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911: Esther Perel | Cheating, Argument, and Conflict Oct 17, 2023

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Where should we begin examining our problems with relationships, cheating, conflict, and more? Legendary therapist Esther Perel talks us through it here!

What We Discuss with Esther Perel:

People who cheat don't necessarily want to leave their partner — they want to leave what they have become, or to get in touch with another part of themselves that they miss.
Is monogamy a state that mating humans evolved toward naturally, or is it more of a social construct imposed for the sake of control?
Most of us don't argue because we love conflict, but because we're trying to galvanize some kind of change that requires another person's participation. So how can we argue better for the sake of both parties?
What we can learn from conflict — especially with respect to creating connection.
As an expert in intimacy and human connection, where does Esther see us heading as a species when we can all have bespoke AI in our pocket that just exists to make us happy?
And much more...

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910: 90% of the Time, Parents Aren't Toxic Every Time | Feedback Friday Oct 13, 2023

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How do you and your sis endure life under your parents—who are "only" abusive 10% of the time—until you're old enough to leave? Welcome to Feedback Friday!

And in case you didn't already know it, Jordan Harbinger (@JordanHarbinger) and Gabriel Mizrahi (@GabeMizrahi) banter and take your comments and questions for Feedback Friday right here every week! If you want us to answer your question, register your feedback, or tell your story on one of our upcoming weekly Feedback Friday episodes, drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com. Now let's dive in!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

How do you and your sister endure life under your parents — who are "only" abusive 10% of the time — until you're old enough to leave home? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
Your long-term partner has been dropping hints about opening up your relationship, which only makes you feel like you're not good enough for him. Will insisting on maintaining monogamy just urge him to move on — and would that be the worst thing in the world if you each want something different from a relationship?
While you're flattered your company thinks enough of you to offer you your boss' job when he retires, you're content where you are and don't really want to be working 70-80 hours a week in your 50s. How can you tactfully turn down such an "opportunity" without appearing ungrateful?
You know all the other MLMs out there are scams that prey on people eager to "be their own boss" while draining their bank accounts by making them buy products they don't need and will never sell. But the one you belong to is totally different, right? Right?
Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@jordanharbinger.com!
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909: Israel and Hamas | Out of the Loop Oct 12, 2023

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What brought long-term hostilities between Israel and Hamas to a boiling point, and what happens next? Ryan McBeth brings us in from Out of the Loop.

Welcome to what we're calling our "Out of the Loop" episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media's news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them.

On This Episode of Out of the Loop with Ryan McBeth, We Discuss:

Hamas, a Sunni Islamist group that seeks to establish an Islamic state in Palestine, launched a terrorist attack against Israel this week. Retaliation has been swift, but as many as 150 civilians (some of them American) are being held hostage.
By the time this episode is published, Israel's death toll from these attacks has hit 1,200. More than 1,100 people have died in Israeli air strikes on Gaza.
What started the feud between Israel and Hamas, how long these hostilities have been escalating, and what ignited the current round of atrocities.
Contrary to popular belief, Hamas doesn't represent the majority of Palestinians currently suffering under Israeli retaliation.
While it's impossible to predict how long this conflict will last, further escalation with the use of more destructive weaponry threatens both sides in a lose/lose war.
And much more!
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908: Tobias Rose-Stockwell | Dismantling the Outrage Machine Oct 10, 2023

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Outrage Machine author Tobias Rose-Stockwell explains how social media fuels our negative emotions and disrupts society — and what we can do about it.

What We Discuss with Tobias Rose-Stockwell:

How social media inadvertently created what Tobias Rose-Stockwell calls an "outrage machine" that fuels our negative emotions and disrupts society.
Because it generates more attention (which translates into more money), negative news is more widely shared and discussed than good news, which makes it seem like the world is worse than it actually is.
The more information we produce and share online, the more powerful the algorithms and AI designed to keep us engaged — and outraged — become.
The longer people spend on social media, the more likely they are to be politically extreme — and elements on every inch of the political spectrum manipulate this to their advantage.
The steps we can take to guard against the outrage machine's control over our emotions and distortion of our reality.
And much more...

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907: Sis Lives to Excess, and Dad's Remembering Less | Feedback Friday Oct 06, 2023

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Is your mean drunk sister really the best choice to care for your dad while he's going through the early stages of dementia? Welcome to Feedback Friday!

On This Week's Feedback Friday:

Is your mean drunk sister really the best choice to care for your dad while he's going through the early stages of dementia?
Can someone who was abused during involuntary commitment receive anonymous therapy to work through their trauma without the therapist knowing their identity or reporting them to the police if they disclose suicidal thoughts? [Thanks to clinical psychologist Dr. Erin Margolis for helping us with this one!]
How do you politely (and effectively) get it through your annoying ex-employee's skull that he no longer works for you and shouldn't show up to your wine bar six days a week?
How can you help your good-hearted but socially anxious and disheveled friend overcome their self-defeating behaviors and find romance?
A listener shares how our very own Jase's story in episode 881 helped them unload a long-time mental burden with the help of a good friend.
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906: Shane Parrish | Decoding Decisions Through Clear Thinking Oct 05, 2023

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Learn how to optimize decision-making, gain competitive advantage, and live more intentionally through clear thinking with Farnam Street's Shane Parrish.

What We Discuss with Shane Parrish:

Clear thinking equips you to identify transformative moments and adjust your response in the critical space between stimulus and reaction.
Despite seeing ourselves as life's main characters, many of us operate on autopilot, guided by ingrained behavioral defaults shaped by biology, evolution, and culture.
In our lowest moments, we react without thought, often missing the chance to engage in reasoning. Conversely, at our best, we identify these moments and employ our full capacity for reasoning.
Your options are defined by your position in ordinary moments. A good position offers abundant and improved choices, while a bad one confines and diminishes options over time.
Learn how you can optimize decision-making, gain competitive advantage, and live a more intentional life through clear thinking.
And much more...

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905: A New Civil War in Sudan | Out of the Loop Oct 03, 2023

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Who are the key players in Sudan's new civil war, and what's the "best" way this can play out? ICRC's Dr. Gasim Mohammed takes us behind the scenes!
Welcome to another one of our "Out of the Loop" episodes, where we dig a little deeper into fascinating current events that may only register as a blip on the media's news cycle and have conversations with the people who find themselves immersed in them.

On This Episode of Out of the Loop:

Sudan is currently in a civil war between two factions of the military: the Sudanese Armed Forces (SAF) and the Rapid Support Forces (RSF).
The SAF is led by General Abdel Fattah al-Burhan, who led the military coup in 2021 that ousted the civilian government.
The RSF is led by General Mohamed Hamdan "Hemedti" Dagalo, who is wanted by the International Criminal Court for war crimes in Darfur.
This latest civil war in a nation accustomed to conflict has triggered a humanitarian crisis, leading to the displacement of millions who urgently require food and medical assistance.
As a fledgling democracy rich in resources but economically struggling, Sudan is a test case for whether democracy can take root in the Arab world. While the current civil war undermines this case, what's the best way this can play out for the people of Sudan — and the world? What can we do to help?
And much more!
Connect with Jordan on Twitter, on Instagram, and on YouTube. If you have something you'd like us to tackle here on an Out of the Loop episode, drop Jordan a line at jordan@jordanharbinger.com and let him know!

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904: Ditching Bad Dad Would Make You So Glad | Feedback Friday Sep 29, 2023

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How do you overcome your abusive father's harassment and protect yourself from his unhinged, unwelcome intrusions in the future? Welcome to Feedback Friday!

On This Week's Feedback Friday, We Discuss:

How do you overcome your abusive father's harassment and protect yourself from his unhinged, unwelcome intrusions in the future?
Should you endure the discomfort of working alongside a sleazy colleague who sleeps with every woman he can, or actively seek new employment despite being a few months away from your degree?
Should you step down as best man for kicking a disrespectful jerk of a guest out of your friend's bachelor party?
You assumed you and your significant other of six years would eventually marry, but since neither of you wants kids, you've been told there's no point in "getting the government involved" in your lives. Is it time for you to cut your losses and search for someone who is willing to make a real commitment?
If your feathers have been ruffled by something we've said on this show, is it possibly a sign they were in need of being ruffled?
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903: Dan Ariely | Why Rational People Believe Irrational Things Sep 28, 2023

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What makes rational people believe irrational things? For that matter, how do we know we're the ones being rational? Misbelief author Dan Ariely explains!

What We Discuss with Dan Ariely:

Why some of our family and friends we once considered rational have succumbed to "misbelief" — they doubt widely confirmed facts and wholeheartedly buy into bizarre conspiracy theories that wouldn't pass muster in an elementary school science fair.
Why misbelief has a universal appeal to human beings on both sides of the political divide, and how understanding the psychology behind it helps us diminish its impact.
How misbelief campaigns are often ignited by people who operate in bad faith for power, fame, and money, but the majority of people who fall for their grift (and spread it) are victims who require empathy, not judgment, to break free.
Dan shares the psychological toll of receiving death threats from conspiracy theorists who believe he's part of some sinister global cabal intent on decimating the human population.
How cultivating resilience works as a "vaccine" — appropriately enough — to misbelief in ourselves and others.
And much more...

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902: Michael Easter | Rewiring Your Scarcity Brain in a World of Excess Sep 26, 2023

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Tired of constantly craving what you don't have instead of being satisfied with what you do? Scarcity Brain author Michael Easter is here to help!

What We Discuss with Michael Easter:

What is the scarcity brain that helped humans evolve to run the planet, and how does it work against us in the context of the modern world?
How the scarcity loop operates like a "serial killer" of motivation to push us into repeat behaviors that can be fun in the short term, but have the potential to harm us in the long term.
What causes us to manufacture the scarcity loops that can ruin our lives with minimal prompting — and what can pigeons teach us about how the scarcity brain processes gambling?
How we can break these scarcity loops when they're so entrenched in every aspect of our behavior.
How scarcity loops can be gamed for positive benefit.
And much more...

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