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Making Meaning & Developing Safety & Resiliency Through Relationships - Joan Borysenko - 269 Jan 08, 2020

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Joan Borysenko is an amazing woman who has some wonderful life lessons around resiliency, making meaning, and developing safety in your relationship life. In this podcast, you'll learn how to dig deep into your self-belief, overcome victimhood, and increase connection. Joan's stories are an inspiring demonstration of the human spirit.

Shownotes:

4:40 Introduction Joan Borysenko
16:45 What makes people resilient in life
24:00 The importance of relationships for healing and growing
36:10 What makes a successful relationship
40:20 How to handle stress and frustration with your partner
47:00 Advice on how to get through difficult times in our lives
56:50 Raising kids in this day and age
https://www.joanborysenko.com/
1:04:45 Action step

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Creating Systems to be Less Distracted & More Available - Nir Eyal - 268 Dec 31, 2019

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Do you check your phone all day long? Have you ever tried to speak to someone about something important only to have them distracted by their phone or something else? It sucks.

These days, we have endless distractions. So, how do we stay oriented to what matters, and how do we not let our business distract us away from the relationships we care most about? Well, I found someone who knows a lot about this stuff and interviewed him. His insights are a breath of fresh air. And, he says it's all about getting systematized and setting boundaries. Listen now.

Do you check your phone all day long? Have you ever tried to speak to someone about something important only to have them distracted by their phone or something else? It sucks.

SHOWNOTES:

(3:10) Introduction Nir Eyal
(10:10) What it means to be “distracted”
(14:50): Why we get distracted
(22:30) Strategies how to get less distracted in our lives
(35:05) Final advice: Planning to avoid distractions
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SV4V6ZK/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i0
(39:05) Action step

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How To Help Someone Who Doesn't Take Action - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 267 Dec 22, 2019

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Do you have someone in your life who when you try to help them, they just won't follow through? I mean, you have really good advice and insight, but it doesn't go anywhere. Or maybe you have a friend or family member that needs help but no matter how hard you try, they won't get help. If so, listen to this one.

Shownotes:

(2:30) How to help someone you care about who doesn’t listen to your advice
(6:05) 2 Practical techniques to help others
(11:30) Action Step
https://lp.relationshipschool.com/yourfuture

The Power of Body Language & Being Socially Awkward - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 266 Dec 18, 2019

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At every stage, I've been a bit socially awkward. Yes, me, relationship guy gets socially awkward. I'm often more introverted than people think. New social settings can create mild anxiety for me. Do you ever feel this? I think it's very normal. And, what vibe do you put out with your body language at work? Home? With others? As we've talked about before, your face can suggest so many things to others, including threat. So, listen to this podcast as we dive into body language and being socially awkward. Listen now! Shownotes: (5:05) Introduction Vanessa Edwards (11:55) Advice for socially insecure teens (15:55) Thoughts about “Fake it, until you make it” (23:05) How to be more authentic with others regarding on how you feel (26:40) Research about the impact of body language and facial expressions on relationships (36:30) About loneliness in this age https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCj9QBB4bNTv29f4oFIreNmw https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489 https://www.scienceofpeople.com/courses/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cef35Fk7YD8 (43:05): Action Step

If You Are Thinking of Divorce - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 265 Dec 11, 2019

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If you are thinking of divorce, you've probably spent hours analyzing things. I just want you to consider a few more points, just in case. Listen to this.

Shownotes:

(2:55) If you’re thinking of divorce
(4:00) Look at the cost of a divorce
(8:30) What are the benefits of a divorce for you and for others
(13:25) https://relationshipschool.com/DPIR/

Co-parenting & Blended Families Dec 04, 2019

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I received enough requests that it was time to do an interview on co-parenting and blended families. This is a great primer for you if you are in this situation. The couple I interview has lived the experience. One is divorced. One is a spouse of a deceased partner. They blended their families together and it went super well! Their story is inspiring. Listen now! Shownotes:

(4:30) Introduction Tammy and Jay
(8:00) How does a couple know when to merge their families
(11:10) How to tell your kids if you want to merge families with someone
(19:55) How to deal with conflicts with your co-parent
(32:50) Last words about co-parenting
(39:10) https://coparentinginternational.com/
(39:20) https://coparentinginternational.com/
(39:35) https://thestepmomconnection.com/
(40:50) Action Step

How to Control Your Mind Using Acceptance & Commitment Therapy with Steven Hayes - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 263 Nov 26, 2019

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Have you ever tried to control your thoughts to no avail? Do you have a critical voice judging you from the inside? If so, I have great news. I interviewed the founder of ACT (Acceptance & Commitment Therapy) and he has a powerful method (and story) about how to change your mind. Listen now.

(5:45) Introduction Steven Hayes
(15:05) How to correct the course of people's lives in a positive way
(24:00) How to transcend the victim mentality
(32:35) Learning to love yourself by yourself and with help of others
(39:20) Acceptance and commitment therapy
(45:10) Why challenge is beneficial in our lives
(51:00) Working on your blind spots
(1:01:15) First steps to start working on yourself
(1:06:00) https://stevenchayes.com/
(1:06:40) https://contextualscience.org/civicrm/profile?gid=17&reset=1&force=1
(1:09:40) Action step

Spiritual Development vs. Relational Development - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 262 Nov 19, 2019

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Here in Boulder Colorado there are a lot of spiritual people doing great, deep, spiritual work. But does it translate into relational development?

Listen to my take in this episode.

(2:42) Relational and Spiritual Development episodes
https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/why-spiritually-developed-people-struggle-with-monogamy-ellen-and-jayson-sc-176/
https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/relationship-problems-in-spiritual-communities-gabrielle-ted-usatynski-smart-couple-podcast-224/
https://relationshipschool.com/podcast/spirituality-and-relationships/
(3:25) Spiritual Development vs. Relational Development

Attachment Science & Getting to the Root Of A Couple's Problems - Relationship School Podcast Episode 261 Nov 12, 2019

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Want to help couples better? Want to learn about the real issue in your partnership? This interview will shed some serious light on what's below all the surface fights. If you like attachment science, you'll love this one.

Shownotes:

(3:45) Introduction Sue Johnson
(19:30) Sue’s experience of attachment in a community
(21:39) Reading emotional cues in relationships to find problems
(30:35) Helping couples by showing them their own dynamics when fighting
(39:25) Understanding love through attachment science
(42:10) How EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) can help you
(48:10) Final words about love and relationships
(51:50) http://drsuejohnson.com/
(51:55) https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeEyuM2qJHNyBEuIMV3bC7w
(52:45) Action step

How to Feel Seen By Others - Relationship School Podcast EPISODE 260 Nov 06, 2019

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Feeling seen is one of the 4 core needs in a partnership. However, what does that mean and how do we do that? What if we don't feel safe? What if we don't know how? Listen to this. I think it will help. Shownotes:

(2:05) What does “Being seen” mean
(3:20) Why a lot of people close up and hide parts of themselves
(4:50) Confronting our “Dark side” in long-term relationships
(7:30) Settling for feeling seen, but not being accepted

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