The Great Love Debate with Brian Howie

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GLD 586 - His Love Language Isn’t What You Think Nov 03, 2026

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Think you know what men really want? You might be speaking the wrong language! Brian breaks down his biggest beef with the Five Love Languages, shares a surprising finding from his own surveys, and explains how knowing the right answer can make your relationship last.
Plus, why finding someone with your same love language misses the point, the difference between feeling wanted and feeling needed, how appreciation can change the dynamic of a relationship, and the simple sentences your partner may be longing to hear.

GLD 585 - Stop Auditioning For Love Oct 27, 2026

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Are you looking for a real connection - or trying to land a role in someone else’s perfect life? Brian welcomes life coach and podcast host Betsy Rosenfeld Vargas for a funny, unfiltered conversation about Hollywood dating, finding her husband online, and what actually keeps a marriage working.
From chasing the “bigger, better thing” to planning your future before you’ve agreed to a second date, Brian and Betsy unpack how expectations can sabotage something good. Plus, the freedom of having separate interests, a marriage agreement that limits party attendance, why Instagram’s happiest couples aren’t always happy, and how trying something new can keep a longtime partnership fresh!

GLD 584 - Just Addicted To The Chase Oct 20, 2026

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Why do we mistake chaos for chemistry - and what happens when the honeymoon high wears off? Brian welcomes author and biology professor Dawn Maslar-Biggie for a lively debate about attraction, sex, commitment, and the biology behind falling in love. Dawn shares her perspective on the chemicals that shape our romantic choices, while Brian challenges what those theories mean in the messy reality of dating.
From bad boys and unpredictable partners to the timing of sex and the difference between infatuation and lasting love, they explore why our strongest feelings don’t always point us toward the right person. Plus: knowing your real deal breakers, breaking familiar dating patterns, and making room for a relationship that feels good beyond the chase!

GLD 583 - You're Not The Person They Fell For Oct 13, 2026

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What happens when you’re still in love - but no longer the person your partner fell for? Brian welcomes Mindi Anderson, health coach and host of Hot Messy Midlife, for a funny, frank conversation about growing older, changing priorities, and keeping your relationship from getting lost in the shuffle.
From the silent treatment and shifting tolerance for bullshit to body image, accepting compliments, and the power of gratitude, Brian and Mindi explore how our needs evolve - and why our partners shouldn’t have to guess what’s happening. Plus, when sleeping on an argument helps, why attraction isn’t always about the mirror, and a hilariously cheesy dating disaster involving a Wisconsin cheese heir.
An honest look at growing together, speaking up, and finding connection when life gets hot, messy, and a little more complicated.

GLD 582 - The Silent Treatment Says So Much Oct 06, 2026

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You’re not arguing - but are you actually communicating? This week, Brian explores how shutting down, making your partner guess, and leaving important words unsaid can create distance in a relationship. With candid reflections on his own communication struggles, Brian examines the difference between taking a breath and withholding connection, whether “never go to bed angry” always makes sense, and why being right shouldn’t be the goal. Plus, why affection deserves to be spoken, how a simple “I just want to be with you” can mean more than an elaborate date, and how everyday expressions of gratitude build a foundation for difficult conversations. From the words we regret to the ones we wish we’d said, it’s a reminder that meaningful communication starts with letting someone know they matter.

GLD 581 - The Case For Kissing Longer Sep 29, 2026

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When was the last time you went on a date, kissed someone for more than a second, or put your phone down and connected? Dr. Sex Fairy Kanwal Bawa, joins Brian to ask whether dating apps, AI companions, and endless entertainment at home are making real intimacy easier to avoid.They get candid about sex and confidence as we age, the physical challenges that can affect desire, and why a relationship needs more than a swipe to thrive. From arranged marriages to the simple power of a longer hug, it’s a frank, funny conversation about what happens when we stop connecting - and how to start again.

GLD 580 - What Do You Deserve in a Relationship? Sep 22, 2026

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Ever thought you deserved a little morr than you were getting? What can we fairly expect from someone we love? Marcus and Lily from Secrets of a Sugar Daddy stop by to weigh in on six listeners’ opions on the merits Are these reasonable needs, or does calling something deserved turn a relationship into a transaction? The conversation gets especially candid when Lily shares how a sugar dating arrangement grew into real love. A deep dive on chemistry, appreciation, the trouble with keeping score - and a first date that ended as soon as the meal did.

GLD 579 - Don't Judge A Badass By Her Cover - with Jillian Michaels! Sep 15, 2026

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Sometimes the conversations you almost don't have turn out to be the ones you never forget.
Eight years ago, Brian sat down with Jillian Michaels expecting an intimidating conversation with one of the most recognizable - and opinionated - fitness personalities in the world. Instead, she became his favorite guest in the history of The Great Love Debate. So we're going back into the vault for a conversation that might be even more interesting today than it was in 2018. Jillian gets candid about confidence, body image, getting older, relationships, sexuality, communication, food, fitness, sleep, stress, and learning to stop trying to please everybody. She explains why hitting 40 finally brought her to a place of accepting her body - and why what we call a "midlife crisis" might actually be the moment you realize the way you've been living simply isn't sustainable anymore.
She and Brian also get into why life gets unnecessarily complicated, the importance of keeping things simple, what strong communication really looks like when you're angry or overwhelmed, and why having more ways to communicate hasn't necessarily made us any better at it. A classic Great Love Debate conversation about health, love, confidence, balance, and discovering that the people who intimidate us most might have the most to teach us.

GLD 578 - Outsourcing Love: Are We Too Lazy to Date? Sep 08, 2026

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Are we actually too busy for love...or have we just gotten lazy about finding it? Brian the lovely, lively, and newly engaged Crystal Carroll for a wildly wide-ranging GLD about what happens when technology starts doing the romantic heavy lifting.
We have dating apps to find the person, AI to write the texts, matchmakers to make the introductions, social media to investigate them, and Uber to make sure we don't even have to endure the ride home together. We have more ways to communicate than ever before - so why does it seem like we're getting worse at actually connecting? Brian and Crystal debate why men aren't approaching women anymore, whether modern dating has become too safe and convenient, why nobody seems willing to define the relationship, and whether outsourcing rejection is also outsourcing the very vulnerability required to fall in love. Plus: dating after divorce, why some people stay in marriages long after they know they're over, love bombing vs. actually loving someone, whether social media is a dating necessity or a giant red flag, the trouble with lying about your height - and Crystal's controversial rule that a guy might have to wait eight to ten dates for a kiss. Brian, unsurprisingly, has some thoughts!

GLD 577 - The 2026 State Of The Date: Time To Call The Tow Truck Sep 01, 2026

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What is the State of the Date in 2026? Brian takes stock of where men, women, attraction, pursuit, sex, flirting, and relationships stand right now - and why he believes we’ve somehow managed to take a lot of the fun out of the thing that’s supposed to be fantastic. Have men lost their motivation to pursue women? Have we demonized male desire to the point that guys have stopped trying? Have women become so independent and guarded that they’ve forgotten the power of being pursued? Is it time to "just be horny, baby?" Our full annual report delivered up hot and fresh. Plus, how Dolly Parton held the dating secret sauce!

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