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Social Distancing While Staying Connected During Coronavirus - 280 Mar 17, 2020

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Are you practicing social distancing? How are you doing this without being a jerk? BOUNDARIES. :) Here are a few simple tips and my thoughts on how we can stay connected during this crisis. These are intense times and I encourage you to stay at home and learn.

Useful Links:

http://relationshipschool.com/connected https://coronavirus.jhu.edu/ https://www.worldometers.info/coronavirus/ Chris kresser- RHR: Everything You Need to Know about Coronavirus, with Dr. Ramzi Asfour https://chriskresser.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-coronavirus-with-dr-ramzi-asfour/ Sam Harris podcast - Making Sense https://samharris.org/podcasts/191-early-thoughts-pandemic/

Addiction & Parenting Difficult Teens - Aaron Huey - 279 Mar 10, 2020

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I love teenagers! As you know I used you to work with troubled teens in a variety of settings, from drug treatment centers to wilderness therapy programs.

I think to be skilled with teens requires some serious skill. That’s why I brought my friend Aaron Huey on the podcast to discuss how to deal with difficult teens.

If you are not a parent, this will still be valuable as we discuss addiction, boundaries, and enabling, all issues that come up in adult relationships too.

Listen now!

Shownotes:

(4:30) Introduction Aaron Huey
(11:40) How people can get more empowered and overcome victimhood (16:20)
Advice for parents of kids getting bullied (18:15)
Exploring negative behaviors on teenagers (22:40)
About parents expecting treatment centers to fix their kids behavior (26:15)
Should we blame and call out parents?
(28:50) Creating family behavior contracts
(33:00) 4 things that families can do to prevent negative children’s behaviors and decisions
(36:55) Why parents enable kids’ negative behavior
(43:15) How mothers react different than fathers
(48:55) Advice for teenagers struggling with addictions
(1:00:00) https://firemountainprograms.com/
(1:05:35) Action Step

Useful Links:

https://firemountainprograms.com/ http://relationshipschool.com/connected

8 Unrealistic Expectations In Relationships - 278 Mar 06, 2020

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In last week’s podcast, I answered the question people ask me all the time, “Is it okay to have expectations?”

I came up with 6 expectations that are reasonable to have in a partnership.

But it’s also important for us to discuss when it’s not okay or when it’s a bad idea to have expectations. I came up with 8 big ones that I DO NOT recommend.

The biggest one is expecting someone else to live according to your values. Ouch. People do this one all the time, including me! Doah!

Check out this week’s podcast to hear the other 7.

Enjoy

Shownotes: (0:50) 8 unrealistic expectations (1:35) Expecting your partner to have your exact same values (4:55) Expecting your partner to look a certain way (7:15) Expecting your partner to have sex whenever you want (8:35) Expecting your partner to be available for you 100 % of the time (9:25) Expecting your partner to be everything for you (11:42) Expecting your partner to never be attracted to other people (12:35) Expecting your partner to never speak to people of the opposite sex (14:50) Expecting your partner to fill the hole around your self-worth (16:25) Action Step Useful Links: Part 1: https://relationshipschool.site/podcast278 http://relationshipschool.com/connected

Is it Okay to Have Expectations In Relationships? - 277 Mar 04, 2020

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Is it okay to have expectations in relationships?

My answer is nuanced. It’s a YES, and it’s a No.

Listen to this short podcast and discover the six expectations that I think are totally reasonable to have in a relationship, especially a partnership.

Shownotes: (2:35) 6 reasonable expectations in relationships (4:50) Fairness (5:50) Feeling emotionally safe (7:35) Respect (8:50) Mutual Contribution (10:00) Solving problems together (11:05) Knowing and understanding each other (13:35) Action step Useful Links: https://relationshipschool.com/community

The 4 S's of Attachment-Based Parenting - Dan Siegel - 276 Feb 26, 2020

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One of my mentors, Dan Siegel, is back on the podcast for his 3rd interview.

This time, we dive deep into attachment-based parenting. Dan’s work, which my wife and I study intently, is how I parent my own children. The cool thing about Dan is what a nerd he is around research-based approaches and information.

We cover the 4 S’s from his “Power of Showing Up” book. It’s so good.

Check it out and please apply this to your own parenting (if you are one).

Shownotes:

3:25: Introduction Dan Siegel
4:40: How kids’ behavior is different in this day and age.
7:30: New parenting challenges
14:15: About secure attachment
22:00: The 4 S’s
24:25:Safety
28:05: Seen
30:00 Soothe
31:10 Security
33:10 Attachment and parenting roles
38:10: Research about secure attachment in kids and adolescents
42:50: It’s possible to provide secure attachment even in parents who didn’t have it
45:40: Action step

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Integral Levels & Lines Of Development - Keith Witt - 275 Feb 18, 2020

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I first got introduced to Ken Wilber when I was in grad school. The guy’s mind is insanely brilliant.

He takes a lot of maps of human development and consciousness and weaves them together in what he calls integral theory.

My guest on this week’s podcast is Keith Witt.

He’s worked with Ken for years. We dig into Relationships of course, but from an integral lens.

I ask him about the common relationship dynamic where one person claims they are more “developed” than the other

What do we do? Interesting answers to come.

Check it out.

Shownotes:

4:35: Introduction Keith Witt
11:20: What is “Integral”
14:00 Looking at relationships in an Integral way
18:20 The importance of lines of development for relationships
29:30 How the adaptive unconscious interferes with your personal growth
37:20 How people can learn to be self-aware and evolve
45:10 Lines of development that can help you on long-term relationship

USEFUL LINKS

DR. Keith Witt Website Book: Shadow Light: Illuminations at the Edge of Darkness Book: Integral Mindfulness: Clueless to Dialed in - How Integral Mindful Living Makes Everything Book: THE GIFT OF SHAME: Why We Need Shame and How To Use it To Love and Grow 100 reasons not to have the secret affair: Keith Witt at TEDxAmericanRiviera http://relationshipschool.com/connected

PTSD, Trauma, & Resiliency - Arielle Schwartz - 274 Feb 12, 2020

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If you or someone you love suffers from PTSD check this out.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, PTSD can be a disabling condition that impacts about 3.5 percent of U.S. adults. And women are twice as likely as men to have PTSD.

Eeek.

Trauma is everywhere and I think most of us have experienced it at some point in our lives.

That’s why I like to interview folks on the subject.

My friend Arielle goes deep in this episode and defines both trauma and PTSD.

Shownotes:

(3:15) Introduction Arielle Schwartz
(12:05) The body vs the mind on personal growth
(12:25) About PTSD
(21:20) The importance of being present
(28:55) How to know if you are experiencing PTSD
(33:10) How to develop resiliency
https://drarielleschwartz.com/
43:20) Action Step

4 Non-Negotiable Needs Required For a Secure Partnership - 272 Jan 29, 2020

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Do you have needs? Do you own them? Or do you know you have needs, but then you get scared to ask for them to be met because you're afraid the other person will leave? Understandable. Most people are used to sequestering their needs in exchange for scraps of connection. Please don't do this. I've done a lot of work with my own needs to determine that I do in fact have them in an adult partnership, and that i'm unwilling to not have them met. I'm also willing to offer these needs to my wife forever. Most people pretend they don't have needs in a partnership because being "needy" is bad in this culture. But I'm here to let you know you have 4 needs that are not negotiable if you want to really go for it and create a secure partnership over time. What are they? 1. Feeling safe 2. Feeling seen 3. Feeling soothed 4. Feeling supported/challenged Think I'm crazy? Just listen as I unpack each one and I think you'll get the idea. Enjoy this short podcast episode and share with a friend who thinks they don't have needs! lol. Shownotes: (2:35) The 4 needs for security in a long-term relationship (4:20) How to recognize an insecure relationship (7:30) Feeling Safe (8:15) Feeling Seen (9:15) Feeling Soothed (10:20) Felling supported and challenged

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What is Men's Work? - Boysen Hodgson - 271 Jan 21, 2020

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What is men's work? Most people are unclear what this term means, but once you find out, you'll be cheering on men who are involved in it. In this podcast, I interview one of the key players in the largest men's organizations in the world. We cover some very intimate subjects, including #metoo, fatherhood, and the power of getting together as men.

Shownotes: (3:35) Introduction (7:20) About Men’s Work (10:55) Male relationships inside a family (14:50) What is Men’s Work (20:10) How a man can get out of his “Boy code” programming. (25:40) How trauma causes addictions that keep you stuck (31:10) How Men’s Work is getting more Popular (37:50) Thoughts about the #MeToo movement (43:25) Boysen’s experience as a father https://mankindproject.org/ https://twitter.com/boysenh?lang=en (53:15) Action step

The 2 Most Common Reasons Relationships End - 270 Jan 15, 2020

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Your closest relationships will end one day. Other than dying, do you know the 2 most common reasons relationships end? Listen here to find out and leave a comment below or in our FB group. This one can get people stirred up.

Shownotes:

(1:55) 2 main reasons why relationships end
(3:30) Outgrowing your partner
(6:20) Not being able to handle yourself or your partner
(11:20) “Falling out of love”

Useful Links:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/749008838533400/ https://relationshipschool.com/dpir/

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