26Programs: 2376 and 2377Well, again, good morning. Good morning to our Cedar Lake campus. And I stand before you today excited about what I get to talk about. And part of the excitement that I have is that over the years I have spoken many times on the role of a husband. And all of those I did as a single man.This is the very first time I am speaking on this subject as a husband myself. And to move from the more sort of biblical theoretical to being in the battle myself to make this truth practical in my own marriage and in my own life. So, I want to say that on the front end as we get into this that I am, I am in the struggle of all these things just as much as anybody here. And, it is very convicting to me and very helpful to spend this time, getting ready and looking at God's design for a a biblical husband. I have found marriage to be people ask me, how's it going?What do you think about marriage? You were single for so many years. I what I say often is that marriage has for me been the the single greatest mechanism for spiritual growth in my entire life. And what I mean by that is that the things that marriage requires are and primarily dying to myself is big thing. But those qualities that marriage requires align very closely with what Christ's likeness looks like.So as I find myself trying to be a good husband, the changes that single Steve is having to make to be married Steve is making me a better Steve overall and making me, I think, hopefully, more mature Christian man, which I want very much. So as we come to this today and we look at God's blueprint for marriage and specifically for for a husband, I just again want to say, I'm in it with you. What does it mean to lead, love, and serve our wives? What does it mean to be a husband? These are all things that I'm struggling with living out every single day.So I hope God blesses this. I think this message has tremendous potential to make a profound difference in the homes and in the marriages of our of our church. Let me also add this. All of Scripture is profitable, and so it doesn't matterif you're married or single. This is God's truth, and we all need to listen to it.And I know that well, having preached it many years as a single man myself. So with that said, let's take a look. We're just studying one verse today. It's all that Peter has to say about the Christian husband. Let's take a look at this one verse and then just milk it for everything that we can.Here is first Peter chapter three verse seven. Here's what it says. “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” K? There it is.K? Let's take this apart. And you'll notice the first word in that verse is the word likewise. We saw the same first word in chapter three verse one. He says, “likewise, wives.”And we find that this is just part of a a sequence, a chain of teaching that goes all the way back to chapter two verse 11 where Peter basically says, hey, what does it look like to be a Christian living in a hostile world, living as an exile? It means that you are working so that your life is earning the respect of unbelievers who may not like what you say about Jesus, but they can't but help but respect the life that you're living. Or to say it another way, that our our our walk needs to sound and look like our talk. And when those two align together, there is a very powerful apologetic for the claims of Christianity. And so we've seen him describe relationships that Christians find themselves in and what what does that look like then.So he beganwith a Christian citizen in relationship to government, that we are to be subject, submissive to government authorities. And then we looked at the employer employee relationship and that a Christian employee is to be a the best employee in that entire company and to have respect for the leadership that is over him. And then we saw in chapter three last week, what does it look like for a Christian woman to be married to an unbelieving spouse? And we talked about how as the gospel went across Asia Minor, you had these marital relationships where a woman believes in Jesus and the husband then does not. How does that Christian woman relate to the husband?It was last week's message. I won't preach it all over again. So this week, how does a Christian husband conduct himself in a marriage? And the assumption here is that he is married to a Christian wife. And the assumption is based on the culture of the day where if a man, as the kind of leader of the household, if he converted to whatever, was expected everybody else in the house would as well.K? So a Christian man who is following Jesus, the the assumption was that his wife would become a Christian, that his that his children and everybody would be a Christian household. Now there are exceptions to that, and maybe you know exceptions to that, where you have a Christian man who's married to an unbelieving wife. We maybe we all know at least maybe somebody like that, but those are rare. K?Those are rare. Much more common to have a woman who's a Christian married to an unbelieving husband, which I think is why Peter addresses it as he did at the beginning of chapter three. Now we find here that Peter highlights two qualities of the Christian husband and two reasons that that ought to be important to him. Okay? Two qualities of the Christian husband and two reasons that that ought to be important to him.Notice quality number one. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way. Live with your wives. Let's start right there. Now this might seem self evident, but the Bible says that husbands need to live with their wives.Okay? So this is a command of address. This is geography. This is proximity. This is what it means.The King James says dwell together, that husbands and wives are to dwell together. I the other day, just drove right around the corner from our Crown Point campus here. There's a little there's a little store that sells decor decor for a home, and it says that on the sign. And the name of the store is Dwellings. Okay?Dwellings. That's where you go for stuff in your home and and knickknacks and all of that. And so what this is saying is that in the home, the husband's the knick and the wife is the knack. Right? They are knickknacks in the same home.In fact, that word for live is a word in antiquity that had sexual overtones to it. It means to be a husband and wife in such proximity and in such closeness where intimacy is not only possible but probable. You are not living at separate addresses. It is not simply a contract where, yeah, I've got a wife and she lives in Oregon somewhere. I, as a husband, am dwelling together.I am living together with my wife. Not just even under the same roof. They live together and they sleep together. Now this is more important than you may realize. And one of the reasons for that is that over the years, I have come across situations where there are married couples where the one spouse has left and has said, you know what?I don't I don't want to divorce you. I just don't want to live with you anymore. And off they go. And the divorce doesn't happen for, like, years. Doesn't happen.And I want you to see in this passage, that is not Christian marriage. That is not marriage, to just simply be illegally married and not dwelling together. How should the church handle a situation like that? The church ought to discipline the spouse that has left, and it frees then the remaining spouse to divorce biblically the the one who left for abandonment as first Corinthians seven teaches. And when that doesn't happen, it leaves normally the woman, the wife in the house, wondering for years what is going to come of this.And that is a very real thing in churches and is a sad thing, and it ought not to happen. Further, I would say this. If you are thinking about getting married to somebody, realize that that person is going to be in your space and in your face for the rest of your life. Choose wisely. To be married is to dwell together for the rest of your life.Notice also with this that to be a husband to a Christian wife, it's not that you're just simply roommates. You're not just kind of you happen to live at the same place where, okay, these are your sort of duties around here and these are my sort of duties around here. It's not an episode of friends where we're just sort of you know, we happen to be at the same place. Rather, he says here that the husband is to live with the wife in a quote understanding way. Literally, the word means according to knowledge.Husbands, did you get that? We live with our wives in a way that we are seeking to understand them. We are seeking to know them, to understand what it is that God has wired them to be, what their likes and dislikes, what their preferences and non preferences, what gets them excited and what is discouraging to them, what their dreams are, etcetera, etcetera. A husband is called to live with his wife not as a roommate, but as a student, as a PhD student of his wife to seek to understand her. Now I got a book here somebody gave me years ago.And I don't if here you can see the title of that. Everything Men Know About Women. And if you look at the top, Fully Reveals the Shocking Truth, Daily News. K? And then you open it up, and there's nothing in it.Everything men know about women. Now that's a joke. Right? But if this is true for a Christian husband, that is a very, very sad marriage. That is a very, very sad wife that he is married to.Why? Because to be a husband is to be a student of your wife. Listen to a well known theologian and and a very experienced husband, Wayne Grudem, on this passage says this, the knowledge Peter intends here may include any knowledge that would be beneficial to the husband wife relationship, knowledge of God's purposes and principles for marriage, Knowledge of the wife's desires, goals, and frustrations. Knowledge of her strengths and weaknesses in the physical, emotional, and spiritual realms. A husband who lives according to knowledge will greatly enrich his marriage relationship.Yet such knowledge can only be gained through regular study of God's word and regular unhurried times of private fellowship together as husband and wife. Husbands, I want to ask you a question right now. What do you feel in your heart when you see or hear a paragraph like this that is calling you to not only care but to seek to understand the way that your wife is wired. Because I'm going to guess many of us see that, and there is inside this negative response to that. There is inside this resistance to wanting to invest the kind of time and energy that it would take to come to know and understand your wife?Where does that like oh, what is that actually? And I'll tell you what it is because I know it in my own heart. It is the worship of me. It is me ism. And a man, we're wired to be independent.We think. We're wired to kind of we want to do our own thing. We want to do it in our own way. And then you get married, And now you have somebody who is in your space and is in your face. And you look in the Bible and you realize, I can't just live independent.We're just not roommates. I'm called biblically. This is the Christian husband that's gonna care what God has to say about something. I'm called to care for my wife and to actually try to understand her. And that resistance flows from pride.And that is what the Holy Spirit is working in the life of the Christian man to destroy. And that is why I say Christian marriage, husbands, and single men thinking about getting married, it is the death of self. What does it mean to be a Christian husband? It is the death of self. And we men, we don't want to die.We're made to fight for life. We're made to survive. We don't want to see who I am die. And yet, as C. S.Lewis said, it is only through death that something can be resurrected. It is not the death of ourselves and then that's it. It is the death of me and the resurrection of a new me. A new me that is not independent, is not only thinking about myself, is not only thinking about my needs, but rather a new me that is interdependent with this feminine beauty that God has placed in my life where now I am intertwined with somebody else. And their needs and their concerns are now my needs and my concerns.And through that resurrection, there is a better me, a more Christ like me, a more loving me. Because what is the essence of love? To live independently, to live for my own needs, or rather to live for the joy of somebody else and to give of myself sacrificially for their joy, which is what Jesus did for us, isn't it? Or it's what Todd Coster did for Brenda to give his own kidney so that she could live. Jesus gives us life so that we can live.And we see that through marriage. And as hard as this is for us and trust me, there are days for me where I I'm not like, yay, die to self. I gotta remind myself what my big priority is, Christ likeness. Romans eight, conform to the likeness of Christ. This is what I want.Even though inside, I don't want to die to myself. But as I do, I know that God is doing a good work inside of me, and, therefore, this is a good thing. And husbands, we have to embrace what God is doing in us, creating us in the likeness of Jesus who died for us. So what does it mean to be a a Christian husband? Number one, I live with my wife.Number two, I live in a manner where I'm seeking to understand her truly. But notice he goes on now, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel. Showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel. Now ladies, please do not bristle at that weaker vessel thing. Because what he is pointing out here is what is, I would say, fairly universally seen and understand is that generally speaking, men are physically stronger than women.Now that said, there's a few sisters here in the church I wouldn't want to make mad. Okay? And we'd have a few contenders for the arm wrestling champion, probably even amongst the ladies in our church. But generally speaking, women are men are physically stronger than women. Now what does that create in the carnal man's heart?The carnal man sees the weakness in women and sees it as an opportunity to exploit them. And if you look down through history at the exploitation of women, it is generally men who are abusing their strength and the woman's weakness for their own selfish needs and their own selfish gains. And we can include things like rape, wife abuse, human trafficking, online predators, and any number of exploitive male activities and actions against women, and all of them are wrong. All of them are not God's will. So physically, we see how men can see that weakness and seek to exploit it.But I think this goes beyond just the physical that women are the weaker vessel to also the emotional. And again, broad stroke here and there are exceptions to this, but generally speaking, women are emotionally more fragile than men are. Again, men look at that and see weakness as maybe something to be exploited. We look in the Bible and see that as being feminine beauty created by the by t…

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    A Husband by Design - Part A Oct 12, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt A Husband by Design - Part A Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:7 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:7 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:7 Sermon Series: Spiritual Exiles Message: A Husband By Design Airdate: 10/12 –10/13/26Programs: 2376 and 2377Well, again, good morning. Good morning to our Cedar Lake campus. And I stand before you today excited about what I get to talk about. And part of the excitement that I have is that over the years I have spoken many times on the role of a husband. And all of those I did as a single man.This is the very first time I am speaking on this subject as a husband myself. And to move from the more sort of biblical theoretical to being in the battle myself to make this truth practical in my own marriage and in my own life. So, I want to say that on the front end as we get into this that I am, I am in the struggle of all these things just as much as anybody here. And, it is very convicting to me and very helpful to spend this time, getting ready and looking at God's design for a a biblical husband. I have found marriage to be people ask me, how's it going?What do you think about marriage? You were single for so many years. I what I say often is that marriage has for me been the the single greatest mechanism for spiritual growth in my entire life. And what I mean by that is that the things that marriage requires are and primarily dying to myself is big thing. But those qualities that marriage requires align very closely with what Christ's likeness looks like.So as I find myself trying to be a good husband, the changes that single Steve is having to make to be married Steve is making me a better Steve overall and making me, I think, hopefully, more mature Christian man, which I want very much. So as we come to this today and we look at God's blueprint for marriage and specifically for for a husband, I just again want to say, I'm in it with you. What does it mean to lead, love, and serve our wives? What does it mean to be a husband? These are all things that I'm struggling with living out every single day.So I hope God blesses this. I think this message has tremendous potential to make a profound difference in the homes and in the marriages of our of our church. Let me also add this. All of Scripture is profitable, and so it doesn't matterif you're married or single. This is God's truth, and we all need to listen to it.And I know that well, having preached it many years as a single man myself. So with that said, let's take a look. We're just studying one verse today. It's all that Peter has to say about the Christian husband. Let's take a look at this one verse and then just milk it for everything that we can.Here is first Peter chapter three verse seven. Here's what it says. “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.” K? There it is.K? Let's take this apart. And you'll notice the first word in that verse is the word likewise. We saw the same first word in chapter three verse one. He says, “likewise, wives.”And we find that this is just part of a a sequence, a chain of teaching that goes all the way back to chapter two verse 11 where Peter basically says, hey, what does it look like to be a Christian living in a hostile world, living as an exile? It means that you are working so that your life is earning the respect of unbelievers who may not like what you say about Jesus, but they can't but help but respect the life that you're living. Or to say it another way, that our our our walk needs to sound and look like our talk. And when those two align together, there is a very powerful apologetic for the claims of Christianity. And so we've seen him describe relationships that Christians find themselves in and what what does that look like then.So he beganwith a Christian citizen in relationship to government, that we are to be subject, submissive to government authorities. And then we looked at the employer employee relationship and that a Christian employee is to be a the best employee in that entire company and to have respect for the leadership that is over him. And then we saw in chapter three last week, what does it look like for a Christian woman to be married to an unbelieving spouse? And we talked about how as the gospel went across Asia Minor, you had these marital relationships where a woman believes in Jesus and the husband then does not. How does that Christian woman relate to the husband?It was last week's message. I won't preach it all over again. So this week, how does a Christian husband conduct himself in a marriage? And the assumption here is that he is married to a Christian wife. And the assumption is based on the culture of the day where if a man, as the kind of leader of the household, if he converted to whatever, was expected everybody else in the house would as well.K? So a Christian man who is following Jesus, the the assumption was that his wife would become a Christian, that his that his children and everybody would be a Christian household. Now there are exceptions to that, and maybe you know exceptions to that, where you have a Christian man who's married to an unbelieving wife. We maybe we all know at least maybe somebody like that, but those are rare. K?Those are rare. Much more common to have a woman who's a Christian married to an unbelieving husband, which I think is why Peter addresses it as he did at the beginning of chapter three. Now we find here that Peter highlights two qualities of the Christian husband and two reasons that that ought to be important to him. Okay? Two qualities of the Christian husband and two reasons that that ought to be important to him.Notice quality number one. Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way. Live with your wives. Let's start right there. Now this might seem self evident, but the Bible says that husbands need to live with their wives.Okay? So this is a command of address. This is geography. This is proximity. This is what it means.The King James says dwell together, that husbands and wives are to dwell together. I the other day, just drove right around the corner from our Crown Point campus here. There's a little there's a little store that sells decor decor for a home, and it says that on the sign. And the name of the store is Dwellings. Okay?Dwellings. That's where you go for stuff in your home and and knickknacks and all of that. And so what this is saying is that in the home, the husband's the knick and the wife is the knack. Right? They are knickknacks in the same home.In fact, that word for live is a word in antiquity that had sexual overtones to it. It means to be a husband and wife in such proximity and in such closeness where intimacy is not only possible but probable. You are not living at separate addresses. It is not simply a contract where, yeah, I've got a wife and she lives in Oregon somewhere. I, as a husband, am dwelling together.I am living together with my wife. Not just even under the same roof. They live together and they sleep together. Now this is more important than you may realize. And one of the reasons for that is that over the years, I have come across situations where there are married couples where the one spouse has left and has said, you know what?I don't I don't want to divorce you. I just don't want to live with you anymore. And off they go. And the divorce doesn't happen for, like, years. Doesn't happen.And I want you to see in this passage, that is not Christian marriage. That is not marriage, to just simply be illegally married and not dwelling together. How should the church handle a situation like that? The church ought to discipline the spouse that has left, and it frees then the remaining spouse to divorce biblically the the one who left for abandonment as first Corinthians seven teaches. And when that doesn't happen, it leaves normally the woman, the wife in the house, wondering for years what is going to come of this.And that is a very real thing in churches and is a sad thing, and it ought not to happen. Further, I would say this. If you are thinking about getting married to somebody, realize that that person is going to be in your space and in your face for the rest of your life. Choose wisely. To be married is to dwell together for the rest of your life.Notice also with this that to be a husband to a Christian wife, it's not that you're just simply roommates. You're not just kind of you happen to live at the same place where, okay, these are your sort of duties around here and these are my sort of duties around here. It's not an episode of friends where we're just sort of you know, we happen to be at the same place. Rather, he says here that the husband is to live with the wife in a quote understanding way. Literally, the word means according to knowledge.Husbands, did you get that? We live with our wives in a way that we are seeking to understand them. We are seeking to know them, to understand what it is that God has wired them to be, what their likes and dislikes, what their preferences and non preferences, what gets them excited and what is discouraging to them, what their dreams are, etcetera, etcetera. A husband is called to live with his wife not as a roommate, but as a student, as a PhD student of his wife to seek to understand her. Now I got a book here somebody gave me years ago.And I don't if here you can see the title of that. Everything Men Know About Women. And if you look at the top, Fully Reveals the Shocking Truth, Daily News. K? And then you open it up, and there's nothing in it.Everything men know about women. Now that's a joke. Right? But if this is true for a Christian husband, that is a very, very sad marriage. That is a very, very sad wife that he is married to.Why? Because to be a husband is to be a student of your wife. Listen to a well known theologian and and a very experienced husband, Wayne Grudem, on this passage says this, the knowledge Peter intends here may include any knowledge that would be beneficial to the husband wife relationship, knowledge of God's purposes and principles for marriage, Knowledge of the wife's desires, goals, and frustrations. Knowledge of her strengths and weaknesses in the physical, emotional, and spiritual realms. A husband who lives according to knowledge will greatly enrich his marriage relationship.Yet such knowledge can only be gained through regular study of God's word and regular unhurried times of private fellowship together as husband and wife. Husbands, I want to ask you a question right now. What do you feel in your heart when you see or hear a paragraph like this that is calling you to not only care but to seek to understand the way that your wife is wired. Because I'm going to guess many of us see that, and there is inside this negative response to that. There is inside this resistance to wanting to invest the kind of time and energy that it would take to come to know and understand your wife?Where does that like oh, what is that actually? And I'll tell you what it is because I know it in my own heart. It is the worship of me. It is me ism. And a man, we're wired to be independent.We think. We're wired to kind of we want to do our own thing. We want to do it in our own way. And then you get married, And now you have somebody who is in your space and is in your face. And you look in the Bible and you realize, I can't just live independent.We're just not roommates. I'm called biblically. This is the Christian husband that's gonna care what God has to say about something. I'm called to care for my wife and to actually try to understand her. And that resistance flows from pride.And that is what the Holy Spirit is working in the life of the Christian man to destroy. And that is why I say Christian marriage, husbands, and single men thinking about getting married, it is the death of self. What does it mean to be a Christian husband? It is the death of self. And we men, we don't want to die.We're made to fight for life. We're made to survive. We don't want to see who I am die. And yet, as C. S.Lewis said, it is only through death that something can be resurrected. It is not the death of ourselves and then that's it. It is the death of me and the resurrection of a new me. A new me that is not independent, is not only thinking about myself, is not only thinking about my needs, but rather a new me that is interdependent with this feminine beauty that God has placed in my life where now I am intertwined with somebody else. And their needs and their concerns are now my needs and my concerns.And through that resurrection, there is a better me, a more Christ like me, a more loving me. Because what is the essence of love? To live independently, to live for my own needs, or rather to live for the joy of somebody else and to give of myself sacrificially for their joy, which is what Jesus did for us, isn't it? Or it's what Todd Coster did for Brenda to give his own kidney so that she could live. Jesus gives us life so that we can live.And we see that through marriage. And as hard as this is for us and trust me, there are days for me where I I'm not like, yay, die to self. I gotta remind myself what my big priority is, Christ likeness. Romans eight, conform to the likeness of Christ. This is what I want.Even though inside, I don't want to die to myself. But as I do, I know that God is doing a good work inside of me, and, therefore, this is a good thing. And husbands, we have to embrace what God is doing in us, creating us in the likeness of Jesus who died for us. So what does it mean to be a a Christian husband? Number one, I live with my wife.Number two, I live in a manner where I'm seeking to understand her truly. But notice he goes on now, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel. Showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel. Now ladies, please do not bristle at that weaker vessel thing. Because what he is pointing out here is what is, I would say, fairly universally seen and understand is that generally speaking, men are physically stronger than women.Now that said, there's a few sisters here in the church I wouldn't want to make mad. Okay? And we'd have a few contenders for the arm wrestling champion, probably even amongst the ladies in our church. But generally speaking, women are men are physically stronger than women. Now what does that create in the carnal man's heart?The carnal man sees the weakness in women and sees it as an opportunity to exploit them. And if you look down through history at the exploitation of women, it is generally men who are abusing their strength and the woman's weakness for their own selfish needs and their own selfish gains. And we can include things like rape, wife abuse, human trafficking, online predators, and any number of exploitive male activities and actions against women, and all of them are wrong. All of them are not God's will. So physically, we see how men can see that weakness and seek to exploit it.But I think this goes beyond just the physical that women are the weaker vessel to also the emotional. And again, broad stroke here and there are exceptions to this, but generally speaking, women are emotionally more fragile than men are. Again, men look at that and see weakness as maybe something to be exploited. We look in the Bible and see that as being feminine beauty created by the by t…

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    So What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated? Oct 11, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt So What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated? Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 2:21-25 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Sermon Series: Spiritual ExilesSo, What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated?Airdate: 10/06 –10/07/26Programs: 2372 and 2373As we come into God’s word now, I wanted to let you know that we’re coming into first Peter chapter three, and we’re basically gonna spend all of May and a little bit of June dealing with the subject of marriage and gender roles and the role of the husband and the role of the wife, modesty. These are all things that Peter addresses in chapter three. And so if you want to think of May as marriage month, come and let’s let’s you know, marriage is in the news lately. Have you noticed? Is there a little confusion in our culture about what marriage is?You bet there is. And so where is that truth gonna be declared and taught if not in the church? And so we are going to be addressing that and letting Peter guide us in biblical view of marriage. Alright. Quick and easy question for you.Have you ever been wronged? Yes. Okay. Wow. That’s a good response there.It’s quick. It’s easy. Why? Because to be human and to live around other human beings is to often and regularly be wronged. We pick up these little offenses, don’t we, in relationships?Some of them are maybe sort of lower level slights, you know, little little things, a little kindness that maybe is unacknowledged or a little word that kinda hits us wrong, and we feel this offense in our heart. Some of them are are more you know, a little bit are bigger, like when we are lied to or when somebody cheats us or where we find out somebody has been gossiping against us. We feel unjustly wronged by somebody else. And then there’s big ones, like really big ones, like adultery and an unbiblical divorce or maybe violence done against us or against a loved one. And these are especially painful when they are done by people that are a part of our family or maybe a fellow Christian, a fellow member in the church, people that we have loved and trusted.Life is filled with these kinds of disappointments, ones that we deem unjust, actions by others that create suffering for us that doesn’t seem fair. And, of course, there is a very natural human response to these things. We don’t have to teach or train, even children in our in our children’s ministry to respond, with retaliation or anger, bitterness, harsh words of some kind. We wanna hurt people back. You’re like, okay.You’re gonna hurt me? Well, then here you go. Right? We look like the the fight last night that was going on. Counter punchand counter punch and punch and counter punch.Too many of our relationships are like that. And so here you have the apostle Peter. He’s writing to a group of people who he knows their faith will create for them many moments where they are gonna have things done against them because they’re doing the right thing, because they’re obeying God. Still, they are going to suffer as a result of doing that at the hands of people that don’t like them, don’t like their faith, don’t agree with their worldview. And so Peter wants them to survive this.How are they going to survive there and to thrive actually as Christians if they can’t get over this unjust suffering thing. If they can’t get over when people do things that hurt them because this was going to happen all the time. And Peter wanted them to thrive in their Christianity, to land on the other side of that unjust suffering, and to indeed love the person who has done that thing against them. And so Peter now transitions in his letter to this whole matter of what I do when I am unjustly treated. And our text today is verses 21 through 25 of first Peter two.I’m gonna begin in verse 20, though, to give the whole sense of it. So please follow along as I read God’s word today. “For what credit is it if when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it, you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. For to this you have been called because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example so that you may follow in his steps.”“He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds, you have been healed.”“For you were straying like sheep, but now have returned to the shepherd and overseer of your souls.” And God’s people said, amen. Amen to that. Alright. We spent time in verse 20 last week.It’s it’s again, it’s a part of this section about Christians in the workplace. Christians that are working for an employer, whether they be a good one or not, what is the proper attitude and action that a Christian should have in the workplace? What should that work ethic be? And Peter here says that we are to be respectful to our employers. We’re to respect their wishes.Our attitude is to be one that we come under their leadership, and we work in the manner that they would have us to work. Now in a perfect world, that means that our employer will love us and treat us wonderfully all the time. Like, every week, a Christmas bonus, every day, flowers, words of affirmation all the time. Who wouldn’t wanna work for a boss like that? But what in reality, what happens in a Greco Roman first century world where the polytheism of the Greek and the Roman pantheons was a huge part of the culture.The highest place in the city was dedicated to that god of the city. And when you come along and say, that god is not a god. Jesus is the only God. He is the only Savior of the world. And that’s what I believe.Is that something that’s gonna help your career? Probably not. Are the people that you work with gonna be like, hey. Let’s have Bible studies together about that. Probably not.In fact, what would that create for a Christian employee in the workplace in a culture like that? We call that a glass ceiling, don’t we? Where I’m coming to the place where I can’t advance anymore. They’re not they’re not moving me along. They don’t believe what I believe.They don’t like what I believe. And so these Christians are are finding themselves in the workplace suffering financially, vocationally, otherwise, at the hands of people who did not agree. That’s why we’re calling them exiles. Right? They were geographical exiles, but really they were spiritual exiles living in a place that was not friendly, that was not home.So Peter wants them, and he wants us the Holy Spirit wants us to know how do we respond? How should we respond when we are the victims of unjust suffering, when we are doing what we think pleases God, what the Bible says is the right thing, whether that be in employ in as an employee or just as a citizen or as a neighbor, a friend, a family member, when people mistreat us because of our faith. How do we respond to that? Do we pull a Pacquiao counter punch? Are we like, oh, it’s on, like Donkey Kong?Right? Is that how Christians respond? And we see Peter here now explaining in a very Christological, he’s tying a Christology to Christian ethics here, and he just lays out the example of Jesus. And notice again, verse 21, “for to this you have been called.” Why?“Because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example that you may follow in his steps.” So Peter here, his answer to that question, hey, I’m suffering because of my faith. Things are happening because of what I believe. Peter, what should I do? Peter says, you look to Christ.Look to the example of Jesus himself. And he unpacks it here in the next verses. But in verse 21, I want you to notice, first of all, that we are called to this. This is not a suggestion. This is not something that, hey, you know what?If it makes sense, follow the example of Jesus. He is saying, this is our calling. This is what we are to do, following the example of our of the Lord Jesus Christ. Secondly, notice that the reason that we are called to this is that Jesus suffered for us. Now we would like to think we’re always the victim in this.Right? We’re the ones that are suffering. Woe is me. And yet the story of the Bible is that we are not always the victim, that we are the perpetrator when it comes to Jesus. Right?Jesus comes to this earth, does nothing but good. Right? Meets the needs of the people. It gives truth, teaches, lives out love. The most loving life that has ever been lived is the life of Jesus.And yet what did mankind do to to Christ? Took him, beat him, persecuted him, killed him on the cross. Jesus suffered at the hands of mankind, and we’re guilty with that. We might as well been the people in the in on that on that morning saying, let his blood and let it let his blood be on our hands and and on our children. Why?We are we are culpable in what happened to Jesus. We are not always the victim. Not when it comes to Jesus. And yet Jesus suffered for us. And in this, he says, provides us an example.K? And the Greek word there for example literally is the word of the first century that teachers would use to help children learn to write. Now to help with this, I I got I got these right here. How many of you remember these? K.Though maybe they don’t do this anymore. I don’t know. This could be old school. But if you remember these things, these were like in my school, they they I think they had a through z, like like lining the top of the walls all the way around the classroom. So that as you’re working on your letters, you could look up and, okay, what does the f look like?And you kinda but we we would have these things, and we would literally we would trace the letter. Do you remember doing that? K. Trace the letter. So we have uppercase A, A A A A, Lowercase A, trace the lowercase B, uppercase B.Now, if you saw my handwriting today, you would know I didn’t do very well with this. Okay? My wife has beautiful handwriting. I am the opposite end of the spectrum. It’s absolutely terrible.It’s embarrassing. So praise God for typing these days. But literally, an example, a template. That’s the Greek wordfirst century.For children following a writing example. Peter says, when it comes to suffering unjustly and the response that we ought to have, Jesus provides for us a template. Our response, our lives are to trace the moral and spiritual character of response that Jesus himself did. So, what did Jesus do? Well, Peter starts with what he didn’t do.K? What he didn’t do. And you’ll notice here in in verse 22 and following, if you had really good eyes and could read the small footnotes, you would see that this section is largely drawn from Isaiah 53. K? Isaiah 53 is the famous chapter in the Old Testament.It is known as the prophecy about the suffering servant. And if we had time, I would go back to that, and we would read it, and you would see that Peter is either quoting or referring to Isaiah 53 numerous times through the end of this chapter. Isaiah 53, such an eloquent picture of the life of Christ that Wes and Lori Taberin our church who lead Life in Messiah ministry. It’s an evangelistic ministry to to Jews. They will just go on the street corner and hand the Bible to a a a Jewish person and say, would you read Isaiah 53?They read Isaiah 53 out loud, and they just simply say, who do you think he’s talking about? Because when you read through Isaiah 53 and the and the and the nature of the life of of the one that is prophesied, it matches up almost exactly to the life of Christ. And it’s almost like as Peter is saying, oh, you wanna know how to respond to unjust suffering? It’s like he has his Bible in one hand, and he’s writing Bible in the other. He’s writing this letter, first Peter.And he’s going Isaiah 53, Isaiah 53. What was true about the suffering servant? Well, quoting exactly, “he committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten.”In this passage, Peter highlights four things Jesus didn’t do. And all four of these are things that naturally in our flesh want to do when somebody has wronged us. Let’s just walk through them. Notice, first of all, “he committed no sin.” Summary statement.Jesus’ response to people that sinned against him was not to to sin in return. He didn’t act or react out of self interest, self protection. There is no carnality. There is no pride. There is no ego.There is no selfishness in his response. Nothing that he did in response was immoral or was sin. Summary statement. Secondly, he didn’t deceive. “Neither was deceit found in his mouth.”Friend, what do you naturally wanna do when you find out that somebody has lied about you? They have said some untrue thing about your character. Our natural response is to say, well, if you’re gonna lie against me, then I guess that’s the moral standard now. You are setting the tone morally for this relationship, so you lied against me. Well, let me just lie against you a little bit.And we want to respond in kind to the person that lies about us, that gossips about us, that slanders us. We think, oh, two can play that game, and I’m fully able to take you down. And on we go with this little tit for tat. We can think of the treachery, for example, of Judas or Peter, who denied knowing Christ three times in his most dire time of need. And in each of those cases, Jesus doesn’t respond with Judas’ behavior.Jesus doesn’t deny that he knew Peter. He doesn’t let their actions be then the moral standard by which he would respond. He didn’t deceive. No deceit was found in his mouth. Notice he doesn’t slander.“When he was reviled, he did not revile in return.” You say, oh, it was Jesus. Nobody said anything bad about him. Actually, you read through the gospels, and you will find that Jesus was maligned throughout his entire ministry. People that were not fans of what he was teaching and what he was doing, they were trying to undermine his stature in the eyes of the people by undermining his character.He was slandered. He was was accused of being born illegitimately, of plotting to overthrow Rome, of wanting to be king of Rome, well, king of, certainly, of of Israel, of demon possession, blasphemy, and mental derangement. Now I don’t know what kind of week you had or what people said about you this week, but I’ll bet that list tops whatever you went through this week. Right? That’s a pretty severe accusation being made against Jesus.Now were any of those things true? No. They were not. They were not true at all. But here is the huge difference between Jesus and us.When we wanna slander somebody, generally, we make up something or we characterize something about them, and we make it bigger than it is, and then we tell other people about it. K? We misrepresent what the person is, and it tears them down. If you’re Jesus, you don’t need to misrepresent anybody. Why?Because you know their heart. Jesus would not have to misrepresent me to take me down in your eyes. He would just have to tell you really the depth of the sin of my own heart. And the same for you. He could just say the truth about us, and it would have taken us down.But he doesn’t respond in like kind. He was slandered against. He doesn’t go around slandering Caiaphas or Pilate or Judas or anybody else. He didn’t return in kind. Fourth, he didn’t threaten.“When he suffered, he did not threaten.” And I just think this is like the easiest, the most natural of all of the responses. You know, we when somebody when somebody threatens us, we wanna threaten them back. How do we threaten people back? We may threaten violence.Right? What on the playground, what does this mean? You coming in here, you’re gonn…

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    A Wife in Exile - Part B Oct 09, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt A Wife in Exile - Part B Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:1-2 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:1-2 Sermon Series: Spiritual Exiles Message: A Wife in Exile Airdate: 10/08 –10/09/26Programs: 2374 and 2375I'd like to begin by telling you about two influential women in my life. Both of these women influential indirectly, but influential all the same. They influenced me by being the moms to my two best friends growing up. My two best friends growing up were Matt Hunley and Brian Woodbury. And I grew up in Iowa.I grew up in Cedar Falls, Iowa, not a big city by any means. Grew up just outside of town. These guys live kind of near me. And we went to the same church. And so I got to know both of them.Actually, Brian and I didn't go to the same church to take that back. But Brian lived nearby, but I'll get into that in a second. So let me tell you about Matt's mom. Her name was Billy. Billy Hunley.There aren't a lot of women named Billy, but that was her name. And Billy was and is to this day one of the most kind of quiet, unassuming women that you would ever meet. Billy was married to Richard. And Richard was not a Christian. He had like a sixties style haircut the whole time I knew him.He kinda worked on cars. He was intimidating. Great big guy. I was afraid of him. I'd be I'd be around their house.I'd just kinda like steer clear of Richard. Billy was quietly a very faithful Christian woman. She was the only spiritual influence that Matt and her brother or his brother Jason had. She hauled them to church, hauled them to vacation bible school, prayer warrior. In fact, recently, Billy said to me, I pray for you every day.I'm 47 years old, and that's been true probably for, you know, thirty years plus. Prayer warrior, quiet, faithful Christian woman, married to a man who had no spiritual interest whatsoever. Brian Woodbury goes down probably as my best friend growing up. Brian lived kind of around the corner in our little neighborhood that we that we lived in. We were the same age, had a lot of same interests.And from the age of about four or five, we were best friends and still are dear friends to this day. His mom, Linda, married to Larry. Larry, not a Christian, no spiritual interest, didn't mind the kids going to church, etcetera. I think maybe enjoyed being away, you know, having his own time on Sunday morning. And so he didn't give them a lot of guff, but there was no spiritual, like, input from him in the home whatsoever.Everything that Brian and his two siblings got, he got from from Linda. And Linda, similarly, faithful in involved in church and faithful in the home, you know, praying with the kids and home devotions and things like that. Linda did all of it. Larry was a kind of an intimidating guy. He was more of an introvert.I also was afraid of him, honestly, in the home. We just sort of steered clear of him. He was a bowler, smoker, just kind of a a dude, no interest at all in spiritual things. Definitely a family man, but none of the spiritual stuff at all. Everything that Brian knew about Jesus, he got from his mom.Between these two families, now five adult children, all five of them believers, all five of them serving in local churches, all five of them raising grandchildren in the faith. I say that to point out to you the incredible influence of a Christian woman in the home. My two best friends, dad, nothing. Both of them come to faith. Both of the their sibling all their siblings following Jesus.And and you see now a generational impact that that these two women's lives had. And you realize the powerful influence of these two women. Now what about Richard and Larry? Today, both of them are dead. Both of them are in heaven.You say, wait a second. I thought you said they have no spiritual interests whatsoever. Absolutely true. All the years that I growing up was true. Both of them, later in life after retirement, professed faith in Jesus Christ, became involved in a local church, and when they died, they went to heaven.Now to what do you attribute these two guys in the end believing in Jesus with with their heart and with their life? In both cases, you could point a few things, but it's primarily those two women in the home living out the Christianity in the way that they did led to both of these men, both of these husbands being in heaven today. So what can we say about the incredible power of a Christian woman in a marriage and a Christian mom in a home? It is literally a little bit of heaven on earth and is such a powerful witness in that marriage that often God uses that faithful woman to bring the husband to Christian faith. Certainly not always the case, but often is the case.And we're studying a letter called first Peter. We've been in it for months now. And this is where Peter gets to now in his letter. And we've been we've been learning as he's writing to Christians who are in exile, and they are geographically in exile, but spiritually, they're in exile as well. They're living in places where they are forced into human relationships that have conflict, spiritual conflict.People that do not agree with their Christianity, do not agree with the claims of Christianity, and are hostile against these people for being Christians. How are they to live? And we've seen already that in terms of being citizens and relating to government, that there's a way to live. And in terms of being an employee with an employer that doesn't look up to your Christianity, there's a way to live. And in both cases, first Peter two twelve, "keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation."And what Peter is saying here is that the character of your lives will enhance and empower the claims that you are making regarding Christianity and is a powerful witness to the reality of a risen savior. That even unbelievers, people hostile to Christianity when they see your life will say, there must be something to this thing. Because look at the way that that guy is living. Look at the way that that woman is living. We've also seen Peter call us to the example of Jesus when we do suffer unjustly because of what people are doing and saying against us.And our natural response is to retaliate and is to be angry and to be bitter. But he puts out the example of Jesus in verse 23. "When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly." And we saw that that word entrusting, it literally means to hand over something.What was Jesus doing as Caiaphas and the Sanhedrin and the Roman legion and Pilate and whoever that guy was that nailed him to the cross? What was Jesus doing with all of these unjust suffering moments? He was taking the offense of them and literally handing them over to his heavenly father. And he could do that because he knew that God would judge justly. He knew about heaven and hell.He knew what God and how God was going to handle all of this wrong that was being done against him. And it freed him then to be to do the counterintuitive thing to us, which is to love our enemies and to respond not with anger and violence, but with kindness and with patience. And we see that Jesus doing that, "father, forgive them. They know not what they do," he utters as he's hanging on the cross. Now as a side note, I write an email to the church almost every week called First Bethleonians.And if you don't get it, let us know because we'd we'd like you to get it. And I use it to sort of supplement things, update things on the church. This last week in my email, I included some resources because the natural question then is, well, wait a second. What if I have a legal recourse against this person? Or there's some other kind of complication.Do I just is that the only thing to do? And there are more bible verses than this one. And so if you didn't get that and you'd like it, let us know because it handles some of these other complicating matters, and it is complicated at times. Okay. So big picture.Peter says, if you're a citizen, there's a way to live within as a citizen in that government. Got it. Check. If you're an employee and your employer is hostile to your Christianity, there's a way that you are to live, check. Got it.But what about a relationship that you're in that you can't get away from? Right? Because if your boss doesn't like your Christianity, you go home at the end of the day, and there's always the weekends. And as a citizen, how much does that impact us? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.But in marriage, that is a relationship that is every single day. You wake up next to that person. You live your life with that person. There is no getting away from that spiritual conflict when you are a person of faith and your spouse is not? What do you do then?And this is what Peter now addresses. And again, we're spending our whole month in on the subject of biblical marriage. Today, we're just looking at verses one and two. So listen as I read God's word, advice for wives married to unbelievers. Here's what it says."Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct." Now notice in the text that the first word of chapter three is likewise. And what that means is that everything he's been saying about citizenship, Christian citizenship, Chris Christian employment, and Jesus, it's still one thought. He's not changed what he's talking about. He's still talking about what about Christianity in exile?What about a wife now who is in this kind of relationship of spiritual opposition with her spouse, with her husband. And here's the reality on the ground, what Peter's addressing. K? We go back in the story. Jesus is resurrected somewhere, dies and resurrected about thirty AD.After that, Pentecost. And we have, as the book of Acts tells us, the story of the spreading of Christianity throughout the Roman Empire. "Begins in Jerusalem, goes out into Samaria, and indeed to the uttermost parts of the earth," led by the apostles and then to the furthest reaches by the apostle Paul himself. So Paul is taking this message. He is planting churches.He is preaching all the way to Rome, indeed beyond Rome, the Christian message goes. Well, guess what happens? As that Christian message goes, there are some people that are believing it and there are some people that are not. And there were some wives that were believing it and husbands who were not. Now I can pause right now and say not a lot has changed.You know, if you were as a as a statistic, if you were to look at how many women versus men respond to the gospel, women typically are spiritual first responders. And why could be a whole another message. But I dare say there's probably hardly a church in the world where there are more men than women. And if we were to do a survey of this room right now, there are probably more women here than there are men here. Women, for whatever reason, little bit more spiritual sensitivity, whatever it is, they respond to the gospel and they believe.And that's what happened in the first century in these Greco Roman Asia Minor cities. You have women who had worshiped at the temple of Zeus or Aphrodite or wherever now believing in Jesus and realizing that pantheon of gods, those aren't gods. Jesus is lord of all. But they're still married to a dude who doesn't believe that. Now they're wondering, what should I do?How do I live in this marriage when my husband either is indifferent or maybe hostile to my Christian faith. Now as a side note as well, he doesn't write to Christian husbands married to unbelieving wives, but the principle here, I think, applies. Now I also want to note that these are women who are involuntarily married to unbelievers. And just to emphasize something, do not look at this passage as some kind of a biblical sanction, Christian, for marrying an unbeliever. You might look at that and say, oh, well, look.I mean, missionary marriages are in the bible. It's biblical. It's fine. The bible is clear that for those that are followers of Jesus and are contemplating marriage, the only option in the will of god is another Christian. You say, where is that?One example. First Corinthians seven thirty nine, "a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes." Okay? So far you're thinking that sounds good.Right? But notice the last clause, "only in the Lord." It is never the will of God for a Christian to marry an unbeliever. And I don't care how dashing he is, how rich he is, how, like, nice he is. He's okay with me going to church and all that.We're cool. We're cool. It's gonna be fine. I tell you, it is not the will of God for you to marry that individual. So don't look at this as some kind of sanction for that.These are women who are already married, and the gospel spreads into their town, and they believe in Christ, and their husband doesn't. What should they do? Realize something else. It was the custom of the day that a wife would worship whatever religion her husband believed in. K?His friends were her friends. His faith and religion was to be her faith and religion. A woman that did not go to the temple of Zeus or Aphrodite or whoever to worship with her husband was a woman in rebellion. That was a woman that was looked down upon. It was not at all culturally acceptable.So what should she do? Does she just go to the Temple Of Zeus and keep her mouth shut? Does she leave the marriage? How what what do I do, Peter? Please help me.And what Peter says here, the apostle Paul also affirms, and that is namely that that marriage now is the mission field for that wife. Listen to what Paul writes in first Corinthians seven. "For how do you know wife whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know husband whether you will save your wife?" The underlying concern for the apostles and the Holy Spirit who wrote this is the eternal state of that spouse.And now the opportunity for that spouse to have a living, breathing Christian every single day. He can't get away from her. That just dawned on me. He can't get away from her and her Christianity all the time. She's living that out now with a purpose and a goal and a desire that eventually he would join her in this one saving faith and would know eternal life even as she does.So this is where Peter goes. Wives, see yourself if you're married to an unbeliever, see yourself as a kind of gospel witness to your husband. Now you might be if you're in this situation, you might say to yourself, but, you know, I am very imperfect. Like, for me to think about being a missionary to my husband, knowing kind of my life, I don't think I qualify. Well, if you think you have to be perfect to be a missionary, you haven't spent much time with missionaries.Because guess what? They're just sinners like the rest of us. Guess what missionaries need every single day? They need the gospel. They need grace.If we had missionaries up here, they'd be amen ing what I'm talking about. They don't reach people because they're such wonderful people. They reach people beca…

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    A Wife in Exile - Part A Oct 08, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt A Wife in Exile - Part A Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 3:1-2 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 3:1-2 Sermon Series: Spiritual Exiles Message: A Wife in Exile Airdate: 10/08 –10/09/26Programs: 2374 and 2375I'd like to begin by telling you about two influential women in my life. Both of these women influential indirectly, but influential all the same. They influenced me by being the moms to my two best friends growing up. My two best friends growing up were Matt Hunley and Brian Woodbury. And I grew up in Iowa.I grew up in Cedar Falls, Iowa, not a big city by any means. Grew up just outside of town. These guys live kind of near me. And we went to the same church. And so I got to know both of them.Actually, Brian and I didn't go to the same church to take that back. But Brian lived nearby, but I'll get into that in a second. So let me tell you about Matt's mom. Her name was Billy. Billy Hunley.There aren't a lot of women named Billy, but that was her name. And Billy was and is to this day one of the most kind of quiet, unassuming women that you would ever meet. Billy was married to Richard. And Richard was not a Christian. He had like a sixties style haircut the whole time I knew him.He kinda worked on cars. He was intimidating. Great big guy. I was afraid of him. I'd be I'd be around their house.I'd just kinda like steer clear of Richard. Billy was quietly a very faithful Christian woman. She was the only spiritual influence that Matt and her brother or his brother Jason had. She hauled them to church, hauled them to vacation bible school, prayer warrior. In fact, recently, Billy said to me, I pray for you every day.I'm 47 years old, and that's been true probably for, you know, thirty years plus. Prayer warrior, quiet, faithful Christian woman, married to a man who had no spiritual interest whatsoever. Brian Woodbury goes down probably as my best friend growing up. Brian lived kind of around the corner in our little neighborhood that we that we lived in. We were the same age, had a lot of same interests.And from the age of about four or five, we were best friends and still are dear friends to this day. His mom, Linda, married to Larry. Larry, not a Christian, no spiritual interest, didn't mind the kids going to church, etcetera. I think maybe enjoyed being away, you know, having his own time on Sunday morning. And so he didn't give them a lot of guff, but there was no spiritual, like, input from him in the home whatsoever.Everything that Brian and his two siblings got, he got from from Linda. And Linda, similarly, faithful in involved in church and faithful in the home, you know, praying with the kids and home devotions and things like that. Linda did all of it. Larry was a kind of an intimidating guy. He was more of an introvert.I also was afraid of him, honestly, in the home. We just sort of steered clear of him. He was a bowler, smoker, just kind of a a dude, no interest at all in spiritual things. Definitely a family man, but none of the spiritual stuff at all. Everything that Brian knew about Jesus, he got from his mom.Between these two families, now five adult children, all five of them believers, all five of them serving in local churches, all five of them raising grandchildren in the faith. I say that to point out to you the incredible influence of a Christian woman in the home. My two best friends, dad, nothing. Both of them come to faith. Both of the their sibling all their siblings following Jesus.And and you see now a generational impact that that these two women's lives had. And you realize the powerful influence of these two women. Now what about Richard and Larry? Today, both of them are dead. Both of them are in heaven.You say, wait a second. I thought you said they have no spiritual interests whatsoever. Absolutely true. All the years that I growing up was true. Both of them, later in life after retirement, professed faith in Jesus Christ, became involved in a local church, and when they died, they went to heaven.Now to what do you attribute these two guys in the end believing in Jesus with with their heart and with their life? In both cases, you could point a few things, but it's primarily those two women in the home living out the Christianity in the way that they did led to both of these men, both of these husbands being in heaven today. So what can we say about the incredible power of a Christian woman in a marriage and a Christian mom in a home? It is literally a little bit of heaven on earth and is such a powerful witness in that marriage that often God uses that faithful woman to bring the husband to Christian faith. Certainly not always the case, but often is the case.And we're studying a letter called first Peter. We've been in it for months now. And this is where Peter gets to now in his letter. And we've been we've been learning as he's writing to Christians who are in exile, and they are geographically in exile, but spiritually, they're in exile as well. They're living in places where they are forced into human relationships that have conflict, spiritual conflict.People that do not agree with their Christianity, do not agree with the claims of Christianity, and are hostile against these people for being Christians. How are they to live? And we've seen already that in terms of being citizens and relating to government, that there's a way to live. And in terms of being an employee with an employer that doesn't look up to your Christianity, there's a way to live. And in both cases, first Peter two twelve, "keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation."And what Peter is saying here is that the character of your lives will enhance and empower the claims that you are making regarding Christianity and is a powerful witness to the reality of a risen savior. That even unbelievers, people hostile to Christianity when they see your life will say, there must be something to this thing. Because look at the way that that guy is living. Look at the way that that woman is living. We've also seen Peter call us to the example of Jesus when we do suffer unjustly because of what people are doing and saying against us.And our natural response is to retaliate and is to be angry and to be bitter. But he puts out the example of Jesus in verse 23. "When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly." And we saw that that word entrusting, it literally means to hand over something.What was Jesus doing as Caiaphas and the Sanhedrin and the Roman legion and Pilate and whoever that guy was that nailed him to the cross? What was Jesus doing with all of these unjust suffering moments? He was taking the offense of them and literally handing them over to his heavenly father. And he could do that because he knew that God would judge justly. He knew about heaven and hell.He knew what God and how God was going to handle all of this wrong that was being done against him. And it freed him then to be to do the counterintuitive thing to us, which is to love our enemies and to respond not with anger and violence, but with kindness and with patience. And we see that Jesus doing that, "father, forgive them. They know not what they do," he utters as he's hanging on the cross. Now as a side note, I write an email to the church almost every week called First Bethleonians.And if you don't get it, let us know because we'd we'd like you to get it. And I use it to sort of supplement things, update things on the church. This last week in my email, I included some resources because the natural question then is, well, wait a second. What if I have a legal recourse against this person? Or there's some other kind of complication.Do I just is that the only thing to do? And there are more bible verses than this one. And so if you didn't get that and you'd like it, let us know because it handles some of these other complicating matters, and it is complicated at times. Okay. So big picture.Peter says, if you're a citizen, there's a way to live within as a citizen in that government. Got it. Check. If you're an employee and your employer is hostile to your Christianity, there's a way that you are to live, check. Got it.But what about a relationship that you're in that you can't get away from? Right? Because if your boss doesn't like your Christianity, you go home at the end of the day, and there's always the weekends. And as a citizen, how much does that impact us? Sometimes yes, sometimes no.But in marriage, that is a relationship that is every single day. You wake up next to that person. You live your life with that person. There is no getting away from that spiritual conflict when you are a person of faith and your spouse is not? What do you do then?And this is what Peter now addresses. And again, we're spending our whole month in on the subject of biblical marriage. Today, we're just looking at verses one and two. So listen as I read God's word, advice for wives married to unbelievers. Here's what it says."Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives when they see your respectful and pure conduct." Now notice in the text that the first word of chapter three is likewise. And what that means is that everything he's been saying about citizenship, Christian citizenship, Chris Christian employment, and Jesus, it's still one thought. He's not changed what he's talking about. He's still talking about what about Christianity in exile?What about a wife now who is in this kind of relationship of spiritual opposition with her spouse, with her husband. And here's the reality on the ground, what Peter's addressing. K? We go back in the story. Jesus is resurrected somewhere, dies and resurrected about thirty AD.After that, Pentecost. And we have, as the book of Acts tells us, the story of the spreading of Christianity throughout the Roman Empire. "Begins in Jerusalem, goes out into Samaria, and indeed to the uttermost parts of the earth," led by the apostles and then to the furthest reaches by the apostle Paul himself. So Paul is taking this message. He is planting churches.He is preaching all the way to Rome, indeed beyond Rome, the Christian message goes. Well, guess what happens? As that Christian message goes, there are some people that are believing it and there are some people that are not. And there were some wives that were believing it and husbands who were not. Now I can pause right now and say not a lot has changed.You know, if you were as a as a statistic, if you were to look at how many women versus men respond to the gospel, women typically are spiritual first responders. And why could be a whole another message. But I dare say there's probably hardly a church in the world where there are more men than women. And if we were to do a survey of this room right now, there are probably more women here than there are men here. Women, for whatever reason, little bit more spiritual sensitivity, whatever it is, they respond to the gospel and they believe.And that's what happened in the first century in these Greco Roman Asia Minor cities. You have women who had worshiped at the temple of Zeus or Aphrodite or wherever now believing in Jesus and realizing that pantheon of gods, those aren't gods. Jesus is lord of all. But they're still married to a dude who doesn't believe that. Now they're wondering, what should I do?How do I live in this marriage when my husband either is indifferent or maybe hostile to my Christian faith. Now as a side note as well, he doesn't write to Christian husbands married to unbelieving wives, but the principle here, I think, applies. Now I also want to note that these are women who are involuntarily married to unbelievers. And just to emphasize something, do not look at this passage as some kind of a biblical sanction, Christian, for marrying an unbeliever. You might look at that and say, oh, well, look.I mean, missionary marriages are in the bible. It's biblical. It's fine. The bible is clear that for those that are followers of Jesus and are contemplating marriage, the only option in the will of god is another Christian. You say, where is that?One example. First Corinthians seven thirty nine, "a wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes." Okay? So far you're thinking that sounds good.Right? But notice the last clause, "only in the Lord." It is never the will of God for a Christian to marry an unbeliever. And I don't care how dashing he is, how rich he is, how, like, nice he is. He's okay with me going to church and all that.We're cool. We're cool. It's gonna be fine. I tell you, it is not the will of God for you to marry that individual. So don't look at this as some kind of sanction for that.These are women who are already married, and the gospel spreads into their town, and they believe in Christ, and their husband doesn't. What should they do? Realize something else. It was the custom of the day that a wife would worship whatever religion her husband believed in. K?His friends were her friends. His faith and religion was to be her faith and religion. A woman that did not go to the temple of Zeus or Aphrodite or whoever to worship with her husband was a woman in rebellion. That was a woman that was looked down upon. It was not at all culturally acceptable.So what should she do? Does she just go to the Temple Of Zeus and keep her mouth shut? Does she leave the marriage? How what what do I do, Peter? Please help me.And what Peter says here, the apostle Paul also affirms, and that is namely that that marriage now is the mission field for that wife. Listen to what Paul writes in first Corinthians seven. "For how do you know wife whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know husband whether you will save your wife?" The underlying concern for the apostles and the Holy Spirit who wrote this is the eternal state of that spouse.And now the opportunity for that spouse to have a living, breathing Christian every single day. He can't get away from her. That just dawned on me. He can't get away from her and her Christianity all the time. She's living that out now with a purpose and a goal and a desire that eventually he would join her in this one saving faith and would know eternal life even as she does.So this is where Peter goes. Wives, see yourself if you're married to an unbeliever, see yourself as a kind of gospel witness to your husband. Now you might be if you're in this situation, you might say to yourself, but, you know, I am very imperfect. Like, for me to think about being a missionary to my husband, knowing kind of my life, I don't think I qualify. Well, if you think you have to be perfect to be a missionary, you haven't spent much time with missionaries.Because guess what? They're just sinners like the rest of us. Guess what missionaries need every single day? They need the gospel. They need grace.If we had missionaries up here, they'd be amen ing what I'm talking about. They don't reach people because they're such wonderful people. They reach people beca…

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    So What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated? - Part B Oct 07, 2026
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    Steve DeWitt So What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated? - Part B Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 2:21-25 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Sermon Series: Spiritual ExilesSo, What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated?Airdate: 10/06 –10/07/26Programs: 2372 and 2373As we come into God’s word now, I wanted to let you know that we’re coming into first Peter chapter three, and we’re basically gonna spend all of May and a little bit of June dealing with the subject of marriage and gender roles and the role of the husband and the role of the wife, modesty. These are all things that Peter addresses in chapter three. And so if you want to think of May as marriage month, come and let’s let’s you know, marriage is in the news lately. Have you noticed? Is there a little confusion in our culture about what marriage is?You bet there is. And so where is that truth gonna be declared and taught if not in the church? And so we are going to be addressing that and letting Peter guide us in biblical view of marriage. Alright. Quick and easy question for you.Have you ever been wronged? Yes. Okay. Wow. That’s a good response there.It’s quick. It’s easy. Why? Because to be human and to live around other human beings is to often and regularly be wronged. We pick up these little offenses, don’t we, in relationships?Some of them are maybe sort of lower level slights, you know, little little things, a little kindness that maybe is unacknowledged or a little word that kinda hits us wrong, and we feel this offense in our heart. Some of them are are more you know, a little bit are bigger, like when we are lied to or when somebody cheats us or where we find out somebody has been gossiping against us. We feel unjustly wronged by somebody else. And then there’s big ones, like really big ones, like adultery and an unbiblical divorce or maybe violence done against us or against a loved one. And these are especially painful when they are done by people that are a part of our family or maybe a fellow Christian, a fellow member in the church, people that we have loved and trusted.Life is filled with these kinds of disappointments, ones that we deem unjust, actions by others that create suffering for us that doesn’t seem fair. And, of course, there is a very natural human response to these things. We don’t have to teach or train, even children in our in our children’s ministry to respond, with retaliation or anger, bitterness, harsh words of some kind. We wanna hurt people back. You’re like, okay.You’re gonna hurt me? Well, then here you go. Right? We look like the the fight last night that was going on. Counter punchand counter punch and punch and counter punch.Too many of our relationships are like that. And so here you have the apostle Peter. He’s writing to a group of people who he knows their faith will create for them many moments where they are gonna have things done against them because they’re doing the right thing, because they’re obeying God. Still, they are going to suffer as a result of doing that at the hands of people that don’t like them, don’t like their faith, don’t agree with their worldview. And so Peter wants them to survive this.How are they going to survive there and to thrive actually as Christians if they can’t get over this unjust suffering thing. If they can’t get over when people do things that hurt them because this was going to happen all the time. And Peter wanted them to thrive in their Christianity, to land on the other side of that unjust suffering, and to indeed love the person who has done that thing against them. And so Peter now transitions in his letter to this whole matter of what I do when I am unjustly treated. And our text today is verses 21 through 25 of first Peter two.I’m gonna begin in verse 20, though, to give the whole sense of it. So please follow along as I read God’s word today. “For what credit is it if when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it, you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. For to this you have been called because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example so that you may follow in his steps.”“He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds, you have been healed.”“For you were straying like sheep, but now have returned to the shepherd and overseer of your souls.” And God’s people said, amen. Amen to that. Alright. We spent time in verse 20 last week.It’s it’s again, it’s a part of this section about Christians in the workplace. Christians that are working for an employer, whether they be a good one or not, what is the proper attitude and action that a Christian should have in the workplace? What should that work ethic be? And Peter here says that we are to be respectful to our employers. We’re to respect their wishes.Our attitude is to be one that we come under their leadership, and we work in the manner that they would have us to work. Now in a perfect world, that means that our employer will love us and treat us wonderfully all the time. Like, every week, a Christmas bonus, every day, flowers, words of affirmation all the time. Who wouldn’t wanna work for a boss like that? But what in reality, what happens in a Greco Roman first century world where the polytheism of the Greek and the Roman pantheons was a huge part of the culture.The highest place in the city was dedicated to that god of the city. And when you come along and say, that god is not a god. Jesus is the only God. He is the only Savior of the world. And that’s what I believe.Is that something that’s gonna help your career? Probably not. Are the people that you work with gonna be like, hey. Let’s have Bible studies together about that. Probably not.In fact, what would that create for a Christian employee in the workplace in a culture like that? We call that a glass ceiling, don’t we? Where I’m coming to the place where I can’t advance anymore. They’re not they’re not moving me along. They don’t believe what I believe.They don’t like what I believe. And so these Christians are are finding themselves in the workplace suffering financially, vocationally, otherwise, at the hands of people who did not agree. That’s why we’re calling them exiles. Right? They were geographical exiles, but really they were spiritual exiles living in a place that was not friendly, that was not home.So Peter wants them, and he wants us the Holy Spirit wants us to know how do we respond? How should we respond when we are the victims of unjust suffering, when we are doing what we think pleases God, what the Bible says is the right thing, whether that be in employ in as an employee or just as a citizen or as a neighbor, a friend, a family member, when people mistreat us because of our faith. How do we respond to that? Do we pull a Pacquiao counter punch? Are we like, oh, it’s on, like Donkey Kong?Right? Is that how Christians respond? And we see Peter here now explaining in a very Christological, he’s tying a Christology to Christian ethics here, and he just lays out the example of Jesus. And notice again, verse 21, “for to this you have been called.” Why?“Because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example that you may follow in his steps.” So Peter here, his answer to that question, hey, I’m suffering because of my faith. Things are happening because of what I believe. Peter, what should I do? Peter says, you look to Christ.Look to the example of Jesus himself. And he unpacks it here in the next verses. But in verse 21, I want you to notice, first of all, that we are called to this. This is not a suggestion. This is not something that, hey, you know what?If it makes sense, follow the example of Jesus. He is saying, this is our calling. This is what we are to do, following the example of our of the Lord Jesus Christ. Secondly, notice that the reason that we are called to this is that Jesus suffered for us. Now we would like to think we’re always the victim in this.Right? We’re the ones that are suffering. Woe is me. And yet the story of the Bible is that we are not always the victim, that we are the perpetrator when it comes to Jesus. Right?Jesus comes to this earth, does nothing but good. Right? Meets the needs of the people. It gives truth, teaches, lives out love. The most loving life that has ever been lived is the life of Jesus.And yet what did mankind do to to Christ? Took him, beat him, persecuted him, killed him on the cross. Jesus suffered at the hands of mankind, and we’re guilty with that. We might as well been the people in the in on that on that morning saying, let his blood and let it let his blood be on our hands and and on our children. Why?We are we are culpable in what happened to Jesus. We are not always the victim. Not when it comes to Jesus. And yet Jesus suffered for us. And in this, he says, provides us an example.K? And the Greek word there for example literally is the word of the first century that teachers would use to help children learn to write. Now to help with this, I I got I got these right here. How many of you remember these? K.Though maybe they don’t do this anymore. I don’t know. This could be old school. But if you remember these things, these were like in my school, they they I think they had a through z, like like lining the top of the walls all the way around the classroom. So that as you’re working on your letters, you could look up and, okay, what does the f look like?And you kinda but we we would have these things, and we would literally we would trace the letter. Do you remember doing that? K. Trace the letter. So we have uppercase A, A A A A, Lowercase A, trace the lowercase B, uppercase B.Now, if you saw my handwriting today, you would know I didn’t do very well with this. Okay? My wife has beautiful handwriting. I am the opposite end of the spectrum. It’s absolutely terrible.It’s embarrassing. So praise God for typing these days. But literally, an example, a template. That’s the Greek wordfirst century.For children following a writing example. Peter says, when it comes to suffering unjustly and the response that we ought to have, Jesus provides for us a template. Our response, our lives are to trace the moral and spiritual character of response that Jesus himself did. So, what did Jesus do? Well, Peter starts with what he didn’t do.K? What he didn’t do. And you’ll notice here in in verse 22 and following, if you had really good eyes and could read the small footnotes, you would see that this section is largely drawn from Isaiah 53. K? Isaiah 53 is the famous chapter in the Old Testament.It is known as the prophecy about the suffering servant. And if we had time, I would go back to that, and we would read it, and you would see that Peter is either quoting or referring to Isaiah 53 numerous times through the end of this chapter. Isaiah 53, such an eloquent picture of the life of Christ that Wes and Lori Taberin our church who lead Life in Messiah ministry. It’s an evangelistic ministry to to Jews. They will just go on the street corner and hand the Bible to a a a Jewish person and say, would you read Isaiah 53?They read Isaiah 53 out loud, and they just simply say, who do you think he’s talking about? Because when you read through Isaiah 53 and the and the and the nature of the life of of the one that is prophesied, it matches up almost exactly to the life of Christ. And it’s almost like as Peter is saying, oh, you wanna know how to respond to unjust suffering? It’s like he has his Bible in one hand, and he’s writing Bible in the other. He’s writing this letter, first Peter.And he’s going Isaiah 53, Isaiah 53. What was true about the suffering servant? Well, quoting exactly, “he committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten.”In this passage, Peter highlights four things Jesus didn’t do. And all four of these are things that naturally in our flesh want to do when somebody has wronged us. Let’s just walk through them. Notice, first of all, “he committed no sin.” Summary statement.Jesus’ response to people that sinned against him was not to to sin in return. He didn’t act or react out of self interest, self protection. There is no carnality. There is no pride. There is no ego.There is no selfishness in his response. Nothing that he did in response was immoral or was sin. Summary statement. Secondly, he didn’t deceive. “Neither was deceit found in his mouth.”Friend, what do you naturally wanna do when you find out that somebody has lied about you? They have said some untrue thing about your character. Our natural response is to say, well, if you’re gonna lie against me, then I guess that’s the moral standard now. You are setting the tone morally for this relationship, so you lied against me. Well, let me just lie against you a little bit.And we want to respond in kind to the person that lies about us, that gossips about us, that slanders us. We think, oh, two can play that game, and I’m fully able to take you down. And on we go with this little tit for tat. We can think of the treachery, for example, of Judas or Peter, who denied knowing Christ three times in his most dire time of need. And in each of those cases, Jesus doesn’t respond with Judas’ behavior.Jesus doesn’t deny that he knew Peter. He doesn’t let their actions be then the moral standard by which he would respond. He didn’t deceive. No deceit was found in his mouth. Notice he doesn’t slander.“When he was reviled, he did not revile in return.” You say, oh, it was Jesus. Nobody said anything bad about him. Actually, you read through the gospels, and you will find that Jesus was maligned throughout his entire ministry. People that were not fans of what he was teaching and what he was doing, they were trying to undermine his stature in the eyes of the people by undermining his character.He was slandered. He was was accused of being born illegitimately, of plotting to overthrow Rome, of wanting to be king of Rome, well, king of, certainly, of of Israel, of demon possession, blasphemy, and mental derangement. Now I don’t know what kind of week you had or what people said about you this week, but I’ll bet that list tops whatever you went through this week. Right? That’s a pretty severe accusation being made against Jesus.Now were any of those things true? No. They were not. They were not true at all. But here is the huge difference between Jesus and us.When we wanna slander somebody, generally, we make up something or we characterize something about them, and we make it bigger than it is, and then we tell other people about it. K? We misrepresent what the person is, and it tears them down. If you’re Jesus, you don’t need to misrepresent anybody. Why?Because you know their heart. Jesus would not have to misrepresent me to take me down in your eyes. He would just have to tell you really the depth of the sin of my own heart. And the same for you. He could just say the truth about us, and it would have taken us down.But he doesn’t respond in like kind. He was slandered against. He doesn’t go around slandering Caiaphas or Pilate or Judas or anybody else. He didn’t return in kind. Fourth, he didn’t threaten.“When he suffered, he did not threaten.” And I just think this is like the easiest, the most natural of all of the responses. You know, we when somebody when somebody threatens us, we wanna threaten them back. How do we threaten people back? We may threaten violence.Right? What on the playground, what does this mean? You coming in here, yo…

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    Steve DeWitt So What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated? - Part A Download Study Guide for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Scripture Reference: 1 Peter 2:21-25 Visit the series page: Exiles: A study in 1 Peter Donate to Support The Journey Sermon Transcript for Spiritual Exiles, 1 Peter 2:21-25 Sermon Series: Spiritual ExilesSo, What Do I Do When I Am Unjustly Treated?Airdate: 10/06 –10/07/26Programs: 2372 and 2373As we come into God’s word now, I wanted to let you know that we’re coming into first Peter chapter three, and we’re basically gonna spend all of May and a little bit of June dealing with the subject of marriage and gender roles and the role of the husband and the role of the wife, modesty. These are all things that Peter addresses in chapter three. And so if you want to think of May as marriage month, come and let’s let’s you know, marriage is in the news lately. Have you noticed? Is there a little confusion in our culture about what marriage is?You bet there is. And so where is that truth gonna be declared and taught if not in the church? And so we are going to be addressing that and letting Peter guide us in biblical view of marriage. Alright. Quick and easy question for you.Have you ever been wronged? Yes. Okay. Wow. That’s a good response there.It’s quick. It’s easy. Why? Because to be human and to live around other human beings is to often and regularly be wronged. We pick up these little offenses, don’t we, in relationships?Some of them are maybe sort of lower level slights, you know, little little things, a little kindness that maybe is unacknowledged or a little word that kinda hits us wrong, and we feel this offense in our heart. Some of them are are more you know, a little bit are bigger, like when we are lied to or when somebody cheats us or where we find out somebody has been gossiping against us. We feel unjustly wronged by somebody else. And then there’s big ones, like really big ones, like adultery and an unbiblical divorce or maybe violence done against us or against a loved one. And these are especially painful when they are done by people that are a part of our family or maybe a fellow Christian, a fellow member in the church, people that we have loved and trusted.Life is filled with these kinds of disappointments, ones that we deem unjust, actions by others that create suffering for us that doesn’t seem fair. And, of course, there is a very natural human response to these things. We don’t have to teach or train, even children in our in our children’s ministry to respond, with retaliation or anger, bitterness, harsh words of some kind. We wanna hurt people back. You’re like, okay.You’re gonna hurt me? Well, then here you go. Right? We look like the the fight last night that was going on. Counter punchand counter punch and punch and counter punch.Too many of our relationships are like that. And so here you have the apostle Peter. He’s writing to a group of people who he knows their faith will create for them many moments where they are gonna have things done against them because they’re doing the right thing, because they’re obeying God. Still, they are going to suffer as a result of doing that at the hands of people that don’t like them, don’t like their faith, don’t agree with their worldview. And so Peter wants them to survive this.How are they going to survive there and to thrive actually as Christians if they can’t get over this unjust suffering thing. If they can’t get over when people do things that hurt them because this was going to happen all the time. And Peter wanted them to thrive in their Christianity, to land on the other side of that unjust suffering, and to indeed love the person who has done that thing against them. And so Peter now transitions in his letter to this whole matter of what I do when I am unjustly treated. And our text today is verses 21 through 25 of first Peter two.I’m gonna begin in verse 20, though, to give the whole sense of it. So please follow along as I read God’s word today. “For what credit is it if when you sin and are beaten for it, you endure? But if when you do good and suffer for it, you endure, this is a gracious thing in the sight of God. For to this you have been called because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example so that you may follow in his steps.”“He committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly. He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds, you have been healed.”“For you were straying like sheep, but now have returned to the shepherd and overseer of your souls.” And God’s people said, amen. Amen to that. Alright. We spent time in verse 20 last week.It’s it’s again, it’s a part of this section about Christians in the workplace. Christians that are working for an employer, whether they be a good one or not, what is the proper attitude and action that a Christian should have in the workplace? What should that work ethic be? And Peter here says that we are to be respectful to our employers. We’re to respect their wishes.Our attitude is to be one that we come under their leadership, and we work in the manner that they would have us to work. Now in a perfect world, that means that our employer will love us and treat us wonderfully all the time. Like, every week, a Christmas bonus, every day, flowers, words of affirmation all the time. Who wouldn’t wanna work for a boss like that? But what in reality, what happens in a Greco Roman first century world where the polytheism of the Greek and the Roman pantheons was a huge part of the culture.The highest place in the city was dedicated to that god of the city. And when you come along and say, that god is not a god. Jesus is the only God. He is the only Savior of the world. And that’s what I believe.Is that something that’s gonna help your career? Probably not. Are the people that you work with gonna be like, hey. Let’s have Bible studies together about that. Probably not.In fact, what would that create for a Christian employee in the workplace in a culture like that? We call that a glass ceiling, don’t we? Where I’m coming to the place where I can’t advance anymore. They’re not they’re not moving me along. They don’t believe what I believe.They don’t like what I believe. And so these Christians are are finding themselves in the workplace suffering financially, vocationally, otherwise, at the hands of people who did not agree. That’s why we’re calling them exiles. Right? They were geographical exiles, but really they were spiritual exiles living in a place that was not friendly, that was not home.So Peter wants them, and he wants us the Holy Spirit wants us to know how do we respond? How should we respond when we are the victims of unjust suffering, when we are doing what we think pleases God, what the Bible says is the right thing, whether that be in employ in as an employee or just as a citizen or as a neighbor, a friend, a family member, when people mistreat us because of our faith. How do we respond to that? Do we pull a Pacquiao counter punch? Are we like, oh, it’s on, like Donkey Kong?Right? Is that how Christians respond? And we see Peter here now explaining in a very Christological, he’s tying a Christology to Christian ethics here, and he just lays out the example of Jesus. And notice again, verse 21, “for to this you have been called.” Why?“Because Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an example that you may follow in his steps.” So Peter here, his answer to that question, hey, I’m suffering because of my faith. Things are happening because of what I believe. Peter, what should I do? Peter says, you look to Christ.Look to the example of Jesus himself. And he unpacks it here in the next verses. But in verse 21, I want you to notice, first of all, that we are called to this. This is not a suggestion. This is not something that, hey, you know what?If it makes sense, follow the example of Jesus. He is saying, this is our calling. This is what we are to do, following the example of our of the Lord Jesus Christ. Secondly, notice that the reason that we are called to this is that Jesus suffered for us. Now we would like to think we’re always the victim in this.Right? We’re the ones that are suffering. Woe is me. And yet the story of the Bible is that we are not always the victim, that we are the perpetrator when it comes to Jesus. Right?Jesus comes to this earth, does nothing but good. Right? Meets the needs of the people. It gives truth, teaches, lives out love. The most loving life that has ever been lived is the life of Jesus.And yet what did mankind do to to Christ? Took him, beat him, persecuted him, killed him on the cross. Jesus suffered at the hands of mankind, and we’re guilty with that. We might as well been the people in the in on that on that morning saying, let his blood and let it let his blood be on our hands and and on our children. Why?We are we are culpable in what happened to Jesus. We are not always the victim. Not when it comes to Jesus. And yet Jesus suffered for us. And in this, he says, provides us an example.K? And the Greek word there for example literally is the word of the first century that teachers would use to help children learn to write. Now to help with this, I I got I got these right here. How many of you remember these? K.Though maybe they don’t do this anymore. I don’t know. This could be old school. But if you remember these things, these were like in my school, they they I think they had a through z, like like lining the top of the walls all the way around the classroom. So that as you’re working on your letters, you could look up and, okay, what does the f look like?And you kinda but we we would have these things, and we would literally we would trace the letter. Do you remember doing that? K. Trace the letter. So we have uppercase A, A A A A, Lowercase A, trace the lowercase B, uppercase B.Now, if you saw my handwriting today, you would know I didn’t do very well with this. Okay? My wife has beautiful handwriting. I am the opposite end of the spectrum. It’s absolutely terrible.It’s embarrassing. So praise God for typing these days. But literally, an example, a template. That’s the Greek wordfirst century.For children following a writing example. Peter says, when it comes to suffering unjustly and the response that we ought to have, Jesus provides for us a template. Our response, our lives are to trace the moral and spiritual character of response that Jesus himself did. So, what did Jesus do? Well, Peter starts with what he didn’t do.K? What he didn’t do. And you’ll notice here in in verse 22 and following, if you had really good eyes and could read the small footnotes, you would see that this section is largely drawn from Isaiah 53. K? Isaiah 53 is the famous chapter in the Old Testament.It is known as the prophecy about the suffering servant. And if we had time, I would go back to that, and we would read it, and you would see that Peter is either quoting or referring to Isaiah 53 numerous times through the end of this chapter. Isaiah 53, such an eloquent picture of the life of Christ that Wes and Lori Taberin our church who lead Life in Messiah ministry. It’s an evangelistic ministry to to Jews. They will just go on the street corner and hand the Bible to a a a Jewish person and say, would you read Isaiah 53?They read Isaiah 53 out loud, and they just simply say, who do you think he’s talking about? Because when you read through Isaiah 53 and the and the and the nature of the life of of the one that is prophesied, it matches up almost exactly to the life of Christ. And it’s almost like as Peter is saying, oh, you wanna know how to respond to unjust suffering? It’s like he has his Bible in one hand, and he’s writing Bible in the other. He’s writing this letter, first Peter.And he’s going Isaiah 53, Isaiah 53. What was true about the suffering servant? Well, quoting exactly, “he committed no sin, neither was deceit found in his mouth. When he was reviled, he did not revile in return. When he suffered, he did not threaten.”In this passage, Peter highlights four things Jesus didn’t do. And all four of these are things that naturally in our flesh want to do when somebody has wronged us. Let’s just walk through them. Notice, first of all, “he committed no sin.” Summary statement.Jesus’ response to people that sinned against him was not to to sin in return. He didn’t act or react out of self interest, self protection. There is no carnality. There is no pride. There is no ego.There is no selfishness in his response. Nothing that he did in response was immoral or was sin. Summary statement. Secondly, he didn’t deceive. “Neither was deceit found in his mouth.”Friend, what do you naturally wanna do when you find out that somebody has lied about you? They have said some untrue thing about your character. Our natural response is to say, well, if you’re gonna lie against me, then I guess that’s the moral standard now. You are setting the tone morally for this relationship, so you lied against me. Well, let me just lie against you a little bit.And we want to respond in kind to the person that lies about us, that gossips about us, that slanders us. We think, oh, two can play that game, and I’m fully able to take you down. And on we go with this little tit for tat. We can think of the treachery, for example, of Judas or Peter, who denied knowing Christ three times in his most dire time of need. And in each of those cases, Jesus doesn’t respond with Judas’ behavior.Jesus doesn’t deny that he knew Peter. He doesn’t let their actions be then the moral standard by which he would respond. He didn’t deceive. No deceit was found in his mouth. Notice he doesn’t slander.“When he was reviled, he did not revile in return.” You say, oh, it was Jesus. Nobody said anything bad about him. Actually, you read through the gospels, and you will find that Jesus was maligned throughout his entire ministry. People that were not fans of what he was teaching and what he was doing, they were trying to undermine his stature in the eyes of the people by undermining his character.He was slandered. He was was accused of being born illegitimately, of plotting to overthrow Rome, of wanting to be king of Rome, well, king of, certainly, of of Israel, of demon possession, blasphemy, and mental derangement. Now I don’t know what kind of week you had or what people said about you this week, but I’ll bet that list tops whatever you went through this week. Right? That’s a pretty severe accusation being made against Jesus.Now were any of those things true? No. They were not. They were not true at all. But here is the huge difference between Jesus and us.When we wanna slander somebody, generally, we make up something or we characterize something about them, and we make it bigger than it is, and then we tell other people about it. K? We misrepresent what the person is, and it tears them down. If you’re Jesus, you don’t need to misrepresent anybody. Why?Because you know their heart. Jesus would not have to misrepresent me to take me down in your eyes. He would just have to tell you really the depth of the sin of my own heart. And the same for you. He could just say the truth about us, and it would have taken us down.But he doesn’t respond in like kind. He was slandered against. He doesn’t go around slandering Caiaphas or Pilate or Judas or anybody else. He didn’t return in kind. Fourth, he didn’t threaten.“When he suffered, he did not threaten.” And I just think this is like the easiest, the most natural of all of the responses. You know, we when somebody when somebody threatens us, we wanna threaten them back. How do we threaten people back? We may threaten violence.Right? What on the playground, what does this mean? You coming in here, yo…

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